NEVER Date Finnish People (9 Reasons)

Dating in Finland can be exciting, but some reasons make dating Finnish people challenging.
Please note that these do not apply to all Finns. It's possible to meet a very outgoing, social, and expressive Finn.
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[@AleksiHimself]

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[@harrycslau]

The "cheating rate" is high simply because the Finns are so honest to admit that 😂

[@AleksiHimself]

Good point! 😂😂

[@mrfarts5176]

No it is because they have a vary low sense of morality. Guys avoid finish women. They are only good if you want to be in a vampiric and parasitic relationship. These women are so self centered it is shocking. Try Mexican women. They have virtually none of the negative traits of finish women.

[@puertoricanpapi1356]

No it’s high because the couple does not explain that their relationship should be loyal.

[@mrfarts5176]

@@puertoricanpapi1356 You are correct. Their society is extremely selfish and self focused above all else.

[@puertoricanpapi1356]

@@mrfarts5176 yes, but if you explain to the women that the relationship must be exclusive. Either she will go with it or she won’t and that saves you time.

[@kittyfox3200]

My Finnish hubby was very straight forward and stated he wanted to date me with the intention of marrying me. Freaked me out. But truly that’s how it should be.

[@AleksiHimself]

Very non-Finnish indeed!

[@kittyfox3200]

@@AleksiHimself But I am the second marriage and he knew he was dealing with a Texas woman 🤣

[@mrfarts5176]

Guys avoid finish women. They are only good if you want to be in a vampiric and parasitic relationship. These women are so self centered it is shocking. Try Mexican women. They have virtually none of the negative traits of finish women.

[@zztop8592]

Hopefully he sticks with you only! lol

[@surfsusan]

I knew this Finnish man was interested ,when he invited me on a 12-day hike in Lapland. I knew I had "passed the test" when after he asked me if I wanted to move in his place. Finnish men are different indeed!

[@AleksiHimself]

Good stuff!

[@AleksiHimself]

Please note that these do not apply to all Finns. It's possible to meet a very outgoing, social, and expressive Finn.

[@zarwine7080]

Thanks 😊

[@mikeh2772]

Yup.

[@liliiademianova8707]

that is encouraging to know that not all Finns have a bit frozen feelings and some of them are pretty emotionally responsive.😅👍 I wish everyone to stay alive and breathe in full, life is awesome 🌺🤸🏔️🌊🔥🏞️☀️

[@missyo1283]

I agree, and very romantic and emotionally expressive ❤️

[@FeatherPhoenix]

I'm from Finland and back there I never got asked out, usually it was me asking guys out after weeks of overthinking and sweating. here in London it's so different and I've gotten asked out many times (not by finns, haha!)

[@AleksiHimself]

For me it's been the same. :D Ladies have never made a direct first move. :D I've had to work my way out there.

[@eduardkalmanawardze]

@@AleksiHimself In my short dating history, as a Polish teen, I've been only asked out by a girl just maybe once or twice. Though it's common to get asked out by your male friends.

[@abeidmrengaofficial1792]

Hi lady!

[@lajellybeans]

As a Brazilian woman, I find it so odd how Finn's are so sexually liberated, but so repressed with their emotions. I just don't get it. Is expressing your emotions considered a weakness and shameful?

[@XGD5layer]

The "harsh north" is likely the root of it all

[@pohjantuulet247]

Yes. And also what the other comment above said.

[@jacuesduplessis319]

As you are Brazilian you should look for Brazilian, Portuguese in farther case Spanish... Finns are only for Finns... preserve the beautiful culture of Scandinavia

[@arcabuz]

@@jacuesduplessis319 what the fok you just wrote?, did you suffer a brain stroke?, are you drunk?, dyslexia?

[@siren369xstar8]

Robert ongondo Finns are nordic but they are not Scandinavians! Greetings from Norway

[@Aidan_Au]

Just signed up your dating course and emailed you. Thanks Aleksi!

[@AleksiHimself]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@sallyedwards3872]

Tbh this has got me paranoid asf. Cheating on someone just because they feel like it is NOT a valid accuse. It makes it already more disgusting and unacceptable than it already is. What's so wrong with COMMUNICATION with your partner? Just be honest FFS. If your not happy or something isn't working for you, PLEASE JUST SAY!!!! God dammit.

[@sanher20]

Lack of communication is one of the main weaknesses of Finns, if you have a Finnish girlfriend you'll have to teach her how to communicate because if you don't the relationship will be over when you least expect it

[@skandargraun9947]

Communication is only effective when both parties are ready to LISTEN. Otherwise it's just going to become an endless session of speaking with no conclusion whatsoever, and then both can accuse each other of not understanding their points. There are so many people like that, not in Finland but in general, who preach about communication all the time, really loud, pretending to be extremely honest and open minded, and then when you happen to say something they don't like, then they suddenly lower their voices, whispering you that you're definetely on the wrong because of this or that, or they are just silently sneaking away from you and avoiding you. My point is that communication is important indeed, but it also requires a certain level of intelligence, listening skills and understanding. Otherwise even communication is not gonna work.

[@IrfanArio95]

Same here, kinda make me paranoid if I have a Finnish gf and she's cheating just because she like it 😵

[@maysammansoury2005]

Dated a Finn once in a bar. living happily with two kids together, thank you very much.

[@AleksiHimself]

Good stuff! 😃🙌

[@andrem5135]

The title with THAT image makes it hilarious! 🤣 🇫🇮 love to Suomi from a Commonwealth realm 💙

[@JUMALATION1]

I only tell my husband that I love him in English during casual encounters, because it's so "loaded" to say "jag älskar dig" or "rakastan sinua". (We both speak a lot of English so we both partially communicate in English between us.) For me it feels like a situation where you have to say goodbye and wish your partner well rather than a common phrase. That's just me though.

[@adorerlavievivrelongue2195]

Hei Aleksi , nice video you made, my current situation is that I met a Finns guy through Apps when I am on my holidays last summer, the moment I reached my Airbnb soon or later I got his messages and we met the first time when I arrived Finland on my first day We keep in touch , met second time and I left to my country , and we still keep in touch He is not a good respond when come to reply messages, mean he reads or may not read on the message and late reply... But we eventually set a two weeks holidays to try out on this dating as we are distance away I met him the third time which has the great intimacy , connection (same as the previous two times) , he isn't a good planner but he told me he will learn on that cause we plan to catch Aurora but end up we were staying at home , just like living normal daily routine, meet his friends for drinks , grocery , shopping (which he bought some stuff for me, and I did pay some other stuff when we spend together like drinking or dining ) ... What I didn't expect is that on our last day together , the moment I hug him because of our separation , he cried in tears , again and again when he see me ... I always remember the final separation in the airport , we hug so tightly , tears on eyes , a goodbye kiss and he walked away , I left to security check and we looked each other from far away ... ... This few days he texted me his home feels so empty without me and he got so used to it when we are on the bed together but now left him alone ... my heart sink... He didn't like to rush or talk about future plan when to meet again so I didn't ask him more but I want to see him as soon as possible ... ... Is there a possible to be together again ? Is this a situationship ? (btw, we both male)

[@mik91_N8]

Moi!!! I don't know how to say it, but I'm a person who prefers to be alone. I' m much colder than any Finn I met in Kuopio, and I would even appear depressed in front of many. Way too introverted, and with an exaggerated Gajin-like inferiority complex. I don't consider myself an attractive guy, being very thin physically. That's why I decided to dye my hair BLONDE, maybe that way I'll be more at peace with the way I look. This is my first time getting dyed and I really want to see how I look. Even though I have a bad self-image, one day when I was in front of a restaurant in Kuopio, a Finnish girl passed by and greeted me. I was a little surprised. At the moment, I am looking to return to Finland, a place where I truly felt at HOME, like I never felt in my home country. I am trying to learn Finnish as well as possible. I recently sang a piece in Finnish, signed by J. Karjalainen (Jukka Tapio - Bruce Springsteen of Finland), entitled "Ankkurinappi", released in 1982, on his second album "When The Night Comes in Helsinki" (Yö kun saapuu Helsinkiin ). I heard the song on my plane trip to Finland. It only took me an hour to learn his lines. You can get it what, if you really want. Mukava päivä!

[@SilentEcho9194]

"Love ya" gets thrown around too loosely in the US. Kind of the polar opposite of Finland.

[@AleksiHimself]

Indeed!

[@balticwater]

In Finland that sentence is reserved for the wedding. I've never used it, I'm 31 and in a 4yr relationship.

[@dpharaoh5297]

Thank you so much for this. I was wondering why my finnish friend was always quite 24/7

[@AleksiHimself]

Thanks!

[@jenn2524]

Hi aleksi . Thanks for the video, I'm coming this September. Can you advise me which city is better in terms of living and everything and you know as an outsider . thank you 🐦

[@AleksiHimself]

The capital area is very international with more job opportunities. Other cities like Tampere, Oulu, Turku are also good but not as big as Helsinki.

[@MrSnowCoasters]

@@AleksiHimself is Rovaniemi a good city to Settle in?

[@dianacastaneda7928]

"I met a Mexican lady that's was dating this Finnish guy" my first thought was, "is he talking about me?" 😂 I'm another Mexican lady dating a Finn, but he did ask me to be his girlfriend which I surprised since everyone says Finnish guys normally don't do that. Also he paid for my meals in our dates when we met and still does it pretty often. He is a quite unique Finn ☺️

[@AleksiHimself]

That's good stuff! You definitely met a unique guy!

[@rebecajiron4074]

Dónde lo conociste? Necesito encontrar uno así. 😅😅

[@dianacastaneda7928]

@@rebecajiron4074 por tinder 😂 él es de Laponia

[@mesfinshimalasalaalee8453]

You know what, you are one of the best youtuber ever i have seen who tells a true 100%

[@AleksiHimself]

I appreciate it!

[@Healthyfood_corner]

Moving to Finland very soon, will definitely be coming with ice breaking axe😂

[@DCFunBud]

I heard that a Finnish man tells his wife “I love you” only twice. Once on their wedding day and once on his/her death bed.

[@AleksiHimself]

Third time is when she's delivering his babies.

[@sinyong3055]

What 🤣🤣🤣

[@ilkkak3065]

And when woman wants to hear it again husband will say "I already told you it Once, it hasn't changed since. I will tell you If it changes."

[@wesleyfilms]

That almost makes it more special imo.

[@jessyk.3378]

@@ilkkak3065 this world that ' i already told you that', is the reason why i stop talking to my finnish ex boyfriend😅 very cold person like the Finland weather🤣

[@Church_of_Sagan]

I'm am extremely extroverted New Yorker that just came back from a visit to Finland. I spent time with a friend that was so obviously head over heels for this one dude, it felt like I was being crushed between two super magnets! I spoke to her about just going for it, I still do, she just gets all anxious and annoyed. I don't know this guy very well but I wish I could just tell him to go for it lol. Not going to do it obviously as that would be such a violation. I just seriously want them to stop being so Finnish about it 😂😂😂.

[@dessappy]

Love your videos. I’m dating a Finnish guy now too.

[@AleksiHimself]

That's awesome!

[@openbob6656]

bro i think that the chart at 6:45 is not correct. only 1% of finnish couples divorce? i thought it was the opposite and that finnish people divorce more than people of foreign background because somewhere i saw that divorce rate in finland is over 50%. and i know that in other countries from where people come to finland divorce rates are much lower.

[@cartsoel9652]

The more I learn about Finland the more I want to live there.

[@AleksiHimself]

WTF: Welcome to Finland!

[@Jacob-du9tf]

Hmmm ok, but what would you say is the difference between a Finnish Extrovert and a Finnish Introvert, if both sides of Finns spectrum have a deep mental state of introversion? How is a Finn-ex different from a Finn-Int in that case? Not saying you would have an answer to that, but any suggestions?

[@sanher20]

It's very easy to spot them because they know how to talk, how to make a conversation, they're aware of the weaknesses and the shyness of Finns and they usually like to spend time in other countries

[@kisalli]

a Finnish extrovert will be very much an extrovert by any standards, almost like they needed to compensate for their compatriots' introversion

[@klas-6]

So basically we shouldn't date Finnish people because: - They do not engage in unnecessary talking which makes conversations more meaningful - Flirting isn't as important so that means romance and/or sexual tension matters more - There's gender equality - They're really good in bed - They let actions speak louder than words

[@AleksiHimself]

I like your positive approach to the topic!

[@klas-6]

@@AleksiHimself Thanks! ^^

[@maryrhudy9250]

So ... if a woman sees a male Finn who seems to be a reasonably evolved human and with whom she would like to have a relationship, the first thing she needs to do is invest in a really good ice axe?

[@AleksiHimself]

if they don't talk to you first, you should do it. :)

[@freezedeve3119]

you can use also alcohol as antifreeze

[@keltaruusutravels4024]

Be sure to lock the axe up or he will swing it around the house when he is drunk.

[@statostheman]

One my uncle (rip) he was married 13th times. He was even banned an local bar due he took the women whom work there, get over to Sweden and then he dump them. Karelians are very charming, specially if you've a reputation in sports. My uncle was really good at rally championship. I've autism so I had a administrator whom handle my autism. When I said his name, she knew whom he was. Older but good looking blonde. My uncle eyes lit and asked if she was single. I said to him: En sakelli sentää! 😂

[@AleksiHimself]

😂😂

[@Raylynne-ht1zt]

I met a Finnish guy about a year ago. I really liked him too but it kinda scared me when he said “I love you” the first time we met and he was asking me to go to Finland with him. From my perspective when he said that he loved me I instantly thought that he was ‘love bombing’ me because here in North America “I love you” is thrown around way to much so I didn’t take his words seriously and I didn’t know how to react. I honestly don’t know how to respond to something like that because I never dated anyone before so… how do I know that he’s actually being serious. Also we haven’t talked since September and it’s now April. Should I just let go and move on? I need advice.

[@nemosangel]

So, when would you say that you love someone in Finnish? Is it something couples say often or every once in a while? I feel like i need to hear my "i love you" pretty often as a non Finn :p

[@AleksiHimself]

My GF and I say I love you around once per month. We'll let each other know if we change our minds.

[@simongloutnez589]

I have been convinced by a few stories of the value of not investing a lot in first dates. Being able to bail out anytime is definitely valuable for first dates ! Eveb tho Ive never needed to, I would recommend to abide by this.

[@AleksiHimself]

You can invest but reasonably. :)

[@sanher20]

That makes no sense, you can "bail out" whenever you want even if you have invested already

[@simongloutnez589]

@@sanher20 true, its just harder or longer at some point

[@sydneydaramy5453]

I love that thanks 😊

[@AleksiHimself]

Good stuff! 😃🙌

[@nataliem3748]

🤣🤣🤣 Finnish humour gets me every time!👍

[@AleksiHimself]

Good stuff!🤣

[@imtiazmahmood2234]

Hi! Is it alright for an international masters student to ask out his first finnish language teacher!( maybe after the semester!)

[@AleksiHimself]

I don't know. Sounds like a risky move. If it doesn't work out, it could get awkward.

[@mylifeisinhishandsamen4167]

Why would you to that? Hitting on your teacher is a line to NEVER cross....

[@kisalli]

if you really want to do it, do it after the teacher-student relation has permanently finished between you two

[@Natie182]

To be honest, this video got me really unmotivated 😂 looks like I'm gonna spend my two years in Finland all by myself 😂😂

[@AleksiHimself]

If you are proactive, you will find people to hang out and spend time with.

[@Natie182]

@@AleksiHimself well, that's the problem 😅

[@happysolitudetv]

Use the internet more! 😉

[@elderscrollsswimmer4833]

Dancing. There are places that hold them with live orchestra and all - - they're just made for meeting people. Or were. Not so sure if they do that anymore.

[@AleksiHimself]

Great tip!

[@eltonsalvador7620]

This is where your Terminology comes in "No Bullshit, but straight to the point"

[@AleksiHimself]

Yep!

[@lornailocanachannel7128]

Does this apply to both female and male?

[@AleksiHimself]

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[@NewCalculus]

I love "directness"! Maybe I was born into the wrong culture?

[@entertainmentyoutube3606]

man you need to add subtitles, cant understand many things

[@AleksiHimself]

@@entertainmentyoutube3606 sorry to hear that

[@entertainmentyoutube3606]

@@AleksiHimself it's ok, I liked your videos and subscribe even with that, is just a suggestion 👍🏻

[@CaIypsoJ]

@@AleksiHimself New subscriber. Your command of English is excellent. I understand you perfectly.

[@SilentEcho9194]

Is it easier to know amongst teenagers who attend school together who likes who?

[@AleksiHimself]

I think you can figure it out from their body language and behavior.

[@Aidan_Au]

Aleksi started making dating videos again. You should make a dating course. Many people will pay for your dating course.

[@AleksiHimself]

I'm actually consider doing that. :D

[@zarwine7080]

@@AleksiHimself Maybe you could decide to do it. 😅

[@williamgamez2399]

@@AleksiHimself i would pay for that shit

[@sshadyh]

I wish we were more direct and less small talk here in america, we are the LAND of small talk

[@coffeemug3009]

Im a female from Asia and I love sex but it is hard to date in Asia because the guys there are traditional and expect you not to have sex on the first few dates and prefer the woman to have few or no previous sexual partners. I think the Finnish dating culture of having sex first & be open abt sex is great because I too feel that sexual compatibility is important but most cultures see it as a taboo 😔

[@AleksiHimself]

Interesting! I think the Finnish dating culture would be good fit for you.

[@oneonone6121]

I love sex too as an African but always afraid to ask or suggest it because of rejection.

[@snprankster]

Wherr are you from

[@epeehammu]

💗

[@backpackersamra6912]

M also coming.. M very excited

[@fionatsangarides6201]

I don’t understand that children one ? What that mean? Does it mean they can’t take their children and leave if born in Finland??

[@AleksiHimself]

For example, if the mother is Finnish and the man is foreign, the man can't really leave the country if he wants to be part of the child's life and if the woman wants to stay in Finland.

[@MswahilAdventures]

Good video

[@MrGuitars8]

Its a Beautiful Country with Beautiful People , Great for Dating but with the high rate of Cheating something long term like Marriage would be a bad idea . I would love to go there for a good visit though with the Hope of meeting someone for Marriage .

[@AleksiHimself]

High rate of cheating compared to what?

[@patraic5241]

As a young man I think I channeled my inner Fin. I was totally awkward meeting people.

[@AleksiHimself]

I see!

[@santiagokaderian544]

I could not understand the part of divorce. Why does he or she can not see the son? Is not illeagal to do that?

[@AleksiHimself]

In some cases where there are disagreements between the parents, the court may rule single-custody. Also, if you're a foreign father in Finland and divorce and you want to leave Finland, you may not see your child because they would live in another country.

[@williamwallace4879]

I have been chatting with a Finnish woman online for a year now, I hope someday we will meet in person.

[@Anonymous-fd1vu]

4:31 - the rock eyebrow raise but with a smile 😏

[@AleksiHimself]

😏😏

[@amimuzayani5816]

my boyfriend (i guess?) is Finnish, he told me, "I wont say the L word", I understand now. but how about calling "honey", "baby" or something like that. is that uncommon to say as well? he always calls me by my name.

[@AleksiHimself]

I think it some people have that kind of mindset. Does he behave like he loves you?

[@CaIypsoJ]

My Suomi forebears emigrated a couple of generations back for work. I wish they had stayed in Suomi.

[@AleksiHimself]

Interesting!

[@CaIypsoJ]

@@AleksiHimself Suomi reminds me of Lothlorien.

[@germanshepherd6638]

It’s like that were I live, people don’t want relationships anymore. They only want hookups.

[@ilkkak3065]

Yeah, but Finnish hookup can last 18 years...

[@sportscience1821]

Why if some one divorce she cant see her chikd again?

[@AleksiHimself]

I mean the scenario where you would like to go back to your home country but the Finnish parent wouldn't.

[@haroldgodwinson7241]

So I went on a date with a Finnish girl and we had a good time and invited her to my house without any pressure, she said she doesn’t have sex on the first date so I said no problem, I’m not expecting anything like that. She ended up sleeping over but when we were in bed, there was no touching and she didn’t seem to want to be touched or hugged, so I left it as I didn’t want to be too pushy. This is something I am not used to at all because she messaged me after and still seems interested but I don’t know whether to ask to see her again. I’m quite confused to say the least but I can’t deny it’s keeping me interested - please help 😂

[@AleksiHimself]

She liked that you respected her boundaries and made her like you even more. Seems pretty clear, in my opinion. I think next time she may be ready for more physical stuff.

[@haroldgodwinson7241]

@@AleksiHimself thanks!

[@Peeta-wn4hh]

Is the gay dating scene the same?

[@n.n.7240]

Very true 👍!

[@AleksiHimself]

Thanks for watching!

[@ingridiluminata]

Relationships are complicated all around the world... The part of sex is the same as in Brazil

[@AleksiHimself]

Thanks Ingrid for sharing the insights!

[@lonewolfmentality999]

lol what a wallpaper !

[@D33Lux]

So essentially, Fins are good for casual hooks ups, but not committed relationships. Over 40% of both men and women cheated is very high.

[@Philippines888]

Was cheated by a finnish man there in Finland. We knew each other dating site and he came here once in my country. We were planning of marriage but then he went astray after sometime. He cheated on me. Seeing his thai ex without me knowing. Later, God had revealed to me as I caught him. I like Europeans but they ended up cheating.

[@sanher20]

I don't think they're even that good for casual hookups because you'll meet them 1 or 2 times at most. After that they'll get scared that they're getting too attached to you and will leave you

[@werka657]

aleksi why r u looking sadder in the newer videos

[@AleksiHimself]

I don't know.

[@werka657]

@@AleksiHimself u good?

[@footballtalksandpodcast7780]

Good comments

[@AleksiHimself]

Thanks!

[@RocioSanchez-df4tp]

why are they liberal about sex but not expressing feelings or emotions?

[@AleksiHimself]

Tbh I don't know.

[@cproteus]

I think because sex is just a “meat need” whereas emotions are profound personal things. You can have sex without love, but love is a lasting and important emotion. So, it seems to me that the Finns have the line drawn very sensibly.

[@RocioSanchez-df4tp]

@@cproteus That's a shame but understandable. I found also even it's hard for them expressing feelings to a friend or family, thats the thing i find concerning, in long term this can lead to depression

[@cproteus]

@@RocioSanchez-df4tp it can, but for some people, internal feelings are private… and I think that makes it special when shared. To never share it… yes, it’s a sadness, but when it is shared, it is significant.

[@missmoon6624]

Well..., maybe because you don't have to talk (as much/at all) 😉

[@zesswang2980]

i wish to have boyfriend in finland or getting married..but im a ladyboy hehe

[@sallyedwards3872]

Thing is I'm English and I'm exactly like this so I really don't think you can generalise

[@AleksiHimself]

Thanks Sally!

[@JustMeB729]

I being a female would always pay for my first dates. Why, because I knew I wasn't going to be putting out.

[@YuriMazur887]

I am so aroused by the warmth and exterior friendliness of Finns! Now I want a Finnish guy myself! 😂

[@AleksiHimself]

Good stuff!

[@alitcher4425]

Thanks!

[@AleksiHimself]

Thank you so much for the 2€!

[@mikearisbrocken8507]

The first 3 sound like me... No wonder I struggle to date in Mexico hahahaha

[@AleksiHimself]

You could do great in Finland. :)

[@mikearisbrocken8507]

@@AleksiHimself nah, I don't fit in the rest of these haha

[@derekguerrero414]

LETS GO

[@AleksiHimself]

Good stuff! 😃🙌

[@KyleFromSouthParkCA]

Oh my god! Im so Finnish

[@anneofgreengables1619]

Your thumbnail is a bit graphic isn't it?

[@AleksiHimself]

Yep, but it seems to be working because people are clicking on it.

[@anneofgreengables1619]

@@AleksiHimself Of course but that is a tacky image for a video about Finland. No class.

[@pinoniks]

I really liked Finland, but good in bed... mmmm.. but I really enjoied talking with Finnish people, I found them open and talkative.

[@williamgamez2399]

so, if i move to finland... who amma supose to date with? coreans? .. even that you give 100 more reasons im still gonna date finns. what for i would move to there then?? XD

[@kari53]

Aleksi giving away Finnish secrets. 🙄🤣

[@AleksiHimself]

Yep!

[@alienloner3985]

Paying their own bills/splitting should be the norm everywhere. Women also work, so they can pay their own part. "Equal checks mean equal rights" - quote from the Donna Reed Show season 8 episode 16 (1966). I like the fact, that in some countries women dare to make the first step in dating and not waiting for the prince as shy, little girls. I also like that is totally normal for finnish men doing housechores or taking care babies. In my country (Hungary) there is just a little progress in this matter. I wouldn't say women have no rights but our politicians said and still say sexist things in our Parliament. Of course, Asian and African countries are much worse than my country but still Hungary should change in some things.

[@Gspotje]

Ask all of your foreign friends who have married a Finnish lady and know what they will advise you. Mostly, they are divorced 🤣 and advise you not to do it. Marriage here is not a sacred thing.

[@mistersniffer6838]

With my personality, I would mop the floor with Finns

[@AleksiHimself]

Haha

[@katzer7]

You looked like my ex boyfriend 😂

[@pacifistrunner2554]

My wife had to get me to calm down my Finnish labito

[@jkeegan154]

I hope I don't freak out any Finnish women if I want to marry a Finnish woman and take her to America with me.

[@spicynoodles28]

U look so handsome

[@AleksiHimself]

Thanks!

[@mesho95f]

What about lesbian dating and queer culture? Could u interview some people?

[@Ella-ng8wq]

Hahaha,so true,😅

[@AleksiHimself]

Good stuff! 😃🙌

[@ak5659]

This sounds like heaven for a gay man who's a social nudist and prefers direct communication. Sex being how you get to know a person works for me as well.

[@grippysocksang3l]

erm…,,

[@artomeri7266]

Bro: "Cheating is not specific to Finland" Also bro: "41% and 46%" Holy... cheating rate is higher only in Latin countries O_o

[@abhishekpatra7954]

So it means i can straight away go to a beautiful girl i like or sexually attracted to and ask her for sex???

[@martinmontes6170]

wow when you talk about relationships. I met one girl. we were chating for 1 year. finally I visited her. she was off. She never told she RECENTLY broke up with somebody. we continue in touch and then she came up with a boyfriend! wtf after one year of flirting! I call this lack of communication DISHONESTY, sorry. SHE WAS NOT UPFRONT AND HIDING STUFF.. her excuse? we are reserved...

[@AleksiHimself]

Sounds like she wasn't a good person in the first place.

[@martinmontes6170]

yup. She is not the only girl out there and good people also exist. I am going back in May to visit your beautiful country and people @@AleksiHimself

[@AleksiHimself]

@@martinmontes6170 WTF = Welcome to Finland!

[@Nataliia569]

i disagree they can flirt :) they know how to date these days, they are also very direct when they just want sex or look for relationships

[@AleksiHimself]

That's great to hear!

[@ahm7944]

Don't believe this guy. Just ask them to dance Tango...

[@memorychiprepairrecovery8485]

哈哈

[@rocksolidfossils]

Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and allow Him to change your life :)

[@kukaliemikalie8157]

I wish i could delete this channel ffrom being pushed to me.

[@AleksiHimself]

Click "Don't recommend channel". No one forces you to watch..

[@arcabuz]

I have been living several years in Finland and I can conclude that there is no real will of establishing a relationship of love between two persons. They usually end up entangled sexually with another person after several drinks and in some cases that leads to sharing apartment to save costs. But rarely I observed any intentional approach to a loving relationship. Like everything in Finland, relationships are mostly based on convenience and pragmatism.

[@jacuesduplessis319]

Never ever date ... Finns are only for Finns then Norwegian, Swedish and Russians ... let's preserve culture...

[@MeijunC]

Tell that to your own people,then.

[@jacuesduplessis319]

@@MeijunC I always tell my people to preserve their culture... you know black and brown people are growing exponentially in the World which are dangerous for human genes .

[@stiinaliina]

Gross, please don't say this weird stuff.

[@berfingedlac]

I had some kind of a relationship with a Finn. It started online and I was very casual about it but he was really forward and complimentary. We live in different countries and I’m not an eu citizen, so I couldn’t see him. He promised me to visit me here. After a few months he even asked me if I am interested in getting married to him🤯 but he didn’t fulfilled any of his promises. I actually went there to see him, and turns out he made himself a new gf in the city🥲🥲 i got my heart broken💔 funny enough, he still texts me sometimes🤦🏻‍♀️

[@AleksiHimself]

Sounds like he was a bad person. Good that you don't waste more time with him.

[@berfingedlac]

@@AleksiHimselfthanks a lot though😊 I was just too young and naive anyway, so it’s fine💁🏻‍♀️

[@gucciboikimtaehyung6272]

I had the same experience girl. Very traumatic!

[@SensibleWriter]

hell yeah all are the perfect reasons to date finnish people baby

[@chiefmyroncappermoon6135]

I mean bullshit rape laws are all I need to know. A woman can literally claim that you raped her because she didn’t give “consent “years later and chances of you losing are pretty fucking high . All the things you listed sure why not. But just the fact that a woman can destroy your entire life just because she is bored is mind blowing. 🤨