MY FIANCÉ WANTS HIS FATHER TO CHECK MY HYMEN BEFORE I GET MARRIED | EP 4

Kally and Hodo are back with s2 of answering the internets craziest dilemmas. Today we are bringing you a situation in which a male has asked his fiance to agree to a pre wedding hymen check from his father to prove she is a virgin. We would appreciate it if you would comment your thoughts below.
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[@abh1997]

They’re stupid because the hymen can’t be checked. I’m sure they know that it’s just a reason to check someone’s hooha. A massive breach of privacy and utter disrespect. Makes me feel sick!

[@oversharerspodcast]

Big facts 👏

[@valentinacuadros6680]

Also I am Muslim and I’m not sure if the girl is too but in Islam this is HARAM I can not stand people that do the most disgusting things and act like it’s ok

[@ANa-qt7tt]

no pls i pray she didnt get married to him. pls she cannot raise her children with these nasty people as grandparents. do u not fear allah?? even if ur not muslim, have u got no shame?? nahh how can u dehumanise anyone like that. not just anyone, ur WIFE?? nah wallahi these scenarios r giving my heart problems omgg

[@Mariam-qd9yf]

The fact that he slapped her as well! She better take that to day of judgment and make dua he never finds a wife!

[@oversharerspodcast]

We’re not sure what their religion/ethnicity is but she definitely needs justice!!!

[@Mariam-qd9yf]

@@oversharerspodcast definitely

[@larose5783]

girl i saw this on tiktok and rushed here. this story is so disgusting, im disturbed

[@oversharerspodcast]

Really sad story but lucky escape!!!

[@aishafaisal2249]

I’m so angered by his audacity lucky escape girl eat ur pizza and be miserable you’ll find someone who will actually respect you ❤️

[@oversharerspodcast]

eat 👏 your 👏 pizza 👏

[@anisabegum9781]

Astaghfirullah😭😭 that’s so tapped. He clearly has no respect for her, to be asking such a question.

[@oversharerspodcast]

Couldn’t agree more 🙌🏾

[@destinya5627]

I’ve seen a few Christians who choose to be abstinent who do a hymen check, but from what I’ve heard it’s always done by a doctor! With Muslim women this hymen check isn’t done because we already know the importance of modesty and sex after marriage. It’s the norm in our families and communities that women and men are taught about the halal vs. haram since young and are expected to conduct themselves modestly. This story in this video however is so different and is so perverted. It makes no sense. It’s an excuse for all these men to see her in her most vulnerable state while the dad basically molests her. Idk if this couple was “Muslim” or not, but this is super haram and I’m glad she cancelled the wedding.

[@presko1]

I can't believe this. Who in the name of God(I know that this is not the right profile to say that) would make this "tradition" or should i call it sexual assault. And the fact that this man, his brother and uncles have the dignity to agree with that is making my blood boil. To that gal, I hope she dropped that piece of milky shit and set charges. And to the father, I hope he is happy that his wife had to go through with this bs. Overall these people need therapy and reality check. Plus to all women in that family they deserve a big apologize. I'm not gonna keep on going bc I will probably throw my phone in the wall. Btw nice makeup

[@Zancity6666]

This exactly!

[@alishaxo5468]

Ma’sha’Allah you guys are literally stunning and this is the first video i’ve watched of yours and i subscribed within minutes! you guys are hilarious and your energy and vibes are so so immaculate 🥺🤍

[@oversharerspodcast]

Wow can’t thank you enough for your kind words 😩🤍

[@hallimamohamed6908]

This is actually sickening in front of the men of the family, why the men though? how is this ever allowed to be done, why are women always proving their virginity? That guy needs to therapy anger issues and ego issues, she needs therapy as she shouldn’t have gone through that, and name the culture that’s this common practice for as we need to educate the poor souls.

[@jhnnbhfvv6405]

Yet men lie about theirs, I would rather stay single than marry a lair and non virgin man.

[@donotpostmyusernameOK]

Speaking medically not all women even have hymens Some people are born with so little hymenal tissue that it seems like they don't have a hymen at all.your hymen naturally wears down over time.The hymen can also stretch or tear quite easily before a woman has intercourse for the first time, through: activities such as horse riding and other sports. using tampons.

[@jughsjsfzbwhshhshshhs9876]

Kaltuuun speaking Somali babe ! I love itttt we need a whole segment video in Somali!!

[@oversharerspodcast]

Hahaha we’re fish and chips so you’ll probably laugh at us 😂

[@zuzanali4130]

i love you guyz❤🦋kally nd hoda

[@cocoapommpom]

handmaid’s tale vibes

[@ANa-qt7tt]

slapped????? nah guys what r u doing to me. i pray he gets jumped so bad. im not even surprised that he slapped her, his entitlement is crazy.

[@siyu7052]

Love you guysssss ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Maryam-fv8zz]

Absolutely enjoyed this 😍😂

[@oversharerspodcast]

Thank you Maryam 💓

[@mustafaabdulhafidh3257]

It's crazy and disrespectful

[@Saadsamira24]

Am just disgusted to hear this but Alhamdulillah she got out of it and pray no one has to go through such a thing

[@Shadaeprincessinspiration]

Please teach us more about the deen. That part was inspiring.

[@Sajjadbhangwarnawabshah]

Xxx

[@modernstylehomes7535]

How about you watch KZbin videos by mufti menk and other sheikhs on important issues that you would like to know

[@modernstylehomes7535]

P.s that woman is being hounded by jaahils , people who are Muslims but don't know shit about Islam . That's why your are told learn about your religion

[@Shadaeprincessinspiration]

@@modernstylehomes7535 i do watch him, if they talk more about the deen. In sha Allah their reward will be greater. Theres nothing wrong in encouraging them to do good that will benefit them in the long run. In sha Allah.

[@modernstylehomes7535]

@@Shadaeprincessinspiration okay sorry then coz I thought you wanted to learn the Deen from them that's why I said that check out some scholars

[@fayaaden9545]

Lucky escape tbh. On another note can you please do make up tutorial because 😍

[@Ice-emo-yt]

Hymen doesn’t mean if you’re a virgin or not. You can’t tell a persons virginity only by asking

[@lauramiller7690]

If he slapped you now before you're married run don't walk the other way once you are married he'll view you as his property and do whatever he damn well pleases it will only get worse if he won't stand with you now whatever makes you think he will later

[@Chubby_Owl]

Oh my good and he said slightly embarrassing? Are you serious “SLIGHTLY” I am sorry to be honest he sounds like a weak men who can not even stand on his own foot and he will never support her in future

[@asmerabuu7836]

It's actually true lots of African communities have been practising the check your bedsheet after the first night culture

[@asmerabuu7836]

Also the checking virginity by the father is a practise it has been upheld by some Arab communities I saw it once in an Arab movie

[@oversharerspodcast]

Well the family is supposedly Greek so this might be construed as misguided

[@najimaabdi6259]

@@asmerabuu7836 what movie? That’s haram I’m sure In any religion of the books? Because how can your new in laws see your downstairs? I’m genuinely confused

[@MixedAfro]

@@oversharerspodcast European monarchs used to do this as well. To the point that they would watch the consummation of the bride and groom!

[@Ice-ha2467]

Do you know what? Kally said that’s abuse and I was like ‘not really’ but then I realised that it’s coercion and it could be a way to suss out how mailable her will is and how easy he will be able to control and abuse her in the future. This is the ONE rule that Muslim families don’t budge with when it comes to their daughter - for a man to see you naked or any naked part of you if they are not your HUSBAND. If she gives in and bends that rule, there is not one thing she will not let slide with enough coercion. This is so sinister. And his words ‘prove your love’ 100% back up how this made me feel. Even if they aren’t Muslim. I think my thoughts still apply. Edit: I uploaded and then heard about the slap. No one can change my mind

[@valentinacuadros6680]

This is so ridiculous wtf is this shit 😂😂 I would run for the hillllllllllls

[@suderia7554]

I’ve never subscribed this quick

[@oversharerspodcast]

We love that 💓💓💓

[@Alex_A2]

So my sister married a man and they had their wedding night is it still disrespectful and bad if his dad asked the man did you check your wife is a virgin and did she bleed because in my opinion it’s disgusting to ask your son that what do y’all think ?

[@marshmallow7640]

I think it’s disgusting especially because not every virgin bleeds the first time anyway. That’s a weird question to ask your son. Also what if she doesn’t bleed, are they going to divorce her? You have already married the person and they gave you their body so it wouldn’t be right to turn on them

[@farhiyaa4880]

Tell them it's none of their business. All things inside marriage is private unless it's abuse. There is no way to prove husband is a virgin. We dont check if he is circumcised before marriage. The only thing both parties need to do is an STD test, report any genetic defects, medical history of all surgeries and medical conditions.

[@AmuslimwithAopinion]

Theirs no way a man is asking for the sake of self respect, he probably asked beacuse it turns him on. Asking about your sons wife's vaginas blood is perversion.

[@sadiiqcaydruz7874]

Lmfao ❤😂😂😂😂😂😂Somali sisters 👯‍♀️ jokes that dude about I want a virgin 🤣

[@fluffypancakes9359]

May Allah bless you with a righteous husband and family. This is haram, they are not your mahram.

[@oversharerspodcast]

Don’t think the author is Muslim but ameen to your dua 🥰

[@lauramiller7690]

Oh hell no! It may be custom in his culture but as a woman that's a very private issue a lot of women don't even like having a male gynecologist and it would be over the top enough to expect his father but to put on a show for all the men in his family oh hell no honey! And for him to blow it off as being a little embarrassing. I would say telling me one all the women in your family to check to see if he's circumcised but men just aren't programmed that way they would just view it as showing it off proudly I don't think they understand modesty at all! I mean it would be some archaic ritual of days gone by to ask you to have it verified by a physician but to display yourself for all the men and his family most men wouldn't want other men looking at their soon-to-be wife's genitalia. If he respects you he wouldn't ask you to do that he would have to realize that it's an archaic ritual of his family or culture or whatever

[@ZaraSalkida]

This is very disrespectful 💔please leaveeeeee girl😒they family are crazy💔and I don’t trust his fathers and uncles cause this is to there advantage and they don’t have dignity😭this is a huge deal breaker

[@jhnnbhfvv6405]

Yet when we want to know the son past everyone tell us not to focus on it, like I am a virgin and want a virgin man why it is so much to ask? I don’t want a hypocrite or a fuck boy and these too always with men who sleep before marriage.

[@farhiyaa4880]

Dont take their word for it. Request medical history including past surgeries and health conditions, STD testing, Drug testing, etc.

[@lelyakera]

That is just disgusting and horrible and haram (forbidden) in Islam. I know in the past in some rural areas in the day of wedding a woman would go with the husband to check if the bride is virgin and go out woth awhite towel stained with blood from the bride to show it to the other family members and maybe to strangers also and that is absolutely horrible and is the worst kind of abuse but at least it was a woman( which is still not acceptable) but for him to suggest that his father a man!! And his uncles !! His brothers!! All of them watch her naked lower part and even check if she is a virgin or lying(which means doubting her honor and honesty) that is a while new level of abuse, toxicity, replusiveness. I assumed he is muslim I'm not sure but if he is that is not a man to be trusted cause he has no honor. He knows that those are non mahrams and can't nee her nude and even her mahrams can't inly the husband can. So that means he is not religious and doesn't feat Allah. He also doesn't respect her at all as he wants her to go through this humiliating procedure. I don't know how she thought of him as good for her and compatible and everything is perfect when he has that mentality. She should thank God she knew taht before she alreday got married

[@alexandrab5904]

No no no no no no no no no no no no wth no no no

[@LittleStarsCare-oh4nn]

if his dad checks i might aswell get with the dad and he can watch us

[@savannahs8914]

If he doesnt trust you to be honest, but no

[@sadiiqcaydruz7874]

Love ❤️ my uk 🇬🇧 Somali girls 👧 accents plus so funny 😆 😅 funny 😁 am in Canada 🇨🇦 another funny 😆 girl 👧 Rahma Ali uk 🇬🇧 lol 😂 muah 😘 luv y’all bye 👋

[@sadiiqcaydruz7874]

Eat pizza 🍕 be miserable 😩 yes 🙌

[@sadiiqcaydruz7874]

Disgusting 🤢 and scary 😟 indeed 🤣

[@jsjdjjsjdj4050]

ما شاء الله عنكم يا اخواتي اتمنى لكم الهداية والتوفيق والسعادة والاستقامة

[@ZaraSalkida]

Yessss be miserable and eat pizza You will find someone better with a good family

[@khadijahabubakar8260]

How will he check it

[@oversharerspodcast]

That’s a very good question…

[@Shadaeprincessinspiration]

😳😳

[@muslimahb2953]

Im interested to know what culture this is 😨

[@aliah7613]

Hal video somali kuso duuba whos bater somali so sameya abayoyin

[@samaraminashraf3002]

In some places they want you to put white on the bed an bleed-on the white sheets

[@oversharerspodcast]

🥴

[@omarfarukh8101]

This like

[@norahanet5348]

This content is rather disturbing and unnecessary. It seems unbecoming of pious women to be discussing these topics. Disappointing and indulgent.

[@mariumarache1893]

Why? Does it bother you? Perhaps don't watch.

[@norahanet5348]

Astafiruallah

[@laylaxc2722]

Not really. It brings awareness to this type of things. Quite frankly, you should be more disturbed by the men's actions.

[@empresseyesopen6609]

found you guys on IG . Im glade l did.

[@oversharerspodcast]

🥳💗💗💗