If there is one thing I know for sure... you are not missing out on anything good. All you're missing out on is endless abuse and manipulation.
@NarcSurvivor6 жыл бұрын
That's creepy... how do you know my name? Lol
@NarcSurvivor6 жыл бұрын
Ohhhh, makes sense now lol. Good to see you like the Royal We :)
@sunshines45556 жыл бұрын
Yep.. to the YEARS of abuse thing.
@Love.AnitaBlue7176 жыл бұрын
WE ARE WARRIORS!!!! Happy for YOU! Peace ; )'
@Love.AnitaBlue7176 жыл бұрын
@@NarcSurvivor sorry guys I listened in...That was funny!! Peace to you guys! We are in the driver's seat. The abusers are getting theirs! Women Rule!!!! And MEN that value Us. They are out there... help Me Find ONE!!...Soon!!! Peace ; )'
@debrahelgeson66775 жыл бұрын
45 years!! Tired & sad. Never knew this until the last 5 years. Changed myself knowing he can’t change. Found myself again. Grateful.
@Marleebeyda5 жыл бұрын
bravo
@ysanchez72925 жыл бұрын
Debra Helgeson I'm 46 and truly feel the same sad ,empty , cause of covert parents, Religious community, and en ex left me , beyond what I could bear...Im still hanging on thru grace , but left empty...God bless you
@heismineandiamhis15784 жыл бұрын
Never too late!
@kakumah4 жыл бұрын
Same here, good for you. Take care 🤗
@lifetrials94114 жыл бұрын
Omg!! Same here Debra! 40 yrs of marriage and knew he had been cheating.. just didn’t prove it until he left me and our sick adult daughter. Almost too much to bear! I’m sorry for you my friend .. listen to Eckhart Tolle’s book, “The Power of Now”. He saved my life !!! Prayers for your healing 💙
@SAnn-mc1od6 жыл бұрын
It's like they live to torment you and then claim to be the victim
@riyamitraministries6 жыл бұрын
They play the victim card all the time to gain fresh supply
@MamaEarth76 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@sereensammour95336 жыл бұрын
Omg yes
@Rootword76 жыл бұрын
I thought I was clever enough to not put myself in this situation. They are good at their act. Never fails. I cut her off, and she started getting touchy-feely again. I fell for it. Stupid....
@sunshines45556 жыл бұрын
They do live to torment you.
@derochemiles41366 жыл бұрын
Narcs are true wolves in sheep clothing.
@leed26245 жыл бұрын
Yes they are!
@Tara-id3rk3 жыл бұрын
100%. But they accuse others of being just that!
@margaretboehm44853 жыл бұрын
Yes!! I have seen this more and more in last few years, covert narc, so toxic.. to me only of course 😥
@kjsfl3863 жыл бұрын
They are empty meat suits
@Rahel88116 жыл бұрын
We are LIGHT they are DARK. we are the TRUTH they are LIES! I’m healing!
@franksaccomanno73375 жыл бұрын
Rahel T Rocca - A perfect 100% amen to all you said!
@shakaboom10005 жыл бұрын
😍😍 same. Xxx This is Truth.
@narcdramaunwanted42915 жыл бұрын
Yes,we are the LIGHT -they is in the dark..
@shakaboom10005 жыл бұрын
@Hagop D watch Once upon a time on Netflix. I watched it after my ex (narc) cheated in me. It really made me think of them as dark souls think Rumplestiltskun in the show. Art was teaching me about life.
@shakaboom10005 жыл бұрын
@Hagop D It's almost a year on and still he continues to try and hurt me. It doesn't impact me like it used to so I am taking back my power, however it's so unsettling as he totally believes his own lies. Completely warped. I'm just glad I'm free and able to become who I was meant to be without all this toxic energy around me.
@trayc85736 жыл бұрын
The world is full of monsters with friendly faces and angels full of scars!!
@redeemerl52125 жыл бұрын
So true
@Wisdomseeker_7775 жыл бұрын
Sad, but true
@barrywhite85145 жыл бұрын
Absolutely true...well said
@teresadexter99655 жыл бұрын
they can even be in churches.....pretending to be godly while being covertly controlling and abusive....wolves dressed as sheep.......even deceiving church leaders......we all need discernment
@barrywhite85145 жыл бұрын
Teresa Dexter You are so right Teresa, often the only way to identify them is by Prayers for discernment and wisdom. Satan wants to infiltrate to undermine Christs Church! God bless you Sister, In Christ, Brian
@l.58324 жыл бұрын
Does anyone else get physical symptoms when trying to heal from narcissistic abuse? I have been diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety, but I get headaches, terrible fatigue, sore throat, dizziness,....when I get on a site like this a read about other people going through similar situations as me I can leave comments and I notice I am feeling better. The symptoms come and go.
@privateperson57692 жыл бұрын
yes. i do get physical symptoms ..they literally make me ill. they r my main trigger for terrible anxiety. u r not alone, i have to go no contact for this reason. and get some healing in on myself.
@gracemoonsamy74572 жыл бұрын
All that nd tremors as well. I only had head tremors but it's now affecting my whole body.
@mandycote56622 жыл бұрын
Those symptoms are triggers from the deep rooted stress - it’s like fight or flight! Fight by flight!
@mandycote56622 жыл бұрын
YUP! 👀
@Conorthedad2 жыл бұрын
My in-laws gave me c-ptsd. I sweat profusely and experienced burn out.
@IO-hg7oe6 жыл бұрын
The covert narcissists are a little different. They are obsessed with social media but rarely post. They use it more for gaining supply and stalking.
@enlightenedone70836 жыл бұрын
#This.
@lashaeleaf88426 жыл бұрын
Exactly 🙌🙌 My ex narcassist stalks people and has only 4 post's on his IG. Has a Facebook, IG, Twitter and Snapchat.. And he's in prison.
@AS-fu1xe6 жыл бұрын
I would respectfully disagree. The covert narcs in my life are quite active on social media
@lashaeleaf88426 жыл бұрын
@@AS-fu1xe My ex narcassist is active also but he never posts any pictures. He has 4 picture on one IG account and one picture on another. He mostly stalks and messages people.
@AS-fu1xe6 жыл бұрын
@@lashaeleaf8842 I guess they come in all shades. I think we give them too little credit for how manipulative and deceptive they can be based on a generalization of social media usage. Some covert narcs will be like your ex, some will be like the ones in my life. In fact, I have members of my family like your ex, who use social media to stalk and they don't post much. But if you flip the script, I think it's not fair to say that we should be suspicious of those who lay low on social media and question if they are covert narcs too. Some people choose to stay off social media or share little for their own personal reasons (it could be safety, a personal sabbatical, etc.) The common thread with all covert narcs is that they deceive others and project an image of what they're not. The other covert narcs in my life use social media to project an image of strength, friendliness and likeability. It's repulsive. I'm sorry you had to deal with a covert narc. Hope you're making strong strides in your healing.
@Niles-Guy6 жыл бұрын
Narcissist Rules 1. Lie to cover the lie 2. Never keeps a promise 3. Blame your partner for everything 4. Triangulate everyone to destroy your reputation 5. Reckless with their money/credit and yours 6. Irrational and insecure 7. Controlling of their partners 8. Rules are for everyone but themselves 9. Will manipulate you to make you feel as if your the crazy one 10. Will pick a special day to destroy you by breaking up with you . Birthdays , holidays etc. Feel free everyone to add to the list
@dragonfly18386 жыл бұрын
11. Violates trust by making you believe and telling you he is only in love with you, then the very next night he doesn't come home. He's out cheating and doing the same thing he did with you in less then 24 hrs. Such a violation of trust of body mind and soul.
@marshfilm6 жыл бұрын
Never apologize or admit a mistake.
@jasonbotting36666 жыл бұрын
Holly s $#t you just described my ex 100%!!
@nostrum86 жыл бұрын
xx. They act like the perfect person until they are pregnant. Then they show you their real face, and also start using the baby as a pawn and to blackmail you.
@jasonbotting36666 жыл бұрын
@@nostrum8 fuck yes. I was never allowed to do anything with my son we had together and my older son....to the degree that she would take him forcefully out of my hands and refuse to give him back. Talk about fucked up....
@malusa95086 жыл бұрын
So true...No real connection with them, non a deep conversation, never the less at a personal level. Sex is all they can offer, nothing meaningful. How can we miss a no relational but transactional relationship.
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+Martha Lucia Santos transactional is exactly perfectly said
@salonsavy64764 жыл бұрын
Yes but even sex with my ex narc was disgusting!!!,,,
@MJ-qb5ph3 жыл бұрын
I can assure you the sex you will have with a normal person post narc will be incomparable. It will be about give and take
@christo36352 жыл бұрын
He's sounds like a real catch
@IronSourceLLC2 жыл бұрын
I could never have a serious adult conversation with her, not once in 5 years. I finally went NC a week ago. The struggle is real. Why can’t they talk?
@franksaccomanno73375 жыл бұрын
Their entire being is a lie, their life is a lie, and even when you catch them in their lies, they lie further with denial. If you catch them off guard, listen to how they stutter and scramble for a BS excuse! Or they will blame YOU for the reason why they lied or why they did a hurtful or cheating thing against you.
@larrywhittemore93623 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely right! The double talk and lies are constant, not to mention the BS excuses! Lol they are not good at! You sound still pissed off? At yourself? For giving them the benefit of the doubt? Yea, me too...F*ck!
@maryculver63123 жыл бұрын
This is mentally exhausting!
@l.58323 жыл бұрын
I realized my mother had 'secrets' and that she lied. After she died (keeping her lies) I have untangled a whole web of lies and deceit she committed against me. It has gotten so bad that I am questioning who my actual siblings are......
@moxiedrapo23913 жыл бұрын
Yep this is true! My husband has told more lies and covered those lies with other lies and when all else fails… he blames me!!! It’s my fault he is obese and can’t control his eating? It’s my fault he can’t fix anything in the house. It’s my fault he can’t control his temper… on and on… a real piece of work.
@tammywallace56113 жыл бұрын
Yes
@ingood08676 жыл бұрын
Yes, the narcissist often treat the primary source the worst.
@luvingmerevivedandblessed85205 жыл бұрын
Which one ever is the primary source when these things keep going from one to the other... Add smdh
@CarolDudeck-bl7kz5 жыл бұрын
I know exactly I was a primary source!
@razasyeda60544 жыл бұрын
I think they won’t change even after marriage. A person who can blatantly lie while looking into your eyes can DO ANYTHING
@jamesrutter4100 Жыл бұрын
ESPECIALLY AFTER MARRIAGE! THEY THINK THEY OWN YOU
@nancylloyd-archer19676 жыл бұрын
LISTEN TO THIS MAN! God bless you for your work!
@Love.AnitaBlue7176 жыл бұрын
Yes! We are Living & Learning Together! ; )'
@kimberlyguerin32794 жыл бұрын
Powerful!!!
@karenwhoisthegirlintheadve93483 жыл бұрын
He,s great
@queentrayce28516 жыл бұрын
we are not missing anything ....only thing he did was serial cheat n lie n steal n manipulate me I don't miss this
@tmichele89226 жыл бұрын
Trayce 33 I so agree
@metfanmetfan14776 жыл бұрын
That's a good insight thank you👍
@tanyabyfaith6 жыл бұрын
Same here... all that was my experience as well, no don’t miss it at all! Loving having my life back, it’s peaceful no anxiety no drama, I can breathe again and looks forward to better encounters with better people that will appreciate and respect me!❤️
@metfanmetfan14776 жыл бұрын
@@tanyabyfaith i am realy happy for you 💗
@mrs87926 жыл бұрын
Trayce 33 Amen Trayce!
@victoriaanne48496 жыл бұрын
They're always running from the Truth.
@norman-ankhlove74475 жыл бұрын
Always, confronted with facts, they twist them, say you're inventing or crazy and cowar in the face of evidence, these are very disturbing psychologicalyl traumatizing psychotic beings
@donnafoley96843 жыл бұрын
They're running from JESUS 😇
@tamaratobin11956 жыл бұрын
Lies and the lies got me hurt, he is gone and i see it was only a lie. I feel like a fool to for being fooled. Joke was on me the whole time, i was walking in the forest thinking i was going to get a beautiful flower instead i was blindside by a hungry wolf.
@unspeakablejoy96186 жыл бұрын
you survive the attack from the wolf ,well done because Only the Strong Survive👏👏 they are wolves in sheep clothing
@sungirl99516 жыл бұрын
Me too. I'm a fighter though and would take down his pictures and tell him to get out but all then while didn't know about narcissists. Lucky I got discarded before I got a disease or something. We just got married too!
@juju97066 жыл бұрын
You are not a fool. Those monsters are very manipulative. Feel grateful for the awareness. You’re the lucky one, stay no contact. All the best.
@Niles-Guy6 жыл бұрын
Crystal Minter you said it best in regards to evil . Anyone willing to destroy another human being for no justifiable reason is evil
@pendejosALV6 жыл бұрын
Same here 16 years , time to live
@brerrabbit42656 жыл бұрын
My ex narc wife didn't come within 1000 miles of being the person she portrayed herself to be on social media or real life. Crazy Daisy... Been no contact for 1 year 5 days.
@toddh24106 жыл бұрын
Brer Rabbit I can't wait until I can call my narc wife my ex narc wife! Congratulations to you!!!!
@teotselek15366 жыл бұрын
I am wishing you to be free forever from her and i sugest not counting the days because that way you will remember her somehow.Stay free as you are already
@av8rixusa2555 жыл бұрын
Haaaaaaa to the DAY 😂
@jamesd42675 жыл бұрын
Lol. Crazy Daisy 😂
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@Axess-sv8nq6 жыл бұрын
My Narc ex-friend always has to be surrounded by admirers. She needs constant attention. She looks at her husband as the bill-payer who keeps the roof over her head while she spends her money on nonsense. She talks to a guy every spare moment of the day that she cheated on her husband with. Sooner or later, she'll get tired of him and then find someone else to cheat on her husband with. It's a never-ending repeat mode. She's been doing it for well over a decade. I never helped her cheat on her husband and I don't want any part of that nonsense. I'm very glad she's out of my life because I was SO not myself when I was under the spell of her manipulation. I'm SO grateful that I woke up!
@MichyGW6 жыл бұрын
I had a similar friend and same story minus she was never married but cheated on every boyfriend and with married men.
@NarcSurvivor6 жыл бұрын
They will do anything for attention... even if it's negative.
@sandrasheldon80706 жыл бұрын
I so get it. The narc friend i had did'nt have a man in her life, but the manipulation, lies, insults and argueing snd worst of all a religious spirit. 10 months free. You go girl.
@metfanmetfan14776 жыл бұрын
Good realy good 👍
@Axess-sv8nq6 жыл бұрын
They're master manipulators. Some are better than others, though. Mine pulled me into her world with the love-bombing and attention. She called me 'closer' to her than anyone she knows online. Of course, as per Narc 101, it was all a lie. She started ghosting me when she hooked onto the guy she's currently cheating on her husband with. She then let one of her new supply friends cut me down in a chat room while she watched. Some friend.
@christinenoelle75684 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!! I married my narcissist 2 times. I just discovered what he is. This helped me. 32 years of abuse and now I have to break free. Great information!
@christianpulisic77843 жыл бұрын
Christine Noelle,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!
@donnafoley21672 жыл бұрын
Same here. My narc. husband left me, then I gave him a second chance and married. I've learned not everyone deserves a second chance.
@carolloraine2236 жыл бұрын
Everything is fake and lies! We are blessed to be away from the pain and find happiness and move on to be Happy! They can't change and the turmoil they experience is for the rest of their lives! How sad. Be grateful and ,if you can, please go No Contact and let the healing begin! 😉
@luvingmerevivedandblessed85206 жыл бұрын
So sad to be like that the rest Of their lives and when you really.loved them. Wow!
@michelleroberts65976 жыл бұрын
Carol Loraine amen.
@michelleroberts65976 жыл бұрын
Leela same here. It's very hurtful. but the more time passes, the less it hurts. they are disgusting human beings.
@TD-lp3lr5 жыл бұрын
I have been in my narcissistic relationship for 10 years I am trying to get out very frustrated he's a liar he's done nothing but disappeared throughout the 10 years the list goes on and on to the things that I have been put through I try to make him happy I try to do what he wants me to do and he still is not happy I didn't know what he was at first until I found some information online and started looking into it further that's when I discovered what he was now I'm used to the abuse and actually miss him when I'm away from him one time he actually disappeared leaving me and my kids stranded in a strange place and blame the whole thing on me when I seen him again a week later saying that he was not with anyone that he was on vacation and he deserve to enjoy his vacation and because I was ready to cut the trip short he wasn't willing to go so he would just leave me where I was and he did why am I addicted to this pain why can I not just walk away I know in my mind it's the right thing to do why can't I just do it
@lynnthibedeau88725 жыл бұрын
@@TD-lp3lr get away. It will just get worse. Think of your own safety and your CHILDREN. You want them to grow up like their father?
@rhondabrande72326 жыл бұрын
These narcissist are a dime a dozen .We're not raised to know how gross humans can be. They deserve each other
@carlogambino19796 жыл бұрын
My ex girlfriend told so much lies I didn't know what was real anymore. Took me a long long time to recover and then get back to normal.....then she messaged me......I never replied I will never speak to her again.
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+carlo gambino good, stay detached
@carlogambino19796 жыл бұрын
I will. It was 26 months I left. It still hurts....but I know I done the right thing....and it still hurts.
@donnafoley96843 жыл бұрын
Good 4 U😀😃👍😊🙃
@TheRoyalWe123Ай бұрын
How are you now??? @@carlogambino1979
@debbiehepler20073 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. He had me thinking I was crazy. Any time I questioned him it was me being crazy or “messing up” our good thing, as he used to say. I actually was grateful to him for putting up with me. OMG how brainwashed I was!
@madisoncannoles49073 жыл бұрын
Yes, I understand, my stb ex would say "I thought we were going to have a good day today" or "you were being so nice but had to ruin it" - if I dare asked why he had to run to his " guy friends" house at 9:30 at night.
@debbiehepler20073 жыл бұрын
@@madisoncannoles4907 uggh! 😪 at least we know now.
@s-t-m96254 жыл бұрын
Horrible feeling when you learn that your man is a narc, it hurt to know that many of us can get hurt with a person like that.
@thereseward78525 жыл бұрын
I totally bought into the lies and spent 8 years trying to reconcile with my ex. I did have strong boundaries- you can’t move in with me- no sex until we are reunited- we each pay for outings and respect me or its over. He could fake respect and it was painful to look at the truth and face the fact that he didn’t care about me. 2 years since I faced the truth- still see him at family gatherings with our children. It’s awesome seeing him and having it be over. As I leave a gathering I’m laughing that I finally saw the light.
@melisentiapheiffer30342 жыл бұрын
I don't even want to get to that point. I just want to forget he ever existed and move to another country.
@kristins44944 жыл бұрын
It's just so sad that these evil people exist . . . and the rest of us have to navigate this life while avoiding them like bombs in a minefield.
@thekellers50413 жыл бұрын
Ahhh. Yes. That explains why my adult kids reflected back so much onto ‘happy-go-lucky-good-time-fun-daddy’ despite us actively living through ‘unapologetic-entitled-controlling-volcanic-rage-monster-daddy’ and found it so difficult to shake the cognitive dissonance and get themselves to safety, freedom, and happiness
@corinnep94106 жыл бұрын
Going through this now. The constant conflict in my mind between the truth and lies. Thank you Kevin I’m extremely grateful for your insight. ❤️
@CH-in8dm6 жыл бұрын
Inika P ....same...hope you are doing ok
@corinneday18625 жыл бұрын
Same...keep going through a madness of light bulb moments bit I'm missing him something chronic. Trying to work out what. I thought we would never split up
@user-cynthiajk6 жыл бұрын
Hello Kevin and thank you. I was clueless regarding almost everything regarding narcissists before I started watching your videos. You have given me so much insight and understanding regarding these toxic and vile people. It’s just who they are and who they always will be. We can only change ourselves. We are worthy of happiness and kindness and love.
@metfanmetfan14776 жыл бұрын
I agree
@carolweintraub68634 жыл бұрын
ha ha ha, don't need any changing as I'm happy with who i am. Just need to keep the freaks away.
@shirleymadiva68866 жыл бұрын
Kevin.....l love the work you put into your video’s....You are a god send. You have changed my life...... such healing💕🙏🏽
@deniseclarke85806 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kevin, once again this video is spot on. My narc had to be amused 24/7, I walked on egg shells and forever arranged things to amuse him. Sex in a lift, in the sea and forest etc etc and still never enough. Life was exhausting, sitting at home I was told I was boring, as soon as my eyes were open I was asked what we doing today, he is never satisfied, everything he does or says is in the extreme. Once my credit cards were maxed out I was no longer welcome to share his lovely life and discarded, he even laughed at me saying "look at you, up to your neck in debt, and boring, at least I don't owe money, I have freedom ". They are living nightmares full of bull shit to get what they want at that time. You do an amazing job Kevin enlightening those of us that don't understand these creatures x
@charlottemuller22334 жыл бұрын
Denise Clarke Theysuck the last drop of blood and then laugh for being stupid!!! Your a desert person.I never knew people could be so deceptive!!!
@soniajoy37272 жыл бұрын
Yurk
@tinybrit32255 жыл бұрын
Omggg I'm in tears right now because this is exactly what I've been dealing with. I've been having second thoughts and missing the narcissist after going no contact because I miss the excitement of all of our adventures and "special places". We always had to be going somewhere or he always had a trip planned, weekend get aways, camping, or day trip adventures. It was fun and exciting, but once I saw the mask fall off he was scary. It was like I was staring evil in the face. It's been a month of no contact and I've been feeling lonely and like I'm missing out...but this video and several of your other videos have been really healing for me. Thank you!
@natashaa25426 жыл бұрын
Your messages HURT in a necessary way because it's so head on. It forces us to FACE, HEAR and SEE the truth which validates the Fear we hold in the back of our mind yet at times dont want to validate. We Need like people like YOU to be the mirror for us to keep reminding us of what's good, what's real and what's wrong. Thank you for your reflections Kevin!
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+Natasha Aiken 🤗🤗🤗🤗💪
@stacysmith87233 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@cherylclay61475 жыл бұрын
"no-no" I LOVE IT!!!!! I married one, divorced him, he still hung around, I just recently blocked him and cut off ALL contact, he call even more now I see the blocked calls. Eventually he'll get the message, I'm now in the stage of total contempt of him since I've done the research. I've wasted 10+ years
@justjameka79616 жыл бұрын
This video hit home for me big time! When we first got together, I thought I met the man of my dreams!!! We were constantly traveling and having amazing experiences! When we weren't, he'd be at home getting lost in his online video gaming pretending I didn't exist until he wanted to break for a quick romp session then back to his online fantasy world chatting and lying to anyone who would listen!
@shanreeves88203 жыл бұрын
I have been married for 33 years to a narcissist, and only figured out for the last 5 what it was. Always blamed ,criticized, manipulated, called names, etc, etc. It has caused many health problems and after so many tries to leave I am currently waiting on my disability to make a escape for good. I can support myself and not have to depend on him anymore. Please pray I get this soon. Please.
@soulsourcetarot5 жыл бұрын
You are so good. Thank you
@trickynicky21186 жыл бұрын
My special place is in my heart. I didn't want to create 'special places' with the last predator that targeted me. I just thought it wouldn't matter how beautiful the resort you take me to is...your presence will destroy any of it's beauty. I also didn't want to go overseas as I thought he might get more abusive if I was in another country. I never looked at his social media, I'd seen more than enough. ❎ No contact was an act of self love I gifted myself. Leave the weasels to it.
@angelac37886 жыл бұрын
Wow...spot on again. It was exhausting all the running around. I want calm and easy. None of that sweeping me off my feet crap. Thank God I learned my lesson after only one narc.
@christianpulisic77843 жыл бұрын
Angela C,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
@jake4v4d54d6 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry for the pain that you have all been caused. Cherish your ability to love and always remain balanced between your needs and the needs of the others that you love to love. Evil is out there. Good is less quantity but greater demand. Share the light brothers and sisters. Trust Thy Self
@DinFL Жыл бұрын
Greetings The Royal We! Just wanted you to know how much I enjoy your channel and this topic. I give God ALL the glory for opening my eyes and reminding me He is my protector. Thank you Heavenly Father!
@queentrayce28516 жыл бұрын
I needed this .....change ur perception change ur life
@NarcSurvivor6 жыл бұрын
They will be pretending to have a good time... in an attempt to make you envious. They will project their envy on to you.
@SonyaTiggy4 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much for doing this Kevin. The truth is hard for those in a narcissistic relationship to understand until its too late. .people are losing there freedom, money and children and their actual lives. Your videos are a free service that really enlightens people. Most professionals do not even understand they have been manipulated (triangulated) such as the police, social services and so on and some may take sides with with these psychopaths as they are taken in with the Oscar winning acting the narc performs. Many people end up in toxic relationships due to narcissistic injury from childhood and have no idea why they constantly end up with the same type with different face. Meanwhile courts are fooled and the very person who tries to escape the abuse is threatened, gang stalked by the narcs flying monkeys and network of acquaintances. Being followed, shouted out in public ,having pets attacked and their children convinced of the narcs Sainthood and their child takes the side of the narc...I hear this a lot. So I will say it again...your doing something very special and worthwhile and if all the people subscribed to this shared your video , what a difference that would make. It could even save some lives. Thanks Kevin.
@Nancy-yw1rr5 жыл бұрын
This is SO spot on. My husband is hyper and I always feel the need to keep him entertained. He actually calls me boring if I can't constantly come up with exciting things to do every weekend. It's nerve-wracking and exhausting.
@stephanieduncan90234 жыл бұрын
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@NimaAbdu-z1i Жыл бұрын
Did you leave him? I hope for you
@un-diluted74446 жыл бұрын
it is actually refreshing to read all the comments bec ppl are getting it and getting free!! thanks for the vids. great job and they help. blessings from europe
@lightoflife77956 жыл бұрын
Well, Kevin. You really nailed the dynamics with this one. So, so true. Could never figure out why, when we were at home in 'our haven', he would find a way to turn it into my worst nightmare.
@mrs87926 жыл бұрын
The more time that passes, I see things clearer. Damn! He was such a slimy manipulator.
@tmichele89226 жыл бұрын
Here’s my story I went no contact for 2 months after the cheating came up. Here I had surgery and and my cousin sent him today to my house to bring me food. Yep she knows I was no contact . I had surgery couldn’t move. Then he proceeded to tell me his sad story and I said no need to explain I know who you really are. So please take yourself home to whomever. I know longer need or want him near me. The narc I dated was also married but separated for 20 years. He had kids on her and she left him. But no matter what the toxic relationship was too much. And I removed myself and not looked back.. ever
@polskigirl85476 жыл бұрын
I too told my ex narc...." I know who you are!"
@caroloconnor22715 жыл бұрын
Ripped poor soul demons hidden secret creatures dark middnite
@webeducation5 жыл бұрын
Thank you, because this hits home big-time. Not a lot of people talking about the high energy having fun all the time perspective. We did so much stuff to the point it just did not feel right. Putting off responsibilities for the sake of going to this place and that place. Burning through money we didn't have. Took her to the most expensive restaurant in the city, only for her to say 2 weeks later, "we never do anything". Remember saying to her "you sure your not running from something?" She would quote "girls just want to have fun", and I would think "this seems a bit excessive". Indeed the money ran dry, and the discard process was sped up drastically. Also remember thinking "this girl is like a black hole of affection". This all before I even knew what narcissism was.
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
That's a classic example of narcissistic abuse. 💯
@jewishbride50103 жыл бұрын
I bind the lie of the narcisssist me being a narcissist in accordance with john 8:44, 2 corinthians 6:14-15, matthew 6:24, 1 john 3:10 and this whole message, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
@anamgwenn3 жыл бұрын
I can't thank you enough.Praise God I got delivered from the deception!!
@שושיסקירה6 жыл бұрын
Dear Kevin Spot on again!!! I hope the Narc that abused you see how really happy you are and how you made a career out of it, now this is what I call: MAKING A LEMONADE OUT OF A LEMON!!! WELL DON!!! You certainly look happy, vibrant and very helpful to all of us, so thank you again! Absolutely make sense! Short and sweet!!! I'M interested to become a coach and I sent you an email, can you please reply or make a video on the subject??? It would be very helpful and there is a great need to create awareness but in other languages. I want to become a coach and create my own videos in HEBREW There is hardly any information on NARCSISSEM in Hebrew which is very frustrating to get support or understanding!!! Would appreciate your reply. Best regards and congrats on your new product. GOD BLESS YOU ALL FROM ISRAEL❣💞💕💖💗💟💓✌
@Ronnie867535 жыл бұрын
This video is amazing. I dated a covert narcissist on and off for six years. I knew right off the bat he was a fake persona but didn’t identify the narcissism at that point. The hotels, the resorts and the constant need for fun and excitement was draining. He could never sit still on the couch and relax. Thank God he never moved in because nothing was real at the end of the day I guess. Great video thank you.
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching
@lindiebez16 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kevin!! Every video brings me closer and closer to being totally healed from narcassistic abuse!!!
@danielyoung313 жыл бұрын
Going on a trip with a narcissist is the worst vacation EVER
@Calmerthanyouare175 жыл бұрын
I feel this 100%. We could never just sit in each other’s presence and do our own thing or chill. He would get so agitated and throw fits if I wasn’t doing something to meet his expectations. I was called so many names and put down because I was never doing enough.
@donnafoley21672 жыл бұрын
They can't relax and be. Like little children, always needing to be entertained.
@tanyabyfaith6 жыл бұрын
OMG Kevin you nailed it on this one!!! I never looked at it like this but everything you said was my PAST experience with exNarc.. thank you for exposing the Lies with the TRUTH!❤️💕💯
@aujkalenic42035 жыл бұрын
This hit the narc I'v been with for 43 yrs, all true to a Tee! He is as a dead man at home with me, but he goes out daily to talk to others and I mean he will talk to anybody. He is usually setting up a group of people to work on his projects. He does everything the exact same way for 43, I only wish I could have known about this 43 yrs ago. I found out about 2 yrs ago, it's just unbelievable
@sandrataylor18885 жыл бұрын
Since I found out what I was dealing with, in the healing process, I created boundaries...As I'm in the healing stage, his manipulation has come to having no affect on me. However, tonight came his worse attempt to control and manipulate me saying he was committing suicide tonight... Not only did he tell me but he told my daughter and grandchildren who live with him. I hope I'm right in not accepting his actions or threats and staying focused on my recovery. We've been together going on 40 years but I have let go of that stat because I am actually living with my value and not letting his guilt affect me. Praying for good things to happen. Thank you for listening... Your videos are profound and helpful.
@stephanielove44696 жыл бұрын
watch fatal attraction and be glad your alive got away from the sick freaks. they deserve only eachother, another good one sleeping with the enemy
@jornfox35452 жыл бұрын
Spot on, good stuff Kevin, thank you for sharing this.
@TheRoyalWe2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching
@Proverbs-wd5we6 жыл бұрын
Your videos are helping me so much....you hit points that I am struggling with. Giving you a standing ovation in my living room. Blessings to you and your family.
@VikkiMinaj15 жыл бұрын
God this is spot on. The fine dining, the trips to expensive places, hotels , promises of future trips .......I can’t believe how accurate this is! Every single word
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
💯
@VikkiMinaj15 жыл бұрын
The Royal We he takes all of his girlfriends to the same places and promises them the same things . I learned all of this too late. We all are promised a Rolex/Cartier / other /luxury brand watch , all promised a luxury car , gifts , houses , etc ... I was proposed to just three weeks in .... I was the love of his life . I wasn’t like all the others. I was amazing . I was ‘out of his league’ You’re everything I want , and you’re everything I NEED’ was a favourite yarn of his. Imagine how quickly I fell offa that lofty pedestal! Devaluation was brutal and relentless. Triangulation with his exes, etc. When the hoovering and begging and pleading failed afterwards ....the verbal abuse really ramped up. When ignored... he used his own mothers number to text me .. pretending to be her ... calling me vile, cruel names. Now he has new supply . She’s the love of his life.... he needs her........she’s out of his league ... how do I know this .... because last week ...he took it upon himself to tell me so....via email AND what’s app (on a new number) . I did not even know her name or face until last week and he’s been with her 6 months . You know what’s coming next ! 🙈🙈🙈😂😂
@matilda44066 жыл бұрын
That's reassuring to remember that there is much gain in going "bye bye", and to remember the lies are lies, nothing more.
@victoriacampbell58776 жыл бұрын
He was needy. One day my 1 year old grandson had misplaced my phone behind the couch resulting in the narc having to wait a long time for a text back lol
@rondamcgrath90825 жыл бұрын
Wow great video. If anyone is struggling after breaking it off, just watch this video in the morning and confirm you did the right thing! I sometimes feel down or lonely without all the excitement and drama, so I watch this and feel great knowing I’m doing the right thing in leaving and protecting myself. I say now that I want a boring life LOL I also screenshot and read the lady’s comment about what to do if you feel jealous or sad if they are w someone new for a while. They did not change! That poor soul is just more damaged than you were and they are experiencing everything you did. They haven’t left yet because they haven’t figured it out or they are not strong. They are getting the same treatment! Thanks so much everyone for making this day bright because I’m now taking myself on vacation! I’m buying myself a movie ticket. I’m dating myself and I really like this person better!
@Ms.CarolineLR6 жыл бұрын
“The Special Place” is so true! An inability to have quiet peaceful simple time together! Everything must be a photo opportunity and a jet set life style.
@anabarajas39145 жыл бұрын
My ex narc lives in another country. Always with the promise of a real life together. But for the time being...all the beautiful resorts! And lies too. We all here know the rest of the story. But I finally left. NO CONTACT is the only way to go!
@rounddawaygirl2.0426 жыл бұрын
Wow..yes I realize he does always have to up and out doing something
@christinerogers71272 жыл бұрын
Kevin, You are blessed. You are an angel helping people on earth.
@carolb38696 жыл бұрын
I like what you said: ‘what you’re buying into’ (often this is with limited knowledge.) Now, don’t be too hard on yourself b/c anyone who has to deceive (convincingly) says a lot about them ie: not much! If someone is truly all that, they have no need to deceive! Move along as quickly as possible. Healthy people do not do this - train wrecks do. Be drawn to honest & authentic people, not hopeless fakes.
@laurasmithira5 жыл бұрын
It is fun watching these older videos and seeing how far I have come.Watch all you can if you are new here, you will be ok. You aren't alone, There is hope, you will feel better. GB
@christianpulisic77843 жыл бұрын
Laura Ira,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!
@mrs87926 жыл бұрын
As much as I love being in a relationship, I think I’m done for life. I’m getting a German Shepherd and living alone the rest of my life. I’ve done years of counseling and still keep choosing creeps who steal my money and treat me like crap. Who needs that?
@vegeta81696 жыл бұрын
Pffff. This really sucks. Think I'll have to do that too.
@ingood08676 жыл бұрын
3 for the single life with fur people🙅♀️🙋♀️
@JB-yd9nd6 жыл бұрын
I’m getting a Golden Retriever.
@yolavender6 жыл бұрын
Yup!! Currently getting rid of my narc Of almost 25 years. Two more sleeps and he’s gone. But I have my adult son and my sweet sweet shepherd pup. That’s all I need. Just want peace in my life.
@sunshines45556 жыл бұрын
I like the way that sounds.
@Butterfly-eo5zl5 жыл бұрын
Kevin, I’ve been listening to you lots. Love your videos and all you say. Thanks for such great support!
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
Christmas Thank you for your support
@terikakons67574 жыл бұрын
You’re so good at articulating and simplifying things. Thank you 🙏🏼
@TheRoyalWe4 жыл бұрын
Thank you 👑❤️
@joennjala16666 жыл бұрын
That was very well spoken! I never heard it like that but that is so on point! I left a relationship because it took more than it gave, which is typical of narcissist right, done my time and now am forever free!
@jessica.robin.biddle6 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I was meant to see this. A few missed texts from my ex narcissist were on my phone at the same time that the notification for this video popped up. Thankfully I watched the video, which reminded me of all the reasons I was choosing to ignore the texts. I got lucky.
@della37936 жыл бұрын
You need to block them on all avenues, phone, email etc
@norman-ankhlove74475 жыл бұрын
Wow, they all text later but never come true, what Disturbed craziness...
@redlover50885 жыл бұрын
Can't block mine, kids. Thank goodness they are old enough & have phones so narc doesn't have to ask me about them visiting him. He does ask for my help with other things, things a wife or significant other would gladly do. I have not responded to any of those texts or emails for the last year and a half. The last text a week ago said, "I'm very disappointed in your behavior lately." I almost fell off my seat laughing!
@jessicamarie02234 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your information! It has really enlightened me about my marriage. I was married to a pastor for 16 months. I have been out for 6 weeks. This video and others are explaining what I lived in. It is helping me to cope on the other side. I am able to heal after recognizing what it really was. People don’t believe my story because of his title of pastor, but it doesn’t change the reality of what actually happened. I know and will get passed all of it with God and information like this!!
@christianpulisic77843 жыл бұрын
Jessica Barbato,You deserve better dear 🙏🙏
@mae920016 жыл бұрын
Truer words were never spoken !
@ladylaura936 жыл бұрын
This video is totally on point. I am the wife of a narc whose relationship is in the "separation" stage and has been for the past 3 years. I was duped for over 30 years to believe we were fixing our broken marriage. As I waited and worked to fix it, the narc was getting his needs met elsewhere...pure hell was my experience. It is still pure hell on earth.
@sospita_6 жыл бұрын
This one made such a difference to me. There is a deep love that some people are capable of and its real and it can seem of timelessness and quietness and togetherness. I have been there. The NPD and swamp of crazies is really just .... sad and sickening.
@brendalee84916 жыл бұрын
Man ...Kev I love this video !!!!! It's so real , so true !!!( Hotel in the chair was hilarious)... ON POINT!.....thanks
@tinnnn15 жыл бұрын
I've gone through 5 months of hell with a narcissist. Thank you for this video as I'm going non-contact and it's been hell.
@fawnewallace59054 жыл бұрын
Ooohhhhh singing a beautiful melody of Truth! Yyyeeesss! Thank you 💕🙏
@oscarwilliamson61632 жыл бұрын
Fawne Wallace,Hope you are not with a narcissist....
@susanaune31666 жыл бұрын
WOW!! This is my ex in a nutshell..he called his haunts his family...I called it the Manson family...he had to be the spot light always..he was in his mind the best chef in the universe but was a line cook...a dirty one at that. He always openly flirted with ANY female that served drinks or waited on us he would just push like a preditor a few of these women begged me to get him off of them..he didnt care..they do not care about birthdays or holidays and you nailed this on the head!!! Its been 7 months since my last encounter and it was a dark hard realization to recovery....my ex didnt do social media he was "so" private now I see he doesnt want them to know his whereabouts.. He was a complete total liar..get out get free get your life back!!! They love public humiliation towards you. Stop the madness!!!!!!
@suziemurray80015 жыл бұрын
When I was in a relationship I was always the slag.. But why they always leave u still thinking of them even wen they are gone.. It's mDe me ill.. He stays away then crawls bak again
@sungirl99516 жыл бұрын
This video has lots of important facts that gets you to validation that you need to hear to move on. Kevin remember you need to be reminded a lot of us married the narc and we in our minds were blessed through the sacrament of marriage through Christ and we were LIED to. So it wasn't just about sex with women. These men narcs are monsters. Ill let God judge them in the end. God bless.
@presidentialastronomer90406 жыл бұрын
This a great...I love your vids..Always spot on top info 💪👊💪 It's takes some practice to see through the illusion hey? Peace out xx
@sailorrp32 жыл бұрын
Thank you for every confirmation, knowledgeable and wise word that I received in my spirit. I haven't been this free in a mighty long time.
@constance40656 жыл бұрын
You definitely have A lot of knowledge about how the Narcissist operates!! New to your channel. I was involved with a narc for 11 yrs! Went thru all the torture of being with a narc till I FINALLY woke up a yr ago! Thanks for your videos! They are very informative!!
@IronSourceLLC2 жыл бұрын
Thank You! Thank You! So spot on, I’ve watched 100’s (literally) of videos on Narcs and abuse this one really hit home for me. I’m just 7 days of NC, after 5 years of lies and manipulation with a lady whom I believe is a covert narc. The struggle is real, I appreciate your perspective and it’s a huge help and is very healing for me. I will soon smile 😊 again, and laugh, and exist in a real world, not one of another’s fantasy! ☮️❤️😊
@niceadi20106 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes yes yes..One who meets their needs without any resistance questions queries are their main supply. Once you stand up..face 2D's..Devaluation & Discard.
@ShaneIrwin76 жыл бұрын
OMG--this is my wife! I figured out two days ago that she is a Narc, but this video really hits home with the exotic trips and such. I'm too "boring" for her when we are home alone and not out skinny-dipping at a resort after hours. Or traveling somewhere. WOW.. Thanks for shedding light on this.
@JustSomeUmbreonfromJohto6 жыл бұрын
Impeccable timing, most of what you're describing describes my narc father. He always has to be showing off or doing something to prove he's this "great guy" (elaborate vacations, expensive dinner/resturaunts/movies/etc.). It isn't enough for him to just spend time with his family, he's got to show off and make like the father of the year which he is clearly not. I got stories. point is, the Narcissist has to be the center of attention, doesn't matter if it's a parent/spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend/sibling/etc. They aren't going to value you enough to spend time just with you. That's the way it is. But you realize the lies and you eventually get wise and go no contact. Thanks Royal We! Great video!
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+Judai Winchester dealing with narcissistic parents is so difficult. I will be making a video on it, it's just so sensitive but I know there's a truth that needs to be talked about. Stay strong and keep your boundaries in place.
@JustSomeUmbreonfromJohto6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Kevin!
@MandiMomOf8Channel3 жыл бұрын
Wow this is so incredibly true 💯 Thank you for this. You're the only channel that helps me because I definitely need to leave and I'm really struggling.
@CreepersCarnival5 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy I came across your channel. You're amazing thank you for opening our eyes to the Narcissist's lies and behavior. I feel fantastic now for dumping the Narcissist on New Year's Day 2019.
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
+Gemstar013 thank you, I am so glad your here!
@ema75615 жыл бұрын
You are doing a great service for people who are going through this or have been through this trauma. It really helps knowing someone understands the situation. May God bless you.
@youtubeepicuser42096 жыл бұрын
My dad sat me down just now and said “I’ve been trying to repress this for a long time but I realize that you only care about yourself and never put others before yourself” and he just sent me this link lmfao
@baronsamedi73046 жыл бұрын
Yep, your a piece of garbage.
@angelcakesxXx4 жыл бұрын
Your videos are one of the only things helping me through this tough time - there’s something really comforting about how you speak about this. Thank you for helping me see things a little clearer as I feel totally broken by the narc
@msmelodymelOriginal5 жыл бұрын
You made my day today! Thank you. I needed this.
@thomassmith20566 жыл бұрын
Great info. I got a son with one of these vampires. 17 years of twisted lies, endless lovers and deep depression. I went no contact and saved my life. You can't win. It's like stepping into the ring with a mma fighter: you will be punished and hurt severely. Dangerous creatures.