New Mom MELTDOWN - November 12, 2012 - itsJudysLife Vlog

[@ReneeRoberts15]

I can see why Judy gets frustrated with benji, Ive noticed that he interrupts her a lot, sometimes he needs to just let her talk

[@natJ148]

Although this is old, your "meltdown" is COMPLETELY normal!!! It's okay to want a break or have the need to vent as a new mother! Vent your heart out Judy! And tell Benji to HUSH while you do it!! LOVE YA BENJIIIII

[@Aeronnlove]

I'm a new mom to a 1 month old baby boy and I re watch your videos to relate to your emotions as a new mom to Julianna. Its a relief to know I'm not the only one feeling what your feeling especially feeling "stuck" at home feeding etc etc. al though its the most rewarding thing in the world. There are days where I just want to walk out the house without worrying about breastfeeding or what not. Its hard to explain but I can relate to this video and I find it a relief that its normal and I'm not a bad "mother" for feeling that way

[@futasupastah]

Whoooooaaaa flashback! The house is so different now and full of furniture, memories and life (the girls!)!

[@brewgrl]

Oh how I remember those moments when my little one was a newborn and lack of sleep, lack of hands, and lack of well any and everything. That first year is so full of new experiences highs and lows. Love how watching you brings it all back. Your life is so real. Thanks for sharing with us Judy!

[@kelhalladay]

It's so weird seeing the house partially done in comparison to seeing it everyday now!!

[@eyenne416]

Omg I'm watching this in 2015 and I can totally relate to it! I have a 2 month old now and sometimes you just want some time for yourself, or even not by yourself but it would be nice to do things you normally do before having a baby. :)

[@sonrisz18]

Your so lucky that you have a husband that helps out but being a mom sometimes u have to sacrifice so many things ! I am a single mom and have to do everything by my self it's really hard it's all about talking it out with your partner to have an equal amount of responsibility and enjoy spending time outside as a family

[@JealousyKillz]

Power to you :) youre doing a great job!

[@anonymous.m.1599]

melissa ruiz you are still doing great.. God bless you guys..

[@lizvargas485]

This is the most realist parents with a newborn moment. Love you guys!!!

[@pran178]

Even watching these vlogs today melts my heart 😭😍😍😍 love your family a lot,Judy♥️💕

[@thekristineway]

so much has changed!

[@klewis271]

No worries Mommas! All moms meltdown. Even if it's a little or huge meltdown... We get through it! And if moms don't agree than they're in denial! Truth.

[@cassanovadamsle]

watching them now and then, Benji kinda acted like a jerk sometimes. I'm glad he's a lot more attentive to Judy and the girls

[@griseldapalmer176]

I totally feel your pain. Sometimes you just need to treat yourself. I work and when I come home from work, I take care of her so I'm pretty much on the clock 24/7 being a mom is the biggest responsibility and the HARDEST job.

[@xohnubci]

Aww Judy, I've been watching you for a couple years and I love how you're a mommy now. I'm a single mother of 2 babies, a girl who is 4 and a boy who is 1 year old. I had tears in my eyes when you were venting because I remember feeling exactly as you did. You're a wonderful mother and motherhood takes getting used to and even though my kids are older, I'm still learning in the process. Much love!

[@claudianarnoldo12]

Omg benji is so annoying

[@JealousyKillz]

Go away!!!!!! Youre life must be so miserable!!

[@LeHo18]

I love that you show that everything's not perfect! You guys are human and there are ups and downs. It definitely helps to vent and its nice that you and Benji can communicate your feelings. It takes courage to post your lives and I respect you for not editing that out!

[@h0tti3z]

Awweeeeee...... I feel u, girl!!! My child is 21 months now.. But i just saw this video now .. Seeing u venting almost brought tears to my eyes.. Thinking about those first month with a newborn...can't do anything! Feeling overwhelmed... I had several meltdown ..

[@kassizuluetaful]

Omg Judy I'm going through your old vlogs also! Ever since baby Julianna came I've been wanting to see old vids just to see how much things have change but if course for the best. She's precious!

[@amorabarbas]

Benji is doing a great job. He's out working and working and/or supervising the work at the new house and he juiced and he came home and gave Judy a break to sleep and he came home and made dinner. I don't know if its a days work or the edit but Benji keep doing what you do. Judy it's a big change in your life, you were reminiscing with old videos and pics. It's normal. But remember to be grateful. You have a supportive hubby, a healthy baby and you have a flexible schedule.

[@itsnotrockscience]

Haha Judy your meltdown was nowhere near my new mom meltdown. I'm pretty sure I cried for an hour, all the while saying, "I don't know what I'm doing," over and over again. Our baby girl was born about 4 months after Julianna so it's been a joy to watch another family go through the ups and downs of ordinary family life! You're both great parents :)

[@makeupgoodies]

Judy, finally you seem like a normal new mom to me in this video....the fact that you actually even had a meltdown, that is. It is amazing to me watching all of your post baby videos and seeing how energetic and positive you were.....literally a super mom, haha. When I first had my baby boy, I was sooooo tired from the lack of sleep that I had a couple meltdowns as well. Also, it is extremely difficult caring for a newborn, breastfeed AND pump. You are an excellent mom to your beautiful baby.

[@linalittlebitcloser1]

You both are fearless for putting your lives out to an audience where you risk being ridiculed for choices that you both make. I want to thank you for staying down to earth & sharing bits & pieces of your lives. It's kind of an escape from our own life, & I'm speaking generally because I know I'm not the only one who feels like this. You guys are a reminder that life is a journey that is filled with growth & you learn along the way.

[@Aheart2loveu]

Aww! She is more beautiful today than yesterday. It's so nice watching your everyday life.

[@SarahLovesChemistry]

I LOVE the new opening! I keep replaying it because it makes me SO happy!

[@vserra3]

This is one of the reasons why I keep pushing the idea of having a baby. I am 28 years old and I want with all my heart to be a mom but watching your videos is a reality check, that having a baby is a real life changing event. Thank you for sharing ur experieces with all of us.

[@kassizuluetaful]

You must feel so happy when you go through old vids bc you were able to catch memories

[@kcqe77]

aw hearing benji talk about his daughter is amazing! you can just hear the love he has for her. :) what an amazing daddy!!!

[@sanyoziok]

Awesome new intro guys! And Judy I am sorry you had a bad day. But you are a wonderful mother, and your little bear might not realize it yet, but she was truly blessed with kind and loving parents. Hope you guys all have a better day tomorrow!!! Xoxo

[@Rayraycat32]

Judy & Benji are doing an AMAZING job as new parents! Its a huge life change and there are going to be good days and bad days. They need support NOT nasty comments. Keep up the great work you two!

[@emilyally8774]

It's amazing to see how much julianna has grown

[@Msdeanna.angela]

Her smile was just too adorable.

[@VeeSavage]

you and Benji are like amazing parents!! i love watching your videos :) i am 31 weeks prego with my second daughter and just watching our videos just makes me more excited and anxious for our new arrival :)

[@Marshflower1]

Benji is sweet, supportive and a great dad, keep it up you two!

[@ellenicole6]

Judy and Benji you are both amazing first time parents! You're so loving and caring to one another and to baby Julianna. You're both doing so well! Judy, having a meltdown every now and then happens and its totally normal!

[@makeuphappy1]

JUDY, i remember getting cabin fever,my hubby got 2 weeks off when we had her and it was great to have him help before he went back to work but when he went back i got sad &depressed at times.I joined a mommy group at my church,would go on walks or do whatever i could to get out of the house,the more i did it,the easier it got for me to take her out!Dont get too discouraged judy,i promise it does get easier, let me tell you that you have a amazing and very helpfull husband!Hugs from oregon!!

[@lalonipop1]

Judy I am a stay at home mama also and I understand the stresses of being a new mommy. And feeling cooped up. My son was just diagnosed with autism so I deal with the stress there and also the guilt. all we can do is stay strong and love our babies through ups and downs. I wouldn't change my baby for the world but id change the world for my baby.

[@mtheta]

It was really awsome to see you guys sharing a hard moment and how it's not all perfect all the time :) I really appreciate it, and I think I would completely go stir crazy as well Judy. It sounds like your new schedule/plan and extra support from mom will really help and make sure you get that important you time!

[@reyestee]

THE NEW INTRO IS SO CUTE, I WANNA CRYY!!!!!!! I love it and love you 3!

[@MsKarin28]

I have two boys and I'm a stay at home mom. They are 8 and 5, meltdowns happen very often. Lol. It's extremely difficult to be a parent but I agree with all the other moms commenting. It's rewarding and worth it :) Welcome to parenthood!

[@ZCKaleo]

I totally went through this with my son. Thx for making me feel like I'm not the only one.

[@dubeans1]

Hi Judy! You are doing a wonderful job at being a mommy. Let out your frustrations and stress! It's good that you voiced your feelings to Benji. I like that even when you guys are frustrated or angry with each other you still communicate. in my relationship when my hubby gets mad and just storms away, which isn't good because you want to address the problem as soon as possible. Take it one day at a time :)

[@brendas1013]

Judy thanks for keeping it real because being a mom isn't easy no matter the circumstances. Live how your actually showing realistic views of motherhood.

[@DollyTemps]

when she said "mommy loves you" i just melted

[@oceannaslays5806]

i know this video is old but i swear I'm feeling the same way you felt in this video, i just had a baby and its a bit over whelming and i feel trapped in this house while my husband has the choice to do what he wants. nice to know that I'm not crazy or overreacting.

[@13vang1]

Oceanna Slays I know this comment is old but I just had my baby boy and I feel the same! It's frustrating being trapped inside. It drives me nuts. I thought it was just me but knowing all mom's goes through it I don't feel left alone! 😊

[@RoseJacqueline426]

When Benji says, "Look at her fist"...I laughed because I immediately thought of the Arthur meme LOL 😂

[@pgprincess007]

i have def felt the same way when i first had my daughter 4 mos ago. with all the changes your body is going thru and your emotions its normal to have a mini meltdown. its good to vent b/c you dont want it to led to postpartum depression. Its a great idea to get help from your mom! i had alot of help from my mom too. if you feel stuck in the house, just take a nice walk with julianna and get some fresh air. it will def make you feel better, just to get a change of scenry! you guys are great!

[@letsjustpretend1]

I happen to appreciate that you post how you're reacting without much censoring. It's nice to see someone being real.

[@makeupgoodies]

Just remember you are doing a great job and it really is so rewarding to be a mom. Our postpartum hormones are no joke, it can make us feel so out of balance emotionally. Benji is a great dad but I think he needs to realize that he needs to let you vent at times. It is much more work for the mom than it is for the dad. Anyhow, Julianna is such a cutie......you guys are great parents!

[@jordanslife7934]

Being a new Mom is so tough! I've been watching some of your older vlogs since my baby is just one month old. Look how far you've both come as parents! Can't wait to see you with your twins! :)

[@heyjordanh]

Keep your head up Judy, we're all here for you! Love you guys xoxo

[@B33xx]

I love that you're so honest and real!!

[@cavyprncss1]

Totally normal to feel that way. I used to feel bad for feeling that way but it's totally normal. I can truly say I don't remember much of my daughter's first 3 months, I was so tired. I was a single mom so I had to do all the work myself. You are very lucky to have Benji, and that he tries to help out as much as possible. Just hang in there....it gets better with time.

[@girliegurl110]

I LOVE THE NEW INTRO!!! I LOVE YOU GUYS FOREVER!!

[@xocrisjoyxo]

Judy, it is good to vent, than leaving it all inside. I personally, don't have the knowledge of being a mother, I am still young, at the stage of emerging adulthood. From what, I heard and seen from, mothers have a such a big responsibility to the family, especially, and it is tough, I realized that I am thankful for my mother, for all the things she has done. Remember, Judy, you are a great mother, Julianna will be thankful. Just breathe, everything will be good!

[@littlelionmommy]

I understand your frustration mama!! It's totally normal and WILL get better. Bless you and your sweet baby girl!

[@linemausi1]

OMG the new intro is so sweet!!

[@greedinc]

You guys are a beautiful family! I'm so happy for you guys!

[@CheesecakeParadiseGirl]

My little baby is almost exactly a year younger than Julianna! So fun to see the comparison he's almost 10 weeks old now:)

[@ssivakami]

Benji is such a happy unpolluted guy! Judy is lucky!

[@bnufeb]

You and benji are such good parents!! Totally normal to feel like you did today Judy...Trust me it's just the first few weeks and it WILL get easier.

[@Nicholamaria]

Don't worry guys it gets easier as the baby grows. She's so tiny right now. Itrust me after 3 colicky babies I thought I was going to lose my marbles. It's really good to vent. Keeps your relationship open and healthy.

[@Mermaid-dream]

i like the raw honesty. sometimes when i hang out wi my nieces and nephews and they cry or yell i get frustrated (i have no kids). lol i cant imagine being stuck in a house all day.god bless you guys

[@fullyshimmer]

Looooved ur new intro! I watched it 4 times:) lol benji swinging julianna while dancing, so papmered, haha. btw Judy I know how u feel not getting sleep (my home was noisy last night) it ruins the whole day! Remember Benji is working, school, building a house for u

[@MizzNika87]

Love the vlogs and the reality of it. I'm sure it has to be hard to truly share your feelings on camera but I respect you guys for the honest.

[@dollsncandy]

You guys are so real and that's why I've always loved watching your vlogs. You guys are amazing parents and beautiful inside and out forget the haters.

[@LAdreaming19]

I'm sooo excited to see the new house all decorated

[@jan2lynn]

Benji is doing a fine job. They both are. I think it is cute when he does the daily daddy duties. She is lucky to have him and him her also. Good luck to both of u.

[@betyourbottomdollar7]

Please take the time to have "Judy" time! It really is important. I never did when I had my kids and now regret it.. Hormones are trying to get back to normal so your likely to have more up and downs so getting out even for a simple walk alone is a good thing . Many blessings to you benji and Julianna :)

[@tanzinitte]

Judy its so refreshing to see you being honest! Breast feeding is one of the hardest things I ever did.It takes a toll on mom. Benji does have more freedom to go out to the gym and run errands and do what he needs to do. Sadly the majority of the work for a newborn is usually put on mommy. Especially when you are breast feeding. And your motherly instincts kick in and even if you have a chance to slip away, you won't for too long because you will feel guilty. It is only natural to want it 50/50

[@7kperez]

We first time moms go through this Judy, so don't feel bad! My doctor said "it's going to rock your world in a good way and honestly bad because you'll never be the same" and I thought that was so mean of her to say but she was right!!! I had soooo many meltdowns and arguments with my husband but its all about getting used to it all and having a schedule. Don't feel bad asking for help! You'll be surprised how much people are willing to help! Hang in there!

[@agnieszkawx0]

love the looks your giving Benji! lmaoo

[@lvyu15]

I LOVE THE NEW INTRO AND JULIANA IS TOO ADORABLE!!!!!!!

[@yellowmeee]

Love the new intro! I literally like melted when I saw Julianna

[@tanzinitte]

You guys are both doing an amazing job!! Keep it up! It gets better. In the begining the baby sleeps a lot. So take advantage of the breaks in between, rest when you can Judy and Benji can run the errands and help whenever he can. Make sure you go out every weekend as a family and enjoy yourselves.Babies are a lot of work!Even though we need mom and dad..mom your job is never done!! I felt the same way and was jealous of how easy it was for my hubby to get up and just go.dont be, enjoy this time

[@heyjkuhl]

I love the new intro! Your pretty talented to be able to sum up your lives together in like 2 seconds :)

[@arlaeeguevara3375]

i completely understand you, my daughter is 2 and I still feel like I need to go out, it is hectic, i got a 6 year old son and it feels like I do not stop cleaning, washing clothes, cooking, and to top it off i got to school full time, and i feel like i need a break with my husband. Sometimes I just want to experience going out on my own, even if its just grocery shopping, but I am right there with you judy. You are not alone! :)

[@MnC0224]

12:44-12:54 my absolute favorite lol Sorry you haven't gotten much sleep Judy!!! Love your channel

[@09kayster]

Nice to see you portray the reality of things. I am going to be a new mother next year and it lets be know what to look forward to and be prepared for. The comments even help as well because I feel so overwhelmed sometimes about the future. Thank you itsjudylife community! Oh and love the new intro.

[@starbrite333]

i just want to say .. i respect u guys so much.. and thank u for showing the tough times too.. hang in there.. and its a learning experience for me as well to see how you handle fights.. id go crazy and start whining and screaming.. and ur so patient.. and calm.. and u talk slowly and dont raise ur voice .. i hope to have the patience and strength to communicate as well as u do and not scream or let my emotions get the best of me ..

[@zyrellekatherine]

Love you Judy.I'm so proud to be pinoy. You're genuine person keep it up.

[@FashionJournal23]

Judy i really admire your honesty and i think that what you're going through is normal. My sister is a new mom and she is also going through being a new mom. Just hang in there and yess there will be emotional breakdowns but honestly im glad to find that it actually happens to everyone. God Bless you and the baby!!! And love u much!!

[@Amy90mo]

Love the new intro Judy! And you guys are doing great as parents, and don't worry late nights and early starts are all part of have a baby package.

[@freckledfacediva]

Awe cheer up Judy !! It will get better you and benji are great parents!!

[@kookook97]

I also have a really gassy one month old too! He grunts all the freakin tiiiime it breaks my heart so watching these videos reassures me everything will be fine because julianna is so healthy and happy now!

[@ayanared]

That argument you guys had is almost EXACTLY like what I went through with my husband when my baby was first born (both of them!). It is SUPER overwhelming to be the *ALL* for someone else and rarely get a break. And it really sucks to see your mate being all free to workout while you stay home and just try to maintain sanity! OF COURSE you are gonna vent! Totally feel you, girl! P.S. love, love, love your vids. I rarely comment - but I HAD to on this one!

[@Sweetmarilyn8]

Benji you are a great papa! And Judy it's okay. You're going through an emotional roller coaster right now so it's perfectly normal to have those kind of moments. The important thing is that you guys are all in good health, everything else is just nonsense.

[@Brightday808]

Thanks for "keeping it real" you guys, that's why we enjoy you guys so much. It's normal to have these feelings when you have a baby and are new parents. Talk about it and utilize your supports. Judy can also join a mommy play group.

[@Ldasnchez]

You're doing a great job! Meltdowns happen, especially with hormones being everywhere. I'm a mom of two boys, 6 and 4, and I have meltdowns every now and then. Just remember, her smile is all worth it. :)

[@angel91385]

Judy & Benji, make sure you both work together and listen to each other. With my first baby my postpartum depression kicked in around 3-6 weeks. My husband kept saying to workout, and i took that as him telling me i was fat. i just thought i was doing everything but nothing was getting better. Finally i took his advice and started going outside taking the baby for a walk in the morning and he gave him 2 hours everyday when he was off for my self. Just talk to each other trust me it gets easier.

[@tinkerbellstar18]

I think a lot of new moms feel that way Judy! It's going to take time to adjust to this new change. I'm sure Benji tries to help as much as he can, and I'm sure it's probably difficult for him to understand where you're coming from. Things will get better. There is a lot of love...I can see it. :)

[@MsPorkchops22]

Goodness, Benji makes situations more stressful than actually helping

[@mangoboo2011]

you guys are so awesome. not afraid to be yourselves. to show good times and bad xxx

[@vietemi]

It's so cute how till this day Benji still says "She is the cutest thing ever."

[@DANATAFT]

Judy you're doing great! Everything you're feeling is normal and us moms understand the dads think they have all the answers but they have no idea how it feels. It's good to have someone come over and be with you and also take a 5 min walk outside while she's in the Moby. Best....

[@gawrjess2]

I just paused this video and started watching your old videos for hours lol

[@NaturallySkyx0]

you guys are awesome parents and it is better to let it out then to keep it in even though benji is talking back atleast he will listen like the wonderful man he is. youre so lucky god bless your family x3

[@MsAquarian81]

People need to stop for a moment and think about how good Benji has been right from the start, he never ever stopped for a second to help Judy before and after Julianna came. He practically cooks every single meal, shops, juices, etc. But YOU GUYS NEED TO STOP ALWAYS FINDING FAULT IN BENJI!!! He is doing WAAYYY better than any husband, new dad and person has ever done. He is so committed to the new house, Julianna, Judy, the in-laws, his own business. Jeez ppl, try to see where he's coming from!

[@Iiterally]

I told myself I wouldn't comment because this blog has been 2-3 days now... but I just wanted to suggest and add that you can always call up your girlfriends with or without babies; have you and Julianna go out with your girlfriends! Laugh, eat lunch, shop! Revel in free time! Treat yourself and treat Julianna to some good company and fresh air. You both are great parents--present at the infant stage, present and always catering to Julianna. Keep your head up! x

[@Tokgabi]

Sometimes the "meltdowns" are from a build-up of other hormonal disarray, it's not always a rational/completely logical reaction to true treatment. But I have to say, Benji is an amazing father from what I can see, really supportive and yet still his natural self.