My Mom Opens Up About Her Childhood Trauma

[@EliteMinecraftArcher]

Mamma mai left her family but gained an online family that’s bigger than she could ever imagine.

[@QueenChristy514]

That loves her for who she is no matter what❤

[@AahyiSam]

You said that right! YES WE LOVE HER!!

[@marthax7271]

Love this comment! ☺️❤️

[@goldendiva1702]

❤️

[@KadeKurved]

It is definitely many cultures that are abusive!!

[@Melisa-iy9lq]

“Have you ever met a strong person with an easy past”? - Jeannie Mai.

[@crystalortega2156]

Melisa O that’s the realest line ever

[@niab.3600]

BIG FACTS

[@norinevibes3476]

With God everything is possible

[@MissCap93]

That's a quote from someone else. Jeanie just repeated it

[@aolivestone6000]

I feel for her big time because my father was it mentally emotionally and physically abusive men towards myself and my mother and my sister because he just simply has issues and my mom told me that a psychiatrist as well as a psychologist saw his behavior firsthand and diagnosed him as being a sociopath and a sociopath is someone who is always right and never wrong lashes out at you verbally mentally emotionally and physically and never apologizes for his actions or his words so I can really empathize with where my mama mai is coming from and I even try going with him to counseling just here myself my sister try going with just the two of them then work sometimes people are just who they are and you can’t change who they are and the matter how hard to try and because of who he is and the way he is I haven’t had anything to do with him in 19 years and I supposed to do with him and hasn’t probably longer than myself and he does not have a relationship with his three grandchildren nor does he have a relationship with his great grand daughter nor will he ever so I’m on my keep up the good faith be strong and you have your daughter to lean on always ❤️❤️😍😍😍🎈👍👍👍

[@QiyasDenae]

The fact that she had this childhood and she is now the happiest, funniest, caring person is AMAZING.

[@BriaBarrows]

Qiyas Denae' I know

[@nosim7440]

She has forgiveness

[@gtrot6649]

There’s a saying that I love that goes something like you have to know sadness to completely know happiness. Not to stress the small stuff in life

[@nuruhsempasa5186]

Everyone needs a Mama Mai in their life. Full of fun n joyful.

[@commscompany1502]

Yes! We are more resilient than we are often made to believe

[@MzShugr]

as I listen to her talk about how her father called her ugly, I laugh because when ever I see momma Mai I’m like “OMG SHE IS SO GORGEOUS”. don’t continue to let that lie live in your head. You are beautiful.

[@saltycat662]

Yeah she's a good looking woman. He was just trying to make her feel just as awful as he does on the inside.

[@leahflower9924]

Yeah she is definitely above average looks wise

[@annetteward2970]

She's beautiful!

[@TamaraTurnerVega]

😮😢

[@Genie2386]

Mama Mai responded to Jeannie's abuse the same way her mother responded to hers. Jeannie broke the cycle and helped her mom in breaking it, too. Wow!!!! You two are amazing. Thank you for sharing.

[@jacquelinekeys3376]

Miss Raquel wow that’s a eye opener

[@SoshiStars]

*That's so true, literally.*

[@love19634]

Wow, thats amazing.

[@ninabina259]

I didn't know Jeannie was abused by Freddy. Where did I miss that? Where was that said by Jeannie?

[@love19634]

@@ninabina259 Miss Raquel was referring to when Jeannie was abused by a family member in her childhood. She meant how Mama Mai's grandma didn't protect Mama Mai when she was abused by her father, and so when Jeannie told Mama Mai she was being abused, Mama Mai responded alike to how her own mother did when she herself was abused. However, Jeannie helped break the cycle by forgiving her mom

[@SoshiStars]

*Jeannie we need a video with your DAD. He sounds like an ICON.*

[@p.7489]

I agree! We want poppa mai! ❤️

[@emilysathin3958]

yeahhh

[@cynthiaha5130]

Yes!!!!

[@VeronicaJ]

Yeesssss

[@PK-kitti]

Yes he is good person we need to know about you dad

[@whatchahowsya8688]

"I'm not talking bad about my father. I'm talking about the truth." Powerful. No one goes out of their way to bad talk one's parent. But if your child calls you a monster because of the way you treated him/her then you failed, not only as a father, but as a human being.

[@lillystaiti9880]

I like that her mother is vulnerable , shows her authentic self. It not fun opening that door. It makes it easier now to lock the door and throw away the key. He had issues as she said and severely abused her. I like that the mother appears to be starting a new chapter in her life and it's time to write her story..our lives are how we write them. Cool ladies! Mauh!!

[@hanah3401]

whatcha howsya Very true 👍👍💚💚

[@antonialovesyou4462]

Good Ole Glory Smack Down so Jesus Christ Can Deal With Him. Have My Spiritual Grandma Clarice Fluitt Glory Smack Him Down. Yeshua Please Do So Amen!

[@numbernine3436]

Don't you think he was probably raised in an abusive home? Unfortunately he was probably doing what he was taught was normal. Not everyone was brought up in the America we now know. Not everyone has or had access to CPS and other services. We have access to police,cps yet abuse in america runs rampant. Imagine if it weren't available.

[@Leticia75751]

Perfectly said🤍

[@maxineb6553]

Generational curses are so real. We have to talk about these past hurts to overcome them. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾❤

[@dorisakombelwa6183]

They're so real, and people don't realize it. This world is crazy.

[@Ebb4612]

Yessss oh lord yess

[@manikasakala5866]

Very true God help us in Jesus's christ name.

[@aestheticsbyjasmine940]

💯

[@theacademyofsivasamoa]

Mama Mai grew being told she was ugly- becomes an iconic fashionista & recognized around the world for her beauty & style. You better slaaaay Mama Mai! Love you xoxo

[@siyannaaaa]

Omg, when she started crying my heart broke :( I just wanted to hug her

[@amylee8969]

@AndreBenjaminswife I DO understand Mama Mai had a rough traumatic childhood that no one deserves. Does she deserve empathy and professional help? Absolutely. However, that’s no excuse for carrying on that same cycle of behavior to her own daughter. Refusing to believe Jeanie’s SA story and brushing it off wasn’t ok for any reason. It’s a parent’s responsibility to protect their kids and do the best they could to give them a decent healthy childhood. I know It’s not easy, but Mama Mai could’ve been a better mother.

[@jezebelt4697]

Y’all two broke the cycle !!! No more abuse and more understanding!’

[@Brichanise.Nicole]

Romans 10:9 NIV If you declare with your mouth,Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be save

[@Dania.q]

No just Jeannie broke the cycle. Her mother failed her when she was a child, and if it wasn’t for Jeannie - there would’ve still been a cycle.

[@lb1798]

That is SOOOOO SAD!!! A grandfather that doesnt love his grandchildren...is inconceivable to me.

[@yellagirl419]

I love how Jeanie is supporting her mom physically hugging her and rubbing her back and legs there growth and love is beautiful

[@amylee8969]

Yes, because she knows the feeling. Mama Mai’s mother was too scared to protect her from the dad’s abuse so she did nothing. Just like how Mama Mai didn’t believe Jeannie when she needed her to.

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@hiphopson]

I feel like Jeannie is an embodiment of her mothers strength and courage, outspoken and fierce! The lemonade from a life of lemons.

[@b-free7086]

Thanks for being transparent!. Thay is the only way to heal❤

[@aleshasinclair8529]

tee rod true

[@GabyTeeMUA]

what a beautiful comment

[@taetaewiln178]

✊🏾

[@missfancy8365]

I like that. Lemonade from a life of lemons.

[@peggys.9906]

“Decide if the people in your life are weights or wings”......

[@colemanfamily4250]

Deep

[@idiel24]

Yes I love my mom .. and i cant leave my house cuz of her But my soul knows my father and i dont love him I cant relate to him .. he has his own problems but man he has made some terrible things to his family To my siblings and me.. he beat me when i was 9 . Etc etc I cany write all the things But it hurts your soul so bad having monsters that close to you Terrible Some make babies and dony know hoe to raise them well and not torture them

[@Halo-li8hg]

I have mostly weights and people looking to distract me for their own selfish reasons right now. Ughhh frustrating

[@EmorettaRobinson]

@@Halo-li8hg those who are "weights" are literally weighing you down. It may be hard at first but sooner or later you'll have to decide if you will continue to let them weigh you down or allow yourself to find those that will lift you up...

[@BrookelLakeKC]

💜

[@LauraLParr]

“Distance yourself where you are not feeling safe,” preach.

[@dianeriley9032]

My mom (Vietnamese) had a monster father too. Unfortunately she ended up with Schizophrenia. She too had an anger problem and progressed. She is in her 70’s and is still plagued by her horrifying childhood. One thing I can tell her, is she is so accomplished and loved. She has a legacy of 3 children, 8 grand children, and 9 great grand children whom love her so much... I love how brave you are for telling your story Momma Mai! Thank you...

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@hienienguyen6766]

That sounds like my family. Im doing my best to get along with my father but we barely get along. culture is so important to know though to heal from past trauma😊

[@Justonevideoplease]

I love that this channel is not just “look at my handbag collection “ no shade! But wow this channel is REAL!!!

[@nicky5684]

Here here💕

[@nimokeynan5089]

Am Kenya Muslim i love this family

[@starmocha9027]

At least she knows anger is a generational curse, and Jesus delivers.

[@NatalieLJohnson]

Hallelujah. Amen!

[@tezzie1459]

Amen

[@tinadrollinger3487]

AMEN! When i heard her say that i thought thank God they have the victory!

[@fudgecake76]

Yes so glad she has that revelation

[@jajjmoore]

🙏🏽 amen

[@teepham5566]

I actually like it when she speaks Vietnamese!

[@BoxBratt]

I do too!!

[@khanhmtv1]

I agree! I wish she spoke the whole thing in Vietnamese because a lot of emotion gets lost in translation. If she was able to fully speak in a language she's comfortable in, I think it'd be even more powerful than it already is.

[@plumbooks]

@@khanhmtv1 Omg, it'd be impossible to watch if it was in Vietnamese. I don't think I'd make it past the first few minutes.

[@youngfunny1824]

@@plumbooks they would put subtitles so that you could read what she says.

[@meco4068]

Again, Wow, so honest. So brave. I lost my mother 2 yrs ago (on Xmas Eve), so this is a rough time of year. My Mom and I had a very similar relationship, fighting, screaming, generational old school/old country issues, but the crazy brutal honesty we shared truly heals all. I miss my mother so much, but I have so much peace in my heart because we faced all of our struggles with the same brutal, beautiful, honesty as you and Momma Mai. Stay blessed - you're both beautiful inside and out. Thank you for your witness!

[@bep4ever97bp]

Now it makes sense why Mama Mai was so hurt that Jeannie yelled at her in front of people. She has PTSD. Not excuse her behavior to her daughter but she needs to talk to someone professionally. This story breaks my hurt

[@Vavavoum-gr8]

I have that too

[@Vavavoum-gr8]

I understand her

[@stellal3592]

Completely true. Mama Mai went through her whole life with physical and mental abuse so any situation that triggers that will make her go back to that point in time with her father. It’s so sad. I agree Mama Mai is going to need a lot more help and therapy to come to terms with it - at least the silver lining I see is that she’s trying and Jeannie is too. I think they really saved each other.

[@itszbebabaybee]

When did she yell at her on front of people?

[@AJ-qe3lo]

That probably and a combination of the fact that Vietnamese culture is built highly on respect of your elders and obedience. Also very prideful people as well especially when it comes to admitting that you’re wrong to your children. So the fact that Jeannie “showcased” her disrespect of her mother in front of people is one of the worst things you can do. Vietnamese culture is also heavily based on saving face. You never air your grievances publicly for people to know

[@sesethud]

Crying at work. This episode has made me question generational curses in my family. My anger...my dad's anger... I have a lot of work to do to make sure that I stop the cycle.

[@BeccahJoy]

Sesethu, God promises to help. He loves you deeply. He doesn't want His children to be bound by curses. God will give you guidance and courage to heal. BE BRAVE. He's got you. ♡

[@sesethud]

@@BeccahJoy thank you💗

[@gabbyhickey1046]

Sesethu Dodo I feel this. Sending you lots of love and good vibes.

[@dylanhaynes5156]

My heart shattered when mama mai said “he don’t forgive me”. Mama Mai you are strong and beautiful and raised a strong beautiful daughter ❤️❤️

[@amylee8969]

True but…. She went onto do something just as bad to her daughter. She didn’t protect Jeanie when she was SA and on top of that, didn’t even make an effort to search for her then 16 year old daughter for running away. At 16, she was still a child and any good parent would do everything in their power to find out where their kids are. Between those 8 years. Jeanie could’ve been dead and Mama Mai wouldn’t have known

[@celebritycooper408]

why would someone hit their own child with a HAMMER? that’s pure evil.

[@alena1vlog474]

Extreme Physical abuse is common in Vietnam unfortunately

[@lisahaynes5262]

I've had it done to me. I was way young.

[@renah6249]

Right but Anger

[@ah-ss7he]

Lisa Haynes I’m sorry you went through that ❤️

[@hitmeonthee]

A lot of cultures and race, hitting your children as discipline and control is common

[@lindakucinski8949]

Childhood abuse is awful. I come from an Italian family and that was considered normal. Fortunately my generation has stopped the abuse to our children! Your story hit home for me. I have forgiven and that's the first step in finding peace and healing. Thank you for putting your story out there. You may never know how many people you are helping. ❤

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@fedelynedieujuste6924]

even at her age now mamma Mai still afraid that her dad will hit her is heartbreaking.

[@chanteldean6115]

When you go through it over and over, you either avoid it or expect it.

[@maryfigliozzi2117]

WOW....just WOW...I am 52 and until this day I felt as if I am the only one that had this similar horrible childhood that still haunts me till this day. I did break the cycle though but still deal with the at least the mental abuse by my mother. I know for a fact your beautiful mom is so blessed because she is speaking out the truth and remained strong! The entire time she was telling her story, all I could see is how blessed she is and what an AMAZING daughter she has. What I would give to give you guys a long hug. I am just blown away right now. God bless you both. 😘

[@piscesbaby101]

“He hit me, but I have no scars.”..amen to that

[@cathyhan3204]

I’ve been abused also since 4 yrs old! I carry the scars still but my 2 beautiful daughters had a beautiful childhood! This was in America 🇺🇸

[@RMBAS12]

"Either you get rid of the baby and come home, or never come back." - MY grandfather too. Thank God my mom had the good sense that Mama Mai also had.

[@ednaherring-cooper4105]

My mom was like momma Mai’s father and I separated myself from her for a while. However, though my mom was mean to me she loved my children, at least my two oldest children. Before she died she apologized to me and said she was proud of me . That was a shocker but it was appreciated. Regret is sometimes hard to live with but opens our eyes to things.

[@Ebb4612]

Yes!!! Those are narcissistic traits !.. I'm sorry !..😢.. we will get thru this

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@salenadelia8075]

She turned her pain into smile and positivity,making so many people happy. Only strong people can do that. 🦋

[@nursingguru5578]

Ena Rik Wity Christ all Things are Possible.♥️

[@summerslotus1109]

And she is sooo colorful and BEAUTIFUL( at LEAST to ME)

[@HerDangLife]

My heart just shattered,mama Mai is the most vibrant and enthusiastic.. seeing her cry like that just broke my heart

[@Alymescyy]

Natural Booth I know, and knowing all that I understand her personality even more. She lives her life with so much happines and freedom because she knows how it feels when you don't have that.. 🥺❤️

[@timtn1023]

I’m a 35 year old Vietnamese man and this breaks my heart. Mama Mai, Im hugging you through my phone. ❤️ FYI, I’ve been stuck on KZbin the past couple days watching this channel... extremely entertaining 👍

[@ElusvOptmst1]

The older generation in most cultures, mine included, (Caribbean-American) are like this; speaking from experience. They love to keep secrets that hurt the family, and cause PTSDs for everyone involved. They are living in denial and when someone questions the family status quo, they are Narcissistic in thinking and actions. Breaking the generational curse is the only way to absolve these problems. Seeking therapy is the only way to go, and getting away from toxic individuals. Self-preservation is important for a positive way of life. Thank you for sharing this video!

[@untilyouknow6955]

100%, my healing journey started 3 years ago this Dec ... I have eliminated so many ppl from my life - cut off or lost relationships of 33 years - and I am healthier and better off for it. The process is painful but necessary & so worth it. I hope you are healing & gaining a sense of self you may have been missing for a while - at least that is what i’ve experienced - that this journey is a road back to myself. I hope you have found your way back to you as well!

[@dorisakombelwa6183]

Also concerning generational curses, you can break them through prayers and deliverance. These things are deep.

[@Ebb4612]

Yessss!!

[@fortheladies771]

Yep! I’m born and raised in the USVI, and this literally describes my family

[@thutomoshoeshoe5498]

This just made me realize that the people who looks happy are very hurting, their smile is covering a lot... Mama Mai sending love to you ❤️❤️❤️

[@khayteeh8785]

Thuto Moshoeshoe Yes so true !! They have suffered a lot.

[@lovelala7259]

It’s so sad that mama is still affected by this 😭

[@tonya5785]

Yes..heart breaking but i admire her strength💓abuse in any form seems to have a life long effect😢

[@alyslesafranks261]

I was thinking the same...

[@rosadiamond4440]

affected? or a human with a heart (emotions) and mind (memories) a smart one at that too.

[@Jesus.SaVeS77]

Gdm. anders damin Yes & Amen 2 wat U said.👊

[@melaninkween9401]

@Tinkerbell Yes

[@myweeklyrantsD]

Yes, this crosses all cultures. Keep the conversation going.

[@fanvo9831]

I think it goes to show you that yes we should be proud of our heritage but it should not control us to think in a certain mentality that if certain members in the family don't follow that exact custom, they should be shunned --- if that makes sense. Just hearing Jeannie and her mom talk about how they were basically shunned from the grandfather and other people from their culture because what they chose to do ... smh

[@alexanderbemar2637]

Same things happen in the islands

[@thetonyoww]

As a Vietnamese American, it’s amazing to watch this video and to hear you openly discuss the abuse that can happen within our families/communities. As you mentioned, often times, in the Asian community, we are taught to only speak positively and be silent with our criticisms. Thank you for sharing your story (and for speaking Vietnamese for parts of it!). Representation truly matters. Powerful!

[@amylee8969]

Yes. No excuse for Mama Mai not believing Jeannie when she needed her to. But you can understand why she made the mistakes she did as a mom. Mama Mai’s own mom didn’t protect her either.

[@inspiredbymerli2824]

😢❤ I love you girls! This was to close to home. You two remind me of my mom and I. Mexican mom, Mexican grampa SAME damn way😢😒 Healing is contagious ❤🙏🏼💓

[@thandekaphethla7647]

Mama Mai said “ that’s why I feel happy now” OMG this is pure love♥️

[@karengrace6890]

I'm crying tears when Jeannie talks about the culture of secrecy in the end. Momma Mai and Jeannie are so vulnerable and brave!

[@Jesus.SaVeS77]

Gdm. Karen Grace Yes Jennie Mai is. She n her Mama Mai R Bless'd 2 be Alive & able 2 open up, E Real about & share their stories of Abuse, etc. Wow! THANK U Jennie/Mama Mai..May God con't 2 Keep U both Strong,in his hands/Arms & God con't 2 bless U both as well...I 🙏 In JeSuS "Excellent/Victorious/AweSme/Amaz'n" Name, Amén.💯👍👊💃✌

[@griselvazquez9378]

When you take the time to talk to your parents, you’d be surprised what they went threw. And how much pain they have held in. God bless you and your families. Take the time to talk to your parents. Might not be easy but worth it.

[@xboricuajennyx]

Grisel Vazquez even if you learn what they went through and they continue to be toxic, yes you’ll understand now why they are the way they are but if they refuse to heal and be better, there needs to be a boundary and love from a distant.

[@geek7227]

@@xboricuajennyx Exactly. If you don't cut toxic relationships off, even if its your parents, you will slowly turn into them and if you have kids you will pass it on to them. It takes one person to stop the cycle of abuse. You don't want to be in your 50s and still hurt from your childhood. You gotta eliminate the root cause of it. Else you will always long for it & get disappointed. This is NPD & it gets worse with age.

[@treg489]

@@geek7227 Very True

[@veggiebea]

G K very true! What is NPD?

[@geek7227]

@@veggiebea Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

[@BillionaireCEO]

There’s nothing Jesus can’t heal and I am so happy you guys shared this, just realised that I got so much to share hey

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@kamogelokameel2806]

When someone like Mama Mai cries you feel your stomach drop because she makes so many people laugh just by being herself every single day I purposely watch her IG stories to get a good laugh! Mama Mai we send you and your family love and light 🤗♥️

[@roserose6926]

Mama mi 😢😢😢🙏👍👏

[@Marigold_617]

I feel like the Mexican culture is the same! My whole childhood I lived in fear of my father hitting my mother. And she never did anything. I’m still traumatized.

[@smellycat6386]

I'm sorry you went through that 😔.My father was such an abusive alcoholic, I was always scared of him because anything set him off. I saw him hit my mom so many times and he'd take his frustrations out on my brothers and me too. I was so happy once my mom left him. I'm so glad I found a husband that's a complete 180 from what my dad was. I hope one day you can heal from that pain. 🙏

[@97indianuk]

I hope you don’t repeat the same cycle. Always have financial and emotional independence. Always be independent and fight for it.

[@HailKale]

Yup. I'm Mexican as well and ny mom and dad grew up like that. They use to hit me as a kid but they changed their minds. Luckily they never hit each other or my siblings. It affected me for awhile.

[@sherryharmon4874]

Me too prayers to you they should have programs for children of abused childhood I watch my dad beat my mother I was so nervous scared Al the time it's so hard ...Prayers and love

[@Jesus.SaVeS77]

Gdm. Sherry Harmon "But God" yur still here, U R still Standn. Alive 2 talk abt yur past n Hopefully n Prayerfully get healed up, while yur talk'n abt it/yur Past. By sharing with others on Utube as well. Please keep sharing. Bcuz U never know Who U can help on Utube, Social media: Fbk, Instagram, etc. Thank U. It helps me 2 know I'm n a lots of Others R not alone in the fight 2 get over, n heal from past Abuses as a Child, etc. Been there done that. Physically, sexually, mentally, emotioanally, Psychologically abused thru out childhood, as a Teen Raped, hit by 1st Luv/my boyfriend,as a now adult. Still goin thru,tryn 2 Totally get out of mentally, n emotionally Abusive marriage. Not liv'n with abuser tht is a war vet with PTSD,n a number of othr mental issues. "But God/Jesus, God's Holy Spirit & holy angels on assignment in my life. Has helped me 2 make it ths far. So I'm still stand'n with God/JeSuS, etc. Help, & also bcuz of JeSuS 24/7 🙏's, him Intercedn 2 our Father God, n my own 🙏's of Faith, along with friends, Fam., my Pastor/his wife's 🙏's. Have all help'd me 2 Survive, Overcome past abuse, etc. To God be All 👐 🙌 👏, Thanx,Glory & Honor. 💯👍 HalleluJah! 👊

[@aak1723]

This was so hard to watch I couldn’t even imagine the struggle she went through. I don’t think that Mama Mai’s story makes Vietnamese people look bad, many people experience this abuse regardless of their cultural background. I applaud her strength in surviving that trauma and in telling her story. You both are truly amazing people.

[@jstvondemand2529]

When mama Mai said that all the times her dad hit her she doesn't haven't any physical scars, that makes her happy. I got choked up.

[@anikarahman1989]

The possibility of Jennie not being born gave me chills :(

[@flowerpetal3901]

The scars in our soul are much deeper than any physical scar that could’ve resulted but learning to embrace those horrible experiences as part of our growth is what makes us better humans

[@lailawaziri8004]

“Nobody warned you that the woman whose feet you cut from running would give birth to daughters with wings” -Ijeoma Umebinyuo thank you for sharing, you are so beautiful, strong and full of life Mama Mai 💛

[@pbrandonj]

That's such a beautiful and powerful quote. Thanks for sharing!❤

[@only1synergy]

Love this!!!

[@SammyRadio]

Lovely🌼👍

[@lailawaziri8004]

Stacey Jones 💛

[@saltykiss_]

Jeannie is such a wonderful daughter. She is such a strong and positive person despite everything she went through. The way she forgave her mom and is over pouring with love is such an amazing thing to see. What a beautiful person.

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@daphnelatu8043]

Never would you ever expect such a heartbreaking story from such a bubbly person. Mama Mai you give out so much happiness which keeps me coming back. I am so so sorry that you went through such a traumatic childhood. However, I am so happy because of where you are now and the person that you are! You influence millions of people with so much laughter and happiness and I respect you so much. You made the right choice not getting rid of Jeannie! She’s a living boss who has so much impact on so many people than she will ever know, including me.

[@omggiiirl2077]

Its usually us bubbly crazy funny people with the most messed up life stories.

[@AB-no2he]

@@omggiiirl2077 your right I'm an example of that

[@MrsDymples76]

“I don’t have any scars”... I lost it! Very powerful statement. With all that she’s been through she came out with no scars. Literally and figuratively. 😭😭😭😭😭

[@paulaeasther4388]

MsDymples76 Me too!! 😭

[@ashleyanderson3633]

Omg! And when she mentioned him hitting her with the hammer. 😭😭😭😭

[@paulaeasther4388]

Ashley Anderson I lost it when she said that too!! 😭 noone desereves to be treated that way!! My heart really broke for her!! I just wanted to give her hug!!

[@veggiebea]

She has scars. She didn’t believe Jeannie when she was abused and didn’t know how to process it. They didn’t talk for 10 years. It’s ok to be affecting by traumatic things, it’s the healing that is key.

[@cammieknight4047]

2 mins in and I'm crying. We see Mama Mai with so much vibrance and to hear this story. I just want to say you both are examples of strength.

[@thezeeyez7151]

Pillars of Strength! I hope to meet and hug you both someday. 💗

[@jn8922]

I watched the other video on Jeannie's abuse and I did judge Mamma Mai a little bit there but watching this video made me understand her more now. My heart broke for Mamma Mai - her abuse was horrendous. I understand there are parts of her that broke and the cracks are there and I'm glad you are both healing together. God bless you both.

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@emiliebi3039]

Jeannie and her Mother are so inspiring because of their honesty. They are a true testament of growth.

[@GeminiEmpress]

❤❤

[@krnshff]

As a mom, this broke me to my core. Having to hear about the abuse and not being able to feel excitement over her first child all due to the pressure from her “father” just makes me so sick and heartbroken. Mama Mai is such a beautiful person with such a beautiful soul. Many blessings to you both 💕

[@jello4323]

This just makes me love Mamma mai like a billion times more.

[@mylifeasnimoh753]

I'm only 21 and i can relate to this, this really reminded me of my childhood

[@thandosiphokazi2382]

Keeping Jeannie was courageous, and a good decision.Look at what God is doing for both of you now.

[@brandiealeman9377]

I avoided watching this video because I couldn’t imagine anyone hurting mama Mai. But I’m glad I did because it makes me respect mama Mai so much more.

[@agnana1978]

brandie aleman I did too because someone with such a good souls doesn’t deserve to have gone through that . I love them both

[@justinmitchell8343]

My heart aches when I see Mama Mai talking about this and crying. Uggh! We love you Mama Mai and Jeannie!

[@aliciaadams1871]

This just broke my heart....I have even more respect and love for Mama Mai now❤️

[@mariasherif4275]

Mama mai you’re brave for telling your story. Your story will help someone who is going through something similar to what you went through and they won’t feel alone. It breaks my heart to hear what you went through. We all love you mama mai ❤️

[@user-gh1gm8lp6t]

So many families have scars and don’t ever talk about it which makes it harder to break the cycle

[@BriaBarrows]

Trust me! It’s so real and it just continues on into parenting.

[@idanceforthestars]

@@BriaBarrows so true

[@tjvii8539]

Seeing Mamma Mai cry made me feel sick. She's always so up beat and happy. Your strong Mamma Mai - we love you both!

[@Nursemomma7]

I’m Cambodian American and I thank you and Momma Mai for sharing this much needed to hear story as so many of us grapple with the same but unfortunately do not have an understanding Mother enough to ever voice this with!! It is a generational curse but although I do suffer from some of my upbringing I’m also better for not duplicating alot of it. I am looking for help to deal with the few things that linger and I want to get rid of but I need help I can’t do it alone! Please keep sharing your voices they have helped me greatly so I know it will help someone else! God continue to bless your entire family!!

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@oliviascharpf]

Knowing that you read the comments draws people closer to you jeanine. Youre a representation of real

[@thezeeyez7151]

Amen, Olivia ♥

[@JessicaWAyala]

This touched too close to home. I never knew then as a child why my mother (we are Puerto Rican) was so angry or miserable always punishing us by kneeling for hours at a time with our arms extended and if we dropped our arm we got hit. If we got spanked we had to take our clothes off and got beat with a belt . And the punishment was over petty things. My mom was very reserved and never discussed her childhood. The rule was what happens at home stays at home. It was not til I grew up got married and became a mother that I addressed it with my mom. I noticed how different she was with the grand babies ( very loving ) she at that time was more into church and changing her ways. I sat down and mentioned to her how the way she disciplined us was abusive n traumatized me. She got hurt but more offended than anything that I even talked about it. However I chose to break the cycle and not be like my mom, I caught myself early and noticing how upset and frustrated I would get especially how I never trusted no one. I must say opening up and discussing it helped. Being able to trust in God and open up with others helped me. I was not alone. My mother disowned me because I shared my story and also because I chose not to follow her religion (JW) which back then encouraged not to talk publicly about any abuse. I found out after the fact that my mom reason for being that way was the physical abuse she endured from my grandmother and sexual abuse from my grandfather. It has been more than ten years since I found out and I want to mend things with my mom but she refuses. Her only condition to do so is that I return back to JW and not to speak about what happened. I refuse to be silenced. Still hurting but my inner peace n mental health is more important. Thank you mama mai and Jeanie for sharing. Love you guys

[@RoseannaSassoSchottenfeld]

Jessica Ayala thank you for your vulnerability and honestly. We too (my sister & I) physically abused by my mother. But we were always open and honest about it. My mother left her country (Italy) to be as far away from her father as possible. When I had children of my own I chose to break the cycle. My beautiful children have lived in an abusive free home. They know nothing of being physical abused because I have talked about it their whole lives. I forgive my mother because she didn’t know any better. I am so so sorry about you and your mom. But you are 100% right. Your life and your mental stability is your priority. I once read that just because they are family, doesn’t give them a free pass. Religion should NEVER come between family. Say a pray for her and keep it moving. YOU ARE AMAZING 🙏🏻❤️

[@RoseannaSassoSchottenfeld]

Miss Sophia damn girl, I am soooo sorry about what you experienced. I pray you have gotten some kind of help to know that none of that was your fault. And finding some kind of forgiveness it to solely bring YOU peace. I was raised Catholic as our whole family is, parents, grandparents....but my heart always rebelled. Today as a grown woman I KNOW NOW that any time of religion only teaches fear, shame, & condemnation. Now I don’t know about you girl, but my God is about love, and peace, and acceptance. I struggled but now I know that I have ALWAYS loved God. HE is in my blood and soul. I AM FAITHFUL, not religious. A huge difference. It took me to be in a mentally abusive relationship in my adult age to seek help in a life coach. He allowed me to change my life completely. I have learned soooo much, about my own negative beliefs, my wounds, and how we all come with them. I’m proud of you girl. Whatever you choose, GOD is always with you. If religion is promoting fear, shame, isolation....that is not GOD, that is man made. And yea girl, I AM A DOPE ASS MOM! 🙏🏻😝🤗🥰

[@jacubtscorpio5084]

Jessica Ayala Damn you gotta accept the fact that she never really loved you in the first place... it was always conditional and that condition being silencing you to save her A$s..

[@bissod24]

JW is definitely a cult, I remembered growing up in Guyana South America we had a friend and his family were JW and they tried to teach us their faith but we didn't. So confused how they lived, he was starved their children and my mom would help them, sometimes the kids would eat dried coconut for dinner, Jesus Christ is the answer. God is your father and mother,

[@veggiebea]

I’m so sorry. That is so hard. 💕

[@aaliyahetc.6687]

I love how Jeannie is responding and this feels more like a mother-daughter real conversation. Like we're really there.

[@anitaw6356]

I just recently watched this and I want to thank you for this video. It honestly helps my own healing beyond you could imagine. Mama Mai you showed me it’s OKAY to feel guilty talking about your toxic abusive parent, and that it’s OKAY if people from your own family or friends judge you. That it’s OKAY to break ties from your blood family just so you can move on with your life with the ones who truly loves you. Thank you thank you thank you x millions you have no idea how much this helps my own healing.

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@MissMarcie23]

I love how Jeannie and Mamma Mai are being transparent and having what is called, "hard conversations." These are important and necessary conversations that are conducive to healing and being emotionally healthy. This is how you get to living your best life and being in a healthy mental space.

[@MamaBearCarter]

For real! Me and My mama had a falling out about a month ago. I was so angry with her prior to the actual argument that I wouldn't answer her calls. My mom was looking for this vase that everyone else completely forgotten about. We had to leave our home due to a fire occurring within the walls of the house. Since we been back in our family home, nothing has really been unpacked! My mother has SO much furniture and house accents, etc. Anyways, lol, she was looking for this vase. No one remembered it. She comes to the conclusion that WE broke it. She tells the older siblings about that vase. One of them had the audacity drive 100 miles to the house and tells me and my sister who are GROWN in our 40s that we need to fess up and say we broke it! I was pissed at my Mom. We had a blowout and I just spewed all the crap that me and my sister puts up with from the older kids and mess we been through over the years bcuz of her and my dad and some more stuff. Ever since then, I've been cool as a cucumber. lol

[@bilgeranna]

My mom has the Vietnamese hot temper. I was abused my whole life. She got it from my grandfather also. I now go to therapy every week and continue to grow. I made a promise a long time ago I will never hurt anyone the way I was hurt. Thank u for bringing light to this subject.

[@veggiebea]

Both my mom and I went to therapy for years separately and it helped us process things and bring them out in the open to discuss. We are close now. 💜

[@BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama]

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤 We are not passing it on

[@bilgeranna]

BTassie I’ve been trying to get my mom to go for years. Still hoping she will.

[@amythanh6201]

I’m vietnamese too and ive had to deal with so much childhood trauma and I’ve always tried to hide it and pretend like my life is so great but through this video I’ve shared bits and pieces of my life to close friends. Thank you.

[@karong7017]

Praying for you Amy.

[@nikkisiciliana2298]

Amen! Good for you for being so brave. Prayers for you!

[@EloquenceElixir]

I feel you. My mom still hits me but she stopped hitting my sister long ago.

[@crystalfernandez8128]

Nora Sharp I will be praying for you...you don't deserve that. Stand up for yourself..dont be afraid to speak up about it. My heart breaks for you Nora😢🙏💖God be with you and I'm praying for you as of now.

[@roblishasmith1941]

That was a Great story from MamaMai I love her... There should be a lot of Strong Mothers in this world who stands by there beliefs and keep the peace from their children!

[@christopherjohnson4356]

Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

[@mi3797]

”All that pain and misery and loneliness and it just made you kind” - Amelia Pond

[@rosadiamond4440]

beautiful

[@melaninkween9401]

@99.9%ofHumanMalesareWhores it does for some

[@adoraangelina1804]

We have choices. Iz wuht she iz saying. We grow up & CHOOZ 2 perpetuate this shit -anger, sadness, impotence... Or we grow up 4REALZ & CHOOZ 2B Morrr kind & gracious, yet with boundaries. There R in-betweenz but REALLY Everyone iz on one side of the line or the Other. And it iz Alwayyyyz Morrr Choice than WHATEVER other factorz exist. Period.

[@beanbooster]

yay doctor who reference!

[@User-uw7uw]

I respect Hello Hunny a lot because she is clearly breaking a generational curse

[@itscarter2496]

THIS was my childhood down to the kneeling incident. My Mother is Vietnamese and a very angry woman. I grew up in Texas and one of my most dreaded punishments ( even more than the daily beatings) was having to kneel on bare knees in the driveway facing the road holding up two bricks above my head for hours....It was more humiliating for me than the bruises from beatings. (Too many stories to share here) There were very few people that I could open up to without people thinking I was crazy or a disgrace to our culture. Your Mamma is an absolute inspiration to me and I thank BOTH of y’all for sharing your stories. I often imagine what my life could have been if I had a Momma like yours.... God Bless both of you!

[@chelle9941]

I am so so sorry to hear this. God bless you.

[@spacey_gracie]

Wowwww Im so sorry this happened to you.. 🖤🖤

[@RASH05]

I'm sorry😢😢🧡

[@kenetrice]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I just don't understand why none of your neighbors would help you by calling the cops. Surely they saw you out in the driveway, crying, on your knees, holding bricks. If I saw someone doing that to a child, I would definitely call the cops because that is taking discipline too far. It's abuse. So sorry you went through that.

[@itscarter2496]

Kenetrice Nichole Thank you! You would be surprised how many people turn their backs when the situation is uncomfortable. Very few people confronted my Mother. Often she charmed her way out of it. Times were very different in the 80’s and 90’s.😢

[@psychoticpercy6479]

As a Vietnamese i feel this in my bone. i was very lucky that my mom raised me in a different way, but i sympathize with you so much because both my grandma and mother went through the same thing as Mama Mai.

[@BriaBarrows]

Generational trauma is real. Jeannie’s mom ha had her own pain to deal with on top of being a mother. It all makes sense.

[@itsachampagnelife6591]

I’m here cooking and literally stopped, took the food off the stove, to listen to this. Mamma Mai you have me sobbing so hard. The pain and hurt you faced...I too know it all too well. But GOD....oh my GOD! HE is a way maker, HE is a healer, HE is our mother and father, HE is the Alpha and HE is the Omega and I see HIS grace all around you. You know, when we are going through it we don’t see the end, but HE has done a good, good thing in you. I know this video is healing soooo many. I Love You both, and I pray God’s blessings continue to follow and guide you. 🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@slvrbullet22]

im sorry you know this pain as well. my heart goes out to you.

[@leeleemee]

Thank you for posting your comment. It truly warmed my heart.

[@nfvy8111]

Is there a reason we haven’t met your dad yet? He seems like a truly outstanding man.

[@overjoyced]

I believe she already did a video with him

[@pmslonedirection]

Joyce Graham that’s her stepdad

[@marisallanah]

They both need to rewatch this, right now!! ♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@mannequinn_made420]

Most black family models are “What goes on in this house, stays in this house.”

[@NotYourTypicalMermaid94]

Facts it's sickening

[@veggiebea]

Healing happens in the light - with everything out in the open, discussion and processing the trauma and emotions. I now have a good relationship with my mom. We’ve talked through it and have both been in years of therapy separately too.

[@poeticjustice8420]

It's a cultural thing that happens across the world.woman are always mistreated and that trickles down to the kids

[@NoThankUBeQuiet]

It's not okay though. Things ONLY change when people talk about it.

[@chanteldean6115]

Yep. The start of the hiding of abuse and dysfunction

[@faithcamille5089]

Literally paused the video and prayed for your grandfather and your whole bloodline. Thank you for sharing this even though you know the consequences. I am writing a book and there are traumatic parts of my story that I was going to leave out. Today, God spoke to me and told me to include something I am scared to share but this video just confirmed why I must share. Thank you. Love yall.

[@luluseatowngetdown6251]

I wish you strength💙 and I wish you healing and success in your journey.

[@TheAnnelise27]

💜💙

[@elizabethRodriguez-vz5jf]

I feel like the reason why mamma mai was so hurt when Jeannie ran away at sixteen was because it reminded her of her childhood. Mamma mai ran away because her father was a monster and she probably thought that Jeannie had felt that way too. And mamma mai did not want to be like her dad because he was the devil she said.

[@LionessOfBeauty]

My Godd. ‼‼

[@elizabethRodriguez-vz5jf]

ForChristOnly what?

[@LionessOfBeauty]

@@elizabethRodriguez-vz5jf I'm agreeing with what you said. The analysis was on point and very true.

[@vickysung3968]

Jeannie Mai, Mama Mai, these videos where you talk about your family lives have truly helped me in understanding the attitudes of different family members of mine. I've watched, rewatched because in the heat of family conflict the temperature can get too hot too reconcile there and then and that's when in those crucial moments from your videos I am reminded of people of Mama Mai's generation and how they were brought up and what they knew. Jeannie, I can't thank you enough for your guts, eloquence and grace in raising awareness of these issues and Mama Mai, thank you for your honesty, your resilience and always your laughs and smiles. Love you both xx

[@loretomaria]

This touched my heart and soul so profoundly

[@pereira7264]

Me too thank you so much for sharing

[@PBWK]

When you both said “I love you” at the end I wish you could hear so many of us saying “I love you” back. This video will save so many lives that are in pain, danger, and sorrow. You both are genuine joys in my heart.

[@chukiemedina3022]

I love u. I no it's hard and I went through the same life and still can't 4 give my mother 4 her hate toward me but God is Good and let him deal with her

[@suzannadrew790]

Never in a million years, would I have guessed that Momma Mai's, childhood was so horrible. She is such a bright light in this world. And so are you a Jeannie, also I couldn't imagine a world without both of you. Really saddened my heart, when I heard that Mama Mai's, dad would hit her legs with a hammer. Wouldn't stop until, she couldn't walk. At that moment my heart broke for her.😭💔 May God bless your family.

[@raic3283]

Me too I felt this way about JVN when he opened up about his struggles. Such bright lights that have faced such darkness.

[@priscilla559]

Hello Hunnay, Just watching this episode made me break down into tears. That was utterly wrong what Mamma Mai endured with her father. Yes, generational curses are real and if you do not get rid of them, they will try to sneak in and take control of future generations. Why not recognize the problem early on, trust God that everything will work itself out, and believe that we all deserve the very best..even when that very best comes from being apart from the very person[s] that were supposed to love us and be there for us in the very beginning. Jeannie when you said that you and your mother got saved, I knew right then and there-there is definitely a reason why I am watching your videos..not for the sake of your celebrity status, but because you really are real..you and Mamma Mai. You are both your true authentic, funny, loving, kind-hearted self-less selves. And I thank God for you both sharing your stories and experiences with me. I will make it out stronger, wiser, and more loving, but more than that..blessed because of Jesus Christ and what He has not only done for me, but also for you gals and your family as well. You have really encouraged me greatly during this time and I pray that God continues to bless and keep you and encourage you-so that you can pass those blessings on down to me and I can pass those blessings on down to future generations. Love you so much-God bless you!!! Priscilla

[@Sheldon1411]

Mamma Mai's childhood story is my story, as she was recounting everything I was like omg that was my father too. It's so sad some of us went through this but it's important for us to heal and do whatever we can do to remove these people out of our lives period.

[@GeminiEmpress]

Jeannie is soo theraputic to talk to. I feel like I can open up to her about anything ❤ she just has that healing energy

[@rglucia]

As a child my father used to get hit everyday by his mom. I understand my grandmother probably had a rough childhood too. Nevertheless, my father NEVER hit us and was the most loving, patience, and funny person in the world. I feel that among all his accomplishments the fact that he broke the violent cycle is his biggest achievement. He passed away three years ago and he is very missed. 😘

[@pbrandonj]

God rest his soul and praise God for helping him to still be loving and patient with his children in spite of what he'd been through. Amen❤

[@kimberlydelrey]

Wow bless your father and family! Sorry he had to go through that 😥 but he broke the cycle!

[@rubyy_922]

I'm so sorry for your lose, it's always the most compassionate, loving, caring, sweetest parents who pass too soon 💔

[@xxxjay9352]

May he rip❤

[@mkpbarry89]

Thank you for sharing, Mama Mai! You deserve all the love and happiness in the world.❤️

[@triciagg756]

God bless your mom. I cried so much for her. She is so vulnerable in this story. I love her honesty. Beautiful lady.

[@NikkiClark]

TriciaG G ♥️

[@itsfranky_b]

When Jeanie said she got saved and how Jesus helped her and her moms temper 😭❤️❤️

[@rosadiamond4440]

Ameeeeeeen

[@goldenchild5324]

And it happened overnight! We serve a "suddenly" God! 😭😭😇

[@jacquelinealanis5709]

Latinos go through this too! I appreciate you Mama Mai for being so brave and allowing us to know these vulnerabilities. You are giving people who are watching a voice to speak up and know it’s ok to talk about it and to HEAL.

[@amajohnson4164]

Mama Mai is a true survivor!.. her story needs to be on the big screen!.. I love her spirit!… I’m glad the God intervene.

[@diannaisabellexochitiotzi4900]

I watch all “hello hunnay” episodes but I couldn’t stop by, watch this, and not comment. Mama Mai you are so BRAVE sharing your story with us especially with you describing how your culture doesn’ approve of this. Whether your fellow countrymen/women agree or not doesn’t matter. What matters mama Mai is that you are doing what YOU need to do to be an amazing mom! By communicating and being a better person for your children you show your heart and the kind of person you are! Welcome to the American way where sharing your story is not a sign of weakness but a way of healing and helping/inspiring others. Its ok if things are not ok with your father because of your past relationship... you didn’t lose family.. look how much its grown 💗💓❤️💝 (will you accept a Latina in your Vietnamese fam bam? I’m in 💗💓🧡❤️). Know you are very strong and amazing for what you have done, are doing, and will continue to do. Jeannie, the relationship you have with mama Mai is heartwarming to say the least. The way you love and support her (even though tough times have existed in the past) truly shows your are MAJORLY saved (honor thy father and thy mother). Jesus and family are all we have girl and our time on earth is short. God is going to bless you ten fold for always being there for her. Thank you for sharing your life and mama Mai’s life with us! You both keep being brave, loving, inspiring, and awesome!! Love you both! Be blessed always ❤️❤️❤️ -Dianna

[@TinaMensah-a7m]

Bless Mama Mai's heart. She is so strong that she was able to say what she went through. We love you Mama Mai

[@logan2112five]

"...weight or wings? " You two ladies are absolutely Wings in my heart Jeannie💙

[@thezeeyez7151]

She's amazing. ♥

[@babythundercloud]

Beautiful mother/daughter dynamic. I adore my mommy too. ❤️ Generations of abuse is common in every race.. and breaking those cycles and healing... heals all the generations behind you as well as future generations to thrive with nothing but peace and love. Bless that beautiful woman with some grandchildren girl! 👧🏻👧🏻🧒🏻