My Experiences with Autistic Burnout | The Burnout I Never Want to Repeat.

[@paunesjourney]

Don’t feel bad about having greasy hair or a cold sore in your videos; it’s a part of life and you don’t need to look ‘perfect’ ❤ i only manage to wash my hair once or twice a month because of burnout so my hair rarely looks clean but that’s okay! A very relatable and useful video 🙏 thank you!

[@racheldonnelly5118]

I think that the major stressors you describe - moving 3 times before your son was 2, stressful job, concussion/Covid, trying to buy a house, really severe sleep deprivation - could easily cause many people who are not even autistic to have a depressive episode/burnout. The level of stress you were under made you sick and that's not your fault. You sound like an amazing caring mother, I really wish you the best.

[@darbydelane4588]

Nice. So much resonance. Thank you. Just subscribed.

[@alternateVSNS]

first I saw your video about employment as an autistic adult and felt like finally, someone understood, someone (unfortuntately) went through the same pain and mental convolutions around situations that other people didn't seem to have. and now you talk about your burnout. thank you for being so open and sincere ! I am truly sorry we have to go through all this but also firmly believe that, especially for burnout, it's actually the best of gifts. it's our body and mind telling us that we drifted very, very far away from our natural state.

[@Truerealism747]

So true did you have pain with your burnout

[@alternateVSNS]

@Truerealism747 I am not sure if you're asking me personally, but I will answer ! it goes above pain. it's complete saturation of every sense. it's extreme overhelm. it's also a big grief to see that the person you were pretending to be, just does not work anymore. does not protect you anymore. but as I come to realise it now, I prefer to consider burnout like a blessing in disguise.

[@Truerealism747]

@alternateVSNS yes thankyou muscle pain daily for me do you have heds nice to talk with like minded people

[@MirandaAndersson-r1c]

I'm honestly absolutely loving the videos that you put out. You are very good at making them, and they make me feel less alone. Thank you

[@MirandaAndersson-r1c]

Also, don't apologize for the video's length. I would have watched it all even if it was 10 hours long. Seriously, you put words on things I experience but am not able to describe myself.

[@deesmith7880]

I can’t express in words how much I relate to you and your story. My eyes are filled with tears and I have been nodding vigorously throughout your entire video. THIS is your calling. You need to keep making these raw, honest videos about being a late-diagnosed autistic woman. There’s so many of us that have lived a masked existence and almost destroyed ourselves in the process. Your videos are already reaching many and will continue to reach more. What you are telling the world needs to be heard. Thank you for starting your channel. I wish such a wonderful life for you, because you are valid, worthy, kind, articulate and insightful ❤

[@MindlerCamper]

Relate 100%. I could never put any of this to words so thank you for doing it as it make sence for my own brain. ❤

[@MyAuDHDjourney]

Thank you again for being so authentic in articulating your personal struggles with burnout. It is so difficult to go through the reality of it. I not only hear you but your words resin so deep within my soul. I am so glad you are doing this channel!

[@luciennethesorceress]

coping with severe autistic burnout and ptsd, i find your videos really comforting and helpful - thank you for sharing your story

[@Truerealism747]

Do you have fybromyalgia symptoms from it

[@lottitaubenrauch8611]

It's so nice to see springtime in your videos, the blossoming and blooming in your little garden. Here in Germany it is grey and wet and cold and sun sets at 5 pm already. I'm missing the daylight and feel the absence in massive moodswings ://

[@kendrajohnson6535]

Thank you so much, Anna. Your videos are so helpful and soothing. I can relate to a lot of what you describe. No need to apologise for the length. You explain things so beautifully that your videos always feel exactly the right length however long they are. Thank you again :)

[@mistermoog]

Thank you so much for another superb upload. Again, I can identify with so much of your experience, aside from that of being a parent. That’s something I always knew I should avoid due to my own childhood (I think my mother may have gone through life with undiagnosed autism). I’m now at a point in life where I’ve finally downsized and got rid of a mortgage. Trouble is, my flat is more of a project than I realised it would be. I have to keep working to pay maintenance costs, bills, run a car, etc, and I’m doing two diplomas. I’m at a point of burnout, and working out the best way forward. The irony being that I recently escaped city life as it was overwhelming, and now live somewhere much quieter. Don’t feel guilty about taking time away from your son. One of my issues from childhood stems from not being able to get away from my Mum, and being around her when she was unable to cope. As much as she loved me, she also made me a target for her frustrations and emotional dysfunction. That’s had a lifelong impact. I hope your Christmas was peaceful and that life continues at a gentle pace for you.

[@lmack6596]

❤💯💪🥰❤

[@christinekoper2407]

I’m also not a huge fan of keeping up with social media! The very little I do have I don’t spend much time on. Sometimes I feel guilty about that…I do tend to miss out on connection because of it. But I’ve come to realize it’s too draining to me-it’s always felt like another mask to keep up with, to be honest, and I’m a fairly private person to begin with. It’s refreshing to hear someone else talk about that too ❤ Your videos are lovely! The snippets of your life you share are so cozy.

[@LoreleiLux]

Your experience and articulation of it is very valuable and helpful to others. Thank you 💚

[@nomydev]

This is insightful and surprisingly relatable. You managed to put a lot of things into words, things that are quite abstract and hard to say usually. Thank you for sharing.

[@EggHallatt]

Thank you for your bravery in sharing your experiences. The employment video was a breath of fresh air and I find your openess and honesty brilliant. I had a job in pizza express which lasted a few weeks, but was overwhelmed by the noise of everything, fridges, lights, cutlery, glasses and that was before taking peoples orders. Listening to these videos had made such a difference to me and feel less alone. I'm on way to a diagnosis, but wishing everyone well and greater understanding..

[@LilyRiver-FoxandLittlePrince]

Thank you so much Anna ! Thank you to share your experience and to explain... Make me feel less alone... Several burn out in my life, anorexia when I was young and last burn out is the one wich revealed my autism... Now I try to recover and it takes time. Thank you to explain with all the process, sensory issues, difficulties with communication and organisation... it s a blackout ... difficult to analyse and expess. I have lose capacities but the one I learn is to protect better myself and to respect boundaries. Thank you so much... I'm french and here in France for women with autism it s difficult to have informations. Take care of you, and time to do what is good for you... you are so brave and generous... a great mum who now know herself better... Wish you all the best for you and your family ⭐️

[@fishablish]

Thanks for being so candid about your struggles. Also love your shirt! Fits you very nicely.

[@kf6948]

Thank you. I believe I am recovering from my worst burnout yet and I really appreciate you sharing. I am undiagnosed and live in constant imposter syndrome. Luckily my wife is very understanding and supportive and we talk openly about all of this. I've been married 14 years and have three girls aged 5-10. I can relate to those times of looking back on the worst moments of burnout and of my recovery so far and feeling terrible for mistreating my family or simply needing to be separate from them. No worries about your hair, or face or clothes or messy house or whatever else you think may shade our view of you. I'm here for your story, because I appreciate your open, honest communication, and because I am impressed by your bravery/courage to share. I hope someday I feel brave enough to share beyond my own household. Thanks again and Merry Christmas to you and yours.

[@kidgur54]

Thank you for this video from the bottom of my heart. I cannot put jnto words how validating it is hearing your story and recognising myself in your experiences. I know you must have suffered so much through your burnout (i know i did in mine), but at least know that your story gives people the strength to face the world. We can accept our difficulties without hating ourselves for them.

[@rakuyoame4408]

Thank you so much for a new thought-provoking topic and extended videos are a delight! It opened my eyes on certain sides of experiences I had that were connected with depression as I thought, but apparently not just depression. My max time at a 'decent' office job was ~1,5 years after which I was left broken mentally, physically and emotionally and needed month to gather enough inner resources to go through the new cycle of torture again. Covid yeas and what came after in the part of the world I live in broke me completely and I still haven't recovered, don't know if I ever will.

[@olafmeyer4812]

Thank you for another very interesting video, Anna. I have found that a lot of late diagnosed AuDHD people ,just like myself, get diagnosed when they are going through a burnout stage. Finally realizing that the feelings are not normal. Then when we get the diagnosis, we have this lost identity and need to work out, who we really are. This , I believe is what makes it feel incredibly bad, and takes so long to come good again. I have heard from other KZbin female creators, that they were struggling during pregnancy and the early stages of the babies life. I also believe that people like you, will make great mothers and will help to make a more acceptable and understanding world, when it comes to Autism and ADHD.

[@grooviechickie]

Your honesty is so beautiful. Thank you. It helps so much! I recently watched/listened to a workshop given by Tony Attwoid and Michelle Garnett (QLD Australia) about autism in females. Everything rang true for me and I finally accepted my autism self-diagnosis after 15+ years of suspicion followed by severe imposter syndrome. The thing that REALLY got me was their discussion about autistic women and motherhood. I think this is a very under-studied and deeply under-recognised challenge. Autistic mothers struggle in different ways and we absolutely fly under the radar. I say this in order to help you, me, and all other autistic mothers understand that functioning on little to no sleep and the demands and needs from a child can very much affect us differently because of our challenges as autistic women. I am planning on going on a Special Interest binge on the subject. I can feel the need to find out everything about it is overwhelming 😂 I think it's even more challenging if, like me, you don't actually know you're on the spectrum and can only look back at your life from the grand old age of 53 and wonder if it would have been easier if you had known and understood. I feel extremely sad about that. ❤

[@cvs8545]

Thank you so much! I stumbled onto your videos a few weeks ago and I am so grateful.

[@christianbache4074]

Very interesting video, i can relate to so much of it. I recently moved into a new apartment the summer of 2024, cant even bring myself to imagine how you managed to move 3 times before your son was 2 years old.

[@Striving_for_Perfection]

Hi, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life, I really appreciated it!

[@alexb.poetry]

I relate so much to your experiences Anna. Noise is my biggest sensory struggle too. Fellow Kiwi here 🙂

[@annedinan8749]

Thank you for sharing. Brave and helpfull.

[@E2023M]

Thank you. Your videos really do help.

[@iamFracture]

17:53 dang New Zealand sounds like modern day America 🥲

[@sallie4str]

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