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[@narcissism-masterclass]

I'm not sure narcissists want friends. They want people around them they can exploit.

[@1stBorn538]

Maybe? Maybe not, but this I do know, every narc I know, and there are quite a few, have at least 1 or 2 ppl they always keep around just to trangulate, talk behind your back with, who is allowing them to play the victim card whenever you've walked away from the abuse or they needed to discard, so they dont look like the bad guy, so they gotta blame somebody, and it's gonna be the actual victim

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

Narcissists wants supply and flying monkeys.

[@allieeverett9017]

They want a squad of admirers. And they'll do anything to keep them.

[@J.X.Sanchez777]

They need caterers not friends even if it's their own family

[@Nibiru3600X]

They need “mommy/therapist- maid/sex robots” 😖

[@afterthestorm221]

Everything in their life is purely transactional, so they see people purely as an opportunity.

[@katherineirvin7464]

With the purpose to exploit.

[@Merbella]

An opportunity to get what they want from them. 😢

[@iriswilmink8229]

thats exactly how they completely molded society.

[@helendayle6502]

Disguised as "fairness".

[@mirailieva8849]

This is correct. This is part of the social engineering of the masters on the reptilian masses. They want to remove true humanity, true empathy, and true care among the masses, so people look at each other as transactions. It is sick and evil. Like master, like slave. For what??????? To drive an economy that does not work and does not fulfill anybody’s natural needs including the masters’, especially the masters’. Just look at their bodies and you will see the truth. Shoddy and incompetent “work” of building society. The lack of intelligence is mind boggling. This is why it is very important to have the right association to the right degree with people. Only very superficial interaction with the wrong people, don’t give them anything, and don’t take anything from them. “You are degenerates, this is what you are.” - Jiddu Krishnamurti Yep. Correct. Sick and evil. No truth. Reality is not truth.

[@dreamsofturtles1828]

Everyone is just supply. Feed me, feed me. Other people don't really exist, except as sources of attention and admiration .

[@donnalambs9578]

Most of Facebook and well other platforms.

[@SuggySwee953]

"except as sources of attention and admiration".... interesting and true indeed.

[@elleng4876]

He didn't have real friends and he did his best to isolate me from mine.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

my experience is it's a "competition"..........they have to be BETTER even if it's in their secret thoughts of others, they HAVE TO WIN.......it's not you and me, it's ME ME ME ME ME and what can I get?

[@janedoe5229]

So true.

[@tinyking11]

YES‼️‼️😮‍💨💯 This triggered me. My ex/BD didn’t have ANY friends and he didn’t like the fact that I had friends. It was like he was jealous of me.

[@michelle_fl_life]

I find that their biggest followers are other like-minded individuals, a.k.a. narcissist

[@1stBorn538]

Yup and most toxic ppl will gang up on you even though they can't stand each other...

[@yuu_miran]

I have witnessed it again and again. Was absolutely shocked to finally get it.

[@spectershore4482]

11 years with her. Cover narc af! Now I'm 42. No kids. Don't know how I will be a father. I fucked up all these years. I'm still processing all those informations 🤯🫣

[@wiffley]

​@@spectershore4482hugs.

[@michelle_fl_life]

@@spectershore4482 I thankfully have an adult child, but not gonna lie. Looking forward to being a crazy cat lady now, goals

[@user-qv9nw1dq2f]

Friendships need love, respect, trust and open communication none of which is the narcissist capable of providing.

[@cyberninjasworld]

Great summary ❤

[@balamurugan-ds8cg]

You're trying for becoming like Sigmund freud , one great masterpiece 👌.

[@spectershore4482]

Perfect overviews of the narc unabilities... 👏🏾👏🏾

[@malcolmwaddilove1822]

So true! I feel just like a "bit part" in her life after over 4 years together,a a cog in her very busy life which all comes to nothing!!!

[@GreenTea3699]

Yep. You're nailing it. If you kick a narc to the curb & they come back later to apologize, just ask them straight up what they want.

[@ginamendez7758]

Don’t waste time n giving them your energy u ask them nothing …. You giving them supply just by answering …. NO CONTACT … is your answer trust me been listening to Lee Hammond N Danish speaking from experience it’s hard to leave at the beginning but eventually you will get stronger n the narc will get weaker been there done that it’s been five years NO CONTACT

[@nicoloclemente6564]

Lol true 😂❤

[@katherineirvin7464]

@@ginamendez7758No acknowledgment = No relevance.

[@Ark.083.2..1onnne]

​@@ginamendez7758great job! I blocked my narc from each app day by day just as he chipped my ego day by day, NO CONTACT.

[@ginamendez7758]

@@katherineirvin7464 absolutely 💯 agree 👍

[@User-vibes1523]

Its obvious that a liar have no friends!

[@nolanrizzo3812]

And who the fuck cares you sound like a two year old. Who cares about friends nobody, anyone can claim to be a friend nowadays

[@1stBorn538]

You're right. If a narc can't maintain a romantic relationship, they don't have the ability to maintain a platonic one either. Narcs only surround themselves with narc flying monkies & enablers or "yes men," but those who see through them keep their distance, or the narc will discard and only returns when they want more supply...But unfortunately the victims or scapegoats have the same issue with keeping genuine friends, we keep attracting more toxic people or we choose isolation to avoid being a victim again and have a hard time trusting people after that, so we just remain alone..

[@spectershore4482]

What process do we need to "ironically" not facing the same path after being a narc survivor ?

[@spectershore4482]

I'm on my 11 years with my fiancée. Asked her to marry me last year. Didn't know nothing about narc. Discovered it few weeks ago. Now I'll be 42. How can I meet someone again ? Build a family ? She hurt me so deeply and bad, I'm like "who can I trust now ?". Like it seems to late for me now. Ended up lonely as a narc, how ironic, doesn't it ?

[@khadeejadja]

Agree with you about it. Not having genuine friend(s) is not only something to do with narcs, but the victims/scapegoat as well.

[@Lifeishort17]

I had 5 years of broken promises when my Narc felt I was about to leave him I got lovebombed promises of change all within 48 hours he would go back to being who he really was a abusive lying cheater completely emotionless of any feelings of how I was feeling completely broken empty shell of a person it was the loneliest 5 years of my life..still getting over it I left finally 3 months ago he still is leaving voicemails promising to change trying no contact so far I know he is pure evil thank you Danish ❤❤

[@1stBorn538]

@spectershore4482 It can be tough, but take life one day at a time and give yourself the grace & patience needed to heal...Narc abuse can be devastating and greatly affect your esteem and trust in others...But healing is a journey that can never be rushed, and when you're ready to love and trust again, you will know what to look for this time, and what to avoid. With reflection, those red flags we missed the first time will help guide & protect our hearts in the future... Stay strong. You're still young and will meet the right one, one day..🤗sending a hug

[@lynnliles9211]

You're so right! I'm a narcissist's widow. He was having an affair before he drank himself to death. I found out about "her" later and that all of our money was gone. He also had kidney disease. He had a "collection" of friends to donate a kidney to him. When it came time for a transplant, no one stepped forward to donate a kidney. He wanted one of mine but thankfully, I have 2 autoimmune diseases so I can't donate. He was devastated. That's really when his drinking started. He got a bad kidney from a donor in the pool. Also a second bad one. He just went down hill. The affair was to make him somehow recover his old self. I maybe broke, but I'm happy, have a therapist and helping me to heal! Thank you so much, Danish! Oh, we were together for 39 years and married for 36. I took care of him even learning how to do home-hemo dialysis. I'd do dialysis and he'd go visit his girlfriend the next day! Thank you again...

[@spectershore4482]

Wooooow!!! I was about to cry for my 11 years with my fiancée. But reading your story... I can't imagine! At 42 years old with no kids, I was desperate

[@irenahabe2855]

... I may be broke, but I'm happy... ❤

[@spectershore4482]

Peace and happiness are true money!!❤️🫡

[@katrinat.3032]

Agreed. Now you are away from him. Psychological peace is worth more than anything. As long as you have food and a roof over your head. I wish you the best. You sound like a strong and resilient person

[@Merbella]

Their "friendships" always disolve unless they are long distance on and off or with other Narc's. Oh..and it's NEVER their fault.

[@maryannspicher]

I’ve been a part of these sad group dynamics more than I care to admit! My exes friends hitting on me behind his back, or his friends straight up making lies up about me and my child and telling my ex to cause problems, or some of the group texting each other nasty things about me while I’m in the room cooking for them or cleaning up after them, or listening to my ex downgrade them as soon as their friends left or as soon as they got off the phone with them. It’s absolutely sickening! I refuse to ever be in a group like that again!

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

kind of like criminals who hang out together, are like-minded.

[@sophiemorrison9820]

The narcissist I knew thought he had friends because when he went to the post office to pick up or mail packages the employees said hello to him.

[@spectershore4482]

👀👀 insane af!

[@allieeverett9017]

I know one like that too. He haunts the post office, grocery stores, bank, pharmacy, insurance agent, emergency room. He just rotates daily, weekly, monthly. In between he makes hateful phone calls to any company or agency he can. I feel so sorry for all the people he terrorizes. His friends.

[@cletiawilliams1436]

😂😂 right! And be real nice to them .....but give you hell at home!

[@stopwars8642]

too funny

[@tinyking11]

💀🤣🤣

[@allanwhite1533]

Yep, that's part of the reason why so many narcs end up dying lonely and nobody hardly ever shows up at their funerals.

[@nolanrizzo3812]

Or maybe bullies like you

[@gabrielleduncan-reynolds5440]

The narcissist in my life has an interesting variation on this pattern. A group of shallow friendships - people who don’t ask anything in return and are fine with just going out for drinks and/or listening to his problems whenever he wants (but never the other way around). And a second group of friends that are more like mentors - people he feels he must impress and that he needs validation from. He keeps these people at arm’s length so they don’t see the dark side (though I think some of them do see through the facade) and reaches out periodically for validation that he is a wonderful person and that he’s a victim. Once again it is a relationship that is one sided, since a mentor requires little to nothing in return. I don’t know of a single relationship in his life (family, friends, colleagues, etc.) that is actually reciprocal and isn’t all about him. Seems like a lonely and empty way to live

[@JakeHambyZ80]

Very insightful. I've seen exactly this pattern.

[@louhortonsculpture]

Yeah it seems pointless to me.

[@IsabellaPiesch]

They have a lot of so called ,,friends" but only to use. There are no deep connections. I am sure they are not there for them when bad things happen - because narcissists are never there when you need them. So who needs such a friend? A friend is there for you no matter what otherwise those people are just acquaintance. Narcissists also lack emotional empathy. People have to feel others and have the ability to put themselves in others shoes - otherwise there is no friendship possible.

[@francesbernard2445]

Another reason a narcissist cannot accept is being only a friend to someone single while being from their preference gender for romantic relationships. It is kind of like the narcissist believes life is a shopping mall with people in it for them to manipulate for awhile to later take home and then put up on a shelf for awhile when bored with them before throwing them out onto the street.

[@taleandclawrock2606]

There can be few things more devastating than babies who have their loving nature denied and identity stripped, treated with contempt, neglect and sadism before ever reciving loving attention. How can adults heal from such devastating spiritual, emotional, mental and physical injuries? Its so hard when they then victimise others. I try to respond with unconditional love, but sometimes that means rebuking and defending or ending relationship to protect me from further abuse.

[@winterqueenkel]

You, Dr. Ramani, Dr. Wise, Dr. Jay Reid and Dr. Les Carter need to have a week-long retreat for people severely abused by narcissistic parents. I'd sign up first!

[@audreyshannon8709]

That's an amazing idea

[@juneelle370]

That would be an *amazing* group right there! also, I like The Royal We channel because he highlights how religion specifically is put to use by people with narcissistic patterns.

[@yuu_miran]

@@juneelle370i also like Michelle lee nieves channel. Only after watching her videos on coverts and neglect it shone upon me what my family has been about. She also has great meditation videos her voice is calming.

[@Limlani]

This would be amazing!!!!

[@Vladimirleninputin]

Don't forget the father of narcissistic def.; Sam Vaknin

[@maryjopling5952]

I felt like a hostage for 25 years.

[@sarahjones6443]

Definitely 😢

[@jacquelinemarie1078]

You were.

[@nolanrizzo3812]

@maryjopling5952 please be quiet 🤫 you're so fake. Who stays with a narcissist for 25 years?

[@janedoe5229]

My husband's source of supply was participating at our mega church. He loved to teach, play the guitar, be in charge of meetings and classes, and basically be a minor celebrity whom everyone looked up to. The best man at our wedding was not his "best friend", but someone high up that he admired. (I think he was trying to make points by making him the best man.) Anyone we had over for dinner, it was a networking opportunity (to climb the ladder at church). Anytime we met someone new at church, he would introduce them to someone else because he had really nothing to say to them. We had NO ONE that we hung around with "for fun". 10 years of misery and loneliness, and I eventually had an affair, and got caught, and he screamed and yelled at me that they were just going to make him the junior high pastor and I ruined it for him. Not one word about my giving my heart and my body to someone else.

[@brianpraetzel5873]

The church setting makes me think of many that will hear 'Depart from me I never knew you!' on Judgement Day from Jesus. Watch out for those Pharisees 🐍

[@soniaperez9269]

I relate. My husband was a deacon in our Church and position of leadership which made the whole situation so much more difficult for me to comprehend. I was also accused of stopping him from 'having his own church'

[@katrinat.3032]

You probably had the affair because deep inside you were lonely and were not able to have a ‘real’ relationship with your husband. As humans we have needs and you were unable to get them met in that crappy relationship. I hope you can find a new and healthy relationship

[@georgem8744]

Can I ask, where any of these guy's real Christians? Or was that all a ruse as well? Just wondering as I've met some similar types who often say things like "Me and God have a special understanding" etc etc

[@Lyrielonwind]

I thought I had read all Dostoevski's book (he is exceptional describing psychological profiles) but yesterday I found a short story which describes a narcissist (and his victim) masterfully. It's named "The Meek one" and he didn't have any friends.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

users.............it's who or what you have that makes you the target.......your beauty, your appeal (makes them feel great about themselves, "see what I have!") or your resources and what you do for THEM. it is never ever a give/take/share relationship. you become their slave? minion? thing? whatever it is, they criticize and pick and cheat on you, there is NO loyalty, do not kid yourself. you will see if you do not know this already............it's always "one up man-ship" because they think this is "winning"...........but in the end they will LOSE big time.

[@janedoe5229]

THANK YOU. I will read it. :)

[@c4m774]

It’s all about what you can do for them and please them! They don’t do love or feel anything like that,they would rather keep busy or there head in a phone rather than real bonding or interaction! There not hard too spot

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

seen this too many times in nursing homes on "Mother's Day" or some holiday, the requisite visit, ("I have to go see her/him") but they stand NEXT to the bed or the wheelchair and text and talk on their phone, they do not interact and the aged loved one just sits there.......ignored. I swear, over and over......not regular visits mind you, just a "holiday" to appear as the "good daughter or son" but totally on the phone or texting........and the rest of the year.......their parent or child just gets left............I've seen it many, many times. most do not care.........even my own family.............totally.

[@soniaperez9269]

Early on in our marriage my husband told me i don't have any real friends and that's why i have never been able to properly integrate into society. I believed this for years. Now that i have separated from him i have been so surprised and overwhelmed by the amount of people (friends!) I have around me supporting me in the separation

[@nolanrizzo3812]

Poor little b*the crying like a little girl over some friends grow up

[@redpilljesus]

So who's the narcissist?

[@samcarrs]

I noticed this too. Fake friends.. so true

[@shirlspark_stardust]

I remember the narcissist bozo came home upset asked what happen he said no one at work will talk to him 😂I laughed and said you live for peoples validation it was so funny I kept laughing in reality they are beyond and sad miserable creatures I am glad I got rid of him everyday my health and peace of mind is invaluable 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@BJBlaskovichGaming]

The amount of people I saw come and go out of my narc ex gf’s life was pretty astounding. She recycles people too, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised I’m on the outs.

[@WampumGirl51]

I was married for 30 years to a narc husband. We had a couple that we took two golfing vacations with. After the second vacation with them they told me they didn't want to vacation with us anymore because of my husbands behavior especially on the golf course. If any of us were playing better than him he started club throwing, foul language and foul mood. Brought the whole mood down of everyone. He always had to be better than anyone else. He never had close friends. But of course he blamed me for that.

[@IsabellaPiesch]

Narcissists can´t lose - never! They are like little children (if they lose they get very angry - that is just it). I am sorry that you experienced that (I hope you have still contact with those golf-friends because it was not your fault!).

[@WampumGirl51]

@@IsabellaPiesch Unfortunately they went no contact with us. I divorced him in 2015 and went no contact with him. He quickly married money and lives in a multimillion dollar 12K square foot house. Made quite the upgrade and elevated his social status that he always wanted.

[@cassiebennet4262]

​@@WampumGirl51He's still miserable and always will be.

[@ballison1716]

Wow!

[@missmissy5170]

For now.....the new wife will tear him up in divorce court

[@J.X.Sanchez777]

I remember my older brother used to call over his temporary minions over, calling for their help, telling them he needed a ride. While they were waiting for him, he used to make them wait regardless of any important matters they needed to address. I remember them urging my brother to hurry up because they needed to press on urgent matters and my brother sitting there nonchalantly with a beer in his hand saying "Oh wait I still gotta finish this show I'm watching and finish my beer". And I remember thinking how can anybody be friends with this scumbag? I Hate my brother with all my heart and now just beginning to heal from this monster. A Narcissists needs from anyone are rendered obsolete once he/she have no further use for them. Their needs are always prioritized and once those needs are fulfilled they have no more need for you just until they can unremittingly use you again and again if possible. When comes to the point when they can't use you again they will try to shame you every chance they get despite the years and energy uou wasted on them

[@lauraantic1384]

I am blessed to have only one friend others were the worse enemy

[@joseenoel8093]

"Real" is another key 🔑 word, who doesn't deal with them for fear of what will happen to you if you don't then one day.... Nothing matters more than being able to shake them! 🎠

[@christinalw19]

A lifetime friend of my Mother’s lived in the same city as my Mother, around 1995. I asked her one day, “how is Carol? Do you still keep in touch with her?” She was in a care home, could not speak or walk anymore. They were in their 70s then-mother lived to be 101, so she was able. I asked mother when was the last time she saw her. “Oh, I don’t know, maybe 4 months ago.” We went to visit her and her eyes lit up, my daughter, who was 8 at the time, was as concerned as I. Mother stood in the corner, not speaking or interacting. She did the same thing when her older brother was dying of cancer in 1987 and the entire family came to the hospital. My older sister who is now 81 has the same MO. Cold, negligent, selfish. I was disgusted with my mother that she did not visit her friend every week. ( they worked together from 1960 until 1975.) I was in charge of my mother the last 10 years of her life after her 4th husband passed. When I had to move her from my house into a care home I visited her at least once a week. She had no other visitors. She passed in 2018. Poor mother.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

I took care of my Dad for almost 8 years by myself while my 8 other siblings didn't call, send $ to help us out (I had him at home with me, no nurses, just me) nor any visits. I totally believe if he had had $$$$$$$$$$$$ they would have visited and stayed in touch, but otherwise they were waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to busy to lift a finger. and they say they "loved" him and that I was the "bad person". riiiiiiiigggghhhhht. it's their guilt. too bad, so sad, I got the best of my Dad.....

[@yuu_miran]

Narcissism is like a lifetime curse.

[@christinalw19]

@@JustMe-uu3bhGod Bless you. God made us different: more giving, empathetic, strong. Be proud, Dear One. Hugs 🙏🏼🤍🦅

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

thank you but as uncomfortable as it has been, I have learned huge, huge lessons on how I attracted narcs into my life, God wants us to heal too......thank you and God bless you too, Christina! @@christinalw19

[@Blessed591]

My ex always had a way of saying , " a good friend of mine who is a top lawyer , doctor etc " 😂😂😂 I realized later that the whole group who used to call themselves The Pentagon are all narcs and ALL of them were dumped by their spouses . . . At the home pub , they would occupy the "VIP" table !! Nobody else could sit at that table . . . They were the " discipline committee" in that bar !! Commanding everyone else around ! The group no longer exists . . . The group leader was dumped by his wife n grown up kids and is bedridden. . . That is what is happening to every member of that group . . .

[@samuelsparling878]

Thank you so much for sharing your insights, Danish! It's really wild how much energy these people have to put towards behaving badly, if they'd just spend half that effort doing the right thing they'd be the superstars they pretend to be.

[@foulmoodcentral2830]

disagreements about the most inane of things turned into abandonment... complete ghosting... for not having enough respect. I feel like I'm slowly dying, my mind grinding through the whole thing over and over again. yet he gets to sleep with a clear conscience, not even bothered by throwing me away. I want my mind wiped.

[@sandradorsey5001]

You are so right, love your channel so 😊 glad I found you. 👍 Great content. You are saving lives. God Bless you❤

[@candyjo59]

This is exactly what I was thinking this morning that any friends he has won't tell him truth but only enable

[@user-dz7pi5wi6t]

Unfortunately, I don't have any real friends either. Thanks to smear campaigns, people avoid or treat you horribly. No one believes or trusts you...and you cannot trust anyone either. How can you make friends when there is no mutual respect, care/consideration, or trust?

[@truthnotfeelings]

I remember a psychologist mentioning that narcissists are experts at targeting overly agreeable and vulnerable people. If you are a more strong person trust me when you stand up for that person the narcissist often backs off.

[@Nibiru3600X]

9:57 After the realization that I trauma bonded with my narc ex-husband because we had similar families & traumas… I then realized both my narc parents had done the exact same🤦‍♀️💔 This cycle ends now!!! 🚫

[@spectershore4482]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 ends it loudly!! Words are powerful ! At the same time, you made me realized that I had the same traumas but we handled them differently. My mum was an abusive, possessive narc. She prepared me well to be an attraction to abusive cover narc women... The cycle EEEND NOW!!!!🚫👊🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Nibiru3600X]

@@spectershore4482 Get it!! 💪🔥🔥🔥 ✊🚫✊

[@sarah.j.777]

From the very start every "friend" my narc sister ever had was just someone for her to use & abuse. I don't remember her ever hanging out with someone she didn't insult, gossip about, or keep around just because she needed something from them. By first grade she got kicked out of school & had to be bussed to another one across town because she was constantly taunting other kids and trying to turn them against each other. She's in her late thirties now and is still exactly the same, always scheming & playing these games. It's been her only goal or form of entertainment for her entire life, she's such a loser.

[@monikamroczek3305]

This is so true. I couldn't understand why my bf don't have any close friends.. It was only him, his family and his son. That's it. Now i know why.. Healing in progress im happy and single.

[@tonyp.bahama9368]

Most men dont have close friends tho

[@alltruth881]

Monika, was the guy abusive? Most men don't have friends (close friends). I have two close friends but the friendships ended because of distance. Even women friendships are extremely superficial. You are really lucky if you have one person that you can look up to

[@monikamroczek3305]

@@alltruth881 i have 4 close friends.pity we r living now in 3 different countries. We r in touch every day And we r visiting each other every few months.i had very toxic family so i had to cut them off completely. Basically my friends r my family.

[@nolanrizzo3812]

That doesn't make him a narcissist dummy lol you sound like you're still in high-school 😂 @monikaamroczek

[@nolanrizzo3812]

​@@tonyp.bahama9368exactly this guy got so many ppl feelings hurt😂its 2024 nobody cares about no friends.. nowadays you can call anyone a friend

[@zombinaagogo]

"Mental Masturbation", Ha! I use that term, I picked it up from my old boss back in 2008, and I've never heard anyone else use it. Another good detailed explanation of narcissism. Through my understanding of the research I've done for the past 8 years and my personal experience of the multitude of narrcictics I've had in my life, I've realised that very thing. That narrcictics will form groups/cliques/ social circles. This is something that I feel gets overlooked and misinterpreted in psychology. People tend to think narrcictics can't be "friends" with each other, date or marry each other. Toxic people in general will be more prone to being around narrcictics, but that doesn't mean that healthier minded people won't be around them either. Some people are just clueless, too forgiving, or too hopeful... blind optimizim. Beware of the love bombing, grooming, and gaslighting they will do to people. When you get sucked into their web of lies and fall for their superficial fake persona, it will trama bond you to them, and it will probably be difficult to let that person go.

[@rahulm2827]

my narc father also doesnt have any friends. he just plays a role to impress ppl. but he cant hold it. it was particularly painful for me to see how my mom did have real friends but my father always opted out of the group because he couldnt fit in.

[@tinyking11]

This is both of my parents for sure. They both have on a mask then when company leaves they take it off. 😵‍💫 It’s scary

[@rahulm2827]

@@tinyking11 my mother has strong signs of a narcissist too in some situations. i really wud like to believe that thats because she's married to one for 40 years now :( i've had millions of painful experiences in life but having to realize that both my parents are narcissistic is too much for me. i havent caught my mother talk bad about me to others i.e.. but she has sacrificed my reputation for her own gains.

[@nolanrizzo3812]

​@@rahulm2827 you sound very childish my God when do you grow up? You must be 15 because nowadays nobody care about friends.. I have a few good ones... but everyone who doesn't have friends is a narcissist! But you keep believing the lie 😂 so because your dad doesn't have friends and your mom does that makes your dad a narcissist? Bro you sound like a 8th grader

[@nolanrizzo3812]

​@@rahulm2827it's normal to grow out of friends. Don't let this guy bully you 😂

[@nolanrizzo3812]

​@@tinyking11lol doesn't make them a narcissist though lol

[@dumpmail-xz2qp]

In my case, my ex narc friend has changed her behavior towards me ever since she got together with this third guy. I think he is a narc too who is love bombing her, he quickly started to like what she likes, is heavy involved in her life and most of her bs excuses involve him. He was also quick to unfriend me when I was going through a detox from her bs and bread crumbling. Later I also learned that she used him as his opinion about me for her smear campaign to tell others bs about me while making out of herself this fake caring friend who is just worried and just wants to know if I am okay... right, if shes so caring, she wouldn't ask ppl to keep it secret and tell them information about me that was none of her business to do so. Thanks to videos like yours I understood what I have gotten myself into and quickly cut that bond with no plans to patch things up with her.

[@lucyevans5428]

Mine only talked about work colleagues or friends in the past and told me he wasn’t good with keeping in touch with people - likely because he got rejected by other people fed up of him using them and seeing the light . His whole family were enablers for his parasitic lifestyle .

[@emanuelmakonnen72]

THEM is the key word.

[@donurb9659]

I seen 2 narcissist ladies at the bar together. She said her and her friend are both narcissists and narcissist have to stick together.

[@shauntib4313]

Hahah let em - their in it fir themselves so I just don’t get how that works- who will burn 🔥 the other first I guess

[@SOUTHEASTALLDAY]

They be doing that not realising how narcissistic they act towards each other, I bet you they both speak ill of each other behind each other's backs.

[@Solscapes.]

I don't have any real friends either, so it's hard to feel bad for them.

[@ginamendez7758]

💯 % Accurate 👍

[@sonjacurry4473]

My 80 yr old mom has very few acquaintances. The two people who have stayed friendly from afar were people who came into her life due to my dad. He has passed. When they call to check on her, she puts on a fake facade or plays the victim. Tells them lies about me or anything she can to gain their favor. If they invite her on an outing, & it isn't what she likes, she fakes not feeling well to not go. She tells me ( daughter) that she doesn't like what they want to do, so it's not worth going. If it is something she likes, she will be excited & ready to go. As time passes, these few so-called friends are fading. She can't understand why they don't call as often. It's always been all about her. No consideration for others wants or needs.

[@spectershore4482]

Until 80 !!! Time has no effect on narc behaviors! That sounds craaazy!!🤯🤯

[@austin_bradley__]

My ex was like this. Didn’t have friends and certainly didn’t want me to have any either 😅 yikes.. you are crazy accurate!

[@redpillbox1882]

I used to have a narc. boyfriend that I dated after I was divorced from my narc. husband. Anytime I would disrupt his fantasy or call him out or challenge him, etc. he would always say "I thought you were my friend". I was always so confused, because I was thinking with a normal brain, thinking "friend?, I though I was your girlfriend?" I never understood it. But now I see what you mean. My narc. mother is that type that is always in competition. She always has to know the most, have the most, dress to the nines, brag, etc. with her friends. I really don't know how she keeps a friend, like is there any level of real humility in this woman? Only when it serves to get her some desired supply of attention. My ex husband narc. was the same. He thought he was this "popular" person. He collected people. But inevitably the people would start liking me better because I had a real personality and he had nothing. Then he would have to character assassinate or gaslight to reverse that. It is truly bizarre.

[@chrispeterson1989]

My narc ex wife had NO friends, they were compartmentalized supply References, money, party but she was never there for them when they needed someone but she demanded they be there for her or talking behind their backs would take place. Just a user

[@Gurlll350]

So true. My ex did not have any real friend. He always kept talking bad about anyone. He pretended to be the best among them. He was very envy either. Some of their friends he would hang out, were half his age , and below his financial “status”, so he would feel better.

[@lydiagall4335]

Spot on. A friend who was extremely social, had tons of "friends" - hand picked for whatever they could offer intellectually or otherwise, I knew them too, many very shallow or what I would describe as drinking buddies, all displaying similar narcissistic traits - well, this one friend always caught me on my own and kept bitching about his so called friends. At the time, as my circle of friends is much smaller, and they are close and we love each other and cherish our different personalities and have deep conversations and a lot of care, I thought perhaps he was seeking me out bc he was fed up with all the superficiality in that group of his so called friends. I'm starting to realize that i was also just an additional source to feed his ego. I cut him off once i realize that these people, in their so called kindness, treat all toys the same. Nobody is special. It's a calculated game. It's a shame because i really enjoyed our talks but i will save them for my real friends who actually care about me and I care about them and accept them for all of what they are.

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Narcissist are fakes the biggest con artist there ever was I told the narcissist years ago he should go act in Hollywood he would make a great villian cause he is already evil 😂.

[@franmosconi4680]

Great content, as usual, Danish! Thank you!

[@hopeh1095]

You spoke the truth experienced these exact things with one person. If you ever in that situation pray to the Lord and distance yourself.

[@shirlspark_stardust]

I didn't worship or admire the narcissist he said I'm boring after a while I dumped him he served no purpose in my life I rather be boring and peacefulon on my own 🤓🙌🏾

[@moreengover6033]

Sooo true.

[@AnitaSharma-hc3ib]

Very informative video ❤

[@Akassh_Verma]

Perfect word to describe 'transactional'

[@IndianOutlaw1870]

My mother was always surrounded by enablers - people who believed her "I'm a victim and my son is the problem" mantra.

[@Dj.D25]

One young woman who I suspect is a covert narcissist, I noticed as I watched her, she always seemed quick to delete or block friends and family on Facebook over disagreements or drama. Sometimes she would add them back later on. When I called her out for lying about being pregnant to get an ex back, she stopped liking my Facebook posts since. After not talking for over 2 years, I found out a month ago she blocked me. What’s odd to me is, I thought she was more understanding than that. She always appeared to be a bubbly friendly, caring and timid woman at times. Also appeared to be a God fearing Christian according to her Facebook, always posting Bible verses and about God's love. Never saw her angry unless it was in texts.

[@jvnd2785]

That does not sound like a narc at all. To have firm boundaries is NOT a sign of a narcissist- blocking people who bring drama to your world is healthy. And, yes, it's equally okay to add them back later- if they apologize and correct their ways, there's no reason not to. If you call somebody out on such a sensitive issue as baby trapping, you cannot be surprised that the person stops liking your posts. That's lack of wisdom on your part. One has to know when it's a good thing to keep one's mouth shut, you know.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

some "Christians" are in "name only". some think if you say certain words you will get to Heaven..................not so, not so. actions speak louder than words and God sees the heart.......................

[@lynnepostings]

​@@JustMe-uu3bh SO true ... there's no shortage of these !

[@JohnDoe-gq3tm]

@@JustMe-uu3bh Indeed. And the Bible confirms this.

[@esther4844]

They talk about them behind their backs too!

[@robertacosta7586]

Yes narcissist enabler’s are annoying. But I’m trying my best to learn to put them in their place with mine tricks of mine. It’s stupid because it is at work place.

[@spectershore4482]

If you find something, pls share it. I have seen two that are managers and one teammates... I'd love to have solutions to deal with them. I'm started a project with one manager newt week 😅

[@robertacosta7586]

@@spectershore4482 it’s just more on avoiding them when they trying to piss you off. And being a couple steps ahead of them on their actions. Act like you don’t care but have a back up plan for the ones they are trying make you look bad in front off. It is hard to do. But I have used different tricks that have used to control the situation. Rite now it is calm.

[@SOUTHEASTALLDAY]

I lost a lot of so called "Friends" around 8-9 years ago when I stopped agreeing with certain behaviours, Took me a while to get over it and was even convinced that I wasn't a "good mate" but now I'm 29 with a daughter Im glad that those loss of friends did happen, I couldn't stand enabling anyone anymore because those sort of people lose respect for you when you do the enabling, They think they can cross the boundaries with you further and further

[@robertacosta7586]

@@SOUTHEASTALLDAY Yeah these people are annoying now I have to turn to ignoring them. Been 6 months dealing with them learning how they move and think. But I’m done I realize there is no beating a narcissist they just keep coming back for more. Sucks 8 to 9 years it to long.

[@Katie_Woo]

The narc i got away from had one 'friend' (his whole family and social circle had cut him off) and he was so mean to the guy. The narcissist had saved him from dribking himself to death-not do he could see his children grow up or be around for the family, no the narcissist saved his friend SO THE GUY WOULD ALWAYS BE INDEBTED TO HIM. yes the narc admitted it to me😮

[@theladyamalthea]

This is SO true! My ex would often complain that he had no real friends. But he also didn’t bother to maintain relationships with anyone (not just me). I’m also pretty sure other people could tell he is disingenuous, shallow, and even scary. Healthy people, anyway - the kind who stay friends with you for life.

[@malcolmwaddilove1822]

Yes Danish,I understand that perfectly,people just tolerate them and refuse to be as low as the narcsisst or be like them.

[@divyanshsh]

this video was amazing, thank you so much

[@rashmigama2417]

True. When I asked once who is your trusted friend. He said no one.😅

[@bubbanstix2536]

You are incredible Danish Bashir. Everytime I just take a quick look at one of your videos your bring astonishing details about narcissists.

[@Doobeedoo-xd1mw]

Very good and thank you, everything you spoke about resonated with me and my past relationships with people of this type.

[@Mrs.BeAKindHumanFries]

Yes, I’ve seen narc groups playing off of each other and unfortunately it took me a long time to break-free from as they were family and my ex.

[@clintstryder1131]

So far from my experience. It really seems to be a real physical defect. They simply can't function any other way. They are put here to simply suck energy. That opinion comes from long and torturous experience.

[@tamarajarrell4812]

You just said nobody will believe you your absolutely right it's diabolical you will look crazy and bad it's actually horrific what happens to to the person enduring this

[@kerrytaggart8206]

Never could understand why demon possessed people stand together.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

well, think of how criminals are.............they "hang together".......like minds.

[@katherineirvin7464]

@@JustMe-uu3bhyes, but there’s no honor amongst thieves. They’ll throw each other under the bus. Demons are also competitive. These people “mirror” their demonic counterparts.

[@katherineirvin7464]

They operate under the same spirit, so their goal is still the same. Stealing, killing and destroying. They don’t love each other, they just share a common agreement to harm someone. Other than that, their language is still contempt and hatred, which they mostly all have in common whether it is covert (covered) or overt (out in the open)

[@sickofcrap8992]

Power.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

true but they do all hang together, I stand by what I said. no one said they were loyal, just that they like to be with others like themselves....... @@katherineirvin7464

[@haliec496]

They fool everyone and so you will always be deemed the crazy person if you go against the flock. After living & leaving a narc, i realised one of my best friends was also a narc. Until my eyes were opened to it during the relationship, i didnt see it in her. I realised that all of my current circle was connected to her, they would report back to her and she knew everyones business. She always had to be better so she would use her information to gain the upper hand. She would be so helpful & nice to get the info. I realised that our relationship was built on drama. It became unsettling for me, she realised that I had begun to figure it out, we are no longer friends. I prefer a peaceful life now.

[@spectershore4482]

When you figure it out, there is only a unique way out with a narc : LEAVING! It's amazing how they felt betrayal when you know and kept it under the radar... No shame. No heart. Nothing!

[@veracuskar3017]

Let the healing begin and continue

[@MychalPace]

The conversation I needed to Hear. I thought I was losing it figuring out the narcissist in my life

[@rajiselvam4130]

Very true greatly explain

[@donnalambs9578]

I didn’t have friends because they all worked for them 🙄

[@padmajay]

You are the existing GOD for me Danish 🙏 I dont know if i can ever get any answers from GOD. But i got the answers for all the chronic questions and confusions i had from you and Dr. Ramani. God bless you both with abundance of health and happiness 🙏

[@GVM27]

Thank you DR. Bashir I know from experience interactions with 'friends' can be tricky and when a human becomes transactional and reactive to their own desires the needs and good care of the other person evaporates; this is the Narcissist in motion while instilling a violation of community and breathing out an arrogant sense of self-worth. In life, it's important to know what and who you're dealing with and this is more about prudence than waging a psychic war against the Narcissist. Stoic wisdom can provide helpful insight regarding narcissists and their ongoing efforts to tax our being. Remain mindful that conventional therapy offers a more or less insulative approach to dealing with the Narcissist and I do note this well-structured, care model, does serve a good purpose but over time it should be integrated into a personal development strategy.

[@brianf9615]

This Danish guy is smart.

[@HigherGold6]

Thank you

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

YUUUUUP…SO CORRECT From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

[@ruthlucia2298]

So true.

[@beauxjenkins6238]

Where me messed up is me seen this. Me tried for too long to show they have a real friend in me. Every time was reciprocated with their fairweather friends first and then attack me on their behalf.

[@Kennedy4OurCountry]

I dont have any real friends, either. Have complex ptsd, tho. Can make a person seem narcissistic, especially if they're being abused. I've been smeared all over town by ppl with friends who tell their friends- none of them know me they know my ex. Are these the kind of 'friends' im missing out on? Bc not one of them have zero friends. So maybe u need to refine or rethink this theory.

[@missrockstarglamazon6846]

Agreed I’m the same ! That’s why when I hear they have no friends I think it’s not right as suffers of abuse may not have good relationship due to past trauma and abuse ! I struggle to trust and that’s why my friendships and Retha e been few due to cheating and NPD abuse .so that comment only triggers me to reflect am I a narcissist. I sometimes wonder if watching all these channels can cause you to think your a person NPD even though I know my self well enough to know better.

[@Kennedy4OurCountry]

@@missrockstarglamazon6846 I've seen some videos (like crappy childhood fairy) where it's made clear that ppl with complex trauma can seem narcissistic but there is EMPATHY & of course there are no mean-spirited comments or actions from a person with cptsd. Teal Swan (who i think highly of otherwise) said 'nice ppl are narcky' & this channel has a video about narcs ending their lives alone & sad & forgotten but to me that's what happens when u've been abused by narcs for your entire life & can no longer bear letting ppl anywhere near u. Even therapists...I've been diagnosed as bipolar & borderline but I have autism & being traumatised by landlords & the other tenant on the property where I rent...I told the therapist u cannot properly diagnose a person who is dysregulated & stuck in freeze state. I think anyone making videos should have the integrity to avoid making videos just to have content & stop themselves from making such sweeping statements when there is a risk of hurting ppl who aren't narcs at all.

[@Jeet-2023]

I get the concept of the idea of a narcissist. But I believe there are more layers to it, and the whole psychology of narcissism is a bit superficial. We need to dig deeper. But thanks for the information and education. Much help!

[@duromusabc]

Accurate ! Excellent video ! Good education! Thanks Yes they have FLYING MONKEYS 🙈 🙉 🙊 (they hear nothing say nothing hear nothing to upset the narcissist)

[@OrissaCalyx]

They want people they can use to control you with

[@Aamanadoododoo]

Must be me I keep trying not to. Thank you for the criticism.

[@nicholecornes1915]

We love you

[@jaesmith8395]

Exactly , they have pawns

[@JiMMY-my1ds]

It’s all about supply

[@amritasuresh8158]

This is true!!

[@Alucard4Tec]

Trauma bond with her "best friend". She cheated on me 3 times. However this best friend keeps saying this nonsense "Cheating always happens for a reason..." I told friend that she is 100% correct. Cheating indeed always happens for a reason; this reason is the cheater themselves.