What REALLY Changes After Marriage

[@healisha]

I think you should do more videos like this. This type of video helps people see the challenges in becoming a couple and how to take the time to work through it together. When you come from different backgrounds, there is a learning curve, some choose to work through and some choose to let it fester and ruin the partnership. I am so glad you two are trying to figure things out together. Keep up the good work❣️

[@Rbeautiful4]

I've been married over 20+ years and my husband has always done all the cooking. He actually prefer to do it and I do the yard work 🤣😂 because he hates it, so it's whatever works for you 🤷

[@lifewithomotolaben8673]

Renata funny you. My husband too has already done the cooking.

[@itumelengmatshele4166]

Love each other guys you are damn lovely pair, loving is serving each other

[@ashlee1984]

I KNEW she was gonna say “whoop!” Come on and bring it back full force! Let’s go Jack! 😂

[@MariniFacey]

Great discussion Naomi and Jack! Thanks for being transparent and processing openly, because your experiences can potentially become our wisdom in relationship.

[@nathancress8810]

Thank you for the insight on having your own personal space in the house you can go to!!!

[@kathy2842]

...so brutely honest: such a great start of growing old together.

[@Coolgranma]

Extraordinary Exceptional Couple, kudos.

[@topollomotjolopane2314]

Thank you guys for the video. "whoop is baaaaack. yeeeiiiiiii! common expectation is that once you get married you now have to do what other married couples do which doesn't really work to a certain extent because each couple is different. what works for them may not work for you and might potentially do more harm that good. the love to serve comes kinda natural, and for some people from how we are groomed. for example in some if not most African countries when getting married, as a lady that doing literally everything for your husband is an expectation since we are groomed like that: " cook for your husband, clean for and after your husband, make sure his clothes are clean and proper, and other lots of this and that" and for guys something along the lines of ;"set the rules, put your foot down, be the leader/head of your home, be firm, have the last word, make decisions and other stuff i may not know, which sets a thin line between being head of the house and a tyrant in a home. i'm literally rumbling, sorry! i think it will take some adjustments to get used to my husband cooking for me once i;m married, and sharing a space is one hustle ima get used to too.. love you you guys!

[@browngirl313]

Marriage is a beautiful thing god bless y'all's marriage.

[@DVines-sz4nn]

Marriage is a practice. A discipline. An intentional pursuit towards a goal. To be focused upon the other and to be consistently concerned with their welfare. It is a agreement between those involved. A customary practice that should provide a center from which to grow expand and express in a safe secure and supported environment. Marriage is a promise between persons to grow together. A business with investments that are secured by vows and partnership. It must be safe guarded. Some practices belong only to those directly involved as in sexual expression. To involve others into the sacred place ( marriage bed) is risky behaviour and dilutes the strength of union. Sensual expressions emotions and passions shared with those outside the promise destroy trust and the bond. Romance or love is not necessary towards a firm bond but helps and usually comes over time as in arranged marriages. Children are not necessary to a good marriage though most couples do expand their union in this way. Those intent to mature and improve individually so as to serve the other and stay focused upon their goals together do exist. We hear more of those who quit give up and give in on marriage so Alot of persons avoid it. It is a beautiful thing to be held in high regard praised and protected. Family springs from it! Ty! Bless you all!

[@suziedeschene5069]

Nao loved how you sneaked in that whooooo it's like only both us love it. Keep sneaking it in. Also, I love this video and how you both intentionally love each other. May this intensity never fade

[@Pamandfam]

Hi beautiful couple, you guys look so beautiful together, love your honesty ♥️♥️♥️

[@tb8363]

This is a great video and its great you touch on expectations of women. Id love to wait on my husband hand and foot, he is an amazing Man and Im so grateful to God for him but I too quickly realised that when youre juggling work and then kids ( I work part time now thank God... full time was killing me) you quickly realise that what your mum was able to do, perhaps not working and being a full time mum, is impossible for women in 2020 with the challenges we face. Some of us are in demanding jobs as well as trying to juggle marital duties and having babies, we need more help from men now than perhaps ever before so its great that you guys are finding the balance. Transitioning from being a singleton to sharing everything with someone else does first cause clashes, it does sometimes, and that is ok. You find your feet and you adjust together and that is ok. Self help books, couples therapy, individual therapy whatever u need to do get it done! Its bloody worth it in the end. We all need me time sometimes and thats ok too x I have my night a week off from being a wife and mum at the gym or with friends and it is needed I tell you! Well done for doing this, this is normal and takes time and its great you guys are sharing this with the world. We love Naomi and Jack ❤❤😘

[@dianemccloud5990]

Great vid guys, it is amazing how things slightly change when married....there should not be a tremendous change, just normal things....in the past when I dated a guy, I would not just picture the physical, but the mental, because physically a person will look how they look...time will most likely change that...I would picture some of the worst things that could happen to see if I could love him...if??? If he got paralyzed and I had to push him around, if he got severely burned, if he became impotent, if he found an addiction that was legal or illegal, and yes, if he committed infidelity....because when we stand and recite those vows so firm and lovingly....it means all those things...if I couldn't see myself doing this for this person I love....I might need to re-think....it's very important Jack and Naomi to share your experiences, because there are many that need help....and I'm in America, how can I get some of the lip balm??? Thank you for your vids....

[@lisafrance6019]

I love the positive with you two. Love u both

[@JoyAdebambo]

I love the Woo

[@Coolgranma]

Respect for you two,

[@shazj1842]

Impressive, you guys are really doing the work, props. Esther Perel has done some interesting writing on relationships that might be useful. On an unrelated matter, is Jack becoming a lean machine or is it just all hair? : ) Sorry, I'm super visual.

[@Uzochi97x]

i love you guys

[@NaomiandJack]

Awh love you too♥️♥️🥰

[@raymondf3670]

I will say this. The marriage need to work between the two people that are married that it ... l enjoyed this video

[@NaomiandJack]

Very true! It's easy to get swept by what others think, but just have to be tunnel visioned and focus on your partner, glad you enjoyed the video ♥️

[@anniespeller6833]

After listening to your conversation, I have one question: Did seek marriage counseling b4 marriage? If not, why? Some of the challenges or lack thereof could have been avoided and would have given you a foundation to work towards. Godspeed.

[@NaomiandJack]

We did marriage counseling, it was great! Our pastor was amazing. We are always learning new things about ourselves and eachother. I think relationships have to be consistently worked on, everything we have gone through we, had to go through, it will make us stronger in business, in parenthood and relationships with others. Do you believe there are any relationships without polar opinions ? Naomi x

[@alishadennis17]

Many couples for centuries married & worked out the challenges along the way like my great grand parents a interracial couple married in the very racist times where some folks went to their farm & home to protest their marriage & children's being born. They had 10 children. 7 girls j 3 boys. The stories of their journey in racist times are many. They stayed married until death. Most. bhaiof their daughters 1 being my grand mother the other w3omen my great aunt's were smart, hard workingb 8nvested in real estate bit by bit & rich & strong women. It's not the same for every marriage how they developed their marraige!! Mixed couples have special challenges & yet stay married the longest with black women & white men marriages!!! They need their own place soon too for more emotional space & privacy!!

[@teamoptimistic9440]

ASMR chair

[@nanoushkan6137]

🙈 not serving Naomi 🙄 looking after him as he does after you I guess.

[@ashlee1984]

The communists...I feel like I know what that means lol

[@JoyAdebambo]

can't wait for the lip balm