Why I Left My Colombian Wife and Moved To Poland

[@WheresWes]

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[@judgenotlestyebejudge]

By the Wes, this is what happens when you marry eight times out of ten, a woman that’s preferably older over the age of 30+ with all due respect. They’re set in their ways (aka won’t compromise or can be molded. Hence the term bride and groom), and they’re definitely not changing for anyone. Thank God, you didn’t have kids!

[@majaczek7353]

I didnt expect a 5k views video to say such an interesting story. have a good time here in Poland

[@anikp92]

Poland is a very safe country, I hope you enjoy your stay here 😊

[@robertnelson5755]

I'm a gringo living in the US and married 10 years to a Colombian woman. You did the right thing leaving Colombia and your church. Some churches can be quite controlling and you were right to walk away. At the same time, however, please don't walk away from Jesus. He alone has the words of eternal life.

[@Japan-qt9on]

It’s funny how people expect the church to somehow represent God. The church is full of sinful humans. God is perfect. It’s weird people think the church represents God. Jesus represents God.

[@angielskawyspa]

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry that you came across such bad people... It seems that they were predators who saw that you were a lost young man and lured you into a trap, showing you excessive feelings, so that they could later take advantage of you. You were really manipulated in a nasty way. It is a blessing that you have it behind you now! I hope that your stay in Poland will erase the sad moments in you! I am so glad that you like it in Poland!:) All the best!:)

[@rufsven8312]

have a good time here in Poland

[@mariuszbuawa6820]

This is quite a story! I wish you to recover here in Poland. You are more than welcome here 🙂

[@user-mx4sm2mx2z]

Hey Wes, You are probably the only youtuber falling into the "passport bro" category, that is respectful, genuine and not affraid to be vunerable. I really hope you'll find your happiness and balance in Poland- thank you for breaking stereotypes!

[@gregorriusadolphus2729]

Dang...you went THROUGH it! Llife lessons are hard but also very interesting when your're in the thick of things. Onwards and updwards!

[@TravelingEddie]

Wes it's all part of the ride. Hope you can see the silver lining in all the bad things that have happened and are to possibly come. Good luck bud.

[@omarshaaban907]

Hey Wes, good to see you always bounce back! You look great and with positive vibes

[@gsanand86]

My best advice to folks who are going to Colombia is to never consider having long term engagements with Colombians. That means, no marriage and definitely no business ventures. You will get burned hard.

[@evanmcclure67]

Not all Colombians are out to get you. There's good and bad everywhere.

[@woodyhayes7402]

@@evanmcclure67-A Colombian would sell own Mothers for a profit

[@stevenvaldezii7936]

This is true most Colombians do not have morals and will take advantage of you at the first opportunity I would say 90%

[@Deelove-kb9bs]

Beautiful women there visited There several times. I understand and see your point thx

[@thisguymartin]

I see your videos, and it really seems like you are lost and still searching. I would suggest starting to put down some roots and build stability. It always seems like you are running from something, but it's really something inside of you. I hope you find peace or whatever it is you're looking for. I think growing some roots somewhere and taking it easy for a couple of years would help you find someone and build an actual life. This doesn't mean you have to stop traveling, but think of it as establishing a headquarters.

[@tricieb.5921]

I agree

[@user-pm2ob7if2s]

Hopefully now your life will just get better and better. It's a rare thing for people in general to see good outcomes of bad situations and self reflect. Seem like a nice chap, all the best 👍

[@HealthyTravelsNow]

That's quite the story. part of the adventure travel creates. glad you came through.

[@mrbHanoi]

What a sad story. Horrible experience.

[@xdrazormon454]

I respect you for sharing us your vulnerability on KZbin. I’m glad you visited Latin America and lived there for a moment. Good that you settled down in Europe. I don’t blame you to leave Colombia. For my safety I’ll just tell you I’m in the country of Caldas and you being in Manizales. Even though Manizales is that safest city in Colombia it still has its cons

[@TomekSw]

O dear, what a story. Stay strong and I hope you will drop this god meme somewhere along the way. All the best!

[@Positively46]

A message to young guys who are finding love through rocky paths….love is recognized in the quiet times. You will be with your significant other and in a quiet moment feel…. Feel…hey you know this feels like contentment/partnership

[@Constellasian]

Wow. That message from your ex's father was disturbing. So much for following the teachings of "God", right? I swear, some religious people are downright hypocrites. It's amazing how fast you managed to get that divorce completed. I'm glad you got out of there.

[@zulikkowalski3547]

That probably wasn't your child

[@MillennialAbroad]

Here's my 2c for what it's worth: She didn't make unreasonable demands. In your video you state these problems: 1. She didn't want you going to bars/clubs 2. She didn't want you going to other churches 3. She didn't want you talking to other girls 4. She didn't want to leave her role in the Church to give you attention 5. Threats 6. Her and her family didn't want to learn other culture/language My objective take: 1. Who would want their spouse going to bars/clubs? 2. Church is an organization. Comparing it to the corporate world - if you were a leader in an organization would you want your spouse supporting the competitor? Appears to be a slap in the face. 3. Would you want your spouse talking/making friends with the opposite sex at the gym? 4. Is it fair to ask someone to give up their passion for someone else's neediness? 5. I get the threat thing. No need for that. Also, the intrusion isn't cool. 6. Unreasonable to expect this if you're a foreigner living in someone else's country. If you met her in the US it would make more sense. At the end of the day all this was told to you upfront. Perhaps you didn't take them seriously when they set expectations? The one thing that could play heavily in your favor would be her virginity. If she wasn't a virgin the strong religious values argument loses its weight. If she was then her positions carry more weight.

[@chinobonito30]

Still not sure what happened seems like problems are easy

[@RameshKumar-zw1ch]

Once Wes said “Being Catholic in Colombia doesn’t mean virgin before marriage “. This is just a day before his marriage. You should watch that video if it is available? It is very complicated story than we can handle if you are an Asian first generation parent in the west . Wes is a very honest person, never hides anything that’s the reason that I have been watching all his videos. Most of the Indian kids lies and pretends that they like their culture and customs. Actually they do this to get financial support for all their life from poor Asian parents who never enjoy their life in the west. They sacrifice all their life for their pretending kids and grandchildren. They believe they do this for higher cost for their children and grandchildren.

[@manuelcorrea2365]

So basically, points 1 to 3 go in her favor whereas points 4 to 6 go in his. There's another one he doesn't mention here but that he discussed in a previous video and it is that she didn't like him to smoke weed and to be honest, I agree with her on that one. What he said in his defense is that she used to spend most of her time at work or at church so he ended up bored at home and that's why he used to to smoke and play video games as he was restricted to go out too. I definitely feel that she prioritized her church over her marriage and she wasn't willing to give up things of her life style once she married but that same thing about not giving up parts of the lifestyle once they married also applies to him.

[@WheresWes]

nah it wasn't all told to me upfront. In the beginning it was about how much Jesus accepted me but as soon as I got married, now it's about how the church will control my life. Unreasonable expectations were placed on me when the same expectations didn't apply to other leaders or people that attended the church. It's the hypocrisy that I could not agree with.

[@Japan-qt9on]

@@WheresWesI don’t pretend to know what your church did. However , the idea that we are supposed to submit ourselves to God and the church is orthodox Christianity 101. Jesus did this right lol. Jesus lived poor- not rich. He was a servant- not a ruler. He got crucified - not living his best life. Nothing about Christ was about pursuing fun or pleasure. Again, I have no idea what your church did. But any real Christian will say that Gods will is #1. Jesus before the cross… not my will but yours be done. Essentially all of the Christian faith is about submitting your will to Gods to pursue the will of the Father. Obviously the death threat stuff is wrong and only you know what your wife and church did. But to say that the church or wife was asking you to change your actions is pretty basic and even wrong expected in many cases. As long as it’s for moral good.

[@cooledcannon]

Wow that's a crazy story!

[@mpld1979]

This is an awesome video, bro. You have experienced a lot of things and it can only make you stronger and wiser. God bless you.

[@kassimo2169]

A life full of adventures! Thanks for sharing bro

[@daveaway]

I lived in Medellin Colombia for 8 months in 2021. I could'nt wait to get out of that violent sh*t hole. Having traveled to many countries throughout the world I have never felt more unsafe than I did while in Medellin Colombia.

[@JacobJacobson88]

You obviously haven’t been 2 Detroit

[@user-dk3up2nl1m]

Wait....why did u feel that way? I spent 2 yrs in Colombia due to covid...and had the Greatest time of my life! Every night i had dates and drank every day!

[@anthonygarvia3147]

yeah i never felt safe in Colombia at all....not even just from criminals but from the government/cops too! if colombian women were ugly they'd get 0 tourists LOL

[@bradleyandrews4875]

The kind of music you listen to is diabolicallll

[@WheresWes]

LMAO

[@Yonomansushi]

Good luck you mate! I hope u will find your persone in Poland

[@WORLDPEACE2628]

Enjoy your life!

[@margplsr3120]

Greetings from Tricity in Poland

[@dagabond94]

Woooo, what a crazy ride! I feel I can relate to you, I used to make thoughtless decisions because I felt like I want it, I love this person or I had fun and just want it to continue. It might look like a crazy, spontaneous, fun life from the outside, but I can imagine that from the inside its really heavy... I feel somehow moved with your story and it seems to me that you're looking for love and acceptance in all these pathways you tried. Maybe it will sound super shallow but in the end to find peace it requires to find this love and acceptance in yourself. Then you will stop throwing yourself on people that will sense it and try to harm you. And potential happiness is anywhere, no matter the country (although Poland is at least a bit safer I guess hahahah).

[@Ayarte]

I'm really sorry for what happend in your live i also had a lot of bad expierience in those fields, my family from my mother side was strictly religious, in a toxic way, because of that i had to run away after my father died, because they would simply destroy me mentaly. I believe in God even after so many traumatic events in my life, now i just trying to do what my heart is telling me and not follow any rules made by church. But putting that a side! Welcome in Poland!! (I know i know is a little bit late now🙄), sadly so many things have change for bad lately and i hope you find your place here, but overall Poland is beautiful country, feel free to visit west side of the country as well, here where i live we have wine festival in september:p

[@thisisagtv]

😂🤦🏻‍♂️ “Before you say it’s my fault” man that’s such a Latin America thing us folks to need to stop that

[@Iloveyeshua707]

There’s two sides of the story what were you doing wrong? Marriage is between 2 people you had to be something wrong also don’t paint your ex wife as the only one who messed up

[@dillavery2696]

No, Colombian women are really that toxic. But with Intense love bombing in the beginning. You don't have to do anything wrong for a narcissist to discard you eventually.

[@WheresWes]

I explained it more thoroughly in the video I made just about the divorce. We both made mistakes for sure but only one of us crossed the line, so I stand by my decision. I don't think she is a bad person though, nor have I ever said she was on my channel.

[@ceeIoc]

So you’re saying if a couple breaks up both are always at fault? Nah.

[@Ronie022]

But she was a part of the cult so…

[@latinns1111]

Hoy Vi tu vídeo sobre Barranquilla de hace un año y me gustó que hablate bien de mi ciudad, seguido vi los vídeos sobre tu mala experiencia en tu matrimonio, me dsiwnto identificada me pasó algo similar y entiendo por lo que estás pasando, sigue mirando tu interior ya sanando tú corazón ❤️ no dejes de ser tú porque tal como eres Dios te ama y nadie te amará más, así que amate tú mismo, ponte primero, enriquece tu espíritu, ten amistades, disfruta de tu soledad y sé tu mejor compañía, no necesitas tratar de encajar la persona ideal si está de Dios llegará sin buscarla y sin saberlo. TE PIDO DISCULPAS A NOMBRE DE MI COMPATRIOTA NO SUPONVALORARTE Y TE LLEVASTE UNA MALA IMPRESIÓN DE LAS MUJERES DE COLOMBIA, ESPERO QUE SEAS FUERTE Y SUPERES LO QUE PASA Y SEGUIR ADELANTE PORQUE PARA ATRÁS ASUSTA

[@johnmcconkie3458]

Did you use a U.S. lawyer for your Divorce, or a COlombia lawyer?

[@WheresWes]

Colombian lawyer

[@johnmcconkie3458]

@@WheresWes How much should I expect to pay

[@dashabateman4409]

Props for being for vulnerable online. I could never

[@santo9032]

Daaamnn you’re already divorced???… 😬

[@Japan-qt9on]

Haha stuff happens.

[@samlyons3552]

A divorce without children is the best " vaccine " a person can have . As a viewer I feel like an unpaid therapist !

[@MagochiSan]

From all the Ortographical errors in the man's message you can tell they're only looking for money and they don't care.

[@nam2168nam]

I think your ex-wife is a coward. She wouldn't turn against someone belonging to her own community/church even for her husband out of fear of being criticised and to maintain her reputation. She was really submissive to her church as if she had no will power or own opinions and values outside of it. This church looks more like a sect too me than a regular/catholic church.

[@manuelcorrea2365]

Well, if you hear the threatening message that the church pastor sent to him in full, you can notice that the pastor refers to Wes' ex wife as his "daughter" and he also points out that he has all the passwords of her social networks so he can access to all of her information so you can imagine the level of conditioning she must have.

[@TheUnconventionalMan]

Sorry bro but your story doesn't add up. You def not a victim. As you choose everything. Better question to ask yourself is why did you? It will come down to you!

[@user-dk3up2nl1m]

...sorry to hear the rent story you mentioned....i learned Never tell anyone when your leaving!...why..because they will pull a fast one on you...women as well! As for girls saying their pregnant.....id be rich if i got paid when a girl in Colombia said that! Dont bother with that...they are Alwaysss with another local dude who dont want them and put the blame on the other guy!...the sucker

[@yamil555]

What's up, Wes, Always remember what happened to you. that's the reason i don't show girls in medellin that i have something with them in my videos. I had to delete like 3 videos with the same girl. She thould me erase my video, and i did.

[@victorvera4844]

To be honest with you man, as a Colombian myself and seeing how my fellow Colombians decided to shoot themselves in their feet by voting for Gustavo Petro; it is good that you left Colombia... if it was already insecure back then when you went there, you can imagine how insecure it is now with all the economical recession that this far left wing government has brought in with its bad decisions and the alliances it has made with Venezuela... Also, your ex wife didn't seem to have the character to leave the country so even if things had worked out between you two, I don't think she would have been willing to move countries with you even if Colombia is a sinking ship at the moment.

[@fallingflesh]

Bro WTF does Gustavo Petro have to do with anything? Colombia hasn't changed culturally in the past 2 years, it's the same it has been for the last 25 years. As for his marriage, religious people are the worst, always with their double standard... very common in Colombian society.

[@aeronewssciencellc3624]

Living in Colombia sounds horrible 🤣🤣 I’m staying my ass in the USA 🇺🇸

[@lexkwondo6836]

House? you guys rented?

[@JAYY_JAYY]

Consider yourself lucky and it a blessing Most of us men in United States were married for many years and then destroyed by the court system.

[@operatywnapsina]

I'm absolutely sorry for what happened to you, however, please don't give up on religion. Catholic Church is truly The Way. You've just met bad people...

[@mrnarason]

I dated a Brazilian chick, she was crazy. Woke feminist, promiscuous, drank, smoke and party all the time, into lgbt crowd, suggested open relationship multiple times, mad tattoo and piercings, very insecure, bad relationship with family and father, bad morals, overall a bad character. Now I'm dating a traditional Vietnamese girl, religious (I'm personally not very religious but doesn't bother me) , believes in marriage for life, family oriented, great cook, gentle and kind personality, a total one 180 from that Latina chick. I would not consider seriously dating a Latina and would not recommend another Asian brother to do so, unless she is 100% committed to you and your asian culture, family, as you are their Latino culture.

[@gsanand86]

Agreed, Latinas are awesome short term partners, but never to be considered for anything that requires long term commitment. There are way better women from other races for that.

[@leonsparta8238]

U couldn't see the signs because you was new to the culture, there's people like that everywhere. There's good n bad everywhere, u just chose badly, your fault

[@mrnarason]

@@leonsparta8238 Nope.

[@wj9155]

To start well in Poland, you have to shave off your mustache, because for young people it is quite embarrassing. Unless it is a full beard in the Latin style. Miłego pobytu w PL. Twoje video są cool!

[@ericbooya]

Great Vid. Thanks for sharing your story @whereswes

[@rnw4468]

Watching this video, makes me think of the Peruvian gf , also a nightmare. Be very careful to South American girls , don’t be numbed by their faces

[@craftspeed_fan]

"smoking weed" HELL YEAH

[@joannr3799]

Hey Wes so glad you explained some of things you went through in Colombia. I was wondering why you were bashing Colombia but now I understand you better. Give yourself time don’t rush into anything. Let your 💔 mend first so you can be happy in your next relationship😊. Wishing you the best I will be following along on your adventures.

[@-free_time]

But how your ex could change herself sooo hard and quick??

[@ExileOT]

Damn dude! You've been through it brother. I'm sorry all that happened to you. I've had tons of similar experiences travelling the world. I hope I run into you sometime and we can grab a drink or food. I'm from the States but I moved to Argentina to switch it up but now I'm on my way to Bangkok (not a sex tourist) for a potential job with this AI company. If you're ever in SE Asia holler at me!

[@adambamesberger]

Thanks for sharing your story!

[@akounamatata2251]

when God loves someone He puts him in some sort of trials That would enlighten his heart. That he gets more wisdom And start ditching out this life Life is around 70 years. Compared to the hereafter is infinity.. So A few years of trials is not that a big deal compared to infinity God give you 2 eyes And 2 trillions of neurons in your brain Before the creation of earth 18 billion years before that He saw every single emotion in ur heart He knows what s the best for u and for ur future He connected the dots That ur brain couldn't fathom how to connect Islam is a good religion also But people don't understand the deep meaning of the verses

[@vaakdemandante8772]

Yeah, seeking help in religion and religious groups/cults is such a bad decision - always. Even if it's an established religion and religious institution, it makes a person less able to be responsible for their lives, because there's this "god" entity who "has your back" and "decides fate", so you can't argue with it. Not to mention that at the end of the day institutionalized religion is always about money and power. The cults and fringe religious groups are of course the worst offenders. A person should be very weary of religious groups and the more fringe and less popular the group, the more vigilant one has to be.

[@sammydaman]

I'd say the Latin people are warmer towards people of other race than Europeans. Too bad ypubleft Colombia. Such a beautiful place.

[@dillavery2696]

I dated a Colombian too. Similar to a Bible Belt U.S. Southernor That warmth is all fake. Europeans are generally better people on the inside.

[@gsanand86]

In my experience, Colombians are only superficially nice, and once you get peak inside of them, you see lack of character and good values among other negative traits.

[@bamby3751]

@@dillavery2696 I feel sorry for guys like you who can not be with the woman of your race, culture, or country and are around the world tasting who is better only because you need to feel in your mother's womb again.

[@nelgster]

Great video, Wes! I was wondering if you saw David from Life With David when he was in Poland. If I'm not mistaken, I think you two are friends or acquaintances.

[@WheresWes]

Yup we met up I posted it on the community tab

[@nelgster]

@@WheresWes That's great! I just went and saw the photo.

[@RameshKumar-zw1ch]

I had the same question in my mind when I watch both of your videos in Poland.

[@TussinTim]

so raw and honest. thank you

[@LunaMiel186]

Wes, very nice heart-felt video where you opened up and cleansed your soul. You seem to be a genuinely good man, who has suffered some pain bcos of the circumstances you’ve found yourself in. Only my opinion, but speaking in general terms, Poland may not be the healing medicine you need right now. The people have been hardened by the former communist regime, and if they didn’t live through it, they were raised by parents who did. You may be more compatible with an Asian or Latin American girl bcos of their warmth that is inherent in their culture. This is not designed to take a cheap shot at the Polish people. They are good people, but bcos of their history they are not initially warm and you have to work very hard to gain a friend. Over to you!

[@magdawieckowska6053]

@LunaMiel186 communism fell over 30 years ago, times and people have changed. And I would say that the younger generation, Wes' generation, has no problems establishing relationships with foreigners. Besides, it is a very individual matter. Anyway, I hope that no matter where, Wes will finally find peace and love. That's what I wish for you Wes!

[@Matthew-gz4oh]

I have subscribed a long time but stopped watching until now. I always felt you're smart and talented but was quick to judge and lacked a since of maturity as I did at your age and many others as well. It seems as often the case when we go through a difficult time, as we all do, we come out broken or stronger. I am happy you took the latter. God Bless you and good luck on the re-launch as I reengage. Thank you!

[@dr.woozie7500]

The death threats sound insane. It's crazy how a community can turn on you because you are an outsider. Dealing with Latin family sounds like a pain in the ass if you girl isn't 100% on your side. I'm glad you are out of that situation Wes.

[@gsanand86]

Most of them are on the side of their families, and you will always be an outsider to them no matter how much money and resources you blow on them.

[@-free_time]

do you have children?

[@WheresWes]

no, thankfully.

[@weirdnomad8868]

This was such a good honest video. The only thing I think in the marriage you didn't understand what it meant to be part of a G12 Colombian church. Born again third world Christians are hard core, the church is your life and most of your time is spent with your church brothers and sisters. Maybe they didn't explain it to you properly the expectations. I still miss my church but I had to leave because I couldn't keep denying that I was gay to myself. Unless you were asking your wife for butt sex or something clearly immoral (like to stop going to church) your wife was supposed to submit to you, if she didn't then she was wrong. I hope you maintain your faith though Wes

[@InvestmentsRUs]

I've gained valuable insights from your stories and wish you all the best in your endeavors. You are an incredibly intelligent individual, though I believe having a supportive partner that you can trust and respected could further enrich your life. I started watching your videos long time ago and i have the same experiences here in the USA as yours; today, i am in a relationship with a Colombian woman, but as i see it she is the opposite than your ex; very respectful and very professional independent woman

[@sebastianquintana3248]

Go to Colombia ! Colombia is the best !

[@Liamcooper90]

Why would he go to that dangerous country back? He got already burnt there!

[@getonwithit.2847]

No it's not. Lol. There's only so much you can do. After 4 days you will be bored out of your mind

[@lenasvoray487]

That explains a lot...

[@curtishawkins717]

I’m moving to Europe in 3 weeks

[@jejudo3000]

Europe ia the best mate!

[@InvestmentsRUs]

Thanks!

[@monchichipower6334]

Someone got finessed Women are good actors

[@gsanand86]

They are the best in the business

[@monchichipower6334]

Your lucky you didn’t get deleted lol Columbia 😂

[@WheresWes]

Fr

[@sagepirotess6312]

Sorry i befriend many vietnamese girls over the past decade, married many off. Married one myself, built a house in Nha Trang.

[@JAYY_JAYY]

Is it true Vietnamese women are the best in the world ?

[@sagepirotess6312]

@@JAYY_JAYY as someone who has worked all over Asia, yea,l. Naturally beautiful yes, cosmic beauty korea or Japan may win. But Vietnam has mixed blood. So women have breast, not flat. And overall skinny.

[@WheresWes]

Yeah that was my observation too

[@professorprofessorson8795]

wow this is nuts, just come back to US listen to family, settle down get married and get stable job

[@I_Need_Travel-mw3st]

Horrible advice 😂 Why would he give up his freedom to go to an expensive country with high divorce rates?

[@grash4435]

What......A RUBISH .....best country in the world 😂😂😂😂 you can get bankrupt because you got ill......education on 17 place in rhe world ......no holidays guaranteed by government.......what a heven....

[@WorgenPack]

Ayyyyy go to 3city ,,trójmiasto'' and go on :D