THE NARCISSIST CAN’T GIVE WHAT THEY DON’T HAVE

[@celiamurray]

The saddest part is when you realise they have been living double lives for years. Fake loving and façades for decades.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💯

[@MaryFlavor_kanini]

This double life is the one that made me to make up my mind to leave him without looking back. Will be leaving at end of this year.

[@M007magdalene]

Can relate to these comments very much. Realizing that is the most painful, shattering experience. I also came to the conclusion that I did not know them at all. At the same time, this experience wiped out any previous illusion of this being special, or even being a relationship at all, and that made it easy for me to let go of it without mourning it as any sort of loss. The peace and clarity that comes with radical acceptance is a great relief after the thicket of betrayal and the emotional roller-coaster. It has also left me in a place where I couldn't conceive of entering another relationship.

[@WouldRecommend]

The narcissist is a leech, a vampire that feeds on other peoples positive emotions because they lack these. They are empty shells, portraying themselves as a full cup hence why all they do, is take and then take some more. Sad empty existences.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌🙏

[@cc1k435]

That is very much at the heart of it, or rather the lack of heart. ❤

[@jannlewandowski5540]

They have a ROCK IN PLACE OF A ❤️ HEART!

[@RstGamingReviews]

agreed

[@Matt-602]

They're not a full cup. They wear falsies!😆

[@JM11P]

We married in 4 months. I relocated to his hometown where I knew no one. Within a week the monster veered its ugly head. I didn’t know what I was witnessing but I knew that it wasn’t right. I received ongoing rage and the silent treatment when he didn’t get his way. Throughout the marriage he always took others side and never had my back. Had plenty of “women friends” which now I know were supply. Five years into marriage I was diagnosed with breast cancer from the stress of the relationship. He resented me for being sick and didn’t help me. I finally left the relationship because I couldn’t heal in a place that made me sick. Wasn’t able to go full no contact because of health insurance but did not give my location. I filed for divorce during my treatment and now I’m on the path to truly healing in peace.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯😌🙌🙏💪

[@janetsmith9958]

Probly the worst of it was having no one to care the days in bed sick . But I was always there for him 🎉

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌💪

[@stevebennett5479]

When i sick she was most happy that's the truth

[@sanjmalik6282]

Andrew the title says it all. The narcissistic person is poor. They possess nothing.

[@jennifernewton4637]

That’s right… no love, and DEFINITELY no empathy!!! Someone who loves you WON’T throw _rage fits_ when you don’t do what they want, they won’t threaten you with silent treatment or walking away, they won’t alienate all those who _do_ treat you well and expect that others treat you well too. The narcissist is all about words… _saying_ they love you and then _showing_ you the _opposite_ of love. GREAT video! Very timely for this channel today, Andrew!!! Hope you’re having a WONDERFUL evening, and I wish you all the love in the world 🥰♥️🌹♥️🌹♥️🌹♥️ Never accept poor treatment from _anyone_ !!! You DON’T have to. You _deserve_ the BEST in life!!! 😉☺️ You are loved, certainly by me, and by _many_ others!!! 👑 ❤

[@gratefultobehere]

They won’t do those things and many more. You are so right ❤❤❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏😌🙌💯

[@jennifernewton4637]

@@gratefultobehere Hey Chelsea! Just got home from my first piano lesson!!! I knowww I thought it would be sooner too, but as you know, life has been hectic over here at Newton Fine Wines and Gourmet Foods (open all night) 😆😆😆😆😆

[@gratefultobehere]

@@jennifernewton4637 BUT, the question is…does Newton Fine Wines and Gourmet deliver? Not much of a wine 🍷 drinker myself, but would love a gourmet meal. All that aside, I’m SO excited for you to have your piano lesson!!!! Yay 😁!!! You’ve been working hard already and you’ll do amazing 🎹 ❤️🙌 I’m almost through my first primary book. Basics. Andrew would probably encourage being in the present moment and not rushing ahead to play songs I want to play 😉 so I’ve begun that (present moment is where it’s at). Joy for youuuuuu Jennifer 🤗 🥹 ❤️

[@jennifernewton4637]

@@gratefultobehere not unless Lady Chardonnay delivers, and I wouldn’t trust your order to get there in it’s entirety if she’s delivering 😛😆😆😆

[@gratefultobehere]

Narcissists have no authentic empathy. They will pick and choose who they believe to be worthy of their attention and FAKE empathy. And oh do they pour it on thick. When they do that, it’s their pile of supply they’re stacking up for a rainy day (you know, discard day). It’s amazing how many fakes are out there. Great video ❤❤❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 😌🙏🙌

[@rubyjet9513]

Sam Vaknin calls it cold empathy. It is about cognitive empathy. They understand that when the other cries, he is sad (they learned from the movie, for example), but they will think: "That's great! She is weak now, later I will ask (force) her for sex." Here we come again to that rollercoaster. They tear you down, then they caress you. You are constantly up and down and that weakens you. The more you run out of energy, the more control they have over you.

[@rubyjet9513]

Of course, trauma bond too. Lifting and lowering you, they tie you to themselves with a trauma bond.

[@gratefultobehere]

@@rubyjet9513 wow. That’s exactly right. Cold empathy. Thank you for that explanation.

[@BJBlaskovichGaming]

This is spot on. I went through all of this.

[@pepperboxstudio]

My "x" turned his back to me on our wedding night. I guess because I stayed up late partying with our friends & family, & playing my guitar, while he went to bed early in a huff. I can only conclude that my independent spirit was not something he really valued and that he was, in fact, envious of my ability to be happy & social, & have fun. I was good as eye candy for as long as it lasted ... but not much else.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💯🙏

[@ershipmoth6017]

You really made me feel not alone in the darkness. Thank you for that. It's been a year now after a brutal discard which ended what can only be called an eight year long hostage situation. I already found some balance. I feel free in my own house again. Cortizol levels dropped. I've got some of my health and colours back. It's a journey though, pain comes and goes, shame makes me want to isolate, nightmares wake me up almost every night and I have exhausting panic attacks. That is the price for not knowing what I was dealing with and staying in it for 3000 days.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌😌

[@Friesnchicken]

I completely feel this! I’m like 3 months out. Some days are hard. Im in a weird place of healing.

[@Friesnchicken]

After 7 years. You 8 years. We have to be gentle with ourselves when the hard times come. We went through a lot

[@mmnde12]

I was pregnant with our second child and I got a stomach flu. My ex went to work and left me alone to take care of a 3yo. I begged him to stay and help me, but he just ignored me and walked out. I was lying on the bathroom floor vomiting and had to call my own parents to come take our son. He just didn’t care one bit, not about his wife nor his son. Crazy.

[@cc1k435]

Crazy is the word. I remember getting the flu when my son was just a couple months old and having to explain to my narc husband (and how very annoyed he was) that he was going to have to take the baby into the other room. 🙄

[@mostHigh23]

Sounds like my story 😅.. crazy

[@Inesamon21]

I get it. It’s the loneliest most vulnerable feeling in the world. When they abandon you and your kids. My ex left me with two little kids to go to ‘jam night’ - my four yo daughter had a 39 degree (centigrade) temp, so did I and my 7yo sim was recovering from the flu and a mentally unstable neighbour was threatening to rape and murder me and he left us there until the neighbour came and the police were called … he yelled at me when I cried when he said he was still going to jam night. I just started to cry - so sick and tired and my sweet baby girl listless and sick and he left us. The best day of my life was when he took off.

[@artluvr6170]

The COLD HARD TRUTH. Give me truth or give me death.

[@texasrefugee7888]

When I was 1st in therapy And starting to "peel the onion" I heard somewhere that you're a full grown adult when you can realize that your parents did the best they could And get over whatever they did or didn't do for you. And this is true. My mom and dad did the best they could.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌🙏

[@janetroberts5140]

I had parents who did the best they could. Neither of them had a terrific family, but could love us and lead us in the best directions! They are both gone now but they were the best!

[@donnahalsted7718]

So very true. It would be a demonic mind that would want to be a bad parent. I do believe that most parents have the best interests for their children. Every parent works with what life has bequeathed to them, for good or for harm. We all grow from the gift of our wounds and other more happy gifts. Narcs, however, have their focus elsewhere, so often use their children for their own purposes. For instance, my narc Brother wanted me to give him my Grandsons new shoes. He had plenty to purchase a pair since he paid nothing to stay in my home and had a satisfactory social security income. My Grandson had earned enough to purchase them for himself! I just said "No, they don't belong to me to give to you." I could almost hear his unspoken words ....

[@cc1k435]

I like to believe that of anyone, though it certainly wasn't a childhood full of thoughtfulness and encouragement. What I do have from it is a very strong need to not be the cause of making others feel bad, the way I so often did. The world doesn't need more of that. ❤

[@donnahalsted7718]

Part of good parenting is helping children sort out feelings and reasons why they are triggered. In today's culture there are so many immature reactions based on unresolved, uncontrolled feelings that rationality has gone completely "out the window". Children, to mature, have to be walked through the wild path of feelings, starting before the two-year old tantrums! By golly, my narc Brother at 77 still has two-year old tantrums! The other eleven of us don't have that problem. He was born a psychopath....

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Hello Andrew. You NAILED IT. The ONLY compliment i received from him was he loved my eyes! That was it! In a 5 year period.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯🙏❤️

[@heatherroberson1648]

If you are trapped living with a narcissist and wondering how to get out I heard a great story. Tell them you went to the doctor and just got diagnosed with a serious illness. Now it is starting to show. They will dump you so fast and you will be free to leave. God bless you and go no contact moving forward 🙏

[@MaryFlavor_kanini]

One can also leave when the Narcissist has traveled.

[@MaryFlavor_kanini]

My soon to be ex narc, left immediately after the wedding pretending to be thankful to the guests. Flirting started immediately as I have now learnt.

[@cc1k435]

​@Mary Favoured I think they find the forbidden so much hotter or something, since they just can't be straightforward with anyone in life. 😢

[@dubaiedge]

😂 this is both a great escape plan & really sad, because it will work 99.9% of the time.

[@MissNancy]

True. No love. But sociopaths and psychopaths can have some kind of (unemotional) attachment.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌

[@janetroberts5140]

My second marriage, he wanted "me to be his Mamma, wanted me call him my son!!!" OMG, What the heck!!! That was Crazy!!!

[@gratefultobehere]

@@janetroberts5140oh there are things I never knew were so sick until that last narc relationship. And THAT issue right there. You nailed it. God bless you.

[@BelleOfAmherst]

Yes, it’s call money.

[@MissNancy]

@@BelleOfAmherst 🏆

[@sublimeguy]

My ex fiancee wanted a baby and I was happy to oblige, because she had me believing we were soul mates. I proposed after 4mths. I thank GOD that he loves me and stood in the way of the pregnancy. As hard as it's been a couple good things came out of this and one is my knowledge has increased 10fold and I found out what a empath is and that I am one

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏💯🙌

[@priscillathompson77]

No

[@cc1k435]

I have that kind of empathy, too, and where'd it ever get me? Somewhere similar. I am not quite so young anymore and experience really is a great teacher, and I hope that you and I both have learned a thing or two. For your sake, I'm glad you won't spend 20 years trying to figure out your spouse and how to dodge all their unnecessary ire. 😂😢❤

[@sublimeguy]

@@cc1k435 Thank you, I appreciate it and I hope we have too. I really loved her, still do. The days are getting alot easier though even though alot of times I go to bed thinking of her and wake the same way.

[@vibehutcoach.wellbeingandf5772]

Mine did very similar

[@marietjiestapelberg8230]

💯 To make it worse is the fact that it is so difficult to leave...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌💯

[@Ready2Rise]

I tried wayyyy too many times with my ex. Hoping to get what they didn't have. Something that was abundant the first couple months. It all vanishes suddenly. How they are defined is so textbook, cut and clear. The phases are exactly as explained. I stuck around thru these cycles until any connection I held onto literally locked itself away before I potentially jeopardized myself for any future love interests. It's unfortunate that no one can see this coming. We all give chances, instead, try to recognize when you are essentially disrespecting yourself by accepting what will never change but only show up differently from them. It's truly sick and intentional and targeted.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏🙌

[@ginaryanbearfighter7065]

Narcissists do not know how to love. They also don't know that actions speak louder than words or what that means.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🙏

[@dubaiedge]

Yes. They rely on manipulation via words. "I said...." yet they contradict with actions, then get outrageously upset & gaslight you if you even mention it, never mind insist on the truth.

[@bridgemixx3653]

And to realize that the abuse isn't personal. The narc just cant.

[@marybarton5651]

Love requires honesty, trustworthiness, respect, integrity, responsibility, kindness, understanding, forgiveness, compassion, communication commitment, etc. Nothing could induce me to go back. I did that once and almost lost my life... "once burned (bitten), twice shy." (Phrase attributed to ancient Greek storyteller Aesops moral fable about a dog and a wolf...translated by William Claxton in the 1400s...source references Idiom, Meaning &Origin-Grammarist).

[@gratefultobehere]

❤ 🙌 amen 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@BelleOfAmherst]

Abandon all sincere communication with them. There is peace is disengaging from them and finding joy in yourself.

[@desireecotto6306]

I agree with you

[@WouldRecommend]

Totally Agree Mary 🙏❤️

[@richardhowe3951]

Wish I knew this before. It isnever too late to wakeup to this trap. Thank you Andrew. You give so much good info. Glad I found your channel!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@coralmccrystal4606]

My mother was a narcissist. I am maternal by nature and just assumed she would be the same. She was intelligent and knew how to push my buttons and reel me in. I realise now that I was misguided in my loyalty to her but it took me ages to see the real picture. I am still glad I got there in the end even if it meant accepting some pretty unpalatable stuff. It's like my head is clear at last (mostly!) after so many years of confusion.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏😌☀️

[@cc1k435]

I know, we just have to forgive our young selves for not processing what we were looking at. It's not my instinct to be like that, either, and I at least can be grateful for that much every day. I do not live with that kind of hell in my head. ❤

[@coralmccrystal4606]

@@cc1k435 That's a good way of looking at it! No wonder our ability to be upbeat and feel peace drives them mad!

[@jeannieotb8491]

My mother was a narcissist and i knew something was wrong but it took til i was 66 to know what it was. she was a grandiose type and by researching my relationship with her i realised my partner of 23 years was a covert narcissist.Just 😢 leaving him when house sold in July but hardest thing breaking that trauma bond been working really hard on finding me again and my Spiritual journey is definitely a WIP but I am so grateful to all the videos on You tube and this channel for giving the wisdom and I need Andrew almost every day to remind me to stay on my new path especially til i am outta here! thanks so much to Andrew this community 😊

[@coralmccrystal4606]

@@jeannieotb8491 You've done very well. Not an easy path to travel at all. Well done and take care.

[@coral8313]

Nothing was real they have dark hearts no love or empathy ,a double today thank you 🙏 I’m proud to call myself an empath have given a lot of myself the past 2 weeks a tad draining so grateful to help guide others now I can get myself centred again while on my short break away 🙏💕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏😌

[@LiveforHim73]

They don’t have much thats good for them or anyone!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏🙌

[@nanaof6angels]

Andrew I appreciate you you have helped me to know what narc is I was convinced I needed mental health but you have helped me understand what happened to me thank you so much ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome ❤️😌🙌

[@donnahalsted7718]

Stick around, Regina. You're in a good place! Narcs want you to think you're nuts. It's just projection! You've been through their hell and they wanted you to stay there. But you're with us! Andrew will walk you through the ashes to radiance. Yep, I'm still coming out of PTSD. Some good days, some not so good. Progress is all I hope for and we will both get there!

[@cc1k435]

I know that I was thinking I had either ADHD or early onset dementia, for YEARS. As for my mental health, it's finally on the mend and I intend to keep it that way. 😂

[@lookatthetrees7494]

Thanks Andrew. I wanted to make sense of the entire relationship after it was over and slowly but surely I understood it was a covert narcissist and I never knew what that was. Now I know. You are very accurate. You are describing the person I was with.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌🌳❤️

[@florenceurso9678]

Please keep doing these videos. Please keep sharing your knowledge. Please!!!. Thank you.

[@BelleOfAmherst]

“The narcissistic zone.” Thanks, Andrew. 🙏🏼😌💗

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏💯

[@Matt-602]

I am now hearing "The Twilight Zone" theme song from the black-and-white TV show reruns in the 1980s as a current 49-year old

[@BelleOfAmherst]

@@Matt-602 😂 I hear you… do-do-do-do… 🎶 It IS another dimension when you’re in “the narcotic zone”. 🪨🚫 I saw them as reruns too.

[@warriormom5843]

I LOVE YOUR EXAMPLES OF FRONT-LOADING THE RELATIONSHIP, Andrew! And OMG, “that was my twin!” 😂🤣😂🤣

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😊❤️

[@Livinglife11-lt4hf]

As always Andrew 💯💯💯 We are huge targets. They are in every aspect of my life. Pop up narcs..Bam Bam Bam Time to dim their light Makes your head spin - its a perpetual game of wack a mole.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏😌

[@BelleOfAmherst]

Wack-a-mole! Yes! Thanks for the laughter. It’s needed. 💗

[@Livinglife11-lt4hf]

@@BelleOfAmherst You are welcome! We definitely need it- 💕

[@cc1k435]

I always say that about trying to get antsy kids to sit down at school. Now I can't unsee all the toxic people I've had in my life the same way. That, or a losing game of laser tag I've been playing for way too long. 😂😂😂

[@Livinglife11-lt4hf]

@@cc1k435 absolutely 💯 😆

[@sandracaezza7234]

Thinking about 24 yrs of marriage to a narc/addict. I replay in my mind how many family get togethers he ruined with is inability to carry on a conversation with persons that felt he was part of a family. He had no “script” so to speak. I signed divorce papers, my sons said welcome back Mom. The narc walked away from this family just like he did not father his own boys. Always something to hide, instead of helping his children to survive the trauma of the parent (him). He’s on to new supply man or women or both. Very deep trauma only to self medicate again. I actually witnessed metabolic steroids bring out the narc at a very scary level, road rage,gay porn addiction and social media became his huge high. I cherish my new life & am taking MY time to heal. Thank you Andrew for affirming to us the things we need to hear.🙏🏼🧘🏼

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏😌🙌

[@SusanCal]

So true Andrew! I’m sooo glad I got out of the situation! Never was treated like that by a boyfriend in my life, but now I’m peeling back the onion and finally realized that my mother was an alcoholic narcissist and I was the scapegoat! Wow! Thank you so much for finding out the truth!

[@maustin950]

20 years! I exited on my terms! So painful. I did it but hurts so bad.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪💯🙏

[@cc1k435]

I am exactly there right now, and I am very focused on the radical acceptance that this is all he's got to contribute to anybody, and it's not much if anything at all. I would rather be alone than wish I were. ❤

[@maustin950]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you, need to find my tribe.

[@maustin950]

@@cc1k435 yes that is something I struggle with often. It’s a rollercoaster. Stay busy.

[@ultimatemordecai]

“If not now, WHEN??” Great words to live by 👍👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💯

[@stefaniadiamond]

STAY STRONG GUYS THEY GETTING READY TO SHOW THEIR FACE

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

My ex narc husband told me he loved me up until a week of the discard. And i asked him point blank why he said that to me for twenty years and he replied to my face...i lied. I was heart broken. How can someone do this to a person. Now i have the answer. Have a great evening Andrew. 😊❤🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏🙌

[@bradmcewen]

With those we discern , by all educational sources, that are of the Cluster b spectrum, nothing surprises me. Slow boiling cooks our logic of many signs of anything but love were there all along.

[@lisamariesmith3610]

It shatters you to the core.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Marie France. You are LOVED by many people. ❤⚘️⚘️💕😊

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

@@lisamariesmith3610 yes it does. But now i am doing very well and i hope you are too. Have a wonderful evening and night. 😊💞🙏

[@BrianFrederick-fx2bd]

A narcissist are as honest as a politician!!

[@Karen_Rollins89]

I still remember the days that I’d ask God (about my husband) “why doesn’t He love me?”. And the answer that I felt very gently in my spirit was that he CANT love because he doesn’t HAVE love. God is love. If a person doesn’t have a genuine and right relationship with Jesus Christ, they’ll never be able to give love because they have no clue where the source of true love comes from.

[@Edward-oy7ed]

Wow Andrew, you stated that nobody is safe in dealing with a narcissist and its 200% true.......

[@marieeakin8534]

Narcissists are pros at the game HERE WE GO LOOPTY...LOO. jumping from one host to another without any regard to the damage they leave behind. Cleverly winning at their private quests ...they are NOT CAPABLE TO PROVIDE ANYTHING HEALTHY. Face the inevitable..... MOVE ON! 🎀😘

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Marie. I remember that song! 👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏💯

[@mostHigh23]

They just do not care they do not care you're right Andrew they have no empathy at all

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💯

[@fondacarm1384]

Score!!!!💯💯💯💯

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@dianakamanga5009]

It's true and it's really painful

[@jennifernewton4637]

Also, I am LOVING the multiple videos a day!!! Thank you for this 🙏🙏🙏☺️ 😉 You know just how to keep us ladies satisfied 😁🥰

[@Inesamon21]

I thought I was advanced on the healing journey but reflecting on 13 years I am stunned as I realise there was no love. And how my healthy boundaries were trashed and I was groomed until I didn’t even know who I was. When he discarded me the first couple of times-I didn’t care - he was free and I supported that. Conscious uncoupling…then he came back … and I let him. I wasn’t trauma bonded for so long…I still can’t wrap my head around how someone can lie and be so deceitful. I value truth and he promised me that we would always tell the truth. Never again. I will never have a ‘romantic’ relationship again. And I definitely won’t support a man again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙏💯🙌

[@jennielai2459]

Exactly, I can’t imagine a human being destroy another human being without hesitation or remorse. That’s why I got fooled, and I dismissed all the red flags and I lived in denial to his behavior 🙄🙄🙄 But lesson learned!!

[@debrastadnyk1351]

❤Andrew you are absolutely 100% correct!❤ They can't love. They lie, cheat & steal. Their words are not authentic. Thank you Andrew. Great video❤

[@mostHigh23]

This was the saddest part of my life 😢

[@mats6504]

I heard on a different channel that when a narcissist mirrors and says "I love you" what they actually mean is "I love that you love me".

[@gregwindell7702]

Be strong enough to be honest and kind Then may peace be with you a marvel gaze

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😌

[@ronniemitchell1473]

Thanks so much, this was awesome and very helpful. My narcissist discarded me 17 years ago, packed up all his belongings while I was at work and I came home to an empty house. We’d been together for three years. I thought I was over him until two years after he left I found out he got married and they’re still together for the past 15 years posting pics of them together smiling in social media. They both look so happy in the pics. I never married and had a few failed relationships after my narcissist left me. I still think of him and wonder why he did what he did to me. Abandoned and discarded.😢

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏🙌

[@theodorusrexicon5760]

No introspection. Bullseye. So much truth on this video. Yes, the victim card about the childhood - spot on. ...and seeking out a new supply before the end. This was my life. Previous marriage - all of it - I lived it.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌💯

[@heather9329]

All the care about is number one, mine told me he loved me incessantly for a few weeks😮 until he hooked me. So glad to see through these people now

[@Pia-mia]

I honestly do not think there is one thing I can put on the “he loved me list” - took me 20 years and a painful divorce to fully understand this. Couldn't believe how much worse the behavior got after I filed for divorce and finally decided I deserved more respect. He never expected me to stand up.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@mikewuethrich4588]

Thank you, Andrew. you are a blessing exposing the truth

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@marilynbrowman5520]

I fell in love with one…. Not knowing for over a decade that they cannot love. Now i know…..its mind blowing but knowing and studying them is very interesting. You can do that by loving yourself, have confidence, believe in yourself, stay string and realise they have an illness that is chronic.

[@elanahammer1076]

In my first marriage I worked three jobs to pay for the wedding. I did not want us to start our lives off with debt. Usually it is a reason most people do not stay together. Never again! So as a means to not repeat my mistakes I told my spouse in my second marriage that we needed to live with in our financial means. He would not listen to me when I said no! What did that lead to? Well… In my second marriage I worked four jobs to help keep my family afloat after 9/11. While he would go and purchase another two four wheelers! Do I have some responsibility yes, but I did say NO! Marriage number one I should have called it off as I had cold 🥶 feet craving combat boots instead! That is why it is good to listen to your mind not necessarily your heart. I share my story and take accountability for what I need to take responsibility for. Thank you Andrew God bless 🤔❤🇺🇸

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@cc1k435]

I take responsibility for my adult relationships like that, too, because I wish I'd just walked away when I had the chance. You do have to admit, though, that it's very confusing to be in such a relationship. It's almost like you can't describe it until it's over, because in the middle, it doesn't quite make any sense.

[@jennifernewton4637]

🥰 Side note, all the rays of the sun are dancing around you!!! ❤😇☀️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@gratefultobehere]

😊🙌❤️

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Hi Andrew and everyone I grew up with a narcissistic father and when I married the malignant narc demon ,I realized early on he was a narcissist due to how my father behaved I didn’t tell him I love him it was him with the fake I love you to me I called him out early on being a faker and calling him a narcissist I just dumped him for the third time this time it’s permanent gone no contact and filing for divorce.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@scottnewcomb4230]

Thanks for the truth. If you have 15 minutes, I just posted on KZbin a new video that shows where I am at and where I think you were at few years ago.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@mostHigh23]

Many days I was picked up late from work. But I could never be a minute second late picking him up 😢

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@MJane-JPilar-USA]

This is exactly what that someone I know is doing-getting supplies and he curse them down and calling them names when they don’t follow his rules or when things doesn’t go his way. Sad and evil ways to treat those nice people.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@jocelienjimenez9821]

Thank You Andrew❤ NAMASTE👍👊✌

[@daylevillagran6167]

WOW....his name is Tony! It is like you are taking about his life. The 3 marriages, proposed to countless others and then he trashed them. I never knew anyone that has so many broken relationships. All you are saying is as if you were telling his stories. The lies, the other women, new supply...the next victim. Thank you for opening my eyes. Free of that kind of person. I had no idea what his issue was ...and that speck is fading in to he rearview mirror. It sure makes you know what to watch for. Thank you for educating us all

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@Ice1000-m4x]

I wish I can buy Andrew dinner..he makes us see that we will make it pass this ..thank Andrew and stay strong every one we will be more then ok..God bless to all

[@donaldgansky5907]

I was discarded out of the blue after 24 years. She hung up on me and never heard from her again. Thanks Andrew Your videos have helped me

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@mostHigh23]

I watch crime shows. I think I saw the worst narcissist in the world. He killed his parents and wife and tried to blame it on his children. He had did so much bad stuff. In the end he was sentenced to 25 years to life. Worst person I've ever seen

[@jonnielynnlittle2882]

That is so true I thought I could help fix it..haha!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@elyssian6015]

Correct they can never change, they do not care about you, your time, what they do care about is themselves. Thank you Andrew

[@catlady715]

I know that this narcissist, my now ex husband, never loved me. He probably didn't even like me. He only saw me as a source of money and someone to help him improve his life. After the divorce I got a few texts here and there him telling me I am his "best friend" and how he loves me blah blah blah...a hoover attempt. He has since been blocked. No more time for that wolf in sheep's clothing.

[@steveobaby6048]

Thank you 👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏🙌

[@gwenna1161]

I LEARNED THE PRO CON LIST A LONG TIME AGO... you have to physically write it down though or it dont work.. made many life saving decision that way

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@dancingnuance536]

I can’t thank you enough for this video. The past two hours I have been going trough the videos. I just found out about this channel today. I am truly baffled. I started out with a narcissist ten years ago and got the slap to the face that I have found myself in a similar situation again after all that time. Not as worse and horrendous as back then but still very painful. I can’t believe I fell for the love bombing again. As you said, we started and ended very quickly. I feel so stupid for not catching on earlier. Two months ago I saw the first signs but I played myself, telling myself it was a phase and we just had to come back from our first fight/conflict in this brand new relationship (it lasted about 5 months). And now looking back I see how it really was. The dynamic changed once I stood up for myself and his children. Once I actually started getting along with his ex. Once I actually took my space as an equal. He did not appreciate that. He wanted me silent and small. I took up too much space. Jeez. Thank you again. I can imagine how truly helpfull you are for people first coming to grasps with this. I can tell, I have studied this for years and even I fell for it again. But silence and perseverance wins. It doesn’t hurt less, but it’s better to be alone then in bad company. Better now then later…

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome to the community 🙏💯🙌🙌😇

[@annaconcepcion1249]

Hahaha I loved when you blew the insect away!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@jennifernewton4637]

Haha… all the little things we love about Andrew… he’s ADORABLE! 🥰😇🥰

[@panagiotiskarelas5063]

The narcissist works as a mirror where the empathetic person projects that it did not receive the love and worth they were always believing others will see in them. So the narcissistic person acts as a confirmation for the empathetic person that it is not worthy enough, it acts as a reminder of the unconscious old false self that haunts it. This is higher seeing here people, it transcends many stuff, it is a call for a deep awareness of what is really going on.

[@LisaTravis-m7e]

He met a younger widow in the bar, and boom, I was history after 23yrs

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@victory902]

Every thing you say is 100% spot on. How on earth could I have been so deluded and believe in the emmy award performance, and then after the marriage certificate Jekyl & Hyde switch occurred. He thought it was "forever", after awhile I asked whose death and when are we talking about here? Life was so miserable I filed for divorce. Now it is better, learning and growing, got the school of hard knocks degree. Thank you for this good information. Namaste

[@sandipatrick1939]

I'm still in the trauma bond, Andrew.

[@janetsmith9958]

🎉 morning here🎉 no love now works both ways 😊❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@hannastrack4310]

I became the target and found the truth

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@carlosgiron1246]

Great video Andrew. Yes it's very true he never loved me he pretended to care but mostly just used me took from me and treated me very badly. Towards the end maybe 3 weeks before I was discarded i noticed that he would say ill be right back and would take his bag of clothes and not come home for 3 days. He would ignore my calls and texts and come back home wearing clothes that didn't belong to him. If i asked him what is going on he would get very angry yell at me call me worthless and jealous and accuse me of trying to keep him from having friends. He did this a few times then i saw messages from some guy to him romantic one's and how much he enjoyed their time together. I confronted him again he got on his knees and swore to me that nothing is going on and that he loved me and he would be the man i fell in love with for a day. Then one day after everything was gone no more money and things no place to go, he got on his phone and we were in the street and a man drove up he got into the car and just said I'll be back.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 😌🙌🙏❤️

[@Friesnchicken]

She cheated on me the month after our wedding. Idk why I didn’t run. I stayed 7 years a bunch of abuse, conditioning, she discarded me. Truly a blessing

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@tedtuira6415]

My narc actually stole money off her own children ( nearly their entire savings!!). This is something that the children will remember their entire life

[@hellfire1510]

Hi Andrew, I'm trying to keep up with your daily videos, from which I'm learning, trying to understand everything and also confirming with every episode what kind of monsters these creatures are. We didn't see or didn't want to see what we actually saw and subconsciously felt all along. All of your videos are telling and accurately describing life with this creature, however I want to say that this is (in my opinion) the most powerful video you have created so far. I wish you and everyone else all the best and I firmly believe that one day we will meet the person who truly deserves us and who we truly deserve as well. We are better than them. I am sending you and all your subscribers strength and positivity from the Czech Republic. By the way - I am preparing my channel about covert narcissism, if my information, experience and study will help at least one person I will be very happy.

[@betsyfriedauer2398]

I'm new to this channel and absolutely love how you tell it like it is. I recently (3 weeks ago) left my Narcissistic relationship and your words keep me going and knowing that I am doing the right thing. 😀🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome to the community 😌🙏🙌😊

[@lashondamurray9779]

So true🙏❤️

[@Mariah.B11]

And never a truer word was spoken. But they were generous with their food servings.Good idea 💡 doing pro/con list.

[@BrandonBreezeyVirgo]

Thanks for the content! I share quotes of my own daily as well as my own positive messages too.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@SusanW-lc8rp]

one of the most painful things to accept is the truth that he didn't love me. Although I thought he did, it was all a lie, a painful lie.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@kathleencondit1660]

Thank you. Got the message, and have finally accepted that both of my siblings did not love me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@cc1k435]

I have one I'm wondering about now myself. But after we had a rather unhappy exchange last week on the phone, I see that whatever his problem is, he's not in a good headspace. I hope he's not a lost cause, but I have a bad feeling about him. 😢

[@alimccreery755]

I understand that. 👍I know he didn’t and I already came to terms on that. I’ll live 👍

[@marcoilardi1532]

I. Was. Never. With. One. Because I have. Bee. Playing. Them. All. The. Time. Because. I. Have been. Looking for the right. Time. To. Leave. And. I’m. Free. Thanks. Brother ❤😊❤. Love you. Best

[@leviwhite3553]

Sad part is I can see where things took a turn for the worst. In hindsight maybe for the best. When my car was repossessed at the end. I couldn't provide her transportation anymore. Nevermind the argument one day and removing of the family decals I just got for her. Or the stripping of all things related to her from the vehicle multiple times. It was the loss of a resource. I couldn't provide this anymore and I held the guilt over her because she knew she didn't have a license. It also didn't have insurance but I used those resources for the oldest daughters hair. I was a good step dad right. So it began there and it ends here with my understanding. So should you.

[@nerdgirl4721]

Take Emotional Power

[@robharris5467]

They don't have it so they offer up an ersatz version. I'm getting it now. They don't realise though how phony it is.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@8931888]

This is a perfect layman's summary in what it's like been caught in that charlottes Webb. So good to see it all so clearly and learning from its brutality. The only time I look back is to see just how far I've come and what it was like. I'm not the same as I once was but far greater than I ever believed just how much more and stronger it made me. I have life- I choose life and it's only just begun. Thank you Andrew No longer it's slave. Phoenix has risen and soaring

[@lauraantic1384]

Thank you so much I was wondering how can somebody you love so much be his boxing bag ,or just a toy to play now I need you and than I dont that people shouldnt walk free by law ,all this abuse when someone put your life in danger is sick act from sick person .Wish all to stay safe ,love is not abuse

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌🙏😉

[@almosthome5971]

I just have a question. The narc in my world doesnt ask me to go to the store because he has to control all spending....Im sure thats only one reason. But do other narcs go out and buy stupid stuff...like, Ill say, I need this and this from the store...of course I expect to NOT get what I really wanted, but then he brings home all kinds of foods that I didnt ask for. If I say ...I need to do this, (whatever it is), then he immediately gets up and goes and gets "this". He acts like he is serving ME all the time, always doing things I didnt ask him to do. I cant explain it well...maybe its to make me think he does so much for me???? Is that the hoovering part? Cause, I get that hoovering is anything to make you like them....but he KNOWS...maybe thats it....he knows it ticks me off that he would basically control what I eat, fully knowing that I am only one person and cant eat all that by myself before it goes bad. See...thats why I was so blown away to connect him with that word. He tries...or so it seemed TRIES to do nice things, .... He ran down a list of things he "does for me", like opening the blinds in the morning, and feeding the cats. I had to tell him just because he opens the blinds because naturally, plants need light, doesnt mean he did it for me...I didnt benefit, my plants did. He did it for my plants...etc etc..and when I got through his entire list, the only thing he actually does for me is go to the store and buy my groceries. But why would he go to the extreme of buying a whole bunch of stuff that's going to rot because I cant eat 3 heads of lettuce, 9 tomatoes, etc etc by myself. See, this is where I question myself. Clearly, he's providing so I cant say he doesnt....even though its nothing I asked for. Is that it??? I just wish they'd communicate. Id really like to be a fly on the wall of his brains just to figure out why he does such stupid stuff. But then, yuck! Nevermind...😂😂😂

[@DamianSeverin]

You even know my movie 👌. Thank you for your great help. ❤️Damian

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙌🙏

[@mostHigh23]

Mine's would talk about his son to other people behind his back😢