My experience moving back to India from US | For NRIs Moving To India |

I am an NRI consultant and I coach NRIs -- You can book a 1:1 session with me. In this video I am sharing my experience moving back to India after living for many years in the USA. Let me know your experience in the comments! I'm Nupur Dave and I will help you figure out if you should move to India or not.
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[@-Neutron-Star]

I just came back from visiting Mumbai. My advise for anybody planning to move back to India would be to avoid settling in Tier 1 cities like Mumbai or Delhi, and pick a Tier 2 city like Pune or Bhubaneswar. Life in T1 cities is miserable, with traffic congestion, pollution, and highly irritated people all around.

[@-Neutron-Star]

@Parth Well there might be some exception here n there but Bombay in general is dirty and really really congested!

[@danishrizwan7084]

@@-Neutron-Star No sir... Even pune is having same roads and potholes... I mean if you want to stay always on your township that's fine.... Mumbai is always a better place because it will always gives you kick to earn more n more... It's personal choice

[@Zigzag-k]

How abt work life balance ?

[@abhijeetdolai5820]

Why not Indore? It is the cleanest city of India and also popularly called and known as "Mini Mumbai".

[@-Neutron-Star]

@@abhijeetdolai5820 One might settle in Indore as well as long as it has a decent airport and opportunities for high paying white collar jobs!

[@charupandya7587]

Hey Nupur, I have moved to USA, at the age of 65 years. I felt like a stray dog. Not only I felt out of place, everything felt strange and forbidden. I have always enjoyed working in India. Work and work places occupy so much of your life, that here work to rule and money felt so shallow. Only after living in the same place for two years now I feel bit comfortable here.

[@ashkumar7224]

Thanks for making this video. There are so few people talking about this subject. I always end up feeling like the only people who go back to India after having lived (or even becoming naturalized elsewhere, as is my case) are those who have strong links in India: family, friends, want to raise their kids there. As an NRI with only my parents in India; married to someone of foreign-origin, I always feel like these narratives are not for me. This further discourages me from even wanting to attempt thinking about moving to India temporarily just to enjoy certain cultural aspects of living there. Your's is the first video that takes a genuine look at living in India as someone who has become used to living abroad and now is coming back a changed person. I'm really interested in your book now and will definitely be getting it.

[@jonismith2292]

Nupur, thank you so much for all the helpful information!!

[@brella123]

Hi Nupur, that was a very insightful video; as a bay area person having lived in usa for 15 years moving back thought has come to us because we want our only son to have a strong family network of grandparents and cousins living in India. I love the ease of living and quality of products here in usa and the weather in bay area is amazing. But being near your aging parents is more important after a while. the decision is a very tough one! Both pros and cons on both sides.

[@JackJacksung]

Go back fast.. Indians living here will get GC sooner

[@20music07]

Hi Anagha- We are in a similar situation with more than 15 years of experience living in the US with an only son. Parents are aging in India. Have your made your decision? How are you managing this tough decision?

[@supriyassampath1419]

We are in the same boat...

[@aishunarasiman5680]

Ok you guys will never come back as your children will not like back here

[@chatsomil]

Something that wakes me up at night. I have kind of made up mind that I should do this move back sooner than later

[@paulchaudury528]

Like your video very much Nupur. I'm an Indian living in USA for 40 years with my wife who is from USA. We are retired and traveled to over 200 cities around the world in the last 5 years. Now we want to move to India for at least six months to see all the beautiful places in India and near by island countries. With a little research, we found Chandigarh is a city where we could rent an apartment and travel all the famous hill stations from there to start. We will sell our house in USA and be free. We can stay in India longer if we like, shorter, if we don't.

[@paulchaudury528]

Clicked send by mistake. Do you have any special advice for my situation. My wife loves India and travel to exotic mountain cities. She is excited.

[@rahulvats95]

Chandigarh is a nice city. Near sector 17,18 you would find upclass areas to live, it would be actually more beautiful than America. I have lived and worked in US myself. I spent a large part in Chandigarh and most part of Chandigarh is of unmatched cleanliness and has a good vibe. You can explore Kashmir, Himachal, Uttrakhand and Punjab from there North upwards

[@sharmashaiwal]

Thank you for the video :) Gave me a good perspective

[@anirudhvyas6069]

Nupur I am thinking of doing this after living in US for 18 years (my half life almost). Thanks for doing this.

[@RavinderSingh-gv7vp]

Im saving my money and going to move back to india punjab Permanently i cant wait

[@jattworld1984]

Same. But ate you in the US ?

[@moneyybuilderr5283]

See India is Shit county, not good food not good education, lot of pollution

[@lovelight4850]

Amazing content!

[@Bollywood_scoopInk]

Nupur I want to move back to India so bad. I Am happy for you.

[@quantumpolariton122]

you can try websites like sky scanner and tickets to India, then take an plane it’s the easiest way

[@dramaandpeace4243]

I highly appreciate your honesty. ESP the fact that you did not glorify either living in US or living in India. I live in Europe and I relate to the stories you talked about cheap convenience issues here compared to India. And esp the point of working culture in india. Would love to hear your stories of india vs US work culture

[@NupurDave]

I post a lot of daily comparisions on Instagram instagram.com/nupurdaveauthor/ . Work comparison I'l be making a video and writing a blog post on it-- though that will take a few months (assuming early 2023). stay tuned

[@NR-ou3hr]

I’m probably one of the younger NRIs in this comment section. I’m in high school and probably going to study Chemical Engineering in college. Was born in India and moved to the US at 9. It has been almost seven years for me. India is alright for me because my parents and close family are pretty progressive people - women being equal to men, no casteism/racism or hating other religions. I was privileged enough to be born in a family that is close to upper middle class and lenient. I would love to go back and help build the nation once I have the skills and money since I still have patriotic feelings towards it that I just don’t have for the USA. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a wonderful country but pledging loyalty to it just makes me feel weird. I want to start a nonprofit science and engineering research institute that focuses on all kinds of problems that engineering can be the solution to. You know, helping to solve environmental problems, hunger, and hiring some unemployed engineers along the way. I don’t want India to be the only country, I want to focus on all undeveloped ones but I want to start with India. I don’t mind it at all but I just don’t think I can live in the country anymore. Biggest problem for me is honestly the people. My experience is that the place itself is great, but even educated people are ignorant, hateful, and lack any kind of empathy and civic sense. I’m always on the edge of going crazy whenever I’m there because somebody cuts in line, shoves me, touches me inappropriately, spits, litters, terrible driving etc etc. I hate it so much!! I know that the government is also responsible for this but I don't see this kind of behavior in any other third world country! How do I adjust? Does life get better eventually?

[@akshaygodase8067]

Nice content👍

[@HSJ1030]

I have watched many video on NRI coming back, but no one mentioned 'cheap convenience'. So true.

[@r0han007]

I came back after 2 years in UK and it took me 2 minutes to settle back, it was so easy .. As if i never belong there ..

[@raphu4937]

Lovely video with fresh info. Could you tell us how the kids adjusted and how you evaluated which environment is better? Coincidently I am also from that town and thinking of heading home.

[@adityapatnaik6079]

you are the queen of punee

[@shaileshmishra6613]

Hi Nupur.Very informative. I am staying in Canada for last 2 years and working with a Big 4. Your views and opinions are really very helpful and I am in midst of returning to India(Pune or Bangalore) or not. Regards Shailesh Mishra

[@hemantaneja8467]

Kya decision liya apne ?

[@lost_soul3320]

How did it go ?? Did u move back?? I m in Canada nd thinking of moving bck to India aftr PR

[@NashDevi]

Thank you for sharing

[@mikerussell9267]

Im already live in India part time & like it. Planing to live there fulltime within few years from now.

[@anganabobbysworld3626]

That’s amazing! Where are you living in India? I am from Kolkata and I married an American man and moved to the USA 3 years ago.

[@mikerussell9267]

I Marriad an indian Woman from Delhi & both of us wanna move back as soon as we can. Living a lil outside Delhi surburban Called Noida. We doesnt cope Up too good with the cold & darkness in northern Europe. :-)

[@bobbyjames4300]

@@mikerussell9267 Hi Mike , I’m in my 50’s and I’m Canadian born in Canada. I’m going to India for the first time in November for 3 weeks. How difficult is it for me to find a nice Indian wife ? I am semi retired. Any help is much appreciated.

[@mikerussell9267]

Hi there! Well! Acctually India got plenty of nice women who are well behaved & softhearted. Im planing to visit India myself in nov for 3 weeks. Going for a Christian wedding. My wifes sister. We re all Christians. I know many nice girls in Delhi, both Christians & hindus & they.re all alone & maybe available for something. Keep me updated & maybe could give u some help. Indian women really fantastic.

[@anganabobbysworld3626]

@@mikerussell9267 that’s wonderful. I am a Hindu but I married a Christian man. And we have thoughts about moving back to India one day. Please keep me posted on your life there. Do you have Facebook or anything? I will tell my husband about you and your wife :) Which part of India is she from?

[@madanrao5745]

Excellent video! What are the changes that you would make to your life if you were to come back to the US? It would be great to learn from your experiences while still being in the US!

[@NupurDave]

Great question! I've mentioned it in my book www.amazon.com/dp/8194814952. See if you can get a hold on it. I am also working on a survey of ex-NRIs docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSekRyOxhpjAyqQnDNwpICgPUJIGFrC3D8AQSPsbOSawJx27Pg/viewform to be published in a few months that will display what others think. one of them is-- spend more money on conveniences. :)

[@stevenponte6655]

Hi interesting video I stumbled upon it while searching. I was wondering do you think growing up in India helped you alot when moving back, even though you have been in the US for so long? My background is Indian but born and brought up in the Canada but love india and have spent upto 6 months at a time travelling. I often wonder how it would be for me to move back.

[@NupurDave]

Challenging but worth a shot. I do know of people with your background living in India. If you find good people and company you will love it. Totally depends on your mindset.

[@cerveauy8782]

It depends on the city. Western & Southern India are really good regions.

[@Sakura-zu4rz]

❤😁❤😁❤Your channel is literally my comfort place. You make me so happy. Love you❤❤❤

[@NupurDave]

[@user-mn6sq3is4t]

@@NupurDave Awesome video loved it

[@japref4939]

Hi Nupur, please make a video on Citizens moving big chunk of money to India. what is tax obligations? we already paid in US, does any FEMA apply here

[@dpp186]

There's nothing like architecture for small Civil projects

[@japref4939]

How do you move the money? What is the limit at a time? since we already paid tax here, we move big chunk, are we taxed. can you give any info or leads please?

[@adelferoz4168]

It does not matter Tier1, Tier2, cities they all have the same problems. Noisy, dirty, overpopulated and polluted. The only places I can think of are the smaller towns like Mt. Abu, Coonoor, Kodaikanal or any small town on the coastline. It would be the best place in the world if the population was just 300 million at best.

[@rahulvats95]

It's more about poverty and mismanagement not population. Look at China with same populated area(2/3rd of China is inhabited)

[@dennittk9946]

I would always say ,when some one move back to india not to have any guilt when you put down the paper .That moment is the real time ..

[@himanshujain5674]

This is a really difficult topic. Just thinking about this is making me really anxious. 😳

[@NupurDave]

aww Don't be :) The fear of it is greater than the actual experience itself so take things as they come :)

[@himanshujain5674]

@@NupurDave thank you for starting this channel. Your videos really help ☺️

[@MineshBaxiYT]

Ask a simple question- are your values more reflected in US or Indian life? Mine are more aligned with US so it is easier to live in US for me. I like freedom and feel empowered politically in my community.

[@rahulgokhroo6686]

❤

[@inmyth1944]

Good points Nupur. How did you find adjusting with your new work place in Pune? Or are you self employed

[@NupurDave]

WFH right now so not much adjustment needed

[@vidyamohank]

Thanks for the information. Could you please share your experience driving a car in India after moving back from USA.

[@NupurDave]

Sounds good! Will do

[@rahulvats95]

@Vidya Haha I am a man who grew up in India and I can tell you even I am scared of driving in India. I have driven cars in US, as I worked there for few years of my 20s. It was stressful at first because for first time I had to follow rules and the lane discipline. I got stressed whenever police even showed up in rear view mirror thinking I broke some rule. But once I learnt these rules, Driving in USA was actually easier but can be tedious and tiresome due to all the things you have to remember I India on the other hand when I came back, I found it difficult to adjust. I used to drive in India on Local roads as well as National highways without any self doubt and driving car the way I liked, where I liked just staying focused on roads. But driving in US made me so self conscious that I was actually scared to drive in India. I limited my car driving to within the Colony I lived in where roads were mostly empty and stopped driving completely on National highways. I just realized how carelessly and dangerously I drove in India only because of US. My Indian friends still drive confidently as they never drove in US. Driving within the city for you would be easy but would be difficult on highways.

[@yeswekey]

Haha. If you've never driven in India, I'd say 2-3 years that includes few fender-benders to get perfect controls + defensive driving adapted to Indian conditions. Personaly I've drove 80k+ kms before moving to Finland. ~75k in Finland, ~30k during visits to India. Usually it takes 1 month to get acclimatized to the driving culture. 6 months to sink deeper into the brain.

[@im.kanhaiya6041]

Many of my friends are moving to Canada, When I ask them the reason mostly gave me same reason stating India is not worth living and they said they will have a better life in Canada and Asked me to also come, However it is not possible for me to go though I want to. So do you regret your decision and want to go back to USA

[@NupurDave]

Many people don't like the quality of life in India, which is understandable. It works for them to live In Canada. It's a nice country, but super cold-- so if you can survive that chill, you'll be fine. I don't regret my move even one minor bit-- It's been ram-baan aushadhi for me :)

[@shivam_nagar69]

expecting a developed country's quality of life from a developing nation like India, yes totally makes sense🤷‍♂

[@zachariahjohn2103]

@@NupurDave 9ki

[@SUJAMUK]

I do all my shopping on line. Never have any problem.

[@spiritjourney7150]

I like your maturity at how you shared your experiences. Never been to Asia or India. What part of India would be safe for a single 60 year old woman with little dogs? Thanks!

[@agnimitrabrf4862]

Hi. to visit or to live? Most parts should be safe. Would be great if you could first make friends with people or groups and then visit. India is a whole lot nicer when you know people personally. The quality of daily genuine personal interactions is what I miss.

[@MP-bw6vu]

Mumbai

[@Lucky73678]

Then really you did go back. You just took a holiday

[@deepali103]

Hi Nupur how did you feel about pollution ..were you able to adjust to pollution etc

[@rohanutep81]

No

[@divesh31kumar]

Gud decision........hollowness pinch evry indian in US...missing fest..maregs of nr & dear also makes ur ponit to come bck 2 india

[@amarchaudhari8491]

Thanks for the video. Did you give up your green card and H1B for the move? If you have kids, how are they settling in India?

[@NupurDave]

NMNK :)

[@niharika6967]

How can we ship our houslehold to india

[@anubhavm2822]

Informative video with good suggestions . India today is fast developing and prospering to become an advanced Nation . Foreign direct Investment is coming in a big way. There is Population burden no doubt, but one must watch PM Modis vision Manifesto delivered in Oct 2023 at Mandapam Pragati Maidan Delhi at youtube .It is a Vision for India for next 5 years to really understand how India will progress. States like Uttar Pradesh and Maharashtra have visionary Chief Ministers, these states are marching ahead speedily . Every State today wants Entrepreneurs and Businesses. We witness Modernization/ progress in every sector.

[@user-tt5sq1oh3m]

For a single person may be its ok moving to India but for a married person having kids raised in a foreign country would be very difficult and everyonevknows thevreason why.

[@bendover-bz4bc]

U moved back or what ? No updates

[@TheFirefly71]

After 13 years in US still have a very strong Indian accent!!

[@montyi8]

Second generation italians speak with Italian accents even though they lived completely in America.

[@cerveauy8782]

And what's wrong with that?

[@andrewlabat9963]

@@cerveauy8782 They didn't say anything was wrong with that..

[@TheCheckit96]

What kind of work are you doing.

[@smilli6415]

are u a us citizen ?

[@sidali2590]

Have u been to canada

[@sreejanair1984]

Adjusting back in India was too easy for us after living there for 25 years. Medical facilities which is basic is too bad n expensive .I know many people who doesn't like to get settled there these days.Money is no more basic need for many of the people here

[@Neellmistryy]

Pls make a video on sublimal racism.

[@londondisc]

Air pollution has cost an estimated7,300 deaths*in Pune in 2023Find out more*Air pollution also cost approximately $1,100,000,000 USD in Pune in 2023.6 days ago. How do you cope with the pollution, details from Internet above.

[@PrashantTayshetye]

Online buying experience is crazy

[@adityakushwaha3654]

How about moving back to India with kids and wife when both are employed outside india ?

[@kaozzzzzzzzz1]

JUST DO IT...YOU BELONG IN INDIA

[@kamravatkar86]

You are definitely going back... if you are thinking even a little bit " why not go back!" It means you are longing for the Clean US life.....returning to India should be full and final..this dilemma is of no use

[@NupurDave]

This is why NRIs fear moving back because someone / society is expecting a full and final decision. Why? These expectations are that of society and not a person. People can choose what they want, when they want. No harm in feeling differently at different points in life. :) Let the assumptions & expectations go.

[@robertk9936]

Agreed with Kamlesh

[@yeswekey]

@@NupurDave Very true. Thanks for writing this. Also worth noting is how he mentions "Clean US life". I'm sure there are many aspects of life in India that are "Clean"er. How did you deal with these naysayers? Very tempting to punch them on their face. Another idea is to lie that grandfather died and I returned to be with family.

[@NupurDave]

@@yeswekey Naysayers are validation you're doing something right :) Keep marching ahead!

[@aqal5333]

1👍👍👍

[@arunp7547]

Sorry to be brutally honest. This video lacked substance.

[@namedeba]

Daddy's girl

[@savanthkumarnaidutrichinap1914]

I did not come across any apartment charging for the cart to come in You ought to have purchased a bare act book on Apartment act just for Rs. 100/- or so , and could know whether the Apartment management has the right to charge , for cartage coming in. , take FIR from the police and filed a complaint in Comsumer Forum, it costs nothing. Lawyer not neccessary, can approach party in person. Why are you still using old model table clock.

[@anirudhsharma6432]

WHY so many NRI s Indians investing in different infrastructure projects in India

[@neerav3748]

you are an indian how is it hard to settle back home? if you grew up in india it should not be hard at all.

[@RNIIVI1985]

I would have never come back...

[@saintluke2nd]

What is an NRI, please?

[@aryan6536]

Non Resident Indian!

[@dpxprhulc4xkl]

Don’t understand why people make such a big deal about maids. Is it really that difficult to do your own stuff?

[@QisthinasDiary]

Hi.. First of all I am Indonesian married an Indian man from Hyderabad. Currently we're living in USA. We're planning to go back to India soon. But my heart sometimes says "okay let's go".. but sometimes it says "maybe it's better if we're just in US" This because I have a 6yo daughter, I'm not sure about the education for her in India. I watch ppl talking about Indian educational system that's so different than in the US. Deep in my heart, worry about her education, her social life and so on.. What do you think about education India vs US?

[@silence1289]

why do u wanna move to India sir ?

[@QisthinasDiary]

@@silence1289 my husband’s family is in India, and we will build our own company there.. by the end of the the day, it’s just so much happier to be in warm weather and humble people around

[@devannnn7204]

The family of my friend's uncle returned to India from London to educate their children in India, reason-in those countries the way students r raised is competely different See, we have schools ranging from below average to exceptional. Now with educational policy children will learning coding even in govt schools. Afterall its ur choice madam. 🙏🙏😊

[@QisthinasDiary]

@@devannnn7204 we are decided to move, this May. So here we come. My new adventure in India.

[@QisthinasDiary]

@@devannnn7204 thank you for your reply.. 😊

[@manishpatil2336]

In india you have to leave simple life do your job keep money in bank stay calm because civil work ppl look at yourself if they find u rich then try to increase your bill by doing unnecessary work

[@ninzawizard1433]

she is only tell te lie,,,, its not true.. im in the usa and living my wonderful life. In usa we can save money but not in india.

[@srinivasraoholi8226]

India is india ,usa is usa don't compare between this two countries.

[@Neellmistryy]

HOPE U DON'T EXPLOIT PEOPLE HERE.

[@Neellmistryy]

M so tired of NRIs complaining in India. It's such a narrow view and just a matter of supremacy validation most of the time.

[@manvitandon22]

Cheap convenience for you is underpaid labour for someone else.

[@yeswekey]

True. We can choose to pay a little more. It's a win-win. Right? 😂

[@manvitandon22]

@@yeswekey IDK a little or a lot more, but good wages should be everyone's right

[@PrashantTayshetye]

You feel terrorized in India 😂.

[@akrishnan1382]

Just waste of time watching this video.

[@Goku-wp1li]

go to us again😂. when NRI's come to india they start whining. they dont adjust to this environment.

[@bryandsouza9905]

Again it boils down to maids as one of the reasons to move back . The United States teaches you to be self reliant - celebrate that

[@cerveauy8782]

You keep crying in a Western country. We will move back as India is getting better & better.

[@shyamchabra5355]

We left India in 1965. I came back for a visit many years ago, after Mrs. Gandhi had the Emergency. Everything had changed, including the people. If you could not be of financial interest to someone, or you could not help anyone immigrate, you were useless. It is of scant consequence trying to convince people in India that experiences overseas are not everything that is expected. India remains hopelessly crowded, filthy and full of people trying to take you for a ride. It is not possible to move back here. Be warned.

[@Rwadhwaji]

This is why you could never went back. And this is likely what you taught your children that India is filthy. I have friends who have never visited India with their kids. How could someone be so ashamed of the place where they grew up and got the education that enables then to move to USA.

[@rahulvats95]

Tier 2 cities overall can offer better life than in US. US is only good if you enjoy working until death and have superficial friendships.

[@Rwadhwaji]

@@rahulvats95 so true. Casual or formal potlucks they call it.

[@shantanusrivastava5019]

Shyamchabra5355 your thinking frozen when you left India and u living in stone age and still seeing India of 1965. Based on the information you have provided about leaving India in 1965 (assuming that you left on Jan 1. 1965, which is unlikely), It is almost 58 years since you left India. 58 years is a long time. Even if say that the world changes once every year then the world must have changed 58 times. But this so-called wannabe “Harry” failed to change himself and his image of the country where he was born. The truth is that many insecure “Toms” like u have been born in this country who went in search of greener pastures so that they could become “Harry”. Sadly, they may have acquired a lot, but their skin color refused to change.

[@familytan4374]

Keep your opinions to yourself, not interested .

[@anantjot2699]

why're you even commenting?

[@fortnitegameplays9486]

Why click on the video? 😂 seems like you are interested

[@ammerudgrenda]

What a stupid comment 🙄

[@NupurDave]

Hello everyone! Subscribe to my mailing list to stay in touch! mailchi.mp/64213b132815/subscribe Also, My book address is a lot of common fears and some strategies that NRIs might benefit from. Take a look www.amazon.com/dp/8194814952

[@sunny.2005aga]

Hello Nupur, i am NZ resident and soon will get my NZ citizenship. And having a strong feeling to come back to India. As per your experience do you recon i should get NZ citizenship and get the OCI card afterwards and if so which challenges i will be going to face in India (in terms of running my business if start or living or job), Or do i stick to my India's citizenship.

[@NupurDave]

@@sunny.2005aga Sunny get the citizenship