navigating my mid-20s | apartment hunting in nyc, opening up about my relationship & mental health

[@sarahpan]

hope everyone’s having a happy weekend 🥰

[@miwe8819]

🤗

[@dianebaker5243]

👍🥰

[@sofsings101]

I’m sorry WHAT??!?? Not only are you amazingly smart kind creative and hardworking you also BOUGHT YOUR PARENTS A HOUSE?!???? This is insanity!! You’re the best Sarah!!

[@sarahpan]

omg thank u 😭 honestly it’s just been a lifelong goal of mine so i’m really happy i was able to do that for them 🥹

[@IrilynOriginal]

I can 10/10 confirm that it’s normal to not be talking to each other 24/7 while living together. I’ve been with my bf for 8 years and we always just do our own thing most of the time. I think it’s pretty healthy that couples do this to avoid driving each other crazy 😂. Thank you for always sharing! Love your videos ❤

[@shaaswatha]

"and your mothers beautiful" James must be protected at all costs 😭💗

[@sarahpan]

dw i will protect him 😭🥹

[@TheWorldAccordingToV]

thank you for opening up about your relationship! i've always assumed that james was a full on clothing designer haha - that's cool that you're both embracing creative sides vs working tech jobs. i think people don't talk about those moments in a relationship online as often and it's much appreciated as someone in a budding long-term relationship.

[@sawaxbasket]

Wow, I found your channel after the "bed rotting" tips video came to my feed this morning and it feels like the algorithm sent your content at such a perfect time! I'm entering my last semester of college (undergrad) and I've been going through so many odd transitional phases and finding someone who's also going through micro changes (and especially in good ways!) is so validating to hear. I'm considering moving into a place of my own and this has been a gentle push in the right direction to validate the stress I've been feeling in regards to allllll of this overwhelming change. New viewer and I'm so excited to tune in at this exciting new shift for you and your lovely home 💕

[@luvfitt]

She’s so chill

[@milospotykievic710]

It is so nice to see you happier, and i can not even describe how happy it makes me to see you two together, even if there are challenges with your schedules and careers. Also idk if you've just been sharing them less, or Moose's problems went away, but i hope he is doing good aswell. Thank you so much as always, you make my day every time i get to watch your vlogs.

[@applecrimson]

im so glad you kept that james cameo in at the end! you guys are so cute 🥹💕

[@frogiwthoutahat]

respect helping your family out getting a home, very kind~!

[@camiioan822]

As someone who is in their late 20’s and who is married, with 4 pets and all, it is TOTALLY normal to spend time away from each other and not always see each other. My hubby works A LOT, and we don’t always get a lot of time together during the week days. I find that it is important to spend time together during the weekend. We find date nights are helpful and even spending time doing groceries together or finding a hobby we can both do together (we spend about 15 minutes each night watching a video together). Our situation is a bit different as we have been together nearly 11 years (married about 3 years), but we definitely are always growing and learning. Lately our struggle has also been we’ve tried to grow our family so that’s been stressful. It seems to me that you and James have a super healthy relationship! You two are awesome!

[@nicolecoates4312]

i've missed you and so happy to see your face (and james' too!) again!! the tat he got was beautiful!

[@frogiwthoutahat]

mini pickles have a higher surface area to volume ratio and can absorb more yummy pickle juice pottery is so fun! It's really healing creating things with your hands

[@sarahpan]

i live for scientifically true pickle facts 😩

[@melodys3944]

The doing different things in the same space is called parallel play. My husband and I do it all the time. (we're mid-20's) It works as long as we're both willing to engage in conversation occasionally.

[@Jibril_Abdulkadir]

It’s a great day when Sarah posts ❤

[@michaelchavez5593]

Thank you for the good wishes for this upcoming week I am ready !!!

[@Alexis-zs2xp]

Yesssss new apartment tour!!!🎉

[@nc_fr87]

So glad to hear you’re feeling better 🥳

[@Sleepytimecol]

I’ve been waiting for a video like this

[@marccolomayt82094]

enjoying this kind of life being a 20-year old❤❤

[@WalkingCommuter]

wtf!!! how was that 3 bed 2 bath 3800! I am experiencing 2nd hand regret!

[@sarahpan]

i knowww 😭😭 to be fair it’s a few more stops deeper into brooklyn but SO WORTH THE PRICE

[@kaiquimba]

i really loved watching youuuuu

[@tulipcatss]

I just found your channel through your last video!! Can you please talk more about how you bought a house for your parents? Its something I want to do for them in the future 🥹

[@allesae]

love love love

[@jedcal]

$3800?! is this my sign to move to brooklyn

[@sarahpan]

come be my neighbor 👀

[@ko_grindz]

Your videos are the best

[@iosdeals]

the first word I said as a baby..well first one that my parents recognised, was pickle. after I was crying so loud and pointing towards the pantry, my dad started to hand me everything im there to see if that's what I wanted, at last he grabbed a pickle jar and I almost swallowed my tongue when I saw it. Not sure how much of it is true, but I heard this story a million times and each time the pickle jar is bigger. So I supposedly ate my own weight in pickles that day... well, I do eat about 100 jars a year of that stuff. People don't bring wine when they visit, they bring pickles.

[@sarahpan]

omg i love this story 😂

[@ShesAWillow]

17:50-17:53 cracked me up, but same lol

[@EvgeniaAlbert]

Cat is the best 🧡

[@_Its_candi]

How do you find all these amazing lofts, I feel like I've been searching for ages with no luck 😞 love your videos btw ❤️❤️❤️

[@tragicallycanadian8317]

Listen, I know no one else who understands the superiority of mini pickles...they are just better 🥒

[@sarahpan]

😌😌

[@Tyheir]

5500 for a studio is so crazy

[@instaSHINOBI]

insane, you could get a mansion in San Diego, CA -- and live next to millionaires -- for that price LOL

[@foodinbob]

What Noodle Brand is that at the end of the video lol, or which other one were you referring to that was good?

[@mistahdieu]

RESPECTTTT

[@itsjoseluis]

Just curious, what areas were these apartments? Do you have any recommendations. - also a swe in big tech

[@dianebaker5243]

Lovely video thanks for sharing 🥰👍

[@sarahpan]

thank you for watching! 🥰

[@KourttneyL]

What is the pickle addiction?

[@disischristy]

[@sarahpan]

🫶🫶

[@arhumz1573]

How much was the first studio?

[@andile_]

Love you

[@shaliekk]

Wait... you eat the stem on the mini pickles? ...how come?

[@pbnj2248]

Wait, if you got to pottery at 10, what time do you go to sleep?

[@sarahpan]

between 1-3am 🥲

[@pbnj2248]

@@sarahpan woah, ok. You just motivated me to go to the gym at 10 🤣 i wfh too so sleeping beyond 12 can work 😅

[@melodys3944]

thanks for the cat tax!

[@caitlinconnolly6186]

What is James’s username for his content creation? I would like to check it out and follow him - please share if he is comfortable with it 😊

[@sarahpan]

@jung.garments on ig! 🥰

[@redbeardjunior]

5.5 way toooo much

[@tpwp4916]

i’m sorry if this is an inappropriate question but why did you choose to stick w the budget that you did? bc i’m sure u can afford it with your google salary

[@ariela_]

Someone should always live below their means. Just because she makes money doesn’t mean it should all go to rent. There’s other bills, savings, investments, emergency funds and other things people need to save money for

[@dianebaker5243]

​@@ariela_agree 💯

[@sarahpan]

hii definitely no offense taken to this question on my end (it's very valid!) I think generally everyone's situation is different / everyone has different priorities but for transparency, im building up my savings again after helping my parents buy their home a year and a half ago (so right now i dont feel like i have the means to be affording an expensive apartment) also I am trying to max out my 401k contributions every year (& the nyc tax rate is so high) so the amount I bring in a month after all that is actually the whole rent of that place (if not a little less) also i’m saving up right now because i plan to leave corporate in the future so trying to minimize risk i hope that clears it up 🙂

[@aquagamer1212]

@@sarahpanThank you for such an eye opening response! It really brings into account a lot of financial responsibility! 💕

[@kymanaa]

did y’all feel the earthquake the other day?

[@sarahpan]

we did!! it wasn’t as bad in brooklyn thankfully but was still really alarming in the moment

[@shelleystrong8673]

Good content but why must we watch the make up session? Yes, I can speed past it but why is it even necessary?

[@WesleyAnna]

Love that you’ve been happier & SO SO proud of James for his success he’s so talented!! 🥹🤝🏼 PS. If you move can I have ur apt PSS. 🥒