It's not only about *Passive Aggressive* but rather, the key is what you actually want from the relationship If you deem the relationship is no longer worth your time, to hell with courtesy, just fire away. If you still value the relationship - for whatever reason - then you gotta first ask yourself *WHAT POSITION* you want to put yourself into --- if you remain as a slave, then go ahead, be as passive aggressive as you wish. But if you want an equal partnership (or be the Boss) then you gotta speak up for yourself.
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Bukan Buta 請容我以"古歌"翻譯您的文(因感覺不錯..謝囉)~~ 這不僅與被動進取有關,而且關鍵是您從關係中真正想要的是什麼 如果您認為這段戀情不再值得您花時間,請禮貌地開玩笑,就開除。 如果您仍然出於某種原因而珍惜這段感情,那麼您首先要問自己自己想要處於什麼位置-如果您仍然是奴隸,那麼請繼續前進,如願以償地積極進取。 但是,如果您想要一個平等的伙伴關係(或成為老闆),那麼您就必須自己說出來。
Passive aggressive is the worst. It never solves anything but to get further stuck in a loop without an out. 我年輕時也常用PA來應對。中年後發現,心中的怒氣並不會消失。與其小動作或憋著,我盡量去找正面管道來排解負面的情緒。像工作與上班接觸的人是沒有完美的。我就想薪水和欣賞的上司同事,就不覺得有什麼大不了的。與家人相處也一樣,道不同的就客氣或減少接觸。人的個性要改變很難。也不是我做的到的。不能改別人或大環境那就自己改變自己的想法和應對。每天能走動開車平安出門回家,家人朋友沒事,就是開心感謝的一天。