My GF Wanted a Free Ride - Here's What Happened

[@sbradley3008]

Another white knight ends up surprised he was getting taken advantage of.

[@Kinsfire]

Funny thing is, if she could actually have admitted to him that she didn't know how to fix herself - AKA be honest with him - he MIGHT (and I stress MIGHT) have been willing to listen. But now? Not in a million years. The thing I do mind interesting about this channel is that I haven't yet heard one where the GUY is a fault for the screw-ups that end things.

[@abdilie]

You sound like a delusional feminist

[@SeawardMari]

It makes a change because usually it's always he mans fault 😂

[@TheSillyshyguy]

@@SeawardMari Exactly. Expose the monkey branching female twits for their true nature.

[@urchbsmirch22]

All strong and independent until the bill comes

[@mk_wizard]

This makes me depressed because I'm home maker and I was just thinking that maybe after our son is a bit older an attending school, I get a part time job somewhere. I also have a side gig as a webcomic author, but still. I'm married and this arrangement was discussed beforehand.

[@rjroy8143]

"I don't feel heard" = "He didn't agree with me."

[@abdilie]

The new age “I deserve virus”.

[@nenadprebeg2253]

I'm entitled 😂 Me,me,me, I and myself

[@revanspadawan6122]

It’s crazy, her rationalization of becoming a SAHW made sense. She reflected on how her mom was not only content, but happy with that role. There was actual logic behind her decision. Then she defended it by only focusing on the money. “Part 1” Laura was based in reality; “Part 2” Laura was based in greed and laziness.

[@BossBaddie-q9n]

You can't be a stay at home wife to a boyfriend

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

Oh the entitlement. relationships take 2... For each to contribute mentally, physically, financially.

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

Gentlemen, NEVER white knight. Expect and demand respect also her contributions in ALL areas of the relationship.

[@chrisj.1608]

Well I'm not exactly sure what she expected to happen nothing about this dude's screen that he wanted to stay at home wife sounds like he wants a partner / wife /possible mother

[@Daniel-b9i3b]

How do you accidentally hit your friend with a car

[@timothyhansen6581]

I'll be honest: this whole mess is about 35% Tim's fault, because he just assumed that she would want to go back to nursing school after such a long time, instead of having an in-depth conversation with her about what she wanted to do NOW. Because people change. I wouldn't be surprised if having her parents cut her funding out from under her like that (With cause, to be sure, but still.) followed by years of having to work at a job she hates, had soured her on the entire notion of becoming a nurse altogether, leading her toward the path of the SAHGF. For that matter, she COULD have been thinking about getting married & part of her reasoning for the SAHW lifestyle being the desire to have Tim's kids. After all, nursing isn't really a pregnancy or mother-of-newborns-friendly occupation. So, if she were to go back to school for it, only to wind up pregnant before she even gets her degree, she may well decide to put the career at least on hold until the kids are old enough to femd for themselves, so what would be the point? Basically, the issues here are a lack of communication & Tim's inability to let go of the past. He's so caught up in seeing his gf as who she WAS that he can't see her for who she IS. He's so fixated on her PAST dreams he never stopped to wonder if they were STILL her dreams or not.

[@HearitStories]

You might want to listen to the story again. She is excited when he offers to fund her studies and then has second thoughts. Also the communication between them is clear, he wants her to contribute to the partnership and not just enjoy his wealth while she feels entitled to his wealth and wants to SAH.

[@timothyhansen6581]

@@HearitStories Oh, I know all about that. I never intended to make it seem like she'd already changed her mind by the time he made the offer. (Which, I notice, wasn't made until AFTER the buyout - & actually, not even when the buyout FIRST happened. He didn't - at least so far as the story goes - even TRY to suggest him helping her with her college tuition when her parents FIRST cut her off. Just sat there wanking himself over how she turned to working in a jewelry store - a job she hated - rather than give up on everything just because she had to drop out of nursing school.) It's just, when she was finally presented with the option that she started really looking at herself in the mirror - like the Michael Jackson song - & started to think about her Mom had always been (At least to her. Who knows what she was doing BEFORE she got married & had a daughter.) a SAHM herself, & always seemed content. What I'm saying is that the boyfriend never even once thought to have a conversation with her about WHY she wanted to be a SAHGF/W, instead of going back to nursing. Not even in that last argument. He just assumed it was because she wanted to ride on his coattails, but that really wasn't it, was it?

[@timothyhansen6581]

@@HearitStories I mean, I'll grant you the spending was a bit over-the-top, & not entirely explained by "Lottery Winner Syndrome" - where you suddenly win a lot of money you never expected to get, & since you didn't earn it you're neither equipped or really interested in managing it well - but, otherwise, they're called "TRADITIONAL Gender Roles" for a reason. Sure, they didn't enter into the relationship with that kind of an expectation, but are you going to honestly tell me that he - KNOWING her parents & the dynamic THEY have - never considered his gf might want to go the same route at some point? Like I said before, even if she had decided to go back to Nursing school & gotten a degree & license in Nursing, the minute she got pregnant - or at least, by her 2nd trimester - she'd have had to go on maternity leave. Once on maternity leave & being, by force, a SAHE(xpecting)M, she may have decided THEN to become a SAHM for good & quit her nursing job altogether. Which would undoubtedly pi$$ him off because of the money he "wasted" on her education, thus causing this exact argument to happen a few years - & a small fortune - down the line. It wasn't that she wanted his wealth, or felt entitled to it. She was just choosing the same path her mother had gone down - at least, as she knows of it, anyway. If you'll notice, she DID say she wanted to be in the house SUPPORTING HIM. And yes, she DID say that the money he'd gotten from the buyout was enough for them both to live comfortably without having to work, but she meant that for BOTH of them. If he'd wanted, he could have just rode it out until the money was nearly gone - if he wasn't smart enough to set up several passive income streams so the money would make itself - rather than continue...whatever he was doing since the buyout. And honestly, why should they be a 2-income family when they have the money not to be? One income families were the norm until about 40 years ago, & they only stopped because prices got so high one-income families just couldn't cut it anymore - unless the person making the money was making at least six figures, & even that wouldn't suffice in some areas of the US. Honestly, the "American Dream" is to be making enough money - in a multitude of ways - that NEITHER partner has to work. At least it is, now.

[@BetaRayBill-yx9eb]

She wants to be a strong, independent woman with his money sounds like he made all the money while she was just working a dead end job and now suddenly it’s we have enough money that we don’t have to struggle what’s this we bullshit?

[@areyouexp4]

i might have suggested a 5 yr plan - we need to get married first and have children before you can be a stay at home mom - and dude could afford it and by that time he would know how the finances were shaping up

[@BetaRayBill-yx9eb]

Oh, that would do is trigger a baby trap

[@timothyhansen6581]

Honestly, I would've required she at least finished her degree before letting her take her "break."