My Husband Has A Gambling Addiction; How Do I Handle Our Finances

[@trinabutler1506]

My husband refused to go to counseling, gambler's anonymous, etc. He has a serious gambling addiction. Goes to casinos & spends his all of his income, plus more. Goes & gets any types of loans he can get. Expects me to pay all bills. Wanted me to put his name on the truck & trailer I bought. I said, "NO." He wanted us to get a checking account together. I said, "NO". He got angry. And started being very abusive & threatened to hit me. Me & my belongings left.

[@emmanuelzanders1746]

I’m so sorry you are going through this

[@dreamboyz4019]

M so sorry to hear this… is he doing fine now???

[@emmajones8590]

@@dreamboyz4019 Who cares about him? If he is destitute and on the streets, he has only himself to blame. I only hope for her, that she has managed to get out relatively unscathed.

[@sunnysunshine6271]

I feel for her! What stress, nothing worse than having to babysit a grown man.

[@TheAw1963]

Amen.

[@geomodelrailroader]

Sunny Sunshine and a guy who would scratch tickets and mess around a stinking casino gambling will not make you rich Dave Ramsey and I have already debunked that myth a long time ago gambling is a tax on the poor and people who don't know how to do math. if you don't want to go into debt don't gamble plus gambling is dumb anyways because you keep going broke each time you waste your money on the slot machines.

[@gordongoodman8342]

There are plenty of worse things.

[@Nanubaby3385]

Gordon Goodman than what DRUGS??? Addiction is ADDICTION!!! Plain and simple. He’s selfish and immature. Congratulations you’ve won most idiotic comment kudos to you.

[@linamanalu2562]

+Nanu Baby 🙌

[@Sparklejumpropequeen374]

Gambling destroys families

[@Clintsessentials]

Holly S truth

[@miamoore9431]

I used to be very deep in gambling myself. I lost everything until I met a guy who introduced me to FX trading and since then it has been more productive and profitable .

[@roxantambis9352]

Yeah true

[@beel8582]

My husband thinks winning the lottery or winning at slots will solve our debt.

[@Alissasness]

Run. I'm 20 years in. They don't change. I've got nothing n I wanna die

[@sejalpatel5960]

It’s possible

[@ronmp2009]

I've been trying to change my ways. I relapse each time and took all the money out of my business. I've got nothing and two young boys. I'm trying every day

[@geomodelrailroader]

as Dave said in The Dumping Debt lesson the biggest myth out there is that gambling will make you rich IT WON'T! gambling is a tax on the poor and people who don't know how to do math. if you don't want to go into debt do not gamble and plus gambling is dumb anyways.

[@jamesjhonson4568]

Gambling and lotteries are a rigged system, designed to make the gambler loose, but keep on gambling in hopes of getting that big win, if gamblers won, the casinos and lotteries would go out of business.

[@juliejacobsen2765]

I am so pleased with Dave. He is so sweet and tough. Bless him and them in there hour of need.

[@Gary.g19]

Gosh I cannot put into words what gambling has done to my life And the worst thing now is there’s people going to the casinos and live streaming it on KZbin makes it even harder for a guy to stop

[@miamoore9431]

@mmiller4255 do you still gamble

[@ryuneshageo2738]

Are u stupid or something cause I can’t seem to understand how people even like the idea of gambling!

[@laurahussey9842]

My husband is not accessing help life feels Impossible right now

[@emmanuelzanders1746]

I’m sorry to hear that 😢

[@miamoore9431]

@@emmanuelzanders1746 do you gamble?

[@clementwang7097]

Divorce is the only option. Once gambling takes over you, rehab won't work.

[@adrianajimenez4342]

So awful!!! My dad is a gambler.

[@Fl1ghtschool]

Yeah mines too. It sucks bad.

[@susanjose0923]

Addiction to Gambling leads to lots of terrible lies...my husband is one

[@jamesjhonson4568]

Gambling addicts, drug addicts, lying and stealing to support these habits, fool me once, shame on you, full me twice, shame on me.

[@TheChooken83]

I am in the same situation but my husband won't listen, he chooses gambling over me, does this mean I should leave him unlike Dave says or do I just try to keep going, I'm so frustrated with living way beyond our needs and always arguing

[@lizzied.9257]

For the gamblers there is gamblers anonymous, for those of us that are the support group (spouses, significant others, parents, children, etc) there is Gam-Anon. Every state has it, and you can go online to find meetings in your area on days and times that fit your schedule. There are no quick fixes for any addiction, but there you will find love, support, and the beginning of a new life for yourself. Many of the spouses in my group started coming before their gamblers. What you decide on your relationship is your decision, no one can give you the answer. But you can begin to heal through Gam-Anon. Good luck, my best thoughts are with you.

[@anitaannie6957]

I've been with a gambler for 16 years. I have credit card debt and loans. I now have control over his wages so it's a bit better. But he still manages to get money from people. Then he has to pay them back it's a dangerous horrible thing to deal with. I am on the edge. My mental health is suffering. And if it continues for much longer I will end up having a nervous breakdown. It's horrible. My children and I go without because of it. It's the worst

[@joycemierjr9457]

My ex was a chronic gambler and was very abusive by throwing things, calling me stoopid and trashing my things. I was able to access social media account. Call it what you want but I did my research (going in call logs & tracking where his phone has been with the help of Robert (hackerrobert001 @ g m a i l . com). I finally got the nerve to get a divorce and am with the greatest man I’ve ever been with. With all this evidence i got through this great veteran Robert his WhatsApp [phone] he still denies this. Mental and physical abuse is not cool. Therapy really helped me through what I had endured. Having faith in my Lord truly helps too.

[@richardguthrie3422]

@@joycemierjr9457 You are a scammer aren't you ?

[@trinabutler1506]

My husband chose gambling over me. When he wanted more & more money & I refused to let him bleed me dry, he started threatening to hit me. I left. He'll never change.

[@samanthalake5011]

She is not going to be able to babysit him into to doing the right thing. Is this what the next seven years of her life with him will be like?! No ma'am. He must suffer real loss like his family to want to really change. Leave.

[@yvonnewensloff6983]

As someone who has walked that road... with a HIGH price tag... this is EXCELLENT advice from Dave and the $25 limit is what is endorsed through GA (Gamblers Anonymous). Many people think that is crazy to restrict anyone from 'their own paycheck' to that degree. NOPE, it's absolutely the ONLY way to preserve the financial security of the rest of the family. What I want to know is what a 'good length of time' would be... cuz it looks like DECADES to me based on what I have seen in the addiction community! A year is a drop in the bucket in the relapse timeline.

[@rileysmiley9585]

Run don't walk away from the losers...they never change....but happiness is on the other side....away from their selfish, sad, confused lifestyle!🙂

[@selap8682]

A year is nothing. They'll give in and back to square one. Empty the account, disappear for hours or days, yeah brutal.

[@renaeadams7868]

@@rileysmiley9585 I agree with you-- However I've found ppl who don't/can't get Happy with their Man in the Glass... You'll continue to get what you see. Peachyest Mangtastic wishes to you!;)

[@chowfurnowmeow]

I agree it takes YEARS for a gambler to stop.....he WANTS TO STOP gambling inorder to stop this addiction. Speaking from 20 yrs experience.

[@bestly802]

They live in Detroit. First thing they should do is move out of there then deal with the gambling addiction later.

[@CosmoMakeupgurl]

DIVORCE! This makes me more angry than cheating.

[@emmajones8590]

Definitely. Cheating is hurtful. This can drag you into financial ruin with him. A severe substance addiction as well by the way. Depending on the price of the substance. Heroin and coke will get you into more financial troubles and faster than alcohol and tobacco.

[@julijanavlahovic5558]

You treat a gambling spouse easily. DIVORCE. ASAP.

[@joycemierjr9457]

My ex was a chronic gambler and was very abusive by throwing things, calling me stoopid and trashing my things. I was able to access social media account. Call it what you want but I did my research (going in call logs & tracking where his phone has been with the help of Robert (hackerrobert001 @ g m a i l . com). I finally got the nerve to get a divorce and am with the greatest man I’ve ever been with. With all this evidence i got through this great veteran Robert his WhatsApp [phone] he still denies this. Mental and physical abuse is not cool. Therapy really helped me through what I had endured. Having faith in my Lord truly helps too.

[@brittanywilliford5428]

It’s not that simple

[@trinabutler1506]

@@brittanywilliford5428 I am divorcing my husband. No, it's not simple. They lie, manipulate, beg, borrow, steal, threaten, damage your credit & can cause you both to become homeless, if you don't leave. When mine started to threaten to physically hurt me, I was done.

[@gused82]

Lol , I love the fact of only 25 bucks weekly , where is this dude to give him another 5 bucks to complete 30 bucks so he can get a drink with his dollar menu burger ...... Hahahahahahaha

[@tesfaalone1910]

I never did drug not even smoking cigarettes but I have destroyed through. Just in January & February $20k empty out my savings & checking & even used my credit cards too

[@miamoore9431]

Do you still gamble

[@tesfaalone1910]

@@miamoore9431 glory be to I am all clean from it.

[@ethanlee-c3d]

Only way to cure gambling is to stop…

[@bernicebresendale4606]

What do I do if it's gambling online he don't need a physical bank card

[@crackberrry1]

Get rid of ur internet, or cancel bank cards and order new ones and dont give him access

[@emmajones8590]

@@crackberrry1 There is internet access literally everywhere. In every café or even in the train. He needs to have no access to a credit card or a bank card. The gambling companies won't let him play if he can't pay.

[@BridgeStamford]

A year not near enough

[@deepalichauhan2912]

What if a gambler borrows Money for gambling… takes loan for gambling ??

[@renatomoreno5209]

Thank You 👌Great 💯

[@yanwain9454]

why doesn't playing the stock market satisfy one's fear of gambling? are they addicted to losing?

[@binalibarman445]

Should I leave my husband for forever that will b the solution to stop my husband gambling

[@taradc6037]

Sadly I’m in the same situation. What did you end up doing?

[@django5596]

My mom is a gambler.. she takes out reverse mortgages and continues gambling.., which is my inheritance 👽what a great loving mother I have😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇

[@marinellagiuliano2095]

Your mom owes you nothing..want a home?..buy it yourself!!!

[@danjacobsen7645]

You should never assume inheritance is coming your way.

[@nedrawarwick3840]

She worked for what she has and what she does with it is up to her as long as she pays her own bills

[@anam6519]

My ex husband gambled my money away

[@TOhara-eb2lp]

Easy answer; don't give him access to the cash.

[@trinabutler1506]

I didn't give mine access to my cash. He stood behind me to get my ATM pin code. I had to change it. I had to keep an eye on my purse. He would spend all of his money gambling thousands of $$ away, every month. Then, when it was time to pay the rent, he had no money. Who had to pay rent, & the other bills, then, so we didn't become homeless. He didn't care.

[@ChristianChimamanda-ew2ys]

My own boyfriend do gambling and he is lieing to me and i have seen him before and he is still say that he don't do it and everyday he carry phone and other stuff and if i ask he will say that someone lend money for his hand and drop there property pls i need and advise ooooo pls and this the man i want to marry

[@dabznslugg9492]

I’m Addicted to online gambling

[@BridgeStamford]

You need to block this stuff on your phone or computer

[@drummergeorge9642]

As a doctor to be in psychology, my approach to killing additions is, "You can only kill the addict, not the addiction." This guy is going to be addicted to seeing 777s all his life. What a lucky guy, his wife stays by his side, amazing.

[@jennmenzel6365]

I hope your post serves as a warning to any potential patients.

[@AllAmericanDreamChaser]

Drummergeorge I say we need to kill the casinos. Why do they get to build casinos everywhere and then when someone gets addicted now your the one with a "problem".?? Casinos allow smoking, but you can't smoke in a public building. Gambling is a tax on the poor. Go into any casino in my state and most people in there look like they are on welfare.

[@infidelheretic923]

You’re a doctor?

[@Clintsessentials]

All American Dream Chaser agree

[@sammyruncorn4165]

Thank you. You're advice opened my eyes. There was never any hope to begin with...

[@kasunovinfinity]

Pro tip, avoid marriage!

[@annwallace9537]

Absolutely!!

[@danielhateley8290]

he will just do what i did.. go get a loan from the loan shop.. then hide the money at work soo my wife cant see it!! besf way!#

[@daviddufresne3107]

Some go that far, and some don't. I am just admitting that I have a problem, but borrowing money to gamble was never a consideration. When I got to that point, it was time for self exclusions and serious introspection.

[@dwightschuette8960]

25.00 dollar allowance a week.

[@miamoore9431]

Do you gamble

[@dwightschuette8960]

@@miamoore9431 2 times a year

[@miamoore9431]

@@dwightschuette8960 any specific or special days😂

[@dwightschuette8960]

@@miamoore9431 not really i just have an itch to scratch so I just go. No particular day.

[@miamoore9431]

@@dwightschuette8960 okay.

[@yolanowak1909]

I thought I was the only one that thinks gambling or lotteries will solve all my problems 😁🥰

[@miamoore9431]

Do you still gamble

[@yolanowak1909]

@@miamoore9431 Hi Mia, I am in recovery at the moment. I still have my ups and downs. I really want to be free from the gambling addiction, it has destroyed many years of my life.

[@miamoore9431]

@@yolanowak1909 I understand how you feel. I used to be very deep in gambling myself. I lost everything until I met a guy who introduced me to FX Trading and since then it has been more productive and profitable

[@2332Stephen]

I am single, More money to gamble, less money for a gf. woot woot.

[@wmurray003]

MGTOW.

[@kasunovinfinity]

Not the female trying to manage finances....

[@Rob-fn1kp]

D.I.v.o.r.c.e

[@tripledoublegainz3612]

How do people not realize that nothing in life makes you feel more alive than money to gamble, a stiff drink, and a pack of red 100s?

[@sammyruncorn4165]

Ever tried Bunjee-jumping?