My Wife Cheated On Me, And I Found Out After Her Abusive Ex Physically Assaulted Her, And He Was ...

[@RepellentJeff]

That idea the kid had about “both parents sitting on either side of him” was *_100% THE EXES IDEA._*

[@Nicho_Ldn]

S1: The sister is rightly villainised here. She’s regretful after the fact, because of the abuse, but was a cheerleader for the cheating and destructive behaviour. No discouragement, no cautions: she couldn’t have liked or respected the OP all that much.

[@UchuKejiMovan]

Everytime I hear this one I say I would've walked out of the hospital right after the Cop told me what happened

[@Tinkerbell-d3j]

Yeh especially if u believe the cop

[@catsncrows]

Op doesn't have to be understanding, he needs to dump this roller coaster and walk away. I hate to call people broken but she needed to do major repair work before getting into any relationship with op in the first place. I have walked away from situations even before I was cognizant of trauma damage. Never underestimate stockholm syndrome and trauma bonding. That's why she wanted to exit life, she felt trapped by the ex.

[@NoNo-xh7ru]

@@catsncrows the understanding thing to do would be to leave her. He’s enabling her by staying. She’s clearly a person that doesn’t respond to reason, only consequences and hell she clearly doesn’t even understand consequences all that well.

[@theexpertbc1175]

@@NoNo-xh7ru Easier said then done when theres a kid involved.

[@lifeischeesy]

Much easier said than done when a kid is involved. Especially if you’re the guy. Get prepared to be dragged through the mud, have whatever earnings you got be significantly depleted, and be ready to get gutted like a fish financially for the remainder of the kids childhood. It’s to much for most guys to start over with such a hideous disadvantage. Sometimes it’s less miserable to just stay with the betrayer and find other avenues of happiness.

[@erickaennis2738]

Story 1. It's time to explain to his son in a kid friendly way that his mom can't be around like he wants. Then set very firm boundaries with his ex.

[@lanrelara9481]

Story 1: I remember this one…why did she think it was a good idea to cheat on her supportive partner with her abusive ex?

[@Stessia_topaz]

For some reason people will always crawl back to their abusive partners even though it's not a good idea.

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

​@@Stessia_topazbecause for her the abusive partner was the one for her.

[@astrofan1993]

You'd be surprised just how manipulative abusive people are. They lull people into a false sense of security, claiming that they will change or have changed, and once their prey is caught in their snare again, they revert back to their abusive nature. It's a sad cycle, unfortunately.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Because Potatoes, that why

[@NotDevilman]

Women.

[@juanhaines7295]

I heard this one before. Hope everything is going well for op and his fiance. Or now wife.

[@UchuKejiMovan]

Yup this story was a pandemic favorite of mines

[@TaleToast]

It's such a heartbreaking situation, and I hope everything works out for the couple. Whatever happens, I hope they find happiness and healing

[@PoipoleEntertainment1987]

It’s still infuriating how the OP is somehow still in contact with the ex-SIL who convinced the now ex-wife to cheat on OP and disrespect him by covering up the affair, OP really shouldn’t let the sister in law near his son because she is a bad influence on him. I know the ex-wife is at fault for breaking her wedding vows and cheating, but the sister in law failed as a sister for trying to convince her sister to cheat on her non-abusive husband with her abusive ex

[@EllyzGoodwill]

Challenges in relationships are a normal part of life, but there’s always a path forward. My marriage encountered major difficulties, but with proper guidance, my wife and I managed to resolve our issues and deepen our connection. If you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate, solutions are always within reach. Keep hope alive; there are answers out there.

[@SERIKAmrabat]

I’m facing serious problems in my relationship and can’t stand the thought of losing her. I love and miss my partner greatly and am willing to do whatever it takes to have her back. Any advice or guidance you can provide would be deeply appreciated.

[@EllyzGoodwill]

Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@SERIKAmrabat]

I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that following this path will bring about positive outcomes for me too; I long for her deeply.

[@EllyzGoodwill]

You should..

[@ktmmatt7243]

My sister tells me she and my brother-in-law were close to divorcing when they were finalizing the house they live in now. Things worked out though.

[@CBNM1]

S1: i dont feel sorry for her.

[@WardenSpectreCommander]

Story2. Get a job ASAP OP. He is isolating you, controlling you, and financially abusing you. Get a job and get your own money,this unfortunately is going to get abusive soon. This is a classic case of "pay the cost to be the boss." I always recommend to any female family member of mine, dont ever be a SAHW/SAHM it's not worth it.

[@TaleToast]

I can't believe the twist with her abusive ex! The part where he assaulted her and the cops revealed she was pregnant really threw me off

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 2: He is financially, emotionally, verbally, and psychologically abusive! It is only a matter of time that he will be physically abusive!

[@Nicho_Ldn]

S2: The husband is controlling and odiously selfish, also a terrible father. Her closing statement of “I’ve done it before” is a little worrying. Suggests that she knows it’s an abusive relationship and has moved out previously only to return later. OP needs to leave him permanently, but I think the only way that stands a chance is by putting a lot of distance between them. Maybe she could move nearer to her sister?

[@aaronw7840]

I dont know🤔 SAHM that needs a baby sitter. what does she do all day? S2 sounds sus

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Leave him now! You are not safe!

[@MedusssssaChristo]

She wasn’t afraid to cheat, LOL just excuses, file for harassment

[@RandomTrinidadian]

And old story, but a goddie. The ex needs therapy, though i have no sympathy for her.

[@lisacartwright2402]

First story: my sister has been with her boytoy for a decade now and he uses her as a punching bag cause his jealousy takes the most of his personality. The family have disowned her caused she won't leave him, even after he nearly beat her blind she went crawling back to him not even 12 hours later. Both are drug addics and never held a job longer then a few months. They r now homeless and I still see them around but I ignore them.

[@erinchilds]

Why does she stay with him? She's even willing to sacrifice her sanity and a place to live for this man?

[@lisacartwright2402]

@erinchilds I guess. She was willing to even leave her three daughters behind to live on the streets with him. This one was about 8 years ago. Then just about a month ago was the final straw. Spent 20 years to get my brother and sister help. My brother is finally getting his life straightened out, but my sister met this shitstain about 10 years ago, and her life went down even further. U know the saying "scrapping the bottom of the barrel"? I told her she broke through the bottom of the barrel for this worthless human.

[@KenrithBrawn]

An oldie but a goodie.

[@MedusssssaChristo]

Get some balls… She doesn’t give a damn about you, she & her sister are disgusting let her ex take her ass back .

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

Day 120 of telling secretvoices to have a good day

[@patsypersaud]

Story 1, OP needs to make it so he's included in his Ex-wife's phobia of men

[@lyraflow9154]

The sisters are undateble