Mom Who Depends On Daughter For Nearly Everything Says She Feels Like A Burden

[@atrustedservant7976]

That's called a "parasitic" relationship. Scared and unprepared for the real world is not an actual disability.

[@knightcool7769]

aTrusted Servant 👏👏preach

[@ihateyouall7026]

aTrusted Servant or leaching (but essentially they are synonymous)

[@NajSinghs...NajNibbles]

💯

[@annaleebelize6014]

Dont b giving her another diagnose

[@haigdakessian8006]

Yes in biology it’s called parasitism

[@twistedsister4623]

Her muscles/body hurts because she doesn't do anything all day every day.

[@junruluo4821]

So true, physical exercise will help greatly.

[@checurtis6758]

Right! Fatigue from muscle wasting d/t inactivity.

[@evelynanderson6016]

T W I S T E D s i s t e r I agree but I also have EDS and I am in pain just sitting bc the joints move in the wrong way

[@jgzaz]

@@evelynanderson6016 I would understand her scenario if she was actually sick, but she's not diagnosed (I think she WebMDed herself) because if she had a diagnosis, she'd be able to collect disability. And if her practitioner believed her, she would have been directly referred to a specialist. I'm just baffled by her. She "wants" to get better, but she doesn't show it. My heart goes out to those with this condition who really are suffering, but I don't think this woman is one of those people.

[@twistedsister4623]

@@evelynanderson6016 I am very sorry that you suffer. Nobody should have to.

[@djr6876]

Im confused? Diseases don’t start because of divorce. How is she getting all those pills without a formal diagnosis?

[@mariahwhitneycelinejanetmadona]

DJR I was wondering that. What are those pills?

[@mariahwhitneycelinejanetmadona]

@@dootdoot94xo44 Who are you and why are you speaking to me? Find the nearest door and move along.

[@mariahwhitneycelinejanetmadona]

@@dootdoot94xo44 Funny how you chose to respond to me and not the OP who asked the exact same question.

[@gwendolyn0515]

@@dootdoot94xo44 wow why are you so defensive? She chose to go on tv so we can all judge her. You mind your own business

[@simplyadventures1732]

She also has been diagnosed arthritis.

[@SandraFlint12]

It’s sad that you can see the bags under the daughters eyes, she looks so tired and sad

[@abbeykhull]

She kinda sucks at as a mum. Guilt tripping her daughter to make her feel bad, making her pay and honestly kinda lazy.

[@Anabe1l]

She doesn't "kinda suck" she just sucks straight up!

[@abbeykhull]

Uno Reverse Card yeah, very true.

[@Vermillion37]

Thanks u is a snaccc too!

[@abbeykhull]

That Dude ;)

[@michelegray5970]

No she DOES suck and she IS lazy!! That poor girl. I feel so bad for her.

[@stezton]

The more she reads about, the more she knows how to act like she has it.

[@tessmoney]

YES

[@saitamacraft5322]

Smart but stupid

[@juliam.9509]

Yes

[@mashleyden]

No, this is insulting for those of us that have the disorder. It takes many years to be taken seriously by doctors and find a specialist that is actually knowledgeable about the disorder. I feel for this lady, EDS is an absolutely horrible diagnosis that consumes your whole life and takes away your independence.

[@bostonlatina]

Exactly

[@silviab.850]

Her daughter has the right to live her own life.

[@heinrichschmehl611]

Thanks for clarifying that.

[@janebaker4912]

Yes!!!!

[@memyself1176]

The only right she has to to serve the DPRK and financially support my ballistic missile program🚀

[@blairwest4502]

Silvia B. She also has the right to devote her life to helping her mother. That’s the beauty of America, we’re free to do what we want, regardless of if others think it’s right or not.

[@paloma4444]

Having the right does not mean is right to abandon family

[@nathanaelreuter4168]

What is wrong with this lady, she’s ruining that girls life.

[@moodmeditation4458]

How??? she's just taking a small portion of her life, being her mother it's totally fine?

[@knightcool7769]

KZbin Daily Fix The girl can’t go out and live her life because she feels bad for her mom and ends up staying home and along cate of her when she should be going out and living. Her mother is being extremely selfish

[@mokc816]

KZbin Daily Fix i bet you have never taken care of a depressed parent physically and financially. the weight of carrying a capable adult is real. her role is to be a strong parent. get up grind and do what you have to do.

[@knightcool7769]

Monique Alvarado-Arellano Well said.

[@skydaddy9104]

KZbin Daily Fix because she’s young she needs to live her life.

[@simplyshanna5021]

This is where life gets you when you don’t go to school and depend on a man to take care of you. Women pleassseeee do better for yourselves!!

[@yellowrich]

Omg. I know... my sisters in laws they are all just not doing nothing and depending on my brothers... and i cant help but to think of what will happen if they all get divorced? They will stay with nothing. Cause my brothers are the ones that make and have the money. I just think of all the wasted time. They dont have to work but at least they could be studying or something to prepare them for the World . Cause it might not last forever.

[@simplyshanna5021]

Richgirl Famous TAROT yeah that’s true. Some women LIVE to “take care of the home” and be homemakers. I could never. I like having control over my own life. I can’t depend on someone else. I would love have an equal household

[@Gayathri267]

Ikr, in India, literally many of my friends got married early at 21 or 22 and are fully dependent on their husbands and people here consider it a pride, you know like get a job or get married. When we are searching or studying for jobs, it means that we are really dumb and lazy and that girl who got married gets alot of applause!!!😑

[@user-qd8gm8uh2o]

You said it!

[@yaynila4372]

@@Gayathri267 same happens in algeria it just makes me hate the society

[@cristinaaristizabal9882]

I think she is depressed, so she doesn’t have any motivation in life. She needs to treat the depression first in order to move forward.

[@capriquarious6085]

Agree

[@IsabelOEM]

I agree. as someone who's been diagnosed with depression, I completely get the lack of motivation and physical fatigue. But, depression is no excuse to burden your daughter and guilt trip her when she wants to live out her own life.

[@stephanyj4139]

I agree with you

[@vickimus1987]

I have ehlers danlos. I am in pain all the time, my mobility is very limited. I work 4 days a week and rest up 3 days. My life is limited in terms of what I can do, but work is the priority to be able to stay independent. I don't have much sympathy with sitting around all day. I dislocate regularly, I can't remember a time I wasn't in pain but this is how it is, it's not fair to rely on everyone else.

[@sofa6663]

Vickimus sparkle good on you for taking control of yr life ! I’m sorry you have to go through it

[@Maceman486]

You're a champion. I wished our society looked up to people like you more.

[@chrisdooley6468]

As a quadriplegic for 33 years since I was a sophomore in high school I can completely relate to the struggle and effort (and chronic pain) of your day to day. I commend you and your tenacity. People often take for granted how difficult it is to remain independent like us in the face of adversity. I wish you the best

[@nanad1111]

You're doing really greattt 💪

[@caro1732]

I have EDS too. I do as much as I can on my good days, rest on the bad ones. It has taken so much away from me that my independence is something I'm fiercely protective of.

[@leighb8485]

This lady can barely contain her smile. She’s thrilled to be taken care of by her daughter.

[@elliemoctorii8820]

yo facts, few times while her daughter was helping istg i saw a faint smile.. not saying this as like a joke, genuinly saw it few times

[@TheOnlyTexasNinja]

She is a narcissist. Its called Duper's Delight smirk. She is enjoying the attention

[@yaadgalja]

She has been pretending to be sick for so long she actually think that she is.

[@Mykidsaresmarterthanyours]

The mind is a powerful tool

[@jenniferbates2811]

Absolutely

[@esmitty-7777]

Yes! I went through the same thing with my mother. She pretended for long that she made herself ill mentally and physically.

[@GlamMetalSiren]

Samantha Williams that’s my grandma she laid in bed until her legs didn’t work she just lays their and screams at my mom because she helps her I’m 12 and just wanna do fun things with my grandma but I can’t I love her she is nice but sometimes she yells at me for dumb reasons my other grandma died of brain cancer but I hope I can get my grandma out of her bed one day

[@hannahw4769]

Samantha Williams , yeah she has.

[@RayMak]

The mom needs to move a little more physically says Dr Google

[@dannysigurdson6533]

I asked Nurse Bing. She just gave me a bunch of useless information about Eucalyptus oil and asked if I wanted to change my default browser

[@homersimpson7091]

@Sophia Kim Let’s play same here

[@jumanamaswara8434]

@Sophia Kim Let’s play ME TOO WTH

[@bluejaywayx]

hello again hahaha

[@anika8030]

Hi again! It's making me so happy that you're a fan of Dr. Phil! I've been subscribed to you since 2018!

[@swagvrse7337]

“I haven’t been diagnosed officially yet.” “My nurse told me I have it.” “I googled it and I got the criteria.” “My nurse said that I only show symptoms, but I do not have a copy of it to show.” “Actually, I was officially diagnosed with it, but no paperwork to show.” SO WHICH ONE IS IT??

[@theoldbag6531]

None of them!

[@clarkjc44355]

Yeah that's odd. Because once you have a diagnosis it shows on all of your medical records. My 4yo has this condition and it's clear as day on all of her discharge paperwork from any appointment under the "diagnosis" column. Along with every other diagnosis or condition she's every had. Even past ones that are resolved show.

[@JessiekaIsANerd]

I have EDS. I'm 100% convinced this woman DOES NOT have it. She suffers instead from a condition called extreme laziness.

[@heatherh5450]

Just a note of correction: It was a nurse practitioner, not a nurse. :-)

[@dagodee5268]

I had pinched nerves on both my arms and on my chest. I googled the symptoms and it said heart attack. I was so scared I almost had a heart attack.

[@carisowealthy]

Shes depressed off the divorce I've seen people break down after seperation from a spouse educated people who worked so hard in life to only drown after a seperation

[@cgogetit]

Depression doesn't discriminate. Educated or not. Rich or poor. Tall or short. Black or White. Fat or skinny. Pretty or otherwise, it doesn't matter.

[@dewilew2137]

Cari so wealthy ugh. That’s so depressing.

[@carisowealthy]

@Rocky Roads it becomes a chain reaction to those around you. She is toxic

[@carisowealthy]

@@dewilew2137 it is. Make sure life dont drown you. I seen folks go down

[@fhantasm]

She's depressed because she probably didn't receive the alimony $$$ she thought she would.

[@hellstar7814]

So basically she’s never had and never wanted a job? Being a stay at home mom is hard but when you no longer have kids that depend on you...get a job if you’re not gonna at least clean and cook and run errands. Edit: If you come from or believe in a culture where it’s proper to take care of the parents once you’re grown, that’s awesome and I respect that because that’s really loyal. BUT this lady comes from a culture and clearly believes in a culture where the child is suppose to grow up and go be on its own to raise its own family while you do your own thing till you really need their help. This lady doesn’t really need help and could certainly find other ways around this besides absolutely draining her kid and not lifting a finger. What I’m saying is, the culture she comes from says she’s being a MOOCH. That’s not things are done in the way of life where she’s from and she clearly knows it and needs to let her daughter go raise her own family. She can clearly take care of herself enough to figure out a different situation and so logic dictates that’s what should be done🤷🏻‍♀️

[@tauresattauresa7137]

She is overweight too.

[@mirage999]

@@tauresattauresa7137 yeah

[@laneyjones2334]

Stop judging dam

[@himmie1]

Her mother took care of her now she is taking care of her mother that's how life works

[@5445jedi]

himmie1 Her mother can take care of herself but chooses not to so her daughter is now her slave. That’s not how life works, moron. You don’t get to quit your job because you don’t want to work. The mom was never diagnosed with anything. She’s delusional and so are you. lol

[@Delordem]

This is the kind of woman’s who hears what she wants to hear and runs with it. First the nurse practitioner said “you have some symptoms that resemble” then it’s “you have it”. She has selective hearing is what she has.

[@Alan-wj5zc]

Dayna H Yep she probably needs a therapist.

[@afshanqutub]

Amazing

[@taylorjoy5899]

When you’ve been searching for the reason your whole life and finally find it it’s the biggest sense of relief. It happened when I found out I had EDS and then again when I got diagnosed with Celiac Disease. When I got diagnosed with my bone tumour. Finding out what is wrong with you is such an amazing feeling because you know it’s not in your head. You have no idea as you’re not disabled

[@Delordem]

Taylor Joy well that’s a bold Assumption to make that I don’t have my diagnosis and battles. The problem here is SHE NEVER GOT a proper diagnosis. There is a HUGE DIFFERENCE! She has something that maybe possibly has similarities but she takes it as , she has it and as a life sentence. She’s taking it and using it to manipulate and milk her damn kid, and if you think that it’s okay for her and her self diagnosis to do so, then all the power to ya and her.

[@321MjC]

@@Delordem 💯💯💯💯💯 🗣📢

[@vianneybeco8545]

Fun fact: Dr. Phil hates this woman so much he left the comments on

[@iamsimplybee]

Look, just take my thumbs up and go.

[@Quataija]

😂😂😂finish her 🏁

[@stepf2892]

True! He always turns them off for serious ones or the ones that online comments could hurt the guests. He literally thinks she’s bs’ing 😂😂😂

[@Melly16yr10]

Ha ha ha hilarious 😂 😂 😂

[@lily-er8ev]

She feels like a “Burden” BECAUSE SHE IS BEING ONE- she is literally leaching on to her daughter

[@monicapyle]

"I was diagnosed with EDS" Also her: "I haven't exactly been diagnosed with EDS"

[@TheMochamomof3]

In the same sentence!!!

[@mididas2151]

When i read your comment, i expected her to say she was diagnosed and then double back later in the video and say different...but not in the same sentence 😂😂😂

[@ericaschaidt8588]

mididas 21 she contradicts herself in the same damn breath. “I fit all the criteria, the more I read the more I think that’s what I have “. So she DOES have a diagnosis....from herself and WebMD.

[@monicapyle]

@@ericaschaidt8588 Dr. Google has a lot of patients but he usually misdiagnoses everyone lol

[@mididas2151]

@@ericaschaidt8588 😂😂😂

[@ihavetopowerofgodandanimeo2551]

Don't self diagnose

[@TheGhost-qx7sw]

Believe it or not that’s how I felt I had a brain tumour I had a few minor symptoms like head pain and vision blur but I started to read like this idiot and then anxiety sets in and convinces your body that you really do have it and now your stuck living the symptoms unless someone tells you otherwise

[@yeukki]

TheGhost 13 wait did you actually have a brain tumor or no

[@givememore4free]

You can self-diagnose on a lot of things, but EDS not one of them.

[@Hannah-zw9ow]

The idea that formal diagnosis is necessary in EVERY situation to be taken seriously is classist. Plenty of people can’t afford to go to the doctor which leaves them completely unable to receive a formal diagnosis. Your leg is broken even if you haven’t been diagnosed with a broken leg.

[@edamame1879]

@@TheGhost-qx7sw if you feel uncomfortable and suspicious that you may have some illness, then go to doctor

[@missjonesy36]

Just gonna say it: her joints would probably hurt less if she was a healthy weight. Would probably help improve her mental state as well 💁

[@isabella20mar]

Keishan Jones exactly. I work in orthopedics and weight plays a large role with pain control. The less you weight the better you feel and less weight on your joints. She is very overweight.

[@arihopkins2756]

I was about to comment the SAME thing!!!!

[@tracyd693]

Absolutely! She needs to lose about 50 pounds in each leg.

[@ninagezellie4206]

On point! If she moved more, the pain would be less.

[@queenbutterfly4888]

Exactly

[@thattypicalgalgamer8845]

"*I was diagnosed with EDS*" "*I have not formally been diagnosed with EDS*"

[@mrsrockstar220]

Her poor daughter looks so exhausted 😩 I feel so bad for her. Her mother took advantage of her good nature.

[@XXallycat101XX]

Her poor daughter has bags under her eyes

[@Luv2u01]

I can’t even imagine doing this to my children. I have 4 daughters who have lives of their own that I’m thrilled to be a part of. I have medical disabilities but I provide for myself financially and otherwise. I would frankly rather go ahead and pass on rather than to have to live as this woman is living, as a burden to her daughter. It’s frankly no life to live.

[@rahman1314]

parents are not a burden to their child. if you have raised your children right, they will never see you as a burden.

[@mashleyden]

Bruh are you suggesting she just die...?

[@Ma1n_Zane]

Being a teenager I wouldnt want to be a burden on anyone. The thought of not being able to supply myself anymore (as I work a job and mainly pay for my own food among rent and other things) brings me shame as I'd no longer be any use to anyone. Why am I, a 17 year old, more knowledgeable and caring about that fact than this women who lives a life without purpose..

[@paloma4444]

@@Ma1n_Zane Dude, you are so gross to suggest a person only has purpose or worth if they can get paid. Get a hold of yourself.

[@Ma1n_Zane]

@@paloma4444, not if they can get paid. She does have purpose, my judgement above was clouded in the moment. You're right, her worth as a person can and would never be replaced. In fact, her daughter continuing to support her mother is indicative of exactly how she succeeded in raising her child. I still would not want to be a burden on another's life, as I have done to my parents for about 18 years. Hopefully her good does get noticed. Taking care of her mother the way she does is nothing short of amazing.

[@andreariegler]

Sick or not, the daughter is not an indentured servant. Mom has to solve her own problems

[@jenniferbates2811]

Absolutely. Any state she lives in has social services.

[@sonyfusion1994]

Would you do it if that was your mom? Just saying sometimes we say things

[@5445jedi]

sonyfusion1994 My mom wouldn’t fake having a disease or lie about being diagnosed with a disease and quit her job because she is not a lazy pos like this lady. My mom loves her adult children enough to let them live their own lives instead of making them her slaves out of pure laziness.

[@5445jedi]

Fahad Amin Most people’s moms love them enough to support themselves instead of lying about having an illness like this mom, “smart guy.”

[@TheSjuris]

Stoic Park she’s too lazy to even see a doctor let alone be treated for an illness.

[@Levi_The_One_The_Only]

"I feel like I'm a burden on my daughter" ...yea that sounds like an accurate statement right there homie

[@fredrick5152]

Look how the way she acts when she’s at doctor Phil and at home she acts so different.

[@M0chaJ0J0]

Auburn Calloway very lively on the show.... it's an act

[@MrLangkahKanan]

shes enjoying the attention. just like she enjoyed the attention and sympathy from her daughter

[@sos-2.0]

Imagine never having a job lol Most people have jobs before they are an adult

[@Noname-yy4tu]

Ummmmmm someone I know doesnt have a job because of her children and stress because of her family in law who gives her a lot of bad times everday all day......

[@miekaash6831]

Kristelkriel TWDS sounds like all the more reason to get a damn job. Get away from them lol.

[@HannahLee135]

I’m 24 and have never had a “real” job. My REAL disability prevents me from working a normal job, and that’s why I opened an Etsy shop. That’s my job 😂

[@cheyennedevore8381]

This isn't quite the same, but I met an older lady once that had never pumped gas. She had to be older than 60 or maybe 70. She said her husband had always done it but he was in hospital at the time.

[@paigepaige2672]

@@cheyennedevore8381 my grandmother is the same way, has never pumped her own gas in her life because my grandfather always did it.

[@nj9149]

"She helps take care of me." WOMAN, SHE TAKES CARE OF EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE!!

[@MotherOfWednesday]

She wants to get better as long as she doesn't have to change.

[@superkalafragilistic8289]

Lol

[@elayna4064]

so she got a divorce and became emotionally dependent on her daughter? that’s just great

[@ryanslack2666]

When she says "I couldn't hold a job today" I think she means "I cannot be bothered to get up and try"

[@carmelmcaulay3659]

She’s replaced her husband with her daughter.....she’s emotionally blackmailing her. I’ve a mum who’s done that

[@StuffedBox]

Her daughter needs a life of her own and she's dragging her daughter down with her misery. What a selfish mother, she knows what she's doing and yet not doing anything about it.

[@mikehunt8247]

This lady has always been dependent on people her whole life. Time to grow up.

[@bekahpaige3565]

Her muscles probably hurt because she hasn’t done any thing or got up 🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@houseofbows]

The mom looks more energetic that the daughter. She is milking this for money. The first thing she said she was dependent on her for was not that shes disabled but that she has no car and money. If shes disabled thats still no excuse to blow her daughters money and credit shopping. She should be spending her time cutting coupons and helping her daughter save money as a thank you.

[@mohammedriyaadhfarouk2059]

I'm so grateful for my mother. Hit a like if you are also grateful for your mum.

[@eyeamtheomen]

😂 I love how Dr. Phil immediately hit her with the cut the bull; that gets no gas round here. Where's the rest? I really wanna watch all of this roasting.

[@chrisdooley6468]

I’m a quadriplegic for 33 years since I was a sophomore in high school. I live independently and can’t understand how people like her choose to mooch off of others instead of getting that rewarding feeling associated with success one gets from overcoming adversity. Smh very sad

[@nobodymatters3294]

I wish she had half the determination you have. Good for you being independent.

[@ketogorl]

She’s lonely.... her husband left her, her children were growing up & about to leave her .... This is nothing more then a lonely woman DESPERATE to never be alone - so she forced her daughter to support her the way a spouse would 😬😬😬 Financially. Emotionally. Physically Most “caregiving” situation - the person in need of care have some type of income of their own ... she was a stay @ home Mom who lost her husband’s income & decided to leech of her child.

[@taylorjoy5899]

I’d rather be a quadriplegic than have EDS. It’s extremely disabling. I’d honestly rather have cancer so if I beat it the pain would go away. This is for life and it’s degenerative. I can’t even use a knife and fork.

[@8peasant852]

As someone who has been officially diagnosed with EDS I can confirm there are no specialist for it. I got referred to a genetic doctor by a rheumatologist. Most doctors can identify a possibility of having it and can send you to a genetics doctor if they think its of any concern. You have to go to several different doctors to treat the different symptoms and depending on the symptoms you could end with a bunch of doctors.

[@julieelcock8477]

I have rheumatoid arthritis and lung, heart problems plus a stroke and I would never ever let my daughter or granddaughter look after in any way, I live on my own and I manage just fine I would never ask my daughter or granddaughter to give up their lives for me, that would be complete selfishness on my part. This mum should be ashamed of herself. This is really making me angry.

[@tomaytoez]

“Do you have EDS?” “Well yes but no”

[@celestephelps1717]

There's the nursing home. Let your daughters have a life; if you don't want to be a burden.

[@givememore4free]

I don't think she would qualify for nursing home. She's not formally diagnosed, she has no insurance and no disability insurance. The only thing she would be qualified to go to is a homeless shelter.

[@celestephelps1717]

Maybe her daughter can put her in touch with social services so a social worker can take it from there.

[@rachelrumsey5277]

The persons kid deserves so much more than being a care and I hope her and her boyfriends live a long happy life together

[@anthonybarrett8411]

she doesn’t want to work because she still has the mindset that she’s a stay home mom. she feels she doesn’t need to work because she’s never had to.

[@ruslankim6201]

Respect for the daughters that take care of their mom everysingle day!

[@kateruterbories2692]

Being a stay at home, isn't her problem. I'm a stay at home with 3 businesses and a full house!! This woman is manipulative. I wonder if that's why the husband left.

[@katiejayn4595]

Hearing doctor phil call my chronic illness debilitating feels a little validating, most people dont know how hard it can really be to live with

[@melindahearld1470]

This lady is fatigued and depressed and possibly sick. It's unfortunate that there isn't more help for both mother and daughter. Mother needs proper tests run. and treatment for any illness she has She also needs a nutritionist and a exercise program. Once she drops some weight her energy should increase and her self-esteem could lift her up out of this situation. Ultimately relieving her daughter and becoming more independent. I believe there is hope in this situation. Always respect and take care ofl your mother. My humble opinion.

[@melindahearld1470]

@Anita Mullaly yes I agree with you. What I meant to say is she needs physical therapy and treatment for her pain and whatever illness she may have. They both need a support system. I also understand sometimes it takes many years to get a proper diagnosis. I just recently have been diagnosed with gastropeiresis complicated by scar tissue and intestines are entwined. I have been in extreme pain for years. Gained a lot of weight because I haven't been physically active which, is why I have decided to push myself harder to get proper treatment. I finally found the right Dr to do the right test's. So I have compassion for this mother and daughter. My boyfriend helps me and my grown children. I think this lady also needs some antidepressants to help her out with depression. Btw, I'm sorry you hurt with fybromialga. I also have osteoporosis and multiple degenerative diseases. My neck is in a terrible shape . We all have our pains and we should encourage each other to push through the pain. To push through the depression that accompanies illness be it diagnosed or not. The mental pain we all go through at different times in our lives. I hope you push through your pain and can find relief.

[@mobates89]

@@melindahearld1470 Very well said. I pray God will heal your body, mind, soul. As well as provide you peace.🙏❤😇

[@Mr.Potato420]

I think she's sick in the head "I never worked so I can't hold a job now!" she won't even try!

[@MommaSamfa]

@@melindahearld1470 EDS and gastroparesis go hand in hand as does POTS and MCAD. These alone make it impossible to walk some days and theres not always tests or doctors to help. If someone told you to just eat a raw vegan diet, wouldnt you be a bit put off by it? I can't afford to pay specialists out of pocket and most doctors need me to spell EDS and think gastroparesis is a skinny persons' disorder. Its not so simple sometimes.

[@celestephelps1717]

The question is: does she really want to?

[@reeh3885]

She is scared of being in the real world and being an adult, its sad

[@Haileyjane2004]

This reminds me of my stepdad. He is literally so lazy and sits around all day. He has gone days without going to work, complaining about his arthritis and aching muscles. Yet he doesn't do anything.

[@jessehouston1636]

I would never want my mom to feel like that

[@taniaezell8898]

If she feels that bad for depending on her daughter then there is always nursing homes, assistant living, and rest homes. No excuse. This woman is full of bs. Nothing but a manipulator.

[@rosejohnson-tsosie2552]

How convenient to just "give up". Your world reflects your mind.

[@carly3184]

My mom has pancreatic cancer and cries when she has to have help walking to the kitchen/restroom because she feels bad having to have help. I can’t imagine having a mother that is so unapologetically manipulative

[@jubilant714]

This takes honor thou father and thou mother to a whole nother level.

[@tootsiedawn2016]

Doctors say the best thing for arthritis is GETTING UP AND MOVING AROUND! She's a hypochondriac. 🙄

[@mashleyden]

TootsiesCreationz Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome is different, and “getting up and moving around” can sometimes be the worst thing for you.

[@TheSjuris]

Ashleigh she doesn’t even know if she has it. Dr Google isn’t a licensed doctor in any country.

[@danireynoso3101]

Even if she feels like a burden, she should be doing something to help herself. Relying on someone is different from mooching and being a parasite.

[@bbsteele671]

This is so unfair. I lost my Mother at a young age very suddenly. My Mom loved life. She loved us. To see someone take advantage of her children like this is so unfair. Why did my Mom have to go. Obviously this person doesn't want to live. It breaks my heart knowing my Mom would want to be here so badly while this person lies & wastes the life they have so luckily been given. SHAME ON THIS PERSON. I can't even call it a woman, because all the women in my life are strong, brave, & compassionate! Do better! You don't know how lucky you are to still be here!!!

[@cameronshoemaker9701]

How dare she use someone like that!!!My girlfriends grandmother is 70 years old a breast cancer survivor has severa arthritis and many problems !!This is pathetic!!!

[@Aidensgrandma1]

She belongs in an assisted living facility. She is destroying her daughter.

[@zoe9190]

Muscle pain can come from inactivity. I dont see her even trying anything.

[@caitlinfrancis6]

Right off the bat Dr . Phil’s bs monitor is going off and he’s calling this lady out for her bs I love it

[@moysauce788]

It's so painful listening to her trying to defend herself

[@MaximumSpice]

Other people have said basically the problem going on, but this is also why its so important to get a job or a career and work BEFORE you have children, its important to have a skill set.

[@carleethe1st]

I have EDS. Although it certainly affects the joints, it’s actually a connective tissue disorder. For me it affected my renal system SEVERELY in childhood. My bladder was essentially ripped apart by my body. But now I’m 32, fully functional and not on any type of assistances I’m a county mental health specialist who helps the local homeless population. Just wanted to shine a little positivity! Regardless of what you’re going through, your feelings are valid! I hope happiness is either already in your lap or just around the corner! ♥️

[@lindabb7064]

Seriously, I feel for any person with actual diagnosed EDS who has been unnecessary exposed to watch this woman using the condition to escape her own responsibilities.

[@Georgia.is.Artistic]

Linda B B i have EDS and I really appreciate this comment. After being diagnosed and joining support groups, you see all sorts of people, from very seriously affected people who are very humble and honest, to people who are mildly affected and use it to get whatever they want and play patient. Really hurts and invalidates peoples struggle

[@Verihaustel]

Linda B B THANK YOU

[@staci110196]

@@Georgia.is.Artistic Yes!! I AGREE 100%. Also officially diagnosed and in a few support groups.

[@mckennawood4048]

I have an official EDS diagnosis. I traveled out of state to get my diagnosis with a specialist because they are hard to come by. I am a full time college student, and work 30 hours per week. It is HARD some days, no doubt, but those who have been diagnosed spend the time learning how to help themselves as well. It’s not a crutch for me to use in order to not be a functioning human, but I am aware of when I need to pause for a few hours because I have pushed it too hard. Thank you for this comment!!

[@SpecialBlanket]

I have an official diagnosis and I'm actually very scared that people are going to think this is the new BS condition to claim to have. It's extremely disabling.

[@maddyspinks]

Part of what this makes me so angry is that I actually had EDS (yes officially diagnosed by an EDS specialist) and it’s because of people like her that people think my disease is either fake or just being ‘ double jointed with stretchy skin’. I am in constant severe pain and can’t remember the last time I woke up without at least one joint dislocated.

[@mummyofafurbaby9237]

I don't have eds but I do have other health issues that I have been officially diagnosed with and can understand where you are coming from when you say that because of people saying that they have this that or another but not been officially diagnosed that others think that what you are suffering from is a joke

[@kendo-sama9754]

This lady is full of excuses...she should be lucky to have a daughter who take care

[@autumnskylardoeseverything]

As someone chronically ill mentally and physically with a multitude of disorders, including the EDS and Rheumatoid Arthritis she says she has, I did more after brain surgeries 3 weeks post op than this woman does now with no formal diagnosis!!! What a moocher.

[@poppetfleur2642]

My mother has EDS and seeing this woman doing this killed me she should be actually tested for EDS and not get diagnosed by goggle

[@cookingatcurrahee]

What happened is this woman got a divorce with no education or work experience, she probably sunk into depression and didn't want to handle herself after all these years. She still just wants someone to take care of her.

[@Crazycatlady71]

My thoughts, exactly.

[@jrose7667]

Feel sorry for the daughter who missed out on her youth

[@NeeNee_B.]

Sick or not, what would she do if she didnt have children?? smh Cheyenne needs to call her bluff..

[@sagittarius3706]

“Do not have a formally diagnosis,” see, that’s where it all starts.

[@indigo2322]

"ive had a divorce" say no more

[@leenaravenwood]

Omg thank god theres someone else going through this! Cant say I know 100% how her daughter feels but I am in a similar situation

[@Lady-Carmakazi]

Hang in there it happens to us all one day, everyone of us is getting older by the second. This interview upset me, just because a doctor who's read a few more books hasn't formally written down a diagnosis on a piece of paper doesn't mean she's not ill. I lived for 11 years with an undiagnosed spinal injury. It's clearly on the MRIs but these human beings we call doctors missed it. In my eyes doctors are placed on way to high a petalstool. I'm not trained to read MRIs but even I can see my bones impinging on my spinal cord in the images, all it took was actually looking at them. My injury was very obvious but the doctors missed it & ignored my complaints regarding pain after a head on collision. I absolutely can't stand the way he just treated this lady. People go undiagnosed routinely & if not for her daughter this lady would be homeless while waiting for a doctor to correctly diagnose her. No diagnosis no disability checks equal homeless without help. I applaud her daughter for helping her mother , things will get better for this lady & her daughter when she gets a better doctor & diagnosis or a check to at least lighten the financial burden. And that's an issue too, she's probably drowning in medical bills because she's going to hundreds of office visits trying to get better, get help & get diagnosed with proper treatment. Dr Phil without a doubt owes this lady an apology. If your the caregiver I applaud you too. It's not easy but just remember all the things our parents did for us. Try never to dwell on the few bad times always look at the good. And look for a doctor that actually cares, it's hard but there's a few. And remember it's going to happen to all eventually. Just pray your children when or if you have any will be there for you too when it happens. Take care

[@jojogray328]

It is a burden. Especially for someone so young, I speak from experience. EDIT: Help is one thing but to completely depend on such a young child... you aren't going to say "no" to your parent...

[@sonyfusion1994]

Jojo Gray for some it’s not a burden. I am taking care of my parent and to me I rather take care of him then send him with some stranger.

[@staceyshere]

I’m more shocked she’s never had a job. At her grown age, she’s never worked 😐😐

[@beckb2775]

This makes me so mad. I’m a home health aide. The man I takes care of absolutely hates the fact I have to take care of him. He literally pushes himself with one arm in his wheel chair and tries his best to do anything he’s able to. He wishes he could still work and provide for his family.

[@aimeemckim5863]

Why does this make you mad? You should probably get out of home health aide if you think some disabled people are too prideful to ask for and accept help.

[@avatiede1512]

@@aimeemckim5863 what she’s saying is that the lady who is deadass faking a serious and painful condition makes her upset and is giving actual disabled people a bad name

[@naomia77]

She has all the symptoms and pains my grandma has and my grandma goes to the store, cleans the house and takes care of her dog and enjoys all of it.

[@zumn12122]

"I got a divorce so i'm going to be a drain on my daughter and her boyfriend"

[@ghorn1217]

Andrew E The husband had had enough.

[@theresarose5242]

I sure am glad this is being heard! This has been going on. And guess what? Every second anyone can be in her shoes. Even when you have All test, scans, reports of it all, they don't care. And just one car wreak, slip of the foot, and many other accidents, even of others can put you in her shoes! Blessings to you and your family ✝️🌷

[@alxndradoll]

I love how she starts the story of her ongoing disease with... “well I got a divorce 8 years ago and I can’t work because I’ve never worked before”

[@franciehartsog1347]

I have MS and R.A. and would NEVER expect my son and his wife to care for me. I would find a way!

[@rachellilley1518]

I would never depend or request my child to help me. I didnt work so hard in my life to end up like this. Shameful!

[@awesomeness1227]

1:55 I don’t really feel sorry for the mom as much as I do the daughter, she looks like she really gone through it 😕

[@jasmineboston4236]

“Pretty much helps take care of me” she takes care of u all the way sweetie

[@sophiatran8204]

Omg her daughter literally looks so exhausted. I feel so bad for her.

[@jenniferdevinney541]

I had EDS and it's a very painful disease and very hard to get diagnosed! I also own a chronic pain/illness counseling center and I wish I could work with both of these ladies! Such a difficult situation.

[@מורדגן-ד2פ]

This poor girl looks so exhausted! I cant even imagine being in her position... I really wish her the best

[@RekkaKien3]

everything she says isn't a "i can't" it's more of "i don't want to".

[@arlenedennis9446]

Lose some weight than she will Probaly feel less pain

[@taylorjoy5899]

You feel more pain with less weight. Fat cushions our joints

[@TheBespectacledHobbit]

False. I lost 82lbs and I'm in more pain at 153-155lbs than I was at 235lbs.

[@commonunicorn1975]

Taylor Joy there’s no cushion in your joints.. it helps because your joints don’t have to support all that weight.

[@guineapigtoons7857]

Why was I thinking the same thing 😂

[@lizkavulak1537]

You can tell how exhausted the daughter is by the bags under her eyes.

[@cenadee3009]

Your daughter is such a sweetheart for taking good care of you. Now, you have to do your best to take care of yourself so she can stop worrying about you. Let her live her life & be happy finally. She deserves it!

[@miomoony]

'Helps'? SHE DOES FREAKING EVERYTHING