Get more positive feelings in your relationship! I ROCD I Relationship Anxiety I Avoidant Attachment

[@HotCocofro212]

Omg! Thank you for this! It hit home when you mentioned being single and sitting on the sofa alone, that is my safe space lol! I am trying to learn acceptance and confidence, anxiety is rough.

[@MyOCDCoach]

you're welcome!!

[@derkollege2723]

I healed from this shit and this is amazing… I thought this will Never end… U have to be patient with yourself and remind you, that u dont have to feel love all the time :)… It will get better… I promise… All my OCD are gone ^^

[@Drfarimahh]

I think this shit will never end right now!😭😭😭

[@derkollege2723]

I promise it will get better :)… U tried Meditation ?

[@MyOCDCoach]

You are right, I've recovered and it is possible with the right tools! Congrats!

[@angitapaul4198]

I feel nothing........I feel like I'm loosing interest for my partner.......and that's why I am feeling numb all the time.......and aslo anxious.... Did you feel the same way? Please reply 🙏

[@rishikajain8722]

​@angitapaul4198 I'm feeling like that currently. We're looking to be married and I want to run away.

[@wasp08]

I want to thank this coach. All along I couldn't label what I was going through until I found your channel. Today, was the first time in over 20 yrs I was able to relax my mind and sleep soundly just by using one of the methods she mentioned in one of her videos. I don't have the means to get the help but her videos are from God and have helped me today for the first time in such a long time. I just want to thank this coach.

[@ahmadabuhamad7900]

Man, this is the most useful video I've ever seen and is very informative! Thanks for the valuable information

[@MyOCDCoach]

You’re welcome!

[@JessicaJoy34]

I’ve just found this channel! I’m pretty stable on my OCD journey, but I’m currently in a dating relationship that is REALLY triggering ROCD. This is such a helpful reminder!

[@MyOCDCoach]

Glad I could help!

[@user-ct1ps4xu6k]

Really thankful of your video and especially you that this video gonna be my turn back to my happy relationship ... Love you ❤

[@ReshiramMage1992]

Please my ROCD symptoms are gone! I’m fully convinced I don’t want or even love my partner!!!… I am not doing good! I’ve never felt this for him before!! I had clarity moments a few times this month! He got me an adorable valentines card that I really love and held on to. This can’t be happening happening!? I constantly have theses feelings that I don’t love him! Now I believe it! I have no intrusive as much anymore! I just wanna be with him again like before please! I don’t wanna leave! But the I freaked out I’m with him for the wrong reasons….. I rather deal with the anxiety more than anymore!

[@MyOCDCoach]

It does not sound like your OCD and intrusive thoughts are fine at all. You are checking your feelings and seeking certainty about that, which is a symptom of ROCD. It will get worse without treatment. I can help you, click here. myocdcoach.teachable.com.

[@ReshiramMage1992]

@@MyOCDCoach then why do I truly believe I don’t love him and most of the time I don’t cry as much…

[@ReshiramMage1992]

Did I get too use to feeling this way!? I have no money to get help… I don’t know what to do anymore… even when I still show signs that I love him it’s like I am in denial about it… it’s like I have no interest in him anymore whatsoever…. It makes me very very sad… I don’t wanna be apart from him and then when I say that it’s like I am only staying bc I am use to him….

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@ReshiramMage1992 we all believe our own thoughts, to some extent. If you didn't, you'd just let it go. Those with OCD believe their intrusive thoughts, which is why they have OCD and the thoughts bother them. It's not about the thoughts themselves or whether we believe them, it's about how we react to negative or uncertain thoughts. Certain reactions will make it worse (compulsions), other reactions will make the feelings better and less thoughts in the future (ERP).

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@ReshiramMage1992 feel free to email me about cost effective treatment options - [e-mail]

[@amylynnkroening2238]

excellent

[@fleshvessels]

I have NEVER felt more seen 😂❤

[@MyOCDCoach]

I'm glad you're here:)

[@plantsfromheavenbotanicala4792]

Truly grateful for this information ❤

[@ReshiramMage1992]

I realize I still have all the signs of ROCD but I just don’t have the symptoms all strongly anymore..

[@MyOCDCoach]

This is common with a certain level of recovery.

[@tammyhuynh4063]

I’m crying right now watching this. I’m suffering with this anxiety and I’m always so scared that he’s with someone or talking to someone else. He has done things in the past and I’m scared and that he’s doing it right now. I’m so miserable and unhappy and don’t know what the first steps. What do I do to engage with the anxiety? I’m not understanding what to do to deal with my anxiety.

[@MyOCDCoach]

There are several techniques that I can teach you in my programs, but for now you have to realize that you can’t control your partner, but you also can’t continue to hyperfocus on this and worry about it. If your partner has broken your trust in the past, it would be normal to have this fear. If it’s a pattern, meaning it’s happened more than once, Then it would be very normal that your brain is telling you it may happen again. If it’s minor things that anxiety or OCD is blowing up, This can happen too. The key is, no matter what you decide to do, is to stop focusing on it or worrying about it. No one can control what their partner does, and we all have to accept that we don’t know what will happen in our relationship in the future. That being said, we can’t sit and worry about something that’s just going to make us sick. If you’re choosing to stay, choose to accept the uncertainty, but focus on the present moment, including the positives. We have to retrain our brain over and over and over again to gain positive mental health habits. If you need help with this, visit www.myocdcoach.com and join one of our programs that will help you learn more tools and support you through this.

[@jamielinecortez8770]

I am experiencing the same thing. I have seen many 2-3 therapist already but they wasnt able to help me. I am so lost and depressed and sometimes i feel like i cant handle it anymore.

[@MyOCDCoach]

you CAN handle it...you just need someone to help you who knows what you're going through, and what to do about it. Only 1% of therapists are trained to recognize and treat OCD - this is exactly why I started doing what I do! I've done it, you can too! www.videoask.com/fs2rgcnxg

[@laurabeyer7595]

Is it also Rocd if I really think and believe that I don’t love hin an i need to just Break up with him and that that is is going to be the best. Because on some days it just feels really right to to that and i get so stuck with this thought that my chest really hurts and Most of the days i don’t want to leave him because I want to grow with him and just love him.

[@MyOCDCoach]

All intrusive thoughts, feel real, otherwise they wouldn’t bother you. The longer you stay in the OCD cycle or OCD goes untreated, the more you may feel like you believe your thoughts.

[@Mrhaydentv]

god bless

[@NoleoTheDog]

Hi! I am from India. Kindly let me know if you provide sessions here.

[@MyOCDCoach]

Yes, you can visit my website www.myocdcoach.com

[@ВікторіяУрезченко]

Hello! I have an interesting case and I wonder if you ever met any couples like this. I have ocd for some years which is all about “i am not good enough for my partner, he will falll out of love with me, he will cheat”, while my new current boyfriend has the opposite ocd - he keeps doubting if I am good enough for him, what if this is wrong relationship, what if he will cheat on me”. Imagine my state when I found out all this and reacted from my trauma… Do you think there is any chance for such people to stay together? I am in CBT for a few months now and he just started

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@ВікторіяУрезченко absolutely you can! But CBT isn’t the best treatment for OCD. You both need to learn and use ERP.

[@ВікторіяУрезченко]

@ thank you! I will ask my therapist if the exercises we are doing are ERP based. Would you recommend any books please? We are starting one by Sheva Rajaee, I read it has ERP techniques included

[@chirimoya5967]

I just had to move to another city for my masters, and my anxiety shot up and I had an intrusive thought of ending my 8 year relationship and i just wanted to die, thank you for explaining this and helping

[@MyOCDCoach]

You’re welcome!!

[@Prachi_22_11]

Hey!! I reallu wanna talk don't know if I have Rocd I'm in a relationship since 1.5 year now we are living in a distance relationship. One of my friends is cheating on her bf and another one left her bf . One day an unwanted thought came "what if you leave him" or "what if you cheat him" and now these thoughts are vast its like a cloud i don't go out that i would look any random guy and fall for him and leave my bf . Now i feel numb no emotions no feelings . I'm so lost if i try to think positive my brain be like " this will not work i will no take this " if i do something nice for my bf it'll be like "you're toxic" . I don't know what to do

[@MyOCDCoach]

These definitely sound like intrusive thoughts, which do happen with ROCD, but I would need to talk to you further to determine if it is ROCD. That being said, my videos will help w/ OCD and anxiety or intrusive thoughts. You really need to get the proper help with this to ensure it gets better instead of worse. I'd love to help - www.MyOCDCoach.com/rocd

[@hanswurst9777]

What is the so called backdoor spice?

[@MyOCDCoach]

It’s a name given for an intrusive thought that happens when anxiety lowers.

[@hanswurst9777]

@@MyOCDCoach Tanks Four you answer. I suffer from ROCD for 13 years. I have a relationships but atm it is quite Hard. Thanks for your Support.

[@sandraneedham4873]

I really need help these thoughts are driving me mad I have been to my doctors and on a waiting list I've been waiting since January I just want them to stop.

[@MyOCDCoach]

I get it! I work with people all over the world and waiting is not ok. AND...many therapists don't know how to properly treat OCD properly (you can see how many people tell me this who've gotten better in our programs on my testimonials page on my website). Feel free to visit it here - www.MyOCDCoach.com - and click Work With Us to join one of our programs today! Can't wait to see your progress:)

[@BM-tv2kr]

What about if I’m angry at my partner for not meeting my needs and then i think about leaving him because it happend more than once and then get very anxious that i will have to leave him? Is that ra/rocd?

[@MyOCDCoach]

It depends on if there’s obsession and compulsions.

[@Aimee-b5e]

Does the rocd make ur brain say do i love him and i dont love cause i have constant butterfly's and hot flushes and i cry when my brain says i don't love him he's my 1st ever healthy relationship after a string of toxic abusive ones we have been with each other 2years this came on randomly woke up with this extreme anxiety I dont wanna lose him hes so amazing we have a great relationship great commutation i dont wanna leave him i love him so much hes my best friend i miss how i felt before this all came on 💔

[@MyOCDCoach]

Intrusive thoughts are thoughts (about anything) that are typically unwanted, cause discomfort. Often times they fear base, causing anxiety, and are symptom of OCD.

[@Aimee-b5e]

Thank you I’m on anxiety medication cause it got so bad with the feeling I wasn’t sleeping or eating I don’t wanna ruin my relationship I half to wait to diagnosed with it which can take years cause i can’t afford therapy or sessions with coaches

[@cecilselormamediku9560]

Please help, I wasn't certain about my feelings before dating. But when we started I got panic attacks from fear that I just started a relationship with someone I don't love. And with time I got the ocd it's been 5 months now. My feelings are inconsistent and I want to fall in love with her completely. Any tips?d​@@MyOCDCoach

[@phoenixautumn1505]

I literally felt exactly this and it was so scary! You aren’t alone!

[@karaklawson3293]

Danielle, what specific ERP techniques did you use for your ROCD?

[@MyOCDCoach]

Mostly imaginal exposures, some in vivo. Lots of acceptance!

[@karaklawson3293]

@@MyOCDCoach can you please be more specific? What type of imaginary exposures? What is vivo?

[@wyattmcmillan681]

@karaklawson3293 she explains a lot of this in other videos. Better than I could.

[@Nicole-yx8ms]

Such a good video Danielle! So the symptoms of ROCD, such as lack of attraction, and feelings, urges to leave, desires for an ex, etc. - can these all be experienced in really mild OCD, or even just plain anxiety? Can relationship anxiety cause those symptoms too?

[@MyOCDCoach]

They can, OCD is best categorized by obsessions and compulsions. There may be slight amounts of this with anxiety but the level of discomfort and compulsions is higher with OCD.

[@ismaelxjdjalat6931]

@@MyOCDCoach hey Out of nowhere I felt disconnected from my girlfriend with straight away a feeling of sad,anxiety that I don’t want to be with her anymore and then I thought I don’t love her anymore which is killing me, I want to be with her but most time am with her and she tries to huge or be nice I avoid it and get this anxious sad feeling that I don’t want it. But deep down I don’t want to leave her and want this to be over could you pleaseeeeeeee helppp 😢!!!!!!!!!!

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@ismaelxjdjalat6931 I definitely can. You can see the options here: www.MyOCDCoach.com

[@ismaelxjdjalat6931]

@@MyOCDCoach That would be so great! But how do I know this is not intuition? Because it’s not that a thought came into me telling me but more a feeling of sad and anxiety that don’t feel happy around her anymore

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@ismaelxjdjalat6931 feelings are always preceded by thoughts, whether you’re aware of them are not.

[@jessicatill4981]

Relationships jess till boyfriend family happy Thanks

[@Kojiiboy]

How will i be able to get those feelings back? I really do want them back and I've been trying to do what you said.

[@MyOCDCoach]

Understanding OCD and learning ERP properly takes more than just online research. It’s important that you’re working with a person or program designed to teach it to you effectively. Is it the link in the description if you want my help!

[@Kojiiboy]

@@MyOCDCoach Could i possibly mention this to my therapist? I have been questioning ocd for a long time and ever since this happened I've been wanting to discuss it with my therapist and hopefully get treatment of some sort.

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@Kojiiboy of course! There’s a chance your therapist to understand, and there’s a chance they won’t if they’re not familiar with ERP, and recovering from ocd, but it’s worth a shot.

[@natachamgreen]

Could intense stress (accumulated over time) and perfectionism develop into ROCD?

[@MyOCDCoach]

In my personal opinion, everybody who develops OCD has had anxiety there for a while. Scientifically we don’t know why we get OCD, but what I see is a lack of coping mechanisms for uncertainty, difficult situations and feelings, and avoidance over time that can lead to obsessions and compulsions. That is, until the person learns how to respond to these situations in a healthier way.

[@natachamgreen]

@@MyOCDCoach very helpful! Thank you!!

[@natachamgreen]

Is there a way to private message you, I just have some questions about 1:1 coaching with you.

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@natachamgreen if there’s just a couple of basic questions, you can email me at [e-mail]. Otherwise you can schedule an Initial Session to go over which program is right for you.

[@natachamgreen]

@@MyOCDCoachare there any coupons I can apply to the initial consultation?

[@saratonet3732]

please answer me, i have relationship ocd but often i just feel apathy, emotional flatness without thoughts. is this always part of relationship ocd? thanks

[@MyOCDCoach]

Yes, it can be, for different reasons.

[@aguy559]

Hopefully this works for me. 😢

[@خديجهنايفمصطفى]

Thank you 🙏

[@tanmengyang1318]

thank you so much

[@11Jennabenna]

Can I do much of anything as the partner of someone that is having these thoughts and has convinced themselves they can no longer be with you because they suddenly can’t feel love for you anymore? He is not currently receptive to receiving outside help unfortunately, due to bad experiences with therapy. I am wondering what, if anything, I can do as someone that loves and cares for him deeply and wants to see him happy.

[@MyOCDCoach]

I would love to help him! Would he consider a coach? Would he consider doing a 30 minute call with me to talk more? If not, he has to want to get help, unfortunately. You can watch this video as well: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pYCnkH6kpcioqdk

[@11Jennabenna]

@@MyOCDCoach I have tried to open up the conversation about receiving outside help, but he is not currently receptive to coaching or therapy. He had bad experiences in the past unfortunately, so he believes it wouldn’t work for him. He is open to talking with me to try to figure everything out, and he is curious about what’s going on with him… but I know that I would not be able to provide him with the level of help he requires. I’m just hoping to open the door for him and be encouraging any way I can.

[@11Jennabenna]

I could ask him if a short call with you would be something he is comfortable with, maybe since it’s not a typically therapy setting it wouldn’t be as daunting!

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@11Jennabenna I have excellent results with people and would be happy to help him!

[@MyOCDCoach]

@@11Jennabenna I'm always here!

[@christineswanson6633]

In this video you mentioned that a person could email you. I am considering either one on one coaching or the path and I’m not sure which is the right direction for me. I also saw in other videos that you offer a free initial consultation. When going to your website, I do not see the free consultation but a consultation for $45. How do I sign up for a free consultation? Thank you! By the way, thank you for these videos. They are super helpful.

[@MyOCDCoach]

You’re welcome! The discovery call is a great option to start if you have additional questions. It used to be free, but I had so many people not showing up that I started charging. You’ll find it worth the money, But you can also just opt to sign up for the one that best fits you. they are both really great options.

[@kevinrobertjarvis2636]

Sounds pretty diabolical to me

[@patfitz6098]

Which one is your email?

[@MyOCDCoach]

[e-mail]

[@jessicatill4981]

Relationship Relationships happy boyfriend single

[@cecilselormamediku9560]

​Please help, I wasn't certain about my feelings before dating. But when we started I got panic attacks from fear that I just started a relationship with someone I don't love. And with time I got the ocd it's been 5 months now. My feelings are inconsistent and I want to fall in love with her completely. Any tips?d​@MyOCDCoach

[@MyOCDCoach]

Quick tip - stop letting your "feelings" dictate your behavior. Fear or discomfort will always make things seem worse than they are. Get more tips and recovery help for ROCD at www.MyOCDCoach.com/rocd.