NARCISSISTS ARE MUCH MORE THAN MEAN

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse Narcissists can be rude, mean, selfish, entitled and abusive. But narcissism itself goes much deeper than these behaviors. Narcissism itself is something we cannot see.
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[@MarcMolk]

They are not mean, they are cruel, because they are sadistic. They enjoy make suffering others. Pure evil.

[@wendalljohnson]

Narcissists would like to erase reality, moment to moment. Spot on.

[@BigRebel0802]

Yes, our very existence, they hate.

[@Kathryn1209]

I don't deal with people like this. Even if I have to split.

[@newandoldtech5634]

When they threathen you and you stand your ground, and they are about to be exposed, they disappear. No matter what was on the table, and regardless who demanded to solve the situation. Vanished, gone.... most likely plotting something.

[@goodgracious6364]

Once upon a time, my narc sister manipulated (guilted) me into letting her use my car while I was at work Mon-Fri. She said that my car was just sitting there all day in the parking lot, not being used, so in fact, she could be using it! Like an idiot, I would drive to her house in the mornings, pick her up, drive us to my job, then she would get behind the driver's wheel and have MY car all day! Lastly, she claimed that I was responsible for keeping gas in the car (not her), since I was driving it each day, too! She smeared my name like dirt, when I came to my senses and put a stop to the insanity!

[@beatbreaker5485]

My ex... I'm brutally honest... Nope you are just brutal...

[@corinneblair8795]

My narc brother chose to not hear and receive my words of encouragement and help when our father was dying. Instead he made up his own narrative and accused me of stuff that was not true, and raged at me. And his narc wife raged at me, and she is diabolical, 2-faced, horror show. They kept information from me, yet blamed me for everything. So nothing they said made sense. This was the tipping point for me - I’m done. No contact. Sad to sacrifice knowing my niece and nephews. But I can’t take the ridiculous abuse anymore. There is a better way to live, and that is what I choose. However a nightmare is coming in the future when my mom dies, because there is inheritance involved. 😱

[@theraven1850]

Yes, they are damn right TWISTED!!!!

[@MsGroovalicious]

You really know your stuff. Thank you for the videos. So many people don't really know that this is a REAL thing!

[@myutube5882]

This seems to get worse when either their lives get worse and/or they get older. The narcissist in my life was able to say they were wrong and I was right at one time (and I mean years into the relationship, not just love bombing) but these days, that's not the case. Now every little thing is a problem and if they can't find something to be unhappy about, they will manufacture something, like you said. Edit: I just watched your video "Why Things Only Get Worse with Narcissists," very accurate! I think, too, that they do get more miserable with themselves and their lives as time goes on and so, of course, they take all that out on the people who stay in their lives. Tip: Get out!

[@rascallyrabbit]

they lie about the past. i get accused of saying and doing things that never were said or done.....crazy making s h it.

[@BigRebel0802]

EXACTLY!!! ME TOO!! I HAVE TO SCRATCH MY HEAD FOR 7 DAYS TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THEY SAID!! NARCS HAVE DISORDERED MINDS. TRYING TO FIGURE THEM OUT IS A DANGER TO OUR MENTAL HEALTH.

[@almcelroy4818]

I had a narc boss once who was harassing me in an over the top inappropriate way. When confronted with the numbers that proved my point, he acted as if that was irrelevant. The facts didn't matter! I knew then that I was dealing with something toxic and was able to quit and get another gig. His reaction to me quitting was equally interesting and puzzling. These people are exhausting and puzzling. Pure toxicity.

[@SoniaProteau-cj6tk]

I can only control by behaviour, nobody else s

[@susanparker9877]

"I changed my mind" he would say......as all our plans for the weekend evaporated.

[@BigRebel0802]

“I didn’t say that!!” Is another crazy saying from narcs.

[@christineknapp-phillips]

Wow! This was so insightful. I think I’ve been dealing with a path. narcissist unknowingly.

[@deannahazel1748]

I have just been validated, thank you soooo much♥️♥️♥️

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

You are so welcome!!

[@BigRebel0802]

Hey, Ms BehindtheMirror: You have great insight! Could you please do a video or a few on the use of mockery, laughing at, making a joke of the narcs PREPOSTEROUS BEHAVIOR?? The best thing I have found that unties the queezy knots in my stomach around narcs, is not taking them seriously and mocking them. BELLY LAUGHTER HEALS OUR BRAIN-GUT SICKNESS. Lots of laughter 😂😂❤️❤️😳🥵

[@BigRebel0802]

Your simple truths and facts about narcs make me laugh 😂!! Because the narc is a dictator, and dictators with no sense of humor or humility are exposed by even the tiniest facts!! They can’t laugh at themselves. “The devil, that proud spirit, cannot endure mockery.”

[@nicholecornes1915]

I know! I really enjoy laughing at myself for some reason

[@actionpls.]

So true. If you did nothing to them. They will make up something to get upset with you over. Even if they have to go back in history decades ago.

[@BigRebel0802]

Good jokes always contain an element of truth. Narcs hate jokes because they hate facts(the truth).

[@101hamilton]

Great video! I just discovered your channel. You explain things very well. Thank you for posting.

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

Thank you for watching!

[@wandavanmourik1014]

Your cats are adorable 😍

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I know right?? Haha. Thanks. 🥰

[@SheldonBrown567]

My ex wife wanted to shop for multimillion dollar house when we were both educators, with a combined income of $180k annually. 🤪

[@dottyp137]

Great video 👍🏻💕 take care ☺️ I . Love cats 🥰, I have dogs now and I can’t trust one of them with a cat ( terrier), ☹️. I’d love to have a cat around again 💕. They are lovely ☺️

[@BigRebel0802]

Proverbs 22:3 “ 3 A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished. 3 The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. 3 A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions.”

[@BigRebel0802]

My ex wife, I’ve realized many years later, has never believed that our 4 biological children were mine, too. Of course, it’s a biological FACT that I’m the father. But I think she always hated that fact because she didn’t like(in fact hated) the fact that she had to share. Totally nuts!! Staring at the objective facts!! NOPE! 2 + 2 = 5 to the narcissist. It’s a fantasy world 🌎 they live in. And, of course, now all my adult childrens many problems due to her divorcing me for no good reasons: NOW ALL OF MY CHILDRENS PROBLEMS ARE MY FAULT!! 😜 I couldn’t think that crazy if I tried.

[@rarmai]

Great video. thanks. Really enjoyed seeing your cats.

[@brunovalentine61]

I love ur analysis of Narcissists. I watched many videos about narcs understood abit but remained confused in some areas why narcs do what they do. Ur examples simplifies what i have learnt from other ppl online and makes it more understandable. Thank you. Love from 🇬🇧

[@drlarrymitchell]

Bonus: double kitties!

[@monarene44]

They want to control and dictate reality. The stage manager of their own Rocky Horror Picture Show.

[@BigRebel0802]

I was in the Army Infantry for 12 years. For planning operations, we used the 5 Paragraph Operations Order. Here it is , and note that the very first paragraph has as its beginning, ENEMY: 1. Situation A. Enemy B. Friendly 2. Mission 3. Execution A. Concept of the Operation B. Commander’s Intent 4. Logistics 5. Command and Signal KNOW YOUR ENEMY. Our common enemy is lies , and the devil is the father of lies who creates confusion, disorder, steals, destroys, kills.

[@randallmccoy8581]

A chronic covert need to cause emotional harm is the most common type 'cuz they don' t have to bloody their knuckles to harm your soul ..you see...they will not usually engage you as sport until they have pre-paved some plausible deniability into any rebuttals you may have to your abuse ....and bloody knuckles are a dead giveaway. Most prefer a subtle psychological wearing down....emasculation, belittlements, questioning your every move...like slow acting poison.

[@nicholecornes1915]

YES!!!

[@percystreet]

Fait accompli.....my wife makes arrangements with her friends and then asks me if that is OK....if I say no, I can be blamed

[@thomasnorman4221]

Another bulletin...

[@rascallyrabbit]

i tried better help and found it 2b a waste of money. You, however, are worth paying. could u set up a patreon or zelle link?

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

Thank you. That means a lot. I actually am looking into it, but want to be able to commit to whatever I offer on Patreon if I set that up.

[@lisahedrick2880]

The music playing is so very distracting that l can’t listen to the rest of your video.

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I don’t use music anymore. My newer videos won’t have this problem.

[@erikavaleries]

Sweet kitties on the bed ❤❤