NARCISSISTS MAKE HOME FEEL LIKE PRISON

[@actionpls.]

Living with a narcissist, is living with a dictator. You're afraid to say or do anything that might set them off.

[@BrendaBaBoom]

Reciprocity is a value that is nonexistent to these individuals.

[@patriciadubosky718]

Whenever I told him that what he said or did hurt me he would respond “everything hurts you” so he wouldn’t take any responsibility or even want to know how it hurt me.

[@ingrid3578]

My father exactly. Truly a tyrant. His whole purpose of having a family was to go on a 35 year long power trip. He was the undisputed king of the house. He did as he pleased, no questions asked. Controlled everything, invaded everyone’s privacy, made everyone walk on eggshells and somehow anticipate his every need because we were all psychics apparently. It was our job to predict what mood he’d wake up in and act accordingly. Everyone had to smile and greet him when he woke up at 5pm after a drunken night of fuckery around the house. Life was just so damn horrible for him, and what a disappointment his wife and kids were. What did the king do to deserve this? Nobody was ever able to do anything right, but the king never got up off his ass to actually show us what his version of “right” was. We were psychics so we should’ve already known! Meanwhile everyone outside of our household saw what a gentle soul he was, endlessly helpful to his neighbours, so funny, charming. BARF! We would physically feel sick when we saw his public persona. If only we had a camera and filmed the demon in action in the privacy of his home. His wife was the most horrible person on planet earth, worse than a piece of garbage, so he had to treat her accordingly. Everything was her fault somehow. How could a flawless king be responsible for anything bad?

[@truthwillsetyoufree2024]

It certainly is like walking on eggshells living with a narcissist. You never know what person you're coming home too. They have a multiple personality disorder. They don't like clear communication because they're always constantly changing the rules in the goalposts. The only way to deal with a narcissist is no contact.

[@dorisparker1528]

OOHHHH MY GOD YOU DESCRIBED MY EX TO A T!!!!!!! I'M SO GLAD I'M OUT OF THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP. THANK YOU FOR REMINDING ME

[@blahblah7050]

And they isolate you from everyone and they have no friends no one to keep them accountable

[@DeeCee1878]

THIS! He had 2 friends and he only liked one of them ( a woman he leaned on for emotional support). He isolated me from the occasional visits with his family, who all kept a safe distance from him and I never met the woman “ friend”. I eventually lost touch with my friends, as they moved away and I no longer saw them. I had no family. They love when you have no one to talk to and friends never meet you. Then they sabotage your reputation to people who never got to even know you. Truly horrible now that I realize what this was really about.

[@dannyflood9212]

This brings back so many horrible memories. I am SO glad I left!!!

[@skybengal]

My ex narc isolated me first from friends then our holiday home then I wasn’t allowed to accept female tenants on our residential farm and finally she made it a point of friction when I wanted to see my older son. She was only content when I was at home with no plans to see anyone else! I even started saying no to my son having time together when I’d nothing else planned seeing the narc. That was the point I figured it out and fought back. It was so subtle over 4 years you don’t see it at the time. It’s brain washing or conditioning you and they will reduce you to a shadow of yourself! When not with her my phone would explode with constant texts or calls! If you see this RUN !!!!

[@MK-91313]

sometimes I have euphoric recall and when I listen to your videos or for that matter ppl like you who have the unbelievable ability to put what being with a narcissist is like in words it hits sooo hard. it’s like omg what we get used to how we normalize their sick behavior and how we are powerless to It once we are in their vortex. it’s truly so disturbing and disgusting that are so acclimated and integrated into society. they look like normal humans but really they are destructive beyond words. ty for what you do 💙

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I wonder sometimes if there is any limit to what a person can get used to.

[@MK-91313]

@@LookingBehindtheMirror idk it takes tremendous strength to leave bc there is always that little piece of hope that the good times can outweigh the bad but what they do day to day to us is soul crushing. I get so upset remembering how bad it was and the shame of being w someone so disgusting like how do they walk the earth and even end up in new relationships. my ex narc is def one of the sickest humans i’ve ever come across and I legitimized him bc of the cognitive dissonance and made him so real. meanwhile if I were emotionally healthy at the start I would have blocked and deleted. he’s a clown but had so much power of me it forced me to look at how I was primed for this is childhood. either way I wish there was a less painful way for us to wake up and I hope they are perpetually miserable. I would never seek out revenge but I can’t help but hope their lives especially my ex are just black emptiness. they don’t deserve peace. they are criminals and it’s not talked about enough in our culture as real true abuse.

[@clydare]

Every single word resonates with me. My prison was similar to a concentration camp😢

[@Marinaaa3]

He told me I don’t clean the toilet good enough and that he will get sick because of it

[@CrzBoarder]

How many times can I like this video?

[@ThePossumone]

I felt trapped

[@amothergoddess2774]

SOUNDS LIKE MY CHILDHOOD WITH MOSTLY MY SCHIZOPHRENIC FATHER!

[@philu4621]

My God woman, bless your heart...You've just summed up not only the last 10 years of an everlasting journey to be enough and nearly all 32 years of my life...I was literally driven insane by the level of mental control exerted over me by family members and had a serious psychotic break at 21 years old and have spent the last decade still under the spell in many ways and preyed upon heavily by other narcissists as well..

[@dreatheflower]

my goodness, this is scarily spot on. all of your videos are. this is helping more than you know.

[@Cndnwoman]

My granddaughter said I was a narcissist, I broke, I'm broken already from living with a monster for 20 years and now I'm one? God no no no😓

[@foxiefair123]

It’s probably just a thing called “Narcissistic fleas” which are just behaviors or manners of speech that you pick up from interacting with toxic people. Unlike them, though, you can change that.

[@bradmcewen]

After years of marriage then the loss of her I never had to deal with suspicions. I can't remember once. There are relationships where you live in trust without ever thinking about it. Your just living. But after her loss I never felt so alone in my life. Everything is couples this, couples that. You feel all by yourself in a crowd. Then you meet a person who wants you there constantly, makes you feel needed. It is a connection your heartbreak was hoping to be mended by.... then you realize, if that's the case, why do I feel more alone than by myself ? Plus all the other rude, demanding, deception with now obvious traits revealing an abuser person. Whether subtle expenses or personal insults. The regularity is abuse. No matter a person's circumstances, one common denominator is a vulnerability. After life changing events one has to realize the potential for predation. In this point in time, I believe your chances are high due to the narcs irresistible attraction it presents. The only new victim of a narcissist is someone unaware to a wider spectrum of interpersonal behavior than has been your life experience. A side affect benefit though is situational awareness. Perhaps the narc as bad as it was, saved us from something worse. I grab onto that and move forward. ✌️

[@JehovahIncreases7]

Called me a mother f'er Worshipped his mother but me and the daughters poc to him

[@El-bz1tq]

The uncertainty is very well explained. This is such an important gut feeling. When you see people who seem overly afraid of reactions from others you might have a good idea about who they have been dealing with in their life so far

[@Marinaaa3]

He told me I don’t wash the dishes very well after washing them for 3 hours while he was playing games on his phone. But he was just trying to help me because I am retarded In his eyes

[@sherimascote7495]

Thanks 😊

[@NarrelleChain]

Even after a day or two of being in my Npd sister 's home i would feel Ike i was going to have a breakdown, i would be throwing down loafs of va Ium, she never offered to show me around her bushland area Lake Macquarie north of Sydney, tje last time i went up there i fet like i was losing my mind, i remember her glaring at me maliciously when i was trying to eat this dreadful egg she had cooked badly! Never again, i don not see any of her children or their children as a result, no one rang at christmas day or boxing day! Loads

[@cyndigooch1162]

I experienced this extremely uncomfortable way to "live" throughout my childhood and with highly narcissistic exes, which is often the case. I also experienced it with my sister when her and I lived together for periods of time as adults. It was so traumatic that I haven't wanted to live with anyone since then and I've managed not to for many years, except for a mistake, which I won't go into now. She constantly judged me and even admitted it and physically assaulted me as well, so decided to tell her that it was best if she moved out. I believe that a lot of her behaviour is the result of a traumatic brain injury from an accident when she was a child; however, I need to protect myself and have very low contact now. It's good that she lives in another country for my own safety too. 🙁

[@JehovahIncreases7]

Alllllllllll about him ...bad or good attention as long as its attention events and vacations all about him. Took him to a birthday trip (he never did thay for me) the girls and i took him to the beach he got drunk and cussed me out, picked fights and ruined the trip. Calling me names in front of the girls told us to drop him off at the hotel he said " this trip isnt for me" b**** the girls crying and upset. Driving around the island hoping when we got back he would be asleep. He was i felt relief felt guilty for imagining he was dead Made our lives a living hell. Ruined their childhood. Regret that i had kids with him. But dont regret my girls at all. Regret trying to do a birthday trip for him and all the attention he managed to make the whole family make everything about him try to please him but he never was satisfied the kids were there for him not the other way around and the same for me...so much supply.... He was entitled and ungrateful and the next day act like nothing happened. Took off with new supply and told our oldest he was gonna have more kids with another woman and start a new family.... who tells their daughter this?! Tell me who...it made me angry and sad at the same time that he said that to her just to hurt me. Now neither one of the girls want to have anything to do with him I also filed charges after he abused me for the last time. I had enough....filed for divorce

[@DauJok-n2x]

Amazing explanation! Thank you !

[@ionrazvan126]

Her kitchen that I built with my hands and if i try to help her she doesn t need, so it doesn t happen and after that she is the victim in front of her friends because she has to cook all day , a food that she asks me if I want it and she does something else in the end

[@BonnieBurton-o8t]

We don’t know if my nephew is gonna quit his job I’m home just had leg surgery and I never cry but now😢😢😢😢😢😢 because it’s my mom she’s everything we used to speak two different languages but it’s like God bought us close together but my nephew acts like he expects us to do everything for him. We don’t know if he’ll pay the rent have to ter or if he’s laid on it and he just screams at grandma and me a couple times, it’s like you feel like you’re walking on eggshells she’s thinking about me and her getting her own place and just leave him here. What can you do with somebody? Does that kind of stuff? I said I said I look right in his face I said I am not gonna put up with this and I’m a nice person, but I won’t put up with it. No one needs to especially if they have anxiety.

[@emmarae4322]

What about controlling the lights, AC, tv, volume etc? Its just too weird. I guess we never existed in their world.

[@JehovahIncreases7]

Controlled our day depending on his day at work. Always the house had to be cleaned for him or he would ruin our day. Throw things slam stuff and run off to get drunk come back in and give us all the silent treatment take over the TV and the living room the kids went into their own rooms and me went to my room to get away from that demon Never asking me how my day was when asking about his. Always was ," what did you get done today?" Have a list for a wife to abide by. Asked him not to vapor in the house. He would do it anyway and even offered it to the kids. They love chaos. When he was mad we all felt that tension sometimes apology games to do it again the next day or later the same day

[@PurpleFlower1977]

They have a harem of people but not one to call a true friend. All there to boost the Narcissist's ego (which is only inflated by others). But these "friends" are generally fair weather friends who see the Narcissist maybe once a week where the mask is glued on tight enough... But they DO see cracks in the mask... My narcissist was shocked when one of her so called friends told her she was a bitch and her partner was beaten down... so even with the mask... the Narcissist can't fake TRUE AUTHENTICITY no matter how hard they try...

[@SoniaProteau-cj6tk]

My situation could of been different 😂, I can only control my behaviour nobody else's , it s just for entertainment purposes, it s non sense 😂

[@jakstorm3180]

Shelll never get this house

[@Froggability]

Someone likes quilting and, always sits on the bed, anyway great video sister 😊 narc are scum!