YOUR SILENCE DOES THE SPEAKING FOR YOU

[@meredithyoung9200]

Thank you Andrew! This has saved my life!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..💜😌💜

[@meredithyoung9200]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone people don’t talk about this stuff. So I put all the guilt and shame from these people on myself. Got so bad I was suicidal. Now I’m better than ever!

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

When I went grocery shopping, I saw my ex friend(narc) working at a register. I was pleasantly surprised when I didn’t feel anxious or angry or fearful. I felt indifferent. I call that progress. When I checked out I went to another register. I walked by her and said nothing. She didn’t say anything to me. This is the best conversation we ever had. 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯💪🙌

[@marshawilliams7115]

I struggle with anger...

[@donnahalsted7718]

Yahoo Nikki! You go girl!

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

@@donnahalsted7718 Thanks Donna.

[@omvendtslev]

...best conversation we ever had...muhahaha...see THAT is humour!!!...You are strong!!

[@carlamoore9316]

Thank God for the internet! Back in the 70's people stayed in these relationships because they never heard of narcissist abuse. Now that we know better, we do better!

[@marybarton5651]

"Actions speak louder than words." Silence is actually saying "NO" to the narcissists, and as Andrew says, "...saying YES to yourself. " 😊

[@raYrefiedAire]

I don't think even he realizes how his little mottos help ALL of us, it rings like a 🔔 in your head when needed and that reinforces & flashes to the forefront of your memory.... How does he do it 🙌🤔

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪😉😊

[@marybarton5651]

@@raYrefiedAire how does he do it? Because he has been through it, my friend. Stay strong 💪 😊

[@catalinafirefly4685]

Bruises on my chest from the finger pushing. Circling like a caged animal. Smile like a demon.

[@chazbickel4518]

😊

[@Andypandieful]

Ruminating is the hardest part to overcome. When they show you who they are.. believe them. I say that daily to myself. How that relationship ended speaks volumes. The ending is the truth. The beginning was love bombing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@malibu90265]

My silence was the final word. Powerful, empowering, effective. 🦋🦋

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏💯🙌

[@nicolep2151]

That's what I did to my sister. Just walk away from it all and I'm okay with it. Life is too short for misery.

[@malibu90265]

@@nicolep2151 Hope that you are flourishing, Nicole. On the flip side, it is painful. But, its the only way. Be well.

[@nicolep2151]

@@malibu90265 I've gotten past the painful part.....yes, flourishing and moving on. It's been years since it all happened, maybe 10 yrs ago.

[@margomcguire7167]

A Phoenix is such a good metaphor -- rising from the ashes and spreading our wings to soar.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏😌

[@katysmith-n2y]

Another winner from Andrew! There is no other way! Learning how to grey rock makes you see how much of a game YOU 🧡 really are to them. Please have a beautiful day and be strong💥

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🪨🙌😌🤫

[@rinamarquis-phelps449]

It’s like you are holding a mirror up to my 25 year marriage with a narcissist. After finally learning what I was dealing with, I filed for divorce (much to his surprise). It will become final this week. You are 100% SPOT ON. Educating one’s self listening to channels like yours (which is AMAZING ❤️) and taking the High Road (not calling them out) and maintaining silence are THE BEST WEAPONS against the narcissist. Thanks So Much For Sharing Your Experience and Knowledge with All of Us. Your videos are like a warm blanket.🤗

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..🙏💜💯🙌

[@skkkoury6156]

Trauma bonding is devastating. So hard to break. Im working so hard on this. So many times I want to send that text. I know I can't... God give me strength...

[@julieann777]

Yes, God will deliver you and give you strength. He is our Healer. He will restore you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😌

[@madelinesabatello1845]

What is a trauma bomb??? I'm sure it's being done to me!

[@ladyvirgo013]

I'm in the same situation after being married for 12 years

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

You can donit! Your a good person

[@marieeakin8534]

SILENCE IS GOLDEN!!! The old me would have thought we could talk it out... I'm wise to the game now...I will not engage....I will not cast my pearls before swine! 🎀😘

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤫😉😊

[@Meii652]

Everytime I wanna write him I watch your videos and then I stay strong!!! tysm!!! 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💪💯🙌💯

[@AlwaysHope2019]

silence is where I find my peace

[@randstegall9658]

Silence! Thank you Andrew for confirming my path.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🤫🤫

[@billyrayvalentine7972]

I have been staying silent. Once I realized that everything is manipulation and lies I cannot unsee it. So I just quietly prepare for my new life. No use angering the psycho since it will only bring danger .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😉

[@rubyjet9513]

I send a lot of L❤️VE to all the beautiful and noble empaths in this room (I believe they are all empaths).

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

❤️😌

[@margaretrussell7202]

Much love to you too Ruby ❤️🤗❤️🙌🙏

[@denieseransom2380]

It’s funny how the many previous relationships of the narcissist are always ‘unstable’ and need counselling, according to the toxic one. It’s funny how we all go back to our normal calm and rational behaviour once they have gone from your life 🤔

[@sunnyflower1979]

I never knew how powerful silence was until I started watching your videos. I am forever grateful. I could never reason, prove or explain myself to them. I simply stopped talking. I was attacked even more at first but I endured it and started to notice their fire dwindling out. It was a quiet battle but I walked away victorious!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤫😉😊

[@janetroberts5140]

Congratulations 🎊, it's great to be narc-free! I went through two men , very narcissistic!!!! Never going back to any of that treatment again.

[@sunnyflower1979]

@@janetroberts5140 Im glad you have peace now ❤️

[@chazbickel4518]

😊 When it comes to dealing with narcissistic abuse silence will always keep you moving forward.

[@sunnyflower1979]

@@chazbickel4518 yes, saves your sanity too

[@gratefultobehere]

Those silent treatments were brutal. How did you phrase it? “They act like you don’t even exist” Well, in the end, it perhaps was MY silence that spoke the loudest and continues to vibrate. Great message. ❤💪

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank ❤️🙏😌

[@hollylorn131]

The silent treatments were brutal is something I could relate to also. This happened after the first month of being married. I didn't know what to make of it the first time it happened. It shocked me that he could be that way. How are you feeling, Chelsea? How are the muscle aches and pains? I was wondering if magnesium rich foods would help you. ❤️ 🙏 ☀️

[@janetroberts5140]

@@hollylorn131 I remember saying to the first narc-spouse, "You make me feel like you hate the ground I walk on." Of course he laughed and said that's not true. Oh yes it was, and I hated being tossed "Crumbs of Affection," in 1988, that's what I called it.

[@josephhale9198]

Thats what it's all about. Make em feel like shit🎉😤💖

[@gratefultobehere]

@@hollylorn131 hey I never got this message 💖🤗 til now. Sweet of you. I switched to a better quality magnesium supplement and definitely try to keep my foods leaning that direction. Things are better also with proper hydration and potassium. 💕

[@leilagomulka5690]

Yes. Everyone has a threshold . A breaking point. So true . But with videos like yours we can put the pieces back together. 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

☺️💯🙌💪

[@riffk5325]

I hope they go through the trauma that they put people through

[@Divinely_Guided444]

They love to push your buttons til you finally explode. After being called crazy for defending yourself, I was often sarcastically asked, "How come you don't talk to your friends like that ⁉️" Gee, maybe because they speak to me kindly and in a respectful manner. Silence is what's best when dealing with them..wish I'd learned that sooner.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💯💯😉

[@BlobbyMr-mh8sr]

Silence is the wall that blocks these demons out.

[@artluvr6170]

I'm just glad to have found this community of people who are striving for integrity.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

☀️🙏😌🙌

[@robin2319]

Good morning dear one ☝️

[@artluvr6170]

@@robin2319 Good morning, Robin! I hope you have a great day. 🌻🌻🌻

[@robin2319]

@@artluvr6170 send me ur email

[@marybarton5651]

Silence is a powerful tool. I like power tools. They're great for building something positive for yourself 😊...i.e. high and impenetrable boundaries and ones future without the narc...🙏✌️❤🤓😎😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌💯

[@gratefultobehere]

😄💪

[@chrisdeller2189]

Silence is GOLDEN! And so is your support and educating us 💛

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤫😉😌

[@teddyrascal6305]

Got gaslighted by my wicked stepmother last time i went to visit my father. She had gathered some personal info on my wife. She asked me about it in front of the whole family. I completely ignored her, while she raised her voice and asked again. Ignored again, and the family realized what an ass she is. Didnt have to say a word. Smiled and left. Im 8 years into my journey of narcissistic awareness. This channel has been visited many times along that path, thank you, again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏🙌💯

[@carlosgiron1246]

Great video Andrew. In my narcissistic relationship I was abused in so many ways, the ones that hurt the deepest was the emotional abuse. He was a monster he would go out of his way to find what hurt me the most. He never cared about me or if anything happened to me, but he claimed he loved me. It was a big lie . When I was discarded, I had nothing I just took the clothes on my back and I just disappeared. I left everything my job my belongings my friends and family I moved far from him. I got a new job and started rebuilding my heart and soul and also my life. I blocked him and I refuse to look at his social media. I really don't want to know anything about him. I'm still healing but I'm much better now than I ever was when I was with him. Thank you everyone and thank you Andrew for the video.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌🙏😌💯💪

[@leilagomulka5690]

Yes. Sadly so true. An extension of themselves. Radical truth.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🙏

[@adenbuford7396]

If I think someone is toxic or a narcissist. I turn my back to them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏🙌

[@riyajacob2909]

Excellent 👍

[@EC-yd9yv]

🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️run away... Save yourself 💜

[@phyllisstevens6637]

Yep. You reach your limit.

[@gracesanity6314]

When The emotional dies....the indifference begins. I am free. Amen

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💯💯

[@rockandblues3635]

agree, that what I do, keep silence & walk away

[@conservativemom12]

Amen, Andrew! Thx for another awesome video!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏🙌

[@gailyhanna510]

Yes mine, especially towards the end, was always trying to instigate arguments. That's when I could really feel something was very, very wrong. Nothing is ever normal or healthy with these people❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉🙌

[@tathe3786]

Absolut True…. It s always somthing wrong, and you have to ne carefull

[@conservativemom12]

Namaste Andrew. You are so awesome!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste..😌🙌🙏

[@nicolehayes6020]

That was/is me and experienced reactive abuse after constant abuse from narcissistic mother and when I was brought down to that level I knew that was it, I had to save, save, save and leave. The relationship was over and now I just have to be patient and go. Can’t wait. Tu so much for ur support and videos ❤❤❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..🙏😌💜

[@nicolehayes6020]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you for your help and support. It is truly appreciated and helps me stay focused in what I need to do 🙏💪✌️

[@julianterris]

I learned how to apply "gray rock" quite quickly when I realised that the texts were all invitations to argue -which was a prelude to a planned hoover. Once I realised that, I could finally let go. Yes, I know the meaning of "reactive abuse" TYSM Andrew for all your work, so many of us benefit from your wisedom, so thank you for sharing it.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉🙌

[@blya8978]

The very best treatment for the Narcissistic is SILENCE and CONTACTLESS !! They work like a champ!! I dealt with 2 Narcissistic control freaks!! I have better health and things to do than wasting my precious time ! I don’t react anymore and what they want is to pick up an argument to empty their stress and I don’t give them permission anymore ! I have more time for me and I don’t enjoy being around them before I often wondered why or what’s wrong and didn’t realize I was dealing with narcissistic mentally distorted people

[@peacefulself7848]

Going no contact is empowering it's also a little painful or maybe a lot painful but you will be the one in control if you go no contact and stay no contact! I had to do it for the safety and sanity and peace of mind. I am now strong enough to divorce him and I was able to get a protective order against him.

[@Edward-oy7ed]

100% the narcissist needs you to speak so that they can't twist it against you but when you say nothing, they can't. However they'll get mad again and gaslight you but don't respond until they change their tone, only if you can't leave. Otherwise just politely and quietly walk away (as few worlds as possible) and its then that they know, they have lost you.

[@mariselamacias639]

The power of just saying no in silence and walking away in silent strength. Feels pretty good.

[@irene_f.]

The narcissist only tells you and cares about what hurts them. They don't make themselves vulnerable and are incapable of real communication. Silence and assertivesness on your part, when needed to make them aware that they lost their power over you, can be powerful. I agree - be mindful of what you share.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🙏

[@cindypabst9293]

No information! Say nothing ❤

[@irene_f.]

@@cindypabst9293 Assertiveness done right is key, especially if it's dealing with a family member who has narcissistic traits but isn't a full blown narcissist. I do agree about not sharing anything personal - can't trust the person. 💜

[@dubaiedge]

It's so weird how they go through life not using authentic communication. It must be so lonely because no one will ever really get to know them. Well, aside from their abuse.

[@Ken1Isis]

Daunting realization literally had no idea how badly it affected my life and mindset extreme eye opening thank you Andrew you literally gave me new neuro paths thank Namaste

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏💯🙌

[@susanstatesheale]

I’m finally in silence. I know from the way he spoke about his ex’s that he is devastated by silence. I’m finally in control. Deleting him from my phone was the key.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💪

[@meaganzap]

So Happy to detach from the "Yo-Yo" life with the narc. Moving on to bigger & better things🙌

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯😌😉🙏

[@mareb62]

Part of loving and respecting myself through this journey was to see how broken these narcissistic people are, forgiving myself and them and owning my part in that toxic situation, the power they once had was gone for good...Than I could see my worth and continue on this path with freedom and faith. Healing ourselves and learning to love that face in the mirror is such a gift. Thank you for opening our eyes and teaching us through your pain and experiences. You my friend are a blessing to everyone, and I'm so greatful, for without your words I would not be where I am today. I pray everyday is a beautiful journey for you 🌻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 😌🙌🙏❤️

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

I was told that the narcissists want to have children because they like to see the extension of themselves in another human being. I think it makes great sense. 😊❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@MicaMar1nonly]

Yes and the kids like mine are better off without the narc anyway. Yet instead of being attentive to the kids they have...they make more babies with new supply

[@rubyjet9513]

Yes, it's true.

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

@@rubyjet9513 Hi Ruby. 🙌💜🙏

[@rubyjet9513]

@@mariefrancebourget1749 hi ☺️❤️

[@user-uc5oo2iv6w]

Happy Monday Thank You 🙏 🌹

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌😌🙏

[@johnjohnston1464]

This is the first time I listened to your KZbin. Andrew, you described myself perfectly. I know I should stay silent. My nature is to be a good and kind. I had a good day yesterday, attended church and then visited my wife in LTC. The day ended disastrously. I accepted blame. Today I am exhausted and still in bed. Thanks for what you said today. You are inspiring and kind. I will stop trying so hard, I will work toward being silent.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome to the community 😌🙏🙌😊

[@user-uc5oo2iv6w]

Focus on Yourself right Now. Prayers for discernment. Having a loved one in LTC is also difficult. But now you can focus on yourself more. 'Divine Detours'. Trust in the Process 🙏

[@tedtuira6415]

Its crazy how Andrew’s spot on with what he says. It’s as if he is speaking directly to you. Narcissists are all the same! Pure evil

[@dianaanderson4453]

❤ Welcome to the tribe! This is a great way to get educated about this behavior & what to do. Andrew is awesome obviously & I personally love the scenery, elephant foot trees, church bells & when he says ‘puppies & rainbows’. It brings out the child in me. I wish you well & hope you continue to enjoy this channel. 😎

[@tedmcgreal4001]

Hi Andrew. Your video is very good as all are. I went no contact over 12 Months ago after I realised he was a narcissist. I’ve heard nothing since so that confirms he’s got the message. He is or WAS my youngest brother. Now he doesn’t exist and I’m happier without him.

[@lios583]

...yes, I experienced reactive abuse it pushed me to a breaking point. It's a manipulation to portrayThem as a victim. The real power of silence is to keep silence! 🤫 Thank you Andrew for your education! ❤🐳

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯😌

[@robin2319]

Agree 💯

[@lios583]

@@robin2319 💕

[@johnnorton3816]

It's nearly phenomenal how much information you can pack into a 16 minute video! Thank you so much for your help in teaching men like me how to recognize attributes of narcissism and then the positive path to take for healing from the trauma of toxic relationships. I literally have to pause this video several times to write and make notes on what you're saying, good stuff, really good inspiring, motivating, positive uplifting stuff. For those of us who have walked through the fire or are right now in the dark nights please don't give up hope, we do recover even if you don't feel it yet, its coming just don't quit! ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@jennifernewton4637]

Aww, early video today, and I missed it 😔 It’s true what you say ay here and VERY good advice NOT to overshare with a narc and to grey rock whenever possible. The narc houseguest we have walks in the _door_ in the evening talking about HER day and doesn’t stop until she goes to bed 🤭 I mean… ya _have_ to grey rock that, otherwise they get the impression that you care and THAT will keep them coming back. GREAT video Andrew, thank you for this and ALL your videos, ALWAYS informative and relaxing!!! Love you!!!🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗🩷💜🩷💜🩷💜💋🌹💋🌹 Hope everyone is having a WONDERFUL day so far! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🪨🙌🙏😌💯

[@gratefultobehere]

Your description of that narc houseguest is SO MANY PAST people in my experience too. They just start talking and don’t stop (gray rock it has been and I’m so glad). So glad. ❤🩷

[@pamlangley4696]

Excellent advice. Silence is the answer. Keep moving forward.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤫😌😊

[@sampsonlittle7368]

The hedge around myself doesn’t allow me to be in their presence. It’s not just total silence, I move away to stay away. Some comments think the narc is still controlling me when I walk away. The narc has stepped up his game and purposely comes near me. It’s call gradient control. I exert the amount of control over his moves, to keep me in the victory position.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏😌🙌

[@jhavajoe3792]

Not having to explain or defend yourself to a Narcissist is total freedom, peace and fresh air. Silence, grey rockin', exiting the scene, refocuses you to a clear line towards life's rewarding adventures. My best adventure, lately, has been getting all this education.Not kidding.👍🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌🙏

[@laurenavery1111]

The truth is so freeing but also so depressing. I've spent years recovering. Hearing you spell out all of this information is incredibly helpful but also overwhelmingly sad.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😌

[@musfee7682]

🤲🙏

[@llkellenba]

Yes it’s both. No overnight fixes in recovery or reality.

[@EC-yd9yv]

🕊️💜

[@stephenredhawk9680]

You really described my experience with my ex wife. It has taken me 3 years just to be at peace with myself. It is difficult to go no contact when you have a young child with one. I have stayed silent with minimal contact. It’s tough but I am doing my best. As I was abused, gaslit, disrespected, and kicked out of our home numerous times from her rage and silent treatments. I had to walk away from the relationship because she never accepted responsibility and blamed me for everything. Thank you for putting this knowledge out there for people who are continuing to heal. 🙌🙌

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@lauraantic1384]

It is hard to me too couse i have a little child ,i was abused in the worst way ,hope one day no contact will help to nevear hear or see them child is the only conection i cant leave couse of court.

[@gma729]

Brother I went thru the exact hell. Not married w her just gf for about a year. But she destroyed me and literally tried to destroy every aspect of my life. I'm still recovering... in my studies of Narcissism after my hell ended w her I came to the conclusion ( in my un-professional opinion. ) she is a Malignant Narcissist. The worse kind, Evil at 33 me 56 she literally nearly Buried me. Now she has new supply guy a few yrs younger than me. She's contacted me, still gaslighting. I'm changing my number as soon as I get bk from this getaway / mini vacation.. I never experienced anything so Evil as I did w her. Beyond my darkest nightmares. Anyone's I guarantee 💯

[@stephenredhawk9680]

@@gma729 Hey there, sorry to hear about that brother. It’s an unbelievable experience to go through. Just keep moving forward everyday. Some days are better than others.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for everything you said Andrew. It is true. When you hit rock bottom in narcisistic relationships and you can not unsee what you see it is game over. You are done, you get to the mountain top of indifference and the mere thought of them makes you ill, there comes a point of a physical impossibility to stand their presence.

[@julieann777]

Hi Iza, I totally agree with you. I shudder at the thought of having to come face to face with my family of narcissists. I was the scapegoat and am repulsed at having to see or talk to them. I wish you the very best on your journey.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@dr.eliciarosen-fox1354]

1.1K so many people see your message now! 😮 They need to hear this, learn and live the steps. It all resonates. Life is nothing like it was before. It can't be. Learn the path. Live the best life you can💕 finally. Thank you Andrew for your knowledge and all your encouragement.

[@plainbobnat]

Yes, reactive abuse is a big issue. I’ve had buttons pushed by members of my own family as well as my ex husband and between them they have convinced my son to cut off from me citing me as unstable because I reacted. More than one occasion but it’s not the real me. I’m paying the price now though.

[@leonorsilva134]

You are so right! Nothing I ever said was good ,it was always turned bad. All my accomplishments were laughed at and I was treated horribly wrong for three years. I have been no contact even though we have a child. I made it work through court not to have direct contact and I am healing everyday.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏😌

[@cajuncrackerranch7990]

🙏 Yes. Many did not make it! This…is why we must BREAK the silence and let others know… They are not alone! Thanks 🙏 Andrew

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌😌💯❤️

[@ltsammons]

Loving your "background" music 🐦 and your WOW (Words Of Wisdom)! Thank you Andrew. 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🌳❤️🙌

[@deniseyonkers1463]

Hello Andrew! I really appreciate this channel. You have really enlightened many on this subject.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏🙌☀️❤️

[@NaiadFloss]

my narc husband used to literally poke and prod me with his finger when we got into an argument, he made me feel very afraid , im nearly becoming galvanised Andrew!! thanks to you ! ps love your smile

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌💯🙏😊

[@tmo.48]

No one has a right to touch another person. I carry things to protect myself. I use to clip a pepper spray to my side when around the narc. Try poking me. I have an older sister that is a bully narc (just realized this), she would get in my adult grown up face and try and poke her finger at me while raging. I told her she better get that finger out of my face in my quietest calm voice but I know my eyes were screaming. She is bigger and stronger than me but I don't know what would have happened if she threw down. Just ridiculous how 2 older women could end up on the ground in a brawl. Thank GOD she backed off. Narcs are bullys. She is the reason I taught myself to fight REAL dirty growing up. She may have hurt me many times when I was little but she also eventually learned to wear the scars from doing so. I may seem like a small peaceful woman (my true self) but even my big covert ex narc knew I wasn't one to physically toss around. If he ever poked me with a finger I would slam the crap out of him after I knew for sure I'd have the door in view. Been there done .

[@flowerpower4944]

Our Silence Speaks Volumes, 💯💯Thanks Andrew for your Nurturing us, mind body and Soul, !!! We are BLESSED TO HAVE YOU, 😇🌲🌺✨❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏😊

[@gratefultobehere]

❤💪

[@hollylorn131]

We certainly are blessed to have Andrew as our coach! 🙏 ❤️ 😊

[@margueritebaca3921]

Andrew, thank you! Know that you are globally nurturing and ushering souls into awareness and sparkling joy! Your impact on world healing is frickin amazing!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏🙌❤️

[@flowerpower4944]

Absolutely 💯💯💯🙏

[@gratefultobehere]

Love this ❤

[@user-uc5oo2iv6w]

Great video

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 😌🙌🙏

[@zenobiasirmons6596]

You speak truly from the heart!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🙏❤️

[@KleeKaiBreeders]

Narcs view kindness as weakness. The nicer you are, the worse they treat you. Best to just leave.

[@Willa4420]

Another EXCELLENT VIDEO Andrew. I also realize that when the narcissist stares at you they still don't really see you. They don't see your needs wants desires. They never.think about helping you. You exist only to help them. You are not even seen as a human being. That stare is predatory. It is not flattering to be stared at.. Get away and your silence is powerful !!!! Let's them know they no longer control you. Great video 🎉

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏💯😌

[@Willa4420]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Yes The narcissistic stare. Where you ever seen?? Let's think about that. My answer is no we were still never seen. Only what we could do for the narcissist. That is what they saw.

[@suesanders1169]

I actually out stared my current ( landlord ) narc. I believe now he might be more scared of me. ( He believes I am more disturbed than he is and he thought he was TOP OF THE LINE. ) 😂😂😂 The student has now surpassed the teacher. ( Difference being I AM ACTING, NOT my normal persona, reserved specifically FOR HIM. 😉 )

[@Willa4420]

@@suesanders1169 Yes staring is also a form of intimidation. Bravo !!

[@SonjasStars]

Let’s stay STRONG, together ❤️🙏 Remember that even if this connection was ment to happen, it doesn’t mean that they are your destiny - you choose your destiny everyday and what happens next. Lessons will only make us stronger and wiser 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

❤️🙏🙌

[@kennethlapointesongwriter3330]

A few years ago I came up with a gem of a truth...'anyone can say anything'. Despite all the words used by a narcissist, what is of extreme importance ONLY is what they DO. Not say. And yes silence takes away any power they try to have over you, even if they resort to crap actions. Just handle their crap actions but keep up the silence.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏🙌

[@lifeslessons9889]

All, but one, of the narcissists in my life have passed away - I have one remaining narcissist- my elder sister who ( apart from one birthday card a year and a plain simple , none expressive card because I don’t hate her, I just immensely dislike her bully narcissistic life long ways ) - I decided to stop all contact - no calls, no text , blocked on social media apart from a telephone number which I’ve made clear is emergencies only ) - I’ve moved house, not told her, don’t need to - I don’t want her here, don’t want any greeting cards - I just want to live without her in peace . It’s the PAST - leave it there !! I wouldn’t want any contact with anyone who feels the need to share information about folk I’ve left behind for my personal sanity. Life now is calm, no more worrying emotions ups n downs THANK GOODNESS. Yes - Silence says it all !! 🌺

[@kimhumiston2686]

When the narcissist was your boss, it feels pretty darn good to give them the silent treatment!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯

[@catherinerhea6336]

It's so interesting to me, that on my birthday(of all days!!!) YOU post this exact video.... My MANTRA is "Stop talking & SHOW ME"... action, not words... ***WALK YOUR TALK!!!*** 🎂💞🏁

[@ArtistNorth]

Silence is golden....ironic that the silent treatment we suffered through becomes the actual key to our freedom when focused towards them.....and in maintaining silence with them we return to our inner wisdom and flourish once again...choosing yourself is the path and silence is golden especially when its away from the narc...thank you Andrew...may we all reclaim our true voices by being silent which says NO MORE to the narc!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🤫😊😉💯💯

[@andreahugentobler1510]

very true. stop the game and go no contact.

[@gasmith7486]

The narcissists in my life are my own adult children and my siblings. Unfortunately I’ve had to go no contact with all of them but I’m a lot happier now. Great message by the way!!

[@jamanne2504]

Same in my life & I’m 77.

[@dorothynegri9924]

Man, I truly needed one on remaining silent today. Thank you!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@music1958ful]

You got it-all points‼️Abusive and toxic…. No contact has been deliverance for me! 🤗 No info is good info-both ways. Thank you for your time in putting this info out for people!!!

[@levymargaret6093]

So true, out of sight, out of mind.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏😉

[@DestinyUnfolds59]

I loved this. Thanks.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌❤️

[@lauraantic1384]

Thank you so much Andrew for your presence and for teaching us to believe in ourselfe to say no .I dont need that evil people around me.All i have to do is to protect myself ,to grow finally couse I didnt have a chance before .Thank God I survived and all who are here

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@suejohnson535]

Hi Andrew & everyone here & I hoped you Andrew & everyone here had a wonderful day SILENT ,it's priceless !! When the 22 th comes this month in June ,it would be 2 completely years of completely no completely . Thank you Andrew for you being here with all your videos & thank you everyone here with all y'all's comments here & I hoped you Andrew & everyone here to have a lovely beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 evening / night 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌😊💯❤️

[@Brembelia]

You are right. It is dissappointing not to hear from any of the people who portrayed themselves as friends enough to feel it was okay to be all up in your business, but when the show is over, when you ring down the curtain and go your own way, none of them call to even ask, "How are you?" Makes me think that investing time in people is not such a good investment, and you're better off giving that time to your pets and a hobby, like music, writing, painting, or anything else that makes you happy. Life is strange. 💐

[@ChocolateBabe_]

RIGHT ON TIME. The only thing people hear silence. It’s crazy. Not you trying to logical explain anything but the moment you walk away and be quiet that’s what they hear. And it’s insane.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@roslyncerro1263]

Beautiful background, Andrew.❣️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🌳😊

[@eileenallen1178]

Hi Andrew. Once again, you deliver needed words in a compassionate, strong way. I have, after two years, finally reached indifference. You were a big part of how I got there. Those still recovering, please take heart, you WILL recover. Stay with it. The best part of the journey to recovery is, my self-esteem and self-care have sky rocketed. I finally have found self-worth. That’s how I hit indifference, I finally saw my own value as a loving, strong, caring human being. I finally realized I am worth being loved by the number one person in my life-ME. Talk about a tough lesson to learn! Andrew, one more thing. I have been following you for over a year now. You look very healthy and happy now. I am very glad to see that. Thank you, Andrew and God bless you always.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏🙌

[@paulaperson4460]

Beautiful message, i remain silent to protect my mental health and energy. While he is blocked on everything he still finds ways to reach out to me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🙏

[@catlady6938]

Yes I experienced everything you mentioned and I was pushed to breaking point lost my temper and finally walked away, that was a year ago. However just recently I was in contact with the narcissist and it was very interesting, he had got so bitter and much worse, i never thought that was even possible. I ended the conversation by saying I was glad we are both happy now, knowing full well he wasn’t and he knew I meant without each other and that probably caused a rage fit, I will never know I just went silent.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌😉💯

[@apricotcookie4850]

"I'm glad we're both happy now." Brilliant! Thanks for this.

[@michellepurcell8703]

Top video Andrew. Listening on my evening walk with the dog in sunny Shropshire u.k. 🐕‍🦺❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 😌🙏❤️😊

[@chasradcliffe1045]

My brother lives in Cound. Lovely place 🙃❤️👍

[@Mariah.B11]

Every word you have said here resonates. Acutely. Yes, silence. Oh the headaches... Need coffee ☕️ l need to trust the process. This video is so helpful.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌💯

[@cynthiawlaughlin5435]

This happened to me. I couldn’t understand it but now I do

[@Joshtre12]

If you have ever been told that You are hysterical or that You are emotionally unbalanced... STOP, look around and take note of who is around you and what life is like around them. Most cases It Is Not You!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@qw3rty302]

I realized today that every time My narcs asked me are you ok after a rage fit or just at random there asking me indirectly are you crazy no wonder why I had multiple breakdowns when I started being around the narcissist more consistently in the trauma bond. Andrew keep the videos coming it helps me and my other friends who been through this. Through me finding your videos I helped 10+ people to realize what there going through like I am and that there not alone in this and to grey rock/no contact the narcissist, from the bottom of my heart thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🪨😌🙌❤️😌

[@IndigoNoetic]

Beautiful message. Thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏🙌

[@Jenny-j5f3v]

thank you for this video andrew! i experienced abuse and just calmly stood up for myself and the next time i saw the narc he said..."all i want is a little kindness, you dont have to tiptoe around me..." ha! low key threat. hes my parent and scared off most of his kids. i WAS kind to him and took abuse from him, i have NO IDEA wtf hes talking about. the mindf@#ks these people do on us are beyond description unless you have been there, so horrible and damaging.

[@roslyncerro1263]

Relishing my acquired wisdom.❣️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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