My Online No-Buy 2024: The Rules, Hopes, and History of my Shopping Addiction

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[@BrianGryphon]

Good luck... sounds like you've set up a good balance between discipline and personal joy. Something that challenges many of us. Looking forward to your updates and progress.

[@crimsontarot734]

I’m with you on this. I’m doing something very similar. We can do it ❤😎

[@SemplicementeSE]

Same here!! We can nail it!! 💪💪💪🎇🤩🥳🎆

[@steffymuze]

Same. I'm trying to study and focus on what I already have rather than continue to add more. Easier said than done. I am learning though!

[@HazelJaneTarot]

Good luck!!!! I bought one tarot deck this year 😲 in a shop! You can do it 💪

[@MixtressRae]

Good for you!! 😮

[@treeshuysentruyt1354]

I am doing pretty much the same thing. After two failed tries last year I know what to be carefull for. Me and my son have a calendar where we are going to mark the days. I have to rewind my brain also. Since i quit smoking I have problem shopping. Like I allways look for adictions. I admit I love dopamine. So girl I feel you 100 procent. I made a planner for the whole year to do deckstudies. Keeping my mind busy 👍 I will definitely follow you and by this treat will show my accountability also ❤. Watch out for exeptions. An addiction is manipulation of the mind. An addict will always find a excuse. And online shopping is so dam easy. My only exeption is clothes and shoes for my son. Medication. Householdproducts. When stuff is broken. And gifts. O and my selfcare like pedicure and hairdresser. I already have my bday present wrapped. The margret peterson. Good luck girl 👍 My biggest problem is coping. I know when I am tired. Frustrated. I start to buy. So attacking the urge is going to be a big one. I am not making a wishlist. I have enough. I

[@Peekaboorose]

I still have and wear my skully bracelet--love it! Cheering you on for a successful 2024💜

[@rachel2880]

Yes, with the buying identity vs lost creativity link! This is why I know I need to do The Artists Way book program…. A lot of what you said here echos the opening concepts of the book. I was eyeing it on my shelf just the other day too… Thanks for reminding me. The new year is the perfect time to start it too. Let me know if you want to try it as well, we could do a support thing for it. Either way wishing you the best of luck in doing this. 🍀 This video will be a good resource for you and others to revisit in moments of struggle. I think I need to write a list or like code of reminders on what person I wanna be and life I want to lead, to look at when I’m about to spend recklessly… make myself read it before I self sabotage…. As it is every year, I also want to do a low/no buy challenge but I’m not sure what the realistic perimeters/healthy level of challenge of it will be, so I need to think on that. Thanks for this inspiring video. I’m with you! ✨Happy New Year. 🎆

[@rachel2880]

Ps I love your emotions on the internet! Never stop feeling! ☯️🎆 Don’t be a robot lol 🤖

[@MixtressRae]

Artists way sounds too structured for me right now. I’m going to go really easy on myself the first couple of months. 😬

[@rachel2880]

@@wombofthevoidI’m so glad to hear that! Thank you and good luck to you in your journey with Artists Way as well. You can do it! ☺️ Happy New Year! 🎆🎊

[@steffymuze]

​@rachel2880 I am revisiting The Artist's Way this year with the workbook for many of the same reasons 😊

[@ultramarinetoo]

I think it's great you're doing this, and am rooting for you to succeed. My own goals for next year are in the health/fitness category, but I feel the energy. Please don't stress too much if you do "fall off the wagon" at some point. We have a tendency to give up too easily rather than accepting something as a setback and moving forward. I'm not sure it's a good idea to keep a wishlist, except perhaps as a last resort before hitting "buy". It may be better to disengage from consumerism, like not watching the channels that tout new products / decks etc. I guess that depends on what your goal is: primarily financial, or primarily about mindset?

[@MixtressRae]

My main focus is mindset with a sprinkle of hope that finances will also naturally improve.

[@steffymuze]

2nd what you said about the falling off the wagon part. It's part of the process and in my own experience, had I not done so and more than once, I'd have never learned to get past it.

[@WaterChildTarot]

I hope this no-buy proves satisfying for you, even with the hard moments. While I'm not doing a total no-buy, I'm hoping to only get 1-2 decks this year and no stationery or yarn (the other items I tend to overbuy). My household budget needs a deep review so this is a good time of year to do that as well. Thank you for the inspiration to reconnect with and appreciate the items we already have. Satisfaction, gratitude, and contentment are all healthy goals, I think.

[@oblique_dreams]

Hmm I think doing a NO BUY year is somewhat like going on a "no carbs" or "no sugar" diet. It's great to save some money (lose some weight) in the short term, but it's easy to find yourself back in the same financial situation (gain the weight back) after the restriction ends. Ultimately, your lifestyle and your habits should be financially sustainable for you in the long term. Commit to buying only what you can afford (with money you have, not with credit). Create a budget and stick to it. Just my two cents. Nonetheless, I hope your no buy year will be a success! It sounds like you have some good rules around when you are allowed to buy things, so hope you'll stick to it.

[@MixtressRae]

I sort of structured this around how I’d like to live from now on. It’s meant to be a lifestyle, not a year. But I’m telling myself 2024 to start…

[@rijd2304]

I use a little mindfulenss meditation book called 30 Days to Stop Being a Shopaholic by Harper Daniels. It's cute. It helps me recenter myself and not go wild when doing shopping runs.

[@Tarotismagic]

I LITERALLY created a video about not buying in 2024 a week ago. I suppose I am not the only one feeling this way😂

[@treeshuysentruyt1354]

Girl. I woudnt think about money from youtube to buy stuff. Because you wont work on the coping if you do that. Playing with fire 🔥 as they say. I understand you but that is the addiction talking.

[@nicole.nicole]

As an AuDHD'er currently making *very* similar attempts of my own at a start down a (re)new(ed) path of self-awareness, goal-oriented growth, and accountability, this video f#cking resonates so intensely!! THANK YOU for this! I only ever found your channel because of "the video," and you should know (*IF* you're ever inclined to search for, or are in need of, even the *tiniest smidgen* of positivity to be derived from surviving one of life's brutal 'Tower Moments,'... then you SHOULD know, so I MUST tell you) that I consider myself FORTUNATE to be here watching, listening, and learning from you. I'm thankful that you're here, and that you continue to share these glimpses of your authenticity, your integrity, your humility, your HUMANITY with us! I aspire to be even HALF as self-aware and open to growth and change in my own life (and seriously, that's NO BULL$HIT either dude!! I TRULY mean that!! SINCERELY. ❤ Thank. You. ❤)

[@MixtressRae]

Oh wow thank you so much for sharing these sentiments with me. 💜

[@nicole.nicole]

@@MixtressRae it's one of my goals for 2024--to recognize and share my appreciation and gratitude with others who contribute all kinds of goodness to my life! It's not something toward which my ND brain is naturally inclined, but my aim is to get better with lots of practice this year! Happy 2024! ❤️

[@roefane2258]

I’m on a witchcraft “stuff” no buy. Or maybe a cull would be more accurate. Buying incense, herbs, and tumbled stones is cheap in the moment but hasn’t helped me learn anything because I just let them die in a drawer. This year I’m going to intentionally use up my “stuff”. Books and decks are on my can buy list. However, they have to pass 3 wishlist sorts, and be on my wishlist for 3 months.

[@maplegrove7]

This year I am planning on getting just one Oracle Deck and One Book on Herbal Magick, both are coming out Spring of 2024, Using Oils that I akready have before purchasing anymore, plus I've been making my own Oils too, so there's a plus. 🎉

[@MixtressRae]

I’ve made a few perfume oils for myself too and it’s so gratifying to make for oneself what you’re used to paying others to make for you. Feels like taking back control.

[@nicnaknoc]

I'm here, I watched, and I'm here to hold you accountable.

[@CricketsBay]

Good Luck. 2024 is an 8 year, Strength in the Tarot, so maybe this is the best time to do a no-buy year. I need to do a no-buy/low-buy in 2024 as well. The local witchy shop is a big problem for me though.

[@Igorooooleynikov]

You said you had a lot of iphones/ipods and other stuff. How you was able to afford it? Apple is expensive!

[@MixtressRae]

credit cards

[@teslagoth9401]

That’s one of many reasons I love Tesla, they don’t advertise. Next time you watch a car commercial look at how flipping stupid it is. They are trying so hard that it reeks of desperation 😂