‘My Sister Has Never Had A Childhood Because She’s Been Taking Care Of My Mom,’ Says ‘Dr. Phil’ G…

[@thepearlswirl]

Her daughter looks like she’s been crying for *years* 😥

[@jenniferbates2811]

I know. Its so sad. I really hope that she gets therapy

[@courtney69690]

It’s crazy how mean ur parents can be when u have to take care of them

[@jenniferbates2811]

@Lauren Marzec but it's how you choose to deal with the sad events or people that can change your life

[@senseiihoe]

Exactly the first thing I said when I saw her on the screen was this baby is tired 🙁😣 Ima pray for her

[@jenniferbates2811]

@@senseiihoe she needs community support, she goes to college. I wish that she could ask for help

[@Spencerlayne]

Her daughter looks so tired and shattered. You've drained the life out of her.

[@jenniferbates2811]

She's 24 going on 35

[@miss_michelle]

Feel so sad for her 😢

[@shannonshannonbobannon5040]

Energy vampire

[@ciannamessinger]

You can clearly see the bags under her eyez

[@megank7459]

Me

[@mrcheese4886]

The daughter looks so unbelievably tired.

[@jenniferbates2811]

Emotionally and physically. There are people with missing limbs that accomplish way more

[@NikkiC777]

It's sad. She should not have to deal with all this.

[@DropShotTho_t]

Poor young girl already has bags under her eyes 🥺

[@celestebrusciano3637]

Yeah the major bags under her eyes shows how much stress this has put on her

[@_nom_]

It's genetic too.

[@katherinebrown2841]

She’s talking about her pain only. Even when her daughter’s pain is being pointed out to her by literally everybody. The daughter was so respectful and eloquent when she could’ve been spiteful.

[@Ghoosteny]

The mom is just acting like a victim, but clearly she is not.

[@husamidris292]

@@Ghoosteny u don't know what u culture is for me iam araby guy I take care of my old mom i pay her bill am not a rich but sorry I thinks u culture don't take care of your mom and if she died you aloso don't care

[@PrincessKarrah]

Exactly I don’t buy for. Second that she not didn’t know that her daughter and Blake felt the way about her. She knew she just didn’t care and the real reason she frustrated is because she in a situation were she can’t manipulate or make her daughter feel guilty and she knows the gig is up and her free ride is over.

[@010101Be]

Karrah Dedominick --💜 I am attempting to dispel some deep ignorance, and ABLEISM, here. 🥄🥄🥄🥄 Having EDS is like being Goldie Hawn, in Death Becomes Her! You LOOK Great, then your body parts start disconnecting. This woman was hurt, embarrassed, and terrified for her future and present security, being Ambushed with "find somewhere to Go", when she thought she was there to get Real Help from a specialist! The shock and surprise was obviously because she was not honest about the topics discussion. I was fine when I was younger. (I GOT RUN OVER BY A TRUCK, AND WALKED IT OFF! That is how pain hardy I was, they didn't see great pain, so they didn't X-ray, sent me home w/ broken jaw and spine). 🚶🏽‍♀️🚚🤕. EDS was compared by a Cancer Pain specialist, as being 7 Times more painful than what many Cancer patients experience. And it is without Treatment or Cure. But, It gets worse. I wish I could work, like before. I loved hiking, backpacking, rollerblading, and worked multiple jobs! Now, I can't always get up to make soup. I can't do dishes without passing out from TOS, or POTS. My eds loose vertebrae slide, and I'm down, and useless. I do not want to be a veggie. 😥. My body is falling apart, and I am 20 years younger than this woman! Try not to judge. Especially based on an edited piece by this slimeball, who gets his jollies from attacking the suffering. We Zebras know what it is like to not be believed, and the struggle for diagnosis, in a sea of EDS-ignorant doctors. We can't quantify her pain based on looking at her, as no one could with me. My fingers/hands are dislocating from a few comments as is. No internet job for me! Voice to text doesn't understand dislocating jaws, either. 😥

[@lozzylols]

@@010101Be I deeply feel for you and what you are going through, I have Fibromyalgia and ME, and the pain I deal with is enough, so I can't begin to imagine what you go through. I would say though that the one difference I can already see between you and this woman is that, even from your one comment, you seem like a determined and positive minded person. I am not saying you don't get extreme down times, but it sounds like, even though you are limited to what you can do, that you fight for the bits of life you can still be independent in. I'm not saying this woman doesn't have EDS, but I do think she has very bad depression, and that is what needs to be dealt with first, she won't be able to move forward until she can be positive about a way forward. I think even if her daughter could see 10% of positivity or determination from her mother then things would be easier for her. Sadly I find that if you too easily want to give up on yourself, then you can't expect others to happily pick all the slack, or they will get to the point of giving up on you too. I do wish you luck in the future and hope you can be happy and positive with where life takes you xx

[@sickoairsicksix9323]

a nursing home sounds like a solution to this issue.

[@karacollins4746]

Seriously😂

[@caligal1090]

yes and whos gonna pay for that nursing home? theyre not cheap lol

[@Some_due]

Tara she can get a job and get her own apartment

[@ashleymarie8054]

More like an assisted living facility. It’s not as expensive as nursing homes and she’d be encouraged to be more independent.

[@ediesongbird3163]

She doesn’t even look that old easily under 60

[@cherilynlarsen8104]

I bet the mother never even considered how her daughter felt.

[@tiana4595]

Cherilyn Larsen honestly

[@wynonasimmons234]

Probably not. Because she doesn't really care how she feels.

[@orsonlepherd7064]

She still doesn't. She's just putting on an act.

[@uberlolzzz]

I think she always has and doesn't care. She seems supremely manipulative. One of those people that would even screw their own child over and lie to anyone and everyone to get their way, and is damn damn good at it

[@lozzylols]

When you get yourself into a hole like this woman you stop seeing what is in front of you. It seems she is depressed too, which totally cuts off your empathy radar. This woman, yes most probably self inflicted, has got herself stuck in a situation that she doesn't know how to get out of. Hopefully they can help her find her way. We are all just as likely to fall into a dark hole, let's just hope there are others there to support us to help us out!

[@mamtasharma5895]

The anger in mother's eyes and pain in daughter's eyes speaks volumes

[@barbaradyson6951]

Mamta Sharma you saw the hate in the mothers eyes.

[@AwakeningVibes-369]

@@barbaradyson6951 I was gonna say that!! I saw helplessness and sadness. I dont understand since when taking care of parents has become an issue !! It does not matter if she is in pain or not. She is not in the age of working 8 hrs a day.. In Asia familes lives together and taking car eof each other. I dont uderstand whats the deal. In specifically this case... why is nt the other daughter dividing the responsibilties with her sister towards her mother but making her stand again her mother. 🤦

[@amyr8277]

@@barbaradyson6951 she was shooting daggers at her daughter whn she said she has to find a place on her own

[@SandraLovesSun]

@@AwakeningVibes-369 Not acceptable. You don't have a child to give the the job of taking care of you. You don't become a burden to your child. They didn't ask to be born. If you can't take care of yourself, don't have a child.

[@AwakeningVibes-369]

@@SandraLovesSun really??..i cant beleive you are extremely ignorant about the fact that Every human being needs assistance of some kind when they are elederly and like wise when humans are young. Wait for couple of more years to experience what she is experience then you may understand this. The way you are talking here is once parents are elderly then kick them out? NOT ACCEPTABLE.! If she cant take care of here then atleast divide the funds to hire someone to help her. There are so many ways to help, thats just a plain excuse that you are giving. If you treat your parents like this i must say they have raised pretty selfish child.

[@bunnygirl893]

the daughter is so pretty, but she looks incredibly worn out :(

[@batvanv]

Bunnygirl i know right.. my heart aches for her ):

[@rabeccainouye980]

Selfish woman, her daughter looks so tired! I’m glad she had a future husband who stands up for her the best way possible!

[@bealong8718]

see her roll her eyes at the beginning when the future-husband rattled off his feelings about her taking advantage of her daughter.

[@stepf2892]

Is there an update?

[@amydoran9987]

She’s very self centered.

[@AltClev37]

Her “pain” seems more like laziness to me. Glad Dr. Phil put her in her place.

[@AltClev37]

Richard L. HOW DO YOU KNOW???? Really? You have to completely blind to not see that she is taking advantage of her daughter financially and emotionally. Looks like you might be the naive one because 38 other people seemed to have agreed with me 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lilslump8309]

IT IS ! If you don’t do anything all day and don’t even take walks and try to work out YOUR LAZY! She’s obviously unhealthy

[@themoderndaygamer637]

Madam Lt 112 now, you are correct.

[@adeyosola414]

It seems like depression. I noticed it even before her other daughter said it. She should be in therapy : then later she and the therapist can decide jobs she can do e.g call centre worker - a job in which she doesn't need to walk around. She needs help through a progressive plan that will be sustainable: e.g therapy to help with her depression or whatever mental health issue(s) she has, help in searching for and getting a suitable place to live and assistance in getting a suitable job. If she actually does have a physical disability, then her family should assist her in getting a diagnosis and then file for her to collect disability from the government. I believe family should help each other but not at another family member's detriment. However I guess that's why they are on the show to get help for Dr Phil: even the mental healthcare that her daughters already know she needs can be too expensive for them to afford in the US.

[@magdalenat3424]

she's depressed, not lazy

[@courtneymiller4006]

The face the mother made when her daughter was telling her she wanted separation was pure anger. Dealing with a narcissist isn't easy its the hardest thing ever. I really hope this young lady can move on with her life

[@sparklingfashion6276]

Courtney Miller yes 😓😓

[@lotusflowerinbloom]

Yep, I saw it too. It was a look of, "Get back in line or you are going to pay for this."

[@ladykatnip7698]

Yeah, I noticed it too. She was pissed because her daughter found a way around her manipulation.

[@livplatt8094]

Courtney Miller I grew up with a narcissistic manipulative father, and I recognized that look the seconds he gave it. The only way this poor girl will get away from her is to realize what head games are going on and choose to not follow them. Cut that branch off, burn that bridge and don’t look back. It’s extremely difficult to do when it’s a parent but she’ll feel so much lighter afterwards

[@michelinedecupere8526]

You are so right. She has destroyed this girl.

[@perfectlyhonest4139]

You can tell the daughter, the one with the brown hair hasn’t had a very good sleep in weeks. Under her eyes are very puffy. She needs to give her daughter a break and stop manipulating her.

[@lydiavera]

She said her mother sleeps at 4:00am in the morning

[@mylesid]

I’m happy you notice that! Cause I’ve seen it now and BZ, thanks for pointing it out!

[@lissa1013]

Baby I don’t think weeks covers it all. I don’t think she’s had sufficient sleep in months or years even!!

[@pixie-hollow]

COoOUUUuuNTrYyyY ROOooOoOoOoOADs No. A lack of sleep. That's what's going on. Not zero sleep, just not enough due to her constantly supporting her mother late at night and through the day.

[@rachelcrawford1977]

COoOUUUuuNTrYyyY ROOooOoOoOoOADs she probably has slept very little like maybe 3-4 hours a night which is not great plus add the stress of taking care of a person who is a leach and any time she tries to disengage from her mom she tells her she’s going to kill herself that kind of thing is going to make such a destructive life and it’s going to take a long time to get herself together. Lucky she has a good man fighting to save her and a family trying to get her away from the mom

[@TheNunududu]

"I just want help." Lady, that's the problem. You need to learn how to help yourself. Your poor daughter looks EXHAUSTED!

[@777Tig-b4v]

You're awfully compassionate! Smfh

[@TheNunududu]

@@777Tig-b4v Absolutely. I have a ton of compassion for her daughter who is visibly worn out from caring for a woman who is capable of doing more for herself. The daughter needs space to build her own life, and the mother needs to learn how to independently navigate her challenges without sucking the life out of her children.

[@lindathrall5133]

@@777Tig-b4v I DEAL WITH MOST CRIPPLING FORMS OF DEGENERATIVE DISEASES THAT LADY IS ABLE TO WALK SHE CAN TAKE CARE OF HERSELF THE DAUGHTER SHOULD BE ABLE TO SAY MOM I NEED SOME ME TIME

[@clementeen]

she doesn’t know how to help her self and that’s okay to admit.

[@BarefootIguana]

They both need help. She needs to quit doing that to her daughter. I also understand that sometimes a mix of depression, isolation, and pain can totally change a person a put them in a state where they are overwhelmed and don’t know what to do and they start to not see how they are effecting others. Her mother just needs the right help and people behind her to get out of the funk she is in.

[@courtneyjean7232]

She's only 56 and she looks older than my 74 year old grandmother. 😱

[@clarissajones9771]

She is in worse condition then my 80 year old grandfather ,he does more too.

[@lalkholhring9317]

Probably coz shes just lazy and does nothing, if she moves around and clean etc..without depending on her daughter, she'll look younger. My moms almost 60, looking wayyy younger than this lady.

[@timotemilitoni7277]

IKR My grandparents are 90 and they still work full time

[@Grr33nie]

69th like yeeeeahhh boooiiiii

[@010101Be]

Obviously, none of you have experience with chronic illness. There is a reason she looks older and weaker! How dare y'all. I am under 40 w/ EDS. LOOK IT UP!! They ambushed an ill woman, seeking help! She thought they would find a doctor to help her get Better, not be degraded and dismissed!

[@thattypicalgalgamer8845]

The eyebags on the daughters eyes poor girl, and thats with makeup.

[@xyz-hs9ix]

I think it's part of her face. Her mother and her sister have eyebags too

[@stepf2892]

Is there an update?

[@AnaMaria-ww4iy]

I think the mom is a narcissist and her daughter is an empath

[@erinsoulmission]

Yep I thought the same

[@tonymoreni823]

An empath😂 yeah an empath is going to bring their mentally ill mother on national television and then break her heart.

[@erinsoulmission]

I watched the whole show.. Mom is NOT mentally Ill, just lazy and in victim mode. She knows exactly what she’s doing. Anyone can see the daughter is suffering and feels terrible.. she came for help, anyone that can’t see that I’d say is her mom herself on a sock account

[@emmaphilo4049]

Yes :(

[@thegreatanointedlordtrump.336]

The poor/caring empaths always get the worst end of things with the toxic Narcs.

[@antrey5142]

This girl is a saint. The fact she isn’t just like gtfo is amazing.

[@Wade_Fucking_Wilson]

Ant Rey 667th like

[@abijahabigail5719]

The mother is just lazy and she is a manipulator...just look at her daughter's face..she is just afraid to even say that she cant help anymore ..this shows the extent of guilt the mom made her feel..poor girl....im happy that her sister cared for her .😊

[@inkedblood24]

Abijah Abigail very similar to my mother .

[@tootsiedawn2016]

My Mama was an expert in guilt trips. But she wasn't lazy. I can at least give my Mama credit for that. She passed in 2013. She pretty much willed herself to death. She was tired of living. I miss her.

[@abijahabigail5719]

@@inkedblood24 omg...its heart breaking to hear..i hope u get ur share of happiness....god cares for u❤

[@akumabazooka9169]

@@abijahabigail5719 no it doesn't.. why did you have to bring religion into it? If it did, they wouldn't be in this situation

[@abijahabigail5719]

@@akumabazooka9169 oh damn..!!! So i finally got to talk to an atheist..i didn't say her to follow my religion..i told her wt is true..its simple !!!

[@rebeccacritchfield3429]

Look at the daggers she’s throwing at her daughter!!! I took care of my mom who was extremely ill and she done more for herself than this lady!!! She just wants a free ride!!!

[@PrincessKarrah]

Exactly I don’t buy for a nanosecond that she is frustrated because she didn’t know that her oldest daughter is stressed from having to take care of her. She frustrated because she is in a situation where she can’t manipulate her way out of it, she frustrated because she know that her free ride is over with Chyanne and Cherokee made it clear that she not going to be the next victim of her mother’s con.

[@mrs.hatfield1451]

That was very difficult to watch. I would have melted in to a puddle of mush and shush at that age.. Easily pushed. She turned out great, despite her raising.

[@waffleauflauf4213]

Same here. My mother has advanced fibromyalgia (she's had it when she was young), among other things, but she's never, ever made me feel like less of a priority, less of a person, and if anything, she's taught me how to be strong more than anything else, and when I developed a GI disorder later in life, she was there and told me she understood, but that it didn't need to have control over me and my life. She made me strong. This mother, on the other hand, uses her postition to bring others down with her, and makes excuses along the way.

[@stepf2892]

Is there an update?

[@boredomania9245]

I agree. She's a narcissist and a manipulator. She wants all the attention and takes zero accountability. I mean you see people on My 600lb Life who put more of an effort to get the health and life together. This woman isn't trying at all. And she keeps making excuses. "It hurts. It hurts a lot". She's literally taking advantage of her daughter and using her "condition" as an excuse. She did mention she went through a nasty divorce and I can sympathize with that. But at some point afterwards you have to put yourself back together and get back into your responsibilities as a parent

[@humairakhalidah]

the mother is literally guilt tripping her daughter even on the show

[@Gothgirl-yy7uj]

Just go to a retirement home or physical therapy if your having arthritis while your daughter could get her scholarship n live her own passionate life.

[@janinecarson8380]

All those things you suggest cost a lot of money.

[@KM-iv2zc]

Gothgirl 2121 she could of been on a diet plan but nope

[@jenniferbates2811]

@@janinecarson8380 it matters what state she lives in. I live in Rhode Island and we have social services, especially with the disabled community

[@TheSjuris]

Janine Carson then she should have worked instead of living off the back of everyone else. If I was the daughter and my mom treated me like that I would have either kicked her out of my apartment. It’s not the daughters responsibility that her mom is an useless life form.

[@kaitlynnborders7910]

Not taking moms side in any way cuz I couldn’t have my child sacrificing their life and happiness to care for me but I have ehlers danlos syndrome and it’s hard to even be diagnosed let alone get anything that’ll help. I’m in physical therapy and it’s doing nothing for the pain or my body.

[@Huntertheprincsss]

The bags under that beautiful girl's eyes.. That's heartbreaking.

[@callanightshade8079]

She's so exhausted... I just hope she'll be okay

[@010101Be]

Those bags are indicative of her mother's likely genetic disorder, too. She doesn't realize it is part of why she tires easily for her age. I know caregiving is exhausting. But my kids have EDS, too.

[@ihateyouall7026]

010101Be her mom doesn’t have it dude

[@weltonvillegal6258]

Agreed

[@jessiec.9169]

That young girl looks so miserable and exhausted. She does not look her age.. the reverse roll aged her.. it's sad. Shame on her "mother"

[@christophersalinas2722]

she looks 20 and 29 at the same thing with the puffed eyes

[@KRCox]

If she lost weight the pain in her knees would lesson

[@opachkii]

Fr

[@mikasablackerman6776]

She could even do water aerobics to lesson the stress on her knees and still get exercise

[@fedoratheexplora7180]

Facts!

[@stepf2892]

Is there an update?

[@bellerain381]

My grandma broke her leg two years ago....she did go through a bout of “take care of me because I’m weak and old” but once she realized how much she could actually do by herself, she stepped up! She walks every day, takes trips by herself and even visited me and my brother on our birthday weekend! This woman is just lazy and wants a way out!

[@Daniel-xh5nn]

"I didnt know she felt this way" she needs to get diagnosed for blindness

[@010101Be]

Or, maybe her daughter should have Told her that was what it was about, instead of letting her believe they were getting help, then Ambushing her! This woman is ill, suffering, and just got railroaded where she was looking for a doctor to Help her condition! I am disabled with the same condition, and I am 20 years younger than this woman.

[@miekaash6831]

010101Be but she doesn’t have it. She wasn’t diagnosed. That’s the difference.

[@glamsky3257]

That is one selfish mother. Manipulating and guilt tripping her daughter for years.

[@rleonekc07]

"I just want help" - no...you want someone to take care of you.

[@stephaniemartin-ward4578]

She's a total victim. She accepts no responsibility for herself. If she really is in that bad of shape, she can go into assisted living and let her daughter live her own life.

[@viciousyolk3929]

thats what help is bud

[@Tyrosine0910]

Vicious Yolk, you have "help" confused with enabling

[@viciousyolk3929]

No i don't 😂 you just have a different opinion

[@Tyrosine0910]

@@viciousyolk3929 The definition of "enabling" isn't a matter of opinion, so..no I don't

[@mummyofafurbaby9237]

That poor girl she looksemtally emotionally and physically drained

[@jenniferbates2811]

I really hope that she goes to therapy

[@annhughes1503]

Mummy Of A Fur Baby I agree with you

[@beentrill8492]

Yeah she should just leave

[@jessica.s6209]

Omg the daughters bags under her eyes the poor girl 😔

[@indianaajoness]

She looks so tired and like she is so young :(. Like worn out

[@Aayannnnn]

I A it dosent look like she’s young ok help your mother I mean I’m not saying not my mums is 68 and she got cramps but still I take care of both but my mum has everyone looking after her she’s got me and my two brothers and my 4 sisters and we all pay for the house

[@indianaajoness]

Aayan Hussain Yes I know however their situation is really bad. I know in my culture family also take care of each other in healthy way. You are never alone

[@jennterry6977]

I feel so bad for her! She looks so much older than her age. She deserves a vacation.

[@jungkookscoconuthairline]

Omg I didn’t even notice that, I feel so bad. She looked so tired yet she loves her mom as well

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

That mother has a look in her eyes that would make you think she has no soul... she is not affected by the pain of others whatsoever, she is just angry she's not getting her way.

[@xxboonisbadfortnitexx1549]

Yep

[@johnnydo1620]

" I just want help " NO YOU JUST WANT SOMEONE TO DO EVERYTHING FOR YOU SO YOU CAN LIVE A CAREFREE LIFE

[@Maceman486]

Only way she didn't know how her daughter felt is if she convinced herself otherwise. So she could keep doing what she's doing.

[@theintrovertedgirl2503]

She's one of the most selfish people I've ever seen. How could she do this to her own daughter?

[@breadfan_85]

She seems narcissistic, and altering reality to suit your needs is a hallmark of NPD.

[@heavenlance7833]

The poor girl looks like shes already lived a whole lifetime raising children and taking care of the home before she was even old enough to HAVE a child or get a home of her own! How a mother can siphon the life out of their child is bewildering to me

[@karencarpenter5845]

Looks like that mother has been doing to everyone she ever came in contact with.

[@tyrrany_reigns1]

There are lots of parents who feel like every tiny thing they do for you, including what they did for you as a baby, entitles them to you for life. You owe them somehow for simply giving birth to you. They are called narcissists.

[@heavenlance7833]

@@tyrrany_reigns1 oh trust me I know, my own "mother" (if you can even call her that) was a narcissist. To this day she still cries to anyone who will listen that she has NO *IDEA* why I stopped talking to her. Still boggles my mind though. I had my daughter in october and I cant even IMAGINE treating her the way I was treated or taking advantage of her as this mother does in the video. I can see maybe asking for help here and there if I was suddenly in a bad place but I would be doing everything in my power to get myself back on my own feet so I can support her and watch her flourish as her own person. It's just sad for those who fall into that rabbit hole

[@010101Be]

💜 I am attempting to dispel some deep ignorance, and ABLEISM, here. 🥄🥄🥄🥄 Having EDS is like being Goldie Hawn, in Death Becomes Her! You LOOK Great, then your body parts start disconnecting. I was fine when I was younger. (I GOT RUN OVER BY A TRUCK, AND WALKED IT OFF! That is how pain hardy I was, they didn't see great pain, so they didn't X-ray, sent me home w/ broken jaw and spine). 🚶🏽‍♀️🚚🤕. EDS was compared by a Cancer Pain specialist, as being 7 Times more painful than what many Cancer patients experience. And it is without Treatment or Cure. There are very few doctors who will agree to see us, but there is no Cure, and very little knowledge and understanding of it, aside from a handful of specialists scattered worldwide! This poor, ill woman believed she was getting help from a specialist here, and got ambushed with "Find somewhere to Go!" Despicable. Her daughter has bags because she likely has EDS, too. It's genetic! When she starts suffering, she will feel terrible for treating her ailing mother that way! But, It gets worse. I wish I could work, like before. I loved hiking, backpacking, rollerblading, and worked multiple jobs! Now, I can't always get up to make soup. I can't do dishes without passing out from TOS, or POTS. My eds loose vertebrae slide, and I'm down, and useless. I do not want to be a veggie. 😥. Try not to judge. Especially based on an edited piece by this slimeball, who gets his jollies from attacking the suffering. We Zebras know what it is like to not be believed, and the struggle for diagnosis, in a sea of EDS-ignorant doctors. We can't quantify her pain based on looking at her, as no one could with me. My fingers/hands are dislocating from a few comments as is. No internet job for me! Voice to text doesn't understand dislocating jaws, either. 😥

[@heavenlance7833]

@@010101Be i hear what youre saying, and I agree with a lot of it as I have a disability that isnt easily seen as well (periodic paralysis) but the problem is that she openly admits she isnt doing what she easily could. Shes only doing 20% of what shes capable of doing so on the off chance shes not lying shes still allowing her daughter to act as a care giver and not lift a finger to help when she openly admits that she could. If she had said "I am doing 100% of what i can do to help" it would be different. That and as they pointed out she doesnt actually have a diagnosis; just google. Theres a million other things she could have but shes latched onto this one SUPER RARE condition as her reason to give her child 20% of her effort and as her excuse to take over her childs life. (Ever hear the phrase the obvious answer is the correct one? Odds are her arthritis that she DOES have is just as bad as it can get. Sure she COULD have this super rare condition; but when youre looking into the void for a diagnosis the super rare one is the last to be concluded. The fact she isnt searching for other and more probable answers while waiting for an actual diagnosis shows where shes at. She saw one name, read about it, and decided "yup this is why my joints hurt!" When she already has arthritis..a joint condition). To put it simply imagine if at your max effort all you could do is put your dish in the sink. But instead of doing that to help your childs load as your caregiver you only place your plate down on the table. Thats where the issue comes in. Shes not interested in finding other resources. Shes not interested in getting an official diagnosis (because you dont need a specialist to get help for conditions. Maybe to get the specific diagnosis; but my condition is still officially undiagnosed [we only know its a form of periodic paralysis, unknown which kind though] and I was given multiple resources to find help and care during my episodes. Something she hasnt done as she has her daughter and was content using her daughter for all of time. On top of that theres the guilt tripping. Whenever her child said this wasnt how she wanted to live she would immediately reverse the situation to make it out as though her child was this evil person who wanted her dead. "Mom i dont like having to take on all these responsibilities and need to be able to be a 20 something. I dont want to be your caregiver forever" "youre right, im a HORRIBLE mother! I wish i could just DIE!" At first glance this sounds like a person with depression right? But thats what its SUPPOSED to sound like. This however is ACTUALLY a disproportional reaction to what was said. Its akin to girls who say "im so ugly!" Just to get people to say "no no youre soooo pretty!" When you hear "im a horrible mother i should just die!" Your instinct is to say "youre not a bad mom, i dont want you dead!" Reaffirm. Drop the original subject that made her say she should just die. Tell her how good she is! But.. what was said isnt bad. Her daughter shouldnt have to take on that responsibility- she is just grown from a child to an adult and needs to have the option to live her own life. If she WANTED to care for her mother thatd be wonderful, but she doesnt. And every time she tried to express this she was given the same "im a horrible mother and i should just die" to redirect the conversation from "we need to find a new caregiver" to "no mom its okay youre not horrible please dont say that i love you!" This is an abusive tactic i grew up with. When my mother did something awful and i tried to tell her how she was hurting me she would immediately say the same lines. And as a young girl the emotional burden was placed on me to balance my adult mother. "Mom you really hurt me earlier " "I KNOW YOU THINK IM A HORRIBLE MOTHER!" "no! What? I didnt say that (even though it was TRUE) Mom youre not horrible! Please stop saying that". It went from a productive conversation about how to avoid hurting me to me coddling her after she had punched me and thrown me down the staircase in a single sentence. Deflect reassign roles ignore the cause and press on. Im not sayin shes lying necessarily but i DO think based on what she herself said that she is overplaying how bad her condition truly is. Its messed up that she wont even consider finding a new care giver so her daughter can marry and have children of her own. Live her own life. If she does have EDS it doesnt stop her abysmal behavior towards her daughter.

[@stezton]

Cherokee & Cheyenne? Mom's apparently a fan of Native American names.

[@jkmarblejk7445]

stezton yea who cares wtf

[@angellightning5781]

Definitely loves the tribes name. That’s tacky af though to use them that way lol.

[@VC-Toronto]

Or they were conceived in a Jeep and a Chevy.

[@laurenadams4624]

V C your theory is my favorite

[@angellightning5781]

V C You probably right.

[@Olivia-df8nd]

“I just want help.” Have you considered the help your daughter needs? Poor thing is an angel, and needs a good nights rest.

[@stephaniemartinez710]

Yea, this girl needs a break, she has bags under her eyes. I would give her a big hug and treat her to a spa day.

[@achoo4981]

Not a day, *a whole damn lifetime.*

[@tootsiedawn2016]

She's afraid to let her daughter know she's been taking care of her when she really didn't need it. That's what it all boils down to. When she ends up REALLY needing help they won't be there.

[@ericaschaidt8588]

TootsiesCreationz exactly. You could tell that because of her reaction and backpedaling when asked about the amount she thinks she’s capable of doing vs what she’s actually doing. She starts by admitting she’s only doing 20% of what she is capable of doing and when pressed she starts getting frustrated and backpedaling because she doesn’t want to lose that help.

[@latina_1716]

TootsiesCreationz, I agree. They both will resent their mother later on n when she really needs help(as u say) they won’t want to help.

[@CZ4E]

“I want that for her, I just don’t know where IM going to turn” dear god woman listen to yourself. Your daughter is 24, who did SHE have to turn to??????? Thank god I had a good mother who taught me to fend for myself.

[@batfleckforever3594]

Narcissists always use "I" statements.

[@offgridjack5779]

The daughter needs to TAKE her life back and stop waiting for her mother to GIVE it to her as that will never happen.

[@kaylaa4972]

Y'all I just noticed that the 2 sisters are both named after native American tribes Cherokee and Cheyenne 😶

[@YoutubeCommenter1st]

What a great mom.

[@glamsky3257]

@@KZbinCommenter1st Lol..

[@angelinadubois4842]

And they're white. The audacity

[@cs-ix1wj]

Angelina Dubois Cheyenne looks mixed tho

[@catalystcody4949]

That’s cultural appropriation. Terrible terrible

[@shaimistry1149]

‘’ I just want help’’ In other words ‘’ I just want someone to do everything for me ‘’

[@sararomero7090]

This reminds me of my aunt who I lived with when I was in high school. She said she "needed help" because she was sick but really she was just fat. After 4 years of being her absolute slave, I got up and walked out the door one day. I had waited on her hand and foot, gave her my entire paycheck from my job, all while being an Honors/AP student. And just like this woman, she would go on tirades, throw things, scream, guilt me, etc. if everything wasn't exactly to her liking. Walk away from her. I walked away, cut all communication, and have never regretted it for a second.

[@JL-iu7fk]

Good for you Sara! I'm glad you were able to recognize and escape an abusive situation.

[@annastarr2043]

Thank goodness you developed a spine

[@ryanmercier2378]

Good for you , congratulations

[@freedomdividendnews5042]

sorry about that Sara. Keep up the good work

[@mrsspanner14]

Good for you. ♥️ I’m disabled but my daughter comes first; it’s not and never will be her job to be responsible for me. This woman has parentified her daughter and that is manipulative and abusive.

[@lmamd87]

Parents: it’s not your children’s responsibility to care for you. You chose to bring us into the world and that meant you were legally responsible for 18 years. We don’t owe you for that part.

[@mellenamintz]

Preach 👏 it's actually 16 years but yes I 100% agree if you are not ready to take care or be present in a child that you bring into this world don't have them

[@lmamd87]

Mellena Mintz 18 in my country.

[@mellenamintz]

@@lmamd87 16 in mine wasn't trying to start anything literally was backing u up

[@lmamd87]

Mellena Mintz oh I was just letting you know the age in Ireland! Damn lack of facial expressions in writing!

[@mellenamintz]

@@lmamd87 ya I hate that lol someone should come out with that I know now that you weren't hating on me

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

When my daughter was born, she was small. I had to be awake and alert 20 minutes of every hour to feed her. This daughter looks more tired than I looked then.

[@nadyabermudez7761]

Jane Adelaide Lennox was she born early or with an illness? Sorry if I sound rude

[@freyagreaves1460]

I actually have chronic pain, and I still manage to live a life without hurting others

[@princessoverkill2424]

It's called Parentification, the process of role reversal whereby a child is obliged to act as parent to their own parent or sibling. It's basically abuse

[@chicbro7560]

She is causing her daughter so much pain and trouble, if it's hard for her she needs to go into a retirement home.

[@777Tig-b4v]

Maybe they should just toss her in the trash. 🙄

[@tyriexs5]

@@777Tig-b4v yeah maybe, SHE'S ABUSING HER 24 Y.O FINANCIALLY & MORE IMPORTANTLY MENTALLY. YU MUST BE THE SAME WAY. HER MOTHER IS PHYSICALLY ABLE SHE USES HER SHE HAS NO ILLNESS. I HAVE 5 I'D NEVER DO ANYTHING LIKE THIS. IF I'M THT ILL I'LL RATHER MY CHILDREN TO LIVE THEIR LIVES.

[@landonp629]

@@tyriexs5 It might not be just about illness... Personally, my mother lives with me now and I'd not have it any other way. Mind you, she pays her share of the bills and all and isn't really a burden, but I'd never dream of tossing her in a nursing home or retirement community - but that might just be a product of my upbringing - my mom and I have always been close. I suppose if you can't stand your parent(s) like most kids, then so be it.

[@010101Be]

💜 I am attempting to dispel some deep ignorance, and ABLEISM, here. 🥄🥄🥄🥄 Having EDS is like being Goldie Hawn, in Death Becomes Her! You LOOK Great, then your body parts start disconnecting. I was fine when I was younger. (I GOT RUN OVER BY A TRUCK, AND WALKED IT OFF! That is how pain hardy I was, they didn't see great pain, so they didn't X-ray, sent me home w/ broken jaw and spine). 🚶🏽‍♀️🚚🤕. EDS was compared by a Cancer Pain specialist, as being 7 Times more painful than what many Cancer patients experience. And it is without Treatment or Cure. There are very few doctors who will agree to see us, but there is no Cure, and very little knowledge and understanding of it, aside from a handful of specialists scattered worldwide! This poor, ill woman believed she was getting help from a specialist here, and got ambushed with "Find somewhere to Go!" Despicable. Her daughter has bags because she likely has EDS, too. It's genetic! When she starts suffering, she will feel terrible for treating her ailing mother that way! But, It gets worse. I wish I could work, like before. I loved hiking, backpacking, rollerblading, and worked multiple jobs! Now, I can't always get up to make soup. I can't do dishes without passing out from TOS, or POTS. My eds loose vertebrae slide, and I'm down, and useless. I do not want to be a veggie. 😥. Try not to judge. Especially based on an edited piece by this slimeball, who gets his jollies from attacking the suffering. We Zebras know what it is like to not be believed, and the struggle for diagnosis, in a sea of EDS-ignorant doctors. We can't quantify her pain based on looking at her, as no one could with me. My fingers/hands are dislocating from a few comments as is. No internet job for me! Voice to text doesn't understand dislocating jaws, either. 😥

[@sognodiangeli5436]

Broke my heart watching the guilt on that poor young woman's face asking for her right to live her life.

[@Keyspot]

I've been were the daughter is and it's not only extremely hard but depressing

[@misstressglamourghoul_6663]

Dude I'm starting to feel that my moms going to be like that lady

[@Keyspot]

@@misstressglamourghoul_6663 Yeah and there's a fine line between helping and being taken advantage of and the more reliant they get on you the more of a prisoner you become and at that point all you can do is live on their behalf while your life passes you by.

[@cristinaaristizabal9882]

This is one of the many faces that depression has. She is depressed. She needs help with that depression in order to move forward.

[@glamsky3257]

And she makes her daughter deppressed too. Look at her face.

[@B_27]

This isn't depression, this is attention seeking, narcissistic behaviour. The woman has no self awareness and is totally self absorbed.

[@moonlightcorner1511]

After all she got divorced

[@AngelDeed]

This is why women shouldn't stay at home and rely on a man their whole lives. And if a man let's her stay home, not have a job, not have qualifications and then he leaves her with nothing then he is an ahole too in my opinion.

[@MyHeart1955]

She knew. Otherwise, she wouldn’t have said “the oldest daughter should take care of her”. HELP, HELP, HELP..... TRY NOT TO NEED HELP. Most of the people I’ve been around with “helpless” issues end up like this. I have 2 grown children, 1 lives with me but I take care of myself and damn sure won’t be a “helpless” moocher. People treated as helpless, delicate little girls, grow into helpless, delicate little adults.

[@ericaschaidt8588]

It’s rather telling and frustrating how she reacts at the beginning of the video when Dr Phil describes how her daughter’s boyfriend thinks she’s using her daughter. She rolls her eyes like she thinks what’s being said is absolutely false. She knows she’s being manipulative. For her to claim later in the clip she didn’t realize they felt that way is completely absurd.

[@thepearlswirl]

“ I don’t have.. it hurts.. *chuckles* “ *Dr. Phil: Right* “ I mean it hurts a lot.. “ *Dr.Phil: Ok* Face = Iconic 3:26 💯

[@mademeowwselle3701]

Lol

[@greghillard2515]

Pearl Swirl Dr. Phil getting tired of every bodies BS 😂

[@hermitcrabinavan7244]

Physical and emotional distance brings clarity

[@jennajune2101]

I’ve lived this, as the oldest & having to take care of my mom & siblings. My mom is an addict, narcissist, manipulator, threatened everything, called me every name in the book, etc. I had to cut almost all communication with my mom & had to tell her she couldn’t live with me 3yrs ago, when I was 33 & a mom of 3 boys. It took me that long to realize I had to focus on myself & my own kids. My mom is now living in a motel. Do I feel guilty? Yes. Should I feel guilty after dedicating my life to others? Absolutely not!

[@stellatorres7922]

That horrible woman, she can't just do that to her daughter!

[@honeysuckleesq.3757]

This is inexcusable. My grandmother is this same type of leech & guilts my mother daily. She hasnt worked since 1985. She didnt raise any of her kids but expects them to take care of her. My mother is 63 yo with MS and still works every day. I have begged her to let me take care of her but I will not deal with my grandmother. Unfortunately, where she goes that soul sucker follows.

[@karencarpenter5845]

If your in charge or around, you can be the strong one and make the harder sane decisions.

[@alainac.8183]

I'm in a lot of physical pain everyday, yet, i still manage to go to work, and still do things for myself. The lady is just a manipulative, lazy, moocher. I feel so sorry for her daughter. It looks like she's killed her spark. She needs to get away from her mother.

[@ChrisFalconer]

if mum's that dependent on care and support she needs a care home or home help or just someone who isn't staying and taking care out of her out of an obligation. the poor daughter looks worn out and beyond

[@Makeuploveculture]

Chris Falconer yes thankyou!

[@Henry-kz4gn]

"I just want help" And thats all youve been getting. You need less help.

[@lakeatman504]

“I didn’t know they felt this way” umm the daughter face said it all. It’s not fair for Chyanne to devote her life to her mother like that , we all have our own life to live

[@HopeLove123]

God help all three of them. After the show and straight talk to Mom, hopefully it will get better. Hang in there girls and Mom try your best to independently do better! Mom you can do it, get up and get going!

[@katherineKnight143]

My favorite question "HOW COULD YOU NOT"

[@monicapyle]

I have chronic back pain from a spinal deformity and I know I'll be on disability soon and I'd never allow my kids (one is already grown and the other will be in a couple of years) to stop their lives and care for me. As a mother, I want to see them happy and living as independent adults and my pain is my problem.

[@polona9566]

Her daughter Cheyenne, she really looks axhausted, poor girl.

[@karenevanoff8586]

What courage! Saying that to her mother! That took alot of guts.

[@uberlolzzz]

The way this woman talks and acts seems so disingenuous

[@KCsFunHouse]

I am so proud of that young woman, she looks so tired for all she’s had to do. I hope she has a wonderful life.

[@jaggirl]

I had an infection in my spine 2 years ago, and was in hospital for 9 weeks. The infection got out of control due to a hospital stuffing up my kidneys. By the time my kidneys had returned to normal. And they could begin to treat the infection. It had eaten part of 2 discs. I was a nurse at the time. I live with a certain amount of pain everyday. I've gotten used to it. I don't take meds anymore. And I'm working again, after 2 years of recovery. I can't do nursing any more. I had to rethink my career. But I work 4 days a week. Can't run like I used to, or stay in a squatting position for too long. But it's my new normal, and I've adapted very well..

[@Freepalestinewithinourlifetime]

You are a fighter 👏🏼 keep going your story is amazing 🤩

[@roysgirl11]

A lot of us are in pain everyday 😔

[@MomoMomo-nb8sw]

Her daughter is such a pure angel you can see the hurt in her when she was telling her mom she needs to move out

[@jasper7586]

Middle Eastern parents: eXuCuSe Me “yOuR oWn LiFe?!?!?!??”

[@faresbdh6483]

Jasper Storm lmaooo all so true 🤣

[@marissasue319]

Asian parents too 😐

[@jasper7586]

Marissa Sue yeah No lie there😔

[@dragonflycreek9995]

🤣🤣🤣

[@tundratitan7]

While the daughter is speaking the "mom" is just looking at her with such contempt. Like she is just putting up with this show so she can go home, say she tried and carry on with life as usual.

[@elqxir2046]

Woman: it hurts. Also woman: laughs.

[@GsoloDolo]

24 years old and look at the bags under her eyes 😭 she is seriously exhausted! My heart goes out to her. She is STRONG. I hope she gets the life she deserves. 💜💜

[@mxft4982]

This whole family is beautiful

[@guineapigtoons7857]

MXFT except that hippo of a mother

[@EnchantedJewels]

God Bless Cheyenne & Cherokee You young ladies are just so Amazing & beautiful souls ..... LOOK AT YOUR DAUGHTER , This is tough on her ....she is CRYING !!! I' live with Chronic pain , I've had surgeries to try and correct sciatica and knee replacements, I worked part time up to about 2 years ago ....I DONT DEPEND on my children....YOU NEED TO BE THE PARENT !!! IM KEEPING YALL IN MY PRAYERS ....SENDING LOVE & LIGHT YOUR WAY !!!

[@joelle7041]

Her: I'm in too much pain to do anything Also her: *throwing things*

[@aisha_8632]

I feel so bad for the daughter, she looks so exhausted and worn out.

[@Platymapuss]

I have arthritis, bursitis in my ankles, Achilles tendonitis, and plantar fasciitis... And I still hold down a 45 hour a week job where I am on my feet my whole shift. I feel zero sympathy for her. Every step I take is agony. Yet I still go because I have bills and rent to pay, independence is something I take great pride in... I can't imagine asking someone who is supposed to be dependent on me, who I'm supposed to teach how to live on their own and be independent, to wait on me hand and foot and financially support me. That's shameful. I couldn't look at myself in the mirror every day.

[@bipinbhartola9147]

I'm 27. I have rheumatoid arthritis and ankylosing spondylitis and I pretty much do exactly what you do. Some days are difficult. I guess it comes down to what you want and are willing to do

[@sassywaffles5720]

That mom has a smile on her face in every clip. She loves being waited on and doesn’t have any intention on stopping what she’s doinh

[@leluxbeautique5671]

Beautiful girl your spirit is shining through! This mom has some major growing to do!

[@kayleekarnes5817]

"It hurts... Really bad" Well for starters, losing some weight will take a lot of pressure off your joints. Lazy people making excuses... Very frustrating to watch

[@brandeecastilleja1753]

This is true even 20 lbs would make a big differance

[@girl.anachronism5639]

Yes! 👏👏👏

[@thattypicalgalgamer8845]

If she is in so much pain working out would hurt even more?

[@Kimariesings]

@@thattypicalgalgamer8845 She can start by modifying her diet and just getting up and moving every day. No need to work out until she has lost some weight.

[@joebloggs6922]

@@thattypicalgalgamer8845 you don't need to work out to lose weight. Calories in calories out. Just need to eat less

[@manrajsingh468]

When her sister named all of the people the mom has depended on makes me believe that the mom is entitled to depend on others

[@akibabe09]

I have daughter's too, and arthritis! But I will never do that to my children!. I'm quite independent ☺️.I let my kids make their own future ❤️

[@tyrrany_reigns1]

In truth that is what keeps arthritis at bay.

[@husamidris292]

I don't know what u culture is for me iam araby guy I take care of my old mom i pay her bill am not a rich but sorry I thinks u culture don't take care of your mom and if she died you aloso don't care about it

[@010101Be]

husam idris 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💜💜💐Thank You!!

[@taylornativi9457]

What a well spoken young lady.

[@MsLoverPower]

Oddly, this woman's great resistance to do more in life and dr. Phil's speech has sparked fire in me to do even more in order to make my life easier for my boy and myself 😊

[@soloren7674]

The daughter has bags under her eyes at such a young age and looks incredibly tired . By helping her mother it is hurting her so badly

[@xavierafidela2604]

It's funny to see how the mother tried to restrain herself to not yelling or doing any impulsive act when Dr. Phil talking

[@alyssaalbacete3306]

When she talks about how much it hurts, it reminds me of when I used to fake being sick to get out of school 😂

[@katrinavaughan3027]

Aw the daughter who takes care of the mom is SOOO sweet and soft spoken feel so bad for her. Its easy to take advantage of people that are so nice, such a shame

[@amandapolson9771]

I feel sorry for everyone in this situation. It’s scary and isolating to be chronically ill. And this mom seems to be extremely depressed. But she needs to figure out how to get help and let the daughters live!

[@teenagedirtbag9685]

Can we just appreciate the sister for a minute? Cheyenne is a sweetheart but her sister is bold for standing up for herself early on.

[@mr.j3371]

“I just want help...” Yes, and a job too would be nice.

[@christianpadilla8999]

Even the mother is making me feel guilty

[@theonlychild4719]

How respectfully this child said her words, trying not to hurt her mother even after all these years she's manipulating her. Poor girl is exhausted 😪

[@cielocastrejon3728]

I feel like the mom is just making excuses.

[@zaynabmalik6905]

Sometimes when my mom goes to the grocery store...... i lie down in her garden and pretend im a carrot

[@purpleroyalty9349]

Its funny because my name is cheyenne too and I've gone through this same exact thing. Taking care of my mom taking care of my brother who was born prematurely.. I turned out okay.. i was a mom at 5(to my youngest brother) because my mom was an addict and had a lot of issues.. get over it let go she's a grown woman find her help and move away. It gets better.. from one cheyenne to another

[@annag3601]

I feel so bad for her daughter. She look exhausted. I could never do this to my child

[@rasheeda1303]

She did raise some kind/respectful young ladies..check back in Mom😊

[@aladyof50]

She has bags under her eyes, poor young lady. She's exhausted! I hope she is able to break free soon!