Narcissist Mirror You

[@jenniferschira7231]

I would get the mirroring from that person then they would make me feel like I have the problem and make me feel guilty about even bringing the issue up. I would walk away feeling like crap.

[@IMTinaMarieJ]

Same here

[@jannlewandowski5540]

They try to stay a step ahead of u. This always happened with us.

[@jessicafrank944]

Mine would be very immature saying, "Anything you throw at me I can easily throw back at you!" Which is highly defensive and immature. Anything was an argument to him. I wasn't attacking him at all but he treated every little thing as an attack. There was no way to discuss anything with him without it turning into something bad.

[@jackidezell3401]

Yes instead of owning the trauma he caused me he would tell me I'm triggered by what my ex's did 23 years ago that I'm totally over. No I'm threatened by your current behavior being the same as your recent past behavior! Or calling me vengeful and ragefull when I'm trying to talk calmly about how I feel....

[@SoigneWave]

OMG. She totally mimicked in the beginning using her parent as the traumatic event. I realized later that she was using her parents' death to get sympathy any time someone held her accountable or started to figure her out. When I started noticing discrepancies, and foolishly calling them out, she started with "You are the only person I have issues with." 🙄😒 When I finally left, people in her life magically started getting sick, she got sick, all these things started happening that required her to hoover me even though she'd already launched the smear campaign. I cannot believe I considered fighting for that

[@abdulc5726]

They use mirroring to force a connection. The last one I dealt with tried to use things associated with my faith and his face to mirror me. But it was soo obvious that when I called him out he didn't have an explanation as to why he was doing it. I could see who he was and he later he confirmed it, he was soo messed up, I'm not even gonna start.

[@vintagebabyseventythree6244]

I always ended up looking after her when I was sick because she was sicker

[@Dee-xs5yy]

It always get projected back. This is exactly the same excuses my ex used when he was caught cheating.

[@sanfernvalley619]

Even if you’re still a narcissist I respect you so much more for being honest. I honestly wish my person would have said these things to me instead of denying me of the fact that I had no idea these behaviors even exist as a pattern.

[@SoigneWave]

This was the thing that became ultra irritating towards the end of our interaction. That and the slow realization that she was acquiring my character traits. The only good thing is my traits are pretty specific to certain topics of interest and she can't pretend forever. I do not miss her always trying to one up or prove how much better she was than everyone. Even the people she has now smeared me to who have ditched me for her. I no longer have that roiling anxiety seeing her call come across my phone or her DM.

[@Anne-go9ol]

It's almost like a competition. They totally mirror the way you talk. You're hurt..? You hurt me more

[@rebekahjette6304]

Oh my goodness, YES! He is like a hypochondriac almost!

[@Lulu-citizenscienceformonarchs]

THIS!!! OMG!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!!

[@IMTinaMarieJ]

This is EXACTLY what I go through and I never knew there was even a name for this. I’m learning so much through these videos. My husband mirrors back his feelings to me every single f*Kin time and it drives me freakin nuts. Nothing ever gets resolved because all he does it flip it back on me. He did it yesterday after I expressed how I’ve been feeling and my experience which he likes to call “an opinion”🙄 His reply is always “ u make me feel the same way.” And there’s never any real apology, it’s just “I’m sorry i made u feel that way but I yelled because u don’t listen…I’m sorry I cheated but it’s because I didn’t feel love from u and the other women (those he’s cheated with) listen to me…I’m sorry for all Ive done to make u feel bad, I love u but i never felt u ever loved me.”

[@YoutubesFromWayback]

The things you've studied for years, things you've enjoyed long before them, the skillsets, (even experiences) you posses or have accomplished. its like they're always in high competition mode with you-no matter what it is.

[@dcikaruga]

I learnt this years before understanding narcissism, and quickly realized these people can't be trusted, they're were always sneaky and actually quite shallow people as well. Always noticed how childish these people are, just like narcissists, they never seem to have much intellect and lacked depth, I always respected people that weren't afraid to speak their mind, disagree and even have a different opinion, yet they just don't exhibit these qualities. So easy to spot these people once you get into the right mindset and have that maturity.

[@heidiharris9227]

So spiritually....you bonded with your wife and became a Christian and got healing through her spirit in Christ 😄😄 Wow. God is powerful.

[@joeycooper6223]

Learning so much thank you

[@RenataLocutora]

Where do the narcissist learn all this same strategy ? Becouse all of them follow the same steps , like a book . This “ evil mind games “ are always the same ! How it’s possible? Have a book where narcissists learn all the steps to go people crazy ?

[@cheriemugo2389]

It comes from Satan... same devil renting people's bodies.

[@rebekahjette6304]

Thank you do much for explaining this!

[@nv_chino]

I LIKE GOING OUTSIDE . FAV ACTIVITY TO DO IN THE WHOLE WORLD

[@Yoshibelle615]

mine is doing to to have a connection i have me nose pierced he got it while with we’re together but removed it now he’s trying to get me back he said he’s getting it redone i said good i like it he says man i liked it but he was fishing for info if he should to make me like him again and he’s also starting to pick up my catch phrases lol 😂

[@antonioortega2588]

My ex said her stomach was hurting when I was having some really bad abdomen pain. My pain kept on for a few days and she kept up saying that she was having the pain too. 8 days later it kept on for me and it turned out that my appendix busted after I had a CT scan. I had to have surgery and she finally stopped complaining of her pain. You can't make this stuff up.

[@Indigodream0]

OMG! You sound just like my husband!

[@charmainehanlon7444]

They Google and then they have it 🤣

[@jaulloa21]

Alright, ive come to the conclusion that Narcissism isnt a real thing. Because everyone gas the ability to do these things

[@CrystallineAlchemist]

It’s most definitely is a personality disorder. Very few have it diagnosed because of how they are. Only when they hit bottom or lose something they still have ‘need’ for they MIGHT change. I haven’t meet anyone as honest about npd as this guy and Lee hammock. Now I have the language to use calling out his abuse. He only changes enough to get me to stay. And that is just fake too

[@jaulloa21]

@Shaina Berry npd is a disorder. When the person carries many traits, then it identities him or her with npd. The victims are caught off guard to the manipulations. These are coping mechanisms from past traumas; These Narcissists use to cope. Fine. Its real but also curable.

[@trishk5686]

@Justin U If you can say this, you've clearly never experienced the abuse. You're lucky. Unfortunately, it's mind boggling, but very real.

[@jaulloa21]

@Trish K i have, trust me. And still working at it. Its really insecurities being exploited. Know that the victim also has those narcissistic tendencies.

[@trishk5686]

@@jaulloa21 there's a big difference between tendencies and known patterns of behavior. Good luck on your healing.