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In his childhood, the “love” of the narcissist’s mother (or, later in life, father) was conditioned on his/her performance.
In intimate setting, the narcissist’s partners are substitute mothers (maternal figures).
To gain their love, to be rendered lovable, the narcissist feels compelled to perform.
Hence the performative shared fantasy.
Grandiosity gap creates frustration-aggression which is the aim of the shared fantasy as it leads to separation-individuation.
Narcissists: arrested stunted development, age-inappropriateness
Compensatory strategies: antisocial-defiant vs. conforming pseudo-normalcy
Childhood: mimicry, identity formation, separation-individuation (both strategies combined in secure base)
Adolescence: peers, role models, overt rebellion=conformity
Adulthood: life plan, goal attainment, shared fantasy (in lieu of object relations)
Middle age: diffuse mortification, rebellion, anxiety/panic, regression (“midlife crisis”), shared fantasy, impaired mate selection
Senescence (old age): consequences (social isolation, ostracism, incarceration, indigence)
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