My voice was beaten out of me by my father - Toxic masculinity

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Shared Moments with Justus

Shared Moments with Justus

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@mrsgondwe
@mrsgondwe 3 жыл бұрын
This is powerful. I am raising boys and this has opened helped me to see that I need to stop certain things as it may destroy them. I will definitely do better for my nephew's too. Bless you brother
@marykariuki7381
@marykariuki7381 3 жыл бұрын
This is why I am opposed to the people that say children are a blessing. They are a responsibility, they are my responsibility. If I want their life to be a blessing, I need the right skills. I need to understand what they require. Otherwise most children are dealing with childhood trauma, they are perpetuating the cycle of abuse as they don’t know better. How I wish they taught me such things when I was a child and in school.
@oraltraditions6127
@oraltraditions6127 3 жыл бұрын
Children are a blessing from the Lord.,so even if you oppose it, its the truth. Opposing it is opposing God. Psalms 127:3.Having children comes with responsibility. We are responsible for our children until they become an adult, whether 18 or 21. And they dont owe their parents anything. However, good children will help their children when they are aging.
@marykariuki7381
@marykariuki7381 3 жыл бұрын
@@oraltraditions6127 they are not a blessing from God they are a product of sex! All those children who will die of hunger today or other preventable causes, do you think God wanted them to die! Saying children are a blessing absolves parents from absolute responsibility from bringing children into the earth without planning.
@marykariuki7381
@marykariuki7381 3 жыл бұрын
Children must be planned for
@oraltraditions6127
@oraltraditions6127 3 жыл бұрын
Will not argue sweetheart, but I showed you scriptures, so if you doubt scriptures, no comment. However, I will say this: God blessed man and woman and told them to multiply and fill the earth. Genesis (1:28). Many people went out had sex outside of marriage and all these children suffer because of the disorder of man. God says marry a woman, not women, so polygamy is a breach. Having multiple women is wrong , having babies out side of the confines of marriage is a sin too. Although, the children are born outside of marriage or inside, they are still a blessed gift from God. Children die for hunger and diseases because of oppressers who oppress the poor. There is enough to ho around for the world to be sufficed, but some want to be superior, so the deprived a certain group. This world is unequal. We need open minds. We need to be objective rather than subjective. Cultures put people in bondage. Even if my children displease me, or God, they are still blessings from God. I cannot buy a child at the store. That child had to grow in a woman's womb.Do you know how the bones grow in the womb? My dear, God is involved. Speak life. Even if you are not convinced that they are blessings, please help me pray for our youngers all over the world who have lost hope. Tell God to change them from just being a product of sex, and make them a blessing so they can be used by God. One of the reasons why people have no regard for their fellowmen is because they dont see children as blessings, we see they as product of sex.Not to dismiss the process of the sexual act, but the end result is s beautiful life.
@Imuetinyanosa
@Imuetinyanosa 3 жыл бұрын
Just because they bring responsibilities doesn’t mean they are not a blessing from God. They are such blessings!
@DameWaMjengo
@DameWaMjengo 3 жыл бұрын
Thankful to see that God has kept you Eric. Childhood trauma is extremely difficult but God makes us overcomers. 🌺
@Nia-Kenia
@Nia-Kenia 3 жыл бұрын
The very first 2 minutes are already so PROFOUND. WOW! Breaking Generational Curses. Well Done bro. So PROUD of you 👏🏽
@margaretobaga8786
@margaretobaga8786 3 жыл бұрын
"Every home should be a church." Thank you, dear Otieno O. You are a generous gift to us.
@shishmurage9519
@shishmurage9519 3 жыл бұрын
Some of those old parents were wicked people with no fear of God. Religious hypocrisy is what they had. May we all heal from childhood traumas
@bentaodongo551
@bentaodongo551 3 жыл бұрын
They were not wicked. They had no one to explain life issues. They were operating from a point of ignorance completely lost themselves. We can only forgive them and do a better job with our children. I promised myself not to raise my children the way l was raised.
@KoiNjenga
@KoiNjenga 3 жыл бұрын
they are not wicked even parents have traumas in them...remember hurt begets hurt.
@ttpptt
@ttpptt 3 жыл бұрын
I agree. Some parents are wicked. We don't speak enough of them because of how our culture programs us. Many of them hide behind religion.
@bellaolum9768
@bellaolum9768 3 жыл бұрын
They also had their own trauma from their upbringing
@elizabethkinyuaelizabeth534
@elizabethkinyuaelizabeth534 3 жыл бұрын
God bless the host of this channel, we are learning alot. Really sorry about the pain you went through, but, you are determined to share and help other people, thank you...you are a very young man but wise ready to transform the society for the better. I think we should try to make our society a better and a safer place to be, if one feel that they are struggling mentally, good to ask for help, don't keep quiet.
@Ndaps1
@Ndaps1 3 жыл бұрын
This young man went through the most but I am glad he went through a healing journey. These are the authentic stories that am inspired by. I really appreciate men who are bold enough to talk about their challenges and really seek to understand themselves. We need to normalize healing black men, men are not machines they are human beings with emotions hence there should be safe space for them to discuss their issues as well.
@wanjikunyagah6426
@wanjikunyagah6426 3 жыл бұрын
"The Illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn" Alvin Toffler...we all need to unlearn and relearn something in our life to count ourselves literate nowadays.
@rhoduskal-cious3243
@rhoduskal-cious3243 3 жыл бұрын
Whoah, that saying cuts deep!
@emilyomondi9247
@emilyomondi9247 3 жыл бұрын
Wow, I love your authenticity and your healing journey Onyango Otieno. May men arise and speak
@MAGAISKLAN
@MAGAISKLAN 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of men who share their trauma in order to heal themselves as well as other men. Not enough work is done to help our young men deal with their emotions and mental health. What happened to him as a child was horrifying. All too often, children of abuse grow up to be very angry and depressed adults. Because this man decided to seek out, speak up and get help, he is now we'll adjusted and has a great outlook on life. Congtats to him on his journey to well-being.
@muluadammesfin1509
@muluadammesfin1509 3 жыл бұрын
You are brave man!!you learn everything by yourself self.God bless you.
@annadaley
@annadaley 3 жыл бұрын
This man is so true some men are so emotionally divided from their selves thanks for pointing out and making it clare that offen it has been beaten from them.
@rhoduskal-cious3243
@rhoduskal-cious3243 3 жыл бұрын
I was ironing my pillow cases and I heard, you know I have innocent eyes. I had to look 😂. Yes you do sir! God bless you!
@simeonwafula
@simeonwafula Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@AdornmentMinistries
@AdornmentMinistries 3 жыл бұрын
Hallelujah! The best sharing I have watched my entire life. Having had a similar childhood which graduated into intense abusive relationships. Thank you so much Onyango. God Increase you exceedingly. My take home, Church should be everywhere one or two are, from family, friends, neighbors etc. Justus, your presentation of your guests is top notch! God bless you
@CherieDeDieu
@CherieDeDieu 3 жыл бұрын
I struggle with depression too and will one day tell my story and be a mental health advocate like you. Thanks for telling your story. Being positive and hopeful always helps.
@Rixpoet
@Rixpoet 3 жыл бұрын
Power to you.
@lebone_bulbul
@lebone_bulbul 3 жыл бұрын
@@Rixpoet ¹
@lebone_bulbul
@lebone_bulbul 3 жыл бұрын
@@Rixpoet 1
@moniquewan6123
@moniquewan6123 3 жыл бұрын
You are a gift to human being. Those who have sense listen to this bright young man! I love your analogy of who human beings function. Please don’t stop🙌🏼
@sonishatalkz
@sonishatalkz 3 жыл бұрын
"We were separated from our emotions at a young age." That is so heart-breakingly true. Otieno we salute you for sharing your story and consciously choosing to be a better person than the blueprint you were given ✊🏾❤
@ttpptt
@ttpptt 3 жыл бұрын
You are a blessing!!!! Am so sorry for all that pain you have gone through. Keep shinning and shedding light to these issues in our African culture. Silence is not the answer. 👍
@jenyloaf
@jenyloaf 3 жыл бұрын
This is what our society needs.Healing.A broken people and family leads to broken societies. You are brave to come out and speak of this issues.You went through that for a purpose and this is your ministry.May God continue to use you to help many.
@alakhebuhle6337
@alakhebuhle6337 3 жыл бұрын
This show is a look alike of a South African show called I have been through the most.... Good show people have a platform to inspire and transform keep it up
@tamicabennett5730
@tamicabennett5730 3 жыл бұрын
You spoke straight to my heart.Thank you for your patience in all you went through
@ritaroggs
@ritaroggs 3 жыл бұрын
I Bless you Brother... thank You for cmng out because you are motivating others to speak out...I can't even.put mys3lf.in yur feet. that was horrible. I had a crazy Dad but I had a strong mother who protected us from.his drunk madness. its sad yur.mom was Weak n helpless. God bless you.
@carmiimrac9131
@carmiimrac9131 3 жыл бұрын
I understand you.I have an experience kinda related to yours and now at 22,I'm forever running, anywhere away from home because home is not my happy place.And like you,words always come to my rescue.I've always penned my painful experiences down and it's always a calming experience.
@angeludeze2217
@angeludeze2217 3 жыл бұрын
Eric you are a special man that’s Why you were prepared to come and lead those hurting to heal and change their life into positive , emotional and happy man.Eric keep shining and man “it’s okay to be open to express your feelings “. Be blessed and lots of love🕊 🇰🇪❤️😘😘
@cynogoro
@cynogoro Жыл бұрын
This is a refreshing interview. Happy to see men stepping out of toxic societal norms and becoming emotionally healthy 👏🏾
@brie2545
@brie2545 3 жыл бұрын
The society is soo much concentrated on female empowerment and the male species are left aside.... Its high time we come together and stop toxic masculinity. Since they cant express themselves they become violent or sucidal......Great message big man!! 👏👏
@KAIZORIANEMPIRE
@KAIZORIANEMPIRE 3 жыл бұрын
There is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Hitting someone isn't masculine, in fact most child abuse is by mothers to their sons and daughters, i can show you the stats. These are just broken people taking their anger out on others, nothing to do with expressing emotions lol
@KAIZORIANEMPIRE
@KAIZORIANEMPIRE 3 жыл бұрын
suicide isn't about expressing emotions, use your brain. Suicide is when you have problems with no solutions... i can cry and say how sad i am as much as i want but if my problems are not solved it won't change anything i would still kill myself lol
@brie2545
@brie2545 3 жыл бұрын
@@KAIZORIANEMPIRE ww kwenda uko...use my brain vitu gani? Ww tumia yako uandike comment yako. It depends on how you view this story na ndo maana kuna watu watalike the video and others will dislike. There is toxic masculinity my guy na if you do a deep research on toxic masculinity u will get my point.....daah!
@KAIZORIANEMPIRE
@KAIZORIANEMPIRE 3 жыл бұрын
@@brie2545 a research written by stupid people. There is no such thing as gender based violence or toxic masculinity. Just stupid people . For example this man here used to write about gender based violence ??? What the hell is that ? When his dad faught his mother ? Didn't his dad beat him too ? What has gender got to do with anything ? It was simply a man hitting the thing that was closest to him. It sometimes was a woman and soemtimes a boy lol. Toxic masculinity doesn't exist.
@brie2545
@brie2545 3 жыл бұрын
@@KAIZORIANEMPIRE how can you call someone's research stupid?? Just because you haven't gone through sth doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Your soo much into calling people stupid and asking me to use my brain....mybe u r the those things and this is ur way of letting it out
@rda-gama2567
@rda-gama2567 3 жыл бұрын
To be honest ; lots of our parents were frustrated individuals, some of them behaved like a sociopaths!!
@lifeinKaren
@lifeinKaren Жыл бұрын
Talk of being raised by a toxic masculine abusive step-father and narcissistic mother..
@pichunakichuna2111
@pichunakichuna2111 Жыл бұрын
My mum was a psychopath
@ln2542
@ln2542 2 жыл бұрын
WOW!!!! You are a pearl and a genius ! May God guide you to greater heights. You have learnt a lot and have been really inspirational. May He heal you from your past wounds. Let your light shine! You are talented and have a lot to offer! Thank you for sharing!
@aggieouma7024
@aggieouma7024 3 жыл бұрын
Your content always inspiring 👌👌
@sherahm.inspires9969
@sherahm.inspires9969 3 жыл бұрын
Wow those are unique guy friends u got there son. Your story is inspirational. Clouds of blessings.
@wechenjeke9776
@wechenjeke9776 3 жыл бұрын
You're brave, bold and strong 💪🏽
@jimmydeewilliams6489
@jimmydeewilliams6489 3 жыл бұрын
I listened to your story attentively.. I love you and God loves you too we both love you. You're brave, articulate and well spoken. I pray God gives you the strength and courage to move on. All blessings to you
@katelynn2548
@katelynn2548 3 жыл бұрын
Wow. I am glad this man is strong enough to share his story. I am so sorry you have to go through abuse at the hands of your father who is supposed to be your protector and guide. May God heal your heart so you can truly forgive your father.
@Wanjamburu.23
@Wanjamburu.23 2 жыл бұрын
So so sad that a whole grown man unleashes his idiocy on a wife and kids Am disappointed! Thank you for sharing about effects of childhood traumas. Your dad is a perfect example of a Narcissist and thanks for learning to handle your situation.
@seanodhiambo4615
@seanodhiambo4615 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing my husband was abusive but later on I tried to check on his background I found out that was what his father used to to be violent and abusive. The pattern was repeating itself For real men are struggling from their past and they can't find way out of the situation though the solution is reprograme our mind so that we can be free from the trauma
@catherinewangu3451
@catherinewangu3451 3 жыл бұрын
Wooh! I'm so proud of you. I need your courage to speak out. I'm tired of the cycle. I don't know where to begin 😕
@Rixpoet
@Rixpoet 3 жыл бұрын
Please reach out.
@naomiwangoi3725
@naomiwangoi3725 3 жыл бұрын
i went through the same at the hands of my mom,am slowly healing from depression as a result, happy for you that you came through this
@faithkilonzo01
@faithkilonzo01 3 жыл бұрын
Pole brother , may God favor u As a lady not a minute I will allow my husband to overdiscipline my child Normal discipline is enough
@unwanaokon
@unwanaokon 3 жыл бұрын
You are a great guy. I am happy you are doing this. You are a blessing to the human race. God bless you.
@vincentmangoma4128
@vincentmangoma4128 3 жыл бұрын
Young man you are on the right track keep going.All the best.
@bellaolum9768
@bellaolum9768 3 жыл бұрын
You see men walking around looking normal, yet you don't know what scars they bear. Then they get married to a girl from a normal family and it just goes downhill coz they haven't dealt with their demons. I'm sorry this happened to you and glad you are healing.
@joycegacheri5177
@joycegacheri5177 3 жыл бұрын
True
@cosmicwisdom999
@cosmicwisdom999 3 жыл бұрын
Highly intelligent and spiritually awoke man
@hannahsinnerhealingforum6395
@hannahsinnerhealingforum6395 3 жыл бұрын
I went through childhood trauma as well physical, emotional and spiritual abuse. It affected my education too. I remember how on my birthdays i would go cry and my mum’s grave. My parents got married very young as well. As am listening to your story i realise your dad was a narrcisist, in the Bible i believe this is the Jezebel spirit and such people are not epathetic and not able to connect with emotions of others and many other wild characteristics they are actually very broken people inside but are not self reflective am glad you healed as i did and am also helping others as well. I have been listening to Lisa Romano a life coach she has great healing tips and finding self again. Am glad I have found God and found myself as well.I have been on the healing path for 15years now and am glad am free!! Thank you Erick for sharing your story!
@hotshotmose4900
@hotshotmose4900 Жыл бұрын
I understand you completely sis.
@florenceojowa7706
@florenceojowa7706 2 жыл бұрын
You have put it so well. We need to feel safe around people so that we don’t continue to replicate the pains we hold on other people. That’s the only way to stop the vicious cycle. Thank you
@puritykm
@puritykm 3 жыл бұрын
I am at 13th minute and I can't stop wondering if your mum witnessed this guy being burnt by his dad!! What did she think? What did she do to rescue her kid? It is at this point I say to men, and especially those who shame single moms. You don't know what options they had to choose from. If this mum chose her herself and her kids, this story would not be this sad. I wish you the courage to help others and success in life hero.
@lovelightimpact1369
@lovelightimpact1369 3 жыл бұрын
Oh Yea! When you've had such an experience, you really learn to appreciate yourself. You learn to make life happen on your own. No connections, No charity, you just stick out your horns and break the Walls for life to move. I had to decide that I WAS NOTHING CLOSE TO WHAT MY DAD HAD LIVED TO DOOM ME TO. I had to frantically go on a search for who I really was. I've seen Therapists for YEARS until my psych stabalized. Until I broke free from The Grip of growing up in an Abusive home. I Frantically searched the Bible for what God thought of me and I decided to run with it like that. PERIOD. That's the only way My life moved. Otherwise I'd still be in such a Dark Hopeless Place. This Guy, YOU'RE JUST A HERO!
@lovelightimpact1369
@lovelightimpact1369 3 жыл бұрын
And yea, Mine was also a Church Guy who behind closed doors was like an absolute LUNATIC!🙆🙆Aki I was so confused! Luckily God revealed himself to me personally and I was able to separate between who God really was and what He was not. That kept me from Commiting suicide all the times I contemplated and even attempted. That helped me make it through coz Man! I could never have lived to tell the story.
@joywairimu2372
@joywairimu2372 3 жыл бұрын
I find it interesting that he has accepted every little indignity meted upon him with a certain quiet contemplation,like a lesson that should be learnt.....free from emotion yet still able to convey his feeling on all the things that happened to him and move on with life.
@philliipahkoka2774
@philliipahkoka2774 Жыл бұрын
I know Erick so well,after the burn he was brought to my house and he lived with us for 1 year.This is a real life experience.
@ArvisLiepsch
@ArvisLiepsch 3 жыл бұрын
Hi am from Namibia I went through the same thing nice documentary just a bit emotional I excetlly know how that guy feel coz I went through the same nice one
@Missforexcharts
@Missforexcharts 3 жыл бұрын
I am Namibian I went through similar situation too
@nakanjakobalirahshinati6878
@nakanjakobalirahshinati6878 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Dr.peac for the link.its was so helpful
@channelsoflightministry
@channelsoflightministry 3 жыл бұрын
Every home should be a church. Every home should be a safe space! Thank you for sharing your story Eric. I will gladly share this. Justus we are always grateful.
@Mdalasini
@Mdalasini 3 жыл бұрын
Church? No. A home should be just a home; safe, warm, loving, joyous, encouraging... Should be beautiful
@wycliffelevigan6702
@wycliffelevigan6702 3 жыл бұрын
I would actually take it back to our grandparents some of the stories my mum shares you wonder how she did not replicate what was done to her and by extension the colonial machine which introduced this corporal punishment where parents were being beaten infront of their children and women being raped infornt of their husbands for defiance collectively as melananted people we have all endured trauma in some way shape or form others have broken the cycle others continued because they never knew any better you cant do what you have not seen...
@hairproducts7637
@hairproducts7637 3 жыл бұрын
@@wycliffelevigan6702 Truth comments👏👏👏👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
@berylleakeycreationshandma1930
@berylleakeycreationshandma1930 3 жыл бұрын
Am here....unatuonjesha Tu Justus,eeei...will be waiting,I've set a reminder
@SharedMomentswithJustus
@SharedMomentswithJustus 3 жыл бұрын
Very good.
@gracemfune9118
@gracemfune9118 Жыл бұрын
Man this story just stired some emotions in me.i feel like you just told my whole story.
@TheEvaboi
@TheEvaboi 3 жыл бұрын
I have learnt alot....keep the comtent coming Jus
@expertwriters3959
@expertwriters3959 3 жыл бұрын
I have really enjoyed listening to you. I felt like you were talking about my life and giving me tips on how I should have gotten out of the mess. Thanks
@oraltraditions6127
@oraltraditions6127 3 жыл бұрын
Without God we are nothing.
@nyotamutobo1700
@nyotamutobo1700 3 жыл бұрын
Your story is really inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story. I am happy you have come out to talk about your life experiences and how you have overcome your pains.
@malaikaglory4566
@malaikaglory4566 3 жыл бұрын
Sorry man! Continue on your healing journey bro. Those parents need healing too if ONLY they knew how sick they are, but it is sad that the people who were to parent you, abused you. Probably your parents were victims too, and can steal heal in order for the whole family to heal, otherwise the trauma continues. You are really strong bro! All the best❤
@hannahsinnerhealingforum6395
@hannahsinnerhealingforum6395 3 жыл бұрын
Yes
@hairproducts7637
@hairproducts7637 3 жыл бұрын
True👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
@josephineweddy2398
@josephineweddy2398 3 жыл бұрын
Weldone for taking your power back and curving out your recovery journey. You have been through alot and I empathise with you. It seems God used your pain and translated it into your purpose in helping others find their voice and to start their own recovery journies too.
@tengteng5767
@tengteng5767 3 жыл бұрын
Listening to him is healing in itself.sometimes you are abused but don't even know it because it's a norm in our culture.
@asantemungu9820
@asantemungu9820 3 жыл бұрын
Pole sana mdogo wangu. I feel your pain. So sad but yet so inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story, #You have inspired many, me as well. Halafu someone just commented that your delusional..?? Unbelievable! Yaani kwanza kanikasirisha sana hadi I have flagged and reported her comment as Negative in this community, youtu.be should block him/her... Negative comments towards an individual's personal story not acceptable, period!!!!
@teckie__songsofworship6680
@teckie__songsofworship6680 3 жыл бұрын
Whoever is reading this may God protect u and ur family from depression and all form of sickness...May God release destiny helpers to you and double your prosperity ...Healing be your portion in Mighty Name
@amisi9490
@amisi9490 3 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@specy2838
@specy2838 3 жыл бұрын
Have been a victim of trauma too. Really appreciate this talk. It is only when I started working in a mental health organization that I realized I had been struggling with depression. It affected my academics, was questioning my existence too. To a point a had suicidal ideations. To this day I struggle with relationships especially my mum, all the trauma has been caused by her.
@SharedMomentswithJustus
@SharedMomentswithJustus 3 жыл бұрын
It shall be well. Keep on the path
@jacklinerabongo5367
@jacklinerabongo5367 3 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this.
@flowerbombkay260
@flowerbombkay260 3 жыл бұрын
My brother i can relate may you continue to find healing .Ameen
@GeorgeAgak
@GeorgeAgak 3 жыл бұрын
Rix Nyonyango, "They gave me this, I'm giving them this" sure thing, you should choose the kind of man you give the world. Strong!
@deotio2768
@deotio2768 3 жыл бұрын
Wow what an enlightened strong fighter you are. Thank you for your healing story
@kazmorich
@kazmorich 3 жыл бұрын
I think you can be so useful in counseling and psychology. You'd change so many lives out here and be a blessing. Maybe you went through all that for a purpose. I relate with you in so many ways. Growing up was not easy. Though in mine there was no physical violence there was too much emotional abuse.
@lovelightimpact1369
@lovelightimpact1369 3 жыл бұрын
I feel you. 😭 Been there. The whole horror of it. Been there.
@victoreddie9552
@victoreddie9552 3 жыл бұрын
There some huge important points that I have never heard from any other movitational speaker. Thank you. At first when I started watching your vedio i didn't take it seriously, I am glad that I was chatting with another phone so I didn't interupt the video as time goes i started now picking up nice teachings. I have learned alot from this video. I might not have crum everything you've talked about but the little points that I have mastered I am going to share them with some of my friends. Once again thank you...be blessed.
@joyceagrah9321
@joyceagrah9321 3 жыл бұрын
My first time watching your blog it's something in the past but I felt so sorry for you, but thank God through it all you're standing love from London
@geenigeria5327
@geenigeria5327 3 жыл бұрын
My brother God you. I thank you for helping a lot of people .
@alessandravannuccini2275
@alessandravannuccini2275 Жыл бұрын
A lesson of love ❤ Thank you Mr. Otieno!
@asantemungu9820
@asantemungu9820 3 жыл бұрын
Keep in shining and changing lives, my brother
@joanotiang6173
@joanotiang6173 3 жыл бұрын
Quite educative and encouraging. I would like to get his contacts to help someone very close to me. We didn’t know his condition until we listened to onyango. Thank you for the wonderful show
@ireneatieno84
@ireneatieno84 3 жыл бұрын
Eiiiiigh God is faithful glory and honor be to God 🙏
@wandacadofarm.5759
@wandacadofarm.5759 2 жыл бұрын
Be blessed, well presented, truly experiential.
@risperkariuki1459
@risperkariuki1459 2 жыл бұрын
To imagine that there were grown ups in this house who could no protect this child from an irrational psycopath parent. Including the Mom... So heart rending.
@catherinemagero5696
@catherinemagero5696 3 жыл бұрын
Having the courage to express yourself is another thing.
@aimeeadeti-muga8868
@aimeeadeti-muga8868 3 жыл бұрын
I understand you every bit! African families can have such baaaaad things happening. From your story, now I know what to do.
@alicenyambura1130
@alicenyambura1130 2 жыл бұрын
Can relate.... All is well. Well done brother.
@oraltraditions6127
@oraltraditions6127 3 жыл бұрын
You shall live and not die. You are on your way to recovery. Your situation us God's opportunity. Hold on to Jesus. God bless you my son. My last child is 36 yrs, so could have been my grandson. I have a granddaughter age 27
@martinmusomba7220
@martinmusomba7220 3 жыл бұрын
Why are the women commenting , men come out and speak of it !!!!!!!! Lets stop it please stop it we are losing smart, intelligent men !! PTSD is real . I am praying for all the men in my country
@Nancyahenda
@Nancyahenda 3 жыл бұрын
This one is making me feel so stressful waiting for it
@christinekawira1175
@christinekawira1175 3 жыл бұрын
That's my childhood, I never miss them,mum and dad,,they weren't there physically, were never supportive,,my dad was way worse,he made me believe I wasn't capable,was not even enough for anything or anyone,,and here I am having done a teaching course and even though something tells me I can stand in a classroom and teach,,some other voice puts me off that I can't really deliver in a class,,and since 2014 after graduating I haven't even gained the confidence to search for a teaching job,,I try to convince myself everyday that am okey,am normal like any other person and can do anything,,, but there is that other side of me that was instilled by my ungrateful father,,but I don't let it drive me,,I try everyday to think positive about myself and after I get some money am planning to at least try counseling,, may God be our strength, Amen
@SharedMomentswithJustus
@SharedMomentswithJustus 3 жыл бұрын
@Christine Kawira you are your own person now. Your success is not pegged on that painful past. Much as it clouded your identity, it did not change it. I believe you have everything it takes to be anything you dream about. Shake it off and go after the desires of your heart. May God lead you through to one day be a testimony for many.
@saadiasheikh5744
@saadiasheikh5744 3 жыл бұрын
I think you will be okey because you know that it was not your fault what happened to you .
@newcreation9977
@newcreation9977 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your testimony. This was so hard to hear.......I hope that your dad does not put you off God because He is real. If you ask God to come into your life, He will heal you and wipe away all those hurtful memories of your past. Your dad was just one of those people who had no clue of who God was and was not operating under no God but anger and his own issues who he selfishly took out on you. I really hope that God restores you completely. You sound like a really nice person. I hope and pray that your life now will make up for the past pains and hurts and live a happy and loving life for evermore.......
@cathywaero6144
@cathywaero6144 3 жыл бұрын
Wow👏👏👏 This is eye opening. Thanks for sharing!
@kimoichetabarapberenge1765
@kimoichetabarapberenge1765 3 жыл бұрын
My dad never hit me, but my mother my scars tell it all. RIP daddy. I will forever be grateful for the life we shared 🥰
@susanruo8087
@susanruo8087 3 жыл бұрын
Violence family and toxic parents can be really tormenting and traumatizing to a child. This story is like mine. I never forget to thank God for my mom to finally gather the courage to leave that marriage. It's been years now ever since we left but the memories of the beatings still hurts me to-date. Kwanza umetaja iyo "nyahunyo" nikaskia mwili umetetemeka, coz that's what dad used to beat us with 😭😭
@my_life_lately
@my_life_lately 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry darl. May you continue to heal.
@wachuruo2085
@wachuruo2085 3 жыл бұрын
Happy for you no child should endure such pain,they never ask to be brought into this world. Hehe and we share names also ruo
@lylynikki
@lylynikki 3 жыл бұрын
So sorry for all you went through Erick! I remember you from highschool, bugema adventist sec sch. I didn't know you had gone through such.... I pray for healing! Btw i do read and love your poetry from fb
@oraltraditions6127
@oraltraditions6127 3 жыл бұрын
Your story is familiar to my husband's. Boy, he had a hard life and I got the blunt of his pain, but I've learned to understand his position. He just does not know how to show love. He only thinks about himself. He's in survival mode. I trust God to help him see that his parents and culture had done him a disservice.
@wing2017
@wing2017 3 жыл бұрын
Leave him. What is the purpose of being with someone who can't love? Men who are unable to love should live alone
@bellaolum9768
@bellaolum9768 3 жыл бұрын
Why are you still in the marriage?
@childofthemosthigh1294
@childofthemosthigh1294 3 жыл бұрын
Went through the same thing with my mother and father, but mother was more abusive. All the frustrations and bad things happening to the family were my fault as the eldest. Her abuse was physical, mental and emotional and covert at the same time. No one outside should know. I think she knew she was abusing us because she used to say that no one should speak about what happens at home and that family secrets should be kept within the family. Refused friends or any other person being close to us. Now i look back and think she didn’t want anyone finding out how she made our lives hell at home when no one was watching. I think she went through the same abuse and she didn’t know better. Generational curses are real, i walked away and promised to do better. It messes people up. But am glad i left far away from that abuse.
@lifeinKaren
@lifeinKaren Жыл бұрын
I'm at the verge of losing my house due to arrears but I'd rather die homeless than seek refuge at my father's house.
@lifeinKaren
@lifeinKaren Жыл бұрын
To add salt on it, my mother can't say a word. As matter of fact, being a narc, she would have none of the shame.
@dorothygarbafoster1687
@dorothygarbafoster1687 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome inspirational speech thank you so much for the offer
@bettymuriu
@bettymuriu 3 жыл бұрын
Waiting.... This one eish
@wisdomlife
@wisdomlife 2 жыл бұрын
This is a great story, what we do to our children shapes their future indeed...
@victorkihika6408
@victorkihika6408 11 күн бұрын
I am so glad I watched this.
@mercyrosefunmi7355
@mercyrosefunmi7355 3 жыл бұрын
JUSTUS, WAOW YOUR STORY IS VERY MOVING, YOU'VE GONE THROUGH A LOT. I WENT THRU SIMILAR CHILDHOOD VERY HARD TO EXPRESS THIS WHEN SOMEONE WHO NEVER EXPERIENCE THIS KIND OF LIFE. I WANTED TO WRITE BUT BCOS OF MY OTHER SIBLINGS I HELD BACK. BUT THIS EMOTIONAL IMPART IS VERY STRONG, IN FACT MENTALLY AFFECTS YOU. PEOPLE ARE GOING THRU A LOT. WELDONE FOR BUILDING UP A SETTING TO HELP PEOPLE. MY SISTER AND I ALWAYS WANTED TO SET UP A CHARITY TO SUPPORT PEOPLE. DON'T GIVE UP KEEP ENCOURAGING AND YOU MIGHT FIND PEOPLE TO HELP WITH INNER PEACE. YOU'VE DONE GOOD!
@bellaolum9768
@bellaolum9768 3 жыл бұрын
His name is Onyango Otieno, Justus is the host.
@njerimax222
@njerimax222 3 жыл бұрын
I think warunge too can be given chance to express himself..why did he made such a tough choice?
@maredushe3709
@maredushe3709 3 жыл бұрын
God bless you for sharing..I am inspired.
@Adipaspeakup
@Adipaspeakup 3 жыл бұрын
eeh how can someone go through so much! I help domestic violence victims but this child abuse was of another level cheeeee!!!!!Look at the bright side of life. God has had you all this time. All that you went through prepared you for NOW. Now is the time for you to enjoy God's blessings. God has been there all along
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