My Family Found out I am RICH so they DEMAND that I pay for EVERYTHING - EntitledPeople Reddit

[@JuNaSoSt]

When you come into money, the biggest mistake is to tell family and friends. If they know you have money, people come out of the woodwork with a hand out

[@kawiianimekitty7472]

Especially if they're broke themselves. For years my mom convinced me to let her use my hard earned money to buy cigarettes, Pot, and gas. Couldnt save up any money because of it.

[@BOAZX1000]

yep when you get money don't tell everybody you know because people who don't like will become your "best friend" and will ask you for money but in the story 800,000$ per kid and 8 kids that is just to much

[@red-handed4862]

@@BOAZX1000 6.4 m. 100k would be hefty in itself

[@anonymoushunter9808]

Only keep it to ur own family (girlfriend/ boyfriend and kids)

[@AgentK-im8ke]

@@kawiianimekitty7472 why did you let here do that?

[@7W33F]

the fact her family tried to physically threaten her to pay them was absolutely disgusting. They didn't bat two eyes when they were in dire help but LITERALLY the second they heard that she had money they came running for the hills and when she refused they tried to brute force the money out of her. Talk about a bullshit family

[@Ali-bm5mt]

yeah if i had a familar with money and needed money i would have made a legal contract and paid them back when i had the money the other people where just idiots

[@minzblatt]

Don't think this is a singular incident. That shitty behavior runs broadly in human society. Expect people in your close circles as well. The moment they think someone in a similar position is getting an unwarranted "advantage" over them, their greed kicks in and all of a sudden you become the evil judge that's "punishing" them by omitting their "share" for no apparently good reason. The inner dialogue becomes louder and louder and at one point it bursts out and they unashamedly demand what they deem is justice. That's the messed up psyche of us humans.

[@thecommentguy9380]

Greed, it's in our nature

[@MadaoAcire05]

This is why always draw a line no matter what. She already done too much for them and yet they still want more. The more you give the more they want. And when it was the time you need them they won't help you. I just think she's too nice she already paid a lot of money, it's ok to sponsor your nieces to go to school but paying their mortgage? That's too nice of you. Sponsoring their children is already enough. If you keep it like that they might become lazy and only rely on you to pay anything they be like" oh i want to go vacation, pay for us". And if you said no to them you'll become the bad guy.

[@FrstSpctr88]

Atleast some in everyone's range of relatives contains shitheads...

[@md28stads]

This person did A LOT for their family. More than enough. I'm surprised to see people pay this much for extended family.

[@neal3443]

N that’s how as n lot of ppl go broke taking care of ungrateful ppl

[@zippymax1]

Giving $1 to one person is more than enough. No one is entitled to a dime. But most people enjoy giving good things to those they love. That should be the only determining factor: the whim of the rich woman. Any family member who shows a shred of entitlement should be explicitly cut off from a dime and publically rebuked. That will put an end to any prob from others.

[@jimmyslimmy824]

@@neal3443 Yeah, but she is still making money through investments. So she'll be fine as long as she don't go ANY FURTHER

[@petero2693]

Tax ramifications you cant just give monies away see tax laws...

[@bjrollick5262]

I hear this a lot but personally didn’t happen to me. Granted the money I came into is less than some people’s yearly salary, but my wife and I would have had to both work 3 years to make that much money. Not 1 family member or friend asked for money. I’ll be honest I won my money at a casino but it was 6 figures. I heard people commenting weeks later because I called my dad right when it happened. They were saying how stupid we were for telling friends and what not. I see it this way, if you can’t mention to friends and family 5hat something good happened to you, maybe you have trash friends and family you need to stop talking to.

[@LexusFox]

As the son of these parents who pay for a lot of their siblings stuff, I totally get where this woman is coming from. The worst part is that after a while they don’t even have gratitude for the things you’ve done for them and even expect it to the point it’s no longer a question but a demand. I don’t understand the psychology behind why people become so ungrateful and clueless after a while but just recently my mom got into an argument with her mom because she got mad at my mom for not paying some stuff for my uncle, and she said things like “You guys have money so why don’t you just help him out?” Ironically no other siblings ever help my grandmother or struggling uncle out, it’s always my mom paying for medical treatments and pulling them out of debt, she even gave them a blueberry farm as a gift that she no longer wanted to deal with, but it’s never enough apparently. We have another uncle who’s a doctor and he treats everyone like sht, never gives anyone money and never visits my grandma. Yet recently that she’s been mad at my mom she’s been complaining about my mom while saying she’s grateful to my doctor uncle even though he’s never actually intervened or helped anyone. My mom had to learn the hard way that people don’t care about your help or good deeds, she stopped giving everyone money, and took away the cars she lent my struggling uncle (which btw were in horrible condition, he didn’t take any sort of care for her cars). Right now they’re pissed at her for setting up boundaries, yet are completely enamoured by other relatives who never help or visit them.

[@dotanuki3371]

There's a very terse expression in my native language, that somewhat awkwardly translates to "A lot wants more". What it means is that if you go above and beyond with generosity, it will only be seen as a baseline, and you'll be expected to cough up more. We have another expression too, "Ingratitude is the world's reward."

[@LexusFox]

@@dotanuki3371 That is a very wise expression and I definitely think it’s true!

[@cabecudinhoelite9117]

In my native language we also have an expression that represents perfectly what I believe would be the best course of action for both this guys mom and OP, “cagando e andando como cavalo em dia de parada” which very roughly translates to “pooping and walking like a horse on a parade” which just means to just not really care and to ignore something or someone.

[@RealityroverVr]

RIP bluds thumbs

[@skeletor3]

The cousin that asked for a $1,000 and then quickly paid it back is awesome

[@cubed_gd]

Yup

[@LiterallyJustAxel]

Absolutely

[@nathalieaoi]

My uncle has a good job and lot of money. I always ask them for a loan when its really needed, they set up a contract with a monthly payment. I always pay them back. And I always ask kindly. Not once have they been upset with me. Sometimes life is hard. And i'm so glad that cousin was kind to ask, not demand. And pay it back as soon as he could. He'll achieve great things if he stays polite. Dispite everything his family does

[@brok56]

A breath of fresh air in this mob of holiday beggars.

[@razorwolf2758]

Yes, that’s how you are supposed to do it

[@elleryoneill9466]

Do not pay for them anymore. Anything that happens once, like harassment, win WILL continue. You are in no way wrong, and very brave for standing your ground.

[@wolfpriesty13]

The kids didn't do anything wrong i agree she did nothing wrong but kids are also innocent

[@revanruler6404]

@@wolfpriesty13 you've clearly never been bullied at school, kids can be monsters

[@nurzhanualiev2841]

@@revanruler6404 agreed

[@wolfpriesty13]

@@revanruler6404 i had to quit school because of being bullied the school wouldn't punish them because they were considered special and got the school more money never assume someone hasn't gone through it i suffer a lot of mental demons from what happened to me during school but yeah don't assume something about someone you don't know

[@revanruler6404]

@@wolfpriesty13 Then maybe don't say objectively wrong things, sorry i upset you but as someone who was also bullied hearing someone say all children are perfect and innocent is annoying. you hsould know yourself that children can be monsters

[@limbo2433]

Her husband was amazingly supportive, I wish more people like him existed

[@abdula16]

It’s about her. She’s didn’t change. That why.

[@amrishpatel3501]

Kudos to her husband for being supportive & also defending her when it counted. :)

[@kingyosh3183]

He should be. I think it was mostly his husband's relatives making trouble.

[@epy0nkaru]

Not to be a pessimist, but she is his meal ticket so he has to back her 😂😂

[@itzjustren]

me too.

[@Bunny03629]

Family isn’t always an Excuse. -A very Wise person

[@berrymint6384]

family is about LOVE not blood

[@neilhoganwa]

I had a similar experience. When I told them all my money was gone. It was the only way I could break the greed. I never heard from anyone again. Only one member asked if i needed help, That was the only person I respected and helped them out during hard times after it all went quiet.

[@55Quirll]

That's how you know who your true friends and family are, they will be there for you even during your bad times.

[@victormurphy1075]

U should be a cop so u can surprise karen

[@edwinpeterson9983]

Reminds me of the story about a guy's uncle. His uncle suddenly announced he's bankrupted and broke. Only the guy asked back if his uncle needs help The uncle just went "nah. I'm fine and dandy. I just don't want any leaches hang around me"

[@LMCorvinus]

winnings and funerals bring out the greed in some families faster than golem would go after his precious... it's absolutely disgusting and how often this happens makes me so sad. I'll end up inheriting a bit once my parents pass but I would immediately give that up if I could trade it for more guaranteed years with them spending time with their grandchildren. I don't want the money, I want them here longer and so do my kids. my mother is like over 20 years into being a kidney transplant recipient, so since covid started she can't visit as much or be as close to the kids for her health and they've sent me and my 2 kids on a few small trips to make up for the inability to visit as often, and I wish like hell I could trade that for them being able to come around more often instead. having money is nice, but having a great family that's actually a good support system is way better

[@heroicslayer3792]

The fact that the aunt and uncle wanted 4.8 million dollars in college funds alone is shocking. That's not even including how much the holiday home they were also demanding cost-

[@bougornobrovanni2479]

Crap if I had 4.8 million dollars I’d fucking retire and the dude wants it for collage funds Jesus christ

[@flyboombasher2858]

Yeah. Those aunts and uncles asked for about 5.5 million from the op

[@Riptide866]

This was the biggest shock actually, since most colleges are between 20-40k a year or if you do technical 5-10k a year. She saved 5 years of funds for them 200k would be the most at any point. The aunt and uncle asking for 4 times that amount is just ridiculous.

[@anarkki0223]

If I 4.8 mil naybe i can invest more

[@WaterspoutsOfTheDeep]

This is all made up fiction, you realize that right...

[@VitaNocturno]

This story is a perfect example of why I'd pretend to disappear in the view of my "peer group" and family in the event that I ever win the lottery or get into a well-paying job, since I know they'd crawl to me and basically demand that I pay back debts they invoked long after taking care of me. Family stops being family once they know they can exploit you and it makes me sad.

[@1412-kaito]

Yes, I think she should had taken advantage of covid, and said that money was tough or she lost her job or was re-assigned, to get out of position of having 'too much' money.

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Exactly yes!

[@bobblaster9097]

I mean I agree to an extent but there’s no way I wouldn’t be paying off my immediate family’s debts they’ve all done a lot for me and if I’m rich rich it’s the least I can do. Fuck the estranged family tho if I haven’t seen you in several years you can get bent

[@Christian-ut7gm]

​@@1412-kaito😊. 😊😊😊😊

[@salixmoon8145]

The worst part is that most lotteries require you to be publicly announced as the winner to collect, so no avoiding

[@portcullisgames7763]

This is ridiculous, OP is so generous and the family’s demands are crazy, but not only that, she has done so much for them and a lot of them are being so rude. Good on the people who weren’t crazy and were very grateful.

[@lumberluc]

You drew the line, they crossed it, there are consequences. She did nothing wrong

[@lumberluc]

@Michael Jewell Uh... dude? You okay?

[@ifinallycamebackwiththemil5876]

@@lumberluc hes not

[@denzel1717]

@@lumberluc Listen to the whole video so you know how he feels watch the previous video the entitled mother so probably think twice before you type this comment

[@lumberluc]

@@denzel1717 ??? I'm sorry, did I miss something vastly important to your views?

[@kyuu12345]

@Bruh Moment yeah true could happen

[@jacobreichert6239]

1) based upon how much money they gave out and people were demanding I think “a lot of money” is an understatement 😅 2) these are the most entitled, infuriating people I have ever heard of. If a family member came up to me and paid for my mortgage and Childs college I would treat them better than Jesus i swear. I would kiss the very ground they walked upon.

[@minzblatt]

That's the fascinating thing about humans though. It is God that gave us all of the glory that's also part of this present called life but we still manage to be ungrateful, expect more or question why we aren't getting the same deal as those that got spoon fed with golden tablewear. Some will be content with the little they are handed, many won't be satisfied even with fortunes.

[@brodriguez11000]

@@minzblatt We are blessed with what we can handle. Money has been known to change people and not always for the better. So why bless people with something that'll make them worse.

[@1mol831]

If she was the richest woman in the world then maybe she won't feel it (75 billion), OP is clearly not this woman, probably not even close 1 billion. She is very generous and I won't help with family unless I have USD$1 billion (2022 Jan) in my bank account.

[@Sephiroth144]

I mean, I'm not sure Jesus got treated all that well =p Leastways, not at the end.

[@datemumeta23]

@@minzblatt it seems like humans as a spiecies always try to better their circumstances, and often this comes in the form of complaining to others. there is nothing necissarily wrong with this, however it becomes an issue if you can't express gratitude and satisfaction in equal amounts.

[@j.dominickcatane246]

OP should probably look into hiring private security for herself and her family given the way the that one uncle acted.

[@robertk1701]

Be like "the money I was considering giving to your kids is going towards paying people to protect me from you instead."

[@TitaniumTronic]

Yeah but can we talk about that though? What greedy ass motherfuckers would get violent to someone cause she wont give them money?? Tf, she already did more than enough crap for them, and that's literally what they do? Makes me feel sick

[@J.R8765]

I'm lart way through and I just read this, what the fu-!?

[@savantchoudhary7811]

What is op?

[@robertk1701]

@@savantchoudhary7811 Original Poster

[@buttonsfan]

I don't think any *rational* person could call OP a jerk. She didn't 'divide the family over not giving out her money.' Money isn't even the issue here it's greed and entitlement. OP was more than generous with her savings and she's the only person genuinely entitled to the money.

[@-snowingwillow-4912]

This woman is way to nice I can’t even believe her family did that to her she deserves better and I’m glad her husband was on her side

[@davisholman8149]

Yea - she owes those people NOTHING. She has already done more than 99% of people would do. When she said that many hearing her story would be wondering why she doesn’t just give out more money…. NO WAY!😳 How on earth can people be that selfish - the money is yours!🤑

[@Angela-ur5yf]

Yea this woman is litterly a saint 0,0

[@animejanai4657]

Self-entitlement is a part of many segments of society now.

[@Hr1s7i]

I'm about 94.87% sure that we'll be hearing about her divorce endeavours if her husband was not on her side :D

[@userofsharingan]

@@davisholman8149took me awhile to realize she did onlyfans as work

[@Los2531.]

Crazy how she doesn’t even mind spending that much on family lots of millionaires don’t even do that

[@holdenballantyne8046]

Facts, but now we know why they dont give money, so others don’t expect some too

[@yadvendrakulkarni4698]

i cringe so hard when people pay that much for relatives and etc,because instead of appreciating they just see you as bank accounts later on

[@thecommentguy9380]

Millionaires are millionaires because they know how to save and spend

[@samfish90212]

My father used to make $130k a year back in the 90s and it was hell for him because his family was always asking for a handout. The same family that couldn't be bothered to help when he was homeless.

[@thecommentguy9380]

@@samfish90212 this is why men should never tell anyone their income

[@StankAhhBoy]

She’s not the jerk at all. She sacrificed so much and worked so hard for that money and instead of keeping all that money to her and her husband and children, she decided to pay their mortgages and collage money. Demanding for more money after that and going as far as to strike her is insane. She is certainly not the jerk

[@1mol831]

If she is one of the top 100 richest women in the world (who has far more than 1 billion in net worth), then probably go ahead and demand some money, but she still has the right to not give any. But I don't think OP is one of the top 100 richest women in the world, she could clearly state that she is unable to fund her extended family, how could you fund someone without 1 billion in your bank account? She sounds overly generous.

[@pforgottonsoul]

@@1mol831 as the story went on it seemed like the problem is she is too nice.

[@1mol831]

@@pforgottonsoul indeed, save some for yourself, if you couldn’t buy a yacht, what money do you have to spare?

[@Captaintrippz]

I could understand asking for money for a life saving surgery, but vakay? No, no one should ever feel pressed to pay for someone else's leisure time. OP has already gone so far above the standard, just proof, if you give em an inch...

[@bernard799]

And this is what I fear if my dad actually won the lottery...

[@DarkOverlord273]

The OP’s Family needs to know the saying “Don’t Bite The Hand That Feeds You”

[@LexieLin-lv1rc]

I got more and more furious with this story, she paided from college funds, mortage, holidays, down payments, financial aids, and they still have the audacity to berate her with calls and hate messages, intrude into her house and physically, emotionally, mentally abuse her, if I was her, I'd demand every penny back, disown all of them and cut contact for atleast a few years. Honestly, her husband was really great about the situation, helping, defending and breaking relationships with his family is tough, I honestly really think she should sue all of them.

[@ThatsWhatSheSaid4409]

Don't hold back lol

[@FredRated1967]

Oh, you should hear the updates past what was read here. It goes from the sublime to the absurd.

[@marcuswanha9723]

@@FredRated1967 you know what to search or where to find the other updates?

[@covercalls88]

Don't get so worked up as I take them as stories to make for some interesting content and comments.

[@animejanai4657]

Her relatives just wanted Equity from someone that refused to Pay Their Fair Share in supporting people who don't have all that wealth.

[@senseidingding8724]

This lady goes through so much just for money and she still so nice to them PLUS that family seems very large, and she showed massive dominance by punching that uncle

[@bassdropkeyyys]

never happend this whole story is so funny though but yea never happened lol

[@Biblicallyaccurateseal]

@@bassdropkeyyys proof and grammar

[@bassdropkeyyys]

@@Biblicallyaccurateseal my grammar was fine

[@neelakantannittoor77]

When money comes family gets bigger

[@hayleydarling4605]

@@bassdropkeyyys she did work really hard to get money for herself and the family did seem large her cousin has 8 kids and she did Punch the uncle at the end.

[@QinC_hen]

She is not a jerk, she was the one who even thought about setting aside money for her nephews and nieces and just demanding someone else to pay for such an expensive vacation and along with multiple college fees containing more then $100,000 is just ridiculous. Along with the fact that were still in the pandemic this is a lot of money wasted that could be used to help the family out

[@cubed_gd]

And we are about to be in another epidemic Monkeypox

[@FEARTHEACE444]

And they STILL ASKED FOR A 35K VACATION SO CASUALLY

[@kidslikes4881]

She legit asked for 35k

[@Orca_Alt]

Those extended family members who begged and threatened for the money are literal leeches and douchebags

[@thegamingchannel7110]

Jerk

[@aldorichartejr5763]

No jerk because I respect that you give her the voucher and the things you have given her which means that she doesn't need no more because that is a lot of money and can't led in money every time

[@kishaloyb.7937]

OP is literally an angel in human form. She literally took care of 90% of the financial burdens of her closest relatives and even then got treated horribly.

[@chipthegoober]

take my like, this is too true

[@Urfavkeroo]

So true

[@KolossusB]

give an inch, take a mile.

[@mmcherry2011]

Fr. This girl is cooking with fire

[@koniroseroyval5278]

This is NOT TRUE.

[@bakerboardz39]

As someone who struggles speaking up for themselves, I couldn't be more proud of her for putting her foot down.

[@bluestarvideos1055]

You are very Gulible my guy.

[@alexbrady7845]

learn how to say no mf stop getting walked on

[@reconstructwhat]

@ BlueStarVideos you are a kid

[@selwynowen6213]

If you give in to one person, who knows how many others would want you to do it for them

[@lookintothelightcarolanne4699]

@@selwynowen6213exactly why so many wealthy folk don’t help their extended family…

[@jamesjdm]

I would pay for a house for my mom. beyond that everyone can take a hike. in no way shape or form is anyone guilting me into a damn thing.

[@818boy]

Ditto sir!!!

[@ALLaboutGAMINGxCHAOSxHOLLOWx]

yup! same. My mom would be pampered till the day she passed but everyone else can get fucked, there is always someone out there who clames they need it more...

[@q12aw50]

Depending on how rich I would be, I could understand giving niece of nephews and your own children college funds.

[@zqwill1079]

I agree but I think if she deserves it you go to do it with your thoughts then do it that is how I’d say it

[@ajchapter13]

Exactly

[@MyMonster-qj5ul]

you're not the jerk. You worked hard for that money and your family are free loaders.

[@aceash5.065]

They are totally not the jerk. The family was being lazy, demanding, and abusive. Special compliments to her husband for being an absolute chad the whole time 👍🏻

[@cayy8124]

True

[@Moonlight1000.]

Chad

[@buttonsfan]

Also the husband's dad and anyone else rational. Even the kids of the entitled Sister-in-law knew better, except for the youngest but hopefully they'll also become more mature than their mother with time.

[@WaterCrane]

I think the main words is "greedy"... horribly, horribly greedy. And entitled. Wow, and when they did an intervention if you can even call it that and resorted to violence...

[@hksawitfirst]

after all the family started crying for money, i would’ve just said that everyone bled me dry and now i have to sell my home and ask for money just to see who actually gives it.

[@panda9315]

genius, I bet only the cousins would step up

[@wolfy5478]

Ur name funny I like it hehehe

[@jerichojones2722]

this is such a lesson in karma. op said that she was once in a tough position herself and asked the family for money, and only 3 out of 9 people she asked gave her money, the rest pretty much telling her "not my problem". and you know for a fact that those 3 people that gave her money, will receive whatever help they need for the rest of their lives.

[@daris4k512]

the fact that anyone thinks that you even owed them the college tuition or mortgage is crazy you owe them nothing the fact that they even asked for more is crazy

[@mariano5253]

if they pay for your university if you owe them if you do it yourself it's different

[@rykercritchfield921]

I’m sorry but in part 2 did the extended family really ask for 800k for each of their 6 kids, and a vacation home? Because I think that pretty absurd to ask for 4.8 million with no intent of paying any of it back

[@tomjoad1363]

She could have simply said that she had not THAT amount of money, just a dozen of thaousands of dollars. It would have awaken them, and they owuld have lower down, even if it is a lie.

[@donaldmcmillan5529]

OMG, I can't get over how entitled they felt about OP's money!! I came from a lower middle class family and was an electircian througout most of my life until I had an accident that left me disabled. We struggled to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. One thing was I had a small home built (only about 1000 square feet) on 2 acres of land and only owed less then a year on it when my younger brother graciously paid off the rest of our loan. We did not expect this and was greatly relieved when he did this for us and we still greatly appreciate what he did for us. He has worked hard for his money all his life and has a good job in a highly competitive market. He tells us things like he could have retired comfortably a decade ago but we have no clue how much he is worth and frankly it is none of our business. He has taken some awesome vacations and sent us pictures from the places he has been around the world and we are happy for him because his job is so demanding that he needs to have time to get away from it and just relax. He once paid for us to go on an adventure with him and it was an awesome experience. He did it out of the goodness of his heart and we love him dearly even if he didn't do things like that for us. It makes me sick to here people demanding money from realatives just because they have it like they should be entitled to it. IF they give you a gift appreciate it and don't think you should deserve anything else because unless you earn it, you don't!

[@gamemaster4558]

Damn an essay

[@icywolf6892]

@@gamemaster4558 of gratitude and appreciation :D

[@LightningCreatorSamYT]

This was a very good essay, lol, this story is very heart warming and you are right, no family should ever be DEMANDING money or even going so far to use violence for it.

[@dudein9785]

This is the respect everyone should practice when it comes to monetary subjects. The money we earn is our money, and we have to respect our boundaries and other's too, I really enjoy helping people that know how to deal with situations like these

[@chancegaming487]

What does op mean

[@demonrose7963]

The opposite happened in my family. My brother insisted I get most of the inheritance. He had a good job and I was busy taking care of our mom. He even made sure I had things I needed for 3 months after our mom passed.

[@tonygroves5526]

Your brother is a good man. Very rare nowadays.

[@_CallMeMilo_]

You have a great brother

[@clemo85]

Just because OP has the money doesnt mean her family or in laws deserve it. She's better off without them.

[@DuskShadow235]

When OP said 35k for that family trip I made my girlfriend laugh so dang hard because I said in the deepest voice she had ever heard from me “I could buy a car with that shit”

[@dillonmackay683]

So she technically gave 500,000 in college funds or more and paid for a whole vacation and that sister in law still wanted more 😂

[@shadowknight1121]

Greed is a powerful sin. Why settle for some when you could have more.

[@animejanai4657]

That's because people in generate either hate or are very jealous of wealthy people. So it's no wonder the successful wealthy couple got a lot of flack. Look at how the democrats harnessed the hate of the wealthy for election gains. It's no surprise that all these family members were jealous and wanted some money.

[@Bruhman_16]

Sounds like my brother when he wants ice cream from the ice cream truck

[@gamerndl]

yes

[@mandomineblox5543]

sounds like a moucher to me

[@dianeposey637]

This person has just earned my full respect for speaking her mind and doing it respectfully

[@nataliegenung1787]

Whenever someone has money when they didn’t, that’s when the wolves come out. OP is not the jerk. She did as much as she felt comfortable with and to be honest, did more than I would’ve. I am a kind person and I would help people if they need it, but I am not knowledgeable about money enough to plan that out.

[@Cats_are_better_than_dogs192]

They say that money doesn’t buy happiness and this story shows it to the extreme. Coming to the op’s house and attacking her was absolutely unacceptable and the person is 100% not the jerk

[@tankster27]

"It's like the more money we come across the more problems we see." 100% not a jerk. You get what you earned. Period. That is why there are workers and there are entrepreneurs.

[@Gamerad360]

Old Chinese Proverb "More money more problems."

[@tommt509]

How could anyone be mad ??? She's literally like one of the best people I've heard of she did everything for them I wish I even had family

[@Swahiliangift70x7]

The OP (Original Poster) was very generous and it is very sad that she has gone through all of this with these ungrateful family members.

[@AngelicaSilva-p8c]

You could say to the uncle and other family members that slapped you that you were going to do something nice to them but you are not doing it anymore 😂

[@zackhostetler5175]

Holy this story was chaotic. I’m very proactive at how OP dealt with her sister-in-law and how supportive OP’s husband was

[@lisatanksley5317]

I just find it hard to believe an entire family feels that untitled to someone else’s wealth. I have plenty of family who are quite well off, but I know for sure that i’m not entitled to a penny and would never ask them for anything unless I were desperate. Then I’m sure they would help.

[@ShrimpFry_Cute]

Idk about Americans or other countries but, my family usually doesn't beg nor do something stupid to ask for thier money, we think about the other family member's stress and situation, even if they're rich and they could buy the world, my family wouldn't want to depend on that wealth. Even if we are poor and just getting by day to day, and borrowing money and paying it back, we would never ever want to depend on other's hardwork, blood and sacrifices. Though most of my cousins live with a Karen that they hate and I hate alot, they are respectful, but most elders are just Screaming and thinking they're above all the others though, they come to my house then *STEP THIER FILTHY FEET ON MY DOG'S HEAD* which I curse about alot. But they respect my parents and the elders, just not the kids too much. Sincerely -Me a 13 year old.

[@0westdude]

I know my extended family on my mother's and father's side would be like this of anyone got money

[@ShrimpFry_Cute]

@@0westdude it is reasonable but, going infront of thier house and protesting is kind of unreasonable...

[@NoGoatsNoGlory.]

@@ShrimpFry_Cute your are 13? If this is true then I highly recommend you check out hamza's channel because there are many people who find it later in life and wish they had when they were 13. You seem to have a good head on you. I am the same way. His channel is about learning about how to improve your life to be the best version out there. There are many KZbinrs like this but I have found that hamza is the most life-changing one. I suggest you scroll down to his videos from 3 months ago and find one you like. This could change your life forever. If you don't care and don't even think about using the channel, then I urge you to at least remember this motto. To do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it. Sincerely -Me a 14 year old

[@reconstructwhat]

@ no goats, no glory welp I’ll check the channel out then. -Me, a 15 year old

[@حسينمسملي-ل2ع]

I swear to God you are a very good person. I can't believe what your family is doing. I wish you well and hope to get richer. I want to say I love you for what I did to your family who helped you. Sorry for the spelling errors, English is not my native language

[@9Dark8]

Btw I don't think this is his story. I believe it's a reddit story

[@flame6290]

@@9Dark8 your pretty slow aren't you?

[@9Dark8]

@@flame6290 explain pls? You can't just say your slow without explaining y I'm slow.

[@BerzerkerD.Savage468]

@@9Dark8 yo my guy don't pay attention to that loser, obviously they're having issues and want attention so don't give them any if they're gonna act like a child (which it probably is)

[@Trollzom]

@@9Dark8 he can't explain cause he knows your correct

[@Sstarryyyy]

W father-in law i have major respect to him 💐

[@razgrizadler]

Such audacity! It's true that family should "help"each other. When they really need one. it means life and death situation not for luxury!! Violent is so wrong too. They can ask for your help but have no rights to make demands. Stay strong!

[@kajhalkasraei2796]

I heard this story like 7 months ago and It's still mind blowing to me that someone would ask for 35 k from somebody else and then say " we deserve it " you deserve someone else's money ? How ? How exactly do you deserve 35k of someone else's money ?

[@ashlyn_gaming]

That’s my whole question about this whole story

[@jenot7164]

I would understand if she needed it for an expensive medical treatment. And then payed it back in small amounts each month without interest.

[@TikkyNoSurname]

Well, sorry, but isn't that the same thing as when you see a video in which someone rich buys something idiotically expensive that they wouldn't need to buy at that price and people in the comments are like: "The anger I feel when I see that. I scrape by with my student loans and look at that mother of four who has 50 bucks to make it through the week." But just because someone has money it has no bearing on any of the people in the comments. If they want to spend their money lavishly or have it resting in bank account, it doesn't fucking matter. Just because they don't spend 30 dollars on a bottle of water (which they are free to do, as it is THEIR money), doesn't mean that money is missing from YOUR table. But for some reason, humanity has degraded in a way that everything has to cater to us. So it doesn't surprise me, that, in the realms of family relationship, people just expect that they deserve that money.

[@Dont_Tread_on_Me448]

​@@TikkyNoSurname jealousy and hatred is rampant these days , it's absolutely disgusting

[@kmon1324]

Because the SIL has two well-known plagues known to mankind called envy and entitlement... and it spreads too.

[@JavoCover]

I'm 32 and already know how scummy my "family" can be behind that "good-and-nice-person-we-are-all-loving-supporting-family" faces. AND I'M NOT EVEN MIDDLE CLASS Good thing I'm considered the "poor bastard", so nobody will ask for me when I dissapear.

[@elrianarseid7398]

17 here, and you know what? Since I'm 9, my 'family' truly hate me for attention I'm getting because I'm different. They really thought my grandparents inheritance will be all given to me. And just same as you, considered as 'poor bastard' they won't come unless something truly urgent or just want to spit my face.

[@JavoCover]

@@elrianarseid7398 I always show up poor dressed when meeting them, even though I'm in a good time of my life. When I repair my car the clothes are better. 😆

[@elrianarseid7398]

@@JavoCover no joke, I'd rather look like that just for them to look down on me lol

[@StrangerOnTheWeb]

Greed corrupts, don't talk about your wealth to anyone, ever

[@Czrnr]

Everyone except the extended family and the sister/brother/mother in law are absolutely amazing people, the Husband is supportive, the children are grateful for the OP, and even the father in law is probably disappointed in what his daughter is doing. (Also that one guy who borrowed money and payed it back quick yeah he is the perfect example of a responsible person)

[@AshleyLee1025316]

Not a jerk sounds like she was as respectful as possible and had every right to say no and even consulted her partner (who's family it was) for advice. She did super kind things. No good dead goes unpunished sadly.

[@chuckgarner2853]

My friend's last name is lee

[@piercingtheveil7749]

I know this exact situation when my father passed away and left me everything, enough for myself children grandchildren,Etc, to live comfortable for the rest of our lives, and on… but my family didn’t like that and sued me… I destroyed them in court and long story short, I blocked them from our lives. No loss, they showed their true colours when the chips were down, and old dogs never learn new tricks. I had to put restraining orders on a few of my relatives, once the word got around I wasn’t bothered anymore. You cant give them a dime because it’ll never stop and it will wreck your life. This lady would be better off without them in her life, by the sounds of it. Definitely not a jerk, in hind sight being to kind has got her into some bad places.

[@xiii0722]

@Rapdile very good point

[@DWP0330]

You did the right thing. You stood your ground and said no because they thought they could push you around and demand for YOUR money. They should be thankful that you are helping them out so much. I am just going to college and I have very little for my college fund, so helping them out is very generous. Also, it’s like what you said, if you need money, you need to work for it.

[@Scrufby]

No way in hell is she the jerk. She has done *WAY* too much for them and yet receive a complete negativity and demanding of large amount of cash for them. In all honesty, I would at least start slowly cutting strings, and tell my closest and trustworthy relative or my spouse. Even if it may look bad, distancing your family from the negative side of the family tree is sometimes helpful, it kinda forces the negative family to look apon their actions and hopefully make them rethink and try to repair that string you slowly cutted.

[@wolfy5478]

Bro u wrote a whole paragraph I almost had a stroke looking at this

[@wolfy5478]

I still agree

[@not-so-obvious_autism777]

Yeah true sometimes you need to burn a broken bridge in order to repair it ✊🏽

[@gmona2858]

honestly the OP is such a good person. She is. GOOD person through and through because many people would keep the benefit to their children and not tell a soul outside their own family unit and be the rich aunt by themselves. The OP tried to distribute the wealth in the best way possible but still was meet with this. the fact that she got slapped by the uncle - I CANT.

[@pforgottonsoul]

it's sad but this is exactly the reason most people keep it to themselves, money brings out the worst in people.

[@JotaroKujo-fr7uo]

What’s OP mean

[@TobyTCD]

@@JotaroKujo-fr7uo original poster I'm pretty sure

[@markwhetton262]

You did way more than most peoples wildest dreams. The fact the family feels they can threaten and bully you in to spending a fortune on them is ridiculous. It would be like paying a blackmailer money, they would just keep coming back asking for more and more every time they wanted something else. You definitely did the right thing and a lot more politely than I would have been.

[@PressXForXavier]

Holy shite, my grandparents HELPED me pay for uni, and I WAS SOBBING because I was so happy. What is wrong with people.

[@arobloxfreak9200]

I don't care if it staged, it's just interesting tn listen to a story so well made

[@tekajikuyalkrul5111]

Oh I've witnessed this in my family many times

[@tharifdzulfiqar789]

Even if its staged, someone facing this problems

[@hebercluff1665]

This is a common problem with very rich families. I found out later one of my friends came from a VERY rich family. He never liked people to know that about him

[@cgill4544]

I’m with the op, if I had that much money, I would definitely help my family that needs it, but not the ones that treat me poorly. She is right, do what she did and make money if you need it

[@Luna6716]

OP sounds like a literally saint, and the shit that happened to her she did not deserve. And I hope she files restraining orders to everyone involved in cornering her at her own house.

[@waitwut_hldup]

Any relative who felt they were entitled to my money would be cut off from it. However, if those relatives had children, I would help them with college funds and only college funds. Their parents can figure out the rest for their own families. I completely agree with helping families in crisis or dire need of assistance. I also believe having them sign a contract/loan document as I see fit is my prerogative. It would depend on why the funds are needed, how much is needed, and the type of relationship I have with them: non-hostile and non-aggressive. No one, and I mean no one, is entitled to someone else's money that they have no claim to other than because they are rich and entitled family members aren't. Get yourself a good job and make your own money. Something to remember - Just because we were born into a family doesn’t make them OUR family. WE, as individuals, have the right to choose our family. PERIOD!

[@GhosterGames]

The ultimate type of parents “keeping your money safe” when you’re a kid

[@gilleslesire4983]

Putting it in seperate funds is the best way to avoid such a situation. Which is what OP did.

[@onyxyui6104]

That supportive husband proud of his hardworking wife. Man gotta love when he defends her even against his own sister. Also love how she was sweet enough to pay for some family ( that was nice, even if it later did affect her later own)

[@GamerLord55]

This story is a perfect encapsulation of why money can ruin a family, not say that it can ruin all families, but just goes to show that money is such a powerful and corruptive force that is not to be treaded lightly. I've always said that if I win the lottery or have a huge sum of money given to me, I will not tell a signal soul cause situations like this

[@Equick24]

Does everyone just love how they make the sister inlaw sounds like dobby the house elf 😂

[@epy0nkaru]

This is why you do everything contractually and make sure they don’t ask for more or tell anybody else, or they lose the funds.

[@TWM_Cell]

The fact that people can literally think that they are getting money for there bdays in the thousands and even tens of thousands just cause is just wow to me. Not trying to compare at all but I would be lucky to even get $100 for my birthday no strings attached and am always very grateful for it.

[@ciandaly888]

I'm literally the same, it would actually be such a shock if i even got 100 euro for my birthday. Entitled people are literally the worst...

[@MiyusTab]

@@ciandaly888 i would be happy to get 1k php

[@icywolf6892]

I would be happy to get $10 USD on my birthday because we dont even celebrate it

[@bukanorang.9233]

My parents earn 8k a month and im very happy when i get 50 on my birthday

[@MiyusTab]

@@bukanorang.9233 lucky you you could buy tons of stuff with 50 usd

[@sasuno-sama592]

“Am I the jerk?” Anyone who says yes deserves to go to hell.

[@ps92809]

wow

[@panzer.kampfwagen]

yes

[@hebercluff1665]

"ye-" Oh. He's gone already.

[@panzer.kampfwagen]

@@hebercluff1665 nope i live within the minds whoever sees this reply

[@elfumidoreviscaratoroflung]

Remember givers have a limit while takers don’t

[@DragonsWatchlist]

Honest mad respect for standing your ground. The mvp in this are your husband and the rebel kids and the one who made the recording. People worst sides come out when it comes to money especially during covid times there are and were a lot of uncertainties. But its just sad and depressing to hear this. Are you a jerk? God fucking no. In my eyes you did everything correct and im sorry to hear that because of this nonsence that there is a rift now and it sucks even more their family. You are not a jerk, you are a legend and also thought me something from it, i am very grateful to you.

[@starbucksgirl652]

You are Not the jerk. When you give to people like this they will always come back for more.

[@lnx4845]

Ok, so I can understand if the sister-in-law decided to use her voucher to help pay for the trip, or even saved up so that her family could go. However, she didn't and cause a giant fight that caused so much drama that honestly wasn't worth it. Also, the whole "puppy-dog eyes" trick indicates that she is incredibly manipulative, and the parents and her husband should've delt with this sooner. The op isn't the asshole and the rest of the family did a really good job calling the sister-in-law out

[@sougotokiwa8439]

Sister in law can go to hell.

[@mil0peng449]

I don't understand why they said, "they deserved it". As a family, this is not a valid reason to ask a rich member to pay for everything. Everyone has to work hard and earn their own money. So be grateful when all your mortgages and college funds are paid for out of goodwill.

[@1mol831]

If I have 1 trillion dollars, I would be willing to pay for everything, I think this woman has no more than 10 million based on her behavior, she doesn't live in a mansion, nor does she own a jet. Why would she even consider helping out her extended family when she can't buy yachts or jets?

[@alfiechat]

Wow, that husband’s family was something else

[@eyesup9542]

You are NOT the jerk!!! Congratulations on the financial results of all your hard work, sacrifice, and dedication 🤗♥️

[@Burgker]

It’s not his story

[@danielmorton1606]

Yeah, I wouldn't downplay the luck there. That is beyond investment banker money, doctor money, etc. In the US, the gifts would require multimillions alone. Without some seed, this is investing in a bubble with leverage, like buying Gamestop calls before it exploded, or bitcoin in 2010. It's likely outside of the US during an insane growth period, with some other inflow of money. Basically an impossible to achieve scenario in any other circumstance.

[@Lillith.]

Never tell people you came into money. This always happens. If this ever happened to me, I'm so glad I don't know most of my aunts and uncles. Shutting someone asking for money down with "I don't think we've met" sounds like a lot of fun.

[@garlandpierce6148]

bro, I would file a restraining order against every person there, I really hope that family sees this video and possibly can finally see how STUPID they were

[@Anindyatejo]

Based on the OP experience, I doubt they would. They probably said that the OP is the wrong one and they are the right one.

[@garlandpierce6148]

and that just goes to show how stupid our justice system can be

[@jonathancole5179]

@@garlandpierce6148 The police were on OP's side.

[@AMindInOverdrive]

NOBODY is ENETITLED to YOUR money. Crazy that people are so entitled these days. I have several wealthy friends and I make sure to take my turn when we go out to eat together. Just because someone is rich, doesn't mean they have to pay.

[@nemz3877]

It's wild how the idea of family is brought up once word gets out about someone having money, but the same can't be said when they're in the trenches

[@rybygd]

i feel dissappointed in myself for laughing at the fact that his entire family was infront of his door and they all started yelling at the OP

[@purpleguy2982]

He? You mean she

[@rybygd]

@@purpleguy2982 by your behaviour and pfp i can tell exactly what kinda person u are

[@rubenkrijbolder6870]

It is mentioned like multiple times the OP is a woman. So why go ham against PurpleGuy when he just corrects your sentence correctly? And assuming what type of person someone is after 1 sentence is really shallow behaviour. It tells more about you as a person then it does about PurpleGuy.

[@rybygd]

@@rubenkrijbolder6870 yoo my name is also ruben

[@Visceralreality]

You have done nothing wrong. Any family should be extremely grateful if they had an Auntie willing to legitimately help anyone that needs it in such a way. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Your money is your own, not theirs.

[@anothersquid]

i went through this... basically the same. Left home at 17, got a decent job... and almost immediately the requests for free money came in. Finally, in my mid-20's, I just stopped handing out cash, and the whole family got mad at me. We didn't really talk much for 15 years after that. Most of the relationship has been repaired, but there's still occasional hints that I should just pay for stuff. Interestingly, I'm not rich. In fact, my whole family ultimately did reasonably well and live comfortable middle-class lives, but for some reason, I'm not entitled to that and should still hand over cash. It's not like someone else paid for my university, rent, house, etc. That's all me (and my wife). If I ever won a lottery or something, I'd pretty much have to leave the country.

[@jeffdavis8590]

I have great respect for how OP handled this, so far. I would not give anymore money to anyone outside of the loans with paperwork. I would also see that uncle go to jail for assault, and extortion. He was after all effectively saying give us money or I'll beat you. I would even carry to get everyone else there as accessories to the assault. She needs to make it clear that messing with her and you'll come away bloody.

[@michaelbrandon1222]

I couldn't imagine being treated like this. Just disown them all, family isn't as important as people think it is.

[@ErkiDM1997]

Facts, still they are family but after such a shitshow. You would be better of with a few very good friends.

[@1Hxny_Bee1]

The family is crazy and terrible but we need to talk about how supportive and just- perfect her husband was throughout all of this, like he was so helpful and made it SURE that it was HER MONEY, and she shouldn't be FORCED to pay for OTHERS.

[@mykaelnyx8821]

She is 100% a jerk! How dare she not pay for all my wants and needs even though she doesn't know I exist!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 Naw, im just messin'...

[@jeffmendez4081]

For some some reason, your sister/monster in-law feels as though you owe her or is entitled to more than your generous blessing. You have gone above and beyond and should be proud of yourself. Any family should be honored to have such a loving caring member as yourself. Hopefully the children will realize the struggle that you saved them from. It pains me to hear that the adults do not see that and instead choose to be selfish and childish. Stop where you are. Be proud of what you have done. Say no!

[@truckenbxr998]

Wow! You go girl! You’ve done enough. I have many family members who are very well off (I’m not one of them) and I say good for them. We have a good relationship but the idea of going to any of them for money makes me cringe.

[@sarbulandi1544]

It happens when we step up to help without being asked to. Please start relying on the person who always help them without even asking. One should be helpful in a way that he wouldn't be the one totally carrying other person's burden. More power to you!

[@loshijosdelachismosaokc8452]

Cops: we're called made fines for breaking social distance rules and the expectation that charges might be pressed against them

[@vk76157]

I can definitely relate to this situation. I was a 20 years old University student. Made a couple of investments and got profit out of it suffice to say. My little sister on the other hand, she’s a student, but she’s aware that my parents will also give us an allowance. And since my mom’s the one in charge of our allowance, she is also aware that my mom tends to listen to me more and will give in to me more, but I always try to prevent myself from doing that as I also make my own money now but still accept and am grateful with what she gives me. Now for those of you wondering why I don’t use what I’ve made, that’s because I put most of what I’ve made into my savings and kept the remaining 10% to pay half of my student accommodation whilst my father pays the other half. My mom gives the both of us an allowance for our daily spendings and she’s very fair about this too. I don’t have an issue with this but my sis does and spends it quickly at times. Roll to her birthday and as a surprise, I sent her a little money as a gift to her bank account only to find angry messages from her, demanding I give her more since she’s now 18. Mind you, we’re from Malaysia and we’re both studying in the UK, so everything there is 5x more expensive and what I gave her was just a little extra. The little shit couldn’t even say thank you and didn’t see why she was wrong. I was a little hurt but furious nonetheless because it was money that I worked and earned. I normally give her simple gifts she might like every year but never money because her greed and need for money is endless. Hence why I’ve always refused. Spoke with her on the phone until she started gaslighting and manipulating me into giving in. For once, I put my foot down and she obviously didn’t like that considering she called me selfish, so I ended the call and made an urgent phone call to my parents instead. I knew from a very young age that she loved money and would practically do anything for it, but I never knew she’s go to that length. She really did crossed a line by disrespecting me and I’m really glad I put my foot down. Parents sided with me on this, talked it out with her. Because my accommodation near my university was only 3 hours away by train for her, I made sure security was aware to not let her in by any means unless I personally brought her in or gave the ok. Some of you might say I was being dramatic, but mind you I used to be a doormat for her and since this was my first time saying no and not giving in, I had to put in a preventative measure just in case as she’s also of legal age in the Uk which is 18. Update: it’s over now and she still does demand for something big and extra every year on her birthday, but I’ve now handed the responsibility to my parents instead as I still live with them. And I only ever say happy birthday as I’m still scarred by what happened but no longer her doormat or give in to whatever she wants

[@xiii0722]

Thanks for sharing. Somehow expected a bigger escalation to come up in this story once security was mentioned, but glad nothing happened :) Sucks to hear your sister can be entitled like that though

[@vk76157]

@@xiii0722 Tbh, I was nervous about even involving security too and I was wondering if it was necessary to put out a restraining order. But thank goodness that wasn’t necessary

[@xiii0722]

@@vk76157 yeah, that's understandable. Plus: it is about a close family member after all

[@thomaspereira3512]

So glad everything is kind of worked out for you. And also you go, I have two Sibling of my own and when we were younger one of them use to treat me like her own personal butler, but yh I put foot down back then and now that we are older we are on really good terms.

[@neelakantannittoor77]

Hats off to you bro

[@Buckymono693]

You can try and make her feel like she is a queen and then just take it away and make her realize how brutal reality is

[@blackmoonlight2309]

This is why I believe we should only give what someone can return or gifts that are not too generous

[@jasoncarpp7742]

It's insane how family can be when someone or people in the family have lots of money. Good for OP for refusing to just give it away. *No one* is *"entitled"* to anything. *No one* *"deserves"* that money.

[@samsweeney8740]

You worked hard ,look after your own family from now on ,and the people who helped you in your hour of need and forget about the rest, they don't deserve your time or anything else, stay happy and true to yourself and live will be better xxx

[@Eifos-L-Braxenlee]

6:16 “bu-bu-bu-but we deserve it, you won’t even miss it, we’re family!” That voice acting sounded so perfect that i think it could be a part of a movie

[@vikingshark2634]

This sounds a lot like my sister and my brother-in-law. They made smart moves and became wealthy with the right combination of work, investments and luck. When they started sharing the wealth, some people in the family started to view their money as a free-flowing asset that was apparently easy to give away, and there was a period of a lot of years where they just kept giving whatever they were asked for, sometimes money or favors into the tens of thousands of dollars at a time. They bought cars, they bought houses, they paid for nieces and nephews college, they gave 'loans' to a bunch of failed business ventures. But it was never enough, there was always more that was needed or more that was asked (since this money was free and easy after all). Eventually my brother-in-law cut the faucet off in order to take care of his own family and investments. My sister still struggles with her conscience and we frequently have conversations about her guilt over not being able to help anymore. I always found it strange that people who made the right moves should be made to feel guilty about not giving away their own hard work and investments, or questioned about how they spend their money, or get smoke for how many vacations they take or what they drive. Any money you earn is your money, and if you wanna load up a dumptruck full of cash and drive down the highway at 75mp with an open tailgate that's nobody's business but your own. You're Not the Jerk even if you took the money you used to give away and threw it into a fire instead.

[@0-RB]

She’s lucky to have a lot of money and that she and her husband is responsible for money. It’s sad their family is treating her like BS.