My Spouse Wants A Divorce Because I'm No Fun

[@TheRamseyShow]

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[@thejakelegion]

God bless you, Dave, for taking this Culture War by the horns and hitting back. You give hope to men like me who are raising 3 boys and our country desperately needs what you're offering. Hit hard, sir. You push us on.

[@LR-kj8ec]

Dave sometimes it's not about making bad decisions, these guys are worse than players. These guys are so good at love bombing and duping smart intelligent women and then slowly destroying their self esteem and using them until they can't use them any more... and then they just walk away scott free after creating so much damage

[@marinevetoneroman7232]

Dave, is it possible for you to do follow up episodes on some of these fascinating calls... I always wonder what happens months or years later..... Thank You.. I'm late to the party, just subcribed 8/14/20...👍

[@krisduboise276]

This is what most women who file for divorce give as a reason. They aren't having fun. The only reason people get divorced is because at least one of them wants to get divorced. People want to do these things. Doesn't make sense to get married in general.

[@aboolowoaa5179]

Dave's financial advice is good but his success has gone to his head elsewhere. You know your religion and finances well, but your commentary on society is no more enlightened than the other millions of boomers out there. You act as if deadbeats haven't been around forever. Those deadbeats have always abandoned their families one way or another. You can't blame this on a culture shift that you purposely refuse to understand. You're smart, use your head. In the past, many of those "manly men" beat their children, neglected their households and took their wives for granted. Some still do today, but I guarantee it's fewer than in your day when it was normal. The erosion of gender roles which have been invented by European society is not something to be mourned, but celebrated. No longer is dad limited to being a disciplinarian who barely raises the kids. No longer is mom required to be a homemaker who is forbidden to pursue her dreams to better our world. Our goal as a society should be to maximize every person's freedom.

[@ROCKETS2965]

"I think he's going through a mid-life crisis." Nope... He's going through an affair.

[@auroramothergoddess]

Facts

[@calebmallen]

Nailed it.

[@ellejagerman6105]

That is the house, car, and the shirt off his back. Trying to get a divorce? Watch and learn!

[@lovelycorinne]

Met my 2nd husband within a year of something similar happening to me. I had a 4mo old and 3yo. I didn’t believe God would bless me with someone so quickly. 15yrs later and my 2nd husband is a blessing beyond measure.

[@bettywith2girls]

Yup. I've heard that over and over again, and usually the 2nd marriage turns out much better than the 1st, bc it's a better match. It's actually better to move on with little kids, bc they will be more accepting of the situation and won't sabotage the new relationship like they might when they get older (thinking mom & dad will still get back together). I've know many people in 2nd marriages and they are very happy. In fact, I've found that, in the 2nd marriage, men are much more willing to make it work and not just walk away, bc they remember how horrific their divorces were with the 1st wife and they don't want to have to go thru that again! For this lady re: this video, this could be a blessing in disguise and she may not want the 1st husband back.

[@chibi4069]

Woo God is good! It’s unfortunate these things have to happen but I’m certain you have come out a stronger wiser and more loving partner through your trials.

[@CarnivoreStork]

Bad advice. Get a great lawyer. DO NOT LEAVE the House. Let him leave if he wants his freedom.

[@dougm1985]

well said. you took the words out of my mouth.

[@jmc8076]

Agreed unless it’s not emotionally or physically healthy or safe for her and their 2 yo to be there right now. She’ll still keep the house. I’d advise contacting a good lawyer first and let them advise her on how/when or if to leave and connect her with the appropriate resources to help to set up a plan and execute it. She needs to do what’s right and best for her and her child.

[@dank.2536]

Exactly, well said.

[@timothygibney5656]

No. The lawyers and wives are the only winners as the strategy is to bleed you dry for years on end until you agree with the ex-wifes lawyers demand. In the end you either run out of money or settle. Oh and her lawyer can get you to pay for him as part of the settlement so she has nothing to loose

[@triad6425]

Yeah never give up possession of the household. I don't know anyone would ever leave just bc the other spouse says "go away now"

[@scapegoat413]

Next call: My wife kicked me out and took the house and the baby. Now my new girlfriend wants to leave.

[@billgateskilledmyuncle23]

My girlfriend told me I'm not fun.

[@wiseowl2020]

A far more likely outcome than this guy might think.

[@tasneemahmed5821]

@@billgateskilledmyuncle23 that would be PERFECT

[@cisium1184]

Should I rent or buy?

[@CEDL4072]

Probably has a girlfriend already.

[@kayb3327]

A younger one guaranteed 🙄

[@Alongebaby]

Not probably.... there is one already

[@ae4xo]

or a boyfriend

[@Alongebaby]

@@ae4xo good one!

[@TheY2AProblem]

After she finds out he won’t have any money after the divorce he won’t.

[@noirfit9721]

First of all, the husband is cheating. “Fun” can be changed. Just go out and do something together. He just wants someone else and is projecting his guilt. I hope she gets everything

[@cur244]

Boring people exist. A lot of women want to sit and read a book for hours or watch tv for hours. Most won't do anything unless their husbands plan everything until the end of time.

[@janebaker4912]

Stay in the home where your daughter is comfortable and safe.he can leave.

[@willywonka6242]

exactly!

[@angelhighlight5154]

Should the asset be shared equally? Why would the woman take the home?

[@janebaker4912]

@@angelhighlight5154 because it would give the child stability and she's the primary carer. She probably can't afford it and they may need to sell it.i think women who forgo paid work to care for kids need to be compensated

[@andreaseriksson9225]

Jane Baker Absolutely disgusting view on family

[@koreypaul6698]

@@andreaseriksson9225 Do you think he should get the home? Would the courts even allow that?

[@hellobonjour9513]

"you're not fun" sounds like he has a side chick and wants to run with her. That is a big trash, not a man. Get a good lawyer. Educate your kids with family values, love and respect for others but most importantly for themselves.

[@bettywith2girls]

I know it doesn't sound good, but this could be the best thing that ever happened to this woman. She can get a better man that she has more in common with, and her and her child's life will be better, trust me. I've known lots of people in 2nd marriages, and its usually much better than the first. And that with anything, a job, a church, etc.

[@auroramothergoddess]

@@bettywith2girls she could leave she’s still burdened with children. Women need to smarten up and stop giving these men children at the end of the day when sht hits the fan i guarantee it will be your problem

[@christopherdunham2637]

I talk with so many boys (I almost said men) who say, "I didn't sign up for this." I tell them, "Yes you did. You said for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. That's what you signed up for."

[@hymnodyhands]

Keep telling them, sir. Much respect... help them grow...

[@MrWololo90]

What is "this" they didnt sign up for? And Who are you to tell them anything?... Asking for a friend...

[@carpediem4091]

It's aggravating to see this type of behaviour. A friend of mine was pressured by her husband to have kids. She wanted to work at least 3 more years to be more stable in her career ( here we get maternity leave for a while and most women work after that ends). He convinced her to have the kid then. He told her to not worry because his money would cover everything if she lost her job or if her career got stuck. He wanted soooio much to be a dad! Yada yada yada. This vent on for months until she accepted to get pregnant. The kid is almost 2 years now and apparently he wanted to be a dad. He just doesn't want to parent a child. He also continues to want the best smartphones, mercedes, go out on fancy dinners, etc etc etc. He also wants to sleep and that his child is quiet... Yeah... Not happening with a 2 yo. And she isn't fun either. Why? Because she has to tell this man-child that he can't blow up all his paycheck or his kid won't have anything to eat. He doesn't care. Because he "worked hard for his money and he has a good income". The problem is having children with this kind of egoistical type of person.

[@saschamayer4050]

@@carpediem4091 That child has a rough start into life. Let's just hope their momma's love will make a decent human being outta them...

[@NoName-kq9kl]

Tell that to women, who initiate 70 to 80 percent of divorce.

[@apollox5953]

When a man decides to break off his relationship with his wife, he is humiliated, called names, and told that he is not a "man". However, when a woman decides to leave her husband for whatever reason (such as "she is not happy anymore"), her husband is humiliated and is blamed for not being able to satisfy her. It is also his fault. You see the difference? No? Exactly.

[@maryjones6115]

I have never heard people say it is the man's fault when a woman isn't satisfied or is unhappy. It is her fault. She is an adult and is responsible for her own happiness etc. I suspect you are projecting

[@Matty94]

exactly what also through my mind, its a lost battle no matter what happens.

[@julsandhan]

Grown ups don't view divorce one sided. Anyone you had dealings with who felt this way about it, are selfish and wrong.

[@carissaexplainsitall8481]

Thats really not true. I can't just leave my marriage and my kid. There are responsibilities

[@apollox5953]

@@maryjones6115 I think you're the one who is projecting because you are denying what is truly going on. You're denying it either because you actually value the sanctity of marriage or you just want people to believe that what I said does not happen in real life.

[@abbieblake8598]

This isn't about men vs women. It's about the children. Kids are the ones that suffer when parents put their needs before the kids.

[@jmc8076]

💯 Well said. It’s also not healthy or right for her child to be poisoned against her dad. Sometimes we can make great parents but lousy spouses (at the time). Feeding gender stereotypes is petty and only exacerbates a painful situation.

[@jkr527]

FACT.

[@maengh82]

j mc how do you know that she is poisoning their daughter to hate her father ? Gender stereotypes?? What on earth are you talking about ? She is going through a divorce and you are talking about “gender stereotypes”

[@cjdemeo8974]

F THAT!!!! Women are always all supportive and nice until the contract is signed!!! Then it's all... "I've got him now" and she does whatever SHE wants.... it's NEVER her fault, just look at all the relationship books.... they are ALL about he MAN CHANGING and understanding the woman... F marriage, F relationships!!!

[@eddytheengineer]

@@cjdemeo8974 So..learning to understand your wife is bad?? im really struggling to see your point here.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying 'I will try again tomorrow." --Mary Anne Radmacher

[@bmcdonald7303]

Woman or man, when you have a two year old, life is only as fun as the toddler allows...toddlers are needy and finicky.

[@murraybeachtel8585]

B McDonald I have a two year old and it’s one the best parts of my life! She makes every day a blast. Like my wife she comes before me and I think that ends up being the key. Making others happy does the same to you.

[@hermionestranger4964]

@@murraybeachtel8585 This is a wonderfully uplifting comment, and I wish the best for your wife, your daughter and you! You and your wife are so lucky to have found each other and to be so happy together. I'd love to be in a relationship like that, but seeing the other embittered, hateful, anti-woman comments in the comment section, and having had only bad experiences when dating straight guys, I'm scared of getting married to a deceitful manipulator who will do the same like the husband of the woman from the video, or like Onision, or like so many others (so-called "red-pillers"). This kind of thing is unfortunately very common, and in virtually every case, the woman is left holding the short end of the stick. That's why I plan on saving some money over the next few years and then adopting kids and raising them on my own. Maybe I can be the first aroace with kids lol Anyways, I can only hope to have as happy a family as yours one day! Cheers!

[@bmcdonald7303]

Murray Beachtel oh yay! I agree with you. In ways, having our children has brought us closer but we still know this may not be a “fun” time as only a couple because we have three kids now. We know this time will pass and is passing before our very eyes. Our 1,2 and 9 year old keep us very busy but we wouldn’t change it for anything. It will be long home before we know it and it will be just us two without children again. I wish more people understood it was no longer about their selfish needs once they have a spouse and children.

[@alycce]

He probably has a girlfriend on the side that he thinks is fun for now but wait -life works in cycles. This man doesn’t know what love this . You wanna leave your family because of FUN ridiculousness! C’mon 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@talentous718]

We had 2 kids 13 months apart...it's time to stop looking for fun and start working.

[@martell8560]

You can work and still have fun sometimes.

[@talentous718]

@@martell8560 it's true but based on this situation, a 2 year old shouldn't be and someone that is "not fun" anymore shouldn't be grounds for a divorce. She's probably going through depression or taking the brunt of responsibility. It could've been worked through...

[@MrWololo90]

No need to figh for 16 more years and then divorce when the kid leaves the nest. Not good for the kid, husband or the wife. What kind of arcaic mindset is this? Are there really this much hillbillies in th US?

[@auroramothergoddess]

Why men have children they can’t raise or afford is beyond me

[@RepentImmediately]

That's an excellent PSA for not having kids

[@lizcedillo4602]

I'm glad I'm single. I see through the bull**** and not going through all that. I'm living my life, working on my goals, saving to be a millionaire and that's my cup of tea. 🍵

[@wizetek]

Great! Until baby rabies kicks in. I see it all around all the time. Jordan Peterson is 100% right on that.

[@edb484]

FACTS 💯, people are to quick to marry, kids , house etc. man I’m BIG chilling lol. Stack paper up. I’m good

[@joshuathompson4162]

So brave ...and strong. Good job keeping up with the boys. You are masculine now.

[@mr.speyside5240]

Your biological clock alarm is coming due in 3, 2, 1...

[@lizcedillo4602]

@@joshuathompson4162 lol💪💄

[@charityann1168]

This made me cry. Men were meant to be men. I’m blessed to be married to a good man.

[@Wangsta100]

Just solidified my belief why there are no benefits into getting married the way Ramsey and this guy told her to go after everything this guy has worked for. This “letter” is not the whole story....

[@wizetek]

Bingo. The game is rigged, so if you decide to roll the dice, it's on you. Good luck.

[@jason5674]

These guys are simps and probably had a strong motherly influence growing up. That’s why they speak so highly of women and cherish the ground they walk on. I’m sure their wives cheat on them or have in the past and they found out and forgave them, they would probably tell you to do the same.

[@HamiltonRb]

SuperTraveler one benefit is that two year old child, which he helped bring into the world. Also you don’t know if she was making more than him, so maybe she worked as well to have a house. I realize we don’t have both sides to a story here, but I don’t think he went into the marriage thinking he would get divorced

[@minastirith997]

Still! She has a kid and has to bring it up while he will be living his life and 18 years later he'll be like " oh wait a minute I guess I have a kid and I can play daddy with him" . No sir! If he can't stand his family he has to pay for the betrayal of their trust, happiness and "Fun".

[@sheila3936]

That he’s worked for? Interesting assumption considering she also has a job. She deserves more than the car.

[@richardcohen9103]

women do it all the time, they say they are not happy

[@allisalinor1084]

Great advice .... but without knowing "his" side of the situation we can't say for sure.

[@Wangsta100]

Just solidified my belief why there are no benefits into getting married the way Ramsey and this guy told her to go after everything this guy has worked for. This “letter” is not the whole story....

[@BellambiFredRoberts]

All you people out there saying they are hearing only one side...you aren’t listening, she said that he left her because she’s no longer fun and he’s going through a midlife crisis. What other side of the story is there? They are MARRIED with a family, it’s a team and teamwork and constant teamwork and effort and building the relationship. It’s such a common story amongst me who are in midlife crisis and in denial.

[@RhinoXpress]

Pc, ok and that's still HER version of the story. I'm not saying she's lying, but i'm not gullible to just blindly believe her either. I wasn't there during her marriage so i have no idea if she is telling the truth or not without actual evidence to backup her story.

[@ChrisMFlorida]

That's the mans fault tho.. 😂😂

[@tomj528]

This is HER side of the story, never forget that women file for almost 80% of all divorces and still get over half of all assets with no repercussions for their bad behavior. This is some blue pilled garbage.

[@davidking4779]

My son's wife divorced him because he was not attentive enough. Working hard every day in construction to pay bills was not attentive enough. Six months of marriage cost him $160,000 and $1250/mo child support on their child that he has to fight to get to see.

[@vlms5893]

@Tahkeem Hilton_2.0 *than

[@joshc7765]

Tahkeem Hilton_2.0 Please don’t text and drive. Pull over and text if you have to

[@f.-j.j.5738]

I'm ready to bet her judge was a man. Her lawyer was a man. His lawyer was a man and people who wrote family law were men. If a group of men can look at your son's case and condemn him even when he's one of their own, then maybe your son had some sort of responsibility on what happened? And yes, when you make a child you have to take care of them. Surprise!

[@bmoney3837]

@@f.-j.j.5738 theres people who has to pay child support on a another man kid

[@Chris-kb9ki]

F.-J. J. I’d be surprised if you had a spouse lol

[@davidliang913]

There are 3 sides of this story. His, hers, and the truth.

[@johnhawksworth2379]

Yes indeedy. Dave can only react to the info he's given, which is certainly cause for anger and disgust. However, as you say, two sides to the coin and the littlest bit of all the edge/truth. Would love to hear a follow up on this one.

[@berrytharp1334]

6 sides. Hers, his, the daughter's, her lawyer's, his lawyer's and the truth.

[@blackonblack...9244]

Yea, I'm know men always get bashed for being wrong and I get that, but let's be real. Ladies, how often do you fall for these jerks? ALL THE FREAKING TIME, because they make you "feel" good. And then expect some white knight should come out and rescue you from your nonsense. I stopped caring about dating a relationships/marriage a long time ago.

[@susieh9415]

Exactly what I was going to say! I left an emotionally, verbally abusive narcissist. I never spoke about it besides to my closest friends. I begged him for counseling and he said no every time. He thought he had me so beat down that I wouldn’t go anywhere. When he realized I was serious about leaving and every manipulative tactic to keep me to stay wasn’t going to work, he started a smear campaign against me. So this woman could be telling the truth but I’m always curious now about the “whole story”.

[@scottyj6226]

Give David a cee-gar!

[@kayjeffs3741]

He wants to leave because there's no fun anymore? I wonder if he's actually tried to make it fun...

[@LaDeeDah]

Thank you!!! This is why I love this show!!! Real men that hold men accountable for once!!!

[@cur244]

Women holding women accountable would be a first. It's one of the many downsides of feminism.

[@brianthomas3451]

When a guy wants a divorce it’s a mid life crisis, when it’s a woman, it’s because she’s strong, independent and deserves better...

[@MrWololo90]

So True 🤣

[@xyzsame4081]

When a 2 year old toddler is abandoned (and so is the mother because "she is not fun anymore") who celebrates that (a women would be more judged than a man). - Yes women also cheat (that man has chick at the side, no doubt about it) - but they usually do not walk out of a marriage with a small child / children. And they almost never initiate the divorce witht the GOAL to LEAVE the children with the man - to make things worse. The man that wants the divorce takes for granted that the mother will take care of the child and will want to remain the main caregiver (as is normal at that age, if the mother is not a complete failure as caregiver). This is not about a mid life crisis or interpretations of her behavior. SHE does not want to end the marriage when she and the child are vulnerable, he does. And when women are encouraged to leave or "praised" for leaving it is NOT when she walks away from a 2 year old. Unless the partner is so damaging (domestic violence, addiction, ...) that she has to be out even if the child or the children are little. Needless to say then the kids leave with her.

[@Warpgatez]

There is more to the story here.

[@vaderwashere365]

Totally agree, but Dave tends to bite on any bait near him. Remember his COVID rants that were really really poor? Or how he misremembers how the Y2K stock markets reacted? He is just very novice at anything beyond simple savings/debt free tips.

[@tonitoni2045]

I'm 76 yrs old & trust me there are men that think they can walk away with everything except responsibility...true we are not hearing both sides but fact is there are some very immature men & women out there

[@G-bit88]

Always another side. But, a man needs to fight for his family. Unless, the other side is she cheated.

[@sweetesthoneybee]

While my husband didn’t tell me I wasn’t fun, he did file for divorce and wrote me a letter stating he would “pay” me for 6 months until I get a job. Our daughter was 2. He took her and went to his parents and left the letter on the table when I came home from knitting. He didn’t have a mistress. He said he just felt it was stagnant and he wasn’t happy anymore. Hand of God story. Our daughter suddenly had febrile seizures and stopped breathing. He panicked and called me. We went to the hospital together and after she got discharged he begged me to take him back. Said God opened his eyes. She never had febrile seizure again. I never cheated. I didn’t do anything out of the ordinary. I had also just invested part of my inheritance into his company. I don’t believe there was another side to every story. Some spouse/partner just “feel” they can walk away and take everything they want. He snapped out of it though. I figured maybe some men also have hormonal issues after having a child. Like a man’s version of postpartum depression? We are still married. Everyone makes mistakes. We learn as we go.

[@unfairsanic5089]

@@tonitoni2045 I believe you because they chose poorly

[@MrCander000]

I am a huge Ramsey fan, but I have to disagree on encouraging spitefulness.

[@kennydebique6192]

He's a boomer just let them extinct.

[@jcrowley1985]

So would you give the same advice if a guy called Dave ? You won't answer because we all know you a tool to feminism

[@FiveisGrace]

Her husband was already spiteful when saying he will take almost everything. Her getting a lawyer to help her with their child that he wants to leave a little bit for, isn't spiteful.

[@georgeschneider2414]

They are always two sides to the story. The Bible says: Prov 19 : 13, Prov 21 : 9, Prov 21 : 19, Prov 27 : 15. I want to hear both sides 🤷‍♂️👀. I will add this for Dave Ramsey Prov 18 : 13

[@huymynguyen67]

Right? And he calls himself a Christian. And why is people calling in to ask him about marriage advices? He specializes in finances. It’s like asking a medical doctor about HVAC issues.

[@ChelseeTee]

We only heard 1 part of the story. Just saying...

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Chelsey Thomas Yup. I've seen so many scenarios of this through the years. And I dare Dave to dig deeper into these calls for the facts.

[@ChelseeTee]

Anna annanymous I didn’t blame her. I just said we didn’t hear the other side. And you can’t say she clearly isn’t at fault when you don’t know the whole story.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Anna annanymous This is a 5 minute phone call not the Hallmark channel.

[@greenAbbot]

@Anna annanymous Yeah, that race to say "there must be more to the stooory" only happens when a woman calls in to complain about a man; never the reverse.

[@MoD3RnHD]

@Anna annanymous Marriage separation and divorce is the literal definition of anti-male sexism. It's just fact Anna

[@christofl6523]

Why would anyone get married anyway? It's 2020 not 1920.

[@Sombra_Azul_]

100%

[@pep590]

So stupid.

[@found_my_chapstick190]

“you’re not fun” goes for both parties. goes to show you that getting married in today’s age is a joke.

[@musicnovaproductions]

Reverse the roles. Same theory applies when a woman says( excepting physical abuse and cheating): “ I want a divorce because I’m not happy”

[@MrCcroom]

I had one of these. Ex wife made me close my business, punch a clock for someone else and still wanted to live the lifestyle we lived before. She wanted the Instagram lifestyle so she could show off. She’s gone now, restarted the business and happy.

[@Motoguy94]

There's definitely more to the story than she's not fun anymore. You guys should know that.

[@jamesbonofffradestin761]

Don't forget about sexless marriage.

[@anancientman5532]

@@jamesbonofffradestin761 i was just about to say that she is no fun as in no fun in the sac

[@MariaRodriguez-dx6sm]

I don't know, I have seen cases of very immature men that expect to have the same life they had before being father, or even before they were married. Many time the "you are not fun" really means "I don't want responsibilities"

[@jamesbonofffradestin761]

@@MariaRodriguez-dx6sm men should start thinking about marriage when they reach 40s.

[@MariaRodriguez-dx6sm]

@@jamesbonofffradestin761 again, depends. There are 25 year olds that never liked parting and prefer domesticity and 55 year olds that still behave like irresponsible frat boys

[@jakepatchogue9478]

Let’s just stick to personal finance not marital problems please

[@Sombra_Azul_]

Thank you!

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

"Teach this boy about the law"...... This is marriage.

[@robertatkins272]

This is why you never get married

[@twincherry4958]

@@robertatkins272 Exactly why you should.

[@robertatkins272]

twin cherry no thanks, been there done that for 15 long years.

[@twincherry4958]

@@robertatkins272 I guess it applies to the other party and not you.

[@patti9339]

All being legally married does is give someone the right to half of your assets. You heard Dave, “teach this boy about the law”. No matter the reason for the divorce, in the end, it’s all about money, property and who is going to get stuck with the debt.

[@raj-cr4nl]

Adults realize there is more to the story than what she said here.

[@Astrogamer33]

This.

[@Rickolee]

Exactly

[@SDALLE99]

a Jones. +1

[@JihadPowell]

Women do this to men all the time( they say they’re just not happy) and they get all the support in the world. But now that the tables are turned. At least he’s being honest. I’m sure it didn’t just happen overnight she played a part in this.

[@kimberlylusby3365]

my Moms ex husband walked out on her with not just 2 kids but one is with special needs. he finally came back at 60+ yrs. he just babysat his son for the first time. and he came back because his girlfriend of 25 yrs die so he is back at 60+ . hah

[@Samsungsamsung-ec5gl]

My dad did this to my family, not my mom. So my dad should be punished, but if a woman does this to her family, then the same. These two men didn't say women dont also... they are dealing with a bad man who is abandoning his family. He is also sinning against God.

[@anchorsaweigh9893]

We don’t even know if the kid is his......

[@Sombra_Azul_]

100% FACTS!

[@Sombra_Azul_]

@Dyduxucux Hxxjfufuf BIG FACTS!

[@jessibrown377]

If she’s keeping the kid, I don’t think he should take the house from her. That’s crazy!

[@kitty13kitty]

It is only crazy if you think about it from a solipsistic point of the woman. She has the availability to seek shelter at a crisis center. Go find a crisis center that takes men in. Its crazy that you think he should go homeless while she has the house and a backup plan.

[@SnowofLight]

Did you miss the point where he started the divorce?

[@auroramothergoddess]

Exactly but look at all the hurt men in the comment section btching and crying. Wise up ladies STOP GIVING THESE MEN CHILDREN AND SECURE A CAREER

[@bigv3192]

If a woman did the same thing, which they do, would Dave and John still say the same?

[@HawkingRegime13]

I think they pick these types of stories in large part because it is more rare for a guy to initiate divorce.

[@adamtaylorb]

No

[@technopink01]

Yes

[@Ryan_DeWitt]

No they would not. They would be mad, but no where near that extreme.

[@martell8560]

Nope

[@buildingwithtrees2258]

No woman is fun after kids until said kids are 8+. This guy needed a man to teach him. Now life will teach him.

[@joshuabrown2680]

I disagree. There’s always a way to keep things going.

[@joshuabrown2680]

BuildingwithTrees gtf with that bs..... my wife just had a baby and we have a blast 5-7 days a week every week....

[@gabriellejones6451]

I agree Joshua! Not every woman or person is the same life is really what we make it and you can still create fun and joy in every stage of life

[@jasminemartinez4097]

Just throw the whole man away , she deserves so much better

[@Originalman144]

How do you know she deserves anything? Not enough info. We will never hear his side -- she's may be lying.

[@realinsurancegal]

“Get a good lawyer and have a field day.” Best line!

[@robertcalamusso4218]

Yeah. A lifetime prison sentence. Maybe she sucks.

[@JahAmericanNY]

This pandemic testing people’s relationships and showing people’s true feeling.

[@1.5Koreans0.5American]

And he didn’t know that you’re not fun until he get 2 year old daughter with you? What on Earth?

[@mariarendon8374]

There is always 3 sides to a story: his, hers and the truth. Why is he saying that? What is she doing or not doing?

[@TimeisUp22]

The 2 year old kind of gives it away. A lot of times when couples have a baby they lose their spark or the romantic flame between them. One thing is for certain, when you don’t put your marriage first, it will end in divorce regardless of who fault it is.

[@sheila3936]

What can he be doing to help her not be boring? Plan family activities or dates? Take on more family or household responsibilities so she can recharge? Assist her with getting help for possible mental health issues like postpartum depression? Why do you jump to his defence and blame her? Why not ask what he was doing or not doing?

[@Hotdrboy88]

yeap

[@AngelaMastrodonato]

Dave Ramsey isn’t on a jury. His job is to take the caller, or in this case “emailer”, at face value so other people in similar situations besides the caller can get help. His advice to get a good lawyer was good. The courts then decide who’s more responsible. I’m tied of the men bringing up that statistic that somewhere between 70-80% of women initiate divorce indicating that the one who initiates divorce is always the bad guy and then when the man initiates divorce, these same men say there’s 2-3 sides to every story. The hypocrisy is staggering

[@jessicayoung3656]

Stop playing devils adovcate for some one you dont even know. The assests will be divided equally not what just the man wants. A lawyer will ensure that.

[@Jay-om8gr]

So y’all want this man to be miserable for decades? He realized he picked poorly and he’s cleaning that up.

[@jessietorres1387]

Jay 👍

[@TimeisUp22]

You can throw away your wife but any man who abandons there kids is 🤮🤮

[@Jay-om8gr]

Kerena Only he’s not abandoning his kid. Women always try to falsely conflate the two

[@leadnsteel1428]

he's going to learn the hard way now.... will have to pay child support, her expenses and other stuff

[@braylenrochell]

Thank you. He gave her the benefit of the doubt and he dipped. I’m pretty sure he loves his kid no doubt and will be there for her

[@achavez78]

He upgraded...reverse hypergamy 👏🏾

[@alvinjackson9685]

Life has certainly taught me one thing: there are 3 sides to every story; hers, his and the truth. Do not take everyone at face value.

[@grimmgtow4744]

Thank you for not letting me be the only one that says that about divorces.

[@donwald3436]

Women do this all the time and nobody bats an eye. "I'm not happy, pay me."

[@72180polo]

This was the comment I was looking for. The hypocrisy is amazing lol

[@CareerCraft56]

Boy man up, why it's so hard for a man to be a good and do the right thing ? There is no hope....

[@bot49999]

Women do this all the time and usually have an affair on the side when they decide their husband isn't "fun" lol

[@bot49999]

Tahkeem Hilton_2.0 yeah and Dave wonders why more men are choosing to “shack up” then get married

[@bot49999]

Cory Walker I love the dude ain’t even have a chance to defend himself lol.

[@Tony-Tequalla]

Or have children by other men and claim the child is the husband's.

[@randolphwh9551]

If was reverse Ramsey what's his problem

[@Rocketninja200]

@C.D. Nguyen The difference is the expectation of responsibility from society. If a guy skips out on their family no one likes that guy. He's a deadbeat loser and everyone agrees on that. But if a woman cheats, its the husband's fault. He will be facing the most destruction in his entire life and the most sympathy he will get from anyone is, "get over it". He will be told he needs to drastically change to meet her needs. She will be treated like a victim and she will not be expected to take any responsibility for her actions. wife cheats = husbands pays

[@1970broncoman]

I agree with people honoring their marriage vows. But think for a minute, if the genders were reversed, would society react in the same way?

[@I-own-your-feelings]

Not a chance. Gynocentrism is way too embedded.

[@hiddenmonkeyofdoom]

Nope, in fact, most think that if a mom leaves or causes any reason for a divorce, that the guy should still pay.

[@STALIN_B]

Lol no i dont think so.. I love Dave finance advice but hes a simp and i dont care about his god advice either

[@dollhouseq1530]

If she left cause he wasn't "fun" anymore, my response would be the EXACT same

[@kierzo8543]

Maybe she has stopped having intimacy with him, that kind of thing can destroy a man's mental state, its essential to a healthy relationship imo, if she is doing that then to me its her wishing to end the relationship and he is only making it official. There's always two sides to every story.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

She’s got a 2 year old daughter and a 2 year old son.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Casey Burns Investing I doubt it's that simple. Will never know the whole story. In Oklahoma your forced to pay child support and back child support even if they're not yours after two years. And that's just one of many examples.

[@hymnodyhands]

OUCH! The truth hurts...

[@Cognitoman]

And here you are again

[@auroramothergoddess]

Big facts

[@ladypink3473]

There’s a manhood crisis. I’ve seen a lot of those based of the dumb stuff they say in these comments here. It’s sad.

[@MrCPPG]

Caused by single mothers raising males. No father in the household you get boys, not men. Thank you feminism.

[@Sombra_Azul_]

Shut'up!

[@MrWololo90]

There is NO crisis. I promise you.

[@auroramothergoddess]

1000000% look at all these weak men in the comment section their egos are so fragile I really don’t want to despise them but they make it really hard. Ladies PLEASE do yourself a favor secure your career and financial life and if you decide to have children with a man ask yourself if you are willing to be single mom for him because when sht hits the fan it will be your problem to figure it out

[@Devinfrbs]

There's got to be more to this story. You don't spend years together after marriage with a kid and leave because it's not "Fun".

[@perotal]

"Get a lawyer, take everything he has ever dreamed of having. Everything !!!!" Ahhhhh how wonderful are Christian principles. I might just become a born-again Christian myself.

[@sarahmburu4706]

😂

[@ryanlowe509]

I can’t stand religious people 😂😂😂😂 the holier than thou routine and the sickening hypocrisy 😂😂😂

[@auroramothergoddess]

Get lost

[@kind2423]

What does religion have to do with this? That’s how the law works

[@perotal]

@@kind2423 religion has everything to do with it because this show claims their advice is solely based on biblical principles

[@MACEDONIAbitola]

NOW I want to HEAR 👂 HIS Side. 🤷‍♂️

[@sheila3936]

Same, I’m curious why he thinks he deserves the house and assets.

[@Finestizpro]

@@sheila3936 more than likely he paid most of it while the wife paid nothing as it happens in most marriages due to the wife having lower income or not working at all

[@liviaclaire]

@@Finestizpro She earns 58k a year. Pretty sure she paid for a good portion of their assets.

[@omarrubio5592]

“Get this guy a haircut he won’t forget” -DR

[@matthewgardner2144]

Well sure, and the husband can't dictate the terms of the divorce. But neither can Dave. It's up to the courts and the law's of caller's state.

[@jack0451]

I guess the question would be if the roles were reversed, the woman telling the man she wants a divorce because he is no fun, would Dave & Dr. D be saying the same thing towards her like they are saying to him? My guess is probably not.

[@thecatnextdoor12]

That’s why I love Dave. He always protects ladies.

[@missy3505]

@@thecatnextdoor12 Yes A Man!

[@Tony-Tequalla]

@Marc Archibald They pushed for no fault divorce. It goes both ways.

[@DeionSardines]

@Marc Archibald see how these two ladies in the comments act when you're worth 200 million dollars. "Aw i love Dave, yeah he's a real man." Lol

[@perotal]

@christ1313 more like simp of the year

[@bestinterest8848]

But when women do this there is no problem they are praised.

[@paulagowell4312]

I don't think that is necessarily true. I do agree though should be the same no matter which side/gender of it is the loser. I know plenty of women that took what appeared to be a good guy to the cleaners with a back up plan in the closet. However, she wasn't bashing just looking for advice.

[@thecatnextdoor12]

Yes, a woman should not be in a relationship she is not happy in. 😅

[@MichaelP-ke1tm]

@@thecatnextdoor12 The guys not happy so what about him

[@thecatnextdoor12]

Patrick I’m not a man, I’m not qualified to give a man advice 🤷‍♀️

[@xyzsame4081]

How many mother of 2 year old do you know that walked out of the marriage LEAVING the child with him ? Yes women leave for all kinds of flimsy reasons and they cheat - but not in THAT phase of their life.

[@PabloSanchez-gf4og]

We haven't heard his side of the story. Maybe there are deeper reasons than "not fun". Everyone automatically sides with the woman and doesn't think beyond her side.

[@martell8560]

I need more details on this "fun" he's talking about. Just because you have kids and debt doesn't mean you can't have a little fun.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Martell Malone I'm single and don't get it. My girlfriend and I have been together longer than most marriages. Coexist with bits of fun,adventure,world travel,cooking,gardening,reading,sailing,hiking,backpacking,biking,etc.. Even rented nieces and nephews on occasion. No issues.

[@aiyannalynn1114]

BlackWorldTraveler rented nieces & nephews? Also you’re single or you have a girlfriend lol. Confused

[@pouinichan]

@@aiyannalynn1114 same 🤔

[@jaymacdonnell4730]

The “details” become irrelevant when there’s a 2-year-old child involved. Dude needs to grow up.

[@lanemccaw-realtor2532]

Women do this too, I’ve been through two divorces where both women told me I wasn’t fun...

[@aaronwatts12]

Lane I’m sorry to hear that bud.

[@JugglingFinance]

Is that why you got divorced? Who filed? That's not a good reason for a divorce 😳

[@xyzsame4081]

+Lane And they left with the intention that YOU would take care of a 2 year old toddler ?? Did you get a warning shot (like the women asked you to get counseling ?).

[@mercuryrising2424]

Women are actually worse at saying men are no fun.

[@michaelwalsh90]

Exactly. Classic double standard.

[@InsomniaArrest]

That's awful, regardless of which partner does it. Let's be honest, people like this come in many flavors. I hope this lady and people like her realize that it's not always your lack of judgment, sometimes people are very good about hiding their true selves for a long time. Good luck to you and everyone in a situation like yours. Protect your hearts, guys; there are vultures everywhere.

[@CocoaBeige]

Thank you, people lie and misrepresent themselves constantly until the truth comes out. Be careful out there.

[@Ant0417]

Take it easy Dave and Dr. John, there's two sides to every story and we only heard one. Always so quick to vilify hubby and sympathize with the always-innocent and helpless wife.

[@georgeschneider2414]

I say this to Dave : read Prov 18 : 13

[@josephjohnson6624]

Ikr!😡

[@noloking]

This is honestly my biggest fear.

[@brianpitsilides5337]

seems like a valid reason to me.... that being said there's probably more to the story than this. I would want to hear his side of the story before i made any kind of judgement. The facts are that the majority of divorces are initiated by women because the divorce and family courts are skewed heavily in favor of the woman. I know way too many men who have had there lives destroyed because of these systemic injustices. Even if he were in the wrong, to want to "clean him out" is pure greedy and evil. The Bible tells us clearly "do not return evil with evil". I have to respectfully push back on a lot of what Dave said.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Brian Pitsilides Always more to the story. Many of these women calling because they know Dave has a cape nearby.

[@ItsReallyJackBlack]

The dude probably just wants some head.

[@Tony-Tequalla]

@@blackworldtraveler3711 Nah. A suit of armour, broadsword and white stallion. Tally ho fair maiden. 😈

[@Dewaynesite1]

But what if his wife told him that he was no fun and left him? That does happen quite often.

[@xyzsame4081]

Mother of 2 year old initiates the divorce because her husband is "no fun" - that is not a real life scenario. Sometimes women leave their little ones with the men and are out, but then it has usually to do with addiction. Might play a role here too, but the "you are no fun" does not indicated. Boy-man could overwhelmed by the responsibility of being a father, and no it is not always fun if they are little. There are male teenagers in the bodies of men that rise to the occasion - and others that walk away because it is "no fun" anymore.

[@vaderwashere365]

Thank you for the video Dave! I feel bad for both hosts at this point... I loved having a daughter when she was 2 years old. My definition of "fun" was different when she was 2, then when I was 18, but I loved that time with her. Watching her babble, taking her around to the playground, her calling me "da da", were all huge for me. The fact that the hosts didn't have any fun when their kids were toddlers is extremely sad.

[@uk7769]

Are you listening close boys? "You take everything this guy dreamed of owning." "HE DESERVES NOTHING." "There is no fun." Yeah, no thanks. Thank you Dad! Blow Me Up Tom!

[@handleyobusiness]

Tom Leykis would be clowning on him. 🤣

[@Astrogamer33]

Tom Leykis - the father we didn’t know we needed.

[@Je.rone_]

Yeah im no fun either, I'm single

[@evegreenification]

Yep, this is wisdom

[@rell660]

I never heard of a guy leaving a relationship because it's not fun. I think she's reversing the story to see what Dave has to think about HER making that decision. I mean there's a song that literally says Girls Just Want To Have Fun.

[@victornyamu2547]

I thoughy the same. She just reversed the whole deal

[@amyl3729]

I'm guessing, by you grouping all women based on a song from the 80s, that you're perpetually single. Lol

[@rell660]

@@amyl3729 Na I'm just red pilled.

[@ryanlowe509]

I group women by their 80% divorce rate with 6 years of marriage taking everything the court system can give them don’t even respond facts don’t care about your feelings!!! 🎤 drop!!!

[@amyl3729]

@@ryanlowe509 you think that's a mic drop, and you think it hurts my feelings? Lol ok then. You win

[@CocoaBeige]

Thank you. Finally! Men calling out fellow men on their consistent misbehavior towards women and children. I often wonder why no men are imploring young and old men to tell the truth at all times, be respectful and live a life of honor.

[@thecurrentmoment]

Well those are some very sweeping statements there...are you sure they apply as universally as you have suggested? Are you going to give similar advice to women? Because there are similarly bad or morally lazy women, so all women must fit into the same category if we are following your reasoning, I suppose...

[@supposedlycollectable4220]

You guys do not have nearly enough information About the situation to make this assumption about the guy

[@bjkarana]

I'm the kind of guy who at least saves up for his mid-life crisis, which will most likely be an over-priced luxury sedan ...that my wife will end up driving most of the time.

[@brianpitsilides5337]

Dave Ramsey has so much money he can volunteer as a white knight in his spare time. Every women that calls in with a sad story he automatically takes her side because there no chance these woman would try to manipulate you. lol

[@auroramothergoddess]

Why are you so pressed

[@xekis]

Some obvious questions that there was no curiosity to ask: How much of the house did each pay for? How much debt were each holding? How much did each make? How much did each contribute to the household finances? How much exactly is this "small sum" that she was offered?

[@mikebee515]

Can we have this same judgement on wives that leave their husbands when they think their no fun? Happens far more often...

[@MrWololo90]

Truth 👆

[@themauleroriginal5515]

"Happens far more often"? How? Says who? What study backs this up?

[@dr.bradshaw]

Something tells me the “no fun” claim has more to it. She’s leaving plenty out of the story here.

[@UberVike]

She probably cheated on him. Probably the fakest reason I've ever heard.

[@texan903]

Marriage doesn't work in this day and age. Anytime you go into the contract, it almost always favors the woman. By the way, it's women who file for divorce the majority of the time.

[@GARNET-DAGGER-FF9]

I smell a cheater!!!

[@Sombra_Azul_]

@Abenezer Getahun Chanel #9

[@courtcounselor]

Not only men!!!

[@onlyu7308]

I read the title and thought it was a wife leaving her husband.

[@InsomniaArrest]

No, there are men and women who do this. Either way, it's horrible.

[@Originalman144]

Funny how they bash the guy when women do this all the time -- it's called "irreconcilable differences" aka she's bored and wants to bounce on some new wood. For every 1 guy that does this -- 10 women do this.

[@muradshawar]

Dave is always against the man for some reason .

[@waflestix346]

He’s projecting. Came out of bankruptcy as a beta male. It’s tragic

[@Cyphlix]

The banker that asked Daves wife why she should be with a man who can't pay his bills was right. She should've taken him for what little he had, the same way he's asking the woman to do in this video.

[@Sombra_Azul_]

@@waflestix346 HAHAHAHAHA SAVAGE!! XD

[@SDALLE99]

Makes great radio drama. Also, evangelicals.

[@muradshawar]

Cyphlix That’s right . He always vilifies the man in his videos it’s always the mans fault never the woman

[@bdavis6450]

I’ve rewind 0:18-0:30 seconds so many times. They got me cracking up, they straight roasting dude😂

[@xochiltortiz]

That’s exactly what my husband said after I had his baby.

[@pamelawurtzburger4676]

Happened to me after I became pregnant with baby #2 , & my x- husband said, " I really dont like "Little kids" , I like them when they ( the kids) are Older!" That was 45 years ago, & he left. Now I am preparing myself for retirement, & going to enjoy my paid off home & my paid off vacation home in Ak. Sometimes, we just need to move On ,& Up!!!

[@NB-ky5ol]

Pamela Wurtzburger Amen! It’s happened to so many of my girlfriends.

[@jessicaolson490]

It's the sign of a narcissist. :(

[@auroramothergoddess]

I’m sorry

[@chrissy1448]

@@pamelawurtzburger4676 Yep! A lot of women waste time crying and trying to get a worthless man back, instead of focusing on the future.

[@pritam775558]

I liked when Dave was all by himself giving advice to Americans.

[@yorkshireterror8539]

They gave a wonderful response. I’m sure there are a ton of men fuming over this comment (see comments below) because it felt personal because they have done this to a woman before. It is VERY common. Good, solid advice.

[@MrWololo90]

@Benny Pickerel I have not looked at divorce statistics, but your reasoning sounds really True in my ears

[@dontworry1568]

WOMEN TOO!!!! my exwife did this to me too minus the child. never even told me she was unhappy. just left.

[@chrissy1448]

Count your lucky stars that @ least she left before bringing kids into the mix.

[@zachscheel3784]

This has to be the most spiteful & unwise advice I’ve heard. Once Dave gets his emotions up on something, he is tunnel visioned and sounds like a child.

[@andreysergeevich2945]

I totally agree on this one you don’t just say take him to court to teach him a lesson

[@andreysergeevich2945]

Not what courts are for

[@Jay-om8gr]

Not fun means she’s not giving up the goods. That’s justifiable

[@joshc7765]

Hehe

[@topcomment3816]

You don’t have to listen to “Christian” Dave very long to hear him give very un-Christ-like advice. Hypocrite

[@JugglingFinance]

Which piece of advice are you referring to?

[@topcomment3816]

Juggling Finance The spite towards someone who has wronged you. This is not Biblical advice. Which is fine. Until you advertise it as such. Dave is such a hypocrite.

[@alishavogel7926]

I don't see it that way at all. It's the fact the guy wants out of the marriage when he created a child and wants out of the responsibility of child raising. There is nothing godly in that behavior and there is nothing wrong is being mad about it.

[@auroramothergoddess]

What exactly did he say in this video that’s unchrist like ?

[@xsgtxbigboy1655]

And women wonder why we don’t wanna get married “take everything he has” lmaoooo

[@saucy05]

Stop having kids with irresponsible men.

[@edgehodl4832]

"Take everything he has", what kind of twisted mind advice is that???? Pooor guy probably is the only one working while she is splitting at home, now he is gonna lose everything, f that

[@YouSoCute2000]

He has someone else...plain and simple. l have a toddler too, its hard life changes so much...as it should, your first priority is your kiddo...but yeah girl, u will be fine. Move one and move up!!

[@fromsanfrancisco1]

That was a very harsh judgment. he is simply not happy. why should anyone live his life miserable? no matter how much it cost, if you’re not happy, leave.

[@scratch57]

“Not fun” is probably one item from a list of much worse things. Men do not behave this way because of “fun”