Yes indeed....the effect of losing ones significant other is a loss like no other. There is that space that only they filled, a presence in our lives that we are now at a loss for being without. An absence where we still keep saying to ourselves, they're really gone aren't they. A loneliness that is beyond loneliness that no one can truly understand until they've experienced it themselves. Losing ones significant other is a whole different kind of Grief. Sending you lots of Love & (((HUGS))) Josh ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
@elizabethtorres64617 ай бұрын
I can't imagine how hard it must be being married to the love of your life and than loosing them forever. When it comes to grieving or starting to date again is very personal. No one has the right to judge you or tell you how to live. This is my humble opinion. 💖👍🙏🙏🙏🙏
@kellybonner14397 ай бұрын
I get it Josh. If you had not had such a loving relationship with Sara, you would not miss having that special relationship so much. I hope you find someone to build that with. I don’t think there should be a timeline put on it. You do you, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for thinking about finding someone to build a new life with.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@kristal52607 ай бұрын
Well said, Kelly! I love your comment..❤Nobody should tell him when he should be able to find another special person. I hate seeing comments from people telling him that he doesn't love Sarah if he finds love again before a specific amount of time goes by. Nobody knows when that special person will come along side of him so nobody should judge him. If I die before my husband does, I would want him to be happy. Knowing he was lonely would be too upsetting for me ❤
@teresahickey62307 ай бұрын
I totally agree.
@user-et1wl6xw1v7 ай бұрын
I to am grieving. The loneliness has so many types. I would give any thing for my late husband to just be sitting in his chair not even saying a word That s just one type I think you express it so as it is. Huge hug xxxxxxxx Maureen. England
@paulodutra39223 ай бұрын
I feel your pain, just came across your video because looking for comfort as well just lost my wife 4 months ago December 29 2023 and I feel lost and alone my kids are not with me there leaving there life. I’m home alone 😢. She passed away suddenly, 24 years married it hurts so much😢 . Hope you get the happiness you deserve. Hugs from canada Ontario
@mjohnson84727 ай бұрын
My sister lost her husband in a car accident. They had 2 boys ages 4 and 8. When my sister started talking about dating again, she said something similar to what you said that Sarah is your standard. I am going to tell you what I told her. There will never be another Sarah and you obviously know that but there will be someone that brings something entirely different into your life but yet give you the companionship snd and love that you treasure. Now my sister is remarried to someone totally different than her first husband but he is such a good person, makes her happy and they have a wonderful life together. You will find that. I'm sure its hard, I watched my sister go through it while managing to raise 2 boys. You'll know when you are ready and who cares what anyone thinks. You would no doubt want Sarah to find someone else. Have a good morning, day and night Josh!!
@jlux62157 ай бұрын
You have one life to life. You will know when it is right to love again. The person who died would never wish for the family they left to be sad and lonely. Trust your heart. You will know.
@lynne88447 ай бұрын
For people out there who don’t know what to say to grieving friends, just telling them that you’re thinking of them can be enough.
@marlamacmichael61157 ай бұрын
Josh…I understand your feelings as I have been there myself. You will always have the love you and Sarah shared close to your heart. That will never go away. However, one of these days when you least expect it, you will find a beautiful person who makes you happy. Don’t let others judge you! Be kind and make good choices! Big hugs…🤗❤️🤗
@lorigurney72807 ай бұрын
There's no rule on how long someone should wait to seek companionship after losing their spouse. My dad died suddenly at the age of 50. We loved him dearly and it was the hardest experience of my life. I can relate to all you said about how it feels when people have moved on with their lives and yet we feel so lonely and lost. That was over 41 yrs ago. My mom remarried 5 yrs later to a wonderful man who had lost his wife less than a yr prior. They were married nearly 22 yrs before he died from cancer. My mom had two good husbands in her lifetime. So don't let what other people think stop you from pursuing happiness. You will never meet another Sarah. Just like no one could ever replace my dad. Even so you may find another beautiful soul, someone who you connect with and share mutual love and respect. There's always going to be those who judge us even though they have no right to do so. Best to ignor their comments and just do what's best for you and your children.
@peg98977 ай бұрын
I think the loneliness is a big hole that can’t be filled with friends or even your kids. It’s missing that someone who listened to your day, your concerns, your dreams. Don’t let anyone decide your timeline. But don’t borrow trouble…don’t fear what has yet to happen! ❤
@debrahanko39787 ай бұрын
Josh,I so understand the loneliness and silence as my husband has been gone 13 months now. I am staying with my son and family. I don't know how to be alone. I am 70 and started dating him when I was 16. We were married 51 years. I've been told you had a long life together or you'll get over it. I know I won't. Your young and I'm old but we share that broken heart and understand the pain of losing the one person we truly loved. I wish you only the best. I don't feel whole anymore,just lost,scared and miss him terribly . Thank you for caring and sharing your grief and helping us to not feel so alone. A hug to all of us who are grieving the loss of someone we loved. 🫂❤
@kristal52607 ай бұрын
Sending you a big hug, Debra.❤
@debrahanko39787 ай бұрын
@@kristal5260 Thank you❤️
@yvonnesimpson45847 ай бұрын
Hugs and prayers for you my lovely. Yx
@debrahanko39787 ай бұрын
@@yvonnesimpson4584 Thank you so much.❤️
@cathythomas2987 ай бұрын
You are not alone. 🙏🙏🙏 0:07
@Purplecolors1627 ай бұрын
No body should judge you for wanting to be happy, Josh. ❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻
@teresahickey62307 ай бұрын
So true
@conniewilton68097 ай бұрын
Both of my parents are deceased. My Dad is going on 20 years and my Mom is 6 years in August. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss them. I personally feel that you never get over it you just learn to cope in time.
@Mr.Huck647 ай бұрын
Josh is describing many of the loneliness struggles I've had, and still have. I haven't dated now for over 34 plus years, and nearing 16 months since my wife passed, I haven't considered actually trying the 'dating circuit.' My wife told me to be happy and go ahead and find someone else if I'm lonely. I appreciate that, but we'll see. When people greet me with a 'how are you,' or 'how's it going,' and they know what's happened, I say 'hanging in there.'
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@karennogare25497 ай бұрын
Greetings from Australia 🇦🇺. Josh you are such a great dad to your kids. Grief is soul crushing losing your soul mate is heartbreaking as a part of you also died. Sarah was your soul mate. Take one day at a time just always be 'you'.
@ElanaMccullum7 ай бұрын
Youll be ready when you meet that one..no judgement here....Sarah would absolutely want you to love and live again.. EVERY PERSON NEEDS LOVE❤
@user-xr1jy7xk2h7 ай бұрын
Listening to you Josh is like listening to my daughter she said the exact same thing as you are saying yes people do leave after a while and you are alone and you will be judged just like my daughter was she was judged because someone came into her life eight months after she lost her husband to me it was a blessing because it has helped her so much with her sadness and he’s been so understanding about it. My daughter is 38 and has two children both boys one 10 and 14 now my son-in-law died two years ago and my daughter decided to choose happiness and joy Because she didn’t want to be sad no more and yes she loves her husband very much but he’s not coming back but she still has a life to live her and the boys so I’m grateful that she’s moving forward and people can’t understand that that’s fine because unless it’s happened to them They will never understand. It’s my daughters life and she deserves to be happy and so do the boys so you follow your heart choose happiness and joy. Don’t worry about the judgmental people. They all go home at night and they all have someone but you don’t you go home to an empty house, you and your children and you feel loneliness, no one will understand that you got a good head on your shoulder and I know you’re going to move forward and you will find somebody and it doesn’t matter when I just remember it’s your life enjoy it to the fullest. We’re here on earth to be happy we’re not promised tomorrow and you know that better than anyone. God bless you and your family.
@loisoleary23687 ай бұрын
None of us can know exactly what you're going through...follow your heart ... take risks when you're ready....you love your kids and they know it...your path is very hard, but you're doing great ... I am sorry it's so hard...but time is on your side ....
@Shirley-ux1bs7 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤ thinking of you, the depth of your loneliness and heartbreak is due to the depth of your love, take time to heal and what is meant to be will be ❤❤❤❤
@Sedgies7 ай бұрын
You’re lonely and that’s normal. Your person is gone and no matter whether you’re alone or in a crowded room it’s normal. I heard a saying that says Why is it the one person you need and want to talk to is the person you can’t talk to. Sending hugs.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
That’s so true. 🫂
@kathyhelmold73587 ай бұрын
No judgment here Josh. Live your best life young man ❤❤❤
@amandagilliams53067 ай бұрын
The phrase ‘people are there, and then they’re not’ is just so true. Ghosting is really painful, isolating and so lonely…and compounds your grief. I am so very sorry…you are confronting so much, and you are doing so well with your life. Please just listen to your inner wisdom-and ignore those who think they understand your timeline. No one can ever replace Sarah-and you do have a right to be happy and content. Thinking of you and your three children with love and care 💙
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@patriciabarr49837 ай бұрын
Exactly Josh! You are so unjaded about your next relationship since you know what a good one looks like. You will know when you are ready and no one can tell you otherwise. No judgement here. Go live your life and be happy. If that means bringing someone else into your life, do it!
@Velvetsky8317 ай бұрын
Great topic. I felt the exact same way when I lost my beautiful mother. That first winter was brutal. It felt extra dark, extra cold, extra lonely. The void seemed so deep. And yes EVERYONE disappeared, even my best friend of 35 years. The loneliness was almost too much for me to deal with. I know how you're feeling. I wanted to reach through the phone and give you a hug. I am 100 percent sure you will have many messages in your DMs very soon and once you're ready. Thank you for sharing this video and talking about this issue. Unfortunately, our culture doesn't support people who are grieving very well. Thank you for sharing your videos and your thoughts. You have a beautiful mind. Stay warm!
@kristal52607 ай бұрын
I get it! My people disappeared on me, too. Even the friend I talked to every day suddenly ghosted me during the hardest /darkest time of my life. I may never understand why people choose to ghost at such a vulnerable time especially when they know the pain of loss themselves
@judiematias81246 ай бұрын
Quick story, my mom passed away when she was 51 my dad was 53 he started dating within the first year, my brothers and sisters were up in arms. They thought he was not being respectful of her passing. One day the 5 of us were together and they brought up the subject, all I said was "you guys are acting like mami is coming back, Pop was an amazing husband he loved my mom with everything that was in him and he has every right to love again without any interference from us". All I can say is maybe they didn't like but they did respect his decision.
@Shelly.19627 ай бұрын
❤Thank you Josh ❤
@Tomas-major7 ай бұрын
They say that the happily married people who lose their other half will move on quicker, because they were happy enough to want to do it again.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
I agree with this sentiment.
@carolcooil7 ай бұрын
Josh. You are young with a lifetime ahead of you. Its true Sarah Wouldn't want you to be lonely and spend your life grieving. Your kids will grow and have their own relationships. You need to build a new life for yourself in time, another adult relationship. You owe it to Sarah to live your life and be happy as she was unable to fulfill hers. This will honour her memory, not take anything away from it. Love your openness in your fireside chats. Your wise words help me so much. Not lost a spouse but very close family. Sending lots of love. xxxx
@ChaiLatte137 ай бұрын
Yeah that loneliness must be really hard. The thought of dating sounds really hard too especially with children. You don't want to hurt them either. So much to navigate. ❤
@cathythomas2987 ай бұрын
Josh….sadly, I am so lonely too. My husband was my whole life. Yes we had lots of kids, I have friends, but I miss holding hands, a hug, just because. Him asking me how I was, if I’m ok, calling me several times a day, just to say I love you. Being thankful,, and telling me. We had an amazing 50 yrs. People would remark how Our love was so apparent. Our love only grew stronger. I wish yours had 50 yrs. You made every moment count. I am very proud how you took care of your love. It’s a very difficult time. My love died in Aug……5 months ago. Similar to you. I will ask God to show you through this darkness . Love to you and yours
@beatleme27 ай бұрын
Same as me, my wife of 13 yrs died 8 1 23 at only 50, thinking it was menopause with sciatic nerve pain 3 mths hospital to hosptial then oncology to passing 3 mths later, bleed out with cervix cancer ...tumor :( we were together when we were younger till 1993 n got got back together after my 1st wife left me after 12 yrs n gave her my # after 17 yrs...
@Pamela-el9yv7 ай бұрын
Nobody should be judging you!! Loneliness is a hard thing for anyone in many circumstances!! I pray you find another person to share life and love!! No judgement when that time comes!!!
@marymclaughlin50347 ай бұрын
When you meet that person it won’t feel like “dating”.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
This!
@vedrakuca7 ай бұрын
It will happen for you again, 100%, with your beautiful soul you will not be alone long..i send you love and hugs
@MsDale19767 ай бұрын
It’s now the time the lowliness sets in. Others go back to their way of life, not that they have forgotten you it’s their life is now different. Family, is the best to be close to and the kids. In your time…in your time …I didn’t date, not that I didn’t want to but I felt a responsibility to my child. I didn’t want to bring someone into my home who wouldn’t love her as I did. But you do you. It could be 6 months, 6 years…it will come in time. Every time I hear the chimes, I think Sara is near and listening to you. It’s great you talk to us and talk it through❤❤❤
@JessicaG19767 ай бұрын
Josh, I get it, I really do. You haven’t been grieving since August, you have been grieving for years. There isn’t a timeline on seeking companionship. I feel it’s similar to dating after divorce in that you need to be careful of who you bring around until you are sure this new person is special. But there is nothing wrong with getting out there Josh. You deserve happiness and Sarah would want you to have love again. You do your thing, and remember, you don’t need to share any details with us about dating until you are ready. Sending love and Prayers!
@maureenwoodcock54667 ай бұрын
every one is different there is no time limit ❤
@azucenanaverro72667 ай бұрын
Get it. Sending you a warm hug. ❤
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@user-nn8pi2zv7l7 ай бұрын
I get it....i miss not looking in my lovers eyes and that warm embrace you just cant feel from the hug of a good friend. Its a sense of emptyness. Telling you to hang in there just rings so hollow.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@meow-meow17 ай бұрын
It's like the saying, "It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all." I have pondered that for years. I have been envious of relationships such as yours as I am in my 40s and resigned that God must not have made someone for me to share life with. May you love and cherish someone again. ❤
@ataraxismoon7 ай бұрын
My dad remarried 10 months after my mom died. They have now been happily married for 24 years. You'll find someone to love again.
@missiris12347 ай бұрын
Josh you can talk to us about anything. When the time is right you will meet somebody special. You deserve to be happy. It will happen when you least expect it
@user-ws3ri4tg6n7 ай бұрын
Be yourself and when the time is right it will happen ❤
@marciaalmeida48677 ай бұрын
Good evening Josh it's cold here as well. It's so so good get a bit of air . I understand how your feeling, I see it with my mom since my father passed away 2 years ago. I notice she lonely, I think she tries to take day by day. Sending prayers and hugs. Stay warm and safe
@doloreslleida93897 ай бұрын
Spot on ! My feelings exactly too.
@lorrainepavlicko7 ай бұрын
Josh, when and if the time is right for you to start a new relationship, please do not worry about other people’s opinions. Worry about yourself, your feelings and the children’s. We all just want to see you happy! ❤
@angelak51607 ай бұрын
Very interesting video! Thank you😊
@marymclaughlin50347 ай бұрын
We understand. We’ve got you.
@user-gg4lm9vv7w7 ай бұрын
Isn't it something on how many parts of grieving, loneliness is part of it! You know Josh I believe that in time that person will just be there, you are young and when it's time for another person to enter into your life all of that will fall in place. One day another will probably enter when you least expect it! It's so awesome you have such family support! 💙💙❤️❤️
@jodil12097 ай бұрын
I think that you will know when your ready to find someone. Im so sorry that you are feeling lonely. Plus with younger kids, it isn't very easy to go out on a date. You are definitely a very busy man. I wouldn't worry what people on here are saying and being judgy about how long you have to wait. You will find someone who is kind and understanding. You definitely deserve happiness. ❤
@Lana761767 ай бұрын
How I understand your feelings. I feel the same about my beloved husband. It is really hard. Hugs for you and the kids ❤️
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
🫂❤️🩹🫂
@Bichon-Girl7 ай бұрын
Just go live your best life however you can ❤
@LouannBuriak-zs2gn7 ай бұрын
The wind chimes are sounding so beautiful that is Sarah listening Pgh Pa
@connieestrada34197 ай бұрын
Josh you do what's best for you & your children.If there willing to except your kids things should be ok.Your still young you deserve someone nice.God Bless you.
@confusedwhynot7 ай бұрын
You have my deepest sympathy Josh. Loneliness is hard! God Bless You and Your Family.
@lorib53417 ай бұрын
Josh. I’m cold watching you with shorts on. 😂 I wish for you to find a new person to love when you are ready . And you will. You won’t ever be ‘replacing’ Sarah. She’s irreplaceable ❤ this new person will help you find happiness again and will be special in their own way. You deserve that for sure ❤
@Tomas-major7 ай бұрын
The pain of losing someone is all consuming, people are scared to say the wrong thing and they really can’t say the right thing, but there is nothing to say. Saying that I am a huge believer in saying anything that acknowledges your loss is better than say absolutely nothing. Ignoring the whole situation is not nice. They say that people who have the happiest marriages find it easier to move on than anyone else xx
@cathythomas2987 ай бұрын
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@Tomas-major7 ай бұрын
@@cathythomas298 !!!!!
@cynthiaTz7 ай бұрын
Hi Josh. I just have to say that any friend who would ghost you is not really a friend at all. True friends are with you through all of lives ups and downs. I'm sure that's nothing new. Gradually, overtime, these feelings of loneliness will subside. It's part of the grieving process. Just embrace it, and don't let it get you down. They are better days ahead! That I can say for sure.
@Catlady520007 ай бұрын
Freezing and in shorts….looks very familiar! Strength to you 💜
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
My legs stay warm through just about everything haha 🤣
@sandpipermom7 ай бұрын
This. This is what I've been saying. I have grown kids, so empty nest widow.
@trudyramgren88177 ай бұрын
Hi Josh. Actually you ARE doing fine. You have great insight and what you are feeling is so normal. Loneliness is horrible in itself especially when you had a great partner and you are the type of person who has so much love to give other people. Ive been single for years by choice. Never had a great love to deeply grieve over but at times i get lonely so i try to channel it in different ways. I hope im going to make sense here but i always tell myself the old saying. " its better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all". This makes me grateful that ive had love in my life. If i never find it again, there is a reason for that. Your story is much different. Of course you want to love again and im sure it will happen for you. My concern is that you need more time to go through the whole grieving process . Get to know yourself more in your new single life. You are very vulnerable at this point. When we are vulnerable sometimes we make mistakes in our decisions by choosing the wrong person or not having your life with Sarah completely processed. I just think by giving yourself a little more time you will truly be open to love, not out of loneliness. I feel badly that you are going through this. One day you are going to be a blessing to anyone that finds you. You are a great guy. And what you do with your kids are awesome. But at the end of the day, like your therapist says, " Only you will know when the time is". There is no judgement here. I want to see you happy and fulfilled. Hugs and ❤
@kristal52607 ай бұрын
I definitely dont think that there is or should be a time frame before meeting a new person. I do think that there are things we could probably benefit from before opening our hearts again (more to just protect ourselves and others). Im not sure what those things are exactly but I think its different for everyone. Some people find someone in a few months and other a few years. Nobody knows so nobody should judge. ❤
@dianavalle247 ай бұрын
I know that feeling so well missing my mom so much I feel like someone ripped my heart out of my chest 💔💔💔😭😭😭 stay strong my friend 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@eifionjones5593 ай бұрын
I am very much with you, My wife died in February from dementia, I love (loved) her so much. There is a word in my language (Welsh) hiraeth, there is no real English translation but the closest I can get is a longing for something and someone you can never have again
@lavonneribera69137 ай бұрын
Love your videos, and I strongly feel no one has the right to judge anyone for finding love again after the death of a spouse. You should absolutely find love again when you are ready, and that is your right and solely your decision!
@leannemurray14937 ай бұрын
Loneliness is soooo hard!! You are doing well Josh keep pushing through..you will come out the other side it just takes time. Big love to you from Newzealand ❤
@lnewbury17 ай бұрын
You will never find someone just like Sarah. Nor should you ever compare or look for that. Everyone is unique and wonderful in their own ways. With that being said, I do hope you find another person to do life with. We aren’t meant to be alone (unless that’s what one really wants). You deserve happiness and your kids will thrive seeing you continue in another healthy, loving relationship. It’s no one’s business what you do with your heart. We all know it’s been 💔. It will be great to see it mended by a new and everlasting love.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
💯! It’s hard not to compare in my mind. Not intentional at all.
@kimberlyhendren20977 ай бұрын
Your videos are wonderful. You are so authentic. And it's ok to take a break from KZbin. We understand.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
🫂 taking a break from youtube sometimes leaves me reeling lol. It is a hobby, and something I truly enjoy. But, breaks from everything are necessary at times. Thank you for being understanding
@kimberlyhendren20977 ай бұрын
Absolutely we understand! I look forward to your videos but we understand breaks are needed! ❤
@LouannBuriak-zs2gn7 ай бұрын
It will get better this I PROMISE ❤
@LouannBuriak-zs2gn7 ай бұрын
YOUGET SOME REST
@joangaither38717 ай бұрын
I do hope you eventually meet another person. No one should judge anyone. All I want for you and your children is to be happy 🥰🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼🥰
@teresahickey62307 ай бұрын
You're a young man and you need companionship. Nobody should be upset or judgemental if you get a friend. A pastor that I know loss his wife in February 2022 and he just got a friend and he's happy. Go for it.
@teresahickey62307 ай бұрын
I meant lost.
@jeanmason35597 ай бұрын
I hope you find love again .
@ArtzyJ97 ай бұрын
When people ask you, how are you doing? you should imagine they said how are you doing right now, and answer them as if that was the question, 'today I am keeping busy but, it's hard when things quiet down.' or what ever is going on for you.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
I like that thought. I’ll see if I can get it to stick.
@cathycrane68377 ай бұрын
Hugs josh and prayers i felt this so much loneliness is so hard at times i take care of my mom who has altimers dementia and abstroke over that i have no social life but i wouldn't change it because im honerd to take care of my momma but it does get very lonly i feel your pain thank you for coming on here to talk about it God bless you and your children
@renroxdis7 ай бұрын
❤❤❤much love n understanding 😢😢😢
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@franny52957 ай бұрын
I don't know about anybody else, but when my husband died, a lot of my interest in the things we enjoyed together, really lost their appeal. And I pretty much quit doing them. Other things have replaced them but, yeah, things about my life with him definitely died with him. Edited to add: I think people go on with their lives because they have to. And they don't miss our people the way we do. Because they weren't tangled up with our people the way we were. They weren't severed from our people the way we were. And everybody is different. Some people suffer and never show it. The stoics. And the other side of it is we are genuinely bad at death. Culturally, we just want to get over it and on with it. That's what we do. And it's hard because we can't just get over and on with it.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
Agreed. Some things I push to keep alive for me, some for the kids, and some from promises to Sarah. But there are definitely things that have lost their appeal, or just hurt more so they don’t bring joy anymore.
@franny52957 ай бұрын
@@POGGrief Since you really need to get some exercise for both physical and emotional reasons, maybe look into biking. Road biking, mountain biking, that boy of yours might actually like bmx type things and I'm sure your daughter would love to ride with you. I'm not at all surprised you're craving connection. I miss pillow talk. Staying up late and hushed conversations with giggles and maybe other things but I miss pillow talk and I don't want pillow talk with anybody else. So I get it. My only advice with whatever you do is maybe don't share what you're doing because people will be judgemental and you don't need that right now. Your kids don't need you beat up with that right now either. I know that's kind of awkward but nobody really understands what you're going through. You have to do what you have to do to get through it.
@LouannBuriak-zs2gn7 ай бұрын
Your feelings are all normal
@jenniferwagner64787 ай бұрын
I apologize if you’ve addressed this before. Had you and Sara discussed life with someone else after her death? I respect that this is such a tender and personal topic. None of us can say “this is the way and that isn’t the way” because all of this is very individual and personal…not to mention difficult to navigate. Please don’t be hard on yourself. Praying for God’s blessings over you and yours. One day at a time. I’m so sorry for your loss. This sucks. Sharing thoughts and feelings are helpful. Some days the lonely feeling may be stronger/weaker than other days.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
We always told each other that happiness, and love should always be sought. It’s not something we had to talk about for many many years, but we both knew we wanted each other happy, and to not dwell in the sadness of death.
@dragonladyhs757 ай бұрын
Shorts go well with 20 degree weather😂 glad you have this outlet to share your feelings. You surely are helping several with your words. I have learned through the years of several losses, people don’t know what to say, so they say nothing at all and begin to fade in the background. folks are scared about what to say and what not to say.
@sekinatparry98837 ай бұрын
Well said Josh, you’re doing what’s best for you! Much love ❤
@Tomas-major7 ай бұрын
I believe it’s a loneliness of losing the other half of your being x
@annofcleavers57917 ай бұрын
Alone and broken,that about sums me up,stuck,my past,present and future is gone ,no idea where to start or if I can.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@angelamadas-um6wr7 ай бұрын
You do you. It's ok to move forward
@vancekershaw68767 ай бұрын
I know the feeling of feeling like you are alone it's not easy hang in there
@terrimarie46517 ай бұрын
People need to mind their business when it comes to what others do with their life.Hugs Josh❤
@teresahickey62307 ай бұрын
I would not worry about what people think you need a friend in your life. We are not supposed to be alone unless you want to. I love being single and by myself, but that's not for you.
@dianeking61272 ай бұрын
Can't even imagine 😢
@user-we9rb5lo5f7 ай бұрын
"Josh..This must be so terribly hard for you.😢I can understand it will never feel the same. Sarah was your soulmate., but maybe in time, when you feel its right, you will meet someone, and yes you deserve happiness not loneliness and im sure its what darling Sarah would want for you..bless your heart.❤Remember this is your life, dont let anyone judge, you've been through a lot already! ❤🫂
@teresahampton51736 ай бұрын
Hi Josh, I experienced my husband's unexpected death. Next month in February it will be three years. It was in the afternoon, with out own town family all there visiting for a big event we'd been planning for a long time. He wasn't sick. We'd been getting all of the things ready for the part that would happen the next day. We had lunch, and then everyone went back to party prep. When I suddenly got word...call 911. One of my sons and his wife were preforming 911. They did so for nearly 40mins. before the paramedic came. There was no cause. He was a healthy pilot, and had his flight physical that week. He was 60 years old and healthy. We were together for 38 years. We had no kiss goodbye, in fact we'd bee quarreling like we did whenever we had a big party. The shock of this was overwhelming, and I have even noticed some cognitive things that I have from the shock. Please know your videos are helpful. It's okay not to be okay. I hope you and your family continue with your sharing. It's important.
@carolschneider73757 ай бұрын
Josh you touched on every emotion perfectly. I dont like to use the word replace but after my husband I ventured out and found myself comparing to my husband. I just gave up...its been 20 years now. I keep busy with my kids...I pray you find someone special because you deserve it❤❤❤❤
@dannagilliss63107 ай бұрын
Everybody is different. You will know when. nobody should tell you how long you have to wait. If they truly cared they would want to see you alone. Hugs and prayers from Alabama ❤
@Saraabbey7 ай бұрын
Hi Josh!! Although I have not lost a spouse I do understand the lonlieness ur facing. I took the easy way out after my last relationship & have not dated in a loooooong time. Although it was the easy way by just avoiding it, it is lonely, yet as more time passes by I find it harder even thinking about dating becuz the only life I know is by myself. 😊. But we as humans do need that physical and emotional connection w someone…even us introverts. Nobody has the right to ever tell u when or if it’s ok to date. That is so wrong of anyone to tell u or make u feel guilty for wanting that companionship and love. Ignore them, u aren’t dating them😀. I also believe there is more than one person meant for us. I think there r so many amazing people that wil fall in love with u and vice versus. Yes dating is totally different. I’m in my 40’s and it has changed so much. But I do beleive the world has its ways of seeing when ur heart is open and it will find a way to fill that void when the time is right. Just go about each day as u have and u r going to meet and fall in love with someone and it’s going to come naturally. It will happen at the most random place and the most random time. Just ride the wave Josh 😀. And it’s ok that ur longing for that emotional and yes physical connection don’t feel guilty or let anyone tell u differently . U r human and ur love language is loving someone and it’s so awesome ur heart is still open. Thats incredible. Others aren’t as fortunate and or become closed off so I think it’s amazing and so strong of u to feel that way. U keep on rockin and take each day as it is and u will meet someone when the time is right and u will never know when that is until it happens but it will b just as magical with the heart palpitations and excitement as soon as u meet that special someone. Big hugs Josh and never lose that incredible strength and huge loving heart. Trust me when I say there’s a lot of us women that wish there were more Josh’s out there. Big hugs my friend
@trudyramgren88177 ай бұрын
I agree with you Sara!!! ❤
@taraA19767 ай бұрын
Awww, I swear I’m not a professional mourner as I respond to both you and Kyle , often but I just wish I could hug you both! Whether that would matter or not- I hate to see you lonely. The loneliness you are explaining , makes so much sense to me as I’m a deeply feeling human and it’s been to my detriment, at times but I understand every single thing you are saying and the disappearance of people and seeing life resuming , while you are just submerged in total darkness, sadness, loneliness- I get it, Josh. I also understand the terror of putting yourself back out there , after thinking life was set and having to worry about the judgements , how to even meet people , under your unique circumstances, etc etc …. This is a very heavy subject to entertain but you are a human , a man and you have your unique needs . Try to escape the expectations of others - who gives a flying f what anyone thinks is right for YOU . For the people on here that adored you , your wife and beautiful children- we want you to tend to you! You are going through the normal human emotions and we would all feel these emotions, if we lost our person! You are loved and you are a gorgeous human. You will have your pick , when you are ready . ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
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@joannemates63677 ай бұрын
I have mentioned this before. I lost a partner in a hit and run 15 years ago. We didn’t live together, but the grief that followed was soul destroying. I have been a single parent of two, for 25 years. I’m 50 now, I’m at a place now where I’m happy, I’m alone but not lonely. Most people never find what you and Sarah had. You both are so very blessed. I’m not an expert but my advice would be for the next 12 months focus on healing and your self care. Maybe once a month go and do something new in your community and make some new friends, with similar interests. Sending you so much love, strength, healing and peace, from country Victoria, Australia. ❤❤❤💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
@sandraflarity96307 ай бұрын
great yet difficult topic, but keep exploring and putting words to your thoughts and feelings......hang in there
@codyfraser38505 ай бұрын
I lost my wife Feb 19, she died unexpectedly of heart failure a month after the birth our fifth child. 16 years of relationship building and a deep love and respect gone just like that. Her last words to me were struggling to say "I'm with you" as I pleaded for her to stay with me while I performed CPR awaiting the paramedics. I feel like I'm living in a fairytale tragedy. I love my wife more than anybody else, but I am already feeling deserving of a new chance at love based on what my wife taught me about how to be a better man... yet I don't want to rush anything or "settle" just to try and fill a void that nobody can fill, that took 16 years to build. I need to find someone who accepts my kids, and my love for my late wife, and for me. I won't compromise on that. It feels like an impossible puzzle piece to find.
@diannebernau32937 ай бұрын
Hi Josh, thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. It can’t be easy. I am on my own, due to circumstances that happened in my life. For the most part I have been alone, but never felt lonely. That is, until we were in lockdown for 6 mths in Melbourne during Covid, where we couldn’t leave the house. I felt like I was in solitary confinement with just a daily phone call. During that time I was grieving for my furangel who I lost just before lockdown began. It had just been the two of us for nearly 17 years. I had never felt so alone and realised how much I missed human contact, just a hug or seeing a friendly face. It really had an impact on my mental health. I hope you know how much your videos are helping us and that they are helping you too. Take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself, Josh. You have been through something most of us can only imagine. Nobody has any right to judge you and how you are dealing with your grief. Thinking of you and your family. With love and best wishes from Down Under 😘💕🇦🇺.
@kimberlykyle99447 ай бұрын
Someone who has never been through loss has no place to judge someone else since they don’t know how they would respond unless they are in that situation. You will know when it is right for you and follow your heart.
@kristal52607 ай бұрын
I agree with you. I will say that since everyone's situation is different that I would even take people's opinions who have lost their own person with a grain of salt. Losing my dad has been excruciating pain for me and a few of my friends who have also lost parents still don't understand why I'm not "over him yet". 💔
@WVislandia7 ай бұрын
I often feel that treating someone who is struggling with a situation, or a loss, or an illness like they are 'different' isn't really very honest of me. The script that people get handed in life is the script that they get handed. Yes, they may be undergoing all sorts of challenges to deal with but they as people are just like me. I keep you in my prayers as you navigate the script you have been handed. I think you are doing a really good job of looking after yourelf while sharing with us how there is no map to get through this.
@POGGrief7 ай бұрын
Ah, are they just like you. I want to challenge that idea. Not in a negative way, just for thought sake. Also there may be more conveyed beyond just the text of what you wrote. We are all very different. :)