NEVER Ask The Girl You Like These 5 Questions

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[@foxtrotunit1269]

Her: What's your bodycount? Me: It's three, but don't worry it was in self defense

[@mikeklein1779]

That's for the courts to decide.

[@isaiahCOACH-j1t]

like that version of triple h in 2003

[@jamesmartindale8993]

Thats for women dating a Navy Seal 😅

[@foxtrotunit1269]

@@jamesmartindale8993 Seals are some of the most dangerous animals on the planet. I hear a herd of them killed Bin Ladin.

[@JRH6271]

with a pencil? with a fucking pencil?

[@koolandblue]

0:31 What do you like about me so far? 3:25 Why are you still single? 5:39 Why didn't you reply to my message? 7:27 Are you high maintenance? 10:04 What do you bring to the table?

[@essa6315]

What DO they bring to the table?

[@neonnwave1]

@@essa6315 You both have to bring something, and usually you can tell what someone brings without having to ask. Just observe their behaviour and listen to them talk. Usually people give away their intentions on their own without you having to do detective work.

[@essa6315]

@ from a lot of the social media going around, many women seem to think just showing up is enough

[@DemonsCrest1]

Thanks. I'm surprised body count wasn't on the list. I think wahmens *know* that they are not good for men. that they mostly think of themselves and bring almost nothing to the table. In the past they married young, they gave men their most beautiful years, they gave them their youth, they gave them their purity, they gave them loyalty, they brought their cooking/cleaning skills to the table, they were agreeable, and they were feminine. all these questions would have been fine to ask wahmens 50 years ago. 50 years ago they appreciated men. 50 years ago they did not spend their 20s to mid 30s racking up bodies being single. 50 years ago they respected men. 50 years ago they were not high maintenance and actually worked for men making their life easier (i.e. handled all the household work and much of the child raising). 50 years ago they gave men their best years, their youth/beauty/purity. 50 years ago they were great wahmens. They would have had great answers to all these questions. The only reason you are not allowed to ask these questions today is because wahmens do not have good answers to them. Because today wahmens are a bad deal for men. And they do not feel good about themselves when you make them realize this. That is why you are not allowed to bring these questions up. I think Courtney Ryan should make a video why she thinks men should continue offering commitment to wahmens. when they do not respect men, when they do not appreciate men. why men should marry them in their 30s when they selfishly only think of themselves in their 20s. when they have very little of the qualities that make them good for relationships (i.e. all the choices they made before and the lifestyle they choose, e.g. getting an "education" makes them more argumentative, pursuing a career inflates their egos and makes them more masculine, sleeping around makes them less likely to be loyal, bringing nothing to the table makes them disrespectful and entitled. It's not that wahmens do not know what they should be giving men. it is that they do not care what men want. they think they can do whatever they want and then still deserve the "high quality man" at the end. The problem is that people like Courtney Ryan are making videos telling men what they should do to be better men, when she should instead be making videos telling wahman what they could do to be better wahmens. but as I said before, wahmens just do not care about men. so why should men care about wahmens?

[@jamesg1974a]

Those definitely are bad questions.

[@tommygunn6901]

Those saying they're "busy" or "my week is crazy" is a BS excuse. Run for the hills

[@matintalaeipashire2177]

run fast run far

[@iharper4188]

Yes

[@JohnM...]

What about ‘have to take my gran to hospital for an x-ray’? This was an excuse I got less than a week ago. She said she’d ‘try’ and make it up to me. My reply: Thanks, but I’m good.

[@1D4ever]

​@@JohnM...Smh what if she really has take her grandma for real. These things happen the issue is people flake so much everything sounds like one.

[@tommygunn6901]

@@1D4ever you have the flakes to thank for screwing it up

[@V0ltron]

1. What do you do for a living 2. How much do you make 3. What's your body count 4. Do you have children 5. How much do you weigh 6. How old are you 7. What do you like to do 8. Are you religious 9. Are you married 10. Are you hungry 11. What do you want to eat There are tons more... the questions Courtney says not to ask, we generally don't ask anyway. It's the simple questions women can't answer.

[@TheInterwebzMan]

12. How many black guys you been with?

[@eerosoots]

@@TheInterwebzMan 13. How are you? 14. Who are you? 15. Are you AI? 16. Why are you in my parking spot? 17. Will you marry me?

[@AnonymousAssassin7]

​@@TheInterwebzManBrother knows what's up...

[@BroBdoubleE]

​@@eerosoots 18. Did I do something to make you upset? 19. Do you need help?

[@perpetualprocrastinator]

20:Do you have innie or outie

[@hump1953]

I’m 72, single, never married…. I cringe when they ask me why I’ve never been married…

[@DDD11239]

You're here for a reason.

[@BruceJC75]

That’s my worst fear.

[@rickgsink225]

Women can be complicated sometimes, but you need to be assertive with them. Here are some simple things that actually made my conversations smoother: 1. I read all books on Mind-bloomery, and I started implementing everything into my daily routine. This makes a huge difference 2. I stopped overthinking the process, and I just enjoy being around women, that's the point anyways. You need to get rid of anxiety 3. The book 'Power of assertiveness: Unlock your potential' taught me how to communicate clearly without being needy or passive 4. I focused on being genuinely interesting instead of trying to impress. Honestly, attraction isn't about 'right' questions. It's about bringing the right energy in conversation :)

[@jimmymhoney44]

W comment right here, thanks for sharing

[@CatGamer-wc2ij]

Complicated? No. Most things are not complicated. We say that to diffuse responsibility. Contradictory, yes. And that is for some very insulting. Being assertive gets you the early relationship, however, later it will be viewed as abusive. Setting up a date when she loves you will be viewed as you being a strong man. Doing it after that phase will be you being toxically masculine. Which means you can't win. That is not complicated, that is silly.

[@rickgsink225]

@ I don't agree with that. Being assertive will never be seen as toxic. People will respect you more when you are assertive, not aggressive.

[@nickc3856]

spammer

[@CatGamer-wc2ij]

@ Lol okay. As someone assertive yet respectful, my situation is not rare. They hide stats on it, but false accusations against strong men shouldn't be downplayed by you. We aren't toxic, and we shouldn't be labeled as such.

[@Prince_ofwolves]

Face it fellas. We damn if we do, damn if we dont. We have been given so many rules and guidelines.

[@goyim14eight]

100 I thought in my mind if I didn't flirt heavy with her she wouldn't think I was as interested or that I only wanted some fun. Turns out and have the opposite affect so now she's doesn't know if she wants me in her life

[@Paulie---S]

You can't win. Set up to fail.

[@The90sun]

If you're a high smv guy, you don't have to follow any rules, just don't chase and you will dominate

[@DevidSword]

You gotta make the rules, my brother.

[@molassescricket6663]

Great topic Courtney, thank you!

[@kuirkiz]

4 of my dates in the last month I got asked how much money do I make, what’s my job, and if I am ambitious. These are women I approached at a bookstore, a bar, and 2 randomly in the street.

[@Criner05]

The money one definitely is a deal breaker. The ambitious one is a red flag.

[@LARULES100]

I had one ask me how much money I have saved up.😂

[@kuirkiz]

@ Ridiculous. Honestly dating scene has just been so bad for me lately with the egregious behavior that if I'm not feeling a girl or I see that she's really toxic I just pay for my meal only and just tell them then and there seems like we weren't a good fit and say good luck and walk away. The way I see it if its a waste of time I'll pay for my meal and you pay for your own. Its not like women approach and ask men on dates in the droves we gotta go to them. Done paying $100+ bucks on dinner dates and activities just for it to end up being a waste of time.

[@Kabzamatip]

Guys I get your constant frustrations with some of these questions, but personally I would get creative with answering the question "are you ambitious?" Because it is loaded

[@bdmenne]

@@KabzamatipI know, you could always have fun with that question, as she can with seemingly obtuse questions. It makes it fun for both. Something is taught for each, plus it gives the relationship a little more runaway to see if the fight could take off together, or more certainty it should return to the gate to, refuel, remove a nuisance, one of the other, lol.

[@angelacosta466]

When I started dating my girlfriend I was able to tell she was interested because she made an effort to free up her schedule to go on dates with me. She’s a busy woman but we work around our schedules for dates.

[@EmilyW-x9z]

I'm a woman and I would say this, you guys could ask a woman a question if she likes you or not, if she is about playing games then let her go because she is not the woman for you. I remember my husband told me that he like me and I said the same thing back and he asked me to be his wife which was awesome.

[@vijayiyer8518]

thanks a lot for your input

[@jonmcfluffy9699]

i found it helpful in that i reacted to most of these questions as "well i obviously wouldnt ask her that..." so maybe i am not as bad off as i thought i was.

[@raulgarza2517]

I agree, these are questions we shouldn't ask, but why does it seem okay for women to ask some of these very same questions?

[@Paulie---S]

Women do as they wish, but don't you dare. Life of double standards and hypocrisy

[@UserRobot215]

Because the rules don’t apply to them since there exists a double standard

[@Zordon3030]

PREACH

[@learningagain4094]

Perhaps a better question is what wouldn't men want women to ask about?

[@raulgarza2517]

@learningagain4094 that's fair. One off the top of my head is how much money a man makes. That's too personal right off the top.

[@nickc3856]

Don't worry Courtney, I avoid talking to women so I definitely won't ask them these questions 💪😎

[@CourtneyRyan]

🫠

[@MrSmithie25]

Same😅

[@UserRobot215]

Same

[@TigaWould]

@@CourtneyRyan I just don't ask questions! I simply gaze into her beautiful eyes and say "Hey, this coffee date has been great, lets say we take it to the next level... I saw a McDonalds on my way here, and between the 2 of us, we can get 5 things off the dollar menu" how she responds tells me everything I need to know about her!

[@TigaWould]

@@CourtneyRyan I'm joking! I checked out a long time ago! 😂

[@alwaysemployed656]

1. What’s 37 x 20? 2. Who is your favorite Amish hip hop singer and rapper? 3.Can I borrow $5? 4.What’s that black rubber stick under your pillow? 5.May I see your driver’s license and registration?

[@tcgtpl]

The only correct answer for #2 is Weird Al Yankovic. 😂

[@alwaysemployed656]

@@tcgtpl Al is Russian Jewish, not Amish.

[@thedoneeye]

6. You ever been in a Turkish prison? 7. You like movies about Gladiators? 8. You ever hang around a men's locker room?

[@nathanspiers9559]

@@tcgtpl😂😂😂

[@AbelQuintana-n4b]

😅😅😅😅😅. This had me laughing out loud. I'm still laughing as I type this reply.

[@AuthorCecilHarris]

A woman asked me on a first date, "Why are you still single?" Her tone was judgmental, as if there must be something wrong with me. But not her, of course, even though she's also single. Huge turnoff. There was no second date.

[@NapkinNexter]

I’ve had women ask me this. I do not want someone who will judge me for my relationship history.

[@jchborg90277]

6) Do you have any plans to lose weight?

[@steveg2277]

lol savage

[@pierremercier4724]

😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍!!!

[@coltonbrewer6632]

Yooooooooooooooooo bro dropping bombs out here

[@Doberman_6773]

Her: "I lost 5 pounds this week!" Me: "Keep looking; it's gotta be in there somewhere"

[@Aamir694]

😂😂😂

[@randallklatzel2884]

Absolutely excellent advice & clip imo Courtney! Thanks & all the best! 🙂👍

[@SuperMar10GalaxyBro]

Congratulations on 825 thousand subscribers!!! 🎉🎉 Also, this video is super helpful! I found out one or two of these the hard way, so these are really great things to keep in mind. Thank you for making this one, and for helping save us from a potential future faux pas. It’s truly appreciated! ❤

[@zionskate6962]

What do you bring to the table? "You can't ask me that, I can't avoid accountability when you ask me that." 😂

[@stu6097]

You dont need to ask if someone is high maintenance. You can figure that out quickly without needing to ask.

[@Paulie---S]

Only ask questions that will give them a reason to talk about themselves. They love that

[@shawnbrooks5293]

I've yet to meet a woman that didn't love talking about herself

[@Paulie---S]

@shawnbrooks5293 they never apologize for anything either. Never had one ever say, I'm sorry

[@Criner05]

@@shawnbrooks5293 The last woman I dated barely spoke at all (not to mention about herself). But she did say she loved me.

[@Texas3Percenter]

@@Criner05 Sounds like the perfect woman 👍

[@Criner05]

@ Trust me, it is boring to date someone who pretty much never talks. You're the only one talking in conversations.

[@mjsteward5508]

I'm not afraid to ask a woman simple questions if we're gonna be together, get married and start a family with in the future. We're adults, i like to be straight to the point since I'm in my mid-30s. I don't play those highschool games anymore. Thank you very much Courtney.

[@UserRobot215]

Seems a little late to be mid 30s and still be looking to get married and start a family

[@steveg2277]

@@UserRobot215Not in today’s fucked up society. That man has his head on straight. When you’re young, you’re dumb - and most pay dearly.

[@BryceShamwow]

@@UserRobot215 Not for men, it isn't.

[@UserRobot215]

@@BryceShamwow It definitely is for men as well

[@DiscretionwithReason]

​@@UserRobot215 Biologically, no. You're coping

[@zorphix-o8f]

How I went from awkward to confident around women: Started talking to new people every day (at first, it was terrifying, but it got easier). Read a book called Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish (it had advice that was super practical). Hit the gym regularly and worked on my posture (confidence in how I carry myself improved a lot). Focused on making better connections with friends and family. Put more time into my hobbies and improving myself.

[@thomaskositzki9424]

Did it get you any dates?

[@jaywaalreer233]

its probably one of the best books ive read for dating and cold approaching.

[@alannorthcarolina1776]

Just start taking to beautiful women who are more natural that overly done up. If they think plastic surgery, excessive nails, and fake eyelashes make them beautiful, they’re not comfortable with their raw self. And, are you, the guy comfortable with your raw self, your thoughts, actions and emotions. If not, see a therapist now. It’s not demasculine, it’s human.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

🤔 *My wife was incredibly mad when she found out I have been visiting prostitutes for sex* I said “Well you can hardly blame me, it’s not like I was getting any from you!” She yelled, “But I didn’t know you were willing to pay for it!”

[@shawnm2405]

You ARE paying... The bills and she lives there

[@lokidarkbeard2647]

She was offended because you weren't paying her. 🤣🤣🤣

[@jethrobradley7850]

You should have asked her if she was high maintenance and what she brought to the table

[@mjsteward5508]

I just learned that every man and woman is different. Not all of them have this monolith way of thinking.

[@DDD11239]

Doing it with h00k3rs is low. They don't actually enjoy it.

[@CC3GROUNDZERO]

I'm currently looking to change jobs, and these are exactly the questions I'm asking in interviews. I actually asked one manager point blank whether he's toxic and has skeletons in the closet. His gaze answered my question and I just left without saying bye.

[@Ciriousglitch]

I don't ask "Are you high maintenance". I just ask "Are you high?".

[@cs8712]

Or, if the girl's name happens to be 'Maintenance' "Are you high, Maintenance?"

[@Valarmorgolis]

The secret of financial success and internal happiness is to stay single.

[@David-tn3tw]

i would love to but i dont make enough money to afford a prostitute and jacking off gets old real quick

[@TigaWould]

I just don't ask questions! I simply gaze into her beautiful eyes and say "Hey, this coffee date has been great, lets say we take it to the next level... I saw a McDonalds on my way here, and between the 2 of us, we can get 5 things off the dollar menu" how she responds tells me everything I need to know about her!

[@Lunatic89097]

If she doesn't get a laugh out of this, she isn't the one.

[@TigaWould]

@@Lunatic89097 exactly! you understood what I'm saying!

[@nikhilgoyal007]

Thank you! i think you saved my new found chances from going kaput. also all reasoning makes sense to me, beautiful! thanks again!!!

[@youbetcha6880]

I've had women ask me--even before the date--"How many girlfriends have you had?" "How many women have you lived with?"

[@Criner05]

Radioactive women.

[@NapkinNexter]

I’ve had women ask me that question. I do not like it because I do not want someone who will judge me for my past relationships.

[@CidVicious100]

Courtney, I appreciate this, and I gotta say, these questions can go both ways, especially the "Why are you still single" question. It's kinda funny because I know that I have been asked this before but I can't remember when or who it was but what I remember most was the internal reaction I had to it which was pretty much spot on with what you described. Another related question is "How long have you been single" or "when was your last relationship". These just aren't things that we need to pry out of people.

[@SonOfLiberty1773]

Well gents, she will definitely show who she is in how she presents herself and shows dignity, class, and respect towards you and herself. Don't worry too much on the questions you will ask. You will find by paying attention to the details, she will tell you if she is high maintenance or puts in low effort in a relationship. Remember, she is not entitled to your inner thoughts about her, but she entitled to know if she is still being considered as a romantic option. When in doubt, use the Golden Rule.

[@nawsh2252]

Watching this video thinking about how many times women have asked ME these questions and I just allowed it. Wish I had the wisdom to avoid insecure women 10 years ago. But at that time in my life, my own self esteem was low so I thought that was the best I could get.

[@CookieMonster-hm8hx]

Although it is not the time, I agree with you. When it is time, it is important to get to know her for who she is.

[@gerhardolivier6285]

So much stuff to remember, do, not do, say, not say etc. Dating becomes worse than a bloody job.

[@pace1195]

That costs you money instead of making you money. At least volunteers are back at zero at the end of the day, and usually they get praised for helping.

[@mormegil84]

It's honestly so absurd. And the info out there nowadays is so contradictory and misleading. No wonder men are so lost and confused. Things were so much easier before the advent of social media.

[@Ciriousglitch]

Wonder if Ted Bundy thought it was a bloody job. 😂

[@AlexanderG.J.]

7:29 - Over the phone, I asked an obviously high maintenance woman: "Are you a high maintenance?" - she answered: "I'm medium maintenance" 🙂🙂 ... I stopped communication after that.

[@TrentKozelek]

Well, it's a dumb question either way. Why ask that? Even if she was the most easy-going woman in the world, she would have been deeply put off by that question still.

[@johnanderson1245]

“Are you high maintenance”? Why would anyone even ask that (unless they were talking to a car)?

[@gk_zone4274]

That "why are you single?" question goes both ways. Feels like you're trying to find something negative about me.

[@jeffandrews8040]

Feminized men just look at her husband

[@mikehawkins4752]

Yeah but you really do want to know. Haha

[@mikeloki2064]

🤣🤣🤣 Are you high maintenance? Love that one. I'm going to use that to sabotage my next dreary date. Thanks Courtney!

[@WileeRunner42]

@4:00, I've been asked that question "Why are you still single?" The first times I answered with, "I don't need to date." Which spread along ladies that I wasn't dating. Recently I just smile/ shrug it off since the answer would be way too complex for casual conversation or would seem to be unbelievable.

[@danielstocks3271]

It's very optimistic to assume that women even want to talk to me 😂

[@oooalonsonacho6935]

Good luck out there 🤧

[@JMLoll]

LMAO!! Ain't that the truth!

[@thomaskositzki9424]

Same. 😟

[@Vic2point0]

"I've heard it's rude to ask how much you weigh, so I won't... ...Can you please list for me all the weights that you are *not?"*

[@jfkst1]

How much do you weigh?

[@Criner05]

Is that on Earth or on Jupiter?

[@TheInterwebzMan]

“What that mouth do?”

[@TrentKozelek]

Speak in eldritch tongues, to recall the wrath of my ancestors, awaken their ancient Gods.

[@dylanroberts93]

😂😂😂💀

[@GODIAM-sy9qb]

At a certain point though, you would like to know the reason for her being single. It can save your mental health.

[@1D4ever]

That's a good question it's not a bad one. women don't like it because it makes her feel less confident but it won't hurt you to confidently ask this..

[@Liz-c7d]

I'd tell him I just got out of a 15-year prison sentence for killing my ex-boyfriend/husband. (It was in self-defense but the jury didn't believe me.) This is just my first date.

[@Shawn-oh5yq]

You're never going to know the real answer. "We weren't a good match, just weren't compatible, blah blah blah".

[@1D4ever]

@@Shawn-oh5yq It will tell you a ton, it's not about the answer to that question directly I usually don't even want it, but it subconsciously asks her to prove her value to you with directly asking for it. It's a good question for men to women if done in a playful way.

[@GODIAM-sy9qb]

@ good. allows to make a decission.

[@Mandred2008]

11:26 This is a pretty good question actually. Asking her "What have you got going for yourself bdesides your looks?" is also good.

[@Xaremathraas]

Yes, keeping spitting lines from the Douche Bible I.e. suggesting ur only considering her for what she can provide for you

[@dantimber]

First dates should be about having fun and seeing if there is a mutual attraction. Period. Either party can politely shut down a date if there's no compatibility. No big deal; move on. Who knows one or the other might have a friend that would be more compatible?

[@ted-nelek-ne8tf]

Realistic episode .. Yep, some people are so blunt asking this kinda questions Especially, the second question about being single. But, Courtney's justifications and reasons behind singleness were spot on I am expecting to be asked this type of question one day by my date

[@SolidRain]

This is so funny! These are the same questions women ask men. Maybe no up front, but eventually the woman will ask these questions later on.

[@terrydrums]

Worst thing for a man to ask a woman? “Is it ok with you that I exist?” (Hint: it’s not)

[@UserRobot215]

Even when you try your best as a guy to stay away from women, it still bothers them that I exist

[@JaxonSmart.99]

Really appreciate how honest you are about how woman are in an every day situation, the main frame of mind is not hidden when you draw out a cause and effect encounter. Super attractive how aware you are and how polished you're content is thankyou for the passion you have for the betterment of men for navigating women, but might there be a conscious educator(inyou) for woman to bring the best out of a man?? To turn the role of pursuer in a womanly fashion and pull a mans strengths to serve a house hold or legacy.if woman invest with effort they are more likely to double down on what they know, can you teach them to have a directive as you have??

[@Ezilla82]

Thank God I never...ever asked these questions to any woman. I would probably get the cold shoulder for sure.

[@gstuart0770]

Courtney, I trust you and thank you for sharing your point of view.

[@mistep444]

Nice topic & good piece of advice. Thx a lot!

[@75egcg]

“Why do you scream every time I’m I kick down the door with a running chainsaw and hockey mask?”

[@Fred800]

Courtney. This is just to say I enjoy your videos. They are very interesting and relevant to so many. You give excellent advice. Thank you for all your good work.

[@michaeljdoe3726]

Courtney, I just want to take this time to thank you for your highly educational video clip for both males and females 🙏

[@RandomZeroGravity]

11:37 Focus on learning what her/his: - Moral - Core Values - Life Goal 11:53 Eg. - What are you passionate about? - What's your favourite thing to do in your free time? - What's something that you've always wanted to try or accomplish?

[@bastidface]

I think the biggest problem is that a lot of men, including myself simply don't exude a lot of confidence, which women can detect a mile away. And who could blame us for being insecure? Our culture has beaten men down for decades to the point where it would be nearly impossible for men to feel anything other than insecurity. It's a mess.

[@HEMoore-vp5uj]

Those 5 questions are taken from the 200,000 questions you have to discern from her actions during a short three dates, and the 300,000 questions she will be asking from the same three dates(and maybe the background check on your email, social media, etc ...). Media and social norms today decide your choices, And, "...there's the rub...". We are under the microscope as soon as another victim is chosen. Hundreds of choices later, you may settle for the best possible one, but it still never stops after that. (Witness: the divorce rate in our country for infidelity). I salute your attempt to offer us help. Never change, Courtney.

[@koutcheroukheinrich9935]

Next time I go on a date I will ask her the following question: "BTW, why are you still not married? Is it b/c you are high maintenance, or is it b/c you bring nothing to the table?" And this is how I'm gonna make my personality truly shine...

[@TheMourningProject]

My favorite pickup line is "so, where do you see this going?" I was unaware it was forbidden.

[@Luis-Dev]

Why do these questions seem designed to justify lying or wasting time?

[@danieltanner5804]

I asked a girl I really liked “what made you swipe right on me” and some other needy crap like that. Needless to say she lost interest. That one hurt. Lesson learned.

[@tims708]

I had a woman that was absolutely interested in me ask, " what do you bring to the table? " She was done at that moment for me. I brought FAR more to the table than she suspected.

[@nikol7951]

Excellent points, thank you Courtney.

[@KSee618]

Well Spoken and Great Advice 👍 👌 You need to know that the 10 guys standing behind me at work learned something today! Good Job 10 fold 👏

[@16marner]

Guys, if you have the desire to ask any of these questions, all the answers will eventually be revealed voluntarily by er in conversation. So become a good conversationalist. Discretion is your friend.

[@Vic2point0]

At first, I was worried when I saw the title. So many important questions (questions about values and family, etc.) aren't asked on the first or second date and *should* be! But these are really good examples of questions I'd agree you should never ask during this phase of the relationship. Also, as an advocate for traditional courting and marriage, "Are you high maintenance?" kind of sounds like you're saying you won't be a good provider or protector. And "What do you bring to the table?" sounds judgmental while also being too vague. It'd be better to ask something like, "Do you see yourself having a career over the next decade or two, or would you rather stay at home?" One thing we *may* disagree on, is that I believe in courting with the goal of marriage and probably children in the future in mind. You do want to get to know the person, but it's better to get a sense of whether or not your values line up on that first date. That's because if you "fall in love" with someone you're not really compatible with, then "love is blind" as they say and you'll ignore or dismiss any red flags after you've fallen for them. Next thing you know you're flying into making decisions you shouldn't make with that person.

[@MaverickFischer]

I love Courtney's surprised facial expressions!

[@adamprince1285]

I've never asked " why are you still single?". But I have been asked that many times. My advice fellas is to not accept backhanded compliments. She's trying to disqualify you anyway she can. I suggest ending the date if she asks this question.

[@neonnwave1]

It really depends on how she says it and the context. If she does say it in a condescending tone, then yes - 100% end the date. If she says it in a shocked or curious manner, because you seem like a great guy (or have been single your whole life), then it shouldn't be a big deal and you can answer honestly. But even so, observe how she behaves after you answer. Not everything is a shit test.

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

"Why didn't you respond to my message?" So if you're on a date with her let it go. Who cares why she didn't respond to you. If you're not on a date with her then drop it. She's not interested so move on.

[@JG-to6zs]

Great advice. Apply all of this advice to women, too, so we don’t venture headlong into to double standard land. Thanks!

[@chrismoore9997]

There is no reason to waste time getting to know someone if they are not worth knowing. Asking the important questions up front saves time AND money. I am not paying for dates to get to know someone only to find out she is a horrible human. If she is not willing to answer the questions, she is not worth a relationship.

[@doom9603]

just don't pay, let her pay. lol

[@henrystreet6152]

7:17 I used to be so bad with the no reply stuff until I became this kind of person. Don’t dwell on unanswered messages. Take it for what it really is and move on. She’s definitely not into you if she’s inconsistent with you

[@angrybatarian]

Always breaks my heart a little reading the salty comments from people with no intention of heeding Courtney's advise

[@JG-to6zs]

I think Mrs. Ryan is providing a much-needed service to both men and women and find her videos about as even-handed as they come in contemporary American culture.

[@TheInterwebzMan]

“Does it sq1rt or cre@m?“

[@mormegil84]

Asking the important questions.

[@saifmradsaifmrad]

I like the work you put in keep spreading positivity and responsibilty

[@Tonberry88]

If she doesn't respond in a timely manner, she is not into you. Time to move on.

[@kawazukaeru643]

Ask questions that can get factual, verifiable answers. “What do you like to do in your free time?” “Where was your last vacation?” Etc. Asking someone to tell you what they bring to the table is asking for them to mislead you.

[@nickmajora]

Great tips.

[@MrSmithie25]

But it is totally ok to ask for my income, my plans in the next 5 years, to pay her share, what car i have, where i live.

[@lokidarkbeard2647]

No, if she asks those, it's immediate red flags. Except maybe what you do for a living.

[@MrSmithie25]

@lokidarkbeard2647 all is a red flag. Maybe make a video about things not to ask men.

[@1D4ever]

I have honestly never been asked my income by a woman they ask surrounding questions

[@MrSmithie25]

@@1D4ever when they clever, they ask around and figure out later, but intention is the same.

[@1D4ever]

@@MrSmithie25 exactly 💯

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

"What do you like about me so far?" That's a weird question and I don't think women should ask a fella this either. That's just a bad question.

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

"Why did you agree to go out with me?" Sounds like a question you would ask rhetorically if the date went badly.

[@lokidarkbeard2647]

Asking, "Are you high maintenance?" Is like asking,"Are you a walking red flag?" Just don't do it. 🤣

[@jethrobradley7850]

Now I feel bad for bringing an actual red flag on dates to signal any disapproval

[@doom9603]

@@jethrobradley7850 brahahaha

[@ginaidoma5925]

Isn't dating an interview process to determine if a potential partner is compatible?

[@DDD11239]

Apparently not

[@pace1195]

@DDD11239 Dating is an interview process to determine how ignorant you are when she wants to spend your resources and waste your time.

[@alannorthcarolina1776]

Many guys feel the epitome of enlightenment is sex. It isn’t. It’s long term connectedness, which sex is a small part of. When you have that mindset 1-3 dates isn’t the goal but just a warm up.

[@travism2013]

So I went to community tab but saw 1 year old stuff. I was wondering if you could do a video on office dynamics for signs "for" and signs "not for" from both sides assuming straight man and woman. I don't think I've seen much as of late in this particular topic....and as I get very close to 30 next year...the differences on age gap being 5yr I feel would be helpful and I"m telling myself I'm not the only guy in this camp...but idk. (shrug)

[@tomdrummy4984]

First 3 questions are what a girl would ask a guy. Another one is……what are you thinking? One more……why have you never been married? (Usually asked by a woman that has been married and divorced 3 times) 😃

[@carytigani9859]

“Who did you vote for in this past election? “

[@lukecaruana8871]

My last relationship ended over the 5th date, I was getting more comfortable and then she was like 'here are the tough questions to ask'.... What Courtney said at 4 20 ish mark.... Let the other be comfortable first.

[@davidhollfelder9940]

Knowing it’s over before it even begins is actually a positive. Bail. The takeaway saves face.

[@byrdmaniacsg2776]

Gentlemen, ask if she is a feminist. That will save you a whole lot a time and pain.

[@rainerneumeister5239]

If she's not physically attracted to you , it doesn't matter what you say . 70 percent is looks.

[@cainednd]

She quoted Benny Hill. Subbed! =) Fun story: I went on a speed dating session some years ago, and this time around, it was the ladies that would switch seats. And therefore, to my left was a man in a suit quite literally interviewing all the women that sat before him with some odd, over the top questions. Now, I'm not that good at dating, but I started seeing an opportunity when the interviewed lady switched to the next seat to sit in front of me. And to break the ice, I told each one straight up "Don't worry, I didn't bring an interview with me =)". To which each one laughed and the conversation started. I managed to get two dates from that night of speed dating. Sadly, neither went far, but still we had a good time nonetheless. =) No regrets.

[@Panflutemaverick]

You can find out the answer to these questions without having to ask them. Use different questions to find out about her, and she may reveal the answer to you. For example, asking her "What kind of things do you do on your down time?" can reveal why she maybe single and/or if she is high maintenance or not.

[@elliottmorris6226]

Fellas, I know that you are well-meaning when asking these questions, but allow me to translate these to "Womanese" for you: 1. What do you like about me so far? What Women hear: Flatter me because I need validation..... 2. Why are you still single? What Women hear: What's wrong with you? 3. Why didn't you reply to my message? What Women hear: I'm needy, insecure, and I'm pissed off at you because I believe you're ignoring me.... 4. Are you high maintenance? What Women hear: I think that you are a bitch/difficult person, and I'm asking for confirmation.... 5. What do you bring to the table? What Women hear: I don't see very much value in you, but I'm giving you a chance to explain yourself.....

[@twmax6525]

I wouldn’t ask “Are you high maintenance?” But I would ask “Are you materialistic?”

[@farmcat3198]

1. Do you have any tattoos? 2. Do you have any 'unique' piercings? 3. Do you smoke, vape, or do drugs? 4. What's your credit score? 5. How many men are you fielding right now? 6. Do you know how to clean? 7. How many times a week do you go out?

[@steveg2277]

This can’t actually work for you with hot chicks lmao. I know it doesn’t. Are you a hot dude???

[@farmcat3198]

@@steveg2277 No.

[@BryceShamwow]

@@steveg2277 You know, people joke with these lists.

[@DGolfer60]

I can see where those would cast a negative shadow though there are less obvious and I’m glad I didn’t hear “how much does your Mom weight I want to know what I’m getting into?” 😂

[@stargazer2042]

This is good advice for women too.