New Update: My Sister Can’t Have Kids, but My Brother-in-Law Desperately Wants a Family With Our...

[@kathelaineee]

“Small task” being pregnant is not a small fking task.

[@AhSatan]

That, and in some places there's a requirement for a surrogate to have had at least one pregnancy to term.

[@dulcilass]

This I can agree with. Childbirth was the most hellish 32 hours I have ever spent. And don't ask about how I felt after having an emergency C Section which went wrong. "A small task" words spoke by a person who never gave birth.

[@flamelily2086]

Only a person who has never been pregnant would call carrying a child a "small task". I have had three children and being pregnant is not a small task!!

[@jnnccnfs9600]

Agreed

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

The US still has a fairly high maternal death rate, too.

[@11rahimis1234]

Dude needs to permanently lose his ability to have any kids. This will teach him a lesson he will never forget.

[@Endev_Prime]

Lessons are useless if you can't use any conclusions you got from those lessons.

[@elenagaroti]

It’s also crazy how the police doesn’t do anything because “He hasn’t acted on it yet”

[@11rahimis1234]

@@elenagaroti Yeah, it is ridiculous. It's crazy that they say we cannot do anything because no action has been taken. The law is stupid in this regard.

[@elenagaroti]

@@11rahimis1234 it’s also what’s happening in a lot of cases. I have been stalked before and he sent photos of me in different places, he called me on different phone numbers threatening me etc and police only told my dad that there is nothing we can do as he hasn’t “acted on his threats” yet.

[@AmazingWorldofCamBear]

FR

[@deamea5098]

The fact that he could call his own wife a murder for an accident she was the victim in, is disgusting. I get the impression his wife was damaged goods to him the moment he found out she couldn't give him a baby and OP became the prize in his eyes. I think this goes beyond just wanting her to be a surrogate I think he genuinely wants OP to replace his wife and be a baby factory.

[@sjsimom2]

Yup. He's obsessed with their DNA which means he's got some type of "master race" fetish. Those types are the worst

[@trashotaku]

This is exactly what I also think is happening

[@yukishiro3287]

Exactly my thoughts

[@Nico6th]

His mind went "oh, but she has a TWIN, that's basically the same".

[@daniellelawman9724]

No kidding. Even if she did do it and left them to it, he'd probably would use the baby to rope her back in. She'd never be free. He'd use the baby against her to get what he wants because it's hers to and she had it.

[@fianafarrington6899]

Three HUGE requirements for being a surrogate is you must have at least two kids first (proof your body can handle pregnancy), you can't do it for any family (it always gets messy in some way), AND the potential parents have to prove they're fit to raise the child (evaluation of mental and emotional wellness, which IVF clinics also do). OP does not meet the first two requirements, and SIL and BIL clearly don't meet the last. She needs to run. Far and fast.

[@cheyennecannon3609]

That's what I think a lot of these people don't seem to understand. The fact that I've heard other stories like this irritates me cause you know the ones pushing it heard all of this before

[@nickislade5533]

@@cheyennecannon3609well i have not heard it

[@kimwyatt2567]

I have a friend that has been a surrogate for years and has only had one child of her own. She is still friends with the parents of all the kids she has had. She really enjoyed doing it for these others.

[@user-nn5qw5mu4m]

These aren't requirements in other regions of the world where surrogates are a lot cheaper.

[@testerwulf3357]

@@user-nn5qw5mu4m And they have issues…cheaper =/= better

[@pretzelicious4200]

What kinda sister sees her family being treated like this and makes excuses for her garbage husband?

[@onepieceisking5493]

A weak and desperate woman. Especially when she doesn't realize that she's been abused by her own husband.

[@jayking2228]

The kind that would threaten to disown their sibling in order to force them into doin what they want

[@thegem597]

My sister. She sat around when her crazy mother in law was screaming at my dad after inviting us for dinner. I took a stand and didnot go back screaming..and never returned. Fuck her

[@SamriddhiSharma128]

The sister is crazy too, not setting boundaries with her husband. someone isn't crazy enough to attack and threaten to grape someone before being abusive enough to their partner. Poor OP has to watch her sister losing her sanity and get harrassed by her psycho husband.

[@lunamoonracer8899]

A sister who's mind has been twisted by serious abuse. You think that man just flipped a switch and became a psycho? No way. I guarantee he's been torturing his poor wife this whole time.

[@destineeadams2720]

9 months of pregnancy isn’t a small thing. Also a baby won’t fix this

[@nancythane5672]

A baby will only add to the Hell.

[@JumbledEye]

And the original plan was for OP to do this at least 4 times for her sis?? 😱

[@Ibisian]

@@JumbledEye That wasn't explicitly stated, but it could very well be a possibility.

[@joannegregory3024]

Carrying a child that is biologically yours and handing it over to you sister is NOT a small task…. That will affect you for a lifetime

[@brusselsproutses]

once again, the police are entirely unhelpful. surprise surprise

[@jameslyons6655]

Unfortunately when you ask anyone for help there are two problems present: your problem and their problem of you being in front of them with your problem. People who have no business being in law enforcement usually try to solve the latter as it is always easier. I worked with some of these creatures, an empty shirt would be more useful. I did 32 years of military and federal LE and never took that approach, my responsibility weighed heavy on me every day.

[@kianeko2120]

I know, I was stalked by a registered...offender for 3+ years starting when I was 12. Every time the cops were called I was told the same thing, and that was they can't do anything until I was actually taken or hurt. Great. Right?

[@-Night_time-]

My mom has called the cops on her abusive husband multiple times for many reasons and police did absolutely nothing

[@daniellelawman9724]

They don't give a shit until it's too late. No surprise there.

[@abiean222]

if OP was a CEO of a health insurance company, the police would have arrested BIL at the first text message. too bad for OP, she's just a regular peasant woman.

[@bornagainreader]

I choked when the sister said it was a "small task". Are you kidding me?? The brother-in-law is terrifying.

[@madeleneamendola7188]

RIGHT!!!

[@angelcookie1024]

The sister is so pathetic, she literally saw her husband threaten to SA her sister, stalk her, physically assault her, break in her appartment and yet in the end she was still debating wether or not to report him. Op is a much better person than me

[@yesthatmousyiris4887]

Not to excuse the sister but you can tell how warped she is from the abuse. Abusive partners can change you for the worse. I hope she can get help and get a therapist.

[@SoundGZ]

Not sister but TWIN SISTER

[@lunamoonracer8899]

Abuse is a hell of a drug

[@TEM348]

She is spineless

[@luka.renoir]

@@yesthatmousyiris4887 who fking cares

[@cc_snipergirl]

For the encounter in public where he pretended to be a stranger apologizing to avoid others helping: Call him out by name. "Why do you keep following me John Doe? Leave me alone!" Strangers don't know each other's names. Or even just "Why are you following me?" is enough even if you don't know his name.

[@StonedHunter]

easy enough to say, harder to do when in the moment and likely in a moment of trauma induced panic

[@cc_snipergirl]

@@StonedHunter Very true. It's easier to do if it's a scenario you've thought through before though. Her reaction is completely understandable, but I'm hoping that this helps others who find themselves in similar situations

[@erickaennis2738]

I would not easily forgive my sister for this mess. I think the BIL had a thing for Op for a long time already. He didn't need Op or her sister for a bio child. He just wanted Op. This is pretty scary.

[@silentmuse6660]

Probably. There's also the fact that Op and her sister are twins, and a lot of people view twins as a unit more than an individual. And not to mention how most lewd content seems to treat twins. So the BIL could've had some sick fantasy about impregnating twins or just has a sick fetish. Either way, man was a complete and utter creep to both sisters and I hope both of them get the help the need to get through what that man did to them, because unfortunately their relationship is forever changed now.

[@alexawatson4047]

If they’re identical technically it would share their dna but yeah BIL is 1000% a sicko and so is his family for making a “joke” about Op’s sisters miscarriage

[@yukishiro3287]

Really? It's so unhinged and I feel like the BIL doesn't even value OP? Like I feel like she's some kind of prize?

[@S2MiaS2]

I'm sure he had a twin fantasy

[@BridgetKF]

I read one similar to that where the man burned down OP's old house to try to force OP to come out where he could "catch" her, not realizing she'd sold the house, and the furniture in there had just been the staging furniture that had been placed there for the sale. When in court, the man said he had "the right to do that" because "He'd been promised a child and by hell or high water he was going to make them keep their promise"

[@tryme9740]

Men like them need to lose that right of having kids. Tell me he gets jail time

[@MarinanaBR]

Oh god is so dangerous being a woman this 2024 we aren’t in the 1920s

[@ohno7153]

what story is this?

[@MC_Silvereyes1]

@@ohno7153 I don't know but it sounds extremely disgusting that any man would say that but yet it's far, far too common these days. that's why I have pepper spray on me all the time even though I'm under age. I started carrying it at 15 and I got another one soon after my first one was taken by a cop when I forgot to leave it in the car during a concert. nothing happened beside it getting taken but I still never want to be without one. it's because of how common this is that I refuse to be left defenseless.

[@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa790]

​@@MC_Silvereyes1Sorry that it's illegal for a miner to hold pepper spray in your State. It's not illegal in all of them.

[@StonedHunter]

I hate how our system is "nothing can be done until the violence is already committed" nevermind all the messages are the same, same tone same wording etc etc, and that HE HAS ALREADY ATTACKED HER IN PUBLIC. This is why people don't come forward when abused or assaulted...our system does nothing until they're already dead, and even that isn't a guarantee for justice...

[@abiean222]

our system is like that. unless the one being threatened is someone rich, like a health insurance CEO. then they'll arrest you from the first "threat"

[@smithsunleashed]

These need to be updated so badly!

[@lazy-gyal0077]

@@abiean222 YUP!

[@Americandegen]

The system worked great for protecting that CEO didn't it? ​@@abiean222

[@ladyofthemasque]

Pregnancy is NOT a "small" task. The body of the pregnant person goes through as much damage, as much physiological stress & change, as going through a major car accident, save only that it's spread out over 9-ish months and not suffered in an instant. It requires literal MONTHS of commitment, and carries significant and potentially *life-threatening* and/or *long-term* health risks. IT IS NOT A "SMALL" TASK!

[@dragonnightwing9082]

And it doesn't even just last for the time she'd be pregnant, but after that as well, with the hormones, milk (potentially), postpartum, etc. physically, it's basically a "9 months in, at LEAST 9 months out" type of thing, but mentally? Psychologically? I heard that pregnancy permanently changes your brain structure too... At that point, it's not even a task. It's literally sacrificing your body for others to use. :/

[@evil1by1]

​​@@dragonnightwing9082your body permanently changes after pregnancy, hips widen permanently, waist goes up by an average of almost an inch per pregnancy and its permanent (of course size before matters and size after) breasts lose density and can start drooping, the cervix changes shape as does the fourchette. Not to mention stretch marks, disfigured belly buttons, shoe size increases, hemmoroids, knee and back pain, urinary stress incontinence regardless of delivery method, increased risk of autoimmune disease, bone loss, tooth loss (women lose on average 1 tooth per pregnancy over background rates) vision changes, gall bladder disease and stones, and so much more Thats why choice matters, its not just 9 months of inconvenience to save a life. Its life altering and life endangering to maybe, eventually create a life

[@l.n.3372]

​@dragonnightwing9082 It also changes your bone structure. Archeologist know when a female skeleton has given birth or not. The bones are different after childbirth.

[@keriannekerr1876]

@@dragonnightwing9082 Couldn't have phrased this better, so I'll steal your line. "Literally sacrificing your body for others to use for up to 1.5 years"

[@sangonomiyakokomi5764]

the fact that she's calling pregnancy a "small task" when their mother died giving birth to them only adds to how appalling it is to even say that

[@reneeharper84]

Sis is an abuse victim, and it is hard for them to break free. I understand this, and yet i don't know if i could forgive as easily as OP

[@hollyshaw-elliemae]

its so much harder than one thinks.

[@vanessaasman8047]

Oh boo hoo. Abuse doesnt excuse abusing others

[@tinyetoile5503]

If it were just about having a child with both their DNA, OP donating her eggs should be enough. The fact that they wanted more than that is massively entitled and a major red flag.

[@brendaamerica2926]

He wanted to have sex with her sister until she was pregnant

[@Sasu123456789x1]

Exactly 💯

[@girl1213]

He was an abuser. He was never seeking a family: he was seeking victims. He wasn't seeking companionship; he was seeking control. He got as far as he could with the sister, but his addiction to power wouldn't be satisfied because of her infertility meant an avenue of control was out of his grasp. So, he turned to OP and turned that need to control onto her, only find it's not as easy

[@megamiet1210]

This is ridiculous. OP was willing to donate her eggs, but that wasn't good enough??? Crazy people will do crazy things. Please keep yourself and your family safe. Her sister is in need of a psych evaluation immediately..

[@Sharpshooter3509]

Most likely the sister is an abuse victim and also the bil was the one who planted the seed of the idea into her. I’m pretty sure the bil just wanted to have sex with OP.

[@girl1213]

He wants sex That's why egg donation isn't good enough.

[@chloemae5618]

Dude he just wants her as a replacement for her twin sister. She can have kids so she isn't 'broken'. Absolutely disgusting.

[@aelwynwitch9460]

Yep. I'm a twin. So many 🚹 would date one of us and fetishized the twin part. It's so gross.

[@SandraNelson063]

Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

[@nancythane5672]

I've always loved that saying.

[@xOrionNebula2708]

dont let yourself drown just to keep someone else afloat? idk

[@KyleEvra-15]

I really like that.

[@tinahardman1525]

Women die during child birth! She's asking her sister risk serious health complications.

[@Endev_Prime]

By your logic, a husband asking to have a baby is a terrible husband who risks his wife's health because of serious health complications that are possible.

[@ritaerror7829]

@@Endev_Prime if wife is against it, then yeah. It's more likely that unwilling person, that have trauma with pregnancy (OP's mom) would be a lot more stressed, and affect the baby and her own health. Add to this complications like not liking doctors (again, OP's mom because doctors failed) and you have a recipe for a diseaster, while hubby can be just "hehe, cute baby" ;/ The risk might not be always big, but there always IS one, and should be discussed

[@RankinMsP]

​@@Endev_Prime precisely how you reached this conclusion must have given you vertigo. 🙄😆

[@oscillis]

​@@Endev_Prime *Bonk, you need to read and educate yourself in this comment section. Apparently researching on the internet is too hard for your monkey brain, but we're here to help. You need to communicate with your partner, EARLYYY, in the beginning of your relationship, so that you do not get into these kinds of situations. Yes, if you get into a relationship where your partner SPECIFICALLY SAYS "No, I will never have a baby." DONT FUCKING EXPECT THAT TO CHANGEEEEE (EVEN IF you get married, you absolute silly man.) Like, sure, things change over time- but if you REALLY want to base your whole life off of having a child, why the hell would you go after a girl that LITERALLY SAYS TO YOU that she never wants to have kids?? Or even a MAYBE. Learn your own values and rank them, make sure you're with the right person before committing to them. Having a situation like this is your own fault, and yes, sometimes things do happen that change the circumstances and makes it so that you arent able to have a child with that partner. And yes, asking for your partner to have a baby and it's really only one-sided is a pretty fucking douche move and actually is risking her health, but it is doable if you want. If this doesn't change your mindset, I feel sorry for whoever gets with you. Any pregnancy is risking health on the bearer, but it SHOULD ONLY be up to the bearer to make the decision to become pregnant due to the possible complications and possible death.

[@acid_tongue_4315]

A husband asking for a baby IS putting the wifes health at risk. Thats something society doesnt seem to acknowledge. The husband should NEVER be ASKING for a baby- he should ask the woman on her thoughts. If she doesnt want to, then he needs to deal with that or marry someone else. A child can kill an permanently alter women. Its not something to be asked for, but agreed ipon by both parties

[@GreysonAuctor]

I think its cute she thought she was being a burden and her BF basically said "NO! I want to keep you!" Very sweet.

[@yukishiro3287]

IKR. The contrast between her bf and BIL is so huge. Her bf is truly the MVP of the story and is such a green flag 😭

[@prestonestes1388]

Op should have been talking to a lawyer the minute her car was damaged and he followed her home, and certainly after he pulled her hair hard enough to bleed. Restraining Order.

[@Wanderingspectatorxoxo]

Op: *searches for apartments* Boyfriend/now fiance: “why are you doing that?” Op: “I feel like you need your space back Also boyfriend: “wtf?” *proposes*

[@M.W.2]

Let's gooooo he was caught by the police and his ass is getting divorced

[@ElizabethHamato-fz2jt]

THANK YOU JESUS!!!

[@Albme94]

@@ElizabethHamato-fz2jt jesus is a lawyer?

[@roxychowchow]

@@Albme94 yep because I once hired him to sue a plushie that killed another plushie

[@nancythane5672]

No. There's no proof that he will 'let gooooo.' She needs to BE SAFE~~NOT LET A PREDATOR ATTACK HER WHEN HER GUARD'S DOWN!

[@BettyCavalier-rs2ki]

​@@nancythane5672 😒

[@georgia3043]

If my partner threatened to SA my sister or anyone in my family forget going to the police he would go to the morgue and in pretty sure any normal person would feel similar so the fact that Op's sister isn't going to the police after her husband threatened to SA her own sister until she was pregnant and is still defending him made he feel horrified and i hope its a fake story

[@rulerchara3049]

Well time, you cant believe truth even if someone is showing it to you. Alot of things can make people like that, in her case it was the mental abuse, she believed that he would never do that. Remind me of when children do a heinous crime and the parents are unable to believe that their sweet child could do something like that.

[@Jess-ck7dp]

pretty certain it is - op has another story on their account where she claims to be 26 - she's 30 in this one, idk if its said in the video itself

[@ladylily]

1st thing every victim should know: The police don't GAF. Period. End of sentence. They don't care until physical contact is made, and even then, it has to be proven assault. The only thing they are good for is filing reports, and at least, that does help when it comes to restraining and/or protective orders.

[@tiziri450]

Tbh. Even if it does nothing it’s always good to make a police report. Because at least when it WILL be too late (for you or someone else) they already have a passive that will play against them

[@ladylily]

@@tiziri450 I know full well about opening a file, just like I know the file won't bring you back to life or resurrect the loved one they hurt for revenge.

[@jasmine22104]

i would state clearly " you touch me and i'll off you" to him and send that to the police and if the police ignore that and something happens ill use it in court and sue the justice system. .

[@nikibronson133]

It is crazy that they are blaming that woman for having a miscarriage or they were in a car accident as if she had any control over that

[@RichHurtz]

"Probably won't update anymore" I see sections for three more updates. ruh-roh.

[@onepieceisking5493]

For real, that usually means that the op is underestimating the situation and how it can still escalate or go on.

[@gottathinkupanewone]

Carrying a pregnancy and going through childbirth is NOT a "small favor." It's a life altering, body-changing and potentially psychologically damaging event.

[@sangonomiyakokomi5764]

even more appalling when you remember the OP literally stating that her mother died in childbirth

[@RubyGB]

Don't -- your sister and brother-in-law would make awful adoptive parents. As an adopted child with no family ties I know what it is to be loved unconditionally by my parents and I seen the misery friends patented under "conditions" have gone through. Unconditional love by heart trumps family only by blood every time.

[@rulerchara3049]

I really do love to see dumb comments like yours because that like rating a book after reading only the first chapter. Watch the entire video before commenting please, because she divorced the freak and was mentally abused by his family (like blaming her for the miscarriage caused by a car accident).

[@nock4811]

@@rulerchara3049 fr

[@oscillis]

@@rulerchara3049 Hello. I believe they can edit the videos to add more information, and this comment was a month ago. Along with a few other comments only talking about the beginning part. So I think your comment is even dumber... stop being a dick and randomly insulting people when you could be the odd one out, it makes you look silly and stupid at the same time. Thanks. ❤

[@jamessavent3636]

OP literally initially offered to donate her eggs to her identical twin sister. She could have literally taken the eggs and had IVF done to a surrogate which wasn't OP and it would share the sister's DNA because they are identical twins. This is so dumb

[@oscillis]

Definitely wouldn't have wanted a baby introduced to those two though

[@tsarinastevens9447]

That’s cause the stupid baby obsessed sister is brainwashed by her husband that clearly wants the op.

[@anavitoriafarion2621]

How the hell wasnt the police allowed to act because they "did not have proof"? OP had witnesses for a big part of his violent episodes, and the reasoning behind the attacks were clear. Even if he was using faking numbers and users, the content of the messages should be more than enought for them to at least investigate. The destruction of property as well, as there wasnt anyone else in OP's life who would want to harm her that way

[@biaostockioddziaawcy5735]

This story is so disturbing and heartbreaking! It’s one thing to be asked to help family in such an intense way, but the moment your boundaries were disrespected, it crossed a serious line. Your sister and brother-in-law’s desperation doesn’t excuse the pressure and stalking you’ve been subjected to-it’s terrifying and totally unacceptable. You have every right to say no, and your decision should be respected without question. I hope you stay safe, and that they come to understand how serious and personal this decision is. Thank you for sharing your story-it’s a powerful reminder of the importance of respecting boundaries, no matter how sensitive the situation.

[@whocares6698]

Glad the sister finally wised up but worried about how he will take the divorce. Hope they all stay safe.

[@msammy6914]

My god. I feel terrible for OP. Sounds like something straight out of a horror movie or an episode of Law and Order: SVU. I hope her BIL gets locked up for good!

[@virtualatheist]

In Dad or boyfriend's shoes, the first comment by BiL would have eared him a savage beating. Also, I wonder what we are paying the police for... Clearly, it's not to do their actual job! After all, if OP's sister could find out what he was up to and the police couldn't, wtf *do* they do!

[@j-ymoney5112]

“Not enough evidence” BULL 🐂 who else is doing that to her 💀 jeez

[@-Just._.Peachy]

Ya, the BIL and his family think women are only breeders. I hope the sister can get away and she can be deprogramed from those psychos ..

[@albertgongora6944]

The story of the definition why sometimes you got to buy a gun

[@BridgetKF]

That depends on what country you're in.

[@drevnikocur54]

And have access to abortion.

[@oscillis]

Sure, a fast way to end it all when things get tough. I doubt having a gun would have helped them, considering.... they were being followed. Depends on the legality.

[@Kinsfire]

I suspect that STBXBIL was contemplating kidnapping and raping her just to have that child he so desperately wanted with 'family' DNA. Sister's divorce should go well, what with the proof of stalking and such.

[@oscillis]

I bet that banning abortion will make this a lot easier.

[@madeleinalazaris8138]

I'm not excusing the sister bit she's going to need some serious therapy because not only was she suffering abuse from her husband but also her inlaws. Sister had been with the husband since college so goodness knows how long that abuse was happening. It really does take something monumental for the light to switch on. Also, there is an element of shame involved, the sister may well have felt ashamed that she was abused. Not too sure I'd have the sister living with me while the divorce and legal proceedings against ex BIL were happening but I wouldn't cut the sister off entirely. I'd forgive.

[@williamahrens5737]

"I live in the US, what law can help me?" Girl.... it's called the second amendment...

[@MarinanaBR]

Tho it depends on states cuz I know Florida has a stand your ground law but in other states she will have to prove she was in immediate danger and since the cops weren’t helping it would be hard as fuck, also I know for me personally no matter what I don’t want a gun in my home due to mental illness that runs in me and my family. So she might not have a firearm for reasons too.

[@nancythane5672]

​@@MarinanaBRHe has an arrest on file now, alongside his own wife's testimony against him. A decent lawyer will get her acquitted. A GOOD one will keep the DA from pressing charges.

[@MarinanaBR]

@@nancythane5672 that’s true finding a good lawyer will help tremendously. I’m glad she is safe and hopefully she doesn’t have to kill him to stay safe. It can be traumatizing and she already has enough trauma for this situation too

[@NadoriKaija]

Hearing this sent me into my own PTSD spiral. Had to backtrack the video a bit to re-listen to the part I zoned out at. I'm glad she's safer. They need a restraining order, and maybe to move from the area while he's not following her.

[@user-bi8ko7kc6h]

Pregnancy is a small task? She’s insane.

[@denizkaragullu6239]

The way her sister and the police keeps failing her...

[@bloodyneptune]

I kinda love the dad being like "OK, we need to solve this huge surrogacy issue before the game"

[@Minty-cs7br]

This is another level of insanity

[@Zarai_Numbers]

Why is she letting her sister live with her? Why can't she stay with her dad?

[@silentmuse6660]

I would assume it's part the sister wanting to make up for everything, and part that the (soon to be ex)BIL was probably ordered to stay away from Op or more charges would be put against him, so the sister has some level legal protection while staying with Op.

[@cosmickel]

RIGHT!!!??? I would NOT feel safe with living sith someone who was sitting on evidence because they had to choose between SAVING MYLIFE and saving their abuisve stalker husband. I do genuinely hope the sister gets the appropriate help to unpack all that but shed HAVE to stay with mydad. What happens if the sister invites the husband over if charges arent pressed or if hes easily bailed out????? She let him keep harassing OP for WEEKS after the hair pulling incident!!!! Whynwould you trust her so easily to be around you ??

[@carolrondou6161]

Don't let her move in. She will let her husband into OP's house to SA her. Second Amendment solution.

[@oscillis]

@cosmickel I wouldn't trust anyone to be around you either.

[@JadaCostello0316]

The brother in law is more obsessed with getting her pregnant than having a baby with the sister. The entire situation could have been avoided had they hired a surrogate. Pregnancy is not an easy task, you definitely should pay someone who wants to do it and can successfully carry a baby to full-term.

[@cathunter27]

That guy is insane. Definitely not the type to be a father. If he's doing this to the woman he supposedly loves and to her family, he might be abusive to the kid. Send that crazy psycho to prison for life!

[@Krillos]

I read this story before, minus the three new updates, and I just knew this story will be updated soon enough from what I read about the BIL… 😅

[@msthang5366]

The father is WEAK!!! One man is terrorizing his daughters and all he can say is stop showing her the text messages.

[@oscillis]

Yup. Didn't even protect his daughter from getting abused and manipulated for seven years, till it escalated to this point.

[@richardrahl7546]

Sicko. I hope he gets locked up as long as possible. On the other hand, OP's partner is genuinely great.

[@Nahhreally]

“My BIL is stalking me until he can get me pregnant” WHAT

[@ladylizifer]

I still don't understand how Foster Care isnt an option here. There are millions of reported cases of infertile families adopting or opening their home to foster care only to get pregnant shortly after, and naturally too. Theres something about being thrown into the parental position that rewires the body and mind and makes it possible to get pregnant. I've literally seen it, woman only had 1 set of eggs after an accident, tried for years. She fostered 3 kids for a couple of months and BAM, preggers.

[@ritaerror7829]

It's not a common fact (and seems pretty outlandish, no offense) Also, the BIL is clearly not in the right mind. I don't know if it's family values or whatever, but seeing misscariage as murder, and thinking he's entitled to his wife's sister isn't normal. Maybe they would pretend for a while, but no child should be near man like that

[@draconicfeline6177]

I wouldn't want either one to breed

[@oscillis]

Yeah, it's like what pro-lifers always say. "We'll foster all the unwanted kids", but there will be millions. So much abuse. So stupid that people think bringing more kids into this world will be helpful for them, the kids are just going to grow up unwanted and not properly educated because foster centers are more often than not, really horrible and detrimental to their health. God, it's like putting puppies out in a fence so that potential adopters can come and buy them... Can believe the pain it'll cause more than if they were aborted before their brains developed, but I'm sure many people don't think that far.

[@Lisa.IlikefnafOk.]

Ok so its your body. You are the one to carry, so you decide, you don’t even HAVE to justify, you can firmly say " No. "

[@HeyitsVicc]

I would’ve pressed charges after the car incident!

[@grobanite4ever85]

Restraing order is needed and a jail term for BIL

[@blvdurocher3255]

In a firm believer that our dna chooses which dna were willing to connect with. Like ive known some women and even read up in similar stories that women or even men will have partners for long time and unable to have any child together and once they leave those oartbers theyre able to concieve. Its mindblowing. Theres alot more i believe but i won't get into it.

[@jasmineandstewie1271]

I believe it too, mainly because it happened to me. Was with my ex husband for 6 years. Tried for 6 years and nothing. He was an abusive alcoholic gambler. Would lie to avoid work. After 3 years with my current husband, I went off birth control and fell pregnant 3 months later. My current husband rarely drinks and never gambles. He also works hard. And doesn't lie.

[@PunkyPrincessPop]

I’m actually interested in what else you believe now…🤔

[@oscillis]

@@jasmineandstewie1271 I'm glad you're with someone better now.

[@Starchild-1116]

He just wanted to sleep with the sister 🤦‍♀️

[@draconicfeline6177]

Not sleep with - SA. He's an entitled prick and we're going to see a resurgence of them. It's going to be hell. Decades of hell.

[@LindCreations]

One of the requirements of being a surrogate in most places worldwide is to have gone through at least *one healthy pregnancy and birth with no complications*. A requirent that OP clearly doesn't meet.

[@RedditFamilyyyTales]

This is such a heartbreaking and complex situation. I can't imagine the emotional toll it's taking on you, especially with the added pressure and the safety concerns. You’ve shown incredible strength in standing your ground, even when faced with so much opposition from your sister and her husband. You’re not wrong for prioritizing your boundaries and well-being. It’s clear you care deeply about your sister, but her husband’s behavior is extremely concerning and completely out of line. I hope the authorities take your situation seriously and provide the protection you deserve. Sending you strength and support-you’ve been so brave!

[@HistoriasEnLaVida68]

That’s an incredibly disturbing situation-stay safe and protect your boundaries 🚨

[@arnabst159]

a baby wont fix this, a restraining order will

[@merykhan97]

That sister is an accomplice in her husband's behavior. She enabled his actions till the very end.

[@tektonik4616]

OP could have gotten a restraining order much sooner... it wouldn't have done much to really stop him besides give a paper to say that she doesn't want him near her... but even just that paper trail would have helped a bit in ensuring BIL would get into some trouble for repeatedly breaking it

[@justmepercy720]

Just how the OP would get pregnant is a moot point. Hopefully not the traditional way. Yikes! What a frightful thought. Especially with that particular BIL. Erik.

[@littlekitsune1]

Not only does her sister sound unfit to be a parent, the BIL needs jail time at minimum.

[@soytuabuela54]

He is so evil. I wish he stayed in jail forever. Seems like she forgived her sister, i dont know if i could.

[@RavenSutcliffe]

I'm only halfway through and thinking... If DNA was the only reason, OP has offered her eggs. Afaik that would be enough, if they get another surrogate, to have a kid with the DNA they want, no? I think BIL has some weird obsession with seeing either his wife or a copy of her being pregnant

[@oscillis]

Manipulation does some spooky shit to what you think and what you thought you knew.

[@theaceguitarist]

I really want to highlight 17:08 because here’s how I imagine this going down; OP’s boyfriend: why are you looking at apartments?? OP: I just… I feel like I’m always in your space, and I’m not sure you want me here, and- Boyfriend: Boyfriend: so Boyfriend, pulling out a ring: let me settle THAT right now-

[@yolandasitembile3868]

America is the pits, the police doing nothing is crazy. I'm in South Africa, someone broke into my home while I was home alone and the police arrived in 10 minutes (I live in the hood) and even checked on me the next day to see if I was okay.

[@hobisoon]

I hope she ditches her sister the minute all of this is over

[@aaliyahlewis-8213]

OK, so I just looked this up on the web what your sister’s husband is doing is actually against the law and United States, there is a extreme law of harassment texting and stalking is a serious felony Only that is, if he also assault you made you believe that should be enough evidence for cops to realize that he did that they also can get fingerprints from the nails or from the fabric Like, what is the United States cops doing like step up do your job?!

[@aphreyst4551]

This story is fake, the cops would have taken her case after her getting battered with witnesses at the restaurant.

[@gothcsm]

@@aphreyst4551 You have way too much faith in American cops. Go take a look at statistics about how often police are actually useful and you’ll realize just how true this story could be.

[@oscillis]

@@aphreyst4551 Yeah, one incident of the cops not doing anything is enough to say the story is fake... Man, I wonder what happened to those people who tried to tell their story and got shut up by people like you thinking they had all the power in the world to decide if a story was fake or not.

[@stolenart9290]

The entire story can be completely fake but the part of not getting any help from the police is the most believable.

[@marzeneg]

Small task?! Dawg it takes 9 months and loads of pain 😭

[@0Sarenity0]

This story just escalates and escalates to the point of insanity

[@RhythmShorts]

Can I just say, the dad apologising to the sister because he thought he went wrong somewhere in raising her because she was willingly staying with an awful man despite him showing her and OP that they deserve better, broke my heart. I can't imagine being a single father and raising your daughters to know how they shoukd be treated, just to see both of them being abused by one dude with an obvious fetish

[@TEM348]

I would’ve just told them I’m infertile they would’ve backed off

[@TwistedTalesDose]

It’s horrifying that he’d blame his own wife for something she had no control over and was a victim of. Honestly, it feels like the second she couldn’t have kids, he checked out emotionally and started seeing OP as a replacement. This isn’t just about surrogacy-he seems to want OP to step in, replace his wife entirely, and churn out babies like she’s some kind of machine. Disgusting behavior.

[@nikibronson133]

Twins aren’t actually 100% actually the same. This is a common myth

[@LeilaSimpson-v8q]

The police didn’t help after he broke into the apartment. What the heck?

[@seeker4924]

"Until he acts on it, nothing can be done." Even if he DOES act on it, nothing will be done. 🤦

[@jasmine22104]

small task? pregnancy can literally ruin your body. My grandma had to have severe bladder surgery after my mom was born. My sister/mom and grandma all can't hold their bladder anymore. My sister had a c section and that tears through the muscle in your abdominal wall and it is very hard to regain any form of shape there. Also police are useless. Men can threaten to assault a women but god forbid she threatens to defend herself OR actually does it. well let's just say you have a higher chance of beating a redrum rap rather than him getting arrested for S/a. hell they might even care more about the women threatening a man to defend herself than the man threatening to commit s/a. Because statistically only 7 in 1000 reypes lead to conviction.

[@Follow_My_Footsteps555]

Just tell them you got an operation and now you cannot have a baby

[@PhoenixFires9]

This is just hitting all my ‘creepy and wrong buttons’ so hard.

[@beepbeep8852]

Your sister did a lot better at the end- she was 100% in an abusive relationship. The husband needs to be jailed

[@tracynorth2275]

Pregnancy is absolutely not a small task.

[@sylvesterthekiibokinnie1637]

Surrogacy is not allowed for people with no children, so????? How is that selfish

[@katherinehutton9870]

Do you know what surrogacy is? The women who will become pregnant with the baby needs to have had a baby. Not the women who can't have children but will raise the baby. The reason is you do not know how they will be during the pregnancy. It is I higher risks carry a a baby that's been implanted. To women and child, if the women has had a child those risk go down. All the would have to do is find any women willing and who has had a child. It dies not prevent the couple from that route. The BIL is just fixated on it having to be her.

[@emoneestep]

@@katherinehutton9870That’s not what the OP comment meant. If you are doing surrogacy through a clinic, they typically require the woman who is volunteering herself as a surrogate to have been pregnant before. Aka, the clinic wants proof that the surrogate can carry a child to term before moving forward with the procedure. The OP in the story has never been pregnant and has no children, meaning a clinic would not likely approve her for surrogacy even if she wanted to do it.

[@Animefreak-rb3vy]

The fact that its so hard to get a dangerous situation like this to be taken seriously never stops making my blood boil. How many lives could have been saved if their concerns were taken seriously?

[@CBNM1]

The sister is horrible she could got op killed.

[@FeyPax]

Pregnancy is beautiful but it also permanently changes your body. I want kids but I’ll never be a surrogate. I was kids but I’m pro choice. No one should carry a pregnancy they don’t want. There’s more than enough kids in the world who need homes. If you really want a kid, you’d find a way to adopt or be apart of a program where you help children.

[@FeyPax]

Also OP’s sister needs to get out of that marriage. My fiancé would love to have kids with me but would gladly adopt or even have no kids if it just wasn’t in the cards for us. Like wow what an asshole. If you love your spouse, you love them for the whole package, not just for something they can give you.

[@pokefan213]

hey if this particular story DOES get updated again can anyone lemme know, I'll leave my comment so folks can check the replies if anyone tells whether there's an update or not but the cops BETTER do something to the soon-to-be-Ex BIL

[@levmelone32]

me omg this was crazy bro.

[@Skylaramix]

Pretty sure this is fake AI bullshit. It has no trace anywhere on Reddit. So it’s most likely made up

[@Nezuko_Kamado2342]

I feel bad for the sister, but that doesn't excuses her actions to OP

[@heatherwicker9990]

She needs to run. Anyone who accuses someone of murdering a child due to a miscarriage is so horrid. The sister obviously wanted a kid and his family is as nuts as him. 😳

[@reginafarley1325]

S1. Your bil is a creep who has a "I got to have s*x with twin sisters mentality. He's telling her it'll be cheaper to force himself on you & she doesn't care if he hurts you as long as she gets kids out of you. I suggest you go ahead with the egg retrieval/donation if you're comfortable doing so. Then give info to sis & tell her you did it cause you don't want kids & you had your tubes tied right after egg retrieval. Later on if you decide to have kids, just say procedure reversed itself & you're so shocked about being a mom. Good luck

[@trinalifehappens49]

Let us know what happens after Court and the consequences to BIL

[@GillianBergh]

Your sister is mad in wanting to have a baby with a man who calls her a murderer for losing her baby when she's been in a car accident. No child deserves to have him as a father.

[@oscillis]

That was after many years of being manipulated by that dude, but I guess most people in this comment section can't use their brain. Faith for humanity really sucks looking through these comments.

[@tigermagda]

Why a restraining order didn't come to pass?

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

good for the sister finally following the crazy..but risky as well. at least that sorted out.