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[@qadiriyat1780]

The question is how patient are we supposed to be through parent abuse? Until we loose our minds and are mentally ill ? Allah is most merciful , most compassionate and most just. Do not allow yourself to be oppressed and stand up for you're rights people. Talk to someone who will listen. Get help. Don't ever give up.

[@rubyyyy7777]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/rou4gpKvr9qYirc... check out this video about abusive parents

[@dahaniyaalrajhi3307]

I am really in hard time my mom goes too far abusing me .....but i still pray to Allah to give me abundance of patience so that i dont rebound back

[@tarapro8541]

iam awah no the thing is sister, our role model is our prophet Muhammad SAW. He taught us that even if your parents are HORRIBLE and absolutely HORRIBLE TO YOU, you’ll still kill them with kindness, treat them with respect, why??? Because killing a person with aggression will never change them for better, instead its pouring more poison into the fire, hence why killing them with respect and kindness will make them learn something new from you. If god wills their imaan their soul will be purified with the beauty of your kindness. Also another reason why you should still be polite to them is because, everything is watched over by ALLAH!!! REMEMBER. This world is not where they will be judged instead its after we all die. The court will be opened when we die. Thus what we need to do is show allah how generous we are even when they are wrong towards me. By this you will be rewarded and they will be punished unless you forgive them. THIS IS THE BEAUTY OF ISLAM. ❤️🥰 hope you return back to islam as its more too it. Quran is the answer to our question. Inshallah one day sister you’ll have all your questions answered. Ameen

[@dialaa.4001]

Please watch this video his answers are worth more than gold kzbin.info/www/bejne/rou4gpKvr9qYirc

[@tarapro8541]

@@tauriqlawrence5655 i fully agree with you, parents have given so much rights on children that they often take their own kids are their servant and they would never realise it. They take advantage on us because they own us. Parents are not angels, they humans and every human will make mistakes! Including ur parents. I have been under control and been dominated by my parents since i was little. As I’m a female i dont have much rights and cannot speak up for myself. But you are a man, you can still have the rights over your own life. See i cannot even move out or keep a distance from my parents, but i know i need to very soon for them to realise my worth 😞

[@heather-vs9qe]

This is hard....when parents are toxic and not happy in their marriage and take their problems out on their kids. It scares the child.the child lacks confidence can turn to drugs drink and poor mental health this is a very deep subject.

[@moin3194]

Your correct iam exactly at this situation

[@fifififi2664]

totally agree, i think speakers in Islam should make videos for parents and parents to be, there is way too much focus on the way around.

[@tarapro8541]

iam awah no the thing is sister, our role model is our prophet Muhammad SAW. He taught us that even if your parents are HORRIBLE and absolutely HORRIBLE TO YOU, you’ll still kill them with kindness, treat them with respect, why??? Because killing a person with aggression will never change them for better, instead its pouring more poison into the fire, hence why killing them with respect and kindness will make them learn something new from you. If god wills their imaan their soul will be purified with the beauty of your kindness. Also another reason why you should still be polite to them is because, everything is watched over by ALLAH!!! REMEMBER. This world is not where they will be judged instead its after we all die. The court will be opened when we die. Thus what we need to do is show allah how generous we are even when they are wrong towards me. By this you will be rewarded and they will be punished unless you forgive them. THIS IS THE BEAUTY OF ISLAM. ❤️🥰 hope you return back to islam as its more too it. Quran is the answer to our question. Inshallah one day sister you’ll have all your questions answered. Ameen

[@findingsomeone6320]

True

[@hinanaqvi6416]

I am facing that as well my entire family is doing the same thing I think it has made me depressive and stressed but it also drew me nearer to Almighty and that's the best feeling I have ever had actu ally the world is a test and we need to understand that we all belongs to Allah the worldy things relations are temporary u cannot judge this world that's how I deal with them and ofcourse we need to be patient and god is all hearing may Allah guide us in the worst situations

[@yousifaltigani9838]

I'm sorry but what about narcissistic, emotionally manipulative parents that use gaslighting tactics to wear you down for the sake of their own sense of self-importance. What about sexually abusive parents, what about parents that use Islam as an appeal to authority to put their kids on a guilt trip. What about parents that don't show their children love and use hitting as a means of communication instead of simply just speaking?. I'm a Muslim brother and I strongly believe in the Islamic faith, but how can it be fair for parents to damage their kids psychologically, simply because there is no consequence, to the point where even thinking about them gives you anxiety and on the long-term depression, which is so debilitating. I'm not buying it, I can understand the depth of the text and I assure you there are exceptions to the rule, otherwise we wouldn't have so many "ex-muslims". So please give a more valid answer, because you clearly aren't well educated on child psychology and parental abuse. Assalumu Aliakum

[@rubyyyy7777]

Nouman ali khan has made video on this...plz look into it kzbin.info/www/bejne/qpm2gGmEpZ6okKc......

[@fifififi2664]

I agree with you bruh, the answer is these parents will be punished - PERIOD!

[@aminasherif4571]

Excellent point. May Allah reward you and make it easy on you to deal with the challenges in your relationship with your parents. This is absolutely a topic that needs to be discussed in the Islamic community and it is consistently glossed over and ignored

[@sofumer4124]

That is my question

[@amnabibi1408]

Are parents aloud to force you in islamic things that you dont want to do?

[@naviifra2374]

My mum is mean. Make dua that she becomes kind and just

[@nabilahmad5032]

And my father is bad

[@tobiastaurus6434]

After 30 years doha i gave up .....

[@samiai8905]

What if your parents traumatize you? Or abuse you so much you are left with so many turmoils that it ruined your life? You can't say stuff like keeping a good relationship with your parents and ignore all this. That rhetoric is why so many teens are so disillusioned with the religion even though it has rules in place to protect children from abuse

[@fifififi2664]

I agree with you, but I guess by time God shows us signs and strenghed us, ain't easy, only people who were traumatized can understand us and of course GOD himself.

[@hiiiirif4591]

@@fifififi2664 the more hardship u face here, the more reward u will get in the hereafter ;read ayat ul kursi on them and blow it 3 times U R NOT ALONE

[@aprettybambi]

I’m in tears while watching this, I don’t even have a relationship with my dad anymore, can’t talk to him about anything because I don’t feel home while talking to him because I know that he wouldn’t understand the pain I’m going through, he would just listen and the next day act as if I didn’t speak to him. He feels so careless.. and as if he doesn’t love me anymore. I used to to have such a tight bond with him and now just sitting next to him feels uncomfortable.. because of his relationship with my mother is toxic and I used to always tell him to speak to her loving and gently but now he sees me like someone else and I can feel it. It hurts more when he doesn’t see that I’m HURT. He still thinks that I’m a child and his thoughts about me.... I’ve made so much duaa to god, to heal us all and fix our relationship but it only gets worser and I feel lost, and empty, too calm to react to something bad.

[@khanpakistan4648]

Don't worry you are not alone .... I feel the same and receive same response from my dad he scolds me in front of my other siblings without any reason ..... though I try my level best to stand first in my class so that I can make him happy but every time he sees my result he gives me bad remarks .... he tries to make fun of me and pass bad comments whenever I pass by him .... I sometimes feel like this will happen and last for the rest of my life but still I pray to Allah to change this all .... he always prefer my sister on me who is a doctor and criticises me as if I am a punishment for him from God

[@irmamuratovic4064]

@@khanpakistan4648Assalamu Alaykum sisters, i just want to say that i understand you both and know what if feels like. my parents are like that too.for me the worst thing is that my baba is a disbeliever and doesnt let me wear the hijab. my they will continue doing it until they want to stop but just be patient and know that one day,which could be in 1 month,1 year,2 years,10 years,you will become free ,and by free i mean you will get married. no one can force yo to marry someone you dont want to marry,and in Shaa Allah my sister we will all find good and religious husbands that will treat us better than our parents do,that will care for us and always be there for us and that will be a good father to your children and treat them good. in Shaa Allah we will all get what we prayed for to Allah one day.

[@khanpakistan4648]

@@irmamuratovic4064 yup that's how I sometimes relax myself by thinking from this perspective 😊😊😊

[@jennahassan7909]

make dua to allah in sujood to make you have the bond like before

[@tobiastaurus6434]

My poor bro... i had a toxic familiy too i ran away from everyone its been more than 10 years ... leaving with scars and mental issue to face loosing every 2years my job .. alone .... i only want to die since 8 years old

[@afghanlicious]

These are nice words!! But it doesnt help! Abusive parents, who ruin ur life and doesnt care!!! Either u live ur life unhappy and get depressiv or u decide to move out!

[@Spacersreturn433]

Girl StUff exactly!!! Quran only talks about the rights of parents n not children. After being abused for so long I lost faith in Islam. Cos Islam doesn't say anything about the rights of children n parents uses verses from Quran to justify their abuse and emotionally manipulating an innocent child. Does Quran favour child abuse?? Children are the ones that needs most attention n love. Not old people. Old people are just physically weak. Its always about old people.

[@kakakakakakakaka2658]

@@Spacersreturn433 it tells us that parents need to be good to their kids but still even if their not good we still need to show love witch to me can't happen and it's boot logical because once they break our heart it's over...I have no idea how to do that..I just cant

[@kkrt7080]

S.A kzbin.info/www/bejne/rou4gpKvr9qYirc never lose faith in Islam. Yes, toi must be good To your parents To a certain point but when you feel that this is destroying you you need to think to your well being with choosing the best situation for everyone. Patience. Allah's with you

[@mojo0024]

Jannah ain’t for everybody to get into and the messenger (saws) said paradise is under your mother’s feet

[@fifififi2664]

@@Spacersreturn433 Girl I feel you, I was abandoned by my biological father and my mum is toxic because of how she had suffer bucz of her past, its not a reason for me to leave Islam though I was at some point very down and did not want to practice anymore as all i was hearing is your not a good muslim if you dont respect your parents, i think this is a general ruling. bad parents will be punished by God for whatever they did to their kids, at no matter age, so trust that. Also, you dont have to love them but keep the ABC so we don't suffer from this. Only people in our situation could understand us but please return to Islam!

[@whenyousmileismiletoo5419]

My parents have always ignored me. They favoured my brothers over me. My mother doesn't trust me- she shouts at me whenever I'm a bit late to home. I feel threatened by her when she asks "who else is coming" who are you meeting" and even calls my friends sometimes to ask them too. When i tell her i don't wanna live in this house anymore, she says it because you want to run away to get married and i swear i have never done anything like that to make her mistrust me. I don't even talk to boys at school. Im such a coward that I can't even talk to my male teachers. I keep praying to Allah to change her. 😓

[@ayanahmed1924]

Amber Tunio sorry 😢😢😢😢be accept what your parents are May Allah guide them insha Allah

[@ahmadbenissa8489]

No Jams same may Allah be with us

[@shanayaabbasi4097]

No Jams same story here :-(

[@WaqarAslam2000]

Shyness is a blessing from Allah its not a disease. There is no need to say that you are a coward that you cannot talk to a male teacher. My suggestion is to trust her. (If she is on true deen that is).

[@whenyousmileismiletoo5419]

Waqar Aslam theres a difference between shyness and anxious. Like im literally terrified of people and its hard living like a normal person. What kind of a person on true deen emotionally and psychologically abuses her own children. The world is a very dark place brother

[@redrose-qh4lz]

ALL i will say is 1 thing, these scholars dont know the idea what its like to be emotionally verbally physically abusive parents, who torture u and yell at u infront of people making ur self respect 0, making u mentally sick, when we dont have mental health, we cant even focus on salah properly,then hw can we bear the abuse? ,, i know many ppl wud thinks that children who talk behind their parents are bad children,,but thats not the case,,, i know this is rare case when ur own parents is abusive and toxic and horrible, but its not impossible also.

[@fifififi2664]

I agree, I think its just too easy to speak ABC when you are not in the situation, but I also understand by time and maturity that they cannot preach anything else. however, I think they need to be more videos on parenting etc addressed to parents, parents to be etc, I seriously believe that some kids turn out bad because of the parents and not only society...

[@Anoadi2525]

Right like my mom wishes I never become successful and hopes I get sick and all this other shit like what am I supposed to do 😭🤦‍♀️still be nice it’s hard I can deal with that to a certain point after that I can’t. And ion know if it’s only me but my parents stay yelling at me they call me they yell they tell me to do sum they yell like bro chill out what I do wrong I hate being disrespectful but I’m sry I can’t nomo

[@abigase135]

They truly don't. Some parents are just much of a test as some children are.

[@Marwa-wn4hb]

I agree. This is a generic example that supports the general sentiment but doesn’t address actual problems in our community and makes us feel more alone.

[@theanalyser4869]

My Dad is extremely difficult to deal with, all most every conversation turns into shouting and he starts throwing curses at me like “may you be run down by a car” my anger always gets the best me and I end up shouting and swearing . I can’t remember ever having peaceful conversations with him. Just asking for Dua’s as I sit here alone in my car numb from that argument. Honestly he says “Allah will ruin you” and all I’m trying to prevent is him screwing up over and over again. Do I just accept that my future is doomed because of the way I’ve spoken to my dad and the curses he’s thrown at me Will one day come to be. This is the biggest test of my life l, my mind and heart both have had enough and can’t take it anymore.

[@phlllp2138]

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh brother/sister. Continue to make dua to Allah (SWT). Control your anger, also remind your dad to control his anger. Wait for you to be alone with him then sit down next to him and make up a conversation, if everything goes well you try to ask him after a while about why he behaves the way he does towards you, and what you could do to improve. If he becomes angry with you from the start then ask him calmly, why he is angery with you and what you could do to improve. Listen carefully to what he has to say and then thank him afterwards. Remember to treat him with respect and kindness. Whenever he throws curses at you, ignore it. Do not lose hope and be patient. Indeed Allah (SWT) is with the patient ones. Insha Allah this will help and may you and your father be blessed with a good relationship

[@sa-eedahtaliep1557]

@@phlllp2138 As someone who goes through the same, I can tell you that calmly talking always turns into an argument and the child is always wrong, disobedient and disrespectful. This is gaslighting, narcissistic abuse. Children are not responsible for their parents' ills.

[@YourBoyDany]

No bro. I know My Creator well. He is Ar Rahman. Ar Rahim. He knows our situations and He is just. Im going through the same situation, and just sad about my future being doomed as well. Perhaps He might provide a way for us. Lets be patient.

[@almairahyusop1385]

U just dont understand the relationship of narcisist mother between the daughter

[@hiiiirif4591]

@@lazee. yesssss

[@abigase135]

@@lazee. the only reasonable answer 👏

[@joanofarc33]

Depending on the situation this is destructive advise for many many people.

[@redlilly2584]

MAKY TASTIC here you are...I told u in mother in law video that u came in lots of abusive parents videos.but u didn't agree ...now do u agree

[@exoticjournalista8613]

How are we supposed to show love to parents who have never shown love to you as a child? And why are parents allowed to show you their trump card..... these same stuff you say. Of couse despite suffering unfair treatment and abuse from my parents i have been nothing but the most dutiful and obedient of all their children. But what about the injustices done to me? Hasn't Allah ordered us to stand up for injustice even if it be against our parents? Surah 4 verse 135. What is the explanation for that

[@shorouqtahraoui]

Arent they disobeying Allah by emotionally abusing us?

[@yousifaltigani9838]

Yes they are and they'll be punished, but do your best with your parents. Im sorry if you've been around such parents, must not be that way, and when you become a parent learn from their failures. The whole point of being a good parent is to have your child not be a burden on society and that can only be done by teaching them competence and independence at an early age, however we live in a society of abundance where narcissism is rampant. Bad parents think respect from children is a given, due to the fact that they birthed, or provided for you this is a false notion because you're being provided by Allah through them. So do your best with them thats all I can say, it'll make you stronger and you'll handle things better later in your life, and InshaAllah things get better, just keep the faith.

[@ilhanabdulle5919]

My dad is so rude to me and doesn’t even treat me like his daughter please make dua for him so he can be more kind to me.

[@abigase135]

اللهم أصلح أحوالهم و ألف بين قلوبهم

[@spoken_truth6661]

my father disowned me years ago. ..I'm in my 30s now. ..it gets easier by the day. ..can't miss what ya never had

[@Aliali-ff6xf]

Yea but call him. Not for him. For Allah. I don't know what happened it's not my business but call him to say hi. I know it's not easy if he doesn't answer that's on him then.

[@godsservantel6632]

Aurash Habibi At least reach out it will help you on the inside which is important. Parents can not save us from the wrath of Allah but can be a barrier don't let family cause you to fall short of paradise!

[@abigase135]

Same here, my father literally told me I have no children, i consider them dead then come these preachers telling you to love and respect them. How would you respect someone you don't know or who denies your existence? Words are easy. I grew up and learned more about Islam and tried calling him and he repeated the same thing. May Allah give us strength and patience to obey His orders

[@anoniempje7588]

My mom is very mean to me.. she doesnt even care when i crie and stuff.. and its really hard for me to be nice to her...

[@sabrinaissa1181]

My parents don’t even trust me to go on field trip the don’t trust me to go out with my friends because of what my older siblings do they ruined everything for me my mom used to be so nice and understanding but after my grandmother died she became nasty and mean she calls me bad names she barley lets me sleep she laughed at me when my report card came and said I’m a failure even though I had 5 A and a1 B and she hits me when the smallest thing happens honestly sometimes I think of death so I can escape her

[@mrrolex6519]

Sabrina Issa learn about narcissistic abuse

[@fifififi2664]

@@mrrolex6519 learning about this will not help her, it just makes you feel more angry, sad and depressed! i've done it so I know what it is.

[@amaliathatgirl9248]

Both my parents are Muslim, I have done something against the deen , moved away as an unmarried female, I have been trying hard to have a relationship with both my mother and father but it's been very difficult. They are old fashioned and very strict, it's almost impossible to talk to them. I finally managed to have a good relationship with my mother but my father and I weren't speaking then one day my father texts me some nasty things and I ran to my mother to explain what happened and she turned on me and gave me no support, she said I wasn't following my deen and I'm a bad girl, that my father was right, she didn't even hear me out and hang up on me. Now I'm not talking to them both and I struggle to be a good Muslim, I feel like they are pushing me away from them, please help advise

[@spreadlove4177]

Amalia A pray to Allah he is the one who can take u out of difficulties I have same problem too I left my house and now I have no ties with my mom

[@raniasandinsky483]

@@spreadlove4177 How old were you? Did they threaten you? Are you still scared? I am really devasted and I think about leaving too..

[@fifififi2664]

@@spreadlove4177 connect with her by all means, and if she rejects you then it will be her fault as you have made a step forward remember that!

[@spreadlove4177]

Rania Sandinsky I am almost 20 I tried to ask for forgiveness even though am innocent many times but she refused. I have no problem out here Alhamdhulilah I have very good relationship with my family and friends except my mom. My family knows that I tried I live alone work and don’t do haram stuff am religious and pray for my mom every day much love 💕

[@fifififi2664]

@@spreadlove4177 remember that our mother is one of the major keys to paradise, so stay in touch with her and be there for her even if she "hates" you thats what I do too.

[@starqueenlotus3755]

How do i be dutiful towards my parents who are repetedly discarding me

[@mrrolex6519]

Jameela Fayez dont be dutyful to them. Turn your back to them

[@fifififi2664]

@@mrrolex6519 that the most stupid advice someone can give! don;t do that, I feel you girl, but do abc AND if they dont want to answer you then the fault is on THEM not on your.

[@abigase135]

Just like you pray and fast, because Allah told you to. I found that this answer is convincing to me in many aspects of life. Doing things for His sake makes the most difficult things somewhat bearable.

[@genesishernandez7079]

This doesn't help. What do we do when we have narsaccistic parents that control our even move, thought, and even relationships with spouy and children, interfering with everything and making you feel like trash when you extress your emotions or think different from them.... What do you do then? We are told to Respect and love them NOT obey them and for us to try our best thats it.... But we still need answers on how to deal with parents like that

[@faridaaali6170]

Exactlt

[@abigase135]

I have no friends because of this and I feel like it's giving me social/psychological issues. I have some bad days because of it because I'm human but most of the time I trust Allah's will for me, it's the only thing keeping me sane and grounded.

[@Sniker786]

Ya Allah give me strength. 😥

[@nevean7839]

How to do this i want to know in case of abusive parents explain something which is fair and feasible dont wash your hands

[@NM-me4kn]

Hasbya Allah wa ni'ma al wakeel on every person who destroys another human being. Both my parents DESTROYED my life. Living in a household with two narcissistic parents is beyond unbearable. I ended up growing up with complex PTSD and persistent depression disorder. and I am not going to talk about the damage that is being caused from other monsters that would jump on the opportunity for finding a vulnerable broken person. This is too much to handle. I believe in God's justice.

[@cazzmods7525]

My guardian will always curse at me if I did something wrong. She would bang on the wall and call me stupid, I hate you, f**k you, you dumb a*s, and I should just put u up for adoption. I'm only 11 and she knows I've been through enough already. My mom passed. My dad is somewhere i wish he never went to. I had so many scares when my mom was still alive, she had so many problems I just can't say more.

[@elenacasablancas993]

I'm so sorry to hear that, May Allah make it easy for you...

[@freepalestine3966]

DR. BLEACH SON call child services please. you need to get out of there. that's abuse and when you get older you will have to carry that trauma.....im still working on what happened to me and I'm an adult today.... do yourself a favor and escape.... keep your Deen and ask Allah to protect you and if you need to talk to me please let me know.... I will send you my email

[@aly_asgar]

Now I got my answer, You were not told to love them but be dutiful to them.

[@aliacampbell7227]

These children never grew up learning what being loving towards somebody even is. So it’s not logical to say these things. MENTAL ILLNESS exists. Sometimes DUA WON’T change IT.

[@heather-vs9qe]

I need answers now....x

[@heather-vs9qe]

I need more answers as this is deep, when it now runs thru the family ...my siblings all guarding their feelings...help.

[@sumishabdicaziz9303]

My parents are mean please make dua for them

[@coldnoodles8261]

Same .. i will and inshallah they will turn good

[@hussainbanglore]

I love my mom soo much😭 but she makes fun of my love and care for her .i have lot to tell but i can't.😭love u ammi

[@moin3194]

I don't want to show fake love on them it's jst cheating myself

[@sadmuslimbro4369]

I CAN UNDERSTAND BRO

[@eishafarooq4876]

Hm muslaman e phasy huey hen😭😭😭kehty hen man bap ko piyar sy dekho to haj umay ka swab milta jo wo log krty hen bnda kesy dekhy piyar sy 😭😭😭😭

[@redlilly2584]

Eisha Farooq u abused?

[@NormalPersonIhope]

the video's title and content doesnt match

[@adamsonadam3406]

Some perents are mental crazy, opressive, and just looking at them after all the abuse they put you through makes you angry and sometimes ashamed to be nice to rhem. No one likes abusers or bullies

[@reshaeeltariq131]

Hi I’m a Muslim boy and I need help with my life

[@AkramBaig2689]

We need to understand our parents especially mother . Allah has gave strong relations between mother and son. If you cant love your parents how would you suppose to understand Allah's love . Subhanallah

[@NormalPersonIhope]

what about harmful abuse

[@Moonlightv23]

RealLifeBrownDramaTV point

[@Shabzana]

The parents are the caretakers of the children not the other way round. You wonder why kids wanna ger away from their parents fast. By ALLAH im 33 and i still cant seem to stand them but ive learnt to bite my tongue.

[@eleganthashvideos]

But when parents are Soo much negative or rude.then what we will do ? When parents abuse you .torcher you then.

[@wajahatriazmirza]

Stop justifying, I have been emotionally abused by my mother my entire life. These sugar coated words do no good. My advice is to draw a line! Fight back for yourself. Also keep sharing your problems with friends and other family members so that they can guide you and help you through all this.

[@honeybee3579]

subhanAllah I'm not a mother but if I ever have a child I can't imagine how much loved they would be I don't simply understand people who don't treat their kids well, what a tear dor the kids

[@honeybee3579]

Test for*

[@syedahoque2586]

What if they’re making problems all the time I show love to them ?

[@palwan7190]

my father always wanted me to be doctor ,from 1 class to 8th class i was beat like wall by my father for not scoring more in exams than my cousin who always stood first in my class in 9th class i worked day and night ,when my friends are having good time with their girlfriends i will be studying hard and luckily my cousin became a part of bad company and i got more marks than him i was awarded by my parents but then my father friend's son score more marks than me he start beating me again but this time emotionally i was studying biology then i dropped it because i said to my father i dont want to become a doctor you never treated me like a child but a horse in a race now i have only 1 year left after graduating as an engineer , my question is can i leave my parents after 1 year at the same time i dont want to make Allah angry on me but my parents because i didnt become a doctor they have emotionally disturbed me alot from the last 5 years i am just maintaining a fake relationship as they provide me with food and shelter the best part is they want me to be like my younger brother who never been to college and my parents never questioned him in return he respects my parent like a child you will never saw whereas I am just faking it

[@zahra_khan6114]

They always insults me pick at my faults and play victim and blackmail

[@rasheedazuha1618]

My parents are mean .They want me to make friends based on religion ,don't allow me to meet them .They r so toxic to me but my friends are great they understand me but my parents are against to them

[@alizarar9930]

My father is mean and hates me.

[@NAR-rm2li]

Acts of love are for God’s sake-not for your parents. It would be an incentive and make your relations easier if love could connect a parent to their child and vice versa. I think what he is trying to say is to connect with Allah rather than looking for a connection with your parents. If you are in danger (for example, if you were sexually abused by a parent, if you were physically abused by a parent, if they withheld the basics of living such as food and shelter, etc.) then you have the right to completely distance yourself from them since you must protect yourself first and foremost. In my situation, I divorced and my mother sided with my ex-husband. I tolerated that for the sake of God. She then suggested that my sister move in with me. I obliged, even though this sister has many personal problems and doesn’t practice Islamic values. I have a young child. When my sister moved in with me, she caused many problems in my household to the point that I felt that my home was unsafe for me and my child. When my mother was brought into the mix, she threatened to institutionalize me and to take my son away (meaning, she sided with my sister and refused to address the haraam that she was bringing into my household). My mother has a pattern of abusing me and humiliating me. She and my sister then teamed with my ex-husband by making false allegations of abuse and neglect toward my child, all in hopes of the state granting my ex full custody of him. I had been a homemaker for 14 years, I had no college degree, and my legacy was to be a mother-so these accusations and slander would have completely ruined my life and my son’s life. I sought advice from a local Islamic cleric who listened to the intricacies of my case where he ruled that I have the right to completely distance myself from her. Alhamdullilah my case was dismissed and it was ruled that the allegations were false. I still have custody of my son and my sister moved out of my home, all by the power of Allah. I am depressed with the fact that after I divorced, I lost my family, but I realized that I had already lost my family many years ago-I just tolerated the abuse for myself. When the abuse extended towards damaging my son, this is when I had no choice but to distance myself.

[@mohamedalghazali965]

Thank I needed to hear that

[@heather-vs9qe]

I need more answers ..respect them...when they don't respect themselves...and promoting hate on a dailt bases no matter how good you are, some are experiencing this now in 2018 first hand....help.

[@samahamara8543]

No what if they're harmful to u

[@mohamedalghazali965]

I hope Allah forgives me

[@gallaxseizor9216]

Dude, your answer wasn't justified and was not broad, there are people with parents who torture, hate, and enjoy their kids suffer, Allah most certainty will allow those children to leave them, their are exceptions to being g dutiful, and this ain't no western type methodology eastern people describe