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[@rodgertim2881]

He definitely will jeopardize your kids future. I don’t understand why people rather remain in a marriage than getting a divorce.

[@BendyChoy]

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[@ZhannaDavidova]

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[@LSBContractingLLC]

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[@sebastiaanthijn7982]

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[@sebastiaanthijn7982]

He can help you stay on track and avoid making an impulsive decisions that can harm your financial future

[@nickm4662]

She would rather have her kids around a lying thief just to keep the house together? Dad is a terrible role model.

[@Kinksgalore]

He doesn't care about her or the kids.

[@danzidae]

just delu lu

[@seanjean9677]

Just to keep up appearances

[@joesmith3590]

He lays the pipe. She doesn’t have a husband she got scammed. Sucks she seems nice. Bad taste in partners is very expensive.

[@catherinn.951]

I’d say she budget quite a bit and she may have a lot to lose so she decided to deal with it and stick to it until she can sort herself out

[@TheKingsOutpost]

Guarantee, she told him how much she is worth while dating before they got married. His eyes lit up!

[@calpolyca]

💯

[@JustinCase780]

@@TheKingsOutpost He was hard after hearing 1M net worth.

[@pneron2032]

No, a sly fox like him is clever enough to play it cool until everything is gone.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Yup, and she picked him

[@catherinewilke5583]

Yep he targeted her from the beginning. He’s a thief.

[@patriciacatlinbrown3804]

I have a feeling her husband’s “business” is actually stealing money from women. He’s a con-artist. 😢 She needs to run!

[@alinatamashevich3354]

She picked him!

[@jecrpalier]

@@patriciacatlinbrown3804 lol that’s funny. Spending a woman’s money theft. Spending a man’s is just a bad spending wife. Yeah we get it. All the simps and dumb women in here classic

[@289Mustang67]

@@alinatamashevich3354 Your comment makes zero sense. It was made clear that she had no hint that he was a fraudster. What is your solution? Do you avoid relationships with everyone so you don't get fooled, live a solitary life, and get on KZbin to blame anyone who fell in love and was hurt? Even more strange, do you single out women as the fault of every failed relationship?

[@unknowncomment85]

so only women are allowed to steal what men make? via alimony and asset division?

[@awill3454]

@unknowncomment85 Yeah sucks for this woman but I’ve seen women do this to men, including my own mother. but when I called her out for stealing child support after finding out she was receiving A LOT more than she was spending on us, she cried and played the victim and turned my family against me. We lived in a 700sqft apartment with cockroaches and black mold and my brother and I shared a room and our entire closet and half our bedroom was used for her storage when she downsized. We had PBJs and spaghetti almost every day but I’m the bad one for calling out the $5,600/month she was receiving in CS that never trickled down to us. Sad that when genders are reversed all of a sudden there’s sympathy for the victim.

[@debbieholoquist2059]

A bad marriage is a horrible place to raise a child. Staying with him for the children is a mistake.

[@Rin22730]

It's not though. Facts don't lie. Children are better off in a 2 parent home. Kids do not do well when parents are split, even if they stay together in a bad marriage.

[@Dontrolling]

My grandad did that and my aunt grew up watching them sleep in separate rooms, argue, my grandad would work his butt off just to not be home and she was raised by my miserable bitter step grandmother. My aunt has anger issues, her mom tried diagnosing her as bipolar and turned into a bully just like her mom having a false sense of self and is controlled by her mother. My Grandad has deep regrets.

[@Dontrolling]

@@Rin22730yea but having kids witness detachment, abuse, and see their parents resenting each other is just as bad and the kids don’t get to see what a healthy relationship looks like. I grew up with a single mom and turned out perfectly okay because my mom put in the work and got me the help and guidance I needed that she couldn’t provide for me. I agree that parents should seek therapy to work out their issues but ultimately if the relationship is tainted then cutting the cord is better than faking a happy relationship. The kids aren’t going to be young forever and they’ll see it for themselves as they age

[@LilySaintSin]

So she should stay with a liar and fraud? ​@@Rin22730

[@miamiflorida6965]

💯

[@uscitizen1035]

Daters need to be careful about disclosing their financial status to people they're not married to. That's how some people attract financial predators into their lives.

[@impamiizgraa]

Absolutely solid advice, this. I didn't even think about it until now

[@isabelbecerra9258]

She is grieving the death of her imaginary ideal family life and wealthy status

[@CatWhiskering]

Yeah, for whatever reason, she settled for some guy she knew was bad news so she could have the Christmas-photo-card-perfect family with the 2 kids. She got a prenup. She knew he was a 6' tall deer tick. But she was impatient and wanted that "married with children" status. I think she's got a lot of unworthiness baggage from being raised in a broken home.

[@jaesall3519]

why does liars and people like that always get good women I hope he changes even tho it's not luckily smh

[@talyahr3302]

The kids are still really young. I know that means you want extra help, but if you leave now the kids won't remember much about the separation. RUN!! THIS IS INSANE! How do you even sleep next to him at night? I could never touch him again.

[@SLOBeachboy]

Where exactly are you getting that from? I watched the entire video and nothing she said even remotely indicated that she was overly concerned with her “wealth status” or with having the “ideal” family”. I will say however that what she said about staying together for the kids was BS. That was a just a rationalization. She may be kidding herself into believing its true, but the real reason is because she is still hung up on this worthless bum. And by the way when two people are in a toxic relationship staying together is NEVER better for the kids, regardless of what we may think. Anyway, I don’t know if this guy is an outright con man who preys on rich and vulnerable women (seems likely) or just a financially irresponsible idiot. Either way there is no point in making a prenup if you are just going to let the person rob you blind while you are still married. Most of her premarital assets should have been in a separate account in her name from the very start of the marriage. This lady is dumb beyond belief. No sane, rational, self-respecting women would stay with this guy for another second.

[@austinduke8876]

​@jaesall3519 if you were to be a complete sociopath with both the charm and willingness to abuse it you would be amazed with the sort of people you could attract. This woman did "go for" a manipulator, she was seduced by one which was his strategy. I don't say that to remove her accountability for whom she picked. She picked him so bares some blame but it's not as if she had complete information.

[@anas.9103]

When she said she is not seperating from him, i then knew why he stole her money. She was smart with money and he knew she was not smart with him!

[@deirdrekiely6187]

Women turn dumb when they fall in love.

[@beewest5704]

She will learn unfortunately. Hope it's not when she & her kids are destitute & he moves on to his next victim.

[@SeanF-m4b]

@@deirdrekiely6187noooooo lol they were stupid from the beginning

[@dianereed9364]

He took $286,000 from her, and drained over $100,000 from their savings and claims there are no addictions - I don’t buy it! This is a shocking amount of money to burn through in three years. He’s a liar and a thief - if you don’t get away from him, you’ll be victimized again. The fact that she feels she has all the answers makes me question why she contacted you in the first place.

[@deirdrekiely6187]

Her premarital accounts should never have had his name on them. He should not have access to it. Period.

[@kanecierra8940]

I was the thinking the exact same. They each should have had their own account and one together. I won’t trust a Man fully until we’ve been married over 8 years………that’s if I ever do get Married-

[@joegreene6250]

@@kanecierra8940 you never will. Because of your attitude.

[@businessacc179]

That seemed obvious by a prenup- how did he get his paws on those accounts?!

[@Mombal5]

Also why isn’t she checking those accounts often enough that she would have noticed a decline sooner. My husband and I check our accounts daily and we ask each other about any purchases that seem out of the ordinary. We each have our own personal accounts we had before marriage but our main source of money goes into our joint account. We both take a certain amount after bills, and savings accounts have all been paid into just to have for little things like taking kids to do things or other entertainment purposes. Our accounts that both our names on it are closely managed by both of us. Sounds like she didn’t want to bother with the finances too much after they married. He was even handling the taxes by himself When there’s a lot of money involved both husband and wife should be involved.

[@JustinCase780]

This call is so strange. She knows a lot with her success with $ but actually knows nothing with her accounts. And, plans to stay with the guy? What?!!

[@enricopallazzo3244]

She just gave him the ok to do this again..and again…

[@DefinitelyNotRin]

To be fair, this is the sad part of humanity. She has probably never known someone like this to exist. This encounter will forever scar her and never let her look at people the same way. It's one reason scumbags like this guy are pure evil.

[@clark_kent999]

Something fishy with her story with lack of details on where money has gone.

[@erikmarchese4290]

@@DefinitelyNotRinBut when the facts are staring you right in the face, why sign up for more

[@econdude3811]

I noticed the caller declining to answer some questions right away. It sounded a bit scripted and rehearsed to me

[@disgruntledcashier503]

However bad it is for children to grow up in a broken household, I guarantee it's far worse to grow up in a household where their mother accepts and tacitly endorses felony-level theft from family.

[@Desertbiker617]

More like grand larceny

[@carpediem6431]

Dr Phil: “children would rather be from a broken home, then live in one.”

[@juliaalexandria3352]

Yup - and frankly, her home is already broken!

[@maxinef6654]

I think she still loves him even though he almost bankrupted the family. She doesn’t want to leave him.

[@juliaalexandria3352]

@@maxinef6654 smh

[@DannyF249]

Get a divorce and start from scratch. Not only is he a burden but he lied to you from the beginning and was willing to keep doing it, except he got found out.

[@zvmZvm0102]

If this was a male caller, they'd tell him to suck it up buttercup and get a second job.

[@jecrpalier]

@@DannyF249 same could be said for most spending women which is ALL of them

[@PrincessLolly1]

@@jecrpaliernasty & untrue, someone must have really hurt you. I hope you can heal.

[@289Mustang67]

@@jecrpalier Bitter much?

[@jecrpalier]

@@PrincessLolly1 oh but who looks for the millionaires. Whom does? Plenty and u never see a woman go for a broke man. No bitterness it’s reality and I see it always.

[@FreeAgent797]

She says that the missing money has nothing to do with other women or any kind of addiction. I have a feeling that this is far from the truth. If she was this oblivious with the financial issues going on, there is no telling what else this guy is getting away with. I'm actually terrified for her. I wish her the best.

[@Iamsam-jl5fn]

Me too! I hope she makes it out alive. And the children.

[@bridgetsmith3732]

Wake up!, time to let him go!

[@mpeugeot]

She's leaving something out, she avoids the question as to where the money went... something stinks badly here. She's not being open or honest.

[@jimmymcgill6778]

YEP. How would he get access to her other accounts, when his name was not on it?

[@ajones8008]

he could have just spent it on lifestyle changes. new cars, kitchen upgrade etc. Its easy to embezzle money in a relationship with children.

[@imungukalevera8671]

@@ajones8008 wouldn't she have noticed a kitchen upgrade or any other expenses he spent on the house?

[@ajones8008]

@@imungukalevera8671 she noticed but didn't recognize it was her own money that paid for it.

[@Ella-Bella2024]

@@jimmymcgill6778 she said they were marital accounts.

[@random-nz7dy]

The marriage is over. They will get divorced. She's just still in the emotional phase where she can't yet come to terms with the fact that the dream she had for her life is shattered into a nightmare

[@alladreamwedreamed]

She is residing in Fantasyland. He's been lying and conning her all along, lied on the prenup, took out debt to make it look like saving....but yeah honey, another legal document saying he can't steal from you is gonna help 😅 she really said she wanted to pay off the debt and thought he would pay her back! Lmaooo😅

[@aye54]

Sarah is lying. I’m the husband. I will share my story soon

[@random-nz7dy]

@@aye54 lol idk if this is real or not, but if it is will you reply and to my comment with the update cause I'd be very interested.

[@Emm325]

@@random-nz7dyso, you didn’t take the money? Why not agree to go on the show/call together? Sure sounds like a lot is being hidden. Would be glad to hear your side of the story, for some reason Dave hasn’t shown it on a follow up, from what we can tell, that is quite interesting, as they would LOVE to hear the reasons for all the money disappearing. What is she gaining from literally humiliating herself for the entire world to see?!?

[@LisaLisa-in4vw]

Guaranteed if he's lying about money, he's lying about other things!

[@wallyt1487]

He's probably lying about his race

[@QueenRissa_34]

Exactly 😬🫤🤦🏾‍♀️ And she wants to stay with him because of her kids….🤔

[@KellyTheZeta]

@@QueenRissa_34 she staying for her.

[@nameunknown1519]

Other things? Everything!

[@Emm325]

THIS.

[@tammyschilling5362]

She needs an annulment and then to file fraud charges. This is WAY worse than infidelity (sexual or financial) this guy has been deliberately scamming her since before the marriage took place. She has a very good case for annulment and he needs to go to prison.

[@KellyTheZeta]

I am sure there is infidelity too.

[@AccidentalHiker1]

Denial is strong here. Her home is already broken. She needs to leave to save her children.

[@l-train7876]

It takes time for someone to process such betrayal. She’s going through it.

[@billyjohnson9166]

She needs to leave today.

[@UnstoppableMorgan]

How did she not notice her accounts were being cleared out before it got so bad?

[@random-nz7dy]

Denial is a powerful thing.

[@mbm8690]

Liars are really good at hiding, manipulating and keeping up appearences.

[@jt6231]

She has to work full time plus two kids within three years of marriage. She is leading a hectic life. She has no time until recently, I think.

[@CaToRi-]

Probably she had the fantasy of the wonderful husband (Brady Bunch like) that takes care of everything in a perfect way soooo she barely bothered to check to accounts.

[@mmmd3429]

He distracted her with two small children and drained her accounts.

[@Tvandsleep13]

How at no point did she not know 100k+ is being taken from accounts? Does she not check them?

[@RetroGamer20109]

Agreed. This doesn't happen overnight.

[@brookiegremlin6660]

@@RetroGamer20109 especially since she refers to herself as a "budgeter." I struggle with budgeting, but I noticed a $50 charge on my credit card and called my cc company right away.

[@richardw3470]

There was another person who had me asking don't you at least look at your statements monthly. Evidently they didn't and Surprise eventually. This is not good for the kids as they grow up if Daddy doesn't get honest. He'll be teaching them how to keep secrets and get around other people's more open and honest ways of doing things. This post-nup will be as valid as the pre-nup.

[@billygnosis6976]

I wouldn't really notice if our accounts went 100K, its the flow of the market

[@CatWhiskering]

You can easily set up alerts on any bank account where you're notified of debits of any amount over a threshold that you define.

[@Catlady8]

Advice from someone on the other end of how this turns out: I’m 30 years down the line in a very similar situation except my husband had nothing when I married him & I had everything. Counseling will not help. It just buys them time & they find other ways to hide their financial abuse. Once a liar and a thief, always a liar & a thief. I stayed for my kids and put up with it & gave chance after chance but just like toddlers having a tantrum, once you give into them you have forever given up your hand. They know they can do whatever you’ve shown you’ll put up with. Don’t end up like me and actually worse off after marriage than before. Run honey. Run fast & far. Save yourself & your kids while you still have time to start over. Looking at retirement with everything you thought you were working towards for decades now gone is not a place you want to be.

[@kj7653]

I agree. I was also married and kept trying. It just gave him more time to hide more and steal more. A post-op does not work. In the eyes of creditors, you were married and you have to pay up. 20 years later and I am still paying bills and trying to stabilize my finances, unable to retire. You owe it to your children to RUN.

[@neisci]

Husband is a liar and thief. What does she wants to "work on"? Some people just move in desperation. Once all the money is gone he'll be gone with it.

[@jecrpalier]

Your wife spends all a man’s savings it’s just money control therapy for her spending. He spends all her savings. Criminal criminal. Yeah I like double standards here a lot of shat

[@nicolejenkins2609]

He chose you as a mark- the children were there to trap you. He isn’t a bumbling idiot, he’s a predator.

[@coolaunt516]

@@nicolejenkins2609 That's right. Once you have kids, they've got you.

[@ST-rj8iu]

@@jecrpalier No. It is criminal no matter what...this is extreme. He blew 1 million in less than 3 years. Don't get married!

[@JogaBonitoCFTV]

​@@jecrpalier you are bang on

[@travisbickle1455]

Husband is a fraud...dump and divorce him.

[@LivingSpirit-e5s]

Dump and divorce this loser immediately. There is no trusting him after this. None whatsoever.

[@cwr6816]

File a police report

[@anniealexander9616]

She is in denial! That money is going somewhere!! Why isn't she keeping up with her accounts? I check my accounts weekly. Savings, 401k, IRA, after tax, checking, credit cards.

[@kekejefferson9219]

News Flash! A broken household is with 2 parents that don't trust each other.

[@evakatz6351]

As someone who’s Mum stayed with a bad man I PROMISE you it’s better for the kids if you leave. He will infect them with his sickness, and being around a dead relationship will teach them to accept the same.

[@PalmBeachFlorida24]

Coming from experience, he's funneled the money to a secret account ...and when she tells the host that she doesn't want a broken home, she is currently in one. It's broken, and unless she wants to live paycheck to paycheck for the next 50 years, she needs to run.

[@maureenviola]

He easily could have plowed it into a declining business and it’s gone - not saved

[@PalmBeachFlorida24]

@@maureenviola true, but that the same as funnelling it. Most likely set up is he has a nest egg. She was targeted from the begining

[@sarahhunter2352]

How did he steal hundreds of thousands of dollars from her accounts without her knowing?

[@tupisamba211]

And where tf was that money going? she never said what he did with it

[@Ella-Bella2024]

She trusted her husband and was busy working and taking care of her family.

[@Silidons91]

Because she's not as intelligent as she thinks she is.

[@AngieMcdonald-fu9nh]

​@@Ella-Bella2024she said tgey wwre her persinal accounds that were set up separately. He had to have raken her cards or she told him her password. Crazy.

[@lntomlinson]

This call definitely needed Dr. John Deloney!

[@marsha1758]

Or Dave. They wouldn't have been talking about counseling.

[@theworldaccordingtoallie1176]

I agree totally. This call wasn’t mean for these two.

[@pauleff3312]

Stealing off your spouse is a complete and utter contemptable thing to do

[@coreyfranco7060]

If you are married then the money belongs to both

[@katharinegrinton389]

Leave him now! If he lied about all this ... what else will he lie about?? Once a liar, always a liar!

[@billygnosis6976]

not true but I truly value your insight, thank you

[@alinatamashevich3354]

She picked him!

[@pokejammerz]

i agree kat!

[@GMAMEC]

I hope she sees this. She’s still in shock and wants to make everything better. That’s not realistic. He’s no good and will make matters worse. The sooner she runs, the better. She also needs to forgive herself.

[@tc_is_me]

@@alinatamashevich3354 She picked what he presented himself to be. Which is why he lied in the first place. He knew she wouldn’t marry him if she knew who he truly was. He wore a mask and only took it off when he was caught.

[@kaythegardener]

She needs to see a lawyer ASAP, who has a forensic accountant on call, to find out where the money went & protect what little is left for her & the kids & GET HIM OUT OF HER LIFE ASAP!!

[@mph5896]

She said its all gone😉 He tried to prop up a failing business with the $ and used it all.

[@Ella-Bella2024]

@@mph5896 that's his story. He can't be trusted.

[@Ella-Bella2024]

Great advice.

[@marsha1758]

Amen!

[@pookie1960]

@@mph5896 Well I think she still has retirement money somewhere and hopefully he can't get to that.

[@madisonandthefarm]

Divorce while the kids are small, it gets harder when they are much bigger

[@danzidae]

This lady is way too calm.....my goodness. If $10 dollars is missing from my account, I know and I chase it down. Ain't know way, this is why I don't entirely think couple should merge their finances because I would be loosing all my marbles.

[@hillarybillary21]

Losing’

[@magikdeetrik]

“And um, uh, so um, um , and uh, so uh” pretty much summarizes it all

[@spidergirl7290]

Red flags were there before the marriage. 1) She was willing to match whatever he brought into the marriage, in the event of a divorce. Who does that unless they’re a charity or grocery store? 2) It doesn’t sound like lawyers were involved with the prenup, because how did he get away with lying on his legal document “proof” of net worth?

[@Officialbladenwordcounter]

She's not all that smart. And a liar to boot, she dodged answering where the money was going 3 times.

[@EsiriE]

There’s ways people fake documents. Forged documents are a thing. The guys just a con artist it seems.

[@Lady-BriChanel]

This man is going to cause damage to his children regardless. He is a lying thief- FULL STOP. If the money supply stops he will move on whether she wants to or not. I'd rather show my children what it's like to be a strong person than to be a victim.

[@cauliflowerknee]

This was a shocking segment, truly

[@NikNik0123]

I agree.

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

Eh she’ll get over it 😂

[@santafilipina9020]

She was doing so well up to the point of asking for a prenup. And then she let him handle the accounts and didn't know what was going on?? Lady, you dropped the ball! You should have been monitoring those accounts too! Why did you decide to be hands off when this was your hard earned net worth! Grrrrr!

[@nancystevens7447]

Sociopaths are everywhere,they are predators and experts at finding their victims. Forgive yourself for falling for his lies,it can get better with the abuser out of your life. I left after 45 yrs. of this crap,this was my entire life and this is my story. Please don’t stay.

[@914bimma]

But if it was the other way around its okay right?

[@zvmZvm0102]

Problem is, no new man she finds will "forgive" her...she obviously makes bad choices and deserves to be treated like trash. Other men will have fun with her for sure though!

[@Atlas-tp8dw]

No, it's not. It's not okay either way. ​@@914bimma

[@jecrpalier]

@@nancystevens7447 enjoy ur cats. U should get 45 for every year u complained. I bet u can find a millionaire now 😂

[@kathypatterson6813]

@@jecrpalier sounds like you have experience taking women’s money

[@catherinep2034]

She can afford a lawyer for post-nupital, but can't afford to go to therapy? Im wondering if she doesnt want to go because she knows she won't like what she'll hear.

[@ThePolypam]

There doesn't seem to be an enforceable agreement. It's probably more like a handshake. She's not very smart.

[@catherinep2034]

@@ThePolypam that's possible, that maybe she didn't use a lawyer for pre-nup either. She could've drafted the contract herself believing he wouldn't rip her off, or was verbal with a handshake.

[@CatWhiskering]

This woman takes 20 minutes to share 2 minutes of story.

[@dobia4486]

Most women lol...

[@MaxSujyGermany]

He choose her because she was an easy target. She's not gonna leave him anytime soon. He knew that when he picked her. He would not have choose her otherwise. If you are reading this... please know that he is lying about EVERYTHING else, not just the financial part.

[@marsha1758]

He may not even have a business. I wonder how long she took to get to know him before she married him. I wish Dave would have answered this call.

[@BunnySlippers82]

He's a con artist who only confessed when she caught him because he couldn't come up with another lie on the spot. Once he steals ever penny he'll be going out for milk and not coming back.

[@Imaginarysonics]

Man there's denial, denial, and then there's this woman. I'm not sure she even cared that much.

[@debbie7771]

How can she ever look at him the same. Liars are the worst.

[@mxdbscts]

You can have a broken household with parents that are still “together.”

[@cyoohoos]

I hate when people call in and try to be cagey. If his name wasn’t on your accounts he would have no access to them. And the fact that you haven’t DUMPED him is probably due to the kids which I’m sure HE wanted… He’s not going to stop the lies. So can you live with this or not. You’ll wind up paying him child support and maybe alimony …lesson to ladies….Do Not Get Married Just to Have Kids

[@jbissainthe]

These callers for the most part are always cagey. I’m still lost. Her story still doesn’t make any sense. How does someone who doesn’t have legal access to someone else’s personal account have access to that person’s funds? There’s something else going on. And until she’s transparent with what’s going on she’ll never get to the bottom of this mess.

[@Trudloops]

He probably had access to her computer and passwords and that could be how he stole some of her money from her accounts.

[@nicholebryant7359]

@@jbissaintheforgery

[@EsiriE]

They get limited time to speak so we’re never going to hear every little detail. But just the summary. I thought that was obvious

[@AnneCaulder]

She will be paying him child support next year. I don’t think there is a “business” that gives him any income. Maybe he’s a gambler. That’s a heck of a lot of money to just disappear.

[@jjkatz]

I’d be afraid he’d take out a life insurance policy and there would be an “accident “. She needs to get away from this guy.

[@girlygirl1890]

Ezaxtly!

[@girlygirl1890]

Oops Typo. I meant...Exactly.

[@janetr5929]

She won’t ever be reimbursed by him. She’s really in denial.

[@javaskull88]

How heartbreaking to learn that your husband is a liar and a thief.

[@ST-rj8iu]

What is the post nup going to do? He already disregarded the pre-nup. Once the money is gone it is gone. He will never pay it back!

[@BrendaBaBoom]

🎯🎯🎯

[@Ella-Bella2024]

She should have him sign the post-nup stating that she's not responsible for his debt and that he's not entitled to alimony in the event of divorce, then she should file for divorce.

[@gossipandgrigio7200]

she is not very bright

[@talyahr3302]

The kids are still really young. I know that means you want extra help, but if you leave now the kids won't remember much about the separation. RUN!! THIS IS INSANE!

[@chrisoresick4348]

Frankly, I cant see how she could ever trust a word out of this guys mouth when everything he has told her about his, and eventually their, finances was a lie. No amount of counseling is going to change a compulsive liar, and she needs to leave.

[@TallyDrake]

Right. How can she trust him AGAIN, when she shouldn't have trusted him in the first place?

[@husqv5147]

Purposely having your kids raised by a known and admitted liar, cheat and thief is neglect. Wake up and smell the coffee here Sarah.

[@Ja50nkAt]

$286,000! Guuuuuurl, how did she not notice after the first 20 or 30 grand? You gotta watch your money, because at one point in your life your spouse was a complete stranger to you.

[@sarashain9884]

The saddest day in a wife's life is when she lies to herself about the reality that is staring her in the face which she refuses to acknowledge. This caller is willing to be a "victim" to save face'; this man does not love her she is simply his free meal ticket to finance the life he wants without putting any work. She may very well be on the hook to the IRS for his unpaid taxes in addition to all the debts he has accumulated while married to her. Her life and the lives of her children are on quicksand!

[@clarity2974]

Good with money but not checking accounts regularly? OK

[@caroldonohoe2092]

This is what happens when you don't handle everything together. She's a budgeter but hasn't paid any attention to the budgeting ??

[@NVDAbets]

Ma'am... Here's the thing. There are plenty of children grow up with broken household turn out to be just fine. But to grow up with a pathological liar, I can hardly imagine they will be taught the right value.

[@JC-xu1cz]

She needs to press charges against him. He targeted her for her money.

[@julieritchie9809]

How does she know there isn’t another woman he’s spending the money on? They are good at hiding it he’s probably on dating sites saying he is separated or going thru a divorce

[@virgierutledge3004]

They always say there is no other woman. Divorce the liar and save yourself and precious children.

[@marsha1758]

I would rather this guy have an entire stadium of mistresses than to do what he's done to this woman. She sounds so stoic. I would be in a hospital.

[@catherinewilke5583]

My mother married one of these gold diggers. She’s so desperate to be “married” she’s in the process of transferring her assets to him and his daughter, all while defending him. It’s disgusting.

[@unknowncomment85]

only women can do this, i encourage more men to be gold diggers

[@Xsilif]

Please talk her out of it!

[@TallyDrake]

​@@Xsilif Without hard evidence I doubt she would be able to...and even then the mother might not listen.

[@catherinewilke5583]

@@Xsilif I tried and she won’t listen. Fact is, my sister and I could really use the money for retirement, since we both lost our shirts in very necessary divorces, then she got cancer and I became disabled. Mom barely talks to me because I tried to persuade her not to give him the money.

[@cutehumor]

unfortunately, your mother's money is hers to do with. sorry

[@thisis.michelletorres444]

*PRESS CHARGES! IS SHE KIDDING? DIVORCE HIM! Your kids would be better off without him! Pay attention women, get a prenup and don't co-mingle accounts. Keep control and guard your personal accounts, you can setup a joint account that you deposit money into for household expenses!*

[@joegreene6250]

Pay attention men! DO NOT MARRY A WOMAN. Let them be strong and independent.

[@CoffeenSpice]

Sarah, he's a liar, he will be a liar to your children. You're family is already shattered to pieces. Get a divorce.

[@MrSnivvel]

She's a Sugar Mama who married player. His $160K net worth was partially his collection mint condition Air Jordans, wasn't it Sarah? lol

[@turtleanton6539]

Faxx

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Most broke jokes know how to lay Pipe and BS

[@tonytoni1150]

They’re white, I doubt he has any Jordans. He probably has a Dodge Ram tho, or Toyota Tundra. Along with a can of Copenhagen.

[@erikmarchese4290]

@@alinatamashevich3354AND make their marks feel “special”

[@erikmarchese4290]

@@tonytoni1150Custom golf clubs

[@coolaunt516]

So she won't divorce him because of the kids. She is now teaching her kids that it is Ok for a man to treat a woman like their daddy treats mama. Maybe she will should rethink her decision.

[@unknowncomment85]

nah kids will be fine.. with your argument, single mothers are setting bad example by collecting alimony and child support

[@Naturefan354]

The kids don't even know what's going on.... WDYM?

[@mmmd3429]

She's in a broken home but refuses to take the trash out.

[@smallredwindow]

She's clearly a high-achieving person and is more than capable of starting over for her kids, but especially for herself. Self-worth has little to do with net-worth.

[@andreav1232]

This is an odd relationship! I wish they would have longer calls with certain callers.

[@bernadettesolomons1870]

If someone can steal, they can lie and cheat. Run run run

[@georgewagner7787]

And don't tell him beforehand

[@bernadettesolomons1870]

@@georgewagner7787 Definitely!

[@claro1217]

This dude must have a criminal background or something. There is no way this is his first time stealing or lying. If he did this with his own wife just imagine other people.

[@SanaKhan-bc2vo]

Children will get over it, get rid of the thief, never mention your net worth when you are dating someone

[@bettysmith4527]

Umm, the children will NOT just "get over it", that is their father and him disappearing into he night isnt' something you just "get over"!!!

[@siva47931]

​@@bettysmith4527 if they are black it would be par for the course

[@danieljohnson4418]

Stay with him and let him spend the rest of the money. That's the only right thing to do. ☺️

[@carlycastillo883]

Girl... RUN!!! I can't even fathom staying with someone stealing this much money from me?! He married you BECAUSE you have money, why else would he have lied on those forms?? Ugh.

[@shelleyirwin6104]

My ex husband basically spent most of his paycheck at the bar. There was never enough money to pay the mortgage or buy groceries. We divorced 25 years ago and he recently died in a car accident and I learned he was homeless and broke. Such a sad story.

[@TheRealYungZulu]

A post nup where you're loaning him money? If you gotta do all that just get a divorce!

[@brucefredrickson9677]

She can't fix him...oh the lies she is telling herself.

[@voidfroze]

“The kids are so young…” exactly!!! Leave now, while they’re too young to remember the painful events. Let them grow up without him instead of growing up around tension and fighting for the next 5-10 years, and then an eventual divorce when they’re old enough to get caught in the crossfire and be wounded.

[@isabelbecerra9258]

Husband is a classic fortune hunter

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Like a woman gold digger?

[@alladreamwedreamed]

All I would have to say to this husband is GET OUT OF MY HOUSE. Get a lawyer and save yourself from this con artist!!

[@pitbull7885]

I would leave this marriage it will only get worse with more lies in the future.

[@debbie12346]

Its sad when you think “keeping the family together” is better than keeping your family, your kids and yourself safe.

[@solc.2318]

At least she is married. - sarcasm at its highest level -

[@theyquincy8400]

The one drawback from these folks is the insisting of working on marriages with horrible people.

[@CJ2023Incognito]

6:36 But it’s already a broken home! Built on lies from the beginning. 😢

[@thecedars0612]

Why did he even have access to accounts that were separated by the prenup?

[@patriciacatlinbrown3804]

@@thecedars0612 I’m wondering that myself. She set herself up to be taken by that con-man!

[@javaskull88]

The passwords were probably on the computer they both used.

[@CaToRi-]

@@javaskull88 Computer: Do you want to save the password? Caller: Yessss, it’s more easy 🙄

[@humbledwarrior3314]

He had planed it out. Married her for her money not for love. He knew it all along. She should investigate his background and for sure, he has more to hide…

[@Emily_CM]

If she doesn’t leave him. He will, once there are financial restrictions in place. He’s gone! So so sad.

[@momnursefashionista7506]

Poor thing she’s in denial. Lord help them. I been there when my 4 kids were very young and fast fed we not together! Girl get you and your babies out of there.

[@cherrypieforbreakfast1499]

Her kids will absolutely be able to tell their relationship is basically dead. She should divorce him.

[@TheDjcarter1966]

ONLY ONE WAY THIS WORKS, YOU TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE NOW THE CFO OF HIS BUSINESS OR YOU ARE GETTING A DIVORCE. HE CANT WRITE A CHECK OR BUY ANYTHING IN BUSINESS OR PERSONAL WITHOUT YOU SIGNING OFF

[@jecrpalier]

@@TheDjcarter1966 he’s spending her money bottom line. Since when is spending money that is hers in a marriage a crime. Stick ur braindead ideas in 1400’s. Why is it you girls want to marry a millionaire. Oh wait so I can steal…..remember that saying u accuse him of. His savings

[@Only1Nancy]

The business is fake.

[@mxdbscts]

Does she know that once he’s spent all of her money, he doesn’t need her permission to divorce her and move on to the next money pile?

[@buckeyedav1]

I still did not hear where the money went? My bet? Offshore accounts. Anna In Ohio

[@sybillovesplantsandcoffee]

So frustrating listening to this woman. That man is a thief and she still wants to stay married to him 🙄

[@JoeyNYSDnomad]

Your house is already broken, this will just make the surface level appear fine.

[@Kysen10]

Clown steals 200k from his family and this lady doesn’t want to drop him? Wtf “at least he wasn’t cheating “ she says..

[@dnah02]

Naw he got at least 2 side pieces with that level of spending probably sugar babies.

[@minoozolala]

He is 100% cheating and doing all sorts of other nefarious stuff.

[@FortuneSeek3rz]

@@Kysen10 He probably gambled at least half of it.

[@Naturefan354]

​@@FortuneSeek3rzShe said he had no addictions

[@FortuneSeek3rz]

@@Naturefan354 That she knows of.

[@dahlia1845]

HOW did he gain access to her “non marital” funds? They had a prenup… Didn’t her attorney advise her to keep her “non marital” cash in a separate account to which only she had access?

[@theresamc4578]

One doesn't need an attorney for that. Comment sense is what you need. I wonder if he convinced her to keep the funds where he could somehow get at it.

[@alberttang6955]

She may have saved the passwords on a computer they both use. Or he loaded some spyware onto their shared computer to steal her passwords. Or she wrote down her password on a Post-it note and he found it.

[@vixxcottage]

He is a liar and manipulator and will NEVER change. Get rid of him. You will never see that money again. This is NOT the man you thought you married.