The UGLY TRUTH about buying our Dream Home

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[@klarapotthast7341]

Loved this! "But the good news here is that: You don't have to wait till you get that dream home, or job, or car, or wife, or husband, or boyfriend. Life is right now. And you have everything that you need to be completely content right now in this moment - if the Holy Spirit is living inside you."

[@bizziest8090]

Sooo good 🙏🤍

[@nakiflo]

😮 🧡🧡🧡🎉🙏

[@WriterDude130]

bffr

[@Ashley-bj8dn]

Ewwwww, nobody living in me. But please explain how to get a dream home, car without the money. How is having god providing the dream spouse and job? Please explain. All of it is my own success nothing else.

[@justinchamberlain3443]

You're talking about true Christianity? Where does that exist in America? No where I'm aware-just pretention masquerading as Christianity

[@ashleightynes6852]

My husband and I went through this at the beginning of this year. We were completely debt free except for our mortgage but weren’t fulfilled. Since then, we sold our house and are living in a one bedroom apartment while planning to build a small house in the country. Our goals have shifted to avoid debt altogether when we do build and saving to help our church plant new churches in spiritually dark places across the country. This change has certainly made an impact on our reason for going to work everyday. We have less than we’ve had in years but couldn’t be happier.

[@saram3156]

Yes! Owning nice things can be great, but you don't own something you haven't paid for, the creditor does. At least with houses you can usually right yourself if you make a mistake. The insane thing is people who go into debt for things like fancy vehicles, that start dropping in value the second they're driven off the lot!

[@liliandaven5380]

thats a beautiful testimony! God bless you!

[@christinef.1138]

Me and my husband paid off our first house within 5 years (650 sq ft. nothing fancy) and now we moved to a bigger house paid with cash that was further away from our family than we would have wanted but it's big enough to start a family We are both working part-time and always have more than enough money for things. Not having debt has been the best decision we have ever made.

[@nicholealburquerque889]

I totally relate to this. We just sold our dream house a month ago and now we are renting, and we couldn't be happier. The peace of mind and getting rid of that burden has been the best decision for us!

[@azerlynno]

I appreciate how humble you both are. I am a young wife and new mom and it’s easy to aspire for more “things”. Your lesson speaks to me on being truly content with what the Lord provides.

[@ellef4812]

Excellent content! Thanks for your vulnerability. We are completely out of debt, including no mortgage. It definitely frees you up to be way more flexible and very giving! Like Dave Ramsey says, "Live today like noone else so that you can live tmr like noone else." You're very humble, which will bring you much wisdom. ❤️

[@nateandsutton]

Wow that’s awesome!

[@pattimessina8846]

You two are such an inspiration. We had a large amount of money stolen from us last year. I finally realized it was a lesson from God that money is not our idol. Thank you for letting me see that lesson clearly!!

[@AbbyMcGuire23]

I love that you guys are always trying to better yourselves and not feeling content with just being a good person/a good Christian, but really digging deep and being honest with yourselves and the world about your spiritual struggles, etc! So refreshing! ♥️🙏🏻

[@magnolia7322]

Thank you so much for being so transparent and honest. This is exactly what my husband and I have been rolling with and this really solidifies our reasoning for scaling down than being stressed to make payments to live in a bigger home. Can’t thank you enough for speaking on this and being vulnerable when you didn’t have to be

[@daniellelemay2696]

You hit the nail on the head! My husband and I are in the process of doing the same. Our goal is to be totally debt free (we just have our mortgage) in less than five years. We don’t want to be slaves and pay so much in interest payments over years and years. Mortgage debt is fairly new and they’re laughing all the way to the bank with all of our money. God is enough 🙏🏻Thank you for being so transparent, you will help so many❤

[@BlessedwithChristt]

Thank you guys so much for your vulnerability and obedience to God. I’ve been struggling a lot with contentment. My husband and I live in an apartment and I’ve dreamed of living in a home for a long time. I would be very envious of those who have the home I desire, which I know is sin. Seeing you guys talk about this has helped me to remember that true satisfaction can only come from God. If I can’t be content in an apartment I can’t be content in a house, I’ll always want more. Thank you guys, I pray God will continually help us to be content in him only in Jesus’ name.

[@gigilewis9346]

You both are so wise beyond your years. Great example to many people. 🙏

[@meganfaller2245]

I'm not sure I've ever left a comment on KZbin, but I wanted to thank you for sharing your experience. We have a relatively small house for our family size. We also homeschool and often work from home. Buying a larger house was our tentative plan, but just in the last few weeks, I've felt unsure about a new home being what we are called to and have been praying for clarity. Your willingness to openly share your experience almost feels like an answer to my prayers. Thank you so much.

[@christinakersey]

My parents are 62 and 57 and have never bought a house because of debt and serving two masters. And I always thought that that was their loss, and they were crazy. But hearing it from someone else really has caused me to have a change of heart. I appreciate your transparency. Thank you for that ❤️

[@lala-cl2gn]

Well renting is also like slavery as you have to make payments to the landlord.. and will they be able to live till 100 or more if they live that long with monthly payments for rent?

[@iamhis5580]

Your other home was just as beautiful ❤️ Great testimony guys and yes I am sure many can benefit from your honesty!

[@justinswink4650]

I really appreciate your video because right now I am struggling with a decision to get an expensive masters degree or go to nursing school. The Hudson Taylor quote hit the nail on the head and gave me the right direction that I need to take. I want to go to nursing school, but it won't start for another year, though I can start the masters right now. This video helped me realize I shouldn't take out the debt for the masters and I need to wait for nursing school (what I really want to do). Ya'll are great!

[@NikkiSchumacherOfficial]

We sold our very modest home in March as it was our only debt and hubby was fired for not wanted medically penetrated. The house was our only debt and now have been traveling with hubby’s new job ever since. We went into a tiny amount of debt so as not yo touch our house cash for hubby to take classes for his new job but nowhere near as much debt as a mortgage! We should be buying a house for cash in the next few weeks Lord willing in a new state and then paying off our little debt with his new job since we finally won’t have travel expenses anymore. 😮‍💨 yes we are all feeling this way.

[@Sebrinawilliams67]

I love your true honesty. And I couldn't agree more. Life is about being happy, making memories, your time is more valuable to your family than any luxury item. Denzel Washington made a great comment when he said "He's never seen a U-Haul following a hearse." Next year is the best year! Praying for your sweet family. ✝️💖

[@lekat525]

A teaching moment for All. We are 70ish and we live way below our means. There are too many challenges in life to attend to without having a ginormous mortgage payment. Well done young ones. Thank you for teaching! Christ set us freeeeeee!

[@kimnicks8590]

Great!! Awesome video! So many people need to hear this!!! It's so nice to see you learning and growing , and taking care of your family along with your emotional needs. I will be praying for the process of selling and moving in 2023

[@nateandsutton]

Thank you 💛🙏🏽

[@Live.Life2343]

I know two couples that busted their butts for years, years, working OT like crazy.. away from kids, etc.. and they’re saying from both of them was, I just have 4 more years and my house ( my dream home i built, etc..) will be paid off and then and only then i can rest ( take it easy). One of the wives ended up dying of brain cancer and the other wife died unexpectedly from a flu virus that led to complications (both before retiring). Now their beautiful home they busted their ass for. Those bricks and things, are being enjoyed by the 2nd wife. Live your life man!!! Live your life! Stop looking and wanting what’s on the other side of the fence.

[@sjl2949]

Y’all. This is amazing. Thank you for sharing. 100% truth. I have felt the pressure of making more money to chase the illusive American dream of health, wealth, and happiness, but deep down I know once I get past a certain threshold (maybe 70-90k annually), I actually won’t feel happier! Very encouraged by your obedience to the Word and humility to share. May it spur many of us on to the good works that God is calling us to!

[@laurengb6]

Thank you for sharing and being open. My fiance and I are currently in the market for a house and this video has pushed me to make sure we only buy a house we can comfortably afford versus something outrageous that we would have to work our butts off daily for. Time and how I spend it is very important to me and honestly we don't need as big of a house as our brain makes us thing. We don't need all the stuff we have. We could live on the bare minimum and be perfectly fine. But this world tricks us and distracts us and greed is definitely an underlying problem that not a lot of us know we even have. Thanks again.

[@megangibbs4010]

Wow. Major respect for you guys. My husband and I were admittedly really judgemental of you when you bought the house, thinking it was way too big and flashy. But this video has humbled us just through your humility. What courage and teachability you have shown. You are like clay in the potters hands. Your willingness to listen to, obey and trust the Lord is inspiring.

[@LatoyaVee]

Hello. I'm curious if you would feel the same way if they had won the lottery and bought a flashy house? Is it the flashy house you don't like; OR people living above their means? :)

[@Ashley-bj8dn]

Humility? He said they were homeless going between homes. Then gaslighted everyone who called him out

[@megangibbs4010]

@@LatoyaVee I think it's a little bit of both. Huge flashy houses just seem unnecessary to me. I'm from Africa where there is so much need so I always think of how many families could be sheltered in that amount of space. As for people living above their means....it's hard to know because people hardly ever admit that they are, which is why I respect these guys for doing this.

[@LatoyaVee]

@@megangibbs4010 do you think it's possible that sometimes as people we are too quick to come to conclusions? If I make 100 million a year, am I that greedy to live in a million dollar home? I think we need to consider ratios, and also consider we don't know what people are doing with the other 99million. Fancy stuff will always be around, and so will the poor, I don't think one person can solve poverty (or cause it) by being in a big house. Again, we don't know what happens to the other 99million cause maybe it's being donated to poor, so is a million dollar house in that context bad? I don't want to sound accusatory, just offering a different perspective!

[@Jazzylady420]

It's great that you are both so supportive of each other. Money and things are not what is most important. It's the love of God , peace of mind and the Love you share between the two of you that is what is most important.

[@lovelove303]

Your eyes of understanding have been flooded with LIGHT. Seeing life through the lenses of ABBA 😍

[@juliakent2560]

I felt like that with hosting... always waiting for nicer counteracts, backslash etc. Until God said "just host anyway and be content!" So we do and we have a great nice house. Not huge but perfect to love people in! I really think you guys are making the right decision ❤️❤️❤️

[@abundantgrace540]

I am in agreement with you guys about how our Lord used this experience to teach a beautiful life lesson! A lesson you can share with many! We worship an Awesome God who loves us and only wants what is good and profitable for us. My hubby and I have a ministry where we minister to the homeless in our home. Every Saturday we have church in our house and have been doing this for around 15 years. We invite the homeless to our home to take a shower, get clean clothes, have a hot meal and hear the word of God. When we got this home it was an answer to prayer. We had prayed and asked the Lord if He would give us a home we would bring Him Glory with the home. We had no idea that we would be ministering to the homeless in this home. We have done it only because He has work through us to will and do of His good pleasure! The Lord shows us all the time how this ministry is important to Him. We do not have social media, we do not advertise this ministry and yet we have people who hear about us and bring offerings and gifts for the homeless. I am here to testify that God is good! I am so happy for you guys Nate and Sutton! I look forward to seeing what God has planned for you! If anyone is interested in seeing a video of our homeless ministry, there is a video on my KZbin page. The video starts in the park with the homeless and then to our home. It was from Christmas a few years ago.

[@katelynowens2220]

Super PROUD of you guys. What a hard, but amazing lesson to learn at this point in your lives. And even though it may seem CRAZY to sell your dream house, especially so soon after buying it...often the Lord calls us to do crazy things that don't make sense to others 🧡 I believe you will be blessed for making this decision. Excited to see what's next!

[@handymama20]

It is SO freeing to live debt free! My husband and I payed on our home loan for 9 months before we payed off or mortgage. It was a stressful and exhausting time of life but now it's over and we are grateful and blessed. We've started our own KZbin channel sharing our story and progress to hopefully encourage others who want to live debt free. You have a beautiful family and are such an encouragement!

[@bbraskey8521]

Debt has enslaved our family too. We’re in process to sell. Praying we can liquidate our properties & be “debt free & available”. T/u for speaking on this. It is such a vital topic today!

[@ljsurrender1899]

Amazing revelation! 👏 I am so overwhelmed with how much you are both learning in your walks with the Lord. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable lesson that you have learned. The Lord is definitely using this to speak to many in the body of Christ. We are all in the process of waking and preparing for the return of our soon and coming King. No thing and no person must stand in our way. This is so beautiful. Keep exalting the name of Jesus. I too thought that if I could just get that dream home,etc. I surrender Lord. Thank you. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you both and those precious boys. 🙏

[@laurenwilliamson2240]

Thank you guys! This was very insightful! I was convicted by what Nate said about "your strongest desires may not be your deepest" as I just bought a new car that I've been wanting and I've felt since then that maybe I acted on what my mind wanted and not what my soul needed

[@nateandsutton]

Happens to the best of us! If you feel led you can always sell your car and get a different one!

[@stephaniecline571]

Thank you for your humility and honesty. I think this will speak to many people and I pray the Lord convicts the hearts of those with ears to hear. My husband and I bought our home 20 years ago and paid it off in 7 years. It took some self control and sacrifice, but it was one of the best decisions we made. We are free from the bandage of debt and we can work as little or as much as we desire now. It has left us open to spend time and witness Christ to people. Time is such a valuable commodity and it should be protected and cherished. Now more than ever, people are hurting and scared. They need someone to talk to and they need to hear the hope that lies within us which is Christ. The world doesn't offer any hope and what a lesson you've learned with this home. There is no lasting satisfaction in anything this world has to offer. God bless you and your beautiful family. This is a decision you will never regret. Much respect to you both. God is definitely glorified as well.

[@user-ij2kz5ho3v]

Hi there, I'm writing to you from Burkina Faso, West-Africa, but I am Belgian (and did know Bart!). I’m happy to follow you and love how you’re not afraid to share the good and the hard with the world! Thank you for listening to Gods voice and share it with us. I do think though that dept is not necessarily the real (or only) problem. Saying that avoiding dept is the key, might be understood by some people as if having even more money WOULD be the solution. Imagine if you had bought this house without any dept. Would you not feel this same emptiness and deception? The story you shared in your last video about the harvester who always wanted to build and harvest more, didn’t find happiness and contentment at all, not because of dept, but because he looked for happiness in the wrong place. I love how it’s put in 1 Tim 6:6, saying that faith in God is real wealth, IF you learn to be satisfied about what you have. And verses 7-10: 7 When we came into the world, we brought nothing. And when we die, we can take nothing out. 8 So, if we have food and clothes, we will be satisfied with that. 9 People who want to be rich bring temptations to themselves. They are caught in a trap. They begin to want many foolish things that will hurt them. These things ruin and destroy people. 10 The love of money causes all kinds of evil. Some people have turned away from what we believe because they want to get more and more money. But they have caused themselves a lot of pain and sorrow. Sorry for my preachings 😊, I did some studies about “joy” to share with streetkids in Burkina Faso recently (ooooh yes, they think having money will make them happy!) and we shared with them the Biblical truth: “Don’t save treasures for yourselves here on earth. Moths and rust will destroy them. And thieves can break into your house and steal them. Instead, save your treasures in heaven, where they cannot be destroyed by moths or rust and where thieves cannot break in and steal them. Your heart will be where your treasure is. » It's a great lesson for all of us and the problem is not WHAT we have (of course poverty is not God’s will!), but where we focus on in our lives. Thanks for the good work you’re doing and thanks for inspiring many!! love! irene

[@krissyhall2838]

Ahhh loved this! It’s so true sister.Are you a missionary?What brings you to West Africa?🙂

[@user-ij2kz5ho3v]

@@krissyhall2838 I have lived in Burkina Faso for about 11 years now. Missionary sounds very religious so I usually don't use the word... But we do christian work among talibé/streetboys in Burkina Faso, my husband (from Burkina) and I. Much of Gods love and joy to you!

[@KalynJewel]

You guys do have what I would call a dream life but it has nothing to do with your house. Y'all are such an inspiration ❤ God is definitely using you guys to really help and inspire so many people.

[@steveng5107]

Thank you for sharing. I have similar situation with my job. I was complaining that I'm not good enough of a provider and God sent me this job. It just fell into my lap. I make more money but my life became my work. I don't have time for family and for God. I've realized that I wanted to be a good provider, but I didn't trust Him in that. He always provided in the past and we never had a need. Now I'm providing on my own. Life will pass and I don't want to have regrets of trading my family and peace in my heart for money. I hope I've learned my lesson. Thank you for being open, it helps us viewers. May God bless you and your posterity!

[@robyn905]

It takes a lot of courage to talk about this so I commend you both. Especially Nate, because I understand that it’s a very common thing for men to have a financial stronghold, even if they’re doing well in their careers. Debt hurts our soul more than we think. Sutton is such a wonderful understanding wife. She values and loves her husband more than a “dream” and that’s inspiring.

[@iloveGod1105]

thank you soooo much for being vulnerable and sharing this! I am still in college and not about to purchase a home, but I graduate in May. I wanted to sit through this to learn life lessons and wisdom from you all. You are a blessing!

[@rosieaustin9911]

We are going through something similar. We are being humbled but my husband is still in the phase of anxiety. I’m like u Sutton, I just want him to have peace.

[@brookteleguz2462]

I agree with this so much! The joy and freedom that comes from living a debt free life has been robbed from so many in my generation because as soon as we stepped out of college we became slaves to the lender. I wish someone would have sat down with me at that age and made me realize how much debt I was really getting into. I will certainly counsel my children in this growing up and am thankful that we now have more affordable ways to be educated in niche courses online. Thank you for swallowing your pride and sharing this lesson with all of us

[@estherrussell3071]

Thank you for sharing! My husband and I are young, and we just paid off all of our debt. This was a confirmation for me that living frugally and staying out of debt is worth the emotional/spiritual peace. One day we’ll get to the point where we can help others, guilt-free. Love you guys!

[@marilynbaudier1094]

Thank you so much for your honesty. My husband and I are thinking about doing the same thing. Debt robs us of our joy and no home is worth your joy. Peace be with you’ll.

[@kryskay989]

Haha yep, we're definitely in that same boat LOL Since we moved into the house Oct 2021(literally since we walked through the doors) we've been under a weight... To the point that within 6 months I was so stressed about the repairs/maintenance that I ended up with a HORRIBLE case of shingles (on my scalp, in my ear, on my eye...horrible). When we were searching we had put offers into homes across several states, over list price, the whole gambit, and God kept shutting doors. God opened a door for this house and we knew God brought us here; just didn't know *why*. We too see that God was using it to teach us lessons we couldn't have learned otherwise. For us it's not the cost of the mortgage/debt, we pay less now than we did for our rental; for us it's being tied down and feeling like we don't have the freedom to go and do *when* God puts things on our hearts. God told us to prepare for a move, so that's what we're doing... We have no idea when or how, but trust that when God gives the directive He'll provide the means; even if we take a loss on the house. I'll be praying for you guys!

[@helen.deoliveira]

We must learn to receive God's blessings through His Grace, which has nothing to do with our efforts to "conquer" what we want. Thanks for sharing! Brazil present here. God bless your family 🙏

[@KytiaLamour]

I have to say, I didn’t see this coming. I can’t think of another time I’ve seen someone on KZbin be so honest about biblical principals and the need to live by them. I’m looking forward to what God does in your situation because I have a feeling it will turn out differently than you expect. 😉

[@Refiningforge]

What’s interesting was around the time you were trying to purchase this house, you mentioned things were so hard like the devil was trying to keep the house from you but maybe it was God saying slow down. Either way, it’s your journey and we know God can turn things around to us in a more beautiful way we can imagine as long as we are being real with Him and ourselves. I feel you guys, may God continue to bless you and your family! He will never leave you desolate.

[@nateandsutton]

Yes, very well could have been!

[@KellyElizabeth1]

Nothing worldly feels better than the freedom of no debt. We’ve had zero debt since we were 40 and it has been such a huge blessing to live the last 20 years in that freedom and peace. Christians should lead the way in this and it is awesome that you are being transparent about this. We are called to be set apart and I know full well how hard it is to live more humbly than those around us. Have you heard of the hedonic treadmill?? It is simply the desire for more and more and once we get what we want, the length of time that we feel contentment lessens with each new thing. The cure?…Jump off the treadmill!! God bless you in this new found revelation. I believe you will feel like a new man and it sounds as if you already do❤

[@shellbell8062]

I am on a similar journey right now where I own my own business and have financial "freedom" which is ironically a prison. I live on my own and so work is my main focus, to the detriment of all of my relationships. I have beautiful furniture and clothes - and it feels empty. I always dreamed of reaching this level of income and it is literally costing me my joy, my freedom and relationships. I want to get off of the hamster wheel and love people and nurture my relationship with God and enjoy His creation. This is not worth it.

[@mpumiekhumalo5310]

You'll be alright in Jesus name🥰🥰

[@ChrissyChrissyChrissy333]

That is interesting to hear. I would've thought (in a way) owning your own business would be better than working for the man... but I know that sometimes it is more work than working for the man, and too all on your shoulders alone. Pros and cons, and I guess at the end of the day, we all owe the man anyway. I've been out of work for a year, I have been dragging my feet as I do not want to feel like a slave again... I've been praying for something fulfilling/rewarding. Thank you for sharing, it's nice to hear other perspectives.

[@shellbell8062]

@@ChrissyChrissyChrissy333 don’t get me wrong I still want to work for myself- but I need boundaries so that I can enjoy life and relationships and I don’t just work myself into the ground. I don’t really understand the balance because as it grows there are naturally more demands. I’m navigating through this. I would still never go back to working for someone else. I pray that the Lord provides you with fulfilling work that uses your natural gifts.

[@ChrissyChrissyChrissy333]

@@shellbell8062 That makes sense, I hear you. And thank you for the prayer :)

[@veronicao2958]

I think that this is a perfect lesson for the season of Christmas, especially for me. When asking for what I wanted for Christmas I put down what I mostly wanted and thought I needed (ex: cute trendy clothes for senior year). But the things that I desire aren't what my soul truly needs. More than the external my soul needs God. My soul needs His direction. His wise words. His peace and joy. His patience. Through y'all amazing video I can take away that I have everything I need to be content right now. And getting some cute clothes isn't going to make me more content than spending this moment today with the Lord. I am not going to be happy when Christmas day arrives, or when I eat or when I watch tv or when I go to a party or when something happens in the future. Let's be content today. Let's live today and not depend on anything or anyone other than GOD for our joy/happiness!

[@dominiquegiampaolo]

“What we are looking for is what is looking.” - St. Francis of Assisi 🙏 Which means what we are all truly searching for is the calling the soul. We are searching for our connection with God. Love how you are reunited with your integrity, with God, and how you are supporting each other on this adventure called life.

[@mercyz6252]

Thank you for sharing! As a child of you, we go to the father with authority for everything. You two’s agreement is powerful! Blessings! Praying for you guys

[@lovelight9589]

I just went through the same experience. My husband and I both have paid off cars but I was unhappy driving the truck we have so we traded it in and now we have an 8k loan on a mid size car. I realized having the car payment which isn’t much made me feel like I have to work more and harder to pay the payment we have now. I realized it wasn’t worth the stress and wish we didn’t trade in the very nice payed off truck we had. Lesson learned here for me and my family. We have recently thought of scaling down on the house as well and buy something smaller to have a paid off house.

[@veronicaolivella7946]

The message was on time for me. The conviction and the obedience you both have are inspiring. Sutton, your response to Nate of so what was perfection. Thank you both for sharing this with the world. ❤

[@christineford6763]

That is the beautiful truth ! I am so proud of you ! Yes yes yes … our King wants us out of debt and indebted to Him alone ! Love you guys .

[@nf2920]

I appreciate both of your attitudes, My husband passed away in 2015 from leukemia and I’m now the one to provide to pay bills. My health went down hill during his fight for life of about 20 months and we always lived on a one income household. I was a stay at home mom. So when all this Covid stuff started I made a decision to live with less. Has it always been easy? No! But God has always provided, for which I am grateful! He’s still doing it! (Clarification…. I didn’t go to work until 2018. ) I’m back in the classroom now but it’s not been easy for me to work away from home after being a stay at home mom. My husband didn’t leave any debt which has been such a blessing! We never had a lot of money and didn’t do a lot of things others did. When our two oldest children went to college, they had to either work enough or borrow because we didn’t have it. I often think of the verse in the Bible that says “Give me neither poverty nor riches, “ he didn’t want poverty so he wouldn’t have a desire to steal, and he didn’t want riches that he would forget God. ( I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having money,) God bless you and your family! God has led you thus far , He will continue to do so as you trust Him! ❤

[@Lena-lp7xf]

Good for you guys! My husband and I have been completely debt free for a year and the sense of peace and freedom that we have is amazing. We would like to get a bigger house in a nicer area, but we are saving up until we are in a position to do so. If you are not familiar with Dave Ramsey, I strongly recommend listening to his show and his books. Also, my husband is a realtor, and he always says there is no such thing as a “dream house” because dreams change and people change. Best of luck to you guys and God bless you!

[@LuluBre02]

And you guys telling us this is soo inspiring and helpful I'm telling you! Your decision to share this with the world is gonna have massive ripple effects. Thankyou for your humility and honesty ✨️

[@nateandsutton]

💛🙌🏽

[@BethanyRenner]

I think this resonates with so many ppl these days. Those of us who have been burnt out by busy and keeping up with the Jones’. I went through something similar back in 2017 and am so much happier and content now. It wasn’t worth the stress or peace of mind. Slower Living followed shortly after that.

[@nathandelong7069]

As someone who recently became debt free, I can relate to the feeling that comes with being deep in the hole and not seeing much hope for a way out after crunching the numbers about four and a half years ago and realizing how much money I owed someone else. So far I have never been in a position to buy a house, but being up to my eyeballs in consumer debt was not a good feeling. Praise God for helping me break free of it over the past four and a half years!

[@linmurray436]

There is something to be said for not owing anyone a dime. We bought a beautiful condo in a beautiful resort as an investment. My husband took a new job that took us to east coast, hated it so he quit and we came back to our condo. We lived there for 2 years and my husband explored being "retired". He got bored, I got bored so we bought a nice house across town (paid cash) and rented the condo for $5500 per month. We are one year in, have used the rental income to pay expenses for both properties and paid for the remodel of our new home. There is no greater feeling than waking up every day just happy! No worries about anything. Side note, my husband , after 20 years of being an executive in the retail world decided he would volunteer at the resort and that morphed into him now being the General Manager. He comes home from work every day singing and happy, can't wait to go to work in the mornings. He is a people person and is loving the hospitality industry. Life is good but it's so great to not have mortgages or car payments and investment money put away in case he decides to stop working.

[@sandragirard6658]

Guys, you are so young and so full of wisdom! Thanks for your testimony ! It’s not our possessions that will make us happy! In fact it’s the opposite! More stuff makes us anxious !

[@gillianambachtsheer1871]

Wow, so brave to be so honest.

[@keziadahl1588]

My husband struggles with this too. I handle the finances but he worries about them because he’s been drilled all his life with “the man is the head of the household and the man provides for his family” so he takes the burden on himself completely and almost makes himself sick sometimes with trying to make more money and handle debt and have all the things he thinks we should have. I tell him all the time, “So what if we lose it all? God always provides. We have options others don’t. We have family, we have friends, we have degrees and experience.” I can be happy anywhere but he struggles to just be present and happy sometimes because it goes against what he’s been taught and told all his life. We’d have more money if we stopped paying tithes and giving to charities but God has sent each thing to us and if we lose ourselves trying to gain “security” it’s not worth it. It’s a hard lesson to learn but you’re definitely not alone. I love the way you guys worded this. It comes down to realizing the life we’ve planned and hoped and prayed for may not be what God has for us but we have to trust his way is better. This is something I always think over around Christmas especially. Love this video! This is something so many people struggle with. I appreciate you guys sharing this!

[@hannahrsheppardshep2653]

Thank you guys for being so open and honest on this subject!! Me and my husband actually are praying for a house, we live with my in laws temporarily and are saving as much as possible. This just confirms to me what we NEED to be looking for. A house is a need yes, but I don’t want more than what we need. And you can STILL have your dream design in a smaller home too! That’s the best part of it. Anyways, thank y’all!!

[@ivynamtosi5668]

Bless you Sutton, you are such a caring wife...

[@rebekahkierstead1451]

Very good and eye-opening discussion. Love what you said about contentment about 8 minutes in Nate. It's challenging me to reconsider where I place my hopes, dreams and happiness. It is a comfort to be reminded that we have everything we need right now. :)

[@alisonrittener5606]

Praise God He is delivering you🙏 Love the way you guys are handling this and humbling yourselves😊Can’t wait to see where the Lord takes you!🙏

[@biancablooms]

Thank you for this. Such a valuable lesson. I've learnt a greater lesson from Sutton. How to truly be a supportive partner. It certainly takes a lot of love and selflessness to be willing to let go of something you hold dear for the sake of your loved one's peace of mind. I'm taking this into my soon coming marriage. God bless💕

[@AshleyMurphyArt]

I seriously don’t see it as a mistake. It’s you guys story of realizing what doesn’t really fill us up. Yes, learning for sure. If He shut it you would’ve not been put in the situation to learn. We have to experience first hand and it doesn’t have to be in a dream home. He will and use so many other things. Love you guys and thank you for being obedient and speaking out.

[@Kiayamarieee]

This is going in the “good words” playlist for sure! Thank y’all for being so set apart from everyone I have seen on KZbin. It’s really cool to see yalls take on what God is speaking to y’all!

[@sar983]

HONESTLY YOU ARE SPEAKING OF SOO MUCH OF TRUTH AND I THINK YOU JUST OPENED MY EYES TO A WHOLE DIFFERENT SCENARIO AND I THINK IF IT'S GOD WILL THEN IT'S GOD WILL AND HE WILL SURELY GIVE YOU ALL THE THINGS THAT WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE A MEANINGFUL LIFE AND YOU KNOW GUYS I AM PRAYING FOR YOU AND KNOW THAT WHEN A CHRISTIAN PRAY A BATTLE HAS JUST STARTED BUT THE REWARDS ARE TOTALLY WORTH IT

[@yazziefazy]

Thank you so much for doing this!!!! My husband and I have literally been praying about this and your video/information is an answer to prayers!!

[@jessvikal6631]

Thank you so much for this video and your transparency. It really helps me seeing things in a different perspective when it comes to dept. Such a valuable lesson. The lesson that you've learned is definitely more valuable than any house or gold. God bless finding not your dream house, but your dream HOME.

[@nadia3r471]

Dave Ramsey is where it’s at!!! Debt is dumb! Cash is king! I think one day if you wanted a nice house, you could do it without debt!

[@dtoplov9]

This was encouraging to watch, especially since I had been praying that your public life would be less about success and materialism. As believers we are all on a journey of sanctification and ultimately to find our everything in Jesus, no matter our outward circumstances. We can all point out the errors of others (and at times it is necessary to do that as brothers and sisters in Christ), but we should also rejoice when the Spirit is at work, reminding us that our citizenship is in heaven. Being debt free is one way we can demonstrate to the Lord that His provision is enough and until there is more provision, we wait. A lot of what we wrestle with is the culture we are surrounded by and this culture is one of decadence, personal comforts and the lie that we should have them all NOW. May God bless you as you seek to honor Him (not your KZbin viewers, although there is a measure of accountability and genuineness there too in having a more public life) and live a more simple life.

[@kelseabeville3586]

Man! What a life lesson for sure. I was just thinking while watching this one that I always feel lighter and a freshness if that makes sense from watching y’all’s videos!! You’re definitely listening to the Holy Spirit and being obedient and I thank you for sharing that with us!

[@emilymaas7820]

Appreciate how honest and humble you guys are!

[@karenhardie1132]

It looks very expensive. People want more and more and are never content. Living a simpler life is the best. Material possessions are not going to bring happiness.

[@bethanykuntz6640]

I really love how honest and real you guys are. God bless you in this new year.

[@brendakelp685]

Thank you for your transparency, I really needed to hear this, I felt like this was for me, God is so good, thank you again for sharing.

[@TheHandy24]

Even though I get that this experience can't have been easy for you at all, I love, love, love that you have gone through it, have been sensitive enough to understand what God has been teaching you through it and have been humble enough to respond to His promptings. Whichever direction He leads you in, you won't regret obeying Him. Thank you so much for sharing this story - it's nothing at all to be embarrassed about, just the kind of message this world needs to hear.

[@kcotjo]

Great insight and lesson learned. Buyers remorse can teach us a great lesson. Perhaps you might consider renting for a while and not rush into a home. There is nothing wrong with renting and saving and not having the great responsibility of home ownership until you are ready again. A HUGE trap these days is social media and comparison; consumerism, materialism, it all goes hand in hand. I started IG to see decorating, recipes, humor and it is nothing but ads, selling stuff, constant upgrades to homes, sell sell sell. It has been a huge turn off. It's like a million infomercials on tv. You guys are becoming so wise with your decision. You won't regret it. We have been in our one story modest home for 36 years. Everyone our age (65) were building bigger and better new homes. We kept doing little projects here and there as we could afford it and we still love our home. Our grown sons always tell us to never sell our home as it is the home they grew up in. The financial freedom we have right now is wonderful. Thank you for sharing your authentic, honest lesson for us all. Wish you all the best!!

[@jessicamorris2955]

I love you guys and your transparency! I’ve followed you guys for a few years and am continually grateful for your authenticity and realness. Y’all are such inspirational examples for the kingdom of God! Thank you for your courage to speak on The Lords truth always!❤

[@paris2115]

Wow!!! The level of transparency is just SO refreshing!! Thank you SO much for sharing and even reflecting on your experience. This video is extremely impactful and is/will impact many lives including mine! Bravo!!

[@nateandsutton]

💛💛

[@supermick3000]

This ministered to me so much. If you only knew… Regarding your decision, I can’t wait to see the blessings that follow from yielding to the direction the Lord has given you. It’s beautiful.

[@nickduer645]

These ideas about debt/spirituality are exactly what Dave Ramsey preaches. Great message

[@nateandsutton]

Yes! We love Dave!

[@christineelizabeth6467]

I’ve been sensing less is more in my own life. God gave me a word for this year…Change. That can mean many things but I trust God is moving us forward. It seems that word isn’t just for me but for everyone. So excited for y’all 👏♥️

[@georgiakonopczynski4508]

Was hoping you guys came to this conclusion when you first showed the house! You guys are the real deal! God bless you

[@psalmethyst]

I think there is a way to live in (God-given) abundance without letting it consume you. Could it be that God wants you to just learn how to have control over the abundance rather than rejecting it? If the house was a blessing from God and He opened the door for you to be able to purchase it, maybe He is in fact blessing you and that the Holy Spirits is just teaching you right now to be careful not to let these blessings take over you? Sometimes we're just being tested by God to see whether we would still put Him first. Kinda like Abraham-Isaac-altar moment. He doesn't really wanna take away the blessing He gave you or runaway from it. He just wants you to learn the lesson and prove your hearts.

[@ptl4093]

May God bless on your decision. You are such a wise, honest, young beautiful couple inspires many people about money and happiness. Thank you from a 65 year old Christian who also constantly learns from the Bible.

[@johannahanneke4915]

So proud of you guys!! It's amazing that you want to serve ONLY GOD and radically free yourselves from being slaves to dept/money. Praise God!! He is leading you guys somewhere ... so exciting! Thanks for being a powerful voice on Social Media. I pray that God will build more and more of His Kingdom through you 🙌

[@lisal6878]

Praise God this is so true! You two are just amazing!

[@MariaMendoza-hw4vu]

God knows all things and He is always GOOD and FAITHFUL! Keep trusting and believing in HIM! Love y’all!💜

[@gamewarden2813]

Yes! I've always wanted a piece of land with animals and a fixer home that wasn't too fancy , just has what we need. But even then, I still have to check myself and make sure I am not becomming a slave to this idea, even If i were to live in an apartment my whole life, I should still be fulfilled because God had filled the void in my heart that nothing else can fill ♥️

[@megship]

It’s an extremely privileged thing to be able to live without debt. I understand the principle of avoiding debt, and agree with it to a reasonable extent. But most people will never be able to own a home without a mortgage. The idea of being tied to a “payment” is a bit silly when the alternative for most people would be that they’d be tied to rent, not a smaller house that they paid cash for (not possible for most people).

[@theamazingworldofkenzie1730]

I understand where you’re coming from completely! However, Nate and Sutton, among many others have worked very hard and worked hard spiritually as well, in which God has blessed them with finances to be able to do these things and to be able to live without debt. It’s not a possibility for everyone yes, but everyone does have the opportunity to work hard enough to get there! Hopefully everyone is able to but working hard in life and in spiritually will bless anyone beyond belief. For most people they will always be tied to a payment for a time period, but the goal is to work hard and SMART (not just hard) in order to get out of payments and debts. It is 1000% possible!!! Just got to have faith.

[@Rachel-tt7qe]

THANK YOU NATE AND SUTTON!!! 😊 This video is such confirmation to the conversations my husband and I have been having as newlyweds. Thank you for sharing everything you did in this video. It was such an encouragement to us. We want to buy small, pay it off, have rentals, and live life not serving a mortgage only serving the Lord, and enjoying the freedom in that. We have wrestled with doubt of if it was even possible. We want to have babies and not be consumed with work and money and seeing that you two are successful on your own, free from corporate America is so uplifting and it encourages us. Sending love from Wilmington, NC! God bless you!

[@nateandsutton]

Aw good! So happy to hear that! Ah you’re from Wilmington!? We are watching one tree hill which was filmed there! I’ve wanted to visit there ever since I first watched this show in high school! Haha

[@dpurnell86]

A powerful testimony of a powerful truth. Thank you for sharing. Its inspiring to see how God is guiding you and teaching you through His spirit. In my church we have modern prophets and apostles who have been exhorting us to get out of debt for decades. That’s a signature of prophets, always ahead of their time. I love how God gives direction to His children on as many levels and from as many inspired sources as He can, He just wants us to live by truth so we can have joy and freedom! It’s beautiful.

[@KatieRingley]

this happened to us- we sold that house, paid off student debt with the equity, moved into a 700 sq ft apt, saved for a down payment, bought a house that was much more reasonable and 2 years in, it’s almost completely paid off. We have to have a box to live in and I don’t wanna be a slave to rent (which is someone else’s debt) so I wanted to be completely debt free. NOTHING LIKE IT. WE ARE FREE!!!! For what it’s worth, I’m atheist. And I still think it all applies. Spiritually I’m happier regardless.

[@kimpreslar303]

I love this - thanks for being transparent and honest enough to share it. Absolutely no one is perfect. We all make mistakes, but what’s most important is that you are willing to listen to the prompting of the Holy Spirit’s restlessness and seek the Lord for counsel to understand and then take radical steps to course correct early in life so you can live an even more blessed and peaceful life, one that the Lord created for you, instead of living by the world’s deceptive standards that will rob you and keep you in bondage. I can’t wait to receive updates and more lessons from your journey. God bless you ; may He give you more wisdom and favor as you take these courageous next steps. 🙏🏻