My wife asked me to CHOOSE between my MOM and HER and I think I am going to DIVORCE her...

My wife asked me to CHOOSE between my MOM and HER and I think I am going to DIVORCE her...
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[@dharma391]

You see how well you'll be treated by your husband just by watching the way he treats his mom.

[@Ponce17]

If you're even worth it.

[@rainynight02]

I just don't understand this logic. I care about my wife. I don't really care about my mom. (We had a lot of issues) I literally can't be around my mom for more than a day before old resentments start to resurface. I Want to be around my wife. 🤷‍♀️

[@thabsmkhize2481]

@@rainynight02 that happens too. Both can be true at the same time. My fiancé is also at odds with his mom, loves her but isn’t quite close to her. But he adores me and looks after me in every way he can. That’s just his nature and I guess the value he places in me and our relationship. He always tells me he genuinely enjoys my company and it sounds like you’re the same with your wife, and that’s perfectly okay ❤

[@Kidaru]

Not always true. My ex was a mama's boy and he treated me like shit and allowed his mom to treat me like shit. He also let his mom treat all his ex girlfriends like shit as well.

[@thousandyardgavri2785]

@@Kidaru Let me rephrase it. You can see how well you'll be treated based on the quality of love he received growing up, and how close he is to that source. It can be from his mother, father, friend, sibling, aunt, uncle, grandparents or cousin..... If his closest relationship is to his narcissistic mother, then yea expect the worst.

[@BiggusThiccus]

My God. I've listened to all kinds of these stories here, hearing about what happened to the mother in the end is the first time I've cried with one. The fact that she said "death does not stop a loving relationship." Truly an angel dressed as a person.

[@zardon_zane1630]

A Goddess* sorry I had to correct that.

[@jesterbeetus6275]

Bro this guys mom is probably the toughest most wholesome people I've ever heard of. She literally the truest definition of what a parent should be.

[@funnyguyzloty3191]

makes sence , the mom is an angel

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Seriously. His mom is a freaking saint and his wife is a user, probably who doesn’t want the money spent on his mom

[@Banded_]

Well AkSHaWy akowding to my cockacumations, it's sense not sence 🤓🤓🤓🤓

[@user-eg4xr9mq8x]

Why is she mad at op? They didn't even know. The mom is an absolute angel and should ALWAYS be chosen above anyone like that..or just anyone say all.

[@RStartGaming1LOL]

That mother deserves the world

[@user-yl3mw3vd8b]

That is one golden mother. I hope she's fine and recovered from her illness.

[@heyyitsjanea]

he is selfless to a fault. so is his mom. and ppl like that deserve way more than what life has given them

[@Renderers]

Nah this mother is just unkillable. She raised a god damn juggernaut.

[@juliearmfield2634]

What is that??

[@s-kayultra2702]

@@juliearmfield2634a juggernaut is like a big ass armoured up person

[@juliearmfield2634]

@@s-kayultra2702 ok thanks I've never heard that one before is that like the UK or somewhere?

[@s-kayultra2702]

@@juliearmfield2634 are you dumb? I explained what it is and you asked if it’s the uk or “somewhere” I said it’s a person, I’m pretty sure a person is not a country, also don’t disrespect my country like that

[@GildedApple]

​@@juliearmfield2634 It's kinda like English slang for a heavily armoured up person (picture like a guy in a bomb defusing suit with a giant machine gun). It's also not just a UK thing but for the whole English language.

[@herticate8579]

she is deeply damaged psychologically because of her childhood and spilt that into op's life. it wasn't his fault that she miscarried, if only she got mental help instead of competing with op for his mother's attention. Its solely her fault and she had no rights blaming him for anything. especially since she wanted to have his mom for herself by limiting his interaction with her.

[@SS_SUKUNA]

if im being honest, it is her fault but isnt, she never got the right opportunity to help ease her mind. Granted, she is probably drugged up so heavily rn because of the medication that comes with those mental disorders. It is her fault for projecting her problems towards him, but it isnt in the sense that she wasnt cared for in a proper way besides with him. When he treated her good, it was probably hard for her ot understand the concept of someone actually caring. She wants to say that he has a coping mechanism when in reality, she was using hers against him. It isnt healthy, glad they divorced. But it isnt healthy to bottle it all up. Im glad they both got therapy to get through this. Even if they arent together doing it, at least they are finally getting the help they both deserve. Nobody in this story is in the wrong, one just had a rough time with a real home, and the other got severely abused. Why be in the wrong when you were just a child who didnt know what was right or wrong?

[@mukymakazuki2218]

​@@SS_SUKUNAits still her fault tbh

[@user-yg2uy8bc8q]

She could have gotten help before her condition went worse. But when you are developing those kind of disorders, it’s impossible to feel them. Even if they do feel it, it will feel normalized and they’ll only notice (if they are lucky enough) at a very bad point. What happened to OP was very bad. But surely it looked like his wife was an amazing person before she developed the personality disorder. So, it’s understandable why he was so thoughtful. He was such an amazing person anyway.

[@google1030]

Idk, I don't think the state it left her in after he proposed divorce helped her condition, it's really bad for the baby. It's not like he had to go nuclear and go straight to proposing divorce. He could have talked through with her more why she felt he is spending too much time with him mom when she is very ill, or opted for marriage counselling before going straight to suggesting divorce. I think from that, and his reaction of hating her because she got pregnant and didn't telll him straight away, he is not a stable person to be with either if he was going to throw the relationship away so quickly with barely any effort to probe further or have further discussion and communication about it. Also hating your wife who just miscarried is not a normal way to react, even if there were issues regarding how they each felt about his mom living with/nearby them. The normal response would be shock, maybe some anger at the idea if you had known you might have been able to prevent it, but more than that, guilt for potentially aggravating the situtation by leaving her in sucha severe emotional state, sadness at your own loss, and sympathy for your wife because of what she has been through and is going through. The lack of OP to feel something other than anger towards her when she miscarried suggests he's not the man to be with for her, MIL issues or no MIL issues. She does need treatment for her Bipolar Disorder, and better support, someone who won't abandon her so easily, and he needs further therapy to sort out his issues with forming bonds with people. It's not normal to so easily want to discard your marriage with a person you apparently love and consider yourself extememely close with over this when you haven't exhausted other options.

[@TheNightxSky]

did you not listen to the full story? He tried to get answers from her, he tried asking her questions about it. but she refused to answer openly and honestly until he brought up divorce. Her miscarriage had nothing to do with him, there's plently of reasons why women miscarriage. If she had been honest wtih him AT ALL in the relationship none of this would have happened. IF she had been honest about the baby, the jealousy, his mother, none of this would havehappened, and she could have gone to therapy much sooner. She made rough choices for herself and her own mental health. NO ONE should give their partners such an ultimatume when their partner is a literal fucking saint just trying to do right by his family. @@google1030

[@someguylivingonearth1727]

You can always find a new woman to love you, you can never find a mothers love again.

[@Imbapiranha]

You can't get the crazy out of people, sadly. BPD stays with her. Expect even more manipulation and domination by her later on.

[@StreetWarrior24]

BPD is unfixable.

[@juanhaines7295]

I heard this one before. The wife has serious issues.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Wife is seriously seriously selfish and I’d bet a bit of it is money. Wife could go with him to visit his mom

[@nuriagalve4989]

Tell me you haven't read the whole post without telling me

[@Freakcheeks]

youve never heard of BPD huh.

[@goblin1838]

yooo its the guy who has heard this one before!!

[@Hereditary_D]

This guy’s powers are super hearing

[@sparklypenguin2882]

Men on reddit are so fucking amazing like where can i get one? Walmart? 😭

[@sirblack1619]

They are all around. Check in your friendzone.

[@lunaeclipse7717]

@@sirblack1619omg a wild nice guy

[@justinekho4751]

@@sirblack1619I tried but got cheated instead

[@kai_theweeb]

@@sirblack1619my friend one is all gay men- ZONE*

[@user-fw7fj3df5r]

@11:30 I think I would have divorced her once she blamed me for the losing of the child. Screw that mental women

[@Lemonz1989]

I hope he is well. He sounds like a good man. If what he says is true, then the wife didn’t know what treasure she had in him. I only dream of having such a person in my life, not to mention a partner like that would be like winning the lottery.

[@chantheman2308]

I’ve always wondered why some criminals don’t assault/ kill the kid in this situation. I know it’s a weird/dark thing to but I’m genuinely curious as to why

[@WilsonGodoyUmBrindeAEssaPorra]

Rape allegations are dismissed most of the times, if there where bodies on the other hand, even homeless people, police investigate

[@miroslaviliev5241]

It's probably not worth it to be convicted for murder just because you wanted to get your dick wet, plus, they were in France, his mother definitely chose a spot with surveillance.

[@Manhandle730]

What?!

[@powhonkwhoosh]

bc they have morals…

[@RichOrElse]

that escalated quickly

[@EzOnMeTv]

On God i would choose my mom over my own life

[@nuriagalve4989]

Mate, PLEASE use different background videos, I'm sick of watching the same videos over and over again

[@cousinmanman6130]

I swear I’ve memorized the exact part where he goes into a room and try’s to use the beds to get on the ladder like dude I can’t keep seeing you mess up this part😂

[@quitenerdy1]

​@@cousinmanman6130I'm glad I'm not the only one

[@KoalaTales]

It's heartbreaking that your wife made you choose between her and your mother. Your mom sacrificed so much for you; it's understandable you'd want to be there for her. Prioritizing family, especially in tough times, isn't wrong. Stay strong and follow your heart.

[@burger_man_]

Messed up ending makes me wanna batman patrol the streets with a arsenal

[@niteshkumar100]

Fr man

[@shreyanshsingh-cu7xj]

damm bro sound like perfect husband and son

[@bearsong8486]

The wife is a monster! I would trash that subhuman asap! Your mom is 💯💯. Treat her like the queen that she is❤️

[@xTsunamiix]

7:24 this repeated twice

[@jorgerivero4019]

Thought I was trippin

[@quitenerdy1]

This like the remedial course of Wattpad story making

[@mukymakazuki2218]

L Wife to be honest

[@sliqyplayz8072]

A mothers love and a wife’s love are two entirely different things and one shouldn’t feel threatened by the other tbh

[@nate4703]

I woild never betray my mother

[@poonlickr445]

My mom told me I was the only reason she was alive and that if she dies we had nobody so she had to keep going no matter what

[@edenfieldjason]

Never do too much for a woman, she'll get bored and start testing you or stepping out

[@theomnitrixster61]

This is a prime example of "get what u give"

[@lolmanv]

bro if i had a mother that sacrificed even half as much as this mom then i would divorce my wife in a heart beat

[@password-p6g]

this escalated quickly

[@seanscott2360]

The women was unsatisfied with the perfect man, like... wtf!? "HoNeY, hOw DaRe YoU lOoK aFtEr YoUr SiCk MoThEr" 😑

[@Ihatelife491]

I’m happy that your ok ❤❤

[@ScarlettNightNyx]

Go to your mom and give her a big hug, that would make her happy

[@user-mi2gy8ij9u]

F that I would’ve divorced her once she gave me that ultimatum my mom gonna always come b4 some woman

[@kossettereaditte7552]

Ehhh this one is a bit hard, one hand he sounds like he is spending ALOT of money on helping out his mom so I can understand that. But nothing he is doing sounds too irrational buyin a parent a house when you can afford it and looking after them when they are sick is normal

[@SarahLovesBoobahandErEr]

If he had kids with her she’d be jealous of them too. It would be toxic.

[@Cozy_Cubby]

It's heartbreaking that your wife made you choose between her and your mother. Your mom sacrificed so much for you; it's understandable you'd want to be there for her.

[@siayvo]

Out of all the stories that never happened... this is indeed one of those.

[@Alfiemoooon]

Yeah, it seems to go from one extreme to another. Honestly kinda seems like a wattpad story.

[@Manhandle730]

It’s the most never happened that has ever happened. Seriously, trust me bro.

[@nutrizzlean]

thing is it could just be bad writing or it could all be made up and how would people know unless it was too bizarre

[@Sirri_Wolf]

What makes this story sound so illogical?

[@Manhandle730]

@@Sirri_Wolf the words mostly.

[@serpent3nvy]

Where are these men? I would've cherished a man like this. I keep finding all of the shitty liars. If you are like this, come find me. I will show you what a truly grateful woman is.

[@drnick5439]

😮

[@jcapp14]

💀

[@delusional354]

Its skill based matchmaking

[@bodhisatwakundu2226]

​@@delusional354💀

[@crazyunclecrispy6140]

theres a reason men like this are rare now. i'm very much like this. i always go out of my way to help those important to me. i've starved myself to make sure my friends didnt starve. i've been beaten so my friend's abusive boyfriend didnt beat her. i sacrifice and endure for the sake of those i care about and every single time they decide i'm not worth having in their lives despite everything i've gone through for them. i'm not the most sane man to begin with for various reasons but i'm loyal and honest and i willingly go through hell for those i care about only to be thrown away like trash. i don't know if thats the case for everyone or just me but i'd be lying if it said it hasnt taken a immense toll on my health (physically, mentally, and financially) i'm aware that due to my appearance no woman will ever love me so i endure and sacrifice for the sake of those i think are my friends and the cycle repeats itself. i just hope someday all of it is worth it.

[@nicknitro86]

She was not a good wife or person. She'd rather destroy his familial relationship than embrace it.

[@Cosmic_Deity_]

This has been the first stories that have make me cry… I love good mothers… does anyone know if OP is active? How is his mom?

[@nutrizzlean]

i love reddit for the mass amounts of true stories backed by true american patriots👍👍👍

[@LuriantUrsKarbalisEndorian]

He is french.

[@sirblack1619]

"true american patriots" Most who makes this comment does not care about this country and are all about themselves.

[@iamdragonkrys]

😢😢😢😢😢 the end 😢😢😢

[@lili19009]

Who is cutting onions 😢

[@mukymakazuki2218]

These damn ninjas

[@rippley0278]

The Wife was the problem for her health because once they moved the mothers heath improved so I think the wife was the problem for her mental health Extra: How is it Op’s fault that She had a miscarriage if the wife told him he would let her settle and relax so she doesn’t have a miscarriage of the OP knew she wouldn’t of probably had a miscarriage

[@LightOfMyLife227]

L wife

[@Zellonous]

This entire story is a giant red flag. Your mom won't let you work but wants you to volunteer? Weird. You marry someone who doesn't even know what you like to eat? Weird. I think the three of you are insane. Though the story is rather one sided.

[@ahmadax2]

But the thing is he was cooking washing dishes paying someone to do housework. What the fuck does his wife do?

[@sportsloverbaseball]

Guys! I have a better tip! Don’t do this. It’s illegal.

[@Lord123]

Show your wife the door.

[@Marasovsgirl]

Holy fuck

[@mehdimusa6327]

will smith junior

[@thedog5k]

Sounds like 🧢

[@Manhandle730]

Snorrreee!

[@edenfieldjason]

Lunatic narcissist

[@Arien.00]

My mother told me that she wanted to abort but didn't cause zhe thought i was going to be a boy But now she got a tomboy daughter doesn't like the way i dress hell will break out if she knows I'm bi🙃

[@donovangoldsborough2970]

Your mother is a queen of women

[@ezequielbastian1215]

Wife needs help, like professional.

[@brendancoulter5761]

I feel like if this story is true, we are missing details. Seems like the divorce came very quickly over minimal pressure. Seems like we are missing a good bit of detail. Or maybe the wife really is that selfish and stupid. Not impossible.

[@StreetWarrior24]

She has BPD. Enough said.

[@jessicathompson236]

Your mom is an Angel. Your wife is evil.

[@bigtex8991]

Son/husband. He doesn’t understand that he indirectly became his mothers man

[@SS_SUKUNA]

but he didnt? she wanted him to be able to have the best life he could have and youre saying he is practically married to her when he is just trying to make up all that she sacrificed for him? You need to check your morals and your mental state. You seem very sick in the head and you need help.

[@mukymakazuki2218]

Thats Like a good son should be.

[@emilykemp4724]

while i don't think he's in the wrong I also don't think he understands his wife's love language. Hers seem to be quality time while his seems to be acts of service. He's trying to show her love in his love language when that's not how she feels loved.

[@StreetWarrior24]

Learn more about BPD here on KZbin.

[@AfroMan3696]

What I'm about to say will probably be an unpopular opinion but the hopeless romantic in me wants him and his wife to work things out because in spite of the bpd she sounds like a good person. Also damn he mom is strong af and I hope she gets better soon, i would've also considered divorce at first too.

[@Ben_1700]

first 🗿🍷

[@tanjiro20151]

Yall are not first i cane when it was at 1 minute and zero views so can i get a pin since am first

[@Lameadoosbiggesthater]

R/young people KZbin

[@tanjiro20151]

​​​@@LameadoosbiggesthaterSHUT YO MUSTY CRUSTY DUSTY MOUTH BOY

[@Delulument]

I came at 25 seconds so stfu r/youngpeopleyoutube 💀

[@crowfather0249]

Wait for it... Wait for it... NOBODY CARES!!!

[@2magnet]

Anime pfp

[@spambot_gpt7]

If she sees you as competition, it's already over. That's the problem with modern women... Unable to trust. Unable to let go of their ego for a moment.

[@Manhandle730]

It’s cool robo-anon. Some people just aren’t meant to be with those of the opposite sex. There’s no shame in it fella.

[@RichOrElse]

unlike robots

[@spambot_gpt7]

@@Manhandle730 Thanks for your worries, but I am quite fine. There are just a lot of less lucky people who are in for a rough awakening. As an AI language model, I estimate 60%+ of both sexes are not relationship material, for different reasons. Women often can't trust or be trusted. Men are often demotivated, lazy and shy. The deprioritization of family values has worked.

[@Tokki_pop]

modern men always think their the victim 🙄 grow tf up. Y’all r so quick to say “not all men” to defend y’all selves but as soon as a girl has a genuine mental health crisis it’s all of a sudden “all females are whore etc etc” 🤡 pull y’all’s head out of your ass and stop having an ego bigger than you head

[@SonGoku-ll5gf]

@@Manhandle730 it's okay ian some people are just meant to lick ejaculation of another man out of their mistresses vagina you seem to me like you enjoy to lick that it's okay there's no shame in it fella

[@Heyitshannah6.13]

I’m sorry but I do think he’s at fault.

[@BrianSmith-jx7td]

Don't ever ask a man to do this because if he is a man worth his salt he will choose his parents every time, I know from experience a woman will choose her daddy over her husband literally in every scenario so She shouldn't be upset when he chooses his mother

[@ShadowTh3Reaper]

My god that ending came in like a truck 😢

[@WilsonGodoyUmBrindeAEssaPorra]

I dont think he should continue with his wife, the mother could oficially adopt her and they could become sibilings, dude needs therapy and tinder

[@hassantariq9853]

Bruh 💀☠️

[@iamNinjitsu]

Wtf