I swiped on tinder 143,489 times. Here’s what happened

Time to look into my data from tinder, bumble, and hinge!
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Chapters:
0:00 Intro
0:44 Let's look into my tinder data
2:42 The main problem with tinder
3:25 Quick aside about tinder's extortionate pricing
4:14 Analysing my swipe data
5:27 My most successful openers
6:35 Was I more picky during the pandemic?
7:32 Spon
8:31 Intro to Bumble and its flaws
9:45 Let's look into my bumble data
10:06 The worst feature of bumble
11:05 Intro to Hinge
12:55 Let's look into my hinge data
14:46 Looking into the other online dating apps and websites
15:48 Final thoughts on online dating
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[@leonajoyce3577]

as a rural lesbian just imagining having the opportunity to swipe 140k times on any dating app is wild because i run out after three people

[@jacobgress3074]

Girl same lol. I’m gay in a very red state and it’s horrible out there lol

[@tomrogue13]

I live in a rural area az a bi man. Twice as manh opportunities and yeah still ran out

[@harshilpatel684]

Minorities living in Western Countries have it tough too, I can't imagine what my stats are...

[@jessicamankowska2921]

Move to a city

[@sky0799]

Totally relate you are not alone

[@mahadevovnl]

Tinder got me a 4-year relationship and a 6-months relationship. What I learned is that being single isn't so bad.

[@Pllayer064]

Acknowledged.

[@sorzin2289]

Good for you

[@JustAnotherRandomPersonOnline]

Yeah, you don't know how good being single can be until a REALLY bad relationship has thrown you through the ringer.

[@BryJovi17]

Try being eternally single then... seriously it's cringe when people moan about their past relationships. Look, you had some good times OBVIOUSLY, and clearly if you're a mature and adult enough human being then you'll be able to take something from those failed relationships and know what to avoid in the future and learn more about yourself too. There is nothing to be learned by being single other than becoming so used to your own company that you genuinely start to think if there's something wrong with you for why the opposite sex barely ever show any interest in you. And as Shakespeare once said "Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all", so stop being an ungrateful moron, and consider those of us that have never had a relationship not for lack of trying, thanks!

[@mahadevovnl]

@@JohnSmith-sj2dk Congratulations :) I hope you have an amazing life and marriage! It wouldn't be for me. John also said: "to each their own, what do I know, I don't live in the time of internet and Tinder."

[@JoneseyBanana]

People always say not having arguments is a red flag, but if you communicate so effectively even during difficult conversations that nobody ever raises their voice or feels attacked, and everyone's always listening and empathising and trying to reach common ground, why is it not escalating to an argument a problem? I've been with my partner for nearly three years at this point, and I wouldn't say we've *ever* properly argued.

[@damystery123]

I’ve been with my partner 7 years and we’ve also never had what I’d consider an argument. We’ve had a couple moments of one of being overly stressed and being a bit harsh but we talk about it calmly after and don’t yell back and forth.

[@joepiekl]

I think it's because often the reason people don't have arguments is because they just don't say how they feel to keep the peace, and then one day when they finally have an argument about something small, everything that's annoying them comes out and it blows up into a huge fight. But obviously the healthier option is what you are doing.

[@RiddimKingdom]

Exactly this! My partner and I disagree but when we do we both try to see it from the other persons side and sit down and listen to each other’s reasons for our views. Sometimes we find common ground, sometimes we agree to disagree but it never ever results in nastiness, fights or insults. But that’s because we’ve both done a toooooon of work on ourselves.

[@janebaker966]

Intelligent people don't have shouting argy-bargies. They are not a good idea even if they work in drama.

[@pernillerosenfeldt4261]

I suppose that depends on your definition of an argument. It is healthy to have disagreement, and to have discussions about those disagreements, as long as you are on point, and working towards a solution. But if you get to the yelling and insulting stage, you are not heading anywhere constructive or healthy. I have seen people using the word argument to mean both, so I am honestly a bit confused.

[@jokerproduction]

Met my current fiance in 2016 on Ok Cupid. She was the first person I spoke to and that was 20 minutes after I made the account. Had our first date about 2-3 weeks later and we have been together ever since.

[@von...]

lmao dude I have heard this scenario happen to so many different people who ended up finding a super amazing long-term partner out of it! Still, it blows my mind - you have to imagine that you both got super lucky find each other without having to experience the cornucopia of weirdness out there.

[@dannyrios2004]

I matched with her too, Joker.

[@oliverjorgensen8665]

“Current fiance” Based.

[@PainTensei551]

Massive W, goodluck bro!

[@MrPersistent16]

Nice to see you here Joker!

[@tessgonzalez285]

i’m an early 20s woman so i never had any trouble but yeesh these statistics are bleak to look at. i remember using bumble bff to make some female friends around town and i finally understood what guys meant when dating apps were miserable. people ghosting, convos that go nowhere, or people just using the app to pass time but never meeting up

[@ericaschoenberg7782]

same on the wlw sides of these apps! to be fair though im terrible at getting to know people online, so i never know how to keep a conversation going without already having common experiences ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@kurrwa]

What do you expect? People have lifes

[@spicychad55]

@@kurrwa that's not point, Ding Ding

[@Smiley957]

@@kurrwa what does that have to do with anything?

[@dececanem]

Same. I did the same thing and it was so overwhelming. Although I did meet one group of friends and we meet up sometimes, but it's not often and 50% of the group has dropped out

[@SJPace1776]

I tried these apps years ago and man, the toll it can take on your psyche. Being rejected 99% of the time and the sheer volume and how it "gameifies" your emotions like a mobile game with transactions. After a year or two I just burned out and quit dating at all for a while. Meeting my girlfriend and being happy now I am so glad to be in a relationship and also relieved to be away from those apps. If you're on there and struggling, that is really normal. Best of luck to everyone.

[@lonestarr1490]

These kind of stories always feel a bit unsatisfactory if you don't mention how and where you met your girlfriend. It sounds like you simple run into her in the pharmacy or something and just like that the deal was sealed.

[@SJPace1776]

@@lonestarr1490 it was at a social gathering. We chatted, found a lot of common interests, exchanged numbers, and then dated.

[@KyleReeseCel2029]

I never tried them. I got blown out hundreds of times year ago doing real life pick up, and my odds where the same as yours. Hundreds of hours of near waste time, money and energy.

[@MrNoName7474]

I lasted like 2 weeks before I confidently gave up online dating. That was like 2 years ago and I’m still single, but never going back.

[@politereminder6284]

I think it's harder on men. Men get 2% of their swipes back. Women get 30% + .

[@Sabinee211]

I think it’s interesting that people really dislike the ‘hey :)’ type openings. I don’t mind them, because if you match with someone conversationwise a interesting conversation will follow. I think it’s more relaxed than the forced opening lines

[@wolfzmusic9706]

Yeah I'm shit at starting a good convo with somebody that idk at all lol

[@moonlightequilibrium]

i don't use dating apps but I understand. if you're the one receiving the "hey" message how would you reply?

[@zebedeesummers4413]

I think it is important to remember people you match with are likely also a bit shy. Some like asking about a favorite passtime gives them something to respond to after all.

[@Sabinee211]

@@moonlightequilibrium in my experience, the conversation just flows after the ‘hey’(or doesn’t but then you also know enough). It’s more of an ice breaker to then start talking about something else

[@Sophie_Cleverly]

Personally I don't like either! I'd much rather someone just actually started a conversation like "Hey, nice to meet you, so what music do you listen to?" or like "I saw you like this hobby, how did you get into that?" or that kind of thing. Just anything that shows a bit of interest and so you have something to start talking about.

[@jonaschick912]

I met my husband (he's from the UK, I'm from the US) on Tinder a few years ago! He was on holiday in my city and we really hit it off. Long story short, we got married this year and I'm moving to the UK this summer. :)

[@nahuelma97]

Damn, so nice to hear about these rare stories where things just work. Congratulations on your wedding :) I'm guessing all of Evan's videos about being an American living abroad and taxes and all that will become very relevant now lol

[@jonaschick912]

@@nahuelma97 they happen sometimes! and yes - one of the biggest things that brought me to Evan’s channel! at least i’m already aware of the tax nightmares to come 🥲

[@nahuelma97]

@@jonaschick912 oof exactly. Pull a Tina Turner and renounce your citizenship lmao I'm pretty sure it doesn't come with the millions and a mansion in Switzerland but at least you won't have to pay taxes to a country you don't even live in anymore lol

[@michellemaine2719]

@@jonaschick912 just avoid earning over $100K and you won't have to pay (haha). Unfortunately, you'll still have to file :(

[@y_fam_goeglyd]

Congratulations! I wish you a long, happy, healthy life together ❤️

[@spaghettisama]

Dating apps are probably one of the worst things to happen to society in recent history. All these stats are wildly depressing.

[@dynamichunter843]

Yep and if you look at an average girl’s stats it’s WILDLY different. Even a below average girl

[@hazelhazelton1346]

I can tell you right now, those stats are a lot better than the average man's.

[@fred6907]

Dating apps and social media, the destruction of the modern world. And yet most people are completely clueless.

[@olivercoulthard5468]

I saw on your Instagram that this video didn't do as well but I just wanted to say I really really enjoyed this video, the statistics, the infographics, the insights into dating apps and your puns and quips as always. Keep making what YOU want to make, and the right people will watch :)

[@michellesedigo6031]

Hello how are you

[@OneDayyRobotsWillCry]

I definitely dodged a bullet with dating apps. Used tinder for one week and met my partner of 8 years and we’re getting married this year. So glad I don’t have to spend all of my time on these apps, it seems soul destroying!

[@lonestarr1490]

Some people got all the luck. Makes you think: maybe it's a law of nature of some sorts. "The overall amount of luck remains constant" or whatever. But anyway: best wishes for the two of you!

[@zeynepnursozer]

I have a similar story, I used Bumble for only couple weeks, met my boyfriend and now we are together for 1.5 years

[@Godzilla7302]

You know the divorce statistics?! A smart man don't marry.

[@interdimensionalsteve8172]

This is extremely common - especially on dating websites where you PAY to use their service. If you're a decent, honest person without ridiculous standards then you're likely to find a relationship fairly quick.

[@izzy2900]

@@interdimensionalsteve8172 Fucking bullshit. I've been on multiple apps for more than a year, I've paid for various of them, I'm slightly under the average male height (178cm), attractive face, receding hairline, late 30s. I've only matched with scammers, prostitutes, hideous older post-wall women, hideous obese women, expired single moms that have tied the tubes & are "looking for love"(i.e. a betabuxxer) etc etc. The attractive ones that you do match with, they'll message 1-2x before they ghost you, or they'll take forever to respond like weeks & her response will be extremely low effort & low value, or you say one wrong thing & she'll block you, or they'll unmatch you before you correspond. Only women & 6' 7 chads get the kinds of results OP is talking about. Needless to say I've stopped using these fucking apps.

[@gizmomypet4359]

Maybe it's me but Hinge has started to go the same way as all the others. They generally seem to suggest less popular profiles and keep the more popular ones for their "standouts" page where you pay for roses to send them. All these apps are just designed to make money. Anything else is coincidental.

[@lonestarr1490]

That wouldn't surprise me, since they're owned by Match Group, Inc., just like all the others. So of course the same business logic will be applied.

[@Renzo.Fortini]

Honestly that seems kinds better , the hottest girls only go for the top 10% of men so unless your there you prob wont match , on tinder i would only see super hot girls and think dam where are the regular girls

[@navecamnedia]

yeah that’s pretty much always been my experience

[@jackwalker4874]

I prefer viewing some of the less popular profiles. I might actually stand a chance with them.

[@archangeldeltius1511]

This was very interesting, I definintly get the most interaction on hinge. Something that is definitely worth mentioning is hinge has a much bigger focus on actual relationships over hookups and casual sex so I'm sure that culture probably helps with proper connections. I used to have all the apps in a group on my phone called "self-esteem killers"

[@HackersSun]

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha self esteem killers Oh man 🤣 I feel they're the same way too

[@SSGGraphics]

@@HackersSun that's me rn cause I've got no in person game and after I get shot down once I just give up

[@JoneseyBanana]

Actually, I'm only some of the way in so idk if you address this later, but I'd be interested in hearing how online dating is when you have a significant online presence. Presumably it gets weird if people you match with already have one-way parasocial relationships with your content?

[@Harri_James]

Not what you asked but I remember Tomska saying when he met his girlfriend Charlie he wanted to wait a while before telling her about youtube. And then on their first date someone recognised him.

[@RiniDiamandis]

I think sometimes they'll ban the account cos they think it's fake or someone reports it as fake. I remember Brittany venti got banned bcos of this 💀

[@kurrwa]

fame is not good for making relationship some people will like you for your fame not your personality

[@von...]

@@kurrwa if they dont know your content, then that isnt a bad thing & could just be a 'oh cool!' type thing. But if they take it to extremes or are obsessive for only that reason, then yeah that could deffo be the kiss of death of many relationships.

[@martinda7446]

Don't be paranoid about parasocial social powwows.

[@grantparman4705]

Evan, I'm so happy for you and your relationship! I wish you lots of happiness.

[@joepiekl]

Strong Jesus vibes at the moment, Evan. I gave up on Tinder and Bumble recently, and instead made a conscious effort to hang out with people I didn't know so well, who introduced me to other people. Got invited to a lot of parties (the fact that it was Christmas helped) and within a month I had three girls I was interested in who also liked me. One of them is now my girlfriend. So much better to meet people in real life in a low pressure environment and knowing that you get on, rather than the first time you meet someone being a proper date. I've always got more out of just saying yes to social things. Those people who seem to effortlessly get into relationships are usually the same people who have lots of friends and make an effort to hang out with them a lot. They also don't only chat to strangers if they fancy them, they chat to everyone.

[@bottlewaddle6677]

THIS

[@melitajay]

100%

[@lonestarr1490]

And the best part about that: If you meet with all the people you met through other people and continue to meet with everyone you met through them, you only have to proceed for 6 iterations in total in order to meet every single human on Earth!

[@wingnuttgeronimo7845]

@@lonestarr1490 including Kevin Bacon

[@fischersfritz468]

Your advice is good for normal people. For those on the less desired spectrum it's not enough. I haven't met a woman who liked me until now. Yes, I went to university, yes I have quite a lot of friends and hobbies and NO that does not mean you will have a real chance. (I'm in my low 40s now). ALL my dates so far were through dating apps

[@jamerslister]

This is really helpful video. I have been on all 3 apps for god knows how long (I also thought the same about hinge when I first started using it!). It really feels like tinder is just a cesspit and a huge waste of time, nobody is on there for anything serious now and bumble is heading in the same direction. Hinge feels like its now the only app where people are looking for the same thing and willing to actually chat and date. Its also nice to know that the feeling of loneliness which is magnified when you get rejections on these apps is not felt by just me. This video has made me want to look into my stats. Thanks so much Evan, a really useful video for me.

[@tomstickland]

Average looking men have an awful time on the current dating apps. Watch the fake profile videos on here.

[@axm601]

I'd be interested to see how they manage to classify chats into "relationship" or "casual sex" categories 🤔

[@evan]

Those are user inputs

[@nahuelma97]

@@evan oh, interesting, so you're shown the chats and are asked and then that's it labels them? Or how? If only I hadn't quit Tinder around a year ago, I would go into the website to request my data lol I'm pretty sure I'll fall into the trap if I open the website again

[@carmenn2397]

When you delete your account on the app, you get asked the why are you leaving question. So maybe that stat is not so accurate overall for their users because I don’t 100% of their user are deleting their accounts but maybe higher than I think. Same goes for individual level, you could sign out but still have the account it may get deactivated(which just takes it out of the pool)…so again that stat is up to the individual if they are honest with their account. I hoped that made sense

[@stellasdoesstuff]

@@carmenn2397 lol i've never deleted my account. If I don't want to use it anymore I just delete my app

[@splutteryelm]

I make casual sex look competitive

[@Barb.u]

This was very interesting. As someone who has never used a dating app, I'm surprised at how many different people in three different apps are shown to one person

[@hoojip5969]

I’ve never used a dating app in my life but that is a weapons-grade title, hooked me straight away

[@evan]

Thank Tom Scott for that one as my original title was awful so he told me to use this one haha

[@theonetruesarauniya]

Interesting! I love how knowledgeable you are.

[@vileproductions8511]

the most attractive people on the app DONT need to pay . they’re praying on the lower tier people in attractiveness . here’s the catch , if a girl doesn’t find you attractive , being at the top of her stack ain’t going to change nothing

[@meba444]

This is such an interesting video concept! Loved hearing about this!

[@breathebeloved]

Loving your set these days. Happy to be seeing more and more of the new flat. Cheers

[@michellesedigo6031]

Hello im from philippines

[@NosterborSemaj]

As a 29 year old in the UK, I can honestly say your data purely reflected my own experiences of online dating. Thanks for the content :)

[@virgileusa]

I asked out 8 women on tinder this year, dated 6, had sex with 5 kissed the 6th one and im about to have my third date with her while having zero status (28yo, started new studies this year and minimum wage job)

[@michellesedigo6031]

Hello im from the philippines

[@fred6907]

@@virgileusa If you are measuring success by the amount of sex, you're dumb as a brick.

[@moopsish]

I see many people hating on dating apps and I understand why. I feel very mixed about them, using these dating apps I'm slowly overcoming my fear of talking to people... in the few months I've been here I haven't landed a date yet but I feel much more confident at least.

[@user-ep6iw9he7e]

I believe it really depends on your mentality. I had the same purpose to improve my conversation skills with no expectations and it worked pretty well for me. After few months i got so good that many girls complimented my conversations skills. But once i've decided to actually find a girlfriend on tinder it became a pretty soul crusching experience.

[@PatrickArcato]

Lol you think you got better at talking but never had a real date 😂

[@Victor-jy8ko]

My experience with tinder is on an other planet with yours. I find it really usefull when you want to go out with someone on the weekend. Always worked for me

[@alexandrasjoberg9443]

Love when you do videos outside of your regular scope!

[@harry8912]

Everyone knows that Tinder is for hooking up, Hinge is for serious relationships, and Bumble is for WOMEN making the first move allegedly.

[@aceman0000099]

Apparently many women on bumble don't even realise they have to message first!

[@rhiwright]

Happy for you and your relationship!

[@jmillzzz3732]

Informative, enjoyable, clear cut… great video👏🏻

[@killaclownz911]

Enjoyed this video the whole time, great summary of all the apps!

[@Heathx15]

I remember meeting the girl of my dreams, she was literally perfect. Then I broke up with her because I had horrible self-esteem issues and just mentally I wasn't invested. After a couple years of being alone, stopped drinking, vaping, and just trying to be the best I can be. I reached back out to her and she's in a relationship. Now the thought of going on these apps, freaks me out. But I work from home and don't really like talking to girls at the gym since it's my place of peace. Hopefully we have a good run. Cheers on the video bro.

[@drumrit]

Highly, highly entertaining. You own it and it’s great. Thanks!

[@Marma91]

Congrats Evan :) hope that it keeps going steady

[@anhichiban]

Love these data summaries. What did you use to process the data into disable information and then visualize it for our enjoyment?

[@NickDAngeloUX]

Found this to be a very insightful video, and can confirm, of the apps out there Hinge has gotten me the most in person dates and matches by a long shot. Tinder is a complete waste of time. I even have on my Bumble profile something along the lines of “be more creative than just saying hi” and it’s actually worked pretty well for me too 😂

[@shoyuramenoff]

This is just a really interesting video tha more people need to see. Thanks Evan!

[@marrodc]

Great video! I clicked on this video just because I thought it'd be interesting to see if my assumptions about these apps lined up with the facts you presented (yes, they lined up pretty well), but I stayed for the funny commentary and your interesting insight from using these apps for a much longer time than I did (my mental health just couldn't keep up with them).

[@JeM130177]

I think you're so right about Hinge being like the only one that doesn't withhold information of people who like you unless you give them money or coincidentally like them back like months later. The little prompts are interesting and give you something to respond to, it's much harder to have a blank profile with 1 blurry picture like on every other app 🤣. You can't filter without giving them money which is a shame but also in the end all you gotta do is take a minute to read the profile to see for yourself so it's fine.

[@IL_Bgentyl]

The part I hate about dating apps is you’re successful a lot more if you’re blunt and show little care or interest in the person. Fast and direct. It’s shallow connections.

[@michellesedigo6031]

Hello im from the philippines

[@stecky87]

Having to pay to move yourself up on a list tells me the app misses the point of what it's supposed to be doing. The people at the top should be better matches, not those willing to pay more

[@paulgoogol2652]

It is supposed to make some money in the first place so it does well.

[@greysonbennett6788]

You're pretty much spot on. One thing to note is that all of these paid features are pretty placebo, if you look like a model you'll have plentiful swipes even without paying because you're a commodity that the app values since it draws more women in to stay engaged in the app.

[@Twisted86]

This is ultra depressing, 6 years and only 12 dates.....insane.

[@LabradorIndependent]

Evan looking increasingly like a sort of Irish Aragorn

[@lonestarr1490]

"Yer have me swoRd!"

[@notbradpitt2802]

Just a note on the price model. I think they actually plan the cost to be high enough that they can 1) make a profit with lower volume and 2) actually reduce/filter the amount of people that use it or buy it. Tinder Gold/Platinum wouldn't provide any value or work for the customer if everyone was bumped to the top of the stack.

[@deViant14]

Yo just do arranged marriage. Makes the most financial sense. While we're into game theory of sex.

[@Trostat]

You sold me on Hinge, I’ll try it out and keep you updated 🙌🏽

[@shangerdanger]

I've seen girls swiping before and I would say 90% of the time the guys fail to get a right swipe because their pfp is bad. Bad lighting... mirror selfie... shirtless... all of those things are automatic no unless you are already top 1% good looking, and even then you may come off as cocky and then be unattractive to some.

[@evan]

Well I am a photographer so I know lighting and have killer lenses, but more than ONE of those style photos and it’s too try hardy 😅 Mine was a balance of nice photos showing myself, myself with friends, and hobbies / travels ensuring I’m very visible in photo. Worked eventually haha

[@PeterPaoliello]

pfp?

[@prodbysizemore]

@@PeterPaoliello profile picture

[@unknowninfinium4353]

Damn what's Bluepill answer this Shan guy gave.

[@aslemartinsen5284]

I had a topless pic on my tinder, but it was the pic I have on this profile. Not showing too much. Anyway, I never had problems with matches or anything on Tinder. I'm a narcissist though, and I live in Norway, so I ran into way too many "wahmen power, respect wahmen" feminist types, and I find those ridiculous. Went away for a weekend with someone I met on Tinder, and I didn't know she was like that before we went on that trip. It was a huge mistake. First night she started talking about her being able to do anything a man could do. I said "Can you carry 120lbs on your back?", which she said "If she wanted to" and so on. She was a turnoff for me, as it was obvious she was affected by too much internet bullshit. Women in Norway are scared of being women. They wanna try to be men. But usually I dont have a problem bringing out the woman in them. Anyway, if you wanna attract women, you have to be confident. Not cocky, but confident. If you're cocky, hold that back until you know them, and then use your cockiness/narcissism jokingly. I've been living with a girl for 16 months now, and everything's great. I'm being misogynistic as fuck, and she used to say she was a feminist, but now she hates several aspects of modern feminism, and she loves my misogyny. I'm so open and honest though, most adult people seem to enjoy the way I talk. Younger adults don't. They seem to take life way too seriously.

[@Miss_Lexisaurus]

this was really interesting. I'd never use online dating again, I tried it for a while but it was the most soul destroying experience for me. It really just made me feel so "different," now I'm happy single anyway and if I meet someone at some point great, if not, also great. A lot of people think I must be lying when I say that but it's true!

[@marrodc]

This definitely makes a lot of sense. In my experience, I also felt miserable whenever I used dating apps because I inadvertently linked my self-esteem to how many matches and likes I was getting, which is what these apps slowly do to your brain even if you enter them with the mindset of not letting yourself be affected by them.

[@samhyde8684]

Look up the blackpill. You aren’t ‘different’ you’re unattractive

[@samhyde8684]

@@marrodctinder is real life bro. If you don’t get likes it’s because you have been deemed unattractive by them

[@muhyadeen17]

I haven't watched your vids for about 2 weeks and WOW your beard game is glorious

[@illiteratebeef]

The problem I have with Hinge is that the prompts are very **normie** and feel super shallow compared to the paragraphs I can write on okcupid. The matches have also not gotten better for me no matter how consistently I swipe.

[@mykeehed5096]

if you're using words like normie I think the problem isn't which dating app you're using

[@internetexplorer6304]

I met my boyfriend of over a year on Hinge and I'm a fem dòm. So like we're the opposite of normie 🤣

[@LMarti13]

@@mykeehed5096 this is such a stupid response, tons of people use that word. are you like a boomer or something?

[@deviance904]

@@mykeehed5096 ok boomer

[@mykeehed5096]

@@deviance904 I'm 20

[@NotPMHarper]

Really interesting video! I love data. For myself, I'm not sure how many people I swiped on in the two months I had the app but I think I talked to maybe 15 people on tinder and went on one date, which then resulted in my current relationship.

[@DavidsGameplayMC]

That sounds similar to my experience, at least once I got my social anxiety under control and was actually able to ask people out lol. I think your mindset going into dating is a huge factor for how successful you will be.

[@mollycollins2125]

Such a great video. I've never been on any dating aps but lately I've been considering and this video really helped me make my mind up. I would also love to see what your profile looked like.

[@chelled.4622]

The office set up slaps at night! Also good video, always can rely on you to deep dive when you pick a topic. Im team shave the beard or at least trim it like you had it during the housing transition (since you asked and comments help the algorithm.)

[@AnArmyOfFatGuys26]

I've been using tinder roughly the same time you did/have. Seeing that you made more than 1000 matches blows my mind. If I looked at my data I'd be flabbergasted to see if I matched with more than 50 people, much less a band.

[@brabnoify]

I doubt u swiped 143,489 times though. 1000 matches with that kind of swiping isn't even a 1% match rate

[@larion2336]

The metrics for different men are going to be insanely skewed. OkCupid and Tinder studies showed that women rated 80% of men as below average. So those top 20% of men, are probably getting 85-95% of all women's swipe rights. It's why all men should just boycott online dating (except the lucky few) because it's just a miserable waste of time, and it makes women increasingly more toxic.

[@dannymarie]

I really appreciate this breakdown of each app. Very informative

[@mariyadimitrova2097]

40 seconds into the video and I already liked, subscribed and commented. Don’t disappoint me!

[@evan]

Thanks mariya

[@TheSophieASpalding]

My mum met my dad by using Teletext Dating in the mid-late 90s. I think You’d see a basic profile and if you liked what you saw you’d call the number on screen to hear their voice. Interesting format.

[@oredaze]

"There is someone out there for you, and you are gonna love each other and it's gonna be great." I laughed out loud at that... Not with my character, no.

[@MattMcConaha]

I also make a point of creating a personalized message for everyone, often including a pun. Usually they don't reply. On those off chances that a girl does make the first move and they just say "hey" I literally reply back telling them that their message is boring. Im just so over the idea that dating apps will actually bring anything of substance that I mostly use them as a way to humor myself. I definitely am open to meeting people, but it's such a rarity anyway that it's more worthwhile to just send messages that I can screenshot and send to other people for laughs. If it's meant to be, then maybe someday someone I'm messaging will actually read and reply to humorous messages and accept a date.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Approach women in person. Don't hesitate. If they show any interest, give your number then say "have a good one".

[@kanalisationerstellen]

Great Video thanks for the Idea for Hinge

[@Dan-vn4he]

This is really interesting as I’ve found that tinder has been way more successful for me than any other app!

[@CodeBroRob]

As someone who never used a dating app before and had an idea tinder is a waste of time, this video helped confirm that, but now bumble keeps showing as ad everywhere i was surprised bumble is essentially not much better, if not as bad as tinder. I will recommend hinge to ppl tho because i'm a fan how they approach it in a genuine way rather than turning it into a gacha game to profit off of lonely souls looking for a genuine partner. I'd will keep it in mind for myself too but i don't rly have a need for dating apps and i kinda hope i wont ever will seeing how much time and effort gets put into it.

[@rohitdoestech]

loving the beard!

[@eyupitsbecky]

such an interesting video! Would love to see what you put in your dating profile for some tips haha

[@th3element]

Solid opinion/ analysis 🤙

[@AtsircEcarg]

I met my husband on E-harmony and I liked the app way more than others because you could really filter your matches. This just automatically boosted the quality of my matches. I noted a big difference in the men I was seeing and talking with. The quantity of people you get shown is a lot less which I appreciated because it prevents the mindless commodification of the humans you are seeing. It helped me stay a little more grounded.

[@madamebkrt]

It's a total scam though. You can't see your matches without paying, and they will demand you keep paying them money even if you cancel your membership.

[@asaturner4097]

You were a lot more successful than I ever was on tinder 😂

[@LordSoviet]

I haven't tried online dating in like 2 years, but I found all of it quite depressing. Went on one date with someone who lives an hour drive from me and that was it. Living in a big city like London would certainly be a lot better for it than the small town I live in.

[@wayofthekodiak3118]

It's not. The big cities don't matter if you're a guy. Unless you're in the top 20% of guys looks wise and wealth wise on there.

[@malimal4972]

Dude , GREAT VIDEO!! Just got a new subscriber!

[@andthanksforwatching]

You're such a catch, I'm so happy you found someone dope!

[@smilereem]

This was really interesting. As someone who met their now husband in 2011, I missed all of the dating apps so I had no ideas on how these apps worked. I love seeing the stats.

[@dianalondono5599]

they're an awful experience, i was on them for around 6 years (most of my 20s) until i realized i was destroying myself looking for affection and validation in an app for hookups. And I was doing good (getting lots of matches, long convos, a lot of dates, hookups and even 1 long relationship) but honestly I think meeting people in common with your inner circle is better, more chances of them being closer to your lifestyle/values and interacting in a more honest way that is not only pretending to be a good fit. The moment i decided to stop using them has been a great improvement. My current partner is a mutual from twitter, we had been casually chatting before for years and even though could be classified as online dating the fact we had mutual acquaintances and chat before without the intent of dating is what made it stand out and avoid this feeling of being a product for sell

[@LynxChan]

Speaking as an atheist I thank God every day I am old enough and had the dumb luck to find a partner before the advent of online dating. It just sounds soul destroying. Be hot! Be funny! No, not like that, that's cringe! Don't just say hi, that's so boring! Don't give me that line, that's so desperate! Just hearing about it gives me anxiety, I can't fathom what it does to your self worth to live it every day.

[@ironmountain7907]

I met my fiancé on bumble, I’d been on the app off and on for years but I downloaded during Covid Lockdown at the beginning of the pandemic and she was my first match and ever since our first date we haven’t been apart! Our anniversary is next week.

[@michaela5986]

the camera quality is so beautiful

[@Hillary429]

Please compare your stats to people using these apps in the US would love to see if the apps perform differently in different states/countries!

[@lonestarr1490]

I bet comparison between metro, urban, and rural would show even more differences, regardless of the country.

[@Jezabel-in-Hell]

I went to one party, met one guy...20 years later we're still together. Nothing is better than meeting someone in person and having chemistry.

[@3seven5seven1nine9]

Holy shit your honesty about hinge was so unexpected and refreshing

[@eternally.sleepy]

Congrats on the relationship btw Evan!

[@meredithwyrick7916]

As a college student who used Tinder for a month or so, it is SO much easier as a woman on that app lol

[@theworldisimmense]

Well duh, guys rarely get a match a week and it’s mostly a bot

[@taketheblackpillneo3940]

it-is-easier-for-females-anywhere.

[@Lea-im3wr]

@@taketheblackpillneo3940 Lol, just imagine a world like that.

[@deViant14]

Personally I'd just go down to the college bar and hike my skirt up over the pool table. Easy peasy.

[@Coriumbeats]

@@deViant14 just look at a man and you're set

[@eswarjuri]

Oh yes, Bumble, where women think they just have to text you “hey :)”… or sometimes even not text at all until the match is gone, which happens at some point if you do not spend money!

[@jamescole4317]

Evan, I haven't watched any of your videos for like a year, but your BEARD is FANTASTIC!

[@NotTodaySatan557]

This video was too relatable and very funny 🤣🙌🏻🔥

[@slimbogee1815]

I am just curious how are you able to relate to his experience ?

[@betawolfhd]

My roommate gets so many matches everyday that she cannot comprehend that it's so difficult

[@krysten4544]

I met my fiancé on Tinder, but it wasn't before two years of swiping on Tinder to no avail. I'll say, the means of meeting your person is less important than the people around you, and whether you're ready for something serious. I swiped on my fiancé not because he was my typical "type," but because his bio was funny, and frankly I was ready for someone who could make me laugh.

[@YuniX2]

My experience was nearly identical! I'd say the only real difference is that I swiped on him because he was clearly at the renaissance faire in his profile pic, and I figured if there was no chemistry we'd at least have a common interest to talk about.

[@wayofthekodiak3118]

Wow you both admit that you SETTLED for your current guys. That's a horrible position to put them in because you'll always feel that you could do better. You'll treat them accordingly too. I wish you gals could self reflect every once in awhile. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@krysten4544]

@@wayofthekodiak3118 Uh...what? I didn't settle for my husband, he wasn't the type I usually went for, but I instantly fell in love when I met him. I'm saying that love doesn't always follow a specific type, sometimes it just pops up unexpectedly. I didn't know people like him existed, there is no better.

[@kkstars369]

This is soooo interesting, thank u :)

[@AA99086]

All bow to the nerd Power. Thanks bud, this was really informative

[@TheNinjapancake14]

I get overwhelmed when I matched with 5+ people at the same time. I’d be curious to see my unmatch rate

[@Deadpool55223]

@@test-zg4hv you ever met a guy named Anie?

[@Pllayer064]

@@Deadpool55223 "have you seen this man in your dreams?"

[@roaringfork]

Regarding the pricing; it actually changes depending on who and where you are. Tinder has a financial incentive to keep some kinds of people on the platform and others not. So they increase the price to kick people off, and lower the price to keep others on. Men are charged more, women are charged less. Ugly people are charged more, pretty people are charged less. Rich people are charged less, poor people are charged more. Each of those values compound each other, but in isolation they demonstrate the point. The incentive is to create the most desireable dating app that keeps you single and paying for as long as possible.

[@VarunKumar-ro4ll]

I would say its just what marketing is profiteering off of desperation. That's why its important to have some self respect and not keep shilling out money on these apps which wont guarantee success no matter what price you pay.

[@michellesedigo6031]

Hello im from the philippines

[@danielintheantipodes6741]

Sometimes people swipe on apps from boredom. Maybe you were less desperate than you think, though if so, a good deal more bored than you realised! Thank you for the video!

[@Cinominn]

You do you Evan but personally I think you really rock the beard and mustache!

[@lucypreece7581]

I legit found this really interesting. I have tried several dating apps in the past and have been wondering how to get good matches on them and stuff.

[@shaynagarrett2157]

@@chasing_the_horizon Get a load of that guy. ^

[@lucypreece7581]

@@chasing_the_horizon soz to disappoint my dude but I'm lesbian.

[@lucypreece7581]

@@shaynagarrett2157 I'd rather stick rusted nailsnin my eyes

[@jezzarisky]

Hinge went downhill sometime during the pandemic, they seem to put the ones you may be interested in behind a paywall now(Roses). I also had terrible numbers on it of the two or so months using it before it stopped matching me with anyone of interest. 10% I messaged responded, 10% who responded went further than one message, 10% of those agreed and went on a date, one short relationship, and 0 women ever messaged me. I tried to make interesting messages asking questions, took advice on photos and prompts. I assume my area just sucks for online dating compared to other areas but it’s also hard to self examine to really see what I could do to be more approachable

[@Fr3k3]

pretty much this. the algorithm works, but it only works on the starred/rose section. normal swiping is a joke. I've been using it for almost a month, and 90% of my matches have been from roses. i.e. paid ones lmao.

[@scrublord_val]

I think I've had three or four matches in a few months on hinge, one of my housemates has had a similar experience, but two seem to be having a great time with one finding their current girlfriend on there. It seems like it works well for some and not for others.

[@tomstickland]

@@scrublord_val dating apps are 99% about what you look like.

[@ethanarmstrong3095]

I'm digging that blue light behind that shelf and those Fairy lights on your door frame very cool. I see your letting your inner Highlander out with your long hair and beard I support this 👌, doubt you'll read this but your awesome bud

[@BummerSlug]

“Hey, she just doesn’t like you. Which is fine” lmao!!! True and yet funny af

[@pj9609]

I think that's one of the true reasons behind e.g. the Incel movement. The dating "market" is just skewed through dating apps.

[@nicoinghilleri8149]

Tinder’s pricing model is based on how “attractive” you are determined to be. The more attractive you are the less tinder premium costs. Older, unattractive men will be charged incredible amounts +$50 and hot young females usually get gold for free.

[@michellesedigo6031]

Hello how are you im from the philippines

[@tjastec5124]

0:03 I love tht u graduaated math! I will keep watching

[@maaripoim9049]

I actually really love the Editor Evan shirt which matches and actually enhances his ginger beard and hair.

[@khwezik3894]

Dating apps are soul destroying!!! My self esteem actually plummeted when I was on them. I always got friend zoned. Weirdly I get asked out a lot when travelling- I might just be more carefree then so I just need to have travelling energy all the time lol

[@thecunninlynguist]

these dating apps really do suck

[@JeM130177]

I hate the term friend zoned. Makes it sound like people are horrible for not reciprocating your feelings when they have no obligation to. At least people are friendly about it 🤣 (I'm not having a go at you personally just expressing my general dislike hahaha🤣)

[@khwezik3894]

@@JeM130177 lol I know what you mean, however my issue is if you're paying (because as Evan mentioned ,you get better odds of making a match when you pay) to be on an app to meet a potential life partner and the folks you like are like ah thanks I like you too, not enough to go on a date with you but enough to chat with you '. it just gets to the stage of well what's the point. Because I swear there used to be a site where you could sign up strictly just to make friends (don't know if that exists anymore or if it got turned into an app too). But yes, at least they are nice about it because boy have I come across rude ones too geez!

[@JeM130177]

@@khwezik3894 oh yeah for sure it's definitely fair to want someone to be honest and to not lead each other on. I've made friends via dating apps coincidentally but it's been a mutal kind of "we're having fun chatting but not feeling anything more". But yeah I've deffo had convos where one side had been like okay so how we feeling because if this isn't going anywhere maybe we should call it and I think that's fair.

[@bendikok6619]

@@JeM130177 this is one dumb opinion/far reach. How the fuck does the term “friend zoned” make anyone sound remotely horrible?