Narcissism: Five Types of Gaslighting

[@laken5987]

could listen to this man talk all day. His intelligence is so high. No weasel words, no null syllables, just confident information.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Same here-he’s so sharp. No fluff, just facts. What stood out the most for you?

[@eliadaniel6236]

Damn i was gaslighted into believing that I’m a narcissist for days. Amazing.

[@caique7792]

Narcissists are really good at spotting anything that could be perceived as a hypocrisy because they need to cover their own asses 24/7, and they're very aware of what they're doing because it's intentional manipulation-- so if you're being picked apart and misrepresented and being called a narcissist, odds are the person pointing their finger is a narcissist.

[@sandraressel2262]

@@caique7792 Good old projection!🙂

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

That can be tricky. Narcissists often project unto others the things that they are guilty.

[@romnickmepico4882]

That’s rough. Gaslighting really messes with your mind, making you doubt yourself. How did you finally realize what was happening?

[@SaraAndreaSayon]

I appreciate you posting this. In addition to being insightful, your examination of subtle gaslighting tactics in relationships is extremely pertinent to the modern world. For anyone looking to make healthier and more genuine connections, this podcast is a great resource.

[@ricardofrancis5814]

A Gaslighter makes you question your own perceptions. How would you avoid a Gaslighter from gaining control over you?

[@Fidel-b6t]

@@ricardofrancis5814 To avoid a gaslighter from gaining control over you, you need to Trust your own feelings and observations. Documenting incidents can help you stay grounded in reality and counteract any attempts to distort your perceptions.

[@ricardofrancis5814]

​@@Fidel-b6tThat's true! Trusting your own feelings and observations is a crucial step in protecting yourself from gaslighting manipulation. Its always important to remember; "Never let anyone else define your reality or dictate your emotions."

[@romnickmepico4882]

Spotting subtle gaslighting is super important. This podcast is a solid tool for building healthier connections.

[@Fidel-b6t]

@@romnickmepico4882 That is what you called 'Discernment' and i learned that the Holy Spirit in partnership with your obedience and prayer to Him will cause that gift to operate!

[@owenja7708]

This brother is explaining my very recent experiences its overwhelming. Is as though God sent me a counselor. Thanks bro.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Thank you. Be sure to listen to our latest podcast. How to Deal With Narcissism in Relationships. It gives practical strategies for dealing with gaslighting.

[@romnickmepico4882]

That’s amazing. When things hit like that, it's like divine timing. Which part really got to you?

[@isabellaclint7796]

Thank you for putting this up. I have washed a couple of videos on narcissism but none was this direct and straight to the point. No fluff and everything said was damn correct. This is great!

[@romnickmepico4882]

Awesome, right? I can totally relate. It’s great when the info is direct and no-nonsense. Glad it hit the mark for you!

[@rosemine29]

That's why gaslighting is also known as 'crazy-making' because the manipulator makes the victims feel unstable with their own thoughts, thus making them question their own capability to think straight and to even hold on to their sanity. This extreme kind of psychological abuse is so covert yet very damaging!

[@Fidel-b6t]

Absolutely, gaslighting is an incredibly insidious form of psychological manipulation. The manipulator's tactics can make victims doubt their own perceptions and reality, leading to a profound sense of confusion and instability. This covert abuse can erode self-esteem and mental well-being over time, making it essential to recognize and address it. Healing from such experiences often requires strong support systems and professional help to rebuild trust in one's own thoughts and feelings.

[@romnickmepico4882]

It's wild how gaslighting can mess with your mind like that. How did you manage to stay sane through it?

[@Fidel-b6t]

@@romnickmepico4882 For me, there are a lot of factors to consider but one thing that comes on my mins is to never lose your sanity by being aware of your screen time. I believe it is a factor that influences why gaslighting is now common because its wildly being "mocked" through entertainment.

[@romnickmepico4882]

@@Fidel-b6t Keeping an eye on screen time can really help maintain your sanity. Gaslighting's often glamorized, so staying mindful is smart.

[@rebeccapaula2969]

Lovely… short and concise. My former boyfriend was a narcissist and I can relate with these traits you just mentioned here. I can boldly say he used every of these methods on me. I was almost losing my mind before I had to back out of the relationship.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

We appreciate your comment!

[@romnickmepico4882]

That’s heavy. Narcissists can really do a number on you. What was the moment you knew you had to leave?

[@chantalfontain9679]

Yes, the mental health effects of gaslighting are devastating, I am still recovering after being out of a narcissistic relationship for many years. I can relate to the second point, "Denial of Emotions." He would always tell me what I am feeling and would never accept how I told him I was feeling about the relationship.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

That is so true. i see many clients who struggle to recover and to relearn how to trust their judgment.

[@generomaguera]

I can empathize with your experience, and it's commendable that you're on the path to recovery. Gaslighting's impact on mental health is indeed devastating.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Gaslighting messes with you long-term. It’s rough when someone denies your feelings. How are you dealing with those emotions now?

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

One of the most severe and bizarre effects of gaslighting is the victim loses their sense of right and wrong, usually minimizing such things as the narcissist's affairs but feeling a deep sense of guilt over something minor that made the narcissist unhappy.

[@carmenhenry2144]

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[@romnickmepico4882]

So true. Gaslighting really messes with your sense of right and wrong, making you feel guilty over little things.

[@Sol-ui2if]

An educated empath is the narcissists' worse nightmare. Dark psychology vs alignment. Machiavellism vs meditation masters.

[@romnickmepico4882]

How do you stay grounded?

[@paulaheather919]

i know I’m not a narcissist, I’m actually overly empathic. Which is why being convinced that i was a narcissist for any amount of time is a big deal. How he did that I’ll never understand. Narcissist magic

[@romnickmepico4882]

Crazy how narcissists can make you question yourself. Being super empathetic can make you a target. How did you snap out of it?

[@kattlyn1511]

A narcissist can buy everyone’s love and attention but in the end, he’s going to be alone af.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Sadly, that is often the case. Usually, people become burnt out and just can't put up with the behavior anymore.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Exactly. They might end up isolated. How do you think they cope when that loneliness sets in?

[@julietemmanuel7507]

Yes I’m dating one and I didn’t realize it until I was told to enforce my boundaries and protect my unborn child environment.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Juliet, those are very important steps. Be sure to listen to our latest podcast, How to Deal With Narcissism in Relationships. It gives other practical strategies for dealing with gaslighting.

[@romnickmepico4882]

That’s intense, especially with a baby on the way. How are you setting boundaries to keep things safe and calm?

[@tyrone8399]

My parents are both narcissists. My father is a malignant narcissist and my mom is a covert narcissist. What a couple. It’s a nightmare to live with them. I had to be my own parent because they would only care about themselves. I had to be a dad and a mom to my siblings. When we all finished college by working part time, we moved out and got jobs. Lo and behold, they both demanded half of our salaries because they endured raising us. Wow. We cut ties with them and helped our grandparents instead. We’re all worried that we might become narcissist like them but we’re thankful we’re not. It’s so hard but we’re so glad we survived.

[@Fidel-b6t]

Wow, what an incredibly challenging journey you've been through. It's truly inspiring to hear how you and your siblings managed to rise above such difficult circumstances. Cutting ties with your parents must have been an incredibly tough decision, but prioritizing your well-being and supporting your grandparents shows immense strength and resilience. Remember, the fact that you're concerned about becoming narcissistic like your parents is a sign of your self-awareness and empathy-traits that are far from narcissistic. Keep focusing on your personal growth and continue supporting each other. You've already shown that you can overcome great adversity, and that strength will continue to guide you. Stay strong and keep believing in yourselves.

[@romnickmepico4882]

That’s so rough. Props to you and your siblings for making it out and finding a better path. Glad you’re doing better now.

[@Fidel-b6t]

@@romnickmepico4882 Its hard to believe that there are parents who have this kind of trait. So sad! But I believe through this video it will be resolved soon!

[@ricardofrancis5814]

After watching this video and learning about Narcisistic Gaslighting, I would never want to be in any form of entanglement with such manipulative and abusive persons. Gratitude for shedding the light on identifying "The Five types of Gaslighting" and how to deal with these types of abusive persons.

[@CryptobdSchool]

I completely resonate with your sentiment. Learning about narcissistic gaslighting and its various manifestations is eye-opening and serves as a crucial reminder to be vigilant in protecting ourselves from manipulative and abusive individuals. Understanding the five types of gaslighting and learning how to effectively deal with such behaviors is empowering and essential for maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships

[@ricardofrancis5814]

​@@CryptobdSchoolYes, it's so important to protect our own mental health from Narcisism. In this way we can effectively help others with the support needed.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Knowing about these gaslighting types helps a lot. Glad the video made it easier to spot and avoid them.

[@ricardofrancis5814]

Let's dive a bit deeper on this topic! How can you rebuild trust in yourself and others after being Gaslighted? And how long do you think the healing process will take?​@@romnickmepico4882

[@myrosesorcera8589]

Topics about narcissism and gaslighting are scattered in social media nowadays. I'm glad to find topics like this from professional and experts because it could really help us avoid narcissistic people and identify gaslighting before it ruins our self-perception. I look forward to more topics like this.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Absolutely. Expert advice on these topics is like a life hack for spotting and avoiding gaslighting. What’s been the most helpful tip for you?

[@muncel6572]

My dad and brother are narcissists. They are family members and I love them, but I extremely limit my time around them.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

That is not a bad survival strategy. that along with having healthy boundaries are key principles.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Family dynamics can be really hard, but how do you manage to keep your distance while still showing love?

[@cardiboas9770]

I once had a housemate who was always self-important, slick & smooth. Within a couple of days of moving in he was angry at me because I never asked how his day at work had been. Whilst I was teaching guitar lessons in the lounge he would repeatedly walk through to the kitchen smoking and whistling to entice an argument. Sociopath and/or Narcissist?

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

He could just be a very self-centered person. However, narcissists typically have a great sense of self-importance and lack consideration for others due to their lack of empathy.

[@romnickmepico4882]

That sounds rough. His behavior is classic narcissist-manipulative and looking for trouble. Glad you’re out of that situation.

[@jermainelong1843]

Thanks for getting to the point!! I notice a strange irony with many other videos on narcissism being far too long and wordy.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Straight to the point is way better. It’s nice to get clear info with a loving touch.

[@Sol-ui2if]

Narcissists use dark psychology. They use also victimisation. They are never the villain. Or the hero or the victim.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Narcissists are pros at playing the victim, never the villain. It’s sneaky. How do they manage to keep you from noticing?

[@Sandra.....2]

Thanks for highlighting the types of gaslighting. It’s bad that some people do not know that they are manipulated. I love the way you breakdown and relate this illustrations to each example. A narcissist is greatly loved by outsiders that they may not believe the victim when they cry out. With this explanation one can look out for themselves.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Absolutely. It’s crazy how many don’t see the manipulation. Glad the breakdown helps people recognize and protect themselves from narcissists.

[@Hymnology001]

Doc you are so right 100% New subscriber

[@sandraressel2262]

Excellent video! Very good teacher.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Thank you for the compliment. Glad you liked the video.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Loved it! Super clear and straightforward. Glad to see this explained so well.

[@ailafaithporlas2803]

This podcast by Michael Hart sheds light on the insidious tactics narcissists employ for manipulation, exploring five covert types of gaslighting. It's a poignant reminder that gaslighting's psychological impact spans generations, as highlighted through a reference to the book of Genesis. Hart's message underscores the importance of self-awareness in relationships to identify and combat these subtle forms of manipulation.

[@CryptobdSchool]

While highlighting narcissistic manipulation tactics is important, drawing parallels with the book of Genesis may oversimplify complex psychological dynamics. Gaslighting's impact spanning generations is plausible but could be overstated without concrete evidence. While self-awareness is valuable, addressing manipulation often requires more than just individual awareness-it may necessitate professional intervention and systemic changes in relationships.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Self-awareness in relationships is a must. Have you ever spotted these tactics in your own life?

[@samanthajames3719]

when you realize family members are matching perfectly to the descriptions

[@Sol-ui2if]

Greet them with non action. Pretend you do not see their abuse. Act like you are not at home. But smile. That confuses tf out of someone who wants to control you and break you. Narcissists are powerless when you render them and all their narratives, insignificant. When you don't like something, take away its only power: your attention. Nothing has power over you unless you give permission. The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play. Stay aligned. Stay aware. Stay blessed. And always trust your gut, your intuition. When you sense a person or a situation is off, it usually is. Trust your inner wisdom. Never mind the Bible. God is a narcissist too. Read the book and you will see the red flags related to the ,,loving,, character of an abuser who wants to control your Life and mind. Never mind allowing a character in a book to psychologically abuse you.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Totally. It’s heavy when you see family members match those descriptions so well. It’s like a punch to the gut.

[@farmeilwinn9933]

A narcissistic partner will make you feel weary always because of their toxic behavior. Gaslighting is among the ways of the narcissists to control and seek dominance over their partner; something that is really exploitative. The victims of narcissist should learn how they are being gaslighted so they can be empowered to leave the narcissist

[@romnickmepico4882]

Narcissists can really wear you down with their gaslighting. Learning to spot it can help you break free.

[@reggie8896]

So, the devil is not only the father of lies but also of gaslighting. Oh my!

[@jermainelong1843]

It makes sense - gaslighting=manipulation, manipulation=witchcraft.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

@@jermainelong1843 The devil fits all the traits of narcissism. Sense of grandiosity, lack of empathy, gaslighting...

[@romnickmepico4882]

Absolutely. It’s crazy how gaslighting fits with the devil being the father of lies. Makes the whole thing feel even more twisted.

[@barclaybob1212]

I was in a relationship for ten years. I'm empathic and forgiving. The relationship almost killed me. By the way, I'm a man. I never knew women can also be narcissists. Dumb me!

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Many people make that mistake. However, there are subtle differences. Maybe we should do a show on the subtle differences between male and female narcissists.

[@dkane2067]

Same here was in a relationship for 18 years I’m an empath and spiritual so sadly we attract them. My ex really brought me down it was only my mother passing away that made me realise I need to end it. Can be men or women, narcissistic people are so horrible and have no boundaries.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Narcissism can be so hidden, and it affects everyone, no matter their gender. Glad you’re focusing on healing now.

[@shanzidaAkrar]

Michael Hart's exploration of covert gaslighting techniques in relationships is not only enlightening but also highly relevant in today's world. By drawing parallels to the story from the book of Genesis, he underscores the historical presence of such manipulative behaviors. The podcast's emphasis on the psychological toll that gaslighting takes on victims serves as a stark reminder of its destructive potential. Hart's call to self-examination encourages listeners to be vigilant about recognizing these subtle forms of manipulation in their own relationships, fostering empowerment and a deeper understanding of the dynamics at play. This podcast stands as an important resource for anyone seeking to navigate healthier and more authentic connections.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Michael Hart nails it with his take on covert gaslighting. Connecting it to Genesis shows how timeless these tricks are. His points on the mental toll remind us to stay alert and protect ourselves in relationships. This podcast is a great tool for making healthier connections.

[@kendis8997]

Oops… I use some of these methods on my friends once in a while, especially the ‘majoring on the minor’ stuff. I do that to just cause them to harmer less on a matter. Pls I’m I a narcissist? I only do that once in a while.

[@romnickmepico4882]

You’re not a narcissist, just a human. We all mess up. The fact you’re worried shows you care. Just stay self-aware.

[@gilbertmushure7446]

Very informative. Thank you

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Glad it was helpful!

[@romnickmepico4882]

As a fan of this podcast, I’m really glad for you. Thanks for letting us know!

[@Leona000]

Wow. You must be a fly on my wall. I was told early on that it wasn't his job to make me happy. 30yrs later and all of those examples have happened and more.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Sorry to hear of your ordeal. Are you still in the relationship?

[@Leona000]

@@ElimCounsellingServices We will have our 30th wedding anniversary in a few months. We both love the Lord and each other but still we struggle.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

@@Leona000 Are you getting help to deal with this? Narcissism will wear you down over time and leave you confused.

[@Leona000]

@@ElimCounsellingServices We went to Christian counciling 15 yrs ago. It didn't go well. I'm just trying to take it day by day at this point. I've struggled with depression, anxiety and had what you can call a breakdown. Textbook stuff. I have no other family so I'm determined with God's help, to keep my family together.

[@Hymnology001]

My narc told me the same thing . 😿

[@rebeccakagura9064]

Very valuable information......I feel I can relate to it

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

I hope you are not still in the relationship where you suffered these things.

[@rebeccakagura9064]

@@ElimCounsellingServices No...I walked away a long time ago ..... but then this man still has tendencies of dropping by my house anytime....even when I'm not in the City.....due to the fact that he knows where I stay...... 5 years after the break up...the still can't respect boundaries... I told him not to visit me anymore.....but he still comes to mu house uninvited. .And often when I do attend to his hoot onnoir gate ....he feels the need to snatch my phone......and go through it ....(,like violently snatch it)...... asking....who's this person sending you messages.... Even if I protest against it ....it's like he's been fuelled to do more.... I told him to stop coming around unannounced but he never seems to stop....... Although his pop insnare very random and unexpected......I always feel empty and like I'm always wrong even some of the decisions I've made..... He makes it seems as if he's the one who has made the right choices and I have just been wasting my time .... Usually when I hear a hoot on the gate....I leave my phone far away......or usually send someone (if it's him ....I just end up saying.... "Tell him I'm not around" The very thought of him ..drains all my energy

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

@@rebeccakagura9064 it seems as if he continues to try and control your life. He certainly does not respect your boundaries. What would happen if you do not open your door if he drops by?

[@angelbailey3115]

@@rebeccakagura9064 Sorry to hear that dear....but you need to take some action towards it and try to get a restraining order against him or report it.....what if you should move on.....What if you should have a male friend at your house but he thinks otherwise?.....It's not healthy hun and the last thing you want is it to become physical because it will be....its even better you try and even move....don't put anything past him thinking he won't get physical or he won't take it too far because he WILL dear and that's the last thing you would want...try and take action towards the situation.....I don't know you personally but what I can is that I am 14yrs of age and I've seen alot happen In this world.....and the last thing you want is to end up on the news because narcissist are people who are for themselves!!!!....I wish you the best hun and please take care ❤️💯💗

[@romnickmepico4882]

It’s like a lightbulb moment when you finally see through the manipulation. So relatable.

[@gloriamatiringe782]

Very valuable information here

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Glad it was helpful!

[@romnickmepico4882]

This info is so useful. Understanding these signs can really change how we handle things.

[@Angela-xo5yr]

I think I feel less dumb listening to this video 😂

[@romnickmepico4882]

It’s a relief to feel understood and not alone. You’re definitely not dumb.

[@samrawitbelay3226]

Thank you so much

[@alexanderorah2097]

• denial of emotion • role reversal • majoring on the minor • third-party critics • forget & vanish

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Thank you for the summary.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Those tricks are crazy. Denying emotions and flipping roles just messes with your head. It’s all about keeping you off-balance.

[@hstuJuki-hh2ez]

Michael Hart's exploration of covert gaslighting in relationships sheds light on the insidious tactics employed by manipulators. The linkage to a biblical example from the book of Genesis underscores the timeless nature of gaslighting, emphasizing its enduring presence in human interactions. By urging listeners to scrutinize their relationships for subtle signs, Hart encourages a proactive approach to safeguarding mental well-being in the face of psychological manipulation.

[@romnickmepico4882]

It’s wild how these tricks stick around. His advice to stay sharp is spot on for protecting our mental health.

[@XRTSDFA]

Imagine being a daughter of a narcissist. God stood with me all these years.

[@Leona000]

Daughter and wife..

[@romnickmepico4882]

That’s heavy. Growing up with a narcissist is rough, but it’s powerful how God has been your anchor through it all. Keep holding onto that strength.

[@TC-jj7uh]

Trump is the best example

[@rodearney8960]

Why cos you don’t like him? 😂

[@frederick9460]

Wow! I love this. The message sank well with me… and the animation drove it even harder. Nice concept here, Dr. Hart.

[@joanneroberts3957]

Some good information should be taught in schools

[@romnickmepico4882]

The message and animation really hit home. Dr. Hart’s work always nails it.

[@Sara-vc6rv]

It's really difficult to comprehend how some people can be so cruel to others. I wonder if gaslighters ever experience a sense of conscience or guilt for their actions. What do you think? Do you believe gaslighters are capable of feeling remorse for the harm they cause?

[@romnickmepico4882]

It’s crazy how some people can be so cruel. Gaslighters rarely seem to feel guilt, which makes it even harder to grasp.

[@Fidel-b6t]

Oh, a gaslighter slash narcissist? What a delightful combination! It's like being served a double scoop of manipulation with a side of self-absorption. Who wouldn't want to dance the tango of emotional turmoil with someone so utterly charming and empathetically challenged? It's like a rollercoaster ride of doubt and confusion, with no end in sight. But hey, at least it keeps life interesting, right?

[@ricardofrancis5814]

I can't think of any satisfaction to gain from gaslighting someone. I think that these Narcisists think with a twisted logic. But why do Narcisists gaslight their victims and what do you think they have to gain from it?

[@Fidel-b6t]

@@ricardofrancis5814 honestly, i have no idea but this- this gaslight thing is attached to narcissism. Im not quite sure but im open to conversation about this!

[@ricardofrancis5814]

Personally, I think that this type of abusive psychological tactic used by Narcissists which erodes a person's self-esteem through manipulation, allowing one to question their own sanity just to be in control fueling their own sinister agenda, seem sick and demonic if you ask me. How do you feel about this?​@@Fidel-b6t

[@romnickmepico4882]

Ugh, that combo is brutal! It’s a wild ride of doubt and confusion. Definitely not the “fun” anyone wants.

[@ricardofrancis5814]

From personal experience, dealing with Narcisists Gaslighting, being around persons like these you have to be both knowledgable and spiritually equipped to deal with their tactics and to witness a positive change in their lives. ​@@romnickmepico4882

[@aidenmath6129]

What an educational video. Now, I’m more cautious of the people that walk into my life. I don’t want to have a narcissist around at all.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Thank you! We appreciate the compliment.

[@romnickmepico4882]

It’s smart to be cautious. Knowing what to watch for helps keep toxic people out of your life.

[@ichrabali9641]

Do you think 🤔 In nightclub if someone wife going with other man is good for him. It's nonsense. Is adalry forveden in the bible?

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Sorry, I don't understand your question.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Totally agree, that’s just wrong. Adultery is a big no-no in the Bible. It’s all about trust and respect. See Exodus 20:14-“You shall not commit adultery.”

[@johnlawrence2757]

God never spoke to Eve. That was why it was so easy for the serpent to tempt her away from obedience:- to her it was having to be obedient to her husband, to whom God had delivered the way the truth and the life, and as we all know, no woman is going to stand for that. A good example of narcissism is where inadequately qualified people make KZbin videos in which they imply that they have more qualification than is the case, and give a lot of not well-informed advice in the field they have appointed themselves expert in.

[@joysynmonds9082]

Oh dear. Blaming the bible !

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

Hi Joy. we are not blaming the Bible. The example of gaslighting used from the Bible is that of the serpent(the devil) gaslighting Eve to doubt what she knew God had told her.

[@jermainelong1843]

Joy you've missed the point.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Seems like you missed the point. It’s not about blaming the Bible; it’s about understanding its message on trust and respect.