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[@Mermaidhaze]

When she said her son wanted to suicide bc his dad left 😭why would you want to put your children through that. No side chick comes above your child’s happiness. The husband is a traitor.

[@shentino]

He betrayed not only his wife, but also his daughter by using the kid as a pawn to manipulate the situation. I would definitely make a CPS report.

[@traditionalgirl3943]

Raymond Jennings, NEVER involve CPS; they are, too often, a very evil entity. Research it. They destroy families and worse.

[@discorabbit]

The power of the ring overcame him. (The ring is balls)

[@georgemendez6760]

@Bestgirl

[@owenb8636]

For real. It's such an incredibly selfish thing to do. I don't know how cheaters sleep well at night, especially when they are leaving behind people who depend on them.

[@brownbaggen]

Wow, my problems got really small this morning 😭 this poor poor woman. My heart goes out to her!

[@adamtate2559]

thinking the same

[@candacedawn357]

Mine too, & things aren't great for me now.

[@robindouglas5721]

I feel so sad for her!!😭😭

[@threexladi]

Mine goes out to the youngest child.

[@vitorfernandes651]

Poor? She kept the house. The car. The kids. Bonus money that she didn't even work for. She's not poor she just needs to realize that now things have changed and she can't afford to continue living the rich life she had. Example. I could never afford a 2000 dollar mortgage. So I don't. Easy. And why did they plan kids if they had debt besides the house? People need to plan their lives better. Everyone wants to live like a king.

[@natalierose6572]

What a husband... instead of just getting a divorce years ago and doing the right thing, he destroyed multiple lives. What a piece of work.

[@artz9643]

It takes 2 to tango. I guarantee the wife is equally to blame.

[@美優美結実優美夕みゆ]

I’d love to hear his side.

[@roncur]

@@artz9643 i got my eye on you buddy

[@wkdravenna]

I'm sure neither are saints.

[@rumblebeast08]

@@artz9643 He might have every reason to leave her, but he was a coward not to do it before cheating. Cheating is never ok.

[@BrianaBudgets]

Committing adultery should be a crime because he ruined this woman and children’s lives.

[@williamfranklin5152]

while i agree with the sentiment he is essentially paying her 50k a year and she makes 19k and judging on the mortgage calculation the house value is somewhere north of 500,000 she will be fine she just needs to accept a lower lifestyle

[@sierra7534]

It used to be and needs to be

[@aisherwasher6959]

​@@williamfranklin5152do you think their lives are "ruined" bc she has to deflate her lifestyle? Did you not hear that she was betrayed by the one person committed to doing life? That her son tried killing himself bc of his father's behavior? That these children have siblings they'll likely never know as family? And their lives aren't even ruined. They will come back from this, but this is about way more important things than money

[@jojo_rose341]

​@@aisherwasher6959 I agree, life isn't all about money, that's not what all women care about! lmaoo I feel so bad for the family torn apart by this

[@jshepard152]

It used to be a crime in many states. I wish it still was, but my ex wife doesn't wish for that.

[@ThinkMoneyBenny]

the truth is.. you can’t depend on anyone else besides yourself.

[@bres9977]

Think Money It’s unfortunate but true.

[@AmayzinOne]

I strongly disagree with that statement because it’s proves untrue all the time.

[@whitneyw.7919]

Say that again for all the stay at home parents w/ little career skills and background

[@ThinkMoneyBenny]

Whitney W. Lol!

[@dogan6070]

Agreed

[@hitchjack]

Husband is on the alternative “baby” steps

[@klintous]

Haha, that's a good one!

[@greenAbbot]

You win.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

Alternative facts right here

[@JoyofRVing]

🤣🤣🤣

[@osnn8156]

Jack, you're a savage 😂😂

[@garyodriscoll7988]

I’m convinced that 90% of the worlds problems could be solved by choosing the right partner to procreate with at the right time.

[@dialac1]

Preach. I agree too. 99% is the number

[@nebulonv6015]

Or choosing NONE. This whole call made me glad I still do not have children OR a wife at age 42. If there's one thing that's certain, it's that you can be certain you have NO IDEA when someone is going to have a midlife crisis and take his/her own path... AT YOUR EXPENSE.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

Yes but you need a crystal ball.

[@candacedawn357]

She said he was a different man at the beginning.

[@tarawalton6778]

@@nebulonv6015 I concur, me as well at 41 yrs old. I'm happily SANE & single with savings.

[@oliviaraeboyd]

This is so sad. Hearing the pain in her voice is heartbreaking. God bless this woman. ❤️

[@artz9643]

Unfortunately you're only getting her story. You don't know the whole truth.

[@roncur]

@@artz9643 u sound like a man that knows the whole truth

[@artz9643]

@@roncur I am open minded. I'm not an emotional baboon. I wait until I've seen all the facts. You might want to try it sometimes.

[@roncur]

@@artz9643 I was really hoping that you were the husband and you were going to reveal some bombshell you really let me down here buddy.

[@artz9643]

@@roncur even if a bombshell was revealed, you're probably not mature enough to understand. You really should go back to coloring with your crayons.

[@SvPVids]

when a marriage counselor tells you to divorce you know its bad.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Exactly! They typically do all they can to keep you together

[@SvPVids]

@Traveling Guy Amen

[@ucherichardegbu5739]

those marriage counsellor don't know anything... about marriage.. if u have a marriage problem what one should do it to go to the originator

[@funstuff9153]

You know you need a new counselor

[@myytchannel6632]

That's when the marriage counselor wants your man.

[@fireengine77]

There are calls that make me more thankful for my simple life. This is one of them...

[@PrincessTiana83]

Was just thinking the same thing...😩😩

[@Simon-oy7kf]

Exactly

[@MiguelHernandez-rw4xu]

No doubt

[@philos_theos]

Amen

[@ChristSaves88]

I agree ! Praying for her tho.🙏🏾

[@CurtMortis]

Listening to her speak makes me feel like this woman is going to be OK

[@ianfitchett2768]

Really? Because I got a pretty strong feeling of the exact opposite

[@James以仁慈]

It is temporary. Every situation stays for awhile.

[@I_am_milan]

Yeah.

[@Celery459]

Yes it seems like she is fighting for her kids. That is keeping her going.

[@allisonwaters716]

@@ianfitchett2768 Her husband sounds rich. Shell be ok

[@lionelluva]

Father God, I pray for restoration for Claire and her children right now. I pray that finances and miracles flow to her immediately in Jesus Name. I pray she and the kids rely on you for everything, because you are her God. Thank you Lord!

[@AustinRasch-p2y]

67k a year tax free sounds like she has plenty of finances flowing to her. She's bad with money. Shes in a house she cant afford is main issue

[@lovingme1st973]

Amen

[@BenevolantBusinessBeauty]

Amen! 🙏🏽

[@TheMint20]

Not a Christian, but I'll pray for her too. May the gods guide her and her family, and may they punish her faithless husband. May his family turn their faces away from him and towards his victim and her family. May she find warmth in the embrace of her god, and may her family reach new heights in the years to come.

[@phatnigerianchic]

Amen!!

[@hankfuchs8405]

This is why I have taught my three daughters to never depend on a man for financial support

[@gessrinky9129]

Amen

[@puppy3908]

you'll raise three women who dislike men... Why? because you have told them men will abuse them if given the opportunity. Hope your three harpies get therapy

[@strawberribubbletea]

That’s sound advice. If you depend on other people for food, water, and shelter, some people will feel like they own you. But I guess some insecure men want that.

[@hankfuchs8405]

@@puppy3908 where did you read in my msg that I said for them to dislike men and men will abuse them?? Are you really that stupid?? I tough my daughters to have their own careers, own transportation ect... they were tought to never depend on a man to be their only financial support to be self supportive if it ever needed to come to that.

[@crazytrain7721]

That's probably a bit of a mistake.

[@Nolaperu]

If you can't handle being with one person for the rest of your life, don't get married!!

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Amen

[@Nolaperu]

@Anne Day I agree, if you're not happy in your marriage, seek counseling. If all else fails, get out.

[@fabulouslifeinchrist1349]

Some people get married and cheat before marriage and continue cheating. I don't think you should marry anyone who cheats on you before marriage...ever...because they know you are the desperate kind and will stay no matter what they do and forgive them.

[@Nolaperu]

@@fabulouslifeinchrist1349 I totally agree and I have met people who married anyway. But I've also met people who didn't know until after marriage, which totally sucks!

[@threexladi]

They always find excuses for cheating.

[@Tammohawk1]

At her kids ages, I would consider after school programs for child care instead of trying to give the creep more custody. Just my opinion.

[@Nan-59]

Tammohawk ABSOLUTELY!!!!

[@teebone2157]

They aren't free anymore

[@daniellecoffey8451]

Exactly

[@sobc2737]

Why be vindictive? Despite his wrong doings, no one deserves not to see their kids.

[@SpfySpaceJam]

@@teebone2157 nope but boys and girls club is pretty affordable and some public schools have free after school tutoring ect

[@courtnee3]

This has me in tears 😢 the pain of an outside baby, divorce, and a suicidal child. Hope she’s doing much better now

[@kokoskokso]

Leaving his kids for fear of living on the street and eating rice & beans while he's f#&ing around is infuriating. I sure hope she feathered him of every penny possible in child support and alimony and if not, she sure should do so.

[@ukrd94]

Regret and guilt are real. My father abandoned us when we were little and left my mom with five kids, mortage, bills, etc. It was a struggle. Later on, he tried to talk to us and I talked to him just because my mom taught me better. Needless to say, when he got sick, no one really cared. He died and I didn't even shed a tear.

[@queenbee3647]

Im so sorry you didnt know the full love of a caring father. You had the person but he couldnt do the job. Mines gone and I miss him so much. Take care.

[@meritabuff741]

Mine to gone I really miss him in a better place He with the Father Jesus Christ. Amen 💯🙌 ⏫️

[@richardgnyc]

yeah, no care for men like that.

[@jacksgl777]

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m glad he at least reached out trying to have a relationship, eventually.

[@msjay5337]

Exactly why women need to focus on their own career as well. You never know what can happen. Pray for the best but be prepared for the worst when marrying someone because some people change.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

MS JAY Yes! People Change.

[@vwalker58]

You right on that!

[@nonamebae5722]

Yes! And always save money independent of your partner because you never know when they will leave you high and dry

[@wowso4]

Ty so true also have some money saved away don’t tell him just keep with away just in case things turn badly.

[@glorymanheretosleep]

The thing is people show you who they are long before. Some just choose to continue on the road for some reason....

[@FourSeasons04]

Yes, he was "that guy" when you married him, you just didn't see it and/or he hid it very well. Hope the caller is in a much better place today.

[@chrissy1448]

Yep... their are always red flags...

[@camille29099]

4 years later I’m wondering how she‘s doing. Yes, she was devastated, but she sounded intelligent and capable. Really hope she and her kids are ok now.

[@neneshubby]

Nice job Dad. Way to set a great example for your kids, especially your sons. My supervisor just found out something very similar with her husband of 12 years and now they’re in the middle of a divorce. If you can’t stay faithful, don’t get married

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I agree it sets a terrible example for the kids and uproots them for no reason. I'm sorry about your supervisor

[@bigtheo03]

Father needs to worry about his kids mental health above everything else.

[@johnmiller6403]

That probably means getting sole custody. That Claire sounds very unstable.

[@bigtheo03]

@@johnmiller6403 You can tell how hurt women are when they keep mentioning the other woman. That woman is not your concern your child is.

[@threexladi]

Including that of the youngest child.

[@excelrange4246]

What a horrible (ex) husband. This woman & children are reaping the devastation of his conduct. This poor lady has to keep her head above water & NOT have a breakdown in order to move toward a better financial future. That is NOT easy. I wish for this lady & her children all the happiness their heart & arms can hold.

[@ZoomerAdvice]

A father like that cares only about himself and will only ever care about himself

[@dayseyeintuition]

The part where her voice broke when she asked about giving up more custody of her kids 😭 the pain you feel when you’re facing giving up time with your own children is heartbreaking

[@ours2697]

😢😢😢😢

[@JakeStewart1343]

I felt sadder when she said her 14 year old tried to commit suicide after they divorced. 😢

[@Scorpiomaj27889]

Someone tells me to choose financial responsibility or them, bye. It's not like buying a Toyota vs a Lexus, it's the attitude... we all have to retire one day and I don't plan on eating Ramen noodles 3 times a day.

[@Kelaine72]

Right. What kind of choice is that? Most of these men complain about money hungry wives and he has one that is trying to make sure yall have some money for the future.

[@angelikalaser7778]

So true!!!

[@NeededGR13F]

@@Kelaine72 it probably had nothing to do with money. Those weird ultimatums are usually the person trying to hold control over their spouse. She was pushing for something that would give her independence, so he had to step in.

[@ineedhoez]

Not even about the choice that she was given. It was the fact that he gave her an ultimatum in the first place. Total freaking narcissist

[@james_crook]

I get what you mean. Although part of it is you can be somewhat mentally unstable in this situation and just have someone to talk to helps a lot.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

I felt like I was being flushed down a long toilet for the first 2 minutes of this call. I’m glad I found Dave at a young age.

[@raymeester7883]

Look for a divorce lawyer.

[@jean-paulfaye7794]

Lol I keep seeing you everywhere 👀

[@SansAziza]

A long toilet? 😂

[@shannonsmith5421]

Dr.Dave Ramsey is what it should be called .

[@artz9643]

No because Dave is always so one sided in these situations. He doesn't even know the full story. He never heard the husband's side of it.

[@shannonsmith5421]

@@artz9643 He can only deal with the person requesting the help and from my hundreds views to Uncle Dave's show. He don't look at WHO is Right but he focus on WHAT is Right .

[@artz9643]

@@shannonsmith5421 that's exactly my point. Dave can't know who's right because he doesn't have all the facts. He's only getting one side of the story. It's ok for him to offer advice to the caller. It's not ok to pass judgement against another person when you don't have a clue what's the whole situation.

[@shannonsmith5421]

@@artz9643 Amen .

[@Jen.E]

Ha, I thought she called him Uncle Dave.

[@Arincota]

This is the first call where I just started balling.... Dave hasn’t even said word yet and I’m in tears. Hugs and prayers for this mama and her babies 😭❤️

[@threexladi]

None for the other child!? And why is that?

[@Arincota]

Ruby Parchment I’m sorry... what?

[@Pallanos7]

@@threexladi All of them honey, she has a heart big enough for everybody. Including you.

[@AntiUgg]

I’m so sorry for this woman. My aunt went through a similar situation and she is happier than ever before at the moment. Stay strong.

[@xoxoJGWS]

Just want to hug this woman. Stay strong, you can do it.

[@clair233]

Claire, it gets easier, I know it's tough now, but don't sacrifice the time with your children to make more money. If they need you around. Wait till they're older. Love from London 💓💓💓

[@whitneyw.7919]

Is it better to be homeless?

[@whitneyw.7919]

@Far Above Rubies Are you against men not working to stay home with the children? Do you value children in that way?

[@traceycancio1795]

Yes!

[@Kingsdaughter68]

Clare Hill I’m sure she doesn’t mean it. She’s in a confused state and thinking aloud. It’s a tough situation she’s in. I pray God delivers her 🙏🏽

[@kazbar7611]

@The KZbin Critic parents pay for everything you have listed over here too. You get a certain amount of help from the government if you are on a low income. And you would hopefully get paid child maintenance from your ex.

[@apierre6]

I know that Dave advocates for mothers to stay at home once they have children but situations like this are exactly why it can be a bad idea. For a lot of men, being the sole breadwinner gives them a sense of control and creates a power imbalance in the relationship. They think "she can't leave because she needs me" and that makes think they can do whatever they want. This woman hadn't worked for several years, has four kids and now she's a single mom. Truly sad situation

[@paulagentile3801]

A man that tjinks like that, wasntbinvested ti begin with, a controller, selfish!

[@ZFKATNBADGER40]

Both my parents had full time jobs, and both did their fatherly and motherly duties and my siblings and I turned out well. I hate the one size fits all metric that some people live by

[@williamfranklin5152]

yeah but judging by the calculation on the mortgage he was paying 2735 a month thats easily a house that costs north of 500k yeah shes a single mom who is going to be getting a sizeable paycheck from the sale of that house and an additional 16800 from the father AT least there are plenty of single mothers who have it far far worse she has to work and spend less time with the kids better than not eating she needs to forget her old lifestyle and come to terms with things

[@JibbsCompilations]

"He wasn't this guy when I married him." Yes, actually he was. As Dave said, he's always been this guy. People don't change. We just ignore the red flags. My heart goes out to this woman, but at the same time, she needs to accept that a mistake was made and move on with her life. Until then, she'll just always use it as an excuse for the situation she's in now. I know, because I was there once too.

[@allisonwaters716]

Honestly, some men are good at hiding things. Women dont realize how most men think, thats the issue

[@lesterparker1594]

I don’t agree with Dave on everything. This is one of them. My wife and I lived together for a few years before buying a house and getting married. I couldn’t imagine not living with a person before marrying them. I don’t care what anyone says, you don’t really know a person until you live with them. Maybe that’s just us, but we have a great marriage and it worked for us

[@paulagentile3801]

Guess Dave doesnt REALLY believe in ghe power of the Lord. People CAN change, if they want to!!

[@larose6551]

So he has 4 kids with wife and a secret child and now living with a new sugar momma. Whew! This man has always been like this but was slick enough to hide it.

[@XxhimynameiscynxX]

Aaaannd that's why I'm single and work hard. This kind of betrayal I wish on no one!

[@CerronPritchett]

himynameiscyn yep you never know when it will happen to you when you get in a relationship the way to not go through this is to stay single.

[@ayecarumba4928]

I am here for you when u need a man.

[@johnf1577]

Lol ^ 😂

[@glorymanheretosleep]

The worst part is that it is common. Men and women are not that good individuals and not sure why they get into relationships for?

[@BaccaratCoach]

himynameiscyn i wish there was a middle ground between having someone in your life to be close 2 but just don't belong 2 them. Ride the waves when things are good. When goes south save yourself and be done... I wish that was easier DONE than SAID

[@raulgolfs]

Man heard this one on the podcast this morning and Jesus. That’s got to be rough.

[@AdaEstherGJ]

What a terrible experience.

[@raulgolfs]

Ada Esther Argueta right.

[@tman040496tb]

Well I'm a grown man and this almost brought me to tears. All I can think of is my momma. I wish I could tell her how much her kids will love her for what she's going through now.

[@colin1818]

My heart breaks for this woman. You can just hear in her voice the resolve, the dedication and the determination to soldier through this. But she's shattered.

[@SteveRam]

So sorry to hear about your situation. Praying all unfolds well for you and your children. Stay strong, you never know what good God can create from even the worst situations.

[@Mack.of.all.trades]

Sell the house, take your half, rent the cheapest (safest) apartment you can find and live off the house money/ savings money while you get a better paying job. Dont be afraid to “downsize”.

[@sunshinelawfan7693]

If she lowers her overhead - the ex will petition the court to lower his contribution. Plus the kids will have more upheaval. Try to stay till younger doesn't need a sitter after school...

[@Mack.of.all.trades]

SunshineLaw Fan very true, but, I would rather live a simple/ low cost life to get on my feet again rather than milk my ex and continue to squeeze by.

[@rebeccashields9626]

SunshineLaw Fan better to live more simply and not be dependent on that POS ex anymore. Requiring his money to get by is not a good answer to anything. Making her bills small and manageable is the best way forward.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@Coffee AtMidnight - right! People act like HE didnt create this mess to begin with and he isnt responsible for the family he created

[@naomit.s7152]

You can hear how she can't even allow herself to get too emotional. She's so in control of what's going on because if she even let's up, everything might unravel. She's holding on so tight. She's so strong in crisis. Be strong Mama.

[@lpillar5401]

I am praying for Claire that God will give her daily bread, and renewed strengthen along with peace. Lord comfort her heart and the childrens and supply all of their needs according to your riches and glory Amen. (Prayer changes things )

[@deborahmcginnis8307]

I'm agreeing with you in Jesus name. 🙏

[@thisisnotok2100]

You're sweet

[@valeriavagapova]

Could you please also pray for all the children starting to death in Africa? I think they've been needing some daily bread for quite a while. Would be great to see it change!

[@KayJay79]

Beautiful prayer! God bless you!

[@AdaEstherGJ]

Amén

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

The possibility of a situation like this is why I never had an appetite for marriage and kids.

[@HamiltonRb]

Well there is always a chance of being in a car accident too, but does that mean you shouldn't drive? I think to get married you really have to know yourself and what makes you happy in life, and for some it is marriage, kids, and others maybe it is a dog or travel. Everyone is different, and you have to know yourself before you get to know a potential husband or wife.

[@HamiltonRb]

Ruby Parchment I’m going to have to keep my eyes open the next time I get gas.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Agreed. Its so hard to trust people anymore

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

@@HamiltonRb Well duh.

[@HamiltonRb]

@@Elizabeth-yg2mg "duh" ? You put a lot of thought into that, maybe best you stay single

[@esonon5210]

Isn't dating your boss a conflict of interest? That's really unethical and both of them can be fired for that.

[@cptfreeman8966]

Happens in a lot of work places

[@itsallperfectlynormal9805]

Depends whose interest you're talking about.

[@griselleisara3799]

She will do fine. Him on the other hand. He will get his. You reap what u sow. 🥺

[@iltony21]

Now That's an answer! Get up early...get a cup of coffee and talk to God and see what He wants you to do. Cause God will tell you!

[@kellymarie9612]

This has to be the most heartbreaking call I’ve ever heard to Dave 🙁 this poor woman

[@SpfySpaceJam]

Please just rent a place. Get a 3 bedroom you'll be fine. See if you can work full time and have the dad take the kids to therapy. These children are his responsibility too. Work Monday-Friday and have weekends and holidays off with the kids until your stable then adjust your schedule to how you like it

[@jackcoleman5955]

Dave possesses so much kindness, wisdom and practical guidance in this one clip. Great approach to decouple all the crazy into a manageable action plan!

[@suziedeschene5069]

This woman is a warrior, dear God please see her and her babies through this!

[@vilenationgaming]

This is why you don’t become a housewife or marry for money. When one person has all the money they also have all the power. When the relationship ends (which most do) the person with no money loses.

[@jellybeans9283]

💯 always have your own money. Money is power.

[@cconroy1677]

Ridiculous. Know who you are marrying. PS She isn't a housewife. She has a part time job. It prob took away from time with hubby. You don't know.

[@lorim2000]

This is a terrible line of thought and way to live.

[@mrgilmore6953]

But she has all his money

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@@mrgilmore6953 - not according to the call..!

[@ENCwwe]

Dave's right God saw this coming and already has a way out planned.

[@KayJay79]

Amen!

[@simonbelmont5801]

Which god?

[@luminous6969]

Probably one of the 4,000. Then again, there could be a god that no one knows about.

[@PositivelyBrainwashed]

If there's a God, what makes you think he has a way out planned? Lots of people don't have happy endings, and many of them believe and pray to God.

[@ENCwwe]

@@PositivelyBrainwashed We don't always know his reasons

[@Nan-59]

Dear girl, please DO NOT give your horrible ex any more time with your children!! I’d Eat beans and rice 🍚 before I’d let my looser ex have them more. You can do this!! Take help when extended to you, for sure! ❤️♥️❤️♥️😘. Hang in there, and praying for you your kids, especially your older son!!!

[@fabulouslifeinchrist1349]

Or get her family to help with sitting...he is not a role model.

[@varg8696]

LOL! You think taking that kid away from daddy is a good thing you're sorely mistaken. That's an amazing way to ruin your kids lift

[@threexladi]

Nan - you care not about the hidden child, do you?

[@mixedmamiiD]

@David H So you and @VARG Just missed the part where the 14 year old wanted to kill their self because of the dad breaking up his home... This isnt the type if dad the kids need.

[@minimalisthealth]

Quick question. Why does she say she can't afford the mortgage of 2735 a month when it is the ex-husband who pays it? Is it that he's no longer obliged to pay after the divorce is finalized or something?

[@MizzKG6]

That is my question

[@nothanks71]

I'm not sure the reason why but I gathered that he's going to flat out stop paying at some point

[@Blacklla]

The math aint mathing

[@nmc1859]

He ruined his whole legacy!! His children! His wife! If someone be dammed should it not be him??! My goodness this story gave me chills.

[@biankisocampo]

2:36 Dave: "He has always been this guy" I remember Dave giving a millionaire guy advice on how to avoid gold diggers. He said to have your family be a filter. This should be the same for your significant other. If your parents, family, and friends do not like your significant others LISTEN, give them the benefit of the dought. Then take a step back and observe.

[@MyNameIsCorey]

First things first This guy is a straight up and down D bag however what in the world does he do for a living that earns a 40 grand bonus asking for a friend of course...

[@RedTop-yo4ds]

His boss, apparently.

[@Sylvershade]

@@RedTop-yo4ds well played....

[@waynekerr2472]

@@RedTop-yo4ds he must be good at it

[@meizhen2265]

used his sweet talking powers on his boss somehow 😏🤭

[@HamiltonRb]

@wayne kerr Maybe not. Guy's that cheat on their wife, will also cheat on their gf, and if it happens it will probably cost him his job as well as money. Some guys think with the little head instead of the big head.

[@simonehadeen5883]

This was so sad. It says a year ago I hope she’s doing better now!

[@chrissy1448]

A woman like this is probably doing amazing... her situation is dire but she is still focusing on the positives.

[@a-a-ronbrowser1486]

I have been wondering how some of these people have handled corona. They are Barely hanging on with normal conditions.

[@steveng9921]

This is so sad. Cheaters are evil.

[@donniep.1513]

Saw the caption and clicked with the quickness!

[@Tyler-sq4lt]

Same reason women watch Lifetime and As the World Turns.

[@Aidualc68]

People hide things really well. My devoted ex a hard working man working over time man. Came home smelling like work and sweat man had time to cheat on me between gym sessions at 430 am in the morning. I have no faith in relationships and been single for 4 years now and I can’t be happier.

[@cynthiawilliams737]

What jumps out at me is the child that is mentally unstable because what his Dad did & my choice would be to build my job search around the hours you need to be there for him not subjecting him to the new girlfriend in Dad's life but in all my free time devoting it to him & maybe you may need to go on Government Assistance to help you until this child is stronger, but whatever you do do not "bad-mouth" Dad let this child figure how he feels about Dad & get one on one counseling for him!!

[@savagedragon79]

My daughter's mom that has 3 kids from 3 dad's found out her husband got someone pregnant. He is in the navy so she said she would stay married long enough to get his benefits.

[@yosemite735]

My dad did that to his wife and my half-sisters. I ended up in an orphanage though.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I'm so sorry you had to experience that because of an extremely selfish person

[@mablepugh4459]

This lady 100% is the one I feel for the most (and I’ve watched practically all these videos). her positivity is so amazing. I’ll be praying for her. She deserves the world.

[@oldmanwinter3597]

Why is there a custody battle? Any competent lawyer would destroy this man in a heartbeat.

[@GamingTaylor]

7:11 that drum scarred me

[@zeebee972]

That's nice to hoard all the cash u can. But dont let it ruin your relationship with ur sister and brother in law. Pay them

[@KrystalToddCPA]

This is messy! My heart breaks hearing her voice. I think selling the house would be a great idea because home prices are astronomical in most markets. I don't know about buying another house though. That is the same thing I'm trying to decide.

[@terristerris4071]

Wow...That’s a lot. I wouldn’t give up custody though. The father isn’t in a good place apparently because he’s causing drama for himself and he’s living with this woman that isn’t his wife. Putting the kids in that environment would probably be toxic and cause further problems. Can family and friends help her with the children while she work and put the kids in an activity to keep their minds busy especially that 14 year old. I feel for this woman. I can hear the hurt in her voice. She needs support right now ( family and friends). 🙏

[@susansauls8902]

Great comment. I had these same thoughts, and you laid it all out!

[@annabellawr]

This poor woman 🥺 due to her husbands wrong doings, her life completely flipped upside down. I commend her determination and strength. I hope she is in a better place today.

[@American_Liberty]

I wish some of these people had a gofundme. :( My heart just aches for her & her child that is suicidal.

[@hotandsoursoup2664]

Once the child does the hard work & mom cries & yells so much to herself it will be better after a few months. Her child will say they can't do it, they do it. You're gonna make it. My daughter is about 8 months free of suicidal thoughts & cutting.

[@labro8964]

Dave is so practical, just keeping it real.

[@artz9643]

I wouldn't call it real. It's one sided and blatantly false.

[@susansauls8902]

@Art Z Blatantly false??? So you are personally involved in this situation??!

[@artz9643]

@@susansauls8902 no but neither are you or Dave. I do know that there's always more than just one side to every story. So it's always stupid to take one side without knowing all the facts.

[@susannangwale6148]

Claire needs so much more than financial advice ❤ Thanks Dave for empathy and wholistic advice

[@BlendedBarbieDoll]

Wow I'm in tears. Lord bless her.

[@bonitaohyea9258]

Why give up custody? I worked FT plus went to University FT and had sole custody. You can too.

[@hereforthebs8655]

With 4 kids?

[@tinkm4669]

This woman sounds so incredibly on top of this disaster. Bless her and her family

[@dreamingfool2]

Look into work you can do from home, a side hustle.

[@jennapromitas]

“Or should I give up more custody of my kids so I can get a part time job to earn more money” - that just broke my heart 🥺❤️

[@madisonbeneby5100]

He has always been that guy...and this is why women need to be in good financial position whether working mom or stay at home mom. She needs to pay her family she owes money to first before that relationship is ruined also. I feel sorry for her..this call is awful.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Yeah I would be shocked I'd there went red flags

[@janedo-re-mi2738]

If he can afford a $2,700 mortgage and gets that big of a bonus, he makes pretty decent money. Considering the fact that he cheated and had a child outside of the marriage, she should definitely be able to get alimony and child support to add to her part-time employment.

[@mcmic1212]

I almost started crying in my throat for this lady and her family! Praying for you all to move through this and healed emotional, and financially and spiritual sound on the other side.

[@kevini4295]

I only listened to a minute of this and decided she needed a divorce ASAP. Some things you just cannot forgive.

[@zeynand4039]

This is my fear when it comes to marriage. You can be stronger together but you can in this hurricane too.

[@GolfAppetite]

Mathew 11 28-29. Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. I read that in my devotional this morning and thought it should be shared with you. Have that cup of coffee tomorrow morning like Dave recommended. God bless.

[@bigbossjc4117]

Pretty sure this is not what Dave meant, when he was talking about baby steps.

[@fpfp1111]

Lol

[@jorgepadua5802]

"2019 knocked me out cold!" 2020: BUT WAIT, THERE'S MORE!

[@taylorkrulock2281]

i just want to give her a hug. this woman has been through so much i applaud her for sticking through this and being as strong as possible. you got this girl, keep pushing!!!

[@becky3115]

Great advice I was told before I became a SAHM: always be ready to be the breadwinner in case your husband cannot support the family. I have my degree and work experience, but enjoy the SAHM life, thanks to God.

[@calpolyca]

You know it's bad and there's no hope when even the marriage counselor tells you to get a divorce!

[@Apollyon-sz9sn]

We only heard her side folks, Since 70% of divorces are activated by women screwing over men, I actually find this cathartic. All she has to do is downsize her house as 2700 dollars a month mortgage tells me she is in a mansion. Oh and a woman who has cheated is NEVER going to give her husband 4000 dollars a month, that I can tell you.

[@vee9043]

@Blob Monster Boom!

[@vernonu7314]

@@vee9043 Why do you write "Boom!"? I think she said she found about the child in March of 2019. According to her story she did not "stick around" for 7 years.

[@robroberts1473]

He wasn't this guy when I married him................... Yes he was but you married him anyway.

[@artz9643]

That's so true Rob. Foolish woman thinks she can control and mold another person the way that she wants in her fantasy world. Eventually the fecal matter hits the fan and we're supposed to feel sorry for her as if she's some sort of innocent victim?

[@MissHunterELA]

Rob Roberts...how right you are!

[@knowthyself8233]

Yep

[@YTaddict16]

This is so sad, my God my heart breaks for this woman. I hope she’s doing better.

[@NB-ky5ol]

I just love Dave and his sound advice and brutal honesty. And I love that he always puts God first.

[@katemiller7874]

You got this claire. A few years from now you will be ok. Keep the 14 year old safe. Try not to move him from his school or friends it will put him further in a hole. Your concerns are the children now and their well being. Everything else is secondary

[@catherinewilke5583]

This lady needs to get her shit together. Sell the house. Get an apartment. Leave the custody the same (how many of us would kill for that schedule), get a FT job, use PTO for 2 hours per week to take the kid to therapy, or ask ex to take turns, work a second job every other weekend when the kids are gone.

[@sunkissed6220]

The view on the way into a marriage is not the same on the way out. Always be sure you are able to make it on your own. One never knows what the future holds. Prayers for this woman and the situation she faces.

[@KelG]

It’s been a little over a year now. Claire, I hope that you and your children are in a better position now. May God bless you & your babies. Would love an update! 💗

[@whereschloevids]

Why did he agree to buy a house two years ago knowing he wasn’t fully invested in the marriage?!? My heart goes out to all his children, none of whom asked to be born to a mess like this 😔

[@artz9643]

Maybe it's Claire that wasn't fully invested in the marriage?

[@whereschloevids]

Art Z sure that could be true as well, but his betrayal is evidence that he definitely wasn’t and that makes committing to buying a house questionable

[@queenie_the_virgo]

@@artz9643she went to counseling to try. The man left

[@christophermartin972]

She has such a great attitude, my heart goes out to this woman!

[@chainrupsharma7375]

Its heart wrenching to hear her cry! How could a husband leave 4 kids and wife to be with someone else? And a secret child? Where are we heading?

[@sethbender2863]

I really feel bad for this lady. This is why women need their own careers. When they are stay at home moms. They don’t have something to fall back in.