The amount of narcissism in this family is absolutely SHAMEFUL. Every time they apologize, it's only to regain your trust so that the moment you turn your back they can thrust another knife in.
@Iliketrains1702 жыл бұрын
Nice way of putting it. 👌
@0001captainawesome2 жыл бұрын
@@Iliketrains170 Nope, that only applies to the sister n law.
@0001captainawesome2 жыл бұрын
"Narcissism" only applies to the sister n' law. The brother is a straight up simp, while it's quite obvious that the rest of the family either disapproves of the o.p.'s "situation", or 100,000% more likely only gives a shit about the boy in their family that is married to the sister n' law so that they carry on the family name for another generation. Even if the o.p. kept the same last name that's not how it works in some more traditional families where it's the sons that carry on the "legacy". What a shitty legacy that is though... (Not the practice I mentioned, I mean the family in general is just shitty; very).
@Iliketrains1702 жыл бұрын
@@0001captainawesome ik. Sad.
@irisrowanmoon2 жыл бұрын
This is how my older sister operates. I hate it. I have considered leaving everyone in my family, and I've done it for a year and a half but my abusive ex pushed me to be with my hurtful family (so he can fuel my family's behavior and gaslight me too). But, I see that my older sister influences everyone around her. I noticed this after she moved to another country and comes back every once in awhile. It's weird and I have seriously considered not allowing her near my future family when she is this way.
@skeletonwithastick85272 жыл бұрын
My mother actually got into the same situation as this, the way she handled it is hilarious, basically, all she did is "if you want to change my son's name, pay the entire hospital bills once I gave birth". after she said that, not a single soul voiced out any objections anymore in the family.
@sadespain23392 жыл бұрын
Lol good for her!
@kailevil34442 жыл бұрын
That's an amazing way to shut them.
@sunsealz2 жыл бұрын
woah
@hopeful24952 жыл бұрын
That the ultimate way to do that XD
@danhodge23372 жыл бұрын
Hospital bills for giving birth?
@dee-lan22042 жыл бұрын
These stories make me appreciate my own family more and more
@TheBigExclusive2 жыл бұрын
Most of these stories are fake. There is a whole hidden industry on Reddit with writing fake stories
@GaiaTheDog2 жыл бұрын
They do
@dee-lan22042 жыл бұрын
@@TheBigExclusive I know
@2009strupp2 жыл бұрын
I know
@TheEmolano2 жыл бұрын
At least with my family I was very lucky
@Monkey_with_sniper_rifle Жыл бұрын
Damn isn't it crazy how the sister in law suddenly wanted a child AFTER the op had revealed her child , and then acted like th op was jealous of her? Crazy
@kellharris2491 Жыл бұрын
These people you just need to ignore and block them.
@TheGamingNia11 ай бұрын
Just straight projection from the sister
@theseus102111 ай бұрын
I think she got jealous of the op and she forced her own husband to have babies after long talk maybe and if i a person like that in my life i would do one thing block out of my life or my babies
@Editz_siuuuu5 ай бұрын
What does "op" stand for?
@nav4374 ай бұрын
@@Editz_siuuuuoriginal poster
@pedroricardorodriguezfarre79362 жыл бұрын
You cannot call dibs on a name, like how many names do you need to name a daughter that you don't even know if you will ever have?
@porkchopsparty2 жыл бұрын
It’s like, what are you at this point, a child!?!
@justsomekidthatsinfinitely70902 жыл бұрын
@raven I believe you mean singular, male kid
@paulatreat24962 жыл бұрын
Actually, it sounds like the SIL was calling DIBS on multiple names so that whatever the OP named the girl, the SIL could pull this. She was looking for this drama
@paulatreat24962 жыл бұрын
I actually believe in some ways DIBS can be called. I married into instant family. My husband is divorced with two boys. As much as I adore those boys, I wanted children of my own, and my husband is from a large family and wanted more. So we talked baby names before I was even pregnant. We had a girl's name picked first; the middle name I had picked before I even knew my husband. But...when I do get pregnant, I find out it was the very name he and his ex-wife had planned for a girl. His ex was a little hurt that this name was discussed. I told her I would change the first name, but asked if it was ok to keep the middle since I had it picked before I knew my husband, and it turned out to be special to both our sides. She had no problem with that.
@abimaelreyes71342 жыл бұрын
@@paulatreat2496 thats a beautiful story. ;-;
@VortexGaming3802 жыл бұрын
This story pissed me off beyond words and I can’t even relate to this. They had no right to treat that mother and baby like that. Best wishes to the mother and baby’s future
@binhanh2962 жыл бұрын
You're right, however, I think those people will think they have all the right in the world to do whatever they want.
@VortexGaming3802 жыл бұрын
@@binhanh296 Thats the sad part, I just hope at some point the family realizes what they done. Talk about a Karen sister in law lol.
@justinwan31732 жыл бұрын
Karen sil should’ve miscarried
@paulman34340 Жыл бұрын
Sad part is when she gets older It might decide to reach out to her mother's side the family I won't be surprised if they start insulting her mother and then of course even saying and calling her by the nickname sister-in-law and try the force to try to assert dominance and the girl decides f*** it now I know why mom wanted no contact with these people and leave out before telling them her actual name and not the name they want a force upon her because they have control issues Like the cowards they are
@kaipilled Жыл бұрын
@@justinwan3173honestly... yeah
@Adam-lw9xp2 жыл бұрын
I get it when everyone calls you the jerk when you did nothing wrong and how no one defends you when others are jerks to you.
@zichithefox47812 жыл бұрын
It really is a powerless feeling.
@solidsnake56442 жыл бұрын
It's moments like those that you need to do some self-reflection and ask yourself if everyone who called you a jerk is worth being around.
@Rodiacreed2 жыл бұрын
@@solidsnake5644 sometimes you have no choice, like when the people in question are your classmates and you are forced to be with them everyday
@Drifter48042 жыл бұрын
In the end tho I usually see those who take the side of the wrong doer come back after a long time and apologize or lose money do to said wrong doer🤷♂️
@waspshower2 жыл бұрын
He's reading the reddit story's right? And he has no way of telling if they are real?
@Book_lover6 Жыл бұрын
Same thing happened to my parents. My dad's sister in law tried to rename me. My first name was already hard for my parents to agree on. They picked Jocelyn, my aunt pick Rosalind. My mother was pissed. She threw her out of the hospital room and hasn't talked to her in nineteen years, minus a few occasions. In fact I didn't call her my aunt either. She was just Melissa to me and my parents. My grandmother on my maternal side also screamed at Melissa at my first birthday when she showed up with a gift addressed to a Rosalind. To this day if someone mentions her my parents moods almost immediately go down. The funny thing is she tried for years to have a child, specifically a girl whom she would name Rosalind. Turns out she only had a fifteen percent chance of conceiving, my uncle only had a ten percent chance of getting her pregnant. We found this out when I was twelve, my mom laughed her ass off for hours. Then she told her entire side of the family as an act of revenge. My uncle didn't give a damn about it either. The only reason we knew Melissa was pissed was because she drove all the way to Connecticut from Montana. Which is a thirty three hour drive. When she yelled at my parents in front of both of my parents' sides her husband told her to shut the fuck up and let it go. She then turned on him and said that if her wanted to be on my parents side they were getting divorced. He said this and I quote "I don't give a damn what you do. You need to learn that the world is not perfect. So please shut the fuck up or I will call a lawyer." Melissa shut up and left after he said that. From that day forward he was a legend on both sides for his bravery. He even got that divorce anyway. We threw a huge party. It was called The Banishment of the Family Bitch. My mom came up with that one herself. She still has the banner she made.
@QuickManEXE Жыл бұрын
"The Banishment of the Family Bitch" has to be one of the funniest things i've ever heard.
@FireOccator Жыл бұрын
If it makes you feel better - both names are terrible.
@HarryFrost-qu8th Жыл бұрын
Oh please tell me you played ‘Ding Dong the Witch is Dead’ at the party.
@jamesbracken144911 ай бұрын
Banishment ,😂
@baldman6219 ай бұрын
why is it my oc's gf is the same name as your aunt.
@pjschmid22512 жыл бұрын
I feel very sorry for the child of the sister-in-law. She’s just having a child to get attention. Getting that attention during the initial birth announcement that she sabotaged is what spurred her to decide she wanted to have children. That child’s life is going to be all about his mother and not about him.
@judynajar36782 жыл бұрын
Not only that but this person is so crazy that she may want to change this boy into a girl since she feels like she can control everything..so yes the child is the one who will have to pay for it for sure
@jada5312 жыл бұрын
The mother actually left her husband and the baby and OP parents are trying to have op raise him
@liaoanais39252 жыл бұрын
@@jada531 How do you know that?
@jada5312 жыл бұрын
@@liaoanais3925 I remember this story from am I the asshole on Reddit
@michaelgonzales1782 жыл бұрын
yeah then they tried to force the nephew onto op Jesus their family sucks
@Kilopapa-1162 жыл бұрын
If this is true her sister-in-law has committed at the most three different felonies. As well as her family siding with her sister-in-law instead of her is the point you completely turn your back and cut them completely out of your life. If you can’t trust them to take your side and take up a defense for you; you can’t trust them to do anything for you
@1mol8312 жыл бұрын
why is that a felony though, its not illegal to crash parties.
@crypticaledits2 жыл бұрын
@@1mol831 No bu in this case it should thats why they called it a felony, just to help you understand
@1mol8312 жыл бұрын
@@crypticaledits what weird laws you have
@Kilopapa-1162 жыл бұрын
@@1mol831 the felonies are going on to the op’s account. and two miner ones that are at most misdemeanors but still felonies
@ZinniaOpal2 жыл бұрын
@@1mol831 L + Ratio
@ameliagraham73342 жыл бұрын
The sister in law is definitely a narcissist. There really is nothing you can do to change a narcissist other than keep yourself away. You did the right thing!
@suhaanaryanbakshi52232 жыл бұрын
imagine pushing a whole baby out of your body and then you open social media and see that your sister in law decided to go and name your baby herself 💀
@apolloransom45302 жыл бұрын
oof
@suhaanaryanbakshi52232 жыл бұрын
Wow my message got 221 likes, damn
@KhastudiosContent2 жыл бұрын
bruh he/she sounds like a guy........
@Hey_yt2662 жыл бұрын
@@KhastudiosContent the only jerks are her family I feel bad can she get a redo button for her family
@Hey_yt2662 жыл бұрын
@Adamidk1227 wut?
@ProjectEchoshadow2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like the brother didn’t want kids and that’s what the fight after the announcement was about since op makes it clear he was never on her side about that incident. The sister in law probably didn’t want kids until that moment when she felt that praise from the family.
@ProjectEchoshadow2 жыл бұрын
@@manonjourney1 true but that certainly does not sound like a great environment to raise a child
@jada5312 жыл бұрын
Yes, you are correct. The SIL had the baby and then left the husband and the baby. OP family isn’t helping the brother but thinks OP should take care of him since she’s on maternity leave. OP said that she would take in her nephew if she got full custody because she planning on moving to the other side of the country away from her family.
@emilylee98942 жыл бұрын
@@jada531 what story is this?
@alphabravo87032 жыл бұрын
yup
@Zeromegas2 жыл бұрын
I was think in the same way
@Lalainelan2 жыл бұрын
When my SIL was pregnant with her daughter, she was waiting to tell everyone the name she chose. She did tell one of her close friends (that was also pregnant) what she was gonna name her daughter. Her friend ended up having her baby shower before my SIL, and during that party, she revealed the name of her baby, which happens to be the name that my SIL had chose for her daughter. You can say my SIL was furious, but didn't want to make a scene. She ended up letting it go, and come up with another name for her daughter. She wasn't close to that friend anymore.
@alicedavis4847 Жыл бұрын
Thanks
@hopefullyentertainment6029 Жыл бұрын
bro, i’d just name my baby my original name anyway, fuck they gonna do about it?
@genzi78514 Жыл бұрын
I would keep the same name and cut ties with that idiot.
@imacrammerimokay5706 Жыл бұрын
Im just happy she stood up for herself and her baby and disowned the family from themselves. Godspeed to the mother - daughter
@ANDPEGGY-12 жыл бұрын
I can't believe she had the nerves to ruin a pregnancy reveal I would slap her how heartless
@Voltboy1449 Жыл бұрын
sometimes violence isn't just acceptable but deserved
@Islandgirlypop Жыл бұрын
ikr
@NSFW_Mochi2048 Жыл бұрын
You better believe that teeth and blood would fly in the air
@APlatapus2 жыл бұрын
It's at times like these I think blasting family online is justified. Show the world what kind of disgusting people they are. Since OP is leaving them anyways might as well leave with a bang.
@andrewregard72502 жыл бұрын
Haha yup! Go full on Scortched Earth, leave nothing behind.
@kenmakozume44782 жыл бұрын
This was so frustrating and sad. OP was pregnant throughout this whole situation. That's just heartbreaking, this made me cry.
@heartsmyfaceforever8140 Жыл бұрын
Telling the family how you feel will not bring closure. They will use your feelings as ammunition. Just go no contact.
@Dr_stevia2 жыл бұрын
I feel the most damaging part of This is if Op didn’t cut off all contact, the daughter may start only responding to the name the family was calling her.
@sugadicc2 жыл бұрын
The sister in law didn't get enough attention as a kid
@augustwinterman69522 жыл бұрын
That, or too much.
@neilcharge37722 жыл бұрын
@@augustwinterman6952 agreed
@metero92272 жыл бұрын
@@augustwinterman6952 agreed or they are afraid of her xD
@danieljohnhertzler2 жыл бұрын
Or, none of these people exist and this story isn't factual whatsoever...
@sugadicc2 жыл бұрын
@@augustwinterman6952 true
@imaginternet2 жыл бұрын
Her family is calling her controlling meanwhile the true controlling is really the sister-in-law the irony.. Man this story makes me thankful for my family and if I were in that situation I would've immediately cut ties after letting them see the baby and I would ghost their messages and even block them in social medias Holy crap the toxicity they had is so thick it practically is a nuclear wasted
@alcoholmarker2 жыл бұрын
Why does she have a male voice
@gigachad61112 жыл бұрын
@@alcoholmarker he is a male He makes story like these and post in yt
@astolfuwu_07212 жыл бұрын
@@alcoholmarker for the same reason is a 50y.o. male in a video and a 29y.o. female in another
@Someone-ye1by2 жыл бұрын
@@alcoholmarker bruh that's not her. Its just the guy covering the story
@tajkhadarkancharla67102 жыл бұрын
Hi beluga
@elementalfallout6774 Жыл бұрын
Good for her! She was 100% in the right. That was an abusive relationship. They had no respect for her at all.
@jamiegladwell87702 жыл бұрын
The Sister-in-law was so cuckoo for control and an attention...floozy (censored for a better, inappropriate word) that she'd go to lengths to ruin OP. And that is just cruel and wrong on so many levels.
@DSnek-nr1202 жыл бұрын
A person of reason appears out of the blue, thanks for being kind to humanity
@jamiegladwell87702 жыл бұрын
@@DSnek-nr120 wait, are you talking about me? Because I'm just using common sense unlike the SIL and most of OP's family.
@DSnek-nr1202 жыл бұрын
@@jamiegladwell8770 yes I am talking to you, common sense is really rare anymore and I congratulate anybody who uses it
@jamiegladwell87702 жыл бұрын
@@DSnek-nr120 gotcha. And thanks
@Captain-Void2 жыл бұрын
@@DSnek-nr120 ah more smort pepes
@ZeFroz3n0ne9072 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to this woman, toxic people will always be toxic unless something happens to really shake them to the core.
@heatherlynchhennessey52982 жыл бұрын
When you stood your ground, in front of your daughter, "There was a lot of name calling." -- Wow, imagine that! What a completely shocker, not predictable at all, since they already act as mature as 10-year olds. (Good riddance, tbh.)(Although I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. You are stronger and wiser because of it!) This whole story just hurts my heart, and stomach, for you.
@oldwolffe3636 Жыл бұрын
I hate how her family members tried to justify their actions by gaslighting her, saying she was the selfish one when she was only defending herself
@phenogeno43962 жыл бұрын
The sad thing about this situation is, if you take all of OP's reactions out of context, *she* would definitely seem to be the crazy one. For example, giving a baby a nickname isn't really a bad thing, but doing so for the SOLE PURPOSE of getting back at the mother because she took 'your' baby name is. It sucks that the family is already incredibly biased in favor of the SIL. It would probably be impossible to convince them that she was in fact the selfish, controlling one in the situation. If OP decides to move, she'll probably end up being known as the crazy family member for the rest of her life.
@sirgroq82582 жыл бұрын
Just let them talk their mouths sore. The family you create yourself is more important than the one you are born into, these people are horrible and she should protect her daughter from their influence. Obviously, they didn't value her in the first place, why should she give a damn about their opinion?
@rickraber12492 жыл бұрын
@@sirgroq8258 Right you are.
@sarafontanini70512 жыл бұрын
honestly no sane person would ever side with this family. Theya re absuive, selfish and crueland that's ALL they'll be known for.
@cindyonurrooftop2 жыл бұрын
I agree that nicknaming a child or baby something cute out of endearment is nothing bad, but even if it's not done out of malice like OP's SIL, if the parents of the child ask you not to call them that it should be respected and it's in no way a crazy reaction for a parent to ask that you call their kids by their proper given and nick-names, at least until the child is old enough to decide if they like or dislike a nickname for themselves. That's my opinion at least
@irisrowanmoon2 жыл бұрын
There's no amount of context taken out that would make it seem like OP is crazy to me. But that's because I've dealt with gaslighting, manipulation, and controlling narcissists my entire life. They are so smart that they'll work the field before you even are aware of it. So, no. OP isn't ever crazy, and if they call her that it's purely because they like to feel superior over someone they see as inferior and like that control they have of her not being able to defend herself.
@tjpowers882 жыл бұрын
Poor lady having a pregnancy by herself, yet she has to deal with toxic behavior by those she’s supposed to be able to turn to the most during this time, I just feel incredibly bad for her and I wish the OP the best in life. You have every reason to be upset, especially with the name I mean that’s just selfish. Reminded me of George Constanza with dibs on “Seven”.
@Book_Theory.8 ай бұрын
How did they have a child by herself?
@degen832 жыл бұрын
Going no contact is the perfect thing in that situation. Her family is toxic, her sister in law stole her pregnancy announcement and her family supporter the SIL, not her. Her SIL revealed the gender of the baby in direct opposition to her wishes. The SILs behavior was horrible but what was even more horible is how her family went along with her SIL and defended her. She did the right thing by going no contact, it is clear her family treats her SIL with more respect than her.
@Emma-ef1ml2 жыл бұрын
Fr, the family is sooo narcissistic
@pixiesanchez91952 жыл бұрын
I think they all wanted a boy to “pass down the family name” they even said that in some families even cultures having a girl is kinda shamed apon as they want someone to pass down the family line which most girls take their husbands names. It’s completely shocking tbh
@sequoiany30782 жыл бұрын
she should have firmly scolded her sister the first time but she didn't do that so the sil thought she could do whatever she wanted and her sil got to do it over and over again. it's kind of strange that her brother and sil didn't want to have children but then suddenly decide to have one just because the sister of the brother was having one. I hope this is not a true story but if it is it's such a sad story.
@maxorsum Жыл бұрын
9:53 The way you said „shut up“ feels like it was you going through that… nice story telling skills!
@RealPlushWorld Жыл бұрын
Also "You're making me try to miscarry!" That's not how it works Karen it has to be a stroke of bad luck for it to happen like stillbirth! (When the baby dies after it was born)
@Shroomish_Creations8 ай бұрын
12:50 The bear with 'gilly' on it was too far, though. She's tryna make that child *THINK* it's name is really 'Gilly'
@akiralyrics95908 ай бұрын
But that’s not the right time frame? Also I’m pretty sure that’s a bot 😅
@blue46392 жыл бұрын
I can relate, but instead of a sister in law. This story was my older sister incarnate. Hawai’ian Tradition says your sister or great aunt names your baby for you. We have Hawai’ian family, but it’s pretty much your own choice wether or not who chooses the name. In my situation when my wife was pregnant, my sister went around telling everyone in my family the name we would give our first born was stupid & kids would make fun of her. She then said she has a name picked for my daughter. She claims it’s her right, because her daughter’s full name was named by her husband’s Great Aunt & she was following tradition. That’s Great for her, but my sister has been abandoning me, leaving her daughter at her friend’s night club alone growing up & dumping her responsibilities as a parent on the Uncle me to babysit her from 6 months to 7 yrs old. On top of this…. this is my sister who would sell my property in elem & high school so she could buy gifts for her self, boyfriends, and so called friends. She’s stolen $$ from my parents & shopping center stores. She only escaped juvy because our Godfather is a senator. I miss my handheld game & watch games & my t-shirts & toys I grew up with. She sold it at a local swap meet. I asked her how come she didn’t want to sell her things & claimed I need to grow up. I cut her out of my life the second my daughter was born. She went as far as to try far as to try & steal my wife & i’s nintendo ds lite from us saying we don’t need it. You’ll be to busy. She then tried to change my daughter’s name on paper at the hospital & the nurse then asked us. She claimed my wife & I told her to. After that day. Aunty is now Uncle. I tell my kids to call her that. Shes got a beer belly now & a mustache to match ROFL 🤣
@SSFplayer22 жыл бұрын
wait...so she tried to steal your wife and the ds lite for saying you do not need them? XD "ah yes, you already have your baby. Your wife is no longer important for you"
@blue46392 жыл бұрын
She wanted our 2 nintendo 2ds hers & mine. We used to play Bust a Move & Mario Kart
@SSFplayer22 жыл бұрын
@@blue4639 ah, ok that makes more sense
@SenseiRaisen2 жыл бұрын
@@blue4639 Honestly , the moment someone do that its the moment who lose the right to anything and you can enforce "equality", by kicking her ass out to the street.
@darkfairy65052 жыл бұрын
God now i‘m glad i dont have siblings
@led_handymanservicesocalif64322 жыл бұрын
She should file charges on the sister-in-law for identity theft
@candacecowie5236 Жыл бұрын
What's with all these headers of screaming angry women?talk about women hatin
@candacecowie5236 Жыл бұрын
Oh stitch her mout shut or make some duct tape. Just needless visuals.
@montagistreel2 жыл бұрын
Crazy to me how many of these stories involve either a family member or the -PARTNER- of a family member, which is even worse, straight up bulling someone OUT OF THEIR OWN FAMILY
@jesusnavarro9307 Жыл бұрын
Lmao she should of called her sis in law by her brothers ex girls name 😂😂
@navkaur163 Жыл бұрын
That would be good
@SMBFGC2 жыл бұрын
i dont know what to think the sister in law is controlling and the family is even more toxic for choosing the sister IN LAW over there own flesh and blood like who does that
@heatherlynchhennessey52982 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!!!! 👿
@sadespain23392 жыл бұрын
People who've been manipulated or brainwashed.
@dragonfliesnh42042 жыл бұрын
That is exactly what I was thinking! Along with that, the baby's name is after the mother's actual great grandmother. To the SIL, that name has no special meaning to her personally, whatsoever. It's psychotic to call "dibs" on names, especially since the SIL was having a boy. She was probably going through an entire baby name book and she was calling "dibs" on every single one, just out of spite.
@mondobizarro18682 жыл бұрын
Welcome to my world...
@mae-mae2304 Жыл бұрын
This sister in law actually thinking she gonna have 20+girls is hilarious and the fact that the name wasn't even the top five witch crazy! Side note I totally picked out a girl name for a future daughter that my mom said she didn't like just to piss her off 😏
@DenimInfluenza9 ай бұрын
lol
@Shroomish_Creations8 ай бұрын
Bruh😂
@beardedpanda50862 жыл бұрын
Good for her. Just because you share blood, does not make you family. I’ve had to cut my toxic family members out of my life including my own mother and I’m much happier. So kudos to that woman for putting herself first.
@georginataylor38026 ай бұрын
I would have pressed charges against the sister-in-law for the felonies she committed against her. Hacking into a private account, stealing private personal information, and exposing via the internet the stolen personal information.
@SeaDragon-ze1wj2 жыл бұрын
OP should have punched the SIL when the SIL told the family about the gender. It’s what I would have done
@21Lauren212 жыл бұрын
She probably would have cried and said something on the lines of how OP is making her have a miscarriage and made the family more distant with OP. I would have def slapped her though it's less powerful but still effective.
@ElmoAlexa2 жыл бұрын
Me too 100%
@alexgerhard22452 жыл бұрын
That and she did it by hacking into one of her personal accounts without permission (unless the brother knew and didn’t tell her she did this, which would also make him responsible) to gain data she likely knew she was keeping private. That is literally a crime.
@magne77712 жыл бұрын
Hell yeah! Square in the gut!
@straycat16742 жыл бұрын
Sounds like an incredibly toxic family that has no business being around your child. And they’ll never grasp why. Not smart enough.
@garrettfox79822 жыл бұрын
From the way the sister had the baby it almost sounds like she cheated wanted a baby girl and then just had all these issues along the way
@drakofox13622 жыл бұрын
Exactly OP could have said that
@sadespain23392 жыл бұрын
You know, that actually makes sense.
@kaelanirevyruun1676 Жыл бұрын
For the sister in law pretending to be pregnant at OP's pregnancy announcement, she LITERALLY took a once in a lifetime event (Announcing your first pregnancy) and made it about herself. Having a redo is literally just like the Disney live action remakes of the animated classics.
@ComeliaO711 ай бұрын
Exactly and they talking about you need to forgive them, so they can make it right. Now out of excitement my mom told my aunt I was pregnant before I was ready to tell people. But I can’t forgive because it is only one person. Told auntie don’t tell nobody and that was it. This is a whole Nother story. SIL really let everybody praise her and congratulate her and said absolutely nothing. Op had every right to get mad and leave. and it was like the next day that sil finally told everybody she wasn’t pregnant. Who the fuck does that?
@carolroyal92892 жыл бұрын
I have a compulsive lying, narcissist sister-n-law. She has torn our family to pieces. I feel for this poor woman. My husband and I have chosen to sever all communication with his family because it was the only way to get clear from her constant drama. Jealous women are toxic. Combine that with narcissism, and you have a family wrecking ball. I feel sorry for her kids, and I feel sorry for this crazy woman's son.
@princessmimi6776 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, and she abandoned the kid and hubby cause she wasn't the center of attention anymore and didn't want kids. Think the family ended up in a cult...
@MirnaEJiron2 жыл бұрын
I’m proud of her for taking full charge of her life and protecting her child from any future bull crap 💩 She will be mentally healthy for it 😎👍🏼
@catholicpatriotusa1507 Жыл бұрын
The brother was clearly the favorite of the family, and he apparently married a control freak. Never go near crazy girls everyone
@ZantariEXE2 жыл бұрын
I’ve gone no contact with my family and it was an amazingly good choice. So much less stress. It’s taken years to start to recover from their BS but barring blood related didn’t mean you owe them anything and they don’t sound like they’ve ever been family, they just liked having a punching bag
@Zankaroo2 жыл бұрын
I really don't understand how some of these people can even as themselves if they are the jerk. The OPs are never the jerk its always the other people and honestly, a lot of the offenders in these stories just need to be removed from the world.
@voltbot64792 жыл бұрын
Exactly in fact, they deserve a slow death to make them suffer
@Zayer_thee_slayer2 жыл бұрын
It’s almost like the op is the middle child of the family
@NoProblemoyk2 жыл бұрын
That is possible because she said her nephew is from her sister and she also has a brother and considering the treatment she is getting I wouldent be surprised
@Tenajeh Жыл бұрын
Holy heck that whole family is full of narcissists! Going completely zero contact is the only safe choice for the poster and her kid to ever get a chance for a happy life.
@fluffycats26262 жыл бұрын
Man that mom is tough. She’ll raise an amazing child
@dealwithit97722 жыл бұрын
I've heard this story before, it always makes me mad that she stole her announcement then got her own in the end anyway.
@OpDwagon2 жыл бұрын
Am I the only one who feels a sudden slight murderous rage towards the actual jerks, and infinite empathy towards the OP? oops I meant "enormous" and not "slight", silly me
@FormerWarAnimator2 жыл бұрын
Looks like my business in dealing arms will come in handy..
@johnpayne55902 жыл бұрын
You underestimate my power!
@raritycrystal26722 жыл бұрын
my anger issue sure come in handy for this , I call DIBS on the Sister In law
@BCTennessee2 жыл бұрын
@@raritycrystal2672 fine, guess I’ll take the mom
@candicemonique59272 жыл бұрын
These stories run me so hot and it’s not good for my anxiety. 😡🤬
@DeanYuen12345 Жыл бұрын
I also had similar story my son Bryson was called Bryce and once my mom said that I literally kicked them out and blocked them also,congrats on your baby!
@s.v.27962 жыл бұрын
The name story: I understand. My granddaughter is light skinded. We're Mexican, she's mix Mexican/black. Her husband's family would call her white and pronounce her name in the non-Spanish way. Super condescending. It hurt her for years. I corrected them. They finally, stopped.
@snoodge-cv7fj2 жыл бұрын
I love Am I the Jerk because they never are and its usually very cathartic to hear these people actually fighting back when someone tries to annoy or take advantage of them.
@hannahreed24512 жыл бұрын
This hurts my heart 😞 I have a toxic family as well. Very differently incidents, but similar in toxicity. Tried to force me to abort my first, wished death upon my second (who was high risk and premature), and they don’t even remember the name of my third. I’m happily married living on the opposite side of the country. No support, no contact. I wouldn’t change a thing. Life can be hard especially as a young parent with no love or support from the people you would expect that from, but I can promise it’s much harder (and a 1000x more hurtful) to constantly beg for them to actually give a shit. I hope OP is ok and has actually cut the cord to these toxic people. They don’t deserve access to her or her child.
@jessetaube2 жыл бұрын
but why did they try to abort your soon-to-be child?
@hannahreed24512 жыл бұрын
@@jessetaube because I was 17 and the southern Baptist church they attended at the time offered to pay for it. So my mom told me we were going to the doctor for a “checkup” and next thing I know I’m sitting in an abortion clinic with the procedure already paid for.. thankfully, when you go to a clinic like that they don’t just sit you in a room and go ahead with any procedure. They had to bring me into a back room to speak to a counselor alone. My mom was pissed that she wasn’t allowed to come back with me but they told her it’s not her body going through anything, it was mine, so they needed to speak to me to make sure this is my choice. Which of course it wasn’t. And they knew that. I explained that I didn’t want to go through with this but my mom wouldn’t let me leave without “proof”. The woman asked if I was safe to drive home with her. And I told her yes because my parents had already kicked me out and I was living on my own. So all I needed to do was pretend for the car ride home. She brought a nurse in to explain the situation and that’s when we made a plan. They told my mom they were giving me the pills and you take one at the clinic and one the next day. They sent me home with a circular Tylenol in this envelope thing so they didn’t break any laws giving me a prescription bottle with medication that didn’t match the label. Then they refunded me half of the money that the church paid (they couldn’t refund all but I wasn’t expecting a penny so I wasn’t mad at all), and they sent me home with a packet that apparently all patients get when they take the pills. So we literally pretended to go through with the procedure just so my mom would take me back home and that’s when I completely cut her and my dad off. I didn’t speak to them again till that same baby was 2 1/2. The best part was that the nurses and counselor at the clinic got me in contact with a ton of resources to get everything I needed for my baby. One of the nurses actually gave me a ton of her baby stuff she no longer needed like a stroller, clothes, bottles, blankets, and she personally bought me two huge packs of diapers…when I tried to pay her for at least some of it she absolutely not. The most hypocritical part about this entire situation was that the church who paid for the procedure would preach against abortion almost weekly and at the very least monthly. They were one of the churches that stand outside clinics and “protest” by screaming at patients walking in and trying to get license plate numbers so they can “expose these demons” yet when it “affected their optics” (their words not mine) abortion is suddenly a solution 🙄 and believe it or not that doesn’t even come close to what this church specifically did to me as a child. They’re the reason I no longer go to church and choose to work on my relationship with God privately… The only reason I spoke to my parents years later was due to the fact that I became pregnant with my second child. I didn’t announced my pregnancy until we had 8 weeks left because the pregnancy was filled with scares. I almost miscarried at 4 months, labor started at 6 months, and my body started treating the pregnancy (according to the doctor) Kirk a virus and he was actually losing weight no matter much I ate, rested, or stayed hydrated. He came a little over a month early and the day before I had him I had an ultrasound where the tech and the doctor both explained that they needed to schedule me to be induced since baby wasn’t doing good…but the stress from inducing him when there’s already a lot of stress on him could kill him. So dad and I needed to prepare just in case. My parents ended up calling me that same day and I just broke down and explained what was going on. I swear to you that my dad said “well, it’s not like you need another child anyways. This is for the best.” No “I’m sorry”, no “how can we help”, not even a “we’ll pray for you”. They were literally relieved when I told them my son is at risk of dying. My children didn’t affect them in any way seeing as I cut off contact after what happened with my first son and to this day I still kick myself for answering my dads call that day. The fact that my son possibly dying brought them joy made me physically ill. I was supposed to be induced 48 hours from my last ultrasound but thankfully my son decided he was coming on his own. I woke up that night having major contractions and within two hours of me waking up my son was here. But the best news is he didn’t even need the NICU! He came out hungry as hell and spent the first 3 months of his life sleeping and eating lol. He is 8 years old now 💙 Now my parents live on the opposite side of the country and i no longer speak to my dad. I will say he did apologize for everything he said and did to me all throughout my life and he said he’ll never forgive himself for his actions (my dad is manic bipolar so he doesn’t remember a lot of things he said and did). I told him of course I forgive him but I don’t want contact like he wanted. I’ll say merry Christmas and check twice a year tops but I have to keep my distance. It sucks but I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to have a normal relationship with him…there’s too much trauma there. My mom never apologized for anything. She feels like since she wasn’t the one abusing me or belittling me she has nothing to be sorry over…she fails to acknowledge that as a mother she was supposed to protect me and actually be my parent. I don’t “hate” them but I’ll never be able to open up to them or form a bond children are supposed to have with their children. I will say that I genuinely believe my dad has changed though. A few years ago he asked me if I would be ok with him sharing our story publicly and I said yes. He goes to meetings similar to AA as well as advocating for better mental health treatment options.
@lampekartoffel Жыл бұрын
@@hannahreed2451 Hooooly moly. What a terrible and scarring situation! I am so happy for you and your children, that you managed to get out of that shithole and not only land on your feet, but it sounds like you managed to thrive through all the obstacles!! And I am so so glad that those nurses at the clinic both helped you in your situation, made sure you were safe and even helped you get as good a start to motherhood as possible 💙 what lovely compassion 💙 I wish you and your family all the best💙
@sarahdingwall3024 Жыл бұрын
@@hannahreed2451 I wish all the best to you and your children. Thanks for sharing your story xxxx
@DailyDoseOfDragons Жыл бұрын
Holy crap. If any of my relatives pulled any of these stunts then they would NEVER have any relationship with my child
@PilloTheStar Жыл бұрын
"Just because they're your family doesn't mean they're cool" - Bill Burr
@Version01112 жыл бұрын
This is what happens when the pushover of the family finally grows a backbone and starts focusing on T their own lives. The rest of the family is always mad and calls you selfish because they are so used to you doing anything they want whenever they want. They don't see that they're picking on you, and don't think it is a big deal and that you should get over it.
@kimalonzo33632 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! That happens to me.
@MarcG74242 жыл бұрын
You never let anyone including family disrespect you especially in your home I've had those battles they are painful but it's worth it in order to get people to either respect you and your wishes or leave you alone
@matttale79182 жыл бұрын
I can’t understand why the rest of the family would try to make OP miserable like this. It just seems so.......weird
@Curly_Kroll Жыл бұрын
Tbh , that mother saved her daughter from being bullied nonstop in school.
@Aaaauhhssgwjwbey2 жыл бұрын
This honestly made me so mad and upset and I’m not even involved, girl really ruined most of the biggest moments a mother experiences, and for what?! Unbelievable honestly
@hummingbird6430 Жыл бұрын
Something similar happened with me when I was expecting my forst child except it was my ex partner, it was so bad that when me, and my husband found out I was pregnant I was excited, but at the same time freaking out cause my ex had ruined an experience that was supposed to be wonderful. He complained about my constant nesting, and my constant need for wanting everything clean. He got mad at me when I had cravings, and instead of saying hey honey we don't have the money right we'd get halfway to the store ask me if I was paying, then yell at me cause I told him I didn't have any money, and he would get mad asking me if I expected for him to pay for everything, sad thing os out of everything that I had for her he bought 1 onside, the rest was what I could get, and what I got for her babysitter then when we broke up had the audacity to say everything at the baby shower should be split in half because it was a gift for us. Then when I tried packing my stuff up he yelled at me the whole time then stole all of the baby stuff I had for her which at this point I was on maternity leave so my parents had to help me rebuy everything for her when I moved back in with them. My whole experience with my first child was ruined by my ex that I feared my husband for a bit while I was pregnant with my second child my husband's first. If he got loud, and not necessarily towards me cause he rarely raises his voice at me or our kids but in general I would cry and ask him to leave me be I had multiple panic attacks when he got loud cause of PTSD from my ex. My husband started trying not to yell, or get loud around me, or our kids he's a gamer so he mostly gets loud with his games. I never nested with my son, because I was scared my husband would get mad, and basically my whole pregnant with my second I was to scared to ask for anything. But my husband's traits are what brought me out he would kiss me, and my belly before he left for work, he would talk to our son while I was still pregnant. If I randomly grabbed his hand and placed it on my belly to feel our so kick his face would light up and he'd start telling me how much he loved me, and that he couldn't wait to meet our son. And all his traits were the complete opposite of my ex but it saddened me that because my first pregnancy was ruined, I was to scared to enjoy my second one.
@JINXIENG Жыл бұрын
@@hummingbird6430 I'm so sorry that happened to you what an ass. I'm glad you have someone who loves you by your side now
@vladb2154 Жыл бұрын
@@hummingbird6430 such a horrible thing you went through :( the crazy cravings, the baby's kicks, getting to buy baby clothes all make the experience even more memorable and I'm sorry he ruined that for not just one but both pregnancies. Very glad you're in a better place with someone who loves you. Sometimes you have to relearn that not all people are bad
@cyborcat5953 Жыл бұрын
I feel so sorry for the OP because she just had everything ruined from the start, didn't get to enjoy her pregnancy, her family pretty much betrayed her and sided with her very controlling sister-in-law, and pretty much had to knock everyone out of her life. But in the end she stood her ground the entire time. I hope she got that job and is living a peaceful life. 👏👏
@ajpyrofury48542 жыл бұрын
Your sister in law is in the wrong for logging on to the op’s Amazon without promotion
@Jet-ij9zc2 жыл бұрын
Not only wrong, it's a crime
@lochkecraftforge52312 жыл бұрын
Promotion?
@Jet-ij9zc2 жыл бұрын
@@lochkecraftforge5231 I assume they meant permission
@lochkecraftforge52312 жыл бұрын
@@Jet-ij9zc yeah, I was just being a dick
@Darla_isJiji Жыл бұрын
This is just straight up messed up!! First, the sister-in-law decided to steal the spotlight and pretend to be the one pregnant. Second, it's just so idiotic of the whole entire family ganging up on the OP and saying that she was "controlling" when they couldn't even use 1% of their brain to know the actual person is who is controlling. Third, how come the sister-in-law gets treated better than the OP when it was obvious that she was ruining the OP's time of having a child for the first time... even with the clearly unreasonable excuses and having a meltdown for literally no reason. Fourth, why does the sister-in-law get to name the baby and not the OP? It's literally the OP's CHILD. I don't know what gave the sister-in-law the idea to name a baby that isn't even her's. Plus, the name "Gilly" is just.... how is it cute!? "Grace" is better than "Gilly" in my opinion. I don't even think Gilly is suitable for the baby at all. I'm glad the OP left her family... they don't even know better and has lost a family member because of their stupidity.
@irishjoy.vlogger2 жыл бұрын
From this story here if I was that OP well once her sister in law ruined it next to a very toxic family I've would never give them a second chance for that and move out as far away from them as possible.
@sirgroq82582 жыл бұрын
preach!
@Neotecho1232 жыл бұрын
he tells stories from the first-person perspective and no matter if he is telling it in a different gender or age he still does it.
@Flowwwwwwwwww.72 жыл бұрын
0:33 fuck life
@RxgPhxt2 жыл бұрын
@@Flowwwwwwwwww.7 yea really
@HoopsMacabre2 жыл бұрын
I feel like the family gets what they deserve. They belittled OP, took advantage of her, treat her like sh*t? Then they don’t get to be part of OP’s life, her baby’s life, they don’t get to be a family. That’s actually devastating for them but I congratulate OP. She did the right thing and pushed a toxic @$$hole family out of her life when they were completely unwilling to treat her with any form of dignity.
@BLUESBIRD Жыл бұрын
That story makes me so angry, the fact that all the family members attacked the mom for being upset that her sister in law stole her pregnancy reveal and claimed it was because she’d never be pregnant and wanted the attention, It’s just so pathetic
@crazy922blade2 жыл бұрын
Wait, let me get this straight. The OP’s sister-in-law ruined every major event in the OP’s pregnancy, acted proud because of it and when called out accused the OP of trying to get her to miscarry? Bro, what? 😂
@tyranozilla Жыл бұрын
I feel so sad about the OP and can’t even imagine how much she has suffered. I hope she has a good life and that she doesn’t try to relate to her family again because, by experience, people don’t change that much
@greatgamer12322 жыл бұрын
Bruh I started watching 20 mins ago can't get off
@picitishere78122 жыл бұрын
Literally me as well, one appeared in my recommendation page and I've been watching like 3-4 videos lol
@life-of-death2 жыл бұрын
Same 27 video watching
@Sayjirani_2 жыл бұрын
Bro I watching like 10+ vids lol
@IHaveAProfilePicture2 жыл бұрын
Would anyone like to recommend some vids I’ve watched some but not all, like these 5 videos are very good or something.
@stevennguyen4118 Жыл бұрын
Your sister in law is such a jerk you should be able to name your child whatever you want.
@colers23662 жыл бұрын
Reminds me of my mothers side of the family. And uncle who has a relentlessly histrionic piece of shit, and my mother who often was the victim of his bullshit. A grandmother who was conceit incarnate, a grandfather who'd fuck off whenever issues arose, and the entire situation was only sustained due to my mother always, ALWAYS trying to be the better person and let bygones be bygones. And what happened when for once, my mother dug in her heels and demanded an apology for the umpteeth time my uncle pulled some bullshit that grossly victimized my mother, in this case causing my mother and us to be excluded from their 60th wedding anniversary? Well, we still aren't on speaking terms. A fucking apology of just saying "Daughter, I've fucked up. I should have reigned in your brother and tell him to get fucked, and instead I screwed you over. I have failed as a mother and a grandmother, and I'm sorry" was such a high fucking rung to climb that its been nearly 3 years and she still hasn't come through. She has of course tried to fucking bribe me and my brothers for literal hundreds of euros to act as her proxies, to no avail, but just calling up my mum and having a candid conversation? A bridge too far.
@SoldierSpiderx2 жыл бұрын
the sister in law it not only crazy but a bully to and Op entire family it toxic as hell and I bet the only reason the sister in law want have a kid all suddenly cause OP was already pregnant and she was jealous of OP being pregnant and she fear that she won't get no attention when the Op baby be born and Op brother it just a pushover do anything to please the sister in law and Op parent never once defend her only when Op first threat them she would cut all contract with them and thank god OP cut all contract with them and hope she take that the job and they probably think OP joking of moving that why they having contract her
@1mol8312 жыл бұрын
I wonder why her sister in law was obsessed with having a girl, well, if she wanted one she could try another child until she gets one.
@SoldierSpiderx2 жыл бұрын
@@1mol831 that true but I already fear sorry for that kid the way she mistreat Op by bully her and you know if she do she give the same name OP did but Op cut all contract so OP won't care
@swingking832 жыл бұрын
These stories make me really appreciate my life and the lack of drama I have and refuse to deal with.
@mr.ballen2384 Жыл бұрын
If I was that lady's older brother I would have stood up for her
@tankerscrub58112 жыл бұрын
11:14 “As this is the hill I am willing to die on.” Background footage is on a hill with Spider-Man about to probably have a fight to the death.
@mialoesche7499 Жыл бұрын
That is funny😂😂😂
@Jaden3259 ай бұрын
And on a hill
@Maklop-1026 ай бұрын
Perfect timing be like:
@bisbisknows2 жыл бұрын
If I was in that situation , I would buy a megaphone and talk to them in a very calm yet loud way.
@winchestersons62582 жыл бұрын
The family is fortunate to have had any contact with her after their first stunt.
@okaydudejm Жыл бұрын
Off topic but this is why fathers are needed.
@hw89102 жыл бұрын
people do not have the right to disrespect people, let alone their relative. When people butt into your personal life it just hurts, and even forcing you to he nice because its your “family”. After years of building this kind of relationship its hard to just break off so easily.
@karrokorall2 жыл бұрын
I am so glad we didnt run into drama like this when our son was born. My husband and I had our son in december of 2018 and 2 of my husbands sisters had sons that year as well. I did ask about their baby names since I did not want to decide on a name just to have it get taken before our son was born since our son was born later than his two cousins. I am happy to say that neither one of our 3 families even considered the same names :)
@ABNationHere2 жыл бұрын
okay by this story we can all agree that the sister in law is defenitly the favorite child. i feel bad for that woman :( the one that was being ignored and u know the one that was telling the story
@michaelagardner4058 Жыл бұрын
*Story 1: Those Mama Bear Instincts Kicking In When Y'all Have That Baby*
@miranduri2 жыл бұрын
There are more families like that than we care to admit.
@stproducer2 жыл бұрын
Some of these stories are ridiculous, you’d think people would reserve a certain level of decency for their relatives, but I guess not🤷🏾♂️
@Firefox519752 жыл бұрын
Congratulations for the baby and sorry about how your family was so horrible.
@Sikes. Жыл бұрын
I love your content it's soo good to hear entitled people get showed that they aren't special, aren't everything, and aren't in control of everything
@Mikailjaffer2 жыл бұрын
I swear if this was my family I would never forgive them,slap and punch my imaginary sisters in law jaw and kicked them in the chest.The punching,kicking,slapping is for the sister and swearing is for the rest of my family but for the parents I would’ve been reduced by a lot
@Basildraws12342 жыл бұрын
Damn, being a single mother is hard enough! Last thing OP needed was her WHOLE FAMILY
@colkestrel2 жыл бұрын
I would almost guarantee if the brother got a paternity test the child would not be his.
@SenseiRaisen2 жыл бұрын
i'm 100% sure its not his from the way the SIL push it.
@kai_77k1 Жыл бұрын
its been a year since this was posted, i hope the OP is doing awesome and her baby is doing amazing as well! that family is sooo fucking narcissistic and i hope they finally realize how rude they have been.
@liamturner63932 жыл бұрын
Seemed like parents wished sister in law was daughter
@drapplepear64262 жыл бұрын
I actually understand this situation very well somehow, its like a relative of mine that always sucked up all the stuff in the name of family, and they just never changed, the only way is to force them to understand if not change them, but force them to understand that you will not be their doormat or stooge anymore, and if they think you are being dramatic you should just go up to their face to show them you are dead serious, smash stuff, make a scene it doesn't even matter anymore. But people shouldn't be sucking up this toxicity in the name of family.
@Tontteman2 жыл бұрын
That sister in law seems to be narcissist, i'm guessing that op's brother is not even that baby's father. She most likely started trying get pregnant right after that party and didn't stop when op's brother wasn't there, for narcissist being in the center of attention is all that matters.
@ketokeyes11 ай бұрын
My aunt tried to get my name changed when I was born because she thought naming your child after an actress is "disgraceful" my family goes no contact and I don't even call her aunt anymore
@WoofFur2 жыл бұрын
This story is Infuriating. I feel so extremely mad at the family. I hope the mothers life is so much better now!