My Girlfriend Wants To Open Our Relationship r/Relationships

[@sophdog2564]

Terrifying how a rejection she doesn't even remember giving to a guy in college was the start of his villain arc It's almost enough to make you never want to leave the house

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

And it's only going to become more and more common with the kind of ideology men are being exposed to online these days. If I somehow find myself single, there's no way I'm ever dating again.

[@wildfyah]

I sadly have one of these idiots in my life who is now playing the victim cuz he got publicly embarrassed. People like this do not stop, the obsession with ruining your life over decades old hurt feelings and they eventually bite off more than they can chew...his threats of wanting to commit S are just a way for him to manipulate ppl back into his corner...he got the sister and the kids...he really got her good there.

[@michal31131]

Nice guy™ on steroids

[@shaktimishra9710]

​@@wildfyahyou deserve it

[@loganjoh1]

Story 2: the comments told OP multiple times to get a lawyer to go after the BIL but she continued to go “the police won’t do anything” that’s why they are saying lawyer not police help yourself out take the advice she is way too passive about this.

[@catsncrows]

She's probably still in a freeze response. This is fairly large level of emotional violence. I hope she can pull out of this. She says she is terrified.

[@divinebitter1638]

She actually mentions that "the lawyer says nothing will come from this" in the story. So she did see one.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Last story. This is going to escalate until he hurts her or her sister. He has no reason now to stay with the sister, so I see him leaving her. His world has exploded and he can no longer hide his devious plots.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

The dude has shown no amount of time or money will be an obstacle to him destroying the OP's life. Even if the sister divorced him and his reputation took a hit, he would simply "retreat" and come back at another time. He has some serious mental issues. Sadly, there is only one way to deal with this dude and that is to hire someone from the Dark Net to "end it" for her.

[@Davtwan]

Say it with me, everyone. Turning a monogamy into a polyamory is a _bad idea._

[@bug-in-a-rug]

Unless it was something discussed BEFORE the relationship, it never ends well. And even then, you can still cheat when polyamorous!

[@whitneybennett4857]

No, she probably actually meant to just turn it into a polyamorous relationship on HER end. She probably would've gotten all petty and jealous and tried to close the relationship once she was hit with a reality check that made her realize that being polyamorous meant he could also start dating and sleeping with other women.

[@whitneybennett4857]

No, she probably actually meant to just turn it into a polyamorous relationship on HER end. She probably would've gotten all petty and jealous and tried to close the relationship once she was hit with a reality check that made her realize that being polyamorous meant he could also start dating and sleeping with other women.

[@Reeney_R]

No, not necessarily. I went from Monogamy to polyamory and we've been polyam for longer than we've been monogamous now. It's only possible if both people are fully on board and have immense trust and the relationship is built on a stable foundation, but it's not inherently doomed to fail

[@pippo17173]

@@Reeney_R I feel like no one takes this as from what I am seeing, a ton of snakes implanted themselves in that community to take advantage of folks who don't know better or know how broken they can get so they can manipulate them. At this point this is where I say *Gate keep this please and call these people out.*

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: Why is op’s sister mad at her? Her husband tried to ruin op’s marriage because op didn’t date him. She needs to realize that her ‘husband’ doesn’t love her.

[@michal31131]

He's probably very manipulative and managed to change her mind

[@dimariahgunnemann3729]

Tried and succeeded!

[@keshaponso2034]

You may be slow. SHE IS A VICTIM! For years. And idiots on Reddit gave her stupid advice to confront her brother in law, and turn it into a "he said" "she said".

[@Elle44289]

Narcissista are good at twisting reality tp poison people avaint their targets

[@johnpartrick9030]

Story 2. BIL is not an a**hole. He is a sociopath and future or current serial killer.

[@darkmask5933]

Story 2: OP accidentally did one of the worst things you can do to a narcissist, especially one who comes from money; she didn't give him attention. It wasn't so much she turned him down, in that she had no reaction to turning him down, which seems to have caused BIL to lose his mind. He's a good-looking man with lots of a money, how dare someone not give him the time of day? I really think this guy actually dedicated his life to trying to enjoy OP living her life alone.

[@cb9825]

I guess he doesn't have conventional "good looks", since he calls OP shallow repeatedly.

[@kittykatbeans]

Hey guys! Sharkee here! 🦈🦈

[@boneymeroney2674]

🦈 😂

[@Listrynne]

I've never said this before, but I'm dead. I nearly fell over.😂😂😂🦈🦈🦈

[@SXLLYSTRXNG]

He’s so cute😭😭 Markee is also very cute :33

[@jess-bo98]

I laugh/ snorted accidentally 😂

[@myself0510]

I want that shirt! I will watch the video, then Google it!

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

First story: you can’t unring the bell. Once she asks for an open relationship you can’t undo that

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Yup. That is game over at that point. The seed is set in their brain, even if they push it to the far back of their brain, it will STILL be there and the person that proposed it will be very vulnerable to situations that may allow them to "act" upon it in the future. For some reason, they see their partner as "inadequate" in their relationship and because of that, there is a certain loss of respect for them that will always remain in their heads. The "Love" is gone. it's best to just walk away and find someone else. They are no longer compatible. NO ONE who claims to "Love You" would ever suggest an open relationship.

[@invisible123-l9d]

Yet MEN would demand that female partners accept it, and be faithful, when the MAN wants the 'open' relationship. Don't bother replying, you don't have the balls to reply respectfully, or even in a civil manner.

[@mikef2811]

Pandora's box. You say YES, she can gets more guys than you can ever get girls. Or you find someone, she will change the rules. So, you lose. You say NO. She cheats anyway.

[@ajb7530]

The last story, OP, needs to go after the BIL. The police won't do anything? Then she is talking to the wrong police officers. Go higher to the police commissioner or whatever the equivalent rank is. But it's BS that the police won't do anything. They are required to look into the matter. I would also go to the media, but make sure you have strong evidence, but talk to a good lawyer first. The BIL is out of control and crazy and needs to be stopped. OP NTA

[@thomasjoseph5876]

At this point, there isn't much of any sort of criminal complaint that can be done. It really doesn't fall under revenge porn as they never dated. There is no evidence showing how he got the photos so it is "he said, she said". Trying to break up a couple isn't against the law. She MIGHT have some sort of civil claim but there again, there just might not be enough evidence to prove anything and I am not sure what they would even try for. Maybe the threat of him losing a lot of money may make him "retreat" but it would probably be temporary as he seems h*ll-bent on destroying her life and he would see his retreat as a loss and would need to rectify that in the future. The best thing is to attack his reputation and keep what he did out in the open for all to see. Make sure anyone involved professionally knows about this situation but the OP needs to be careful not to lie or expand on anything but the actual facts of what the guy did otherwise, she could be liable for defamation or libel. To be honest, I believe the ONLY WAY this ends is with her total destruction. The guy will not accept anything less. Because of this, there is ONLY ONE WAY to handle this guy, and that involves her hiring someone from the Dark Net to "end it".

[@alexlibby5087]

This is not true. If the police feel they do not have a strong enough case to convince the state attorney & convict the perpetrator the case can be dropped. -As someone who survived being abducted and left for dead who has hospital records and police reports and blah blah blah. Once the detective left that voicemail that it wasn’t being pursued there was 0 I could do in terms of criminal charges (civil is different)

[@ajb7530]

​@alexlibby5087 Im sorry for what you went through. But that's why I said get strong evidence. With the right evidence, and right lawyer, things can get done. An amazing lawyer who knows how to think and know how to do the job are worth their weight in gold. Also that's why Private investigators are also good.

[@alexlibby5087]

@@ajb7530 I had both of these things. Lawyer was incredible in fighting for me :) I had police & hospital records; texts existed validating something was very wrongly; there were witnesses and potential surveillance footage. But summary was the police just didn’t feel there was enough, and that was that as far as criminal charges were concerned. However my case did not involve a reoccurring crime and I’m sure that change things up quite a bit!

[@ynmonroe]

Freaking this! She needs to go for a civil suit, look for a criminal lawyer that can force action, and not shut about this. I would start my own campaign. Online, locally, friends and family (his and my extended family). Everyone would know. I would go after the "friend" too. That he thought it was okay to smear OP and upend her whole life because his loser "friend" couldn't accept rejection makes him no better. And saying sorry isn't enough IMO. These aren't kids. How the hell did he stay friends with someone for years seeing this obsession? And then, how did he condone this plan? And honestly, screw the sister. I would bet there were signs over the years that BIL was off regarding OP. No way he limited his comments to his friend group. Even if he did, that she would side with him now is BS. That would be no sister of mine, in terms of my consideration of her feeling, after her decision to say screw OP. It's clear they aren't as close as OP thinks.

[@Iflie]

I completely agree on spineless people driving you crazy. Make up your mind and do it already, people don't change, they will continue to do the bad thing until someone stops them.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I don't think this guy will EVER stop trying to destroy her life. Even if the sister rejected him and divorced him and his reputation took a hit, he would simply see it as a "retreat" and a loss he could not live with and would for sure come back at another time in the future. He has proven there is literally NOTHING out of bounds for him and with his financial means, that would signify no options for her. I hate to say this, but there is only one way for the OP to end this campaign of destruction on her life. That's to hire someone from the Dark Net to "End it" for her.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@Iflie]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Haha the dark net "hitman 4 U sites are usually run by cops. But I do believe things end up coming up that solve things one way or the other. The guy knows he's exposed now so he can do less and his wife will be watching. I think she's probably making sure the money stays with her

[@araeast6923]

Story 2 - The creepy guy here is living the exact reality of the usual incel fantasy of “in ten years, I’ll be rich and the girl that rejected me will come crawling back for my money, I can’t wait to reject her and make her feel like she’s nothing for saying ‘no’ to me that one time. Surely she’ll do AAAAAAANYTHING to be with me now”. He’s butt hurt that OP isn’t alone with ten cats, that she’s got a life with good standards, and that she has agency and options even after she’s at rock bottom. Guy NEEDS OP to be a broken loser who’s too dumb to help herself, or else his wealth means nothing, his fantasy is just a delusion, he’s been holding onto something so small for far too long, and he really isn’t the catch he thinks he is.

[@emanymton7184]

My thoughts exactly. This guy is the poster boy of all the things that give incels a bad reputation. He is like the Andrew Tate of inceldom. Just as toxic and twice as dumb. And when the next best thing compared to you is Andrew Tate that is saying something.

[@ComaLies225]

SHARKEE is the mascot we needed. #FreeOurHomiesMarkeeAndSharkee

[@stellamccoy5259]

S1. If my husband had ever asked me to open our relationship, he would have been an ex. So called friends always know weak people and enjoy ruining their relationships because they themselves are sad, lonely people. Way to go OP. S2. If any of my sisters husband's did this, she would know ASAP.

[@carlrood4457]

It's why you need to really look at who an SO hangs out with.

[@emanymton7184]

If my partner wanted to open the relationship I would tell her that would be okay with me. As long as she is aware that this means that _I_ get to look for other eff buddies as well. There will be no one sided opening, it's either open on both sides or not at all. See her jaw drop on that one. Specially after I tell her I will be meeting Angela, Monica and Rita later for a hookup tonight. And then I start whistling "Mambo Nr. 5".

[@invisible123-l9d]

@@emanymton7184 As a man, you would demand that YOU be allowed to sleep around, but demand that she be faithful at all times. Sickening double standards. Don't bother replying, as you don't have the balls to reply respectfully, or even in a civil manner, to a WOMAN.

[@dianabialaskahansen2972]

Last story: OP needs to grow a spine. She needs to go so scorched earth on her BIL that Hiroshima and Nagasaki just after being nuked would look like paradise in comparison with how much she devastate his life.

[@luizad2277]

Absolutely! OP is such a doormat to care more about the sister being in the middle instead of exposing BIL for the psychopath he is and clearing her reputation

[@autumn557]

But she’s right. Realistically there isnt much that can be done. Laws don’t care about hurt feelings and unless they can prove where the nudes came from, which courts don’t care too much about because they blame OP for even having them, then what? This guy said this guy was honks about me too much? Realistically yes he’s a loony, but the only thing to do is have sister get rid of him so he’s not around anymore, which she won’t. Or OP cutting contact so he’s not around her anymore. Which I guess will be easier since he filed restraining orders. But reality is t the Justice fantasy we wish for. I had a guy obsessed with me for 2 years and guess what? As long as he doesn’t answer his door, cops could never talk to him. It was so frustrating that he would wait for me outside on the porch EVERY DAY but legally he was allowed to because he was my neighbor. Never mind the 2;00 am knocks on my door, the unwanted ‘gifts’ left on my doormat. The calling me a whore when I wouldn’t go out with him. Nothing mattered because he knew how to skirt the law enough to continue. Eventually I just had to ask for escorts to go to my door and ask my neighbors to watch for him and alert me, then wait for his eviction. That was ALL that could be done.

[@MrJpaynebb]

She keeps talking about the cops doing nothing but refuses to go to lawyers. While he may not have done anything against the criminal code he may have violated the civil codes which is why she needs to talk to a lawyer.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@autumn557She can bring the truth to light and that will severely damage his reputation. That is her only option at this point. Eventually, he will probably end up breaking a law that he can be held accountable for both criminally and civilly. But yet, she seems to want to just sit there and do nothing that would take away from her being "The Victim". She is even going so far as to criticize those who are trying to fight back for her such as her ex. If the guy is granted an RO or PO against her that will cover his wife, her sister, and their kids as well. That means she will not be allowed to see or talk to them and if they all end up at the parent's house, the OP will be forced by law to leave. I don't think she realizes that.

[@wildfyah]

If she doesn't do it then I'd love her ex husband to but I'm worried about her sis and the kids... they're essentially his hostages

[@RamenRev]

I mean, as soon as someone tries to open a relationship, the love will die for that person, most of the time. Even suggesting it causes damage, because it brings trust issues, as well as insecurities because the trust is gone, and one thinks they aren't cut out to satisfy the other...

[@carolroberts4614]

It never makes any sense to me! Usually the ones in these situations have been together long enough to know if the other is the kind of person who would agree or not. Like my other half and me, we both know that the other would not agree.

[@angeloliver7613]

I definitely prefer my spouse to bring it up directly before cheating. This way we can talk through and either find a compromise or break up amicable.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

S2: a joke he played! This psycho is determined to ruin OPs life because he was rejected in college! OP didn’t ruin his reputation, his obsession did.

[@league-of-shadows]

Yeah, it’s not a joke to destroy a whole marriage with nudes they stole after being rejected 20 years prior. It’s insane to me that she has all of this evidence from the guy who helped him showing a clear pattern of obsession with her.

[@carlrood4457]

Ah, the insecure accusation, straight out of the cheating handbook. It's completely secure to know what you want and place your boundaries based on that.

[@invisible123-l9d]

Funny how you do not think that WOMEN should be allowed to set boundaries,, and think that MEN should be able to cheat as often as they wish. You don't have the balls to reply respectfully, or even in a civil manner, so run along, little willy waver.

[@zachf748]

There’s always someone in mind. People aren’t going to risk nuking their relationship for nothing. When they ask, they know exactly who they are risking their relationship for, because they’ve already thought it through and decided that person is worth risking their relationship over.

[@jaylynn8630]

Story 2: I understand why commenters are frustrated with OP, but not everyone's response is to fight. Some people get so anxious at the thought that it makes them physically ill. It's completely understandable why OP might feel frozen or hopeless or just not have it in her to escalate the fighting. OP is dealing with a ton, without starting legal proceedings - divorce, the loss of her sister, and the discovery that this dude is a psycho - especially when there are signs it would be a big uphill battle. If OP did go to a lawyer, they might agree with the cops, laws be damned, and not be willing to take the case, which would be even more exhausting and devastating. And you know, when dealing with crazy/entitled men, escalation is not always a safe thing to do. Trying to leave an abusive relationship is the time an abuse victim is most likely to be murdered by their abuser; obviously it's not the same thing, but I wouldn't be surprised if a similar dynamic applied here.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Not only that, but OP did "fight" with her husband when the cheating allegations first came out and he didn't believe her, so she might think fighting for herself is pointless since she wasn't believed the first time. Between her husband's disbelief and the police's disinterest, I can understand OP's resignation. At this point, she would probably just settle for reconciling with her husband and getting her sister back.

[@bryn1063]

i agree 100%, you can tell op simply feels defeated and just doesn't have it in her or just completely afraid to do anything. I would love if she fought back and stood up for herself but she has to pick up the pieces first. She's in already in shambles. Hope she does eventually press charges but for now stay as far away from that monster..

[@keshaponso2034]

I don't understand the frustration at all. Anybody advising to fight... are 100% garbage human beings. We throw the words psycho and narcissist so often for cheaters, that we equate them all in one bundle. Thinking that the sister would even believe OP? Where did this, they must be exposed now culture come from. It's dangerous.

[@ggez330]

Glad Mark is having fun with it

[@alexanderhenby1362]

I feel really bad for the soon to be ex husband in that story, cause every single person on this subreddit would have told him to gtfo cause pictures definitely mean she's cheating. Advice on reddit aee almost always divorce, but it seems more and more common that some bitter ex or sibling or someone are making up cheating stories. And how much worse are stories like these going to get as AI gets better and better? Fake nudes, fake videos with ai voices? People like this guy are just going to get worse.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Unless a very cheap and easy form of checking pics, videos, and audio recordings for AI Fakes are found, there is going to be a lot of destruction in people's lives in the near future.

[@MoonWomanStudios]

There's going to have to be technology we have on our phones that track our real pictures. It won't stop fakes but it will have some hidden watermark that can prove it's not from our tech but from someone else's

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@MoonWomanStudios This is going to be a real issue if something can't be found to prove fake AI pics, videos, and audio are in fact, fake. Otherwise, in the near future there are going to be many lives and relationships destroyed over nothing by some very vindictive people.

[@kissedbypalefirex]

story 1:op is NTA,i'm glad he stuck to his guns, "fighting" for someone who doesn't want you is a losing battle & a waste of time. When a partner asks to open the relationship it usually means their eyes are wandering. story 2: Holy Crap....BIL is a STALKER, its crazy that lasted 20yrs...he's so creepy to go after her sister.

[@videofan1010]

OP#2 is actually in a lot of trouble. I could see him "unaliving" her. He's dangerous.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

2. She needs to tell everyone what happened...her brother in law sounds insane and fixed on OP....and I would not be surprised that he is with the sister to be close to her.. Maybe it is best to tell everyone what happened and cut contact all contact with BIL, I would be scared of him too. Those type of insane are dangerous.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

I would even cut contact with sister if she stays with him...just in case, OP need to protect herself first. Go to cops, lawyer up too. Best is to stop all contact and cut all options for him to find out info about OP. BLOCK saves lives.

[@NicciFreeman]

My friends husband asked for an open relationship expecting her cry and freak out. Instead she said, “Sure no problem. There is a dude at work that keeps hitting on me.” He freaked out.

[@quartzskull8772]

Lmao

[@wildfyah]

I find it interesting how people like OPs BIL all of a sudden want to commit S when they get called out for their behaviour. There's a guy who has been doing this to me for almost 14 years for also rejecting him. When he first started I was told to ignore him and he'd go away, police were no help telling me that's how men are sometimes.. He indeed did not go away, he's been actively slandering my name all that time to anyone willing to listen, and it had me wondering why people were behaving the way they did as calling me by my full name and saying some very horrible things a out me. I found this out last year when he came to an event I was working at.....my goodness they do not stop. Even after being publicly embarrassed they don't stop but it does help somewhat. He got called out because he was also doing it to other women and we all ended up comparing notes....I don't think legal consequences stop them either. They'll just keep playing victim to have someone in their corner to validate them...OPs sister and her kids are in danger.

[@KJ-sp9jq]

Poor Markee not even showing his face in this video. Conner must have done a number on him. Hopefully he escapes soon.

[@taz598]

Story 1 NTA and hope OP is ready for the inevitable phone call with ex where she wants to get back together after her side piece dumps her because he only wanted a fling.

[@alecgrandy]

Imma chuck a prawn to the Sharkee

[@jakeand9020]

Last story: Seriously people, PAY ATTENTION, she DID talk to a lawyer, 19:52, lawyer said the same thing the police did, there's NOTHING they can do. So, please, give advice about what she should do that isn't something she's ALREADY DONE. Talk to police, DONE Talk to lawyer, DONE Publicly expose him, DONE Sure, if OP was filthy rich she could probably get a lawyer that could/would do something, but the lawyer she can get won't/can't. Maybe I'm ignorant, but I don't see any other LEGAL options, if anyone knows one, please share, now I'm curious, because everyone seems to be saying she isn't "following the advice," like, doing all the things she HAS DONE.

[@insideoutcabbage]

BEST SHIRT/INTRO I'VE EVER SEEN

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

Not only do they almost always have someone in mind beforehand, but there’s also a good chance they already went ahead and tried something.

[@faeriefire78]

A couple additional things that struck me about that last story is that no one is addressing the 10 year age gap between the sister and the bunny boiler (is Reddit asleep?), and why does that family blow off his bad behavior as jokes? He's said awful things to her for years, and she's all "I thought he was just joking." 🤷‍♀And him stealing her nudes, giving them to a friend, and setting up the whole thing to nuke her marriage is a "joke"?! Am I taking crazy pills?

[@sasoridanna9250]

Sharkee your voice is so Pacific 😊

[@phoenixspirit9530]

🎶 Markee Shark doo doo doo doo doo doo 🎶

[@becauselifts9913]

Sharkie chewing on Connor: Hmmm, that's a tough one... Also, holy shit, my comment got featured in a vid! Woohoo!

[@samalvarez8776]

Which video?? I wanna watch!

[@corvuscrux]

I feel like i just did some shark bait o.o

[@ladyv5655]

Just one question: when has a monogamous relationship ever been strengthened or improved by opening it?

[@thomasjoseph5876]

It hasn't. That's why 97% of them fail and end in divorce or separation. I would imagine the other 3% ignorantly stay together for either money/lifestyle or kids.

[@cindykq8086]

What’s the point of getting married when one or both of you are going to screw around? That’s “friends with benefits,” not a union of lives.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@cindykq8086It's for the legal benefits only. If they both agree beforehand they are going to bang others but want to "be together" for whatever reasons, getting married gives them many advantages when it comes to financial, social, medical, Govt. and other legal things that single people dating or FWBs don't get. It's still effed up though.

[@KE-hr4sb]

My daughter has a squish mallow named Sharkee! That intro made me smile. S2: Oofh this one was painful. Forget about who the damn ex is seeing or not seeing, and press charges on BIL! For heaven’s sake woman!

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: oh thank goodness an OP who doesn’t just cave into the open relationship they clearly don’t want. Also she was a walking red flag with how she got angry he actually had a spine she really couldn’t accept boundaries she just wanted her cake and to eat it too.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

No one who claims to love you will ever want to share you.

[@Iflie]

I wonder if in real life Sharkee talks to people and when he slips, he just repeats the whole line again . haha

[@LisaApril]

I would probably move. I don't want my enemy who is married to my sister to live in the same town as me. I think putting some distance between the OP and her brother-in-law would do her a lot of good.

[@movicangel88]

The beginning has me dying laughing over here 😂

[@nationalsocialism3504]

S1- DON'T ask if they have someone in mind or who they have in mind... just dump them immediately upon "open relationship" being brought up. If they want to be single then make them single

[@BambixLynn]

Everytime someone pronounces “lmao” I think it sounds like a sassy fancy cat.

[@daisymay6505]

🤣🐈

[@smee2051]

Markee, I am sat in Auckland Airport & if you're not here then I have just seen your doppelganger. 😊

[@Markee]

Couldn’t be me haha I’m sat at home. Cozy in bed.

[@Goddess_Aleu_White_Wolf]

Ngl when i heard "sharkee" i stopped the diamond painting i was doing, looked at the phone and skipped back 10 seconds to make sure I wasn't hearing things 🤣

[@ashcreekAER]

Sharkee! What a delightful surprise! Jolly good show!

[@vanessastiff9820]

I had walked away from my phone to heat up my food and was so confused when I heard "Sharkee here." I was so confused until I saw the video on the screen. 🦈

[@amiehome4687]

Good morning shark in the dark

[@Bleg94]

1. Story: suggesting an open relationship is (imo) the same as wanting to break up ...

[@Lemniscated]

Never ask a closed question where one answer is admitting being bad, while the other answer is not being bad. "Do you have someone in mind?" of course you'll get a "No"

[@Warbles_]

Omg hi Sharkee

[@alexlibby5087]

A sarcastic “LOL” with the comments towards the last story; Reddit comments often seem incredibly naive when it comes to reporting things to the police (& child services as well). For real for real cops choose too not pursue cases; even when you file a full on report - even with one including witnesses, authority figures, records, and violence - there’s a multitude of reasons but stop acting shook when posters don’t get any real legal help 🙃

[@alexlibby5087]

Also - if you hire a lawyer with no criminal case it becomes civil; than there has to be someone with something of value to go after & sue for damages. This can irk me a lot because predators often know the inner workings of rules/laws/policies and things like this so they can continue preying w/o ever being able to actually be held liable for anything.

[@AnemoneEnemy]

Good ol Sharkee always down with the tea

[@analisaacosta974]

"sharkee here" is too funny 🤣

[@hewhoisnowhere]

Omfg I'm in love with Sharkee

[@mztweety1374]

Open relationship equals no no no😂 Hi Sharkey

[@Enderslegend]

Story 1: As the saying goes. If she isn’t already riding him, she’s at least picked out the saddle.

[@mbyerly9680]

"Num, num, num." Sharkee eating those shrimps.

[@driversuz44]

Oh man I love that shirt!

[@TalaPedro]

His someone in mind in my experience was one of my best friends

[@patc4586]

Beelllly shark do do do do do.

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee 👋 Have a great evening and enjoy your weekend 🤗 Good Morning/ night everyone 👋🤗

[@becausemynameiscommon5609]

I wonder where op lives if the police won't do something.

[@debbiehenderson7830]

That last story, omg op needs to go after the brother in law. It was frustrating how passive she is

[@madcatlady]

camera pans down to the white pointer 🦈

[@HeliosX28]

Story 1 You're insecure for not letting me cheat on you... Well guess it's a good thing I'm dumping you so you can be with someone who's secure then huh

[@nanoglitch6693]

Yoo, I'm here for Sharkee!

[@jameslyons6655]

It’s basically code for “I think I found someone better but would appreciate it if you sat on the back burner until I’m sure”. And the line about it strengthening the intimacy and love is pure BS. The fact that she can say that to OP with a straight face shows she has zero respect for him.

[@tinycrimester]

story 2: you can't take the Nice out of the Nice Guy

[@pinkykaur6821]

Sharkee! we want the"noour!" again!

[@gilles111]

Wonder what Markee was smoking before he decided to wear that shirt and the Sharkee intro. I want it too! LOL

[@wheelsndealz]

story 2. wait, if you took the pictures for your husband, why wouldn't he recognize them? i mean, maybe you send a ton and he might not immediately recognize them, but unless he erases them, he should be able to go back and confirm. if he does erase them, and you don't, you should be able to go back and show im. if you both erased them, how did they get them?

[@wheelsndealz]

also, I'm pretty sure there's a law about something like, relationship interference. like someone purposefully trying to interfere with someone's relationship. much like the foundation for parental alienation, grandparents rights, etc.

[@wheelsndealz]

looked it up, and yep, alienation of affection. it's a civil suit, because he broke up their marriage, he can be sued for all the financial problems and emotional distress.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

Thank you! I was hoping somebody other than me would catch it and say something! And it's not just the pictures, it's the fact that he was so quick to believe the accusations, and so quick to move on with another woman afterwards. Sounds like all of this just helped reveal what a POS husband he was.

[@wheelsndealz]

@@AngryReptileKeeper I wouldn't say the husband was a POS. The wife didn't think about it either. And I didn't catch how soon after it happened that he started dating but she obviously moved on too. I was just pointing out a glaring thing that I'm surprised neither of them realized. She seems way too apathetic to getting justice for what happened. So idk, there might have been more to the story we didn't get.

[@kateemma22]

Remember Sharkee: fish are friends, not food.

[@stephjovi]

Well hi Sharkee I don't sit back I'll go home from work now. But great timing for something to something to

[@madelynmoses5464]

I am a firm believer that someone who cannot:will not help themselves, will very rarely be capable/motivated enough to help others. By failing yourself, you fail others as a consequence. Or in this case op won’t (not can’t as that’d imply she couldn’t do anything when she can) help the sister when she won’t even help herself.

[@ThatOddChickenHippie]

1:36 she's probably already cheating. She definitely already has someone in mind and will cheat in the future if she hasn't already. Bringing up an open relationship out of the blue is sus as hell, regardless of whether it is a dude or a woman suggesting it. That is something that needs to happen at the start of a relationship if at all

[@thomasjoseph5876]

No one who claims to love you will ever want to share you.

[@bryn1063]

@@thomasjoseph5876 i agree to a point. Poly people truly do love their partners they also simply love others too but for most of us it's just cheating and aren't truly polyamorous

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@bryn1063Let me rephrase that since I am talking about a monogamous relationship as in the story. In a Monogamous relationship, no one who claims to love you will be willing to share you. I thought it was a given since the relationship in the story was about a monogamous couple where suddenly one of the couple decided they wanted to open the monogamous relationship. However, I have heard from some Poly people that someone who claims to love you will not change the structure of the poly relationship from the agreed-upon terms which is most of the reasons poly relationships fail as it amounts to essentially, cheating. This usually involves adding another (or more) persons to "share" so my original statement could apply to poly as well.

[@bryn1063]

@thomasjoseph5876 obviously that's why I said it was cheating for most. In Successful poly relationships they do share each other. It's just with others permission so there's actual love there 🤷🏿

[@momoangel9243]

First story, the only one who has a problem is her, because from the looks of it she thought she all that and a bag of chips, though she could get him to cave to her wants not knowing he had a steel spine and self-respect, and was not going to be pressure into something he made crystal clear will never happen and will always be a deal breaker for him, And she couldn't handle it especially since she got mad and unjustly called him names, when she was the one who messed up their relationship and try to push a boundarie he made clear that will never be crossed under any circumstances, and that bruised her ego because she really thought she could have her cake and eat it too, which wasn't happening here, Seriously if there was a concern about something in their relationship, it's called couples counseling not ask/ pressuring for a open relationship or something that crossing your partner's boundaries, and know 100% it crosses their boundaries while asking anyway.

[@videofan1010]

Wow, the BIL in the second story is a terrible person.

[@paulineisme]

Nothing too good will come out of the last story I just hope the OP goes away from these terrible people. If she and stbx can work it out great otherwise new life who dis

[@rmhartman]

Sharkee here: fish are friends, not food!

[@notachibisuke]

Please link to shark shirt!!!!

[@ondank]

How is sharkee chucking a prawn on the barbie?

[@phoenixspirit9530]

Barbie ™️ is having a beach day 😂

[@mindmaster323]

Story 1: Unless it's something both parties have expressed interest in, if someone declares or demands they want to open the relationship just run. Leave because they either have or want permission to sleep with someone else. Story 2: This is one of those cases where I genuinely feel like BIL needs to go by whatever means necessary.

[@GaskyChan]

I love that shark shirts and is very jelly

[@Sensansenkai]

Thank you Sharkie 😂😂😂

[@angelaa7388]

Chuck that prawn to Sharkee! 🦈

[@videofan1010]

I am so tired of the open relationship people...

[@KataklystGaming]

The fact that her husband didn't recognize the nudes means they weren't sent to him so where did they come from?

[@stuffedninja1337]

I politely request that you pet Sharkee for me (And also Markee’s dog)

[@justinburgard4700]

S1) Can someone explain how fucking other people is supposed to strengthen 2 peoples love for each other? Thats like literally trying to put out a fire with another fire...

[@shadowkissed2370]

First story is kind of familiar to me, after I gave birth to our child my ex-husband came up with the bs that he deserved to sleep with other people because he was a virgin coming into our relationship and I was not because I had been r4p3d as a child. He also tried to tell me that it would strengthen our marriage if I allowed him to do it. He straight up said I didn't care about him or our marriage if I did not allow him to sleep around. He decided my no was not legit and went out and slept around anyways, and brought an STD home to me, and begged me to help him not go to jail because one of the girls was a 14-year-old-ward-of-the-court. His friend, who was a social worker, actually helped him out with that. He told my ex to call her social worker and tell her that the child was stalking him and his wife and baby (which she did) the social worker helped him get a restraining order and he didn't get into trouble for sleeping with a 14-year-old even though he was 23. He is my ex for a reason.

[@rmhartman]

You do not strengthen a relationship by turning away from it to another person.

[@waterdragondelta]

hi sharkee ^^ i love you, too!

[@sandracox4341]

You are not the AH you can leave any relationship at anytime when your partner Changes the perimeter of your relationship.

[@DullestStar9299]

SOMEBODY HELP THIS MAN, PLEASE!!!

[@ElisaSarah]

Early on in my boyfriend and my relationship he asked about a threesome. I asked him "oh, who's the other guy you want to join?" He got flustered "wha... No, A second woman. O don't want to have sex with a guy." Me smugly "until you're willing to explore a threesome with two men and one woman, you will not get a threesome with one man and two women. And if you have a threesome with two women now, then that is cheating. It will absolutely break me. I will leave you immediately and be single for years because I wouldn't be able to trust any man." He nodded and said it was understandable, asked if it's a 100% no from me. I paused, thought a little and said "right now, how I am doing and how I feel it is a complete and clear NO, I don't know what the future holds, but you shouldnr stay with me in hopes of me changing my mind. And it hasnt come up, well he has mentioned that it's almost every guys wildest imagination and fantasy. So i just say," that might be true, but according to studies it takes men around 5 minutes to climax and women 30 minutes.. Do you actually believe all those men who fantasize about threesomes will be able to last close to 1 hour in bed?" He laughed a bit "I can't, but I understand the fantasy and the idea of it" I think that's a good way to talk about such things.

[@TheSchoolRumbler]

Probably got the husband drunk and went through his phone

[@FaiAshland]

Hi sharky!

[@ohboy-zi1yf]

*sharkee