Dr. Ramani reveals one thing narcissists cannot do

[@wordswordswords8203]

They never, and I mean never, take any responsibility for their bad actions.

[@notsosuavemate]

Exactly not even a sorry

[@user-je5nn2lq5j]

Just like Donald Trump, a malignant narcissist.

[@donnamariedavidson5065]

Of course not. Because cowards never will apologize for what they know full-well what it is that they do wrong, and they do it only to get a kick out of it. Totally sick, calculating, and selfish, evil morons is exactly what they truly are.bj

[@6foot7sun]

@@notsosuavemateonly to get what they want.. never genuine or specific..

[@rangerdanger10]

What if you do, and you have. And you can admit failure and defeat but still get labeled a narcissist?

[@Tns85]

Narcissist are adults who never left childhood

[@joselynnschmidt5795]

For sure, and the one big reason is because of being neglected or rejected by their parents. For me, I had to raise myself, and it isn't good when you raise yourself. My dad was working and mom ain't around because she cheated and went crazy, even though my brother and I had babysitters we still have to raise ourselves because babysitters don't raise you they just keep an eye on you and that's it. It's hard to leave that if there isn't any nurturing. Narcissist's emotional growth is stunted.

[@greatlook10]

​@@joselynnschmidt5795smart analysis of how narcissists are made👍🏻

[@notsosuavemate]

Or Pampered so much so that they’re entitled but won’t leave others a chance

[@corysmith3447]

most "empaths" are really covert narccists, both gnders are as narccistic as the other now according to sam vahknin

[@rakelpeneyambeko]

​@@joselynnschmidt5795🎯🎯

[@amberfuchs398]

They have unrealistic expectations, and unrealistic expectations are a recipe for disappointment.

[@misslanapaulford]

They have unrealistic expectations of people..

[@louisegarner8888]

And of animals, wealth, ownership, achievements, talents, other's assets as being none of their business, limits, other's boundaries, themselves as being Masters of the Universe, their driving and every other ability, anything that goes wrong, time, space, the ordinary being ok, that they're boring not others, reality, that their delusions aren't real but conflated bs, life, death and everything in between ...

[@Freethnkr]

​@@misslanapaulford 👇👇👇

[@Freethnkr]

​@@louisegarner8888 They have PINKY & THE BRAIN MENTALITY

[@louisegarner8888]

@@Freethnkr 😅😂🤣 Yesss! Cartoon chaos with the genius mouse and his stupid sidekick who try to conquer the world each and every night, day and minute if you put it on loop! Uh oh... does that mean we're the "stupid sidekick?" 😕 Note to self "stop watching videos on narcissism!" You're hilarious thanks for the laughs! 💕☺️😘

[@CatLover-g7j]

What I have learned through almost 50s years is....They simply DO NOT CARE!!!! They dont care about Anything besides their own COMFORT!!!!!😢

[@Freespiritedqueen]

Yep,

[@wordswordswords8203]

very well put. I agree. it's hard to grasp what that is like, to not care at that level but I see in in the narcs that I've had to deal with. Weird and awful trait.

[@jenerin905]

I see it exactly as a child mentality in an adult body. I'm not so sure they CAN really care about anything except themselves because they are completely incapable. It's like a permanently stunted maturity, they might change for a short time, but it always regresses as they don't have the capability of true personal growth. It's sad for them, but we still need to manage our expectations of them and protect ourselves from them.

[@azulaisafunnylewdgirl]

Somebody stated very well that "Narcissists like to play God".

[@BlancaGutierrez-cr3bb]

​@@jenerin905 "Stunt" growth is exactly a good term 😢

[@yukio_saito]

It's so frustrating to see they play the victim.

[@hawaiigirl8089]

It’s their - reality not even a game. They ARE CRAZY

[@madelinebigio7565]

They blame everyone but themselves! 😮😮😂❤❤❤

[@proanimaluver6487]

I hope uour not showing your frustration because they are like dogs rolling in dead things. Your frustration is that dead thing feeding it.

[@dlmalley8639]

Don the C🎃N TRUMP

[@BobSmith-kd4oc]

Trump

[@Portia620]

I lost a bunch in the divorce but gained so much more!!! I tell my story and people are shocked I’m without a car but they have no idea what a blessing that was!!!

[@kimberlyjohnson7572]

God will give you double

[@tspencer661]

You lost an angry, bitter, abusive person. You gained peace. You gained wisdom. You gained the ability to sleep at night.

[@lubavukadinovic5752]

My ex has raped me; gave the Chek from my business to his lover's business; left sun and 😢 me without winter cout and took a car 🚗 l was paying insurance and high monthly payment.

[@alyssawoodman]

They're worried about you not having a car...little do they know that's the least of it 😂

[@tspencer661]

@@alyssawoodman Narcissists do things to hurt you on purpose. Let them wallow in their misery.

[@TerriGigglesAlot]

Exactly..... They never take accountability!

[@nunyabizzz1135]

Never. In their minds it could never be them. They're too good for failure. Has to be the wife's fault. Anyone but them

[@lisa3341]

​@@nunyabizzz1135Because they can not

[@paulajennings3727]

Never is the key word

[@KandraFellows-y9n]

I agree

[@KandraFellows-y9n]

Exactly I have seen that .

[@faleishagore8176]

I'm married to one and the word NO is like gas on a fire

[@sumerabullock7910]

Same here!!!

[@Angelina-gz9wr]

Yes

[@Freespiritedqueen]

Yep!

[@michaelamanus189]

Same here!!!

[@rupertperiwinkle4477]

Likely because their mommy didnt tell them No when they were children. They didnt learn to properly develop.

[@80islandia]

This is SO true. It is extremely hard as a (recovering) people-pleaser to be on the other end of a disappointed narcissist.

[@pennyp7382]

Being a "people pleaser" is a form of narcissism. You try and force your will silently. I have cut off every "people pleaser" it's all about YOU in disguise that it's "helping" "giving" You are always the victim. Glad you're recovering from that. It's a hard one.

[@m.935]

​@@pennyp7382 it can be about fawning (fight, flight, freeze, fawn response to trauma).

[@ravenstillwaters5195]

​@@pennyp7382That is a good point. Ty

[@sweety784]

​@pennyp7382 what? There's no truth in that. Total opposite of narcissism

[@PeaceNotPerfextion]

@@pennyp7382this is absolutely true…

[@shaistaijaz2019]

💯this Narcissist community should b recognized separately from other social groups so that normal individuals don’t end up getting trapped into marriages or other relationships with those evils

[@danninash2325]

💯💯💯💯

[@Alasia25]

So many high officials would be finished

[@loveinthematrix]

My mom has stage 4 cancer and my narcissistic father will complain about everything in front of her, everything that goes wrong in his life like she’s his therapist - meanwhile she can never speak about anything she’s struggling with. It’s heartbreaking

[@janebraun4482]

They just can't relate or truly care, so sorry and yes heartbreaking.

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

It's probably the reason she has cancer. epigenetic tells us that it is the environment that causes the illness NOT the gene as previously thought. check out Bruce Lipton the man who discovered epigenetic. also read Anita Moorjani a woman that on deaths door with stage 4 cancer doctors told her family she had less than 12 hours to live and she had an NDE near death experience and made a 💯 % full recovery. today she travelled the world in perfect health speaking about her experience Nd her miracle recovery. Never give up 🙏 🤲 ❤️ I wish your mum recoverynhealth and happiness.. oh and a lifetime of peace and love ❤️ God bless 🙌

[@Violet-fj8yd]

Good thing she has you.

[@loveinthematrix]

@@Violet-fj8ydShe will always put my father first, and she continues to deny his abuse that I endured as a child. I recently had a wave of resentment come over me towards her. I felt horrible for feeling that way, but I also have to accept it because she was complicit in the abuse I endured. I pray to God everyday for them both to repent - I had to repent because I started to have narcissistic traits in my teenage years. God's intervention is the only way my soul was saved from following in that evil path. It's so incredibly intense - but yes I am with her, I pray for her, I am aware of what is going on - and I rebuke the Devil in my family line, the ancestral curses, and my father's demonic nature underneath what she believes in a good man. I would not be able to do any of this without God's mighty love and hand on my life which I do not deserve. I will be there for my mother until the end and I will continue to move forward on the path of forgiveness even though it's hard - and I pray my dad repents so his soul does not forever remain in darkness. Aloha! I also have to realize my mom is a victim of narcissistic abuse even though she denies it. She believes it's real love and my heart breaks for her.

[@loveinthematrix]

@@Violet-fj8yd Anyways I'm obviously going through rn. I didn't mean to bring all that out LOL I'm on the autism spectrum so mind me. You are right :)

[@DeirdreMFox]

Dr Ramani has helped me so much to heal , I no longer have either Narc in my life.

[@gal2727]

Definitely the dog’s fault 😂

[@jaknkee]

Actually, that was one of my ex's claims...

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

😅😂🤣 that's a good one 😂

[@angelalewis3364]

True he tormented the poor dog so it would bite him .he would say dog is so unpredictable!!! Even hit the dog while I held him .cruel to kids ,me and animals .Of course it's the kids and dogs fault for their behaviour 🙄

[@10muusa]

If not dog’s, then god’s fault

[@mypeace101]

So true. When I told him he couldn't play victim to the circumstances he created that really touched a nerve. I gave him what he wanted and signed the divorce papers. No fight just done.😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤

[@Time4change111]

You should be proud of yourself ❤ good job.

[@Time4change111]

You should be proud❤

[@rohinisivalingam3309]

Same! Feels like I should’ve fought for my rights more, but just done sums it up!

[@mayadove_7]

Enjoy your freedom and rest of your life in peace ❤❤❤

[@maggiedeveloper]

This is my life at the moment. Thank you for validating my experience. Love ❤My therapists never did explain it this way.

[@laceydeshea]

I'm right there with you. Colossal mess is an excellent depiction of what it's like to break away from my husband. He wants to blame me and slander me, but simultaneously does not want to let me out of his control. Unfortunately I had to get a protection order. I pray others can get away before it reaches a point of danger.

[@tijeraslack3]

A lot of therapists are not aware of this issue.

[@pragatibhushan8697]

Most of therapist in india re not aware of it. Check out dr Ross rosenberg

[@dovee1]

Same with me. I adore the way she puts this, it's helping me so much to understand how my narcissist works

[@amam-qq5jc]

Me too ❤ he is getting sued at work and he wanted me to have a late termination of pregnancy and I wasn’t sure as was attached to my baby, I miscarried while he was away for a trip and when he came back, joined a dating app, met someone new, and asked for a divorce. Lost my baby and husband in two weeks. He never asked about me or came to the hospital or even asked where our baby is buried. He is still telling everyone he is the victim. Thankfully I have so much evidence that third parties I have access too know it’s lies, obviously the new supply thinks I’m crazy. She encouraged him too. Deserve one another. God is bigger than them both

[@AlarioMre]

They cannot regulate disappointment. I was punished by my narc when I did not get a job. I was also punished when things went wrong with him.

[@Freespiritedqueen]

Same

[@HeismyShepard]

Saaaame!

[@Angelina-gz9wr]

Same. Even though he caused the curse the curse in his life, according to him, it’s my fault. It’s so far off that I just laugh. 😂

[@anthonybanks4568]

If you are in a narc relationship and can leave do so. Narcs can never change.

[@darlenesutton7248]

run

[@christking8844]

1000% Get away aa quick as you can

[@jynclr]

Basically, they rage when they don't get their way, it's as simple as that.

[@wordswordswords8203]

yup. rage and throw a big baby tantrum or seek revenge. their reaction is usually way out of proportion to the reality of the situation

[@tanyalovett9705]

Or stonewall and silent treatment

[@karencornelius9640]

My sister is a narcissist and man the rage is unbelievable! She screams and passes until we think her vocal cords are going to strip out!😱

[@kanikamaheshwari9732]

The best way to get away with narcissistic partner is do not let them know u r gonna leave and just leave. Because if they know, they will manipulate you and have fake tears and apologies only to do it again and when their ego gets hurt bcz they begged u to stay, they will come out more narcissistically on you in the future. Based on personal witnesses

[@shandelcromer8692]

Yeah that's what I did many time's, in you know what the narc call that? You always running 🏃, but the real reason is I don't need any police activity, because the man will turn out to have been the aggressiver? So u would disappear before any of that. But now it's in my house in dint wanna leave.

[@mayadove_7]

Facts

[@deborahabernathy1757]

You are so Right!! Wish I had known this years ago. Get out of that relationship fast!! Don't go away mad, just go Away!!

[@yesseniaserrano5716]

This is so true, they "Narcissists hate surprises" especially those out there CONTROL😂. These A'holes are NOT RESILIENT!!!

[@Freespiritedqueen]

Experience here. Witnessed this ! You right.

[@kirtighulanawar7290]

So true!! I had given few😂 and they were pumped with so much of anger which they could not hold neither could express!! It was a relief for me though🙄🙏🏻

[@jdo4715]

This woman knows her stuff!!! Dr. Romani covers all bases. Highly recommend her youtube channel

[@jaggersalapayne9353]

100% true...i experienced all of them not knowing then that I was dealing with a narcissist.

[@maryw4609]

So true blamers accusers makes you tired to your bones

[@chanellovely2836]

Truth.❤

[@Minlaroo]

Im exhausted. I can't wait to get a divorce.

[@hawaiigirl8089]

in sending this! To my attorneys. It’s shameful how many family lawyers Fail to see & learn narcissist behavior

[@williamc6564]

That's because solicitors are narcisists in their profile and nature. I work with solicitors and see how sneaky they are in their comments and how they construct situations in the judicial process. They are excellent examples of narcisists. They convince Judges who are already trained to be narcissistic anyway to agree with the best lies they can, even though they are supposed to be impartial which is impossible for narcisists to do.

[@ellejee74]

​@@williamc6564Wowww!! Well put!! Yeah, you have to find a divorce attorney who specializes in narcissism, they are out there and they are brutal, they see through all the narcs bull💩 and will be glad to call them out on it!!! Good luck and God bless!!🙏

[@christking8844]

Doctors struggle to identify them And Many judges can be narcissistic Be careful

[@LadywatchingByrd]

Lawyers are narcs themselves. If anyone is fine with the circle speak of legalese .. they're one of them 😔

[@ladyfame1430]

For real! It’s gives them anxiety. And pushes their insecurities to a whole new level.

[@marysuzannajayne1340]

Absolutely perfectly described! The inability to deal with disappointment is impossible for the narcissist and if you are dealing with other psychopathic tendencies, it can become dangerous. My best friend was just attacked by her son and beat up because she called him out on several lies he told. The police in her small town actually sided with him because he made a report first, claiming she attacked him? He has a past record of threatening behavior and is diagnosed bipolar? It is a horrible situation that will most likely end in tragedy, as he is a rotten father to a 7 year old child!

[@elipotter369]

She needs to get support from a parental abuse/domestic violence service, or move.

[@Stopnoisepollution]

​@@elipotter369 Agree. She has to leave him ASAP!

[@mzyotruthnlove8263]

They really have a hard time dealing with life's challenges. And that is really what makes the relationship suffer. They can't seem to navigate, nor negotiate the ebbs and flows of life.

[@Freespiritedqueen]

Yep, witness in my marriage.

[@privateprivate8366]

This is EXACTLY what happened, when my narcissistic mother began to realize, outside of a court room, that her legal case wasn’t going anywhere. She was between catatonic and quietly enraged. She later told me that she blamed my sister and I, for her losing the case, like either of us had any background in law or could go up against a global company. But, even further, she was telling me the family business was worth dying for. So, I think that, for her, it was “Go up against that company, die if you have to. Doesn’t matter to me.”

[@DeltaScalper]

Once she said , I didn’t ask you a question for you to give me that answer . It was over way before that but , they never disappoint.

[@Jireh_woolridge777]

They're like little children! Imagine watching a grown adult being so paranoid that they go into a situation that they know will benefit the family immensely and intentionally mistreat and disrespect the people who are actually helping them achieve the goal for their family. I couldn't believe how she really thought she was the victim, often throwing a tantrum and utterly destroying the family. It was the equivalent of telling a child, " No, you can't have any candy," and they fell out on the floor screaming and crying.

[@michellelehoux5729]

This is so on point. This happened to me. The good news is once it’s over we can begin to heal. 🥰

[@abhinaviyer8958]

Dr Ramani.... You are just a blessing for many.. Absolutely bang on !

[@pgkpq2769]

10000%!!! Absolute nightmare...took me a long time to learn this, awareness & social media nowadays is lifesaving!!❤🙌🏽

[@ASPAseethrough]

Last thing I heard was “I DID EVERYTHING RIGHT” and I politely said “I wish you a great day” and walked away…🤷‍♂️

[@dakotamayer1820]

Lol my ex is a narcissist and I was standing there like... what in all hell did I do wrong.... Turns out not being able to live up to their standards makes me a horrible person or some crap

[@Frantic618]

When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, GET OUT OF IT AND GET AWAY!

[@finallydone391]

I left 97 days ago after 40 years of abuse! I’m so glad I left that little prick…best decision I’ve made for myself!

[@BBlair-if8tj]

@@finallydone391Good on you!!’

[@nikkinap1228]

It's so frustrating. All I did was try to help this person and all they did was tell me what I did was wrong

[@lonjemariesfashions5117]

Dr Ramini has been a tremendous blessing to me. Knowledge is POWER! EVERYTHING she says is correct ✅

[@michelletecklenburg5950]

They will leave you pennyless! It falls apart colossally like you said. True story.

[@pragatibhushan8697]

Very few people in our culture understand narsicism ,though if I look around there are so few people who are not so,they cause so much of suffering and heart ach in people while maintaining a facade of victim

[@aaliyahdivina3523]

GROWING UP WITH THIS TYPE OF PERSON ... MARRYING A PERSON LIKE THIS ...I DID EVERYTHING PERFECT AND SOMEHOW WAS ALWASY WRONG ABOUT ANY / EVERYTHING. LINVING WITH THESE TYPES DRAIN / SUCK THE LIVING LIFEEEEEEEEE OUT OF YOU. YOUR PURE LIFE ENEGRY THAT THEY STOLE TO FUEL THEIRS. I HAVE RID THESE PEOPLE FROM MY LIFE AND FOR THE 1ST TIME IN MY LIFE. I CAN BREATH / THINK / EXSIT AND JUST BE @ P_E_A_C_E WITH MYSELF / MY PRESENCE / MY AURA AND I AM JUST SO APPRECIATIVE !!!

[@sheilaprice1942]

@@aaliyahdivina3523I hear you 🙌🏼🥰

[@Freethnkr]

This is every culture

[@chanellovely2836]

True statement.❤

[@sonalimazumdar_54]

I took my narcissist husband to the court for a divorce. He bribed my lawyer n the case got dismissed. Knowing him , we are still in a relation as there are two grown up kids between us . But ...I made it clear to him I WILL NOT ABIDE BY YOUR RULES ! YES, it's tough but I live separate so it's easier . Life is extremely tough but one can manipulate them n stay a step ahead . It puts a lot of stress on oneself but better than being naive n be used . Thank you immensely for all the points you discuss n educate us . Blessings n love ❤

[@summerbreeze5319]

Yep.And they are hell for supervisors. Pure hell.

[@ellejee74]

​@@novae6583As an empathetic Virgo i take that personally, lol, jk, lol!!! 😂😂😂

[@Freespiritedqueen]

​@novae6583 I have been a supervisor and proud Virgo. Not true. Good at leading people and helpful.

[@lonjemariesfashions5117]

You Do NOT Want to be anywhere near them when they get angry it’s an extremely unhealthy anger ,like she said they don’t have the ability to regulate

[@AlluriManojVarma]

My in-laws shouts at me everytime. Later he comes and says he was unable to control due to blood pressure 😂

[@oceanside13]

Meanwhile the partner's soul is killed by non-stop disappointment with all the narcissist's future-faking carrot dangling from a stick.

[@almariesimpson7422]

You could not have said it better!😢

[@ranc1977]

Thank you for giving me new idea for the video in my playlist Psychology: Future - faking.

[@ellejee74]

FUTURE FAKING!!! Ugh, the lies are sooo believable!!!😑

[@christking8844]

Future Promises are a Redflag Avoid Narcissists AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE

[@HeloGirl-w2n]

Narsism is deeper than what you guys describe

[@AlluriManojVarma]

Yes I faced it for 8 years. Just coming out of it from last 1.5 years

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Omg Doctor R. You PERFECTLY NAILED IT

[@frankieblakely6717]

My husband almost hit someone walking on the side of the road…I yelled look out! He swerved and the first thing out his mouth was they almost hit my mirror. It will NEVER make sense how him and his son blame EVERYONE for their behavior.

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

mine are the same. Exactly 💯 but usually it's they blame me.

[@celissewillis9399]

The first/older child of a narc, generally ends up taking after them.

[@elizabethmoultrie5185]

😂😂😂😂hehehehe mirror was more important than a whole human being...! They are materialistic too!

[@marcelamunoz2668]

Flexibility around dissapointment. That is key to catch a narcissistic person.

[@amunoz0807]

The best thing I ever did in my life was leave him. I tried to hard to turn a blind eye to his behavior. Thank God!!❤

[@salmagodessa8719]

SOMETIMES THE Best way to cope with it is Becoming One Ourselves 👌 👍

[@frankiedankymemes]

So many times I have asked myself if I'm a narc (as I do have so much unresolved childhood trauma). However, my foster mom told me that Narcs don't generally ask themselves if they're narcs. They don't care and would never admit to it. 😅 Hope she's right 😂

[@danninash2325]

Narcissist people are so destructive. Thank you for your amazing insight . It probably saved my life ❤

[@Thankful305]

It’s just like dealing with a 10 year old -- exact same mentality, even if they’re in their 50’s 😏

[@Authenticallyathena]

Yep my mother is 57. She might as well be 12 with the way she acts and reasons. No contact has been incredible 8 months and going strong.

[@tweetietrinidadlee9987]

💯💯💯

[@BluegrassBarn]

That is a little harsh on ten year olds...I have met many more reasonable ten year olds than any age of narc.

[@tspencer661]

I think you need to lower the age. Three seems much more appropriate than ten.

[@gathy7714]

Omg facts!!! they get worse as they age too!!!it’s insane

[@AmandaZ-ft2ow]

💯% spot on! With Gratitude! ! !❤⚜️❤ Blessed Be! ! !❤🙏❤

[@josiecamilo7098]

They never grew up and want love and attention. They need a normal person to show them Hey life is about everyone not just You!

[@Cross-Examine]

Even when shown in the most respectful way, they disregard anything and anyone who opposes their delusions.

[@jillcrato1680]

I’ve seen these ‘victims’ blame everybody else for things that are their fault.They can make huge messes of other people’s lives on purpose and never accept accountability for their own toxic actions!

[@JonasCorrea]

Me as a narcissistic person I used to be, it is so nice to be recovered. But yes, we are just child in adults skin. To recognize and accept oneself and change is a long way.

[@emmanuelking9988]

Dr. Ramanu, the only psychologist I've seen that really understands narcissists and makes zero excuses for them.

[@ellejee74]

Like everyone else in the narcs life...

[@kristina-oy3zs]

After years of surgeries, ivf fertility treatments, I’m pregnant w a baby girl. My mom told me she wanted me to have a boy. She is having a hard time regulating her disappointment I’m having a girl that could be like me, because allegedly I was so horrible for her to raise. Hopefully I can break this cycle and love my little girl like she deserves

[@RBNY]

Soooo true! Hit the nail on the head.

[@stevenkovler5133]

This is exactly, what she says to me! It’s my mother, my grown sons, etc ..

[@UnaBurroughs]

Yes my ex is a narcissist. Actually filed divorce and completely cut me off financially as a power trip: been a fun ride

[@FluffyMarshmallow-x6r]

She really understands this disorder to its core. It's amazing

[@angelagladstone8863]

My daughter has always struggled to regulate unexpected disappointment. I don't think she is a narcissist although there is some overlap in symptoms. For her i think it's more derived from anxiety and OCD.

[@MarthaWoodworth-f9s]

Something I witnessed between two people: “You got sick because you didn’t do what I told you.” (To me): “She’s always doing this to herself. She’ll never learn.” The poor sick person had to sit there being maligned for her misfortune. I saw it. When I spoke up for her, saying she needed to be cared for with kindness, the narc stomped away like a spoiled child.

[@Egh0127]

YESSS 1000000% !!!!!!! I always HATE when something goes wrong, NOT because I can't handle it, I can handle anything with God I have the Holy Spirit. I hate when something goes wrong because of the fact that I know he is going to #1 blame me and #2 be very mean and bullying towards me for no reason #3 take his anger out on me. When we can't pay something or are late on bills he gets angry at me even though I'm a stay at home mom and don't control any money and is rude to me about all of it. I get blamed and hated for no reason every time something is wrong.

[@thezyklonbeast]

You've got to leave babe. It's different on the outside

[@yesseniaserrano5716]

Run it doesn't get better, it only gets worse as the years pass you by. Don't wait until the Titanic starts sinking to jump off!!!!!!!

[@ellejee74]

Omg, you need to get out!!! I've gone through the same, if something goes wrong it's their excuse to act like an idiot, rage and scream and threaten, like you caused the roof to leak(an example of what I went through)!?!? God bless you and your children!!! And good luck, you really need to consider getting help and getting out, the narc doesn't get better...😑🙏❤

[@nicinacnoo]

run to the hills

[@worshipthecreator9081]

Not much on a "Man" then.

[@itsdefinitelytrue7600]

I know someone who is a narcissist and she said that she wouldn't get divorced, unless she had somebody to remarry, lined up already😮

[@KattEyl]

I’m sad to say my younger daughter is like this. No matter what it is, if she doesn’t get what she wants, she verbally attacks the person not giving it to her.

[@SightOfTrees]

This is awkward but "It’s believed by many mental health professionals that narcissism originates from an unhealthy/abusive upbringing with emotionally unavailable, unresponsive, and inconsistent primary caregivers. " 😬

[@Bre-o6i]

If my daughter did this I wouldn’t stop disciplining her u til that stops , it would stop id make sure of that.

[@shobhnakapoor1399]

​@imsanedontworry not always. In most cases yes but not always. Dr. Romani and Dr. Les Carter concur. Sometimes children are just wired wrong smd it could be a genetic issue or a traumatic brain injury. Sometimes it is karma from past lives.

[@shobhnakapoor1399]

Please get your child therapy. My sister is a narc and the signs were there since she was a child. She is now in her fifties and has destroyed our family. She was treated well by our parents.

[@Bre-o6i]

@@shobhnakapoor1399 I love that you included karma from a past life 🙌

[@miriammaldonado7848]

They're always right!!!

[@AlluriManojVarma]

😂

[@juiceknot]

🙌🏾Facts she cheated all the time and I was to blame for everything. My favorite day when she sued me for defamation of character when we were on opposite sides of the country and had to do court via zoom. when she was going to explain twin flames to the judge… 🤗🍿I got my popcorn. The judge looked sooo confused 😵‍💫

[@cynthiarunge4858]

Ongosh My ex completely changed when his office was moved to another city ...when I walked in he said I am going to make you so miserable you will have to leave me I barely crawled out of that Marraige and he continued to be a pervert and do things only I saw

[@K.M.2324]

Describes my ex to a "T", especially with the divorce process. There are no words to describe this individual & their complete non-compliance during the process.

[@Sunnyfield323]

Well said it’s totally unbelievable isn’t it!! it’s so important to hear these message because once we know that they will never ever see it or except responsibility it’s a little bit easier to not take on their shit because you see it’s a commin not just you ..,

[@LisaFerguson-jv7ew]

Amenso true. It is always the other person fault. And you can't say anything or the rest of the family will blame you

[@sarahpruter1546]

100%. This is what my 2 1/2 year long divorce to my ex-husband was like.

[@Gom-l5q]

They know what they are doing, but they don’t care. I think it’s impossible to emotionally reconcile this. Because if you could, you would lose your humanity.

[@Awakened-tarot]

I was accused of being a narcissist with a personality disorder who is also delusional and generally a bad, lazy and not sure if I was a dumb person or a genius. So he ensured I never found or saw my daughter again. I seem to surround myself with people who are narcissistic, who like to be abusive and push beyond boundaries. But being that I’m all of the above. I must be extremely deserving.

[@wisdomdantecourt8179]

Toddlers!

[@jessaye4809]

Toddlers are better than them....they need another title.

[@ellejee74]

​@@jessaye4809True!!😂😂😂

[@xyzzxxx]

raging toddlers ​@@jessaye4809

[@thelmatacad5815]

Perfectly straightforward lecture!

[@ricktham7685]

Everything about narcissism boils down to one thing narcissist must always believe themselves to be significant to everyone around them

[@markmark2469]

This is so accurate - it is almost hard to believe.

[@angelaf5040]

I swear this describes half of my family!!!😢

[@sues22en]

You are unbelievable correct

[@favoritestark9930]

Mine would keep me on the phone for several hours talking about his mommy issues lol. Thank God I don’t have to deal with that anymore.

[@ellejee74]

Omgosh!!! And what is it with the narcs and they Mommas!?!? 🤔🤔🤔

[@Stopnoisepollution]

Yep. Talking for hours without ever listening!

[@rebeccagutierrez8170]

Yes 💯 I remember my daughter trying to help a narc to get a job where she was working at the time. (We hadn't figured out he was a narc yet) He went in for an interview, apparently he had been acquitted for murder a couple years before this. He threatened to kill my family bc he accused my daughter of sabotaging him.

[@jananabanana3180]

My ex- narc died of GRUDGIDUS..... nothing was EVER his' fault.....😮

[@cm6338]

I can't believe how perfectly on point you are!!!!

[@FortheBudgies]

Seiously, if you watch Dr. Ramani and realize you are in a narcissistic relationship, leave. Just leave. You deserve better. Get your pets and leave. No amount of watching this will help you fix it or deal better. Just leave as soon as possible. And get your kids in counseling.

[@sumerabullock7910]

It’s easier said then done. I’m in the process myself 😢

[@FollowYourHeart517]

Just started figuring things out and accepting them for what they are😢wish me luck❤

[@nicinacnoo]

I struggle with disappointment. as I have been let down/hurt so many times by the person I believed loved me.. but realise now that I served a purpose. I don't believe that me struggling with disappointment makes me a narcissist.

[@misslanapaulford]

She just described my dad and my ex husband.. Dad was it was never his fault. Same with ex husband. 😊

[@kimberlydeconcini326]

You look beautiful! You saved my life about 4 years ago. Finally, you validated my feelings and what I was going through. God bless you!

[@leila24241]

Hey my ex acted like a victim all the time, when I filed for divorce. And all his friends start telling what a liar he is. And by the way they are all his friends, none of them believe him 😊

[@helenrosario1421]

U are spot on

[@leeboriack8054]

Marriage counseling empowered my narc. Should have saved the time and money on a vacation. Alone!

[@ivanaandric5703]

Talking about my mother.. always the victim, never the parent

[@JesusIsKing12334]

Unfortunately the narcissists are many today

[@leonab545]

I’ve been noticing that. More coming, self absorbed social media generation.

[@JesusIsKing12334]

@@leonab545 agreed that’s why I don’t have any social media. Just KZbin and Pinterest.

[@krystalmathis6530]

Omg! And what an absolute headache it is. I never knew how stress felt until i was suckered in by narci at 35. No joke, I barely made it out alive.

[@CustomerService-ve9hf]

You described my ex-wife right up until the point when you said that (the narcissist would complain) the system is stacked against them… WELL, The fact is is that the court system IS against me because I’m the man… no victim, just facts! How did I get to NOT raise my children daily, see them ONLY 30% of the time, while they live with another man in MY house? All because she was unhappy? Answer that! THE LAWS ARE SHAMEFULLY STACKED AGAINST MEN

[@alyssawoodman]

Men built the system that now works against them

[@qlee50]

We can all fall into this pattern, but sometimes it feels like everyone around you is this way

[@martemacdougall1985]

This is exactly my ex-husband to a tee...so difficult to heal from this for me and its 35 yrs later. So many hurtful words from him. So many.

[@VictoriaDalton-kb6bw]

50 yrs for me and he commited suicide when I started demanding closure and questions of who are you Its very demonic ans 17 months trying to heal