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If you're the 'SCAPEGOAT' in a NARCISSISTIC family system, it is critical that you understand the concept of REACTIVE ABUSE. “Reactive abuse” is when the perpetrator of abuse deliberately provokes another into reacting to their abusive behavior aggressively. As with 'DARVO' ('Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender', J. Freyd), reactive abuse is a result of a narcissistic family member's ability to successfully manipulate the 'scapegoat child' (or adult child) into acting out in an aggressive manner so they can then 'blame shift'. In this video, Rebecca C. Mandeville, author of the best-selling book on family scapegoating abuse ('Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed'), helps adult survivors of FSA learn how to recognize when they're in danger of falling into the 'reactive abuse' trap. See video chapters and resources, below:
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Video Chapters:
0:00 - Introduction
01:19 - What Is Reactive Abuse?
03:06 - Reactive Abuse and Narcissists
03:48 - Blame Shifting
04:22 - Example of Reactive Abuse
06:57 - Identifying Reactive Abuse
07:56 - Reacting versus Reactive Abuse
08:47 - Reactive Abuse: A Warning
09:34 - "Am I the Abuser Now?"
🔥Trigger Warning: If you feel activated watching this video, turn it off and perhaps return to it at another time or consult a licensed Mental Health professional. Viewer comments may contain descriptions of child abuse and neglect and can also be activating.
Rebecca C. Mandeville is a thought leader and recognized expert in abusive family systems. She is also the author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role' and a clinical expert in KZbin's Health Partner Program. You can visit her website at scapegoatrecovery.com.
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