When a Narcissist Realizes They have Lost the Real One

[@narcabusecoach]

Break the Trauma Bond in 5 Steps: www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/breaking-the-trauma-bond

[@brisaberenicecamachoflores7035]

Hey Danish, I am recently discovering your channel and I wanted to make a question. I grew up in an abusive house, and the symptom I have is that my body trembles uncontrollably. I am watching all your videos searching for an explanation on this symptom but I haven't seen it, if you could speak about it I would be very grateful. Have a nice day 😊

[@sacredwaters9]

Thank you for these informative and very accurate lessons and knowledge of these demons. Glad to see you self-aware and healing, while your work heals US. Every single one of your videos describes my childhood and adulthood, it's empowering and sad at the same time. Thank you again!

[@shopperoo99]

They don't give a care. They don't care about love, authenticity, feeling, or attachment. They only care about $$$, validation, control, status, and power. Just move on.

[@stingray0033]

You nailed it. All the things my ex narc values.

[@lynnwilcox7072]

They are spiritually bankrupt

[@lynnwilcox7072]

Yes and there are many of them in politics

[@shannonwilliams8148]

Facts

[@imbalancedstatus8824]

bro, you nailed it... I went through t his.. we lasted less than 2 month...

[@petrag.4092]

The narc is so sick, they will never admit to losing you, it will always be your loss and your fault for a failed relationship. 🙏🙏🙏

[@ladyv5655]

My narc ex later insisted that he broke up with me, but I actually told him to take a hike and refused to see him.

[@MC-mk6gs]

EXACTLY 💯

[@khairunissahussaini1002]

So true

[@user-kf8uj9xe1f]

I also know i was the primairy supply. After 3 years of gaslighting, triangulation, silence treatments, devaluation, blameshifting and fycical abuse, I left him 6 months ago. After the break up he sended me about a hundred mails with confessions, promises of change, tears, telling me his whole world was collapsing and that I was the love of his life....I didn't respons. He is to late. Proud of myself that I am strong enough now en don't go back. I now know it was a big façade. Dear all: Be strong stay strong.❤

[@KatI422-r3m]

Good for you. Collapsing because their demons can no longer torture you. The demons turn on them.

[@susanfernandez5817]

I am so proud of you. Stay strong and never go back, never be persuaded by the promises, they are all lies. I too have left a narc 7 months ago and I have never felt better and the freedom is amazing.

[@user-kf8uj9xe1f]

@@susanfernandez5817 I know they are all lies. In the past 3 years I gave him several changes to show he could do different. He could'nt, he would'nt. He just kept on doing what he did, thinking I would never leave. The last 6 months were hard, but indead, I am enjoying my freedom and taking care of myself ❤️

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Yes I went through the same thing not emails but calls and text ignored I saw him in the street and he told me his daughter died I was heading to work and went my way.

[@sumanjeetraj4901]

May you shine more brighter and be safe from toxicity and fake relationships. I hope you get true genuine ones in your life . And always remember it was not your fault dear, it was them who didn't deserved you. SELF LOVE is crucial to everyone.

[@wendylou8963]

I don't think he will ever admit it but I'm sure he's already realized it

[@jackiepowell7513]

No they won t.

[@Michael_Arguello]

You know they’ve realized it when they beg for forgiveness and another chance. I kept all those begging emails. They make for good reading. LMAO

[@bradmcewen]

Ahhh reminds of the old journal. I don't recognize myself back then. They evolve your interpersonal awareness that's for sure.

[@Michael_Arguello]

@@bradmcewen I barely journaled, but kudos to anyone who has journaled this journey in its entirety. The narc ex kept a journal. I’m dying to read how honest she was with herself. Was she truly clueless or deliberate in her treatment of me. Her journal holds the answers. The one time I wrote in my journal I mentioned how good her memory was and how crappy mine was. LMAO It was her gaslighting. I BELIEVED she had a good memory because, why would someone lie about what you said or did And try to make you believe it?!? These runts of the divine litter can burn forever for all I care.

[@loyoladeleon6115]

IT. ALSO. MAKES. GREAT. WRITTING. MATERIAL 😅

[@carparthero]

great story! and you're right. especially if they can't easily replace you or can't at all.

[@mtc-j9i]

NEVER LET THEM BACK IN.

[@shelleyboggs]

The only way to take control from a narcissist is to get yourself from their domain first. You wont be able to figure out anything until and unless you are out of the hellish world. I will tell you one of my favourite stories. Once a King was too disturbed by everything that was happening around him. He felt as if no one was loyal to him and he was always afraid of his kingdom being attacked by perpetrators. He lost his sleep and his life had become hell. So he thought of taking a brief sojourn in the countryside. He passed through lush green fields and picturesque landscapes. The silent breeze that brushed through his hair filled his heart with joy. That is when he saw a farmer who was putting fence around his farmland. But his farmland had weeds all over and they hardly had any crops. This intrigued the King. He asked the farmer as to why was he putting a fence around the farm when the farm itself was covered with weeds. To this the farmer said that the farm was his own so he could get rid of the weeds whenever he liked. But he cant stop the stray dogs from running over his fields and destroying them. That is why he was putting the fence. To stop the stray dogs from venturing into the field. Once he was very assured about the security of his fields he can work on clearing the weeds and planting crops. On hearing this the King somewhat got the answer which he had been searching for. The human mind is also like the field. You cant control assholes from fiddling with your mind or saying bullshit. But you can definitely put a fence ( figuratively) so that these assholes cant influence you. And until and unless you dont put a fence you can never work on yourself. Once you have distanced yourself from toxic people then you can work on the healing process. Same is the case with narcs. Narcs are these stray dogs who suck your energy emotionally. They play mind games for fun because their mind wants melodrama. They hurt the very people who love them. So total isolation from these narcs is absolutely essential for the well being of your Mind. Once you are out of their mind games you can take decisions rationally. Narcs try to drain you emotionally. So everytime you respond to their low vibrations you tend to come to their level. But when you react confidently without panicking and without responding to their negative vibrations that is when you Win. When someone realises that you arent being influenced or being manipulated by their actions they will get tired of it. And after cutting them off completely from your lives you should work on your healing process. Work on clearing your mental clutter and keep yourself preoccupied. Read books and most importantly try to find your Purpose in life. When you find your Purpose you will be able to bear any pain in this World. Most importantly help others in need. When you find someone else who is stuck with a narc help them to get out of that. I feel this is the way to take control from a narcissist. P.S: I hardly find people around me who know about emotional abuse. But I think everyone should read and know about it. In today’s mean world you will find a lot of people who try to influence you or demoralise you using the sweetest of words. Its about identifying these covert manipulators and distancing yourself from them. I have immense respect for people who have survived narcissistic partners. They happen to be the most strongheaded and emotionally stable people you can come across. I learn a lot of things from them. Truly the broken will always be the most beautiful. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,

[@SylviaAmpah]

Lengthy educative piece there. U said it all. Thank you and God bless you, Amen.

[@nicolescott4564]

Thanks so much for sharing this info

[@DeepakSharma-rw6ws]

That was definitely worth a read. Thank you ❤

[@Loveusa8219]

The most true and beautiful comment. I had survived two types of a narcissist. I remember only being seven days away from them already did marvelous to my mental health. I discovered I was not depressed. l just had toxic individuals around me. Even the sun seemed to shine brighter when we kick them out. Life is beautiful and peaceful away from this vampires. Looking forward to help others escape from this monsters.

[@jbob1548]

THANK YOU

[@Confessions089]

Once you don't care anymore then you don't worry about being a real one. 💯

[@mhaughton11]

So true 100%

[@carparthero]

when you discard a narcissist, it's just capitalizing on an opportunity to better yourself. which is exactly what they did to you in their time with you. if you were a grade A supply, don't worry - the narcissist will eventually realize your worth when they can't find someone else like you. if the narcissist sees you doing better without them in your life, the narcissist will miss not being able to have destroyed you. if they cannot have you, they don't want someone else to, nor do they want you to enjoy your freedom. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[@stingray0033]

This is the scary part because they're always lurking and looking for an opportunity to destroy you. Evil 😢

[@a0a0--0ao0]

It's not me that the narcissist misses. He misses the version of himself through my rose tinted glasses. Now I understand why I felt like I can never quite fjgure out who he is. Because there wasn't one.

[@Yoyo-vg7tr]

I don't think They ever realize that they lost the real one ..They have no empathy

[@B6relyEditing0nyt]

yeah, I've dealt with these narcissist friends and they have no empathy for no anyone except themselves.

[@Lailat854]

I am primary source to a covert narcissist, and believe me he does not cry and beg. Silent treatment, and the “hoover” is a breakfast, or a sentence. But for two years I have been silent! Total silence…. I can see he can not believe it, collapse, then putting the iron mask on…. No reaction from me

[@SigmaFeminine]

hope you get out safely soon! ❤

[@Lailat854]

I am very safe, dear! It is amazing to have gained full control. My therapist, who is a spcialist on NPD, says my husband is from weak to mild covert vulnerable narc. Maybe that is way he is scared to hell that I will leave. My grown up kids have understood who he is, and he can no longer use them as flying monkeys. The feeling of freedom is indescribable! I am free dear❤️❤️❤️

[@Cornusnuttallii]

@@Lailat854 No, you aren't. What are you doing there? Why would you want control of a narcissist? Is that really the way you see the rest of your life? smh

[@Lailat854]

@@Cornusnuttallii we all have our reasons and choices to take dear. Thanks for being worried for me❤️ I live as I please - he has no control whatsoever. I have reached the level of I really don’t care. Or I care for all in my life - except him.

[@PatBlack-sj7tg]

I’m so glad I’m out of it..taken me ages to get away from the prison I was in…I will never put myself in that position again..I’m happy being single..my life is my own now….the hardest part was breaking the trauma bond..going no contact is the key…

[@pearlluber5849]

To me, it doesn't matter what the narc believes after he realizes what he has lost out. What matters is that it is over and that the ones who have survived this hell are healing and working to make themselves better and will not get fooled again.

[@kaitlyngault3987]

Sounds like you got infected.

[@princessofthemosthigh5528]

Did you know Danish that you are an angel? I am sooo greatfull that God led me to your channel!❤ God bless you Mighty!

[@daniell9129]

I also believe he is Heaven-sent!

[@amandamoe523]

I feel the same! Just found his videos last week! Very helpful!!!!

[@uddinminhaj1229]

They will never change..

[@Melissa_432]

My Father was the real one. When he died in 2021, my mother the narcissist, lost her mind and has now severe mental issues and was put in a geriatric psych ward. They put her on meds, but she’s insane and now can’t hide it from ppl outside the family. She now calls me, “that woman” …

[@dakoderii4221]

My grandmother died and my dad only had me. Now I kicked him out and he acted the same in other family member's house. He is a deflated balloon now. Budweiser is his only "friend" left. He enjoyed quite a few years of being able to call me and her up all day, everyday and suck the energy out of us. Now it's all dried up.

[@TallKulWmn1]

I’m sorry you grew up with that. Thankfully you’re healing ❤️‍🩹 🫶

[@mtc-j9i]

Wow! Lol I’m sure my mom refers to me the same way. I laugh, but the wounds from a narc mom last a lifetime.

[@seameology]

My mother, 79 died in a mysterious fire. Her narc, 85, completely deflated and went down hill fast. He died a year later.

[@sacredwaters9]

This makes so much sense. My mother who is an undiagnosed covert Narcissist used me for many years as her primary source of supply! Until through my therapy for many years and deep research, I have figured her out and have dried up her supply. 🙃 I am working hard toward going no contact now. Covert Narcissists love the emotional response of empathy [me] and seeing the anguish they dish out, the lies they tell, and the promises they never keep to keep you. It's disgusting. The irritating thing is that once they've figured out that you've figured them out the monster stays out 100%. My mother has finally broken that fake wall, she's 73 and she is horrible, not just to me but to strangers too! She's worse. Collapsing now because I'm different, healthier, bolder, and making changes🎉 and I'm happy about it. 😊she's evil. Demon infested. Thank you for this information.

[@BNyaB]

👍👍👍

[@monabarber2335]

They are filled with Demons , at 86 My Mumster is more Evil than ever ! I have finally gone no contact, and I’ve never been more happy 😊 They only get worse with Age 👺

[@Charmainecharmainecharmaine]

Demon infested for sure. So proud of you and happy, keep the good vibes going and much success to you!

[@JEANNEHUNTER-q5t]

For 25 years I was my narcissistic ex's source of stability and to some extent stature in life. He had been cheating all along, without my knowledge, until THE ONE, "the love of his life" came along. He wanted a divorce, which I granted after a lot of discussion, because I was that wife who never wanted to divorce and would endure almost anything. He completely collapsed into alcoholism and depression with the second wife, who eventually left him. It took almost ten years to stabilise with the third wife, whom he treats horribly. I thank God that I could get out of the marriage before he could do too much harm to my beautiful children.

[@etaokha4164]

They never appreciate good things. They keep going lower bottomless pit

[@User-vibes1523]

I know I'm the primary source of supply & he can't live without me! It’s really terrifying!!

[@bradmcewen]

Zero contact is the elixir to good health. It does indeed work in time. Then for sure you want no psrt of that crap ever again🤜🤛.

[@Manjeet_Ssc]

My narcissist gf is blocking me and unblocking me idk why I think she is not able to replace me and wants to come back bt due to their trait not able to accept what they did to me in early days

[@wendydaniel1110]

That's the gift we can give them in our absence. They can't run from themselves anymore, they have to now see their bad behavior and live with it.

[@HurttoHeal]

Thank you for this. He just called after 4 month's. He caught me off guard because I honestly never expected to ever hear from him after what he put me through! And now he seems to want me back but!!!! A leopard never changes its spots onlynots prey!!!

[@lisamariesmith3610]

They say they’re sorry once you’re gone so they can come back and finish their destruction of you!

[@parul2271]

Yes

[@R.E.STARS24]

Oh I bet it just drives them insane

[@shaludevi4460]

my narcissistic ex would keep in contact and occasionally meet up with his ex while we were dating. It was extremely upsetting when he thought that it's ok to behave that way...

[@emmarae4322]

That helped destroy my relationship with my ex. Total lies and deceit.

[@starfire8593]

Thank you. This makes so much sense now. I'm no longer in that kind of relationship and have left all my narcissists behind. They did lash out, they did try the apology and promise to change and I knew they would not. I'm blessed to be married ( my first and only marriage) to a man that truly appreciates the love I give him and loves me not for what he can get from me but for who I am. I have been contacted via email by one of the narcissists and he was so angry because I didn't call him and he has no idea where I am. I quickly blocked him so he couldn't contact me anymore. It is so empowering to finally completely cut ties with these people. I have a happy life full of love now. 😊 ❤

[@atk8302]

Happy for you ❤❤❤❤

[@christinemunger7054]

Thank you, Danish! I left my husband a year and a half ago and, after the initial vitriol, he's been trying to hoover me ever since. Which means that, in this year and half, he's crammed more niceness and agreeability in than in the course if our 25-year marriage! The other day he urged me to come back, saying he'd changed. I asked how he had changed and he, without irony, said he accepts me for who I am and won't try to parent me. Be still my heart!! 😅

[@GellaHumbug59]

How can you resist such an amazing level of self-awareness! 😳😬🙄

[@atarahaaron509]

They are f@@$ing delusional. The word salads, zero accountability, how they leech information constantly about themselves. 🤮 My narc met his m.f match. Learned his patterns easily n now he doesn't know what to do with me

[@atarahaaron509]

😂Haha......I'm going to use him now till I'm bored

[@christinemunger7054]

@@atarahaaron509 I'd rather be done with him but I'll play nice to keep him placated for the sake of the children. A mama bear protects her children at all costs.

[@Kimberley41658]

I divorced him after 43 years of nightmares and he won't leave me alone to this day!

[@shirlspark_stardust]

I pray for you

[@shirlspark_stardust]

I’m in the same situation it’s 5 years and I filed my papers cause of all he did terrible 😞

[@identification133]

Thank you Danish, I had not Contemplated reaction to this extent which is scary. But we all have to be strong to do justice to ourselves.

[@jengreen79]

It’s now been ten years no/extremely limited contact for me with my narcissistic ex. I spent almost 20 years of my life being controlled by him and he finally turned to physical abuse. When I left he went crazy, stalking me, harassing me, abusing me through the court system. It is still ongoing ten years later. He has since gotten married again to someone he was with while I was still married to him (unbeknownst to me at the time), and he has changed her into another version of me. She wears the same clothes he used to put me in, drives the same type of car (color and all) as I used to drive, if I cut my hair, she cut hers, or if I grow mine out, she grows hers out. It is sickening and creepy. I was told that once they find someone new that they leave you alone and move on to other things, but it’s almost like he’s found a way to hyperfocus on me still through her, rather than just leaving me be. It’s so so surreal.

[@aviricky6026]

Another thing a narc shows after their collapse mode has not worked for the empath is.. They can no longer keep a hold on their sudden found niceness and self awareness and go full canon blast opening up on their demon side. This is the time they would do everything worse possible and would just be a mad person and would scarily feed their deepest darkest desires openly from any source shamelessly and would scratch and claw her/his life choices in anger. That is what happens to many of them post collapse. Coz they know now that all those masks didn't do nothing for them and what you hear about them next is the truest form of themselves.

[@hotmess1015]

Sad, this was the case when I drew my boundaries and demanded an apology from my sister. She destroyed my life instead of being a sister, over an “I’m sorry.” Yeah, I stopped accepting those “help me I need my little sister” phone calls after that. Doesn’t matter if it’s family if shown over and over I don’t matter. Hope everyone heals!

[@andreaalbert858]

My husband has emotionally and mentally drained me. I'm finally getting my control back, he was begging me to stay in the marriage. I told him that he needs help, this is his 3rd marriage and I'm the fourth woman who has kids with him.

[@ladyv5655]

Not only will the narc make efforts to hold on to "The One", he/she will admit to the true motives for this and not see any thing wrong with using people.

[@cierrabennett206]

I was the primary (ugh!) for 10 years. I discarded him with a restraining order after he became violent and vengeful. He is now marrying the secondary supply he met prior to the discard. I am so glad to be off of that toxic roller coaster ride! Even though we have kids, I do not deal with him at all.

[@Shukra9665]

Yes I like how you said - the one(s) who truly love them (care for them). Instead they run after those who exploit them.

[@rashmigama2417]

Yes.I know why he wanted to reconcile in the marriage. I don't want anything to do with him anymore. It's better to be alone all your life than to be back with a narc.

[@amylouise5867]

In April my partner of 5 years did this ‘I’ll go to therapy I can’t lose you I love you I’ll change it etc’ I believed and gave him another go desperately wanted to believe he would try and change the behaviour, currently stonewalling silent treatment for 11 days now after again saying ‘leave get out broke up with me’ because he got so angry I asked him a question and to be honest with me. Even left the bed and went to stay at his sisters, I’m constantly confused in these times and can’t live like this. Every single time he’s stonewalled me he will deflect and blame me bar the one in April when he really thought he’d lost me. Who knows if he will come back this time or never talk to me again. It’s mental torture but I’m trying each day and I’ve not rang or chased this time 🙏🏻

[@SigmaFeminine]

Make a plan for yourself, let him think the next breakup is his idea, and escape ❤ Life is soooo great and freeee once you safely get out and move on i promise. You deserve a great life

[@estherdenisha6786]

LEAVE LEAVE and NEVER EVER LOOK BACK..I gave alot of chances they always backfiref on me until I chose to give myself a chance to peace..I left and i will never ever return to that kind of life

[@ValerieRoberts-uv7kf]

Get off the emotional narcissist rollercoaster. They never change for long. Give up the hope of ever having a loving, respectful relationship. They're bloodsucking leeches. Go no contact & don't look back. 🏃🏃🏃🏃

[@aparna1170]

Bottom line, we don’t want to accept that we were fooled. We keep justifying the pain we endured either by doing self-introspection or by trying to understand them

[@AditisMeliorism]

Survived a narcissistic abuse.... i can resonate! Thanks a lot for your informative and eye opening videos... keep going 🩵

[@stingray0033]

This is all so true. I got the "we should go to therapy" line when i had been asking for over a year. It wasn't until i was finished did i get that concession. I didn't fall for it but i feel enough to be pulled back into conversation and when i showed i didn't believe what was being said i paid for it greatly. I saw first hand the collapse and it's nothing anyone should stick around for. Cost me greatly.

[@eltonguapyassu]

Hello Danish... What a little world. I'm from Brazil, I don't know your birthplace but... This video basically describes the standard pattern of my society.

[@R.Islam28]

Narcissist hates change, they convinced themselves people who loves them will never want them to change the way they are!!😅😅 when life itself comes with changes.

[@margaretschultz6209]

I'm not sure mine is a narcissist but he had always hated my conversion to Catholicism. I have since left him for reasons unrelated to that, and he recently emailed me that he now wants us to get remarried by a priest. I ignored him

[@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw]

My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. I recently got my Mojo back. I have blocked 🚫 her from my cellphone and other media apps. Months ago. Giving her the Silence treatment. My X will never find another understanding, supportive and passionate man like me. I leveled up and doing well. My X is wasting her time if she thinks of hovering on a full moon.

[@valiizajames925]

I was his wife but not his primary source of supply! So he lied to me, betrayed me and diacarded me!

[@michellehart3441]

I just wanted to say thank you for helping me. Your videos have really helped me through what I call a "mental breakdown" 3 years ago when I finally left my narcissistic husband of 27 years. It was the scariest thing I've ever done, but for your videos, I didn't "go crazy". Apparently I have a really bad "picker" as all my serious relationships were with narcissistic men. I have been and still am in serious therapy sessions and watching your show have helped me immensely and I want to let you know how much you are appreciated by me!😊

[@michellehart3441]

@ZiptiesAndButterflies my stepfather. I was estranged from my dad growing up, unfortunately. I'm sure if he raised me, my life would be very different. He is not at all like my step.

[@Charmainecharmainecharmaine]

Did you have a narc father? I did and realizing at 36 this is why my life is the way it is. Have never been married and have no kids

[@michellehart3441]

@@Charmainecharmainecharmaine hi, my stepfather was the narcissist and he raised me. I was estranged from my father growing up. I am now living with my father and my life is completely different! It's so "zen" and at first, it was so unfamiliar, it was scary and I didn't know how to act or what to do! I was really sick in the first year as well after I left my husband and I believe it's because I've been "on edge" my whole life that my body didn't know what to do either! 😆 Luckily, my sense of humor has prevailed and I have my "sparkle" back now. It's been three years and I'm still healing every day and I'm truly happy to be spending my time with my dad now. 🥰

[@michellehart3441]

@ZiptiesAndButterflies thank you! Yes, I am finally realizing this slowly, but surely healing from it and I am "sparkly" again!😄

[@EduardoAviles-i5o]

Danish, I got tired of doing that trying to fix everything and I end up with the divorce and I lost everything two houses all the money and everything almost everything I own

[@shreyachandhok181]

Your life is saved! You gonna earn it all again with a happy healthy mind🎉

[@ValerieRoberts-uv7kf]

Don't forget you have your peace ✌️

[@EduardoAviles-i5o]

@@ValerieRoberts-uv7kf thank you Valerie for caring

[@margrettahawkins2749]

🤗Hang in there. I've been there. You may struggle for a while. But you will finally find your true self and learn to love the strong person you've become. You will be something the narcissist can't understand- A REAL HUMAN BEING

[@stingray0033]

I'm in this now and praying for the best but the peace I have experienced since he's been gone is unmatched. Once you understand where you are and where you could have been had you stayed -you can truly appreciate the choice you made. They even make you sick from all of the stress. You are going to be ok.

[@irinakushnir8338]

I'm glad that just few days ago I denied that offer, this narcissistic declared he that he believes in true relationship over his arrange marriage, trying to hold on to me. I could see all that and distance myself.

[@hajji1509]

Brilliant as always Danish. A fascinating look at narcissistic collapse. İ am pretty sure i have been the primary supply for my ex. Even more than a year after breaking up, i was still allowing contact. İ finally broke all the cords and went completely no contact. İ expect he's panicking now as he realises im just not there any more, even to listen to him. He needed that. But he's still young, has all the charm and good looks so he'll find another innocent victim.

[@davidalanbinder4238]

Sam Vaknin, author and professor of psychology in an email: Sent: Sunday, 10 March 2024 12:09 PM “Just finished reading your magisterial book. [MIND GAMES The Dual Facets of Manipulation and Dark Psychology] The most thorough survey of Machiavellianism I have ever come across. Congratulations. It is awe-inspiring and seamlessly combines erudition with practical advice. Take care there! Sam Vaknin, Ph.D.”

[@Lee_haider]

Absolutely right 💯 same things happened to me, but i want to ask a question Danish! How do you manage such a narcissist family? How did you improve your physical and mental health? Kindly guide us…. Thanks ❤ for informative videos Which motivate us a lot…..💕

[@katherineraquelle1930]

It feels the world has gotten more narcissistic since 2020 not as if I’ve even been through enough..

[@KatI422-r3m]

I think people are getting exposed for what they really are.

[@thegardinerfamilycreative1156]

Thank you so much for this powerful advice, I was in a long term relationship with a narcissist,.and bow I am on my healing journey I am realizing that my Mother was also one,I have moved away and will not let him back, and will tell him once i receive the rest off my belongings, by text message,that if he comes too near to me and my house I will have a restauraning order put out for his arrest!..

[@avicennitegh1377]

My god! I'm right there at 1.50 - Danish you are changing the world in a most destructive area, by showing us the dynamic and warning against it.

[@cupidinthecage]

Thnx for making these videos I’m learning so much more what I lived for 20 years 😢

[@victoriacook8536]

It's so hard to let go completely. It's been 8 years since I caught him with another, 1 year no contact. I still think of him almost daily. The cognitive dissonance I go through is crazy making

[@KatI422-r3m]

Get some therapy with someone who who understands Narcissistic abuse. That can help break the trauma bond.

[@aprilj2399]

Oh my! I’ve been separated from my narcissistic husband for a month now. I broke the no contact rule last week when he text me about some nail that came for me. We ended up talking and he is moving forward with the things I tried convincing him to do for including going to church before spiritual uplift. For a second I thought he was finally valuing my contribution in believing in him in lieu of thinking I was rejecting him. I began to remember some of these teachings…he is collapsing and reached out truly unnecessarily the mail wasn’t that complicated. He wanted me to know these things. But my ego took pleasure in it and I wanted to reiterate MY contribution of cheerleading NOT his new low vibration secondary supply. Of course I didn’t mention the supply to him but clearly I still need healing and should be happy he’s out of my life.

[@aparna1170]

When I didn’t know anything about narcissism, I used to think to myself that something was fundamentally wrong with the relationship

[@AaBb-wf8ri]

It is mentioned the secondary source is not as valuable. I would put it this way, the secondary source IS less valuable but only to the narcissist so once you move on from them that real feeling of being someone's second choice will start to leave too. Very good video overall though it further adds validity to the fool me once not twice lesson.

[@kirkstewart-vf6hg]

Mine said infront of multiple friends of ours . You just lost a damb good woman! Then went on to have dozens of boyfriends and live ins that none ever lasted more than a year or two! I was trauma bonded for 30 years to this monster.

[@sofiaalonzo807]

This is so true . Thank you for explaining it very well.

[@rijke845]

Your work is so important and you convey everything so well spoken and accurate. Giving everything a name and desribing it so accurately is helping a lot. Thank you for your work and your seriousness with this topic!

[@mekylieme]

I'm noticing the depression and not eating already....sheesh. I full-welll know he's still talking badly about me behind my back and telling everyone my business. Thank you so much! Lots to think on!

[@ValerieRoberts-uv7kf]

Yep, that's what they do. If the people he's talking to turn against you, they're not your friends. Be strong & do what you must to change your life ❤️❤️

[@apoorvabharadwaj7162]

Yes it is so true....I am exactly going through this .Thank u so much for guiding us or discussing this

[@Lightgoddess444]

Thank you all so much I really needed this

[@raidenewalden4354]

I’m the main supply , he said he invested a lot . Like planting trees that he likes .

[@SureWhatever19]

I am definitely the primary. Unfortunately for him, I already know the game he's playing and it's not going to happen. Lol

[@mollyg8459]

Love is blind! 30 years with my narcissistic husband, our last separation he had many dating apps while I healed. We got back together, he ghosted his gf. God please protect me from this parasite! 🙏

[@milliehummer4713]

I would add, that if your narcissist leaves you & tells you if it doesn’t work out with the girlfriend they will be back & you don’t take them back it will make them collapse into rage. I was in that position & would not agree to this after 30 years of being loyal, taking every kind of abuse I was done. Going completely no contact reinforces this. I am totally free!

[@AndeThompson-ex6sv]

I wish, that I would have known what a narcissist was. Wasted 32 years, primarily in religious bondage.

[@Kimberley41658]

I hear you. I wasted 43 years. I pray we get out of these nightmares.

[@aparna1170]

They are focused on their needs. And they want people who will serve their goals

[@ladyvirgo013]

My soon X husband did leave for his coworker, shes now his main flying monkey although hes dragging out HIS divorce from me. Such twisted beings

[@Heretic0451]

I'm the primary and the ONLY supply for my ageing narc grandparents so I feel sorry for them because when I'm gone they will have no one whatsoever; looks like the end of the road for them.

[@rde4017]

If my narc ex POS is anything to go by they completely collapse.

[@jamesbilclough9728]

Good video and insightful. Never let the narc back in 👍🏻

[@daniell9129]

Danish, your spirit is sent from Heaven.

[@biagnilam-ang1290]

For my experience being disgarded and the moment that my intelectual capacity comes in end i pray solemly and submmit my self to him to enlighlhten my capacity to think and guide me and for instance an invisible energy hug my personality submmit to him the power of forgiveness is important

[@tacheair]

Congrats and thank you for your work and for helping freely people on the net.

[@LynEnrique]

I am divorcing my narcissistic husband for 17 years but he doesnt know yet...

[@yolindeparfitt9706]

Go girl!

[@youtubeaccountserio2633]

I tried for 4 months talking to one… it was hell on earth, 17 years? Crazy

[@claudpirros1321]

This video was amazing you broke it down so well wonderful omg Ty

[@AditiKatiyar-f8t]

He knows that I love him a lot,then too he treats me very badly ,he don't care if I leave him,even he doesn't want to listen my voice

[@kadumpabin6188]

this is what I have done to the girl I loved so much...... but the reason is that she wasn, t even replying to my messages and was giving attention t another man. hope you aren, t behaving like her😊.if not feel free to kick him out for the good deed

[@AditiKatiyar-f8t]

@@kadumpabin6188 he left me, because I was always available for him,even he used to ignore me n my texts all the time

[@pamela9148]

I was NEVER my 62 y/o's narcissistic husband's primary source of supply. It was his beautiful, out spoken, 21 y/o daughter to the point that it was seemed like an inappropriate relationship between them. She called herself "the golden child". My husband triangulated our marriage with her. He would take her out on the town to discuss our issues with her, even though he denied it. This happened our entire relationship/marriage. Pardon me if I didnt remember exchanging my wedding vowels with him and his daughter. I finally had enough and filed for divorce. As far as i was concerned, he betrayed my privacy, trust and had no respect for me at all. I should have trusted my instincts from the beginning. Our divorce is pending and of course, he is being uncooperative , even though he's made it clear he doesn't want me. He thinks he's in control, but i hate to break this to him, God is control. On the path to healing with God's help.

[@yuu_miran]

I think my narc fathers primary supply was my grandmother, his mother, after she died he died in a year as well.

[@khairunissahussaini1002]

I can relate to this 100%.

[@nicholecornes1915]

I don't care about him anymore at all anymore

[@anithag161]

Thank you Angel Danish❤

[@deborahhawkins4862]

I love your episodes! My situation is with my adult son who has put me in fear for years, threatened, manipulated and controlled my mind. Can you do some episodes on grown children

[@EricPollarrd]

Send all these narcissists to Sadhguru 🙏🏼

[@parvathygirija]

I am afraid Sadguru will be driven nuts. Narcissist is a demon in human form.

[@DaleWillemsteyn1983]

I wasnt the primary source of supply, he had one for 30+ years whom he calls "his queen". Now he is working his @ss off (he retired from his industry seemingly) because he is bent on marrying her. All the best is all i can say for all his victims and to be victims sake.

[@ERROR-oh2wm]

😂 SO on point when you said they recommend couples therapy. Lol I laughed in his face, and then apologized of course. He would never commit to that even if it was his idea lol. Saying he will miss work to go because it's that important to him lmao yeah riiight.

[@sahajjeewanbydrlata]

True, fully agree with this

[@rowlanmuhadia2397]

My ex,still begs for forgiveness,he has tried all means even playing the victim. He aint fooling me again.

[@fatimaahmed445]

Thank you ❤so much

[@mtc-j9i]

Woooooooo!!!! 1:35 sounds too familiar. What a nightmare.

[@flowerchild89]

thanks Danish 😊😊😊 greetings from ILLINOIS 🇺🇸✌️😁

[@mercedesmoreno3607]

Mine had one lined up. 😎.

[@rinisusilowati848]

yes ,that's true...happen to me.he collapes....

[@SS-zy5dc]

This is exactly what a narcissist does to us