Horrible when they go after your kids

I think I made a big mistake .. after years I just snapped I told him I have things in place and that I may go to shelter .. my blood pressure I sent him the proof I’d over 100 when he’s around me and that is from being in bed no activity ..I live like I’m in Jail in bed trying to hide … I’m so scared at this point I can’t get out soon enough and will have heart attack

The person I went no contact with - said she wanted to give the quilt I made for her - back to me. She said “it’s been sitting in my closet anyway”. Then she said she was going to donate it…..and acted like she was doing me a huge favor. And now is into a subtle “smear campaign” against me. I am so tired of these relationships…….I am pulling back from many of them in my life. I didn’t realize how attractive I was to these toxic people. I am 73 now and done………..I would rather be alone. Praise God - I have a loving husband and we are together………we lost our only grandson and only son tragically 9 years ago. I have changed dramatically since then - my son’s death pushed me forward into greater mental and spiritual and emotional health………and I am pruning away all the “bad” in my life - which includes toxic relationships…….thank you Dr. Ramani!! We love you!!

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It worked in my favor that they have very little idea what I really care about, because they basically never let me utter a complete sentence.

It's about regaining control.

I almost committed sui**de on August due to religious psychosis and problems with my Dad. And he was asking for forgiveness cause he thought he was the cause of it. Which he's not wrong but it didn't felt sincere and doesn't change the way he is.

Every narcissist uses this game.. to keep you and your deeds around

THEY SURE DON'T...

They may learn how to apology but I am sure they don't mean it.

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My husband and I learned this years ago and were SHOCKED by how hard it was in the beginning to ask for a sincere apology. We forced ourselves to say, "I'm sorry, will you forgive me?" And offer restitution. Yikes. It's so hard to humble yourself it this way.

went thru this cycle one thousand times\

How about "ok sorry" when you refuse to speak to them like nothing ever happened? Or some will do a wholehearted apology but you know it's just a speech.

I know all about the neediness, the always forcing his way, the Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde, charming/psycho flip-out from both my ex-husband and my recent now ex-boyfriend😵‍💫 The in my face cheating no, but I'm sure there were online/phone relationship(s).

My mother has never apologised, notbeven once in her whole life, she's only ever manipulated, I have never heard her say sorry.

What is it this propaganda on Narcissistic issues? . Many pods are communicating this personality. Choose the right person.

Been away .. I’m all set with her lies .🙏🏼👨🏻‍🚒

Been away no contact for a month. She did try sending me something for Christmas saying I can visit my stepson at the house. Who’s on the East Coast from his West Coast Marines also said I was childish because I blocked her. I didn’t respond.😂 I am going to heal. She took everything else monetarily from me and ruined my character.🙏🏼👨🏻‍🚒

I still haven't got a divorce. Been in hiding from him because he's physically abusive. Almost killed me 3 times.

Mine could'nt apologise full stop

Thanks for your advices

Good luck getting my ex to go to therapy. I begged her while we were married begged her on my knees.! my ex would rather get a divorce then spend 10 minutes talking about whatever issues it is. We need to talk about . Went out and spent how many tens of thousands of dollars on this divorce sold our house now we’re each spending three times as much for our housing . In our adopted daughter, lost another family ! I can remember one apology in the 20 years of our marriage and now that I’ve known her for about 26 she still has never apologized for anything! When I would apologize for things many times her response would be to borate me about the incident!

Good luck getting my ex to go to therapy. I begged her while we were married begged her on my knees.! I can remember one apology in the 20 years of our marriage and now that I’ve known her for about 26 she still has never apologized for anything! When I would apologize for things many times her response would be to borate me about the incident!

I went no contact with my brother and his wife. The wife got angry I sent a Christmas card to our niece. I got a nasty card back in the mail. That was a week ago. Apparently one nasty card wasn’t enough. I see another card is set to come today. I’m not going to open this one. Or anything else that comes in the mail.

I was with my narcissisticist for 13 years who is the most horrible disgusting despicable human being I have ever had the displeasure of meeting but when I tell you I was done with that piece of rag he got physical I called the police they got him out of there he told me I was going to want him back I told him he was a a liar from the pit of hell it has been at least 30 years you don't need to curse them out they are a walking curse. From the crown of his head to the soles of his feet all that he has done is his and his alone.

My mother is a narcissist who refuses to apologize but asks for forgiveness. She is not sorry for what she did but she doesn't want me to be angry about it.

• You need a plan • Your choice of attorney matters.....one who tells you the pros and the cons of your case is better • Have support out of the attorney support • Beware they don't go deep with any person

Navigating narcisism: • They are harmfully controlling •A narcissist wants to "WIN" • Good at draining your mental health • They are out to drain you financially even through a divorce case • Get a restraining order • Have a support system • Narcissist turn to hire narcissists. Be prepared. Know how to draw the line with a narcissist • The judge may leave and you have to start all over YOU MUST SHIFT YOUR EXPECTATIONS BECAUSE IT'S NOT GOING TO BE EASY

What a disgusting story! Lili is very strong for being able to tell it! Bill Cosby is a monster!

And is it sincere?

😢So sorry for Lili. Unbelievable, that he could portray such a nice person on screen. Narcissists are demons in human form.

The last time my father said “I’m sorry you feel that way” I replied “I’ll remember that”. We haven’t spoken since.

Silent treatment. Oh no…anything but that. 👍 I’d be okay if I never heard or saw that dude again. In fact, I think everyone would be better off.

“I am sorry I had to yell at you” wtf

My husband simply claimed that he had nothing to apologize for. He claims that only abusers need to apologize, and he was NOT an abuser. Chewing on me daily, putting me down, telling me who to vote for because I couldn't possibly figure out who to vote for on my own, none of this is abusive according to him, he is simply helping me, not abusing me. He also took all my money and toys to tell me he needs things, but I don't have a need for anything except the basics, food, clothes, etc. But he needs scooters, mini bikes, motorcycles, boats, tools, fishing equipment, knives for his collection, cameras, flashlights, etc. More than 1 of each. I wonder why I am now visiting a friend in another state, with him telling me 'he needs me' and when I tell him I don't need him, then he tells me he loves me. Everyone takes precedence over me. It doesn't matter who it is. He never takes responsibility for anything, he just says well, IF I did that, it would have been very bad, but I don't remember ever doing anything like that. Or it was all my fault because I always bring up the past, but is it really in the past if he is still doing it? If it happened over 1 second ago, then it is the past apparently...

Correct they say this all the time or I don’t know you right how about this one you told me to stay away from you or just come heyyy how ya doin 😂😂😂 they can’t anymore once you have healed why not because they no longer have access to you anymore 😂

I'm delighted as long as the bills are paid. Stay away 👍

Thank you

Soooo painful 😢

I said something similar to my ex who was definitely a narcissistic woman, but i said im sorry i made you feel that way, is it the same thing. Ive never received any apology from her except through a text, which said something like im sorry but you made me.....or but im just so tired.....there was always an or, or a but following. I offered for us to go to counseling, she said no and her reason was becsuse "she didnt want to find out she was the problem." Suggestions?

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If you ever have the chance at exposing a narcissist to a circle of friends of family do not take the high road.

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Yep yep mhhhmmm yeah yeah mhhmm

Because of severe gaslighting, I wasn't able to admit that everyone in my family was a sexual predator until I was in my 50's. There is a whole lifetime of experiences and happiness I was cheated out of because they had deliberately groomed me to be helpless and miserable. Although I'm glad that I finally put the pieces together, I accept and understand what happened, I'm not the kind of person who can afford good counseling so I'm left to deal with this knowledge and the memories alone. I feel cheated out of my life by these people. I very much appreciate this channel however, just knowing I'm not alone is at least validating and comforting to a degree.

Im sorry for what u think i did ! Yup narcissistic

How important issue;!!!!

I sometimes hear information about how we should treat the narc good and stay in the relationship to help turn them around and change and going grey rock makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong. I’m grey rock so I’m not bringing chaos or hurting this person by being rude and angry and argumentative but then again other people make me feel like I should just accept this person and all that come with them (which I do because I don’t try to change them) but I’m essentially then not being accepted by what I choose to do by being grey rock.

This is not exclusive to narcissists. I used to apologize for EVERYTHING, but since learning that an apology isn’t always warranted if you did nothing wrong I’ve learned to be more selective with my sorries. If someone is mad and just projecting they will most definitely get an “I’m sorry you feel that way” apology from me if I did nothing wrong. Now, if I am at fault, I will volunteer my apology quickly. But we don’t need to be sorry for every damn thing.