Need Help Fixing a Strained Relationship? (Do This)

[@britneyog9537]

Oh, honey. Let's share stories. Mine is horrible, but set boundaries and follow Dr. Johns advice. He is right. ♥️

[@RuthAnnNordin]

I relate to the first caller. BIL has made it a point to reject me for 20 years now, and NO amount of trying from my end ever works. I finally have peace with it, but it was a very hard road to travel to get to where I am today. I will never treat any of my In-Laws the same way I've been treated.

[@mmp495]

I have a strained relationship with my brother and SIL over a fight a couple years back. I've grieved it like a loss even though we all see each other at certain gatherings it will never be the same. It's gotten better over time. I've reduced my time on fb because it can stir negative emotions. I have to focus on me and my own path. I'm still healing. 🙏🙏🙏

[@patriciacole8773]

Sarah, I’m glad you shared your awful experience. And I’m really glad you and your son survived it. I, too had a bad experience in the delivery room. Not as severe as yours. But it’s not a competition. I didn’t want an episiotomy. That information visibly frustrated my dr. So after four hours of my daughter being stuck in the birth canal instead of him using two fingers on each side just shifting her shoulders he allowed the tear that in his mind made him right. Being on the table was the most vulnerable for a woman. I couldn’t tell him off or jump up and slap him or even stomp off. But when he stands before God, I will feel compassion for his ignorance. I survived and so did Faith. Praise God. Ten years later my dear mother had surgery. The nurse molested her. Now I need a procedure that I find difficult to proceed with. I just don’t want to feel that level of vulnerability that can on a dime become victimization. I know the chances are low. But only God knows the troubles I’ve seen. My physical therapist stuck his hand where he shouldn’t have. When I was in the service a nurse pretending to be the dr put his hand where he shouldn’t have. When I was ten the pediatrician did an exam he shouldn’t have. When I had poison ivy on my neck ( severe) my dr had me remove clothes I didn’t need to. We are witnesses to the awfulness of sin on this earth. I look forward to the finishing of our trials here and our rewards for learning compassion and truth. I guess dr John is telling us don’t let jerks rent space in our heads

[@thefifthhorseman8886]

How much heat did this guy get for his extremely sensible answer on cancel culture?

[@musicbrazilian7065]

The father in law of the first call has a very narcisisitoc vocabulary *you are wonderful, you are a great addition to this family* Grandiose immature folks are scary.

[@Crew4Life]

I don't think I would really care what my father in-law thinks of me! Ofcourse I would be respectful bse he's your husband's dad but he has to have mutual respect for you as his son's wife.

[@michaelwoods4495]

Give the man a chance. Tell him. You may find out that he simply didn't know what the effect was. I love my children and their spouses, but if I've ever conveyed a mistaken impression, I don't know about it. Tell me! I'll do what I can to correct it!

[@joshuaa262]

Spot on about "Cancel Couture"

[@jeremyzamorano4774]

Keep doing it John! This is a good show

[@kburgess8146]

Oh Sarah, the same thing happened to me, I balled my eyes out listening to you. Hope you're ok now ❤

[@LtGrandpoobah]

Facebook causes problems...get off it. It's causing jealousy in you, Gracie, when you would otherwise have no clue about what is said between a FIL and his DIL.

[@Scott-got-caught]

Fb and all social media are for clones of society who suffer from fomo. As ",busy" as everyone portrays to be, they all sure have time for unlimited time in social media and keeping up with the jones' yet no time to make meaningful connections and better their own lives.

[@margaret4163]

No one speaks enough about the trauma women endure when it comes to childbirth.

[@alwestcott8625]

I have a co-worker who went through the same thing. It scared me so bad and it didn’t even happen to me. I can’t imagine what she went through. The pain and the trauma was real and she has said she will not be having another baby. I don’t blame her but I’m so mad for her. How could those medical professionals let this have happened? There could have been more they could have done to protect these mamas. They should be able to minimize the pain for child birth not exacerbate it. Praying for all the gals who have gone through this trauma.

[@bdrm2009]

All women complain about it, I'm pretty sure we're all informed lol.

[@cashisqueen3825]

Agreed!!

[@YoYo_Ma]

It's Toronto, Ontario. Canadians don't say Dallas, America. Get to know your neighbours!

[@solvend]

People CAN grow, corporations on the other hand usually only hear things that change their bottom line.

[@theshinylunchbox]

John! It's been such a great thing for me to listen to your show! Such great advice!

[@gammayin3245]

Thanks so much - once again you are a wise resource for me and for us all. Appreciate you!

[@candyluna2929]

I think the first caller needs to put things in perspective: the relationship is severed. You dont need that attention either.

[@melanierhine593]

LOL Love your music references! 😜

[@lachilla1009]

And I didn’t think I could possibly love, respect, and admire you more Dr. John... and then you busted out Vanilla Ice. Respect.

[@brandyk]

Totally agree about cancel culture

[@mmp495]

I need to call your show and unload...😄😄😄

[@annabella2528]

You're not providing good advice to him about the nephews. If the county/ city has already begun a home study they're not going to pivot on a dime to give the kids to someone who's completely incapable of caring for them. He will actually have legal rights over this other person. And over the aunt because maybe she's too old to make the right decisions.

[@tessaprice]

Just some feedback: This video seems like it’s been sped up.

[@lithiumike]

Thank you sir

[@brandyk]

Yes agree with so much of Johns remarks regarding cancel culture but his example of everyone doing n saying stupid things as a kid or teen totally misses the point. Most of the people the mob turns on for past remarks/stances were clearly adults. It may have been 20-30 years ago n the culture was different in relation to what was socially acceptable at least if not full on endorsed. I think that is more the issue...the changing norms. You can't judge people yesterday in comparison to todays standards. That said clearly some things were clearly wrong at any time. But he conveniently misses the problem of what to do about people who are shown to have done and said things clearly not appropriate by todays standards only 5-10 years ago. More egregiously people who now pretend to be quite different than rhe person they were then n not necessarily or likely bc of some big growth on their part but bc they now see that they wouldn't get away with it si easily n might lose their livelihood or experience blowback or cancel culture. I don't claim to have the answers to this but I think it needs to be explored as it is rhe bigger problem n something with which reasonable people can disagree. Yes i am all for giving people opportunity to grow n change but most people don't. Again im not talking about kids or over 30 yrs but over 5-10. What generally changes are the consequences of the views they held, choices they made, words they spoke n acts they committed.

[@roseanneennis9257]

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[@purpleviolet207]

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[@brandyk]

Sorry but this guy is weak. He is not sure what the freat Aunt is going to do but be left thr mtg still unsure. There are ways to be respectful and still get an anwer. John's suggestion might be tio aggressive as they are not "their kids" I'm wonder why the Aunt woukd eben want to give the kids to a single woman with no job or driver's license. Woukd thr courts wven allow that?