My heart was broken 6mo ago. A Candid Talk. How am I doing now? This is what I learned

[@MinivanLee]

❤ Please WATCH. All the way thru. Stay focused. This is a great episode. I’m counting on you!!

[@lisaschippert9426]

When my husband left ( right before Christmas many years ago), my dad asked what I was going to do to get him back.. I answered “nothing absolutely nothing.” The many things that were going on behind closed doors started to come out and Dad never asked again. That was the start of my long healing journey.

[@deedeetravels969]

I never voiced my opinions about Paul. Kept it all inside. I'm not about making comments that could potentially make someone cry. I will say now, I didn't have a fondness for Paul. I just remained happy for you.

[@patriciahermanson8942]

My heart was broken 15 yrs ago. Felt more like a big chunk of it was ripped from me. My 25 yr old son was killed in Iraq, his 4th tour there. I cried an ocean of tears for 2yrs straight, everyday. I thought I would die. Loosing Adam I lost a part of myself, the pain and agony is still there, but the Lord has me here for a reason. I am also a widow. A man is the last thing on my mind.

[@MinivanLee]

I’m sure you wouldn’t want a relationship atm but maybe someone could be a mate for you and ease you heart.

[@eileenreed5642]

God bless your son for serving our country❤

[@ruthwalsh500]

Having my son die suddenly six years ago, I feel your pain. It is still devastating

[@tracyhull7936]

Sorry for the loss of tour son😢

[@tracyhull7936]

Your

[@cindyrags59]

Love your commitment to yourself without tearing down the other...classy lady

[@denellalleyn8938]

You talked about people with trauma. Understanding that you can't be what someone else needs you to be and going your separate ways is good. But it is vital to realize the difference between trauma and toxicity. The first can be met with empathy, the second can only get worse.

[@candacelemming858]

Forgive me for saying this, but I didn't like the way you were with him. It's hard to explain, but I like you the way you are now. So much more. Don't ever let anyone change you. ❤

[@dianepearson3840]

I watched the whole thing. You're such a sweetie Lee. I'm glad you have great self-esteem. I think you probably help ppl think things through. God bless you.

[@MinivanLee]

You're the best!

[@michelebaker6001]

I pray you are feeling better. 🙏 and get well soon.

[@jollietalvarez8560]

Pray for mini lee to recover now in Jesus name Lord take this problem from mini Lee heal her body now Lord Jesus ❤👑📙

[@tracyhull7936]

I am praying for her and I hope many more will 😊

[@MinivanLee]

Thank you

[@bonniegreatorex72]

You don't need to pray. Have faith that your heavenly father knows what's best for you. Could you imagine having your children tell YOU THE PARENT what is best for them? It's insulting. Instead of praying (as if God doesn't know what to do), why don't you thank God for everything he's done.

[@suejarrett6585]

Boy oh Boy did you hit that on the button about your family doesn't like the newer version, especially my children but my grown grandchildren and great grands love me and show it! Just starting my van life because it was postponed in 2021 from someone burning down my home(had a mental issue) on purpose. thank the Lord I wasn't home. It sucked the life out of me. I'm not a fearful person but I experienced fear like no other, then in 2023 I broke my hip and femur, go figure LOL. BUT...I have a 2016 Dodge Grand Caravan and I'm doing it! Thank God I have a grandson just like your son. May see you Lee on the road, you have helped me ever since the first time I saw your video, before I even lost my home!

[@Niueniue88]

Thank you Lee 😊 for this amazing talk. Get well soon and sending through love 💖 and blessings ❣️

[@MinivanLee]

You are so welcome

[@gabriellechilton5902]

I hear the rain outside your van. Being in my van when it rains……Heaven, absolute heaven!

[@carmendarlinseattle]

Hi Lee, sending healing thoughts your way. I met someone three years ago. I have worked hard on myself within the relationship to maintain my own sense of self. I don’t want to repeat past patterns of losing myself in the relationship. I don’t know if I am in love but I feel I have learned a lot about myself in a more healthy relationship than my past ones. I respect myself and him as well. I do choose this. I take it one day at a time.

[@MinivanLee]

I’m glad to read this.

[@SandyAdkins-em9tq]

A good reality talk..... thank you for discussing this with us..... hope your feeling better physically and emotionally.... take care ❤

[@mcck1555]

Well said…..very well said. Thank you for sharing and caring enough to help others who may be going through, or have gone through, situations like you. GOD Bless

[@MinivanLee]

You are so welcome

[@cindyholt8870]

Haven't seen you in a couple months shocked about you and Paul Sorry it didn't work out girl. Lobing the video tonight good talk . You always had good videos anyway. Much love kiddo. God Bless 💞 😇🙏

[@MinivanLee]

Welcome back!

[@PamelaJohnson-z7f]

Lee your such a good person you give great advice from your heart. Please feel better rest and take your time coming back to video. We will all be here when you return

[@MinivanLee]

Thank you, I will

[@letitiahenry6113]

I learned after a bad marriage & him going to church, that I wouldn’t make same mistake again. God knows who is best for us.

[@marlenebtagelman2451]

I agree. I am in counsellung but I am learning to make my own decisionss

[@nikkipage9132]

I lost my husband of 36 years 3 years ago. I just want my oneness now. I have the memories and my children and grandson, the second great love of my life!😂❤👵🙎‍♂️❤❤

[@lovematters7122]

Thank you for this conversation Lee. As the Bible teaches, I don't believe we can love ourselves until we allow God to first love us and teach us how to love ourselves and others.❤️

[@MinivanLee]

Absolutely! God loves is no matter what. He is Love

[@Bernimv]

Thank you so much for your realism and the wanting to help others.

[@christineG8285]

You are a sign of strength that is choosing to love yourself, do the work … and believes that you are worthy of L❤️ve. Trust the process …

[@MinivanLee]

Yes! Thank you!

[@kerrischuh8000]

Relationships are hard! If you are not on the same page in the relationship it’s just not going to work. I’ve been in bad relationships and very good ones. Low self esteem played a high part in the bad relationships. You are so right you have to cut all ties. That was the hardest part. I’m in a great relationship now. Not always perfect what is, but we are on the same page and we have good communication with each other.

[@MinivanLee]

We were together for 3 years. Had recently made vows with each other

[@annag467]

I've had a lot of relationships, and spent a few years in hookup culture. I'm 36 years old and I have the data to back up all your points about healing after a breakup 🙌 it's hard to abide depending how affected you are by the breakup, but it really pays off to take such good care of yourself through needed changes and healing. Thank you always Lee 💓

[@mommy6671]

So glad to hear you! Continue to get better!!!

[@MinivanLee]

I will

[@carolynchambless6468]

Same. Thank goodness the Lord took the desire away from me to hop into another relationship. Great video I share a lot of sentiments. You have much wisdom thank you for sharing.

[@MinivanLee]

Yes! Thank you!

[@Lejonhjelm]

💐Thank🌸You🌺

[@Kris.Brewer]

Thank you Lee for all of your heart felt words of wisdom. I really appreciated this episode. You have such good advice and I learned some new things today that I will put I to my own self healing process. Please get better soon!

[@MinivanLee]

Hope your healing goes strong and successful

[@Shel731]

Yes, you truly are amazing and strong! 💪 I look for your show almost every day, somehow it comforts me ❤ keep up the fantastic show you have been making for years now right! We love to hear your ideas and perspective on vanlife and how you make it work for you. P.S I’ve never been happier than when I learned to love myself and not even want a partner to share life with. I’m not missing anything at all if you ask me !!

[@MinivanLee]

You're the best!

[@mightysweetlife]

Glad to hear from you! I do hope you are feeling much better today. Take it easy, and take care of yourself so you can get well quickly. We LOVE YOU!!!

[@MinivanLee]

I hope so too!

[@marlenebtagelman2451]

Please continue the videos to us.

[@QueenofArgyle2525]

The hilarious irony of the whole thing is, when you enjoy your own company and don’t Need them, they pant after you like a desired baseball card , but, if you Do let them too close? They take you for granted and get a wandering eye. Men. Can’t live With them, can’t live without them😄Just make Yourself happy and treat them like dessert. Sometimes you want them and sometimes you don’t❤😉

[@patsymalone3518]

Feel better soon Lee❤

[@melinda3196]

Sending you hugs and happiness ❤❤❤

[@dorindachristian9134]

So sorry for your suffering. Glad to hear how you are growing. Prayers for your health. Looking forward to your future videos enjoying your life every day.

[@gabriellechilton5902]

I am 70……been single for over 30 years. 2 marriages in my history. After the second marriage i was 40……i realized, when you hit a certain age….we can’t afford to remarry. It costs too much money, heart ache etc. and……the older we get the longer it takes to recover. I love being single. It serves me best. I enjoy my own company, my self esteem is intact. I have had more great adventures on my own. I wait for no one. It took hard work to get here. Hope all the best for all of you. Great conversation Lee. 🎉

[@rosalindd1386]

No Contact is vital ! You are a smart cookie Lee !

[@resurrectionsunday4164]

Definitely a good video. Sending you love and hugs and empathy ❤ I think you’re an awesome person and look forward to seeing more from Minivan Lee😊

[@shirleydierolf7112]

Dear Lee..I am sorry to see you in pain. Have followed you for years and you are inspiring. It seemed Paul was often disappearing and his former spouse intruding in your relationship were red flags. Doesn't make him a bad person..but not maybe moving in the same direction. Even if they move on to another person after the breakup they will probably repeat the same patterns if they don't figure it out. Someday you will figure you are probably better off without the daily angst. I have found our culture puts tooooo much pressure on people to be coupled up without knowing how to have respect for someone else. I am grateful for your channel..we are your people!

[@marlenebtagelman2451]

Yes coffee helps with a cough.

[@johnniemontgomery6682]

Thank you Lee. Your personal opinion and information was life changing. The truth about love and pain. Trusting the God in you and utilizing it to make decisions. Be blessed.

[@MinivanLee]

You are so welcome

[@suejarrett6585]

Forgiveness is the greatest key of all, boy did I have to learn that! Everything you're saying is so awesome and true! We have to keep God's ways to help us heal our hearts

[@Camille_Lee_Æon]

❤I hope your ok. I took a break from social media for health reasons. Missed ya!!!❤😊❤

[@MinivanLee]

Hope all is well with u

[@raymondsmith3442]

Good show Lee I'm so happy your getting better I'm still praying for you hopefully your getting plenty of rest Jesus is in control 🙏👍🙏😀

[@MinivanLee]

I appreciate that

[@Scarletsky138]

So good, Lee! Thank you!

[@clarasmith1873]

So, sorry you got so sick. Get well soon Lee.❤

[@sgmor3580]

Lee, I liked your youtubes including Paul and you. I'm sorry you two parted and went your separate ways. I was obvious watchine you both that you two had something very special. God bless you precious one.

[@bugsea54]

I have not dated in 6 years and I am 60, but even when I was dating I was not interested in a commitment, because I was a single mom, working, and finishing a degree in my 40s. So I did date at that time but I really had nothing to bring to the relationship because I had other priorities. Now I am working with a house to care for and of course 3 grand babies I like to babysit so again I have very little time, lol. I think its all about what I want right now. It would have to be a very special guy for me to spend my free time with. But yeah there is something to say about being single, not wrong with it at all. Its a comfy situation for some of us.

[@luzfelipe2964]

That is beautiful, i did the same. I understand that even if you love someone if they are not willing to work with you or not showing respect you let them go and you move on with your life no hard feelings. ❤

[@esthern2261]

Great tips! Book worthy. Feel better soon ! 💚

[@MinivanLee]

Thanks so much!

[@postcardsfromterry]

Thanks for putting this out here. I am having trouble in paradise too

[@MinivanLee]

Oh my. I will pray for you

[@Vickyplaits]

Take care of you ✨️ ❤ from the UK

[@maddygvanlifer435]

Praying for you as you go thru healing. The Grieving process is so important and everyone's journey is different. You just take care of you and take as long as you need. God bless you.

[@terrigibbs8337]

Wonderful advice 😊

[@dianejohnson1991]

Feel better Lee 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Lizzy00088]

Lee, I loved your entire video and helpful personal messages. You're so honest and spiritual. There's no relationship with a man that's worth your personal integrity and peace. Any relationship should enhance and strengthen your life. When that isn't happening it's time to say farewell. Try to see it as a lesson learned, even if it was learned the hard way.

[@prettyinpink7058]

A lot of useful knowledge you giving out:-) thank you. The last relationship I had was almost 5 years ago. It was horrible, covert narcissist and I am just so happy to be alive and free:-) the one who treated me the best passed away, we we’re together for 9 years engaged to marry. I had to call it off because he was a heavy drinker and was very scary when he drank. I left he quit drinking and we began taking and his health got so bad and he passed away. He was a good man when he was not drunk. I’m glad he quit drinking but his health was already so bad from the years of drinking. He treated me with respect and like a lady. Took really good care of me and I him. Life is good for me. Until God sends me to the man he has for me or even if he doesn’t I am good:-)

[@joannmarie1971]

Lee you are such a beautiful soul! Your videos are always very inspiring and deep and positive! I would love to be more like you as i tend to be very anxious and negative. I feel a sense of peace after watching your videos!

[@unitivity1082]

Only love is truth

[@dagnolia6004]

the sound of the rain drumming on the van was very soothing

[@sallyperez1513]

Hello Lee This is a sensitive subject and it's never easy recovering from a break up, i just hope you put it in prayer and God will help you get through it. I don't know if you remember that I've always said you both we're not a match. I knew it from your earlier videos with him. He was very critical of you and snappy, I wondered, Lee is such a beautiful soul and influencer, why would she allow this old man to put her down this way. I don't think you noticed it because you spent twenty five years alone and dating was not in your agenda, or probably you we're trying so hard to make it work. He struck me to be a alcoholic or recovering alcoholic also known as a dry drunk. There is a behavioral attachment that comes with that, insulting, rudeness, moodiness, double personality, selfish, self-centered, not open to love or commitment, set in their own ways and not caring for anyones feeling but their own. You deserve much better, you have a younger soul then most women your age, that is due to you years of singleness, single women tend to want to look ageless, great health, body, mind, look, hair, nails, modern clothing, going with the present time. Single women are also very aware of their soroundings, current events, new, situation in the media, we make great surviving mothers, listeners, we have compassion, our feelings are easily sensitive and we hurt when we hurt especially for what we've been through. Pray for the perfect partner, we need to STOP choosing the wrong partner, and let God choose that partner for us. Stay connected to God at all times adding him into the center of your life..Feel better, stay safe, enjoy your journey, a spiritual sister in Minnesota 🌏🙏📖💙🌿🕊️🚐 🌞🍒🍐🍉💐🍑🍏🍓

[@MinivanLee]

Thank you

[@juliehoot3916]

Hi Lee, I didnt watch very many couples videos. I only watched cause I loved Abby. I always preferred your solo videos. Glad you are back to solo only. I am sorry you were hurt.

[@MinivanLee]

It’s over and done with. I really was in love with him but yes it changed me. We had different vibrations and energy levels. I’m on to a new life. I’m excited

[@janetmitchell1053]

Good info, Lee. Great content. I'm so sorry your relationship didn't work out but I'm so glad you're doing ok. Not an easy journey. Thank-you for always sharing your knowledge!

[@MinivanLee]

Thanks so much

[@gabriellechilton5902]

Agreed Lee. No contact is best. It’s tough at times. But work through that.

[@MsDeliaT]

And yes, self respect and self-esteem are essential !

[@MadonnaSunSoul]

I can’t imagine having a breakup on a public platform, it’s hard enough as it is without that. Life is really a learning school isn’t it? I’m glad to hear you’re healing. ….Breakups are very painful. ❤ Hugs and Blessings Lee. Take care of you and your heart. ❤️🙏🏼

[@kathycourter]

It is nice that you have the attitude that you both need to heal

[@yuccavalleynan2074]

yes sister - your relationship was public & your healing has been public. Total ministry as you speak Truth to others. Hope you’re feeling better & better❣️

[@kevindesai7227]

I hope you're feeling better.... sometimes stress can bring on different things to our bodies. Please take care of yourself ❣️❣️GOD BLESS🙏🙏

[@Maryplanting9880]

I think happy people can go with the flow because they are trusting in the Lord ti be their number one and guide them through life’s adventures and changes. I think this is what you did and do ❤.

[@MinivanLee]

Yes

[@MsDeliaT]

Very true, you are grieving the future you expected to have it

[@traveldreamer4616]

You a vision of strength and beauty. It is always refreshing to watch your videos. Your authenticity is awesome. Thank you for sharing. God bless.

[@cathybrunson7631]

You are so genuine and I appreciate you for that. ❤️

[@karenferguson8426]

Just want to say… I love you…pray for you and only wish the best for you. Oh relationships… I have found that when I don’t keep God centre and foremost no relationships are the best. And as long as we have breath of life… our journey towards can be good. Some relationships we truely never get over..we are changed..and we need to learn to move forward live again.. not looking back but in today looking forward… May you get back to 200percent health again.. hugs n love

[@MinivanLee]

I appreciate that

[@soundslikesweeney]

Great video! It's like a TED talk on relationships. Such wise and insightful words. Thanks Lee - and get well soon.

[@MinivanLee]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@healingnaturegirl333]

Hope you are feeling better 💛🤍💛

[@kathleengrieci2539]

Boundaries

[@TheSOOPOODLE]

Lee I would like to thank you for your voice, it was like me talking to myself!!!! You have reaffirmed my own thoughts and feelings to be the correct way to deal with a breakup, I have been solo for seven years now and love my life, love myself and love minivan Lee ❤❤❤

[@MinivanLee]

Wonderful!

[@TheSOOPOODLE]

I recognise your emphasis on total commitment, unfortunately I have never found a husband that could offer that to me, plenty of false promises though. , perhaps I believed in being someone’s Cinderella? But I never found my Prince who I was prepared to truly love and share my life with, because in my book both parties need to partake, not one giving their soul whilst the other is happy to take that soul, but give very little . I respect that individuals can be quite different, but if they sing from the same hymn sheet, they’ve cracked it!!! However some of us accept the card’s we’re dealt to be capable happy solo singers ❤️

[@tvc-u4v]

Hi Lee, yes, good video, I like to watch while I do the treadmill at Planet Fitness. I enjoyed your videos before your ex entered the picture, I wasn't crazy about the videos with ex, and I enjoy your videos now as you seem stronger and more confident than you did for awhile there. I have experienced a breakup in the last year and a half and I agree, no contact was the way to go. Time is better spent healing myself. I'm good now, and pain does not last forever. Glad you're doing well, thanks for sharing as I know the topic can be sensitive. 🖕✌

[@KellyWeyd]

Great video! I feel like you just put out some important information not just for romantic relationships, but all relationships. This has been very helpful for something I am going through currently.

[@MinivanLee]

Glad it was helpful!

[@tracyhull7936]

I appreciate all that you shared on this video i am praying that your good health is returned luv ya Lee 😊❤😊

[@MinivanLee]

Thank you

[@sylviamendez7173]

LEE YOU MAKE A LOT OF SENSE, YOU ENCOURAGE ME, YOU HAVE THE GIFT OF A COUNSELOR, I KNOW GOD'S GRACE IS IN YOU, MAY THE LORD KEEP BLESSING AND USING YOU IN A BIG WAY I PRAY. 🙏 KEEP THE FAITH 📖🙏.

[@healingnaturegirl333]

Exactly what I’ve learned first hand, however, it is intuitive and have known this from a very young age. Being an empath, this seems to be the base of our feelings. So, we give grace because we know everyone has their own journey and learn through experiences.

[@tomatogrw]

I really felt the loss of my past relationship while you were going through your personal relationships loss. I’m happy to hear you are healing your heart. I thought if you can do it, I could also do the same. It does take time, it’s a slow process. What looks good on the outside isn’t always good on the inside.

[@MinivanLee]

Exactly. Let me know if I can help

[@clarasmith1873]

Thank you for sharing. Good advice.

[@MinivanLee]

My pleasure!

[@brendamcchristy6044]

God Bless you Lee

[@MonyExercise]

Lee this was awesome! I’m so glad to see you healing, and sharing the wisdom. When you said choose you, you spoke loud and clear to me. ❤ you are a very wise woman.

[@debra7241]

Firstly, I’m hoping for a very speedy recovery for you . Take care of yourself. Thank you for such an informative video on this subject. I learned something from you today, so again, thank you!❤🙏🏼

[@MinivanLee]

Thank you so much!

[@nyc631]

Forgive if you can’t but NEVER EVER FORGET

[@ellenparker4691]

Thanks for the coffee and good advice Lee💜☕️

[@stephaniepersin4222]

I’m 59 and never married but believe once you get married you have a need to be in relationships, or have hope of a relationship, vs what I’ve done most of my life, save 1, 3 yr relationship in my 20s. I found my own contentment and happiness through my choices without compromising what I want. I love my own company and small dogs. I work grocery retail and hate being around other people on my free time. If you don’t associate with many people and are extroverted you’ll get lonely. I’m the opposite I love being alone and am an introvert. To state everyone wants the same thing would be an incorrect statement. Having some human around all the time would drive me crazy.

[@MinivanLee]

I was married then widowed. After I was single for 25 years. Not sure that theory holds up.

[@stephaniepersin4222]

@@MinivanLee my last relationship was 1989-1991 and since then I haven’t had a 2nd relationship. Can’t see the appeal of it over 33 years later and for rest of life. The break hasn’t stopped for me. The idea of any relationship repulses me.

[@mitchweber7868]

​@@MinivanLee Haha yes lmo lee I think it does, I'm only 31, got divorced when I was really young, and just have always been in a relationship since I was young. Now I've been single for a long freaking time, and I'm not going to lie the want to be in a relationship I never stop thinking about, because I'm just used to that life.

[@vickiemayo4273]

Protect your heart always

[@MinivanLee]

How can we protect our heart

[@LoOnTheGo]

Lee, I hope you are feeling better. Everything you said in this video is spot on. I admire your bravery and the dignity you showed in this very public forum!

[@CindyCaVANas]

You're doing great solo. I see you as a better creator without distraction. 😊

[@MinivanLee]

I appreciate that!

[@juliemontileaux7467]

❤ Very good advice.

[@MinivanLee]

Glad you think so!

[@denisethibert9232]

I'm so sorry for you'll break up. I guess I wasn't meant to be. You're a very strong person and I know you have God in your life. They'll give you the strength to go through this. God will never leave you or forsake you and it takes care of his widows. God bless you❤

[@DonnaManzares]

Thank you Lee for all you do☀️❤

[@bonniegreatorex72]

My last heart break took me 3 months to get back to normal! Love IS a drug!!!