I'm glad that I was born, raised and live in a community where there is no case of dowry at all. We are taught that a girl should be hardworking to be successfull and independent one day.
@Owlet..2 жыл бұрын
Same here, in my community there’s no system of dowry.
@nengminchongkuki49232 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@Mafavssz Жыл бұрын
Which is your community🤩?
@priyanshukhede9593 Жыл бұрын
What will you do if she gives divorce in future and take compensation, kids and ask for alimony including fact she is unemployed. Another case she is studying. You paid all of her educational expenses now after getting everything you found that she was cheating with you. Her family also used you as source of money. You can't do anything. You lost everything. I will take dowry from a women if she is unemployed or studying. I don't care what law says or what people says. I have to adopt according to my current environment. Law is not changing with time we have to change. I am not fool who will be emotional enough to be fooled by so called feminist. No body will help you if you will stuck . If you think I am stupid or no girl will marry me than it's your point of view. I saw people suffering. It is not about something like only money money targetting mindset. Or it is buisness but I would be able to compensate financial problems atleast. But can't time and emotions. Emotions are temporary, they are changing then and now. Ask people who suffered. Always remember law is no equal be careful if you are man
@Trust-z9v Жыл бұрын
Don't forget 90% of dowry case are false in India
@indiawalla89602 жыл бұрын
I refused my dowry. My father never spoke to me again. It was the best thing I ever did. I 've never been happier( I've 3 wonderful children).
@sudarshant.e.46002 жыл бұрын
Very good my friend
@kitchenandgardener2 жыл бұрын
I respect you sir
@tesudarshan-indianforeigns9362 жыл бұрын
Ignore your parents mY friend they don't know the happiness and reality of life
@CSisekaiLife2 жыл бұрын
Money is need for living,not much. Dowry concept is actually from british. In India we have concept like when a girl is giving birth That time they need money for girl and child, for their well being by family. Until the children grown their level.
@indiawalla89602 жыл бұрын
@@CSisekaiLife No, no . Dowry , caste , racism and apartheid are Indian (hindu) concepts. In my village , caste, dowry, racism and apartheid are still practiced. There are no British here just Indians. The British had nothing to do with dowry , caste, racism or apartheid. In UK one can live anywhere , no caste and racism is a criminal offence unlike in our India. I treat every Indian as an equal and always will.
@sarbikbanerjee77212 жыл бұрын
Finally a new type of story as well as the girl took a strong stand instead of forgiving the guys and getting married .
@hephzihephzi70302 жыл бұрын
Brave woman! It's very true that after giving all her demands the mother in law is not going to keep her happy. It's obvious in her words and actions. If she's good, she would have not asked for dowry. Nice message 👏👏
@joyfulsoul45372 жыл бұрын
Wish every girl had the courage to do so. Romio Singha is absolutely correct. There is no dowry system in North East India. I am from Nagaland and the men don't sell themselves here.
@PriyankaPandey-hv4jv2 жыл бұрын
In Andhrapradesh huge dowry demand is still in practice.
@joyfulsoul45372 жыл бұрын
@@PriyankaPandey-hv4jv The girls should say no to the marriage, How can anyone fall in love with the person who asks money from her own family to marry her? Feels kind of selfish to me.
@sanjana20852 жыл бұрын
I think evry girl will do the same thing shown in the video becuz noone wants to spoil there life in this date....nd if the mother' in laws behaviour is like this wht would happen after marriage 😂🖕 f*ck of to this kind of family i would give a slap if i was in place of her nd thn dhka jata
@debanjanabhattacharya32042 жыл бұрын
True.
@jayaratnam5992 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️
@rkpurple19232 жыл бұрын
I've rejected a match 2weeks before as they demanded dowry. The guy was pin drop silence when the whole dowry discussion was happening. This was the first red flag for me. After one week his family called and asked for more money. My father said, he doesn't have it. Father asked the guy why are you asking after all the discussion was over. and the guy said that their family doesn't have much money for the marriage and he supported his family for asking more money. Me and family was scared that before marriage they're demanding money won't they ask after the marriage?? So me and my family called off this match. I'm so relieved that this match didn't move forward.
@gundasritha20232 жыл бұрын
Very good. Don't marry hime
@rkpurple19232 жыл бұрын
@@shubhamgarg5519 wow the stereotypical thoughts... I'm a well settled software engineer who earns more than him and have more knowledge than him in terms of social awareness. They're poor than we're. I'm saying all this just because you've a very vayyadh soch.
@rkpurple19232 жыл бұрын
@@shubhamgarg5519 oh and not to forget he asked if i can come to US. I said I want to be in India only near our families. I feel sorry for you as you met the wrong girls or your thought itself is wrong 😊
@rkpurple19232 жыл бұрын
@@shubhamgarg5519 😂😂😂😂
@indiawalla89602 жыл бұрын
Superb, don't marry beggars. Once a beggar always a beggar.
@alugoluaparna41422 жыл бұрын
Girls should be brought up in such a way that they stand against such stupid formalities. But unfortunately many parents teach their daughter to always be soft, be kind, be obedient irrespective of the situation with the inlaws. They should also tell their daughter to protect her self respect and dignity.
@nbeu242 жыл бұрын
I was starting to like your comment but the more I read it the more it hurt me tbh and it hurt me even more because it's coming from a woman who I think among all the people understands the situation better. Why do you think the problem lies with the girl and her family? It's so simple and I am always surprised people don't get it. Groom and their families need to learn to stay happy with what they earn and what they have, if they want more, they need to work hard not 'beg' hard.
@solihacs37862 жыл бұрын
You are right and parents should teach their son to be independent rather than begging for mon ey
@sureshtripathi72 жыл бұрын
@@solihacs3786 ironic.
@joyfulsoul45372 жыл бұрын
Girls can be bought up to be soft, loving caring and obedient. They can also taught to stand up for themselves as needed.
@madhusmitasethi32392 жыл бұрын
True
@goldikumari66172 жыл бұрын
Today we need to stand against dowry system together..... salute this girl's courage.
@PriyankaPandey-hv4jv2 жыл бұрын
My husband did not take single rupee dowry. Inspite of my health issues he accepted me as I am. I am lucky. Thank you God.
@kumareshbabu79512 жыл бұрын
You're Lucky 🙂
@aaisha082 жыл бұрын
Alhamdulillah sis......but am unlucky...prayer for me inshallah 👍
@cp-zh3wm2 жыл бұрын
Gahna bhi chahiye Mc sex worker ko bhi fokat ka paisa lene me sharam aati h tum jaise chhinro ko nahi aati , mard apni property share kare thik, lekin papa apne pari ko 10% bhi de de to bawal, 1 lakh dene ki jinki aukat nahi vo 10 lakh alimony mangate upar se maintenance alag se, 1 hazar jinki maintenance nahi vo 1 lakh maintenance ka mangate hai aukat 1 hazar kamane ki bhi nahi jin aurto ki unko nahi pata mard 50 hazar kaise kamata h badi besharmi se fokat me bed garam karke paisa lene ko haw bolte sharam nahi aati mc chhinre dkbossdk chadrmod, ladki ko uske biological properties me hissa milna chahiye jaa ki artificial riste me People like you i promote and will take dowry a lot a lot , mardo ki sunvai kaha h, papa apne pari ko uski biological genetical property me hissa nahi denge, ladka ka jindagi buar padhe aur jab kamane lage to zindagi bhar mauj karne vale aurte aakr aadha loot leti h, mard chahkr bhi kuchh nahu kar sakta, so dowry haq hai mardo ka har tarah se, dowry is k ke insurance policy,
@joyfulsoul45372 жыл бұрын
Good for you. We need more men like him. May God bless you both. Wish you all the best.
@saswatapaladhi46082 жыл бұрын
+1 My father
@mehakkawoosa67432 жыл бұрын
Every bride should have courage just like hers .. toh kitne dulhano ki jaan bach jayegi ..
@MK-xj2uu2 жыл бұрын
very gud
@madhusmitasethi32392 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@RONIT84811 ай бұрын
THEN STOP CHOOSING MAN DEPEND ON THIER INCOME , HOUSE,
@avanikasharma34075 ай бұрын
@@RONIT848 they have to do it because of their poor economic conditions
@RONIT8485 ай бұрын
@@avanikasharma3407 STOP ASKING MONEY FROM MAN NO ALIMONY NO EXPENSES PROBLEM SOLVE
@vishnusudharshan44532 жыл бұрын
Everyone should raise the voice against the dowry !!!!... Don't seek the alliance for your daughters who is asking for the dowry !!!
@ltp36642 жыл бұрын
But what if the girl stays at home I dont know what to do if my daughter does not get married.
@vishnusudharshan44532 жыл бұрын
@@ltp3664 Fix the alliance with the family who doesn't ask for the dowry !!!
@ranibhatia7482 жыл бұрын
Fir to kabhi nhi hogi shaadi 😅🤐😠
@shakaibhusainsiddiqui2 жыл бұрын
@@ltp3664 marriage is not necessary
@RONIT84811 ай бұрын
THEN STOP ASKING MAN FOR MONEY AND HOUSE
@rajthakur569422 жыл бұрын
Very real and touchable story..those who have daughter only they understand this video content
@jyotikulkarni26692 жыл бұрын
Actually I feel what you do returns back . My father didn't take any thing for my brother 40 yrs ago n was just the best . It returned back later yrs after when my father in law did the same . He said v have had our daughter married n understand things . V don't want anything just a marriage as you have decided for your daughter . N had simple but elegant marriage . My parents shared the best relationship with my bhabhi s family . They were the strength to them and I too got it from my side . My father n father in law were the best of friends . Would enjoy each other help each other n every way n from a distance it was just like two lost old school friends . Meeting again . Parents must understand . What is it to be a daughter s father also .
@shanesundram40182 жыл бұрын
Demanding for dowry has been a norm. May this story be a wake up call for all. SAY NO TO DOWRY🙏🙏
@chinmayav26522 жыл бұрын
@Diganta 🤔 what a logic 👏🏻
@chinmayav26522 жыл бұрын
@Diganta what why not?
@pcy61412 жыл бұрын
@Diganta was there any person killed for not having a govt job? But there are tons os dowry deaths first understand difference between requirement and exploitation...men like you are shame to this country better you guys are vanished for this country to develop
@anewlife58462 жыл бұрын
Why is it necessary for people to get married? Late Lata Mangeshkar, Mayawati, Mamta Banerjee, Late Jayalalithaa, Ratan Tata, Late Abdul Kalam etc, all of them are single and childfree.
@WR-NC-ASPL2 жыл бұрын
Say no to gold digging women also
@sunitajaiswal88142 жыл бұрын
A parent who is giving her girl child is only so precious n valuable that no one should demand for anything els...say no to dowry in any case.
@hhhhh125522 жыл бұрын
First of all it is not dowry it is a fees paid to groom by bride for fulfilling her needs. He deserves that fees because after all he had put a lot of efforts in getting the govt job. And that girl in free without doing any effort would get access to all the assets which primarily belongs to groom and even the salary of husband who does govt job. Think of the effort he had put for getting govt job. He deserves that fees which you called dowry. If she dont want to give money she can marry a person whose income is 20k or 25k. Why was she approaching the guy who is beyond her and her's family level. Because marriage should be done between the same level. And after all it is a one time fees to keep their daughter happy.
@sunitajaiswal88142 жыл бұрын
@@hhhhh12552 just bcoz he doing government job ...he will take money so called fee for his efforts i.e govt job... After reaching at such level of govt . employe...still he has to take dowry or wt u call to hide it as fee ...than wt d use of reaching at that level ... A girl also spend alot to b educated n than after she support boys family n children ... without making any excuses n without getting tired... The only point I want to make clear is ...being human if u can reach at such gud position than wt d need of taking anything els from bride side...n bride her self is precious n valuable...that why girls are called Lakshmi... So instead of thinking to take dowry just focus on how to respect her n her fmly by supporting by not taking dowry ... N last but not d least ...one day u might also have a girl child than will u agree to give dowry...n will u b cnfrm that after giving dowry ...she n her life is in gud hand??? It's easy to give lecture but when it comes to self u are speechless...so pls ...it's only request to not to take or give dowry...
@hhhhh125522 жыл бұрын
@@sunitajaiswal8814 You mistook my point. I believe in giving dowry not taking. We ourself had given 30lakh dowry in my sister's wedding. But we are not willing to take anything in my marriage. Because we don't believe in taking money from woman because in my opinion it is shameful for man to take woman's money. I have belief in myself I dont need girl's money. But willing to give dowry in our case. Because we dont want to let ourself down in any case. I myself a govt job guy joined 6 months before. I need no money from girls side but I will give more money when a girl will go from my house. In both matters I would like to be on the top. My parents are also on govt service my mother too. I and my father had never asked for a single penny from my mother because it is shameful for a guy to ask for money from a girl. I had never taken any money from my mom. So actually my concept is I will not allow my wife to work then only she would be under my control. In my opinion taking dowry is nonsense but giving is superiority.
@sunitajaiswal88142 жыл бұрын
@@hhhhh12552 both giving and taking dowry is same thing ...by giving dowry we jst increasing the mentality of taking dowry...n how by giving one can become superior...??? One can become superior by standing in equall level and supporting each other feeling emotions family... And by not letting a woman work...is it right to control her life n indipendency??? Did u even control ur sister life d same??? If not than how could u think to control other girl life...n if yes u controlled ur sister life also than its really ashamed to say being a man of today's generation still ur thot r of old generation... Not only u but I think all have to change their mind setup that by not letting wrk u could control her...but u shud b proud that girl today standing in support of fmly n husband. In today all field girls r going grt n indipendentlly... I think by giving dowry n by not letting girl to wrk u can't b superior...but for being superior first change ur thot ...as all whether boy or girl both have ryt of indipendency... N Mr...i commented on general but u r taking it personally...n by the way I m not interested in ur personal views...n comment as i don't bother the way u ruin ur or others life...so pls dnt comments on my comment. I m jst against dowry as if u look history n even present many women r still suffering coz of this... So guys... overall...both giving n taking dowry is punishable n yes it's ashamed too... So all in ur hand in which category u fall...
@Traumatised3112 жыл бұрын
@@hhhhh12552 Dutchess Katherine got married to prince william without any dowry That's it If u justify dowry u justify harassment
@reetajoseph62762 жыл бұрын
Dowry a curse to the society.... Nicely featured everyone played their character well. Hats off to all the team workers
@truth6402 жыл бұрын
Dowry is not a curse it is free choice of males .Hypocrisy of feminist is curse on socity which says that girl choosing rich boy is right.boy choosing girl giving dowry is wrong.
@truth6402 жыл бұрын
@Dibya Mahapatra so isme kya ladka ladki ko kharid raha hai?itnee foolishness wali and hypocrite bat na karo.jab ladki ko rich husband chahiye tab? Aur agar koi khrid bhi raha hai to tab bhi free choice hai. If girl not agree to dowry refuse .but why you call boys freedom wrong. Just stop hypocrisy.
@truth6402 жыл бұрын
@Dibya Mahapatra ladke ko bechna nahi hai isme pahlee bat . Aur ladki kharidte hai aur ladka bechte hai ye dono contradictory statement hai.. Ab ladki ko rich husband chahiye to kya wo ladki bechna hai? Accha batao will girls marry a unemployed male with zero assets?
@truth6402 жыл бұрын
@Dibya Mahapatra stop hypocrisy .If you think that girls can choose rich husbands with good income and/or property but boys can not say that girl should also bring in dowry .than cleary it is anti justice and honesty. No body is compelling.
@truth6402 жыл бұрын
@Dibya Mahapatra but is there law which bars girls from choosing rich husbands? No but dowry prohibition act is there. And there is freedom of choice of girl .so similar for boys what one want
@rimapandit48832 жыл бұрын
Money never brings happiness.... Daughters r PRICELESS... Don't take, don't give dowry 🙏🏼🙏🏼
@monitadhara75192 жыл бұрын
Being unmarried for lifetime is better than Marriage with like this begger and his family... 🙂
@dds62342 жыл бұрын
Well said.. 👍
@mamtamehra2572 жыл бұрын
No because dowry ke liye kal Ko usko maar bhi sakte hai,so it's better ki unmarried and financially independent raha jaaye.
@lishaleo52512 жыл бұрын
True
@whataatk2 жыл бұрын
Sab se badi bigger women hote jo alimony leti hai half property chahiye half salary chahiye bikhari kahein ke
@tinakumar61412 жыл бұрын
I agree totally
@deepdescribes27742 жыл бұрын
I m proud to born in Assam & northeast India where no dowry system exists..Infact some tribes of northeast follow matrilineal society..
@riscnx8 ай бұрын
So you just kick you kids away once they are married... what happens to inherited wealth, you give no share of it to your daughter? "matrilineal society" That's why they are Tribal!
@dilyaTebya7 ай бұрын
@@riscnxlols you know with dowry only the mother in law and her son will enjoy it 😂
@TwiceSanaswifeyyy7 күн бұрын
@@riscnx🤡
@railfanjosee15322 жыл бұрын
Best video till now Nijo SIr.. This dowry thing should be stopped for all.. We all are working and we all are standing on our legs.. No need to ask anything from anyone when u are capable to do anything..
@romiosingha69932 жыл бұрын
In our North East India dowry system is ban ...kuch log lete hai but in our North East India dowry lene walo ko bikhari samjhte hai
@paragchandra82192 жыл бұрын
In our North India especially in Punjab region unfortunately Dowry is necessary otherwise Groom's family call them Bhookha nanga weather they themself are begging for dowry and that is reality
@pragyapandey68432 жыл бұрын
That's great agar har ladki apne aap me saksham hogi to kisi baap ko nhi jhukna padega dahej lobhiyo ke aage.
@romiosingha69932 жыл бұрын
@@pragyapandey6843 ma'am or sister dowry kiu de .....jab ekk ladki apne family ko chhor ke pure zindagi ke liye dusre jage life jine ayihe....or app ko Kya bhado sa hai dowry dene ke bat ladki khus rahi gi ush ghar main ....kuch na kuch kami nikalke tanne marenge.......in our North East India Jo hum pyar se dete uttana leta hai unlogo ka hak nahi mange ka...are hamari Didi or Jo bahan hai woh mang Shakti not uska sashural wale
@romiosingha69932 жыл бұрын
@@paragchandra8219 Sach main yeh kab khatam hoga pata nahi
@karunakarburugu70332 жыл бұрын
Oh man in AP or Telangana, dowry is like a burden to bride's father, demand is in tens of lakhs or even crores if the groom is working in abroad
@faridakhan36872 жыл бұрын
I am thankful to all those people who left me in bad times Because he believed that I could deal with the problems alone.
@faridakhan36872 жыл бұрын
For the sake of victory, only passion is needed, blood that boils, This sky will also come on the ground, just intentions need the buzz of victory..
@minalvaishnav58112 жыл бұрын
I too got married without dowry. It's been 8 years to my marriage, and have never ever regret my decision.
@madcapprof2 жыл бұрын
Any guy who demands dowry from the bride's family or is silent when his family demands dowry is a spineless beggar. He does not have self-respect. Any girl who demands that the groom should own a house, or have a 'well-paying' job is an opportunistic gold digger, who wants to free-load on the groom's earnings. No self respect there too.
@athribhat22432 жыл бұрын
💯
@kopparapuravi2 жыл бұрын
Superr bro ... best words u covered from both sides.
@Traumatised3112 жыл бұрын
But any bride whos an opportuniies wants best for her n her kids He already has it
@Traumatised3112 жыл бұрын
Gold digger word isn't real Women will marry whoever they can Men also same
@madcapprof2 жыл бұрын
@ashish kumar Let me make this really short. I'm against the concept of the bride's father paying dowry, in spite of the fact that I have already been made to pay alimony.
@madhulatha29892 жыл бұрын
Thank god for not giving me synch an insane family in my life .. but lot of the girls are suffering from this type of situation.. hope every girl should get such a courage to handle her life.
@keralasnackbox43282 жыл бұрын
I wish I got a father who supported me like this ... Even till now I am suffering coz I was married without dowry
@joyfulsoul45372 жыл бұрын
Please don't blame your father 😂, he did whatever he could or would for you. It's high time you do something for yourself. No offense please...
@darshaniemohamed71212 жыл бұрын
Love At all time say a heart prayer and you got to stand up for yourself with strength don't be sacred speak up you will feel good to and I know it not always ease to stand up and speaks against this crap but we live in 2022 don't let Noone offense you stand up love women in India need to be tough rough around society you live your life happy ok ❤ respect to all women in India
@Here_we_go..5572 жыл бұрын
Go and take divorce
@souvikbisi68872 жыл бұрын
Hats off madam hats off great video thank you nijo sir.
@peggystarr47572 жыл бұрын
A terrific video Nijo. I anxiously look for your new videos when they come out
@daoemi97502 жыл бұрын
Great job, didi. People like you will help bring a Wonderful community... 👍🙌
@ericgariba3420 Жыл бұрын
*Always Remember that Dowry is very Big Crime and to give and take Dowry is also Crime and it is very necessary to raise the voice against this Crime*
@abdullahmia2367 Жыл бұрын
Hi What a good example ❤❤❤ Keep it up Thanks God in Islaam we don't have such things like this ❤❤❤❤ From Africa 😊
@faridakhan36872 жыл бұрын
Only passion is needed for victory, such blood is needed to boil, This sky will also come on the ground, just intentions need the buzz of victory..
@birenbose89452 жыл бұрын
Excellent moral to the society. Actors and actresses faced the camera boldly, Dialogue delivery amazing. Become up with more short videos.👍
@aswathiashokan24442 жыл бұрын
Good message to all Never ask or hurt any girls for dowry Rules have changed 😊😊😊😊
@smartcomediez86292 жыл бұрын
Fantastic by shraddha didi...a giant slap to those who demands dowry
@vineelakaja31382 жыл бұрын
Now a day's the groom family required a girl with higher education, good family ground, Job holder with high salary, Maid who can do cooking, house chores and take care of in-laws and dowry with all the packages then why can't bride family except the good salary from the groom. Change should come from both sides not only from side, If a boy expecting his wife have to takecare of his parents and siblings then he have to takecare of her parents, they have share there works, chores and responsibilities, and have to understand each other should respect each opinions and interests. And majorly parents stop checking these stupid horoscopes for your son's instead of that first of check if the bride and groom have compatibility or liked each other or have understanding for each other.
@vidyakatthi85392 жыл бұрын
I just got goosebumps same my feeling too help full vedio.thanks for giving such message to the society.👏👏👏👏👏
@kazmeensayyed30682 жыл бұрын
Refusing a dowry is the best thing one can ever do to keep yourself happy and peaceful throughout your life.
@spellcheck53932 жыл бұрын
@ARUL TA yep it's better to stay alone than bhikaris
@priyanshukhede9593 Жыл бұрын
What will you do if she gives divorce in future and take compensation, kids and ask for alimony including fact she is unemployed. Another case she is studying. You paid all of her educational expenses now after getting everything you found that she was cheating with you. Her family also used you as source of money. You can't do anything. You lost everything. I will take dowry from a women if she is unemployed or studying. I don't care what law says or what people says. I have to adopt according to my current environment. Law is not changing with time we have to change. I am not fool who will be emotional enough to be fooled by so called feminist. No body will help you if you will stuck . If you think I am stupid or no girl will marry me than it's your point of view. I saw people suffering. It is not about something like only money money targetting mindset. Or it is buisness but I would be able to compensate financial problems atleast. But can't time and emotions. Emotions are temporary, they are changing then and now. Ask people who suffered. Always remember law is no equal be careful if you are man
@dhananjayjadhav7208 Жыл бұрын
and refusing alimony also
@geethasanthosh6084 Жыл бұрын
@@dhananjayjadhav7208 India has the least divorce rates in the world. Alimony is not one sided dude. A husband can also claim it . But dowry deaths are reality in India. It is the cause of female infanticide and foeticide in India. Women life has no value in family and considered as liability of the family. Alimony is still not a major issue in India but dowry is. Many women in my state Kerala now don't prefer to get married because of the constant dowry death cases. They prefer to build a career first .
@dhananjayjadhav7208 Жыл бұрын
@@geethasanthosh6084 Konse jamane mai jii rahi ho 'Liability of the family'
@Nehakumari-uf9jh2 жыл бұрын
Really great video, today's scenario need to be shown on social platform. So we can stand against this🙏
@shrutimishra46282 жыл бұрын
Wow! This is the real thing to do in return! Bravo!
@Moonpalatte3 ай бұрын
Every girl should stand for herself, no is going to take stand for you except you're parents and you . Make your parents proud first.❤❤
@rkakbarbasha2 жыл бұрын
Very nice message 👌 Thanks for the video hats off to u r team sir
@kaushiksaha56712 жыл бұрын
Dowry will end when girls parents focus on educating and empowering them to earn for themselves rather than trying to buy a sarkari or NRI dulha.
@kaushiksaha56712 жыл бұрын
@Diganta True. This is what needs to change. Even in this video see how the bride's father is trying to secure a sarkari groom. The mindset that the guy needs to be the main breadwinner cannot go hand in hand with call for gender equality.
@Traumatised3112 жыл бұрын
It's their choice what they want sarkari Naukri or nri dulha
@Anjalisingh-on9bt2 жыл бұрын
I understand but in Bihar even a sadakchaap ladka demands minimum 3 Lakhs !!!
@Anjalisingh-on9bt2 жыл бұрын
@Diganta No it's not their choice to demand dowry it's a crime as per law.
@Anjalisingh-on9bt2 жыл бұрын
@Diganta Dowry imposes injustice on women. Men have a choice to walk out if the bride side demands govt job. But dowry is a well established system practiced throughout India with exceptions in few places. Even a well qualified women is asked to pay dowry for marriage regardless of her capabilities. There is a difference between "choice" and "demand giving rise to injustice". You cannot compare bride side demand of govt employee with dowry demanded by groom side. It is just like a man demanding Homemaker or a working women as his spouse. At times man expect a women to leave her job and do household chores. Then this is not a crime, it is his choice to go for a homemaker or a working Profesional wife. Though whether the demand is dowry from groom's side or govt job from bride's side both pollutes the essence of marriage and makes it a mere business deal. That's disappointing !
@shasankv852 жыл бұрын
South me opposite hai, Bride feel so proud that their father gave so much dowry. And marriage become so much commerical that bride have so many demands like grome should work in IT company and earn minimum 2 lks per month, should have a car and own house and will not stay with parents etc, love is non existent.
@samay58402 жыл бұрын
It's in whole India.
@Traumatised3112 жыл бұрын
Baapre such high demands Car own house already ?? 😠😠😠😠😠 I thought normal men were taking dowry
@shilk43016 ай бұрын
Not while of south . It’s rampant in Andhra Pradesh. It’s like telling Punjabi what happens in Bihar . So plz educate yourself . I see this a lot among North Indians . They lack knowledge about southern states and generalize every little thing . Where I come from usually ppl marry within same social status for various reasons too but not necessarily true all times . Also makes sense sometimes coz there woukd be incompatibility otherwise . Women who is raised with no money issues at all woukd not know how to live life being frugal and that would hurt a guy who has family responsibilities too. I have seen this and support girls marrying within their own financial status Atleast
@sushantamukherjee8668 ай бұрын
Thank God this RARELY happens in our community in Bengal since the last 30 years or more.
@laxmicnu29502 жыл бұрын
Specially South Indian girls feel proud of their parents if they give more dowry...first girls should stop giving then boys don't expect
@nikithageorge4416 ай бұрын
@laxmicnu kuch bhi
@Lappyrelates166 ай бұрын
Exactly even i saw this in andhra they also give dowry to groom sister like adapodachu katanam being a bengali i was shocked.yaa dowry is there in bengal too but in south india and rajasthan it is really too high
@jyothisirisha29995 ай бұрын
Yaa its absolutely TRUE that most people in south India are taking dowry .....and I am.from Andhra as I was suffering from my- in- laws mentally that I haven't given THE DOWRY......THIS CULTURE HAS TO CHANGE .....and this persons who are expecting the dowry has to change their mind set....especially girl parents should not encourage the dowry ,,,so i think the change will starts from girl parents .. !..so .girls say to your parents ......."we will.marry a guy who says no to the dowry " ......
@ychunks37102 жыл бұрын
Dowry is itself a crime and anyone demanding or anyone giving becomes a criminal and can be jailed, plz everyone remove dowry permanently and don't encourage dowry
@sagar_nayak2 жыл бұрын
Usme bhi logon ne loophole nikal liya hai abhi Gift ka trend chalake indirectly Dowry ko promote kar rahe hai
@deepanshuchawa35572 жыл бұрын
@@sagar_nayak han bhai sahi baat hai
@neelakshirajkumari6452 жыл бұрын
Proud be an Assamese because no dowry system in Assamese people.
@TheSubrama7 ай бұрын
30 years back my father and my father in law wanted a dowry free wedding for their children and I was so proud of them for carrying it out despite raised eyebrows.
@iqbalabbas2 жыл бұрын
Dowry is like cancer ,I m against,when I will marry I don't ask single penny 😐
@priyadarshini16102 жыл бұрын
Let's see...brother 😄
@overthinkerrealm2 жыл бұрын
Proud of u for deciding to do so😇
@nha62132 жыл бұрын
🙏
@moneym70172 жыл бұрын
Let's fight against Indian dowry system
@tesudarshan-indianforeigns9362 жыл бұрын
My friend it's a fantastic idea I am a boy only myself as a person who loves a whole bunch of Rapunzel girls with very long hair from my soul and heart I'm saying "NO TO INDIAN DOWRY SYSTEM"
@akshaymundkur2 жыл бұрын
I work as a teacher at a school, and I was surprised to listen to a beautiful acronym about Dowry by one of my students. D - Donkeys O - Of the First Order W - Who can’t stand on their own feet R - Relying on their wife’s riches Y - Yet Shameless 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Imagine. A 10- year old has this basic sense of decency which some of us adults do not.
@gorlalathasree73833 ай бұрын
Kudos to the student🎉 may god bless them
@princebajwa53072 жыл бұрын
So good story 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 well done Maan saab 🙏🏻
@vishalathawale48402 жыл бұрын
Wow, this is the really inspiration to all girls.
@horrorstoriesinhindi74922 жыл бұрын
My friend's neighbour is a widow.She has 4 daughters.She married them but gave dowry to the in laws.It's wrong but this only happens in a society where everyone is greedy of dowry.She could have filed a complaint against the in laws.We have to stand up for dowry together. Some people write a long essay for competitive exams and then after getting government job they ask for dowry.
@tinklingcrystals64892 жыл бұрын
I told my boyfriend of 4 years to go hang himself as he asked for dowry with his parents,.. i live and breathe for my mom n dad... Marriage is not necessary.. career and education is important... If not today guys will show their evil colours and never ever will in laws accept u as their daughter.. so don't yearn for marriage... It's a glorified trap for women..
@anandibanerjee49492 жыл бұрын
Giving dowry is as wrong as taking it
@ultimate62432 жыл бұрын
Husband's house is not a free hotel. Women must pay the rent and food cost
@horrorstoriesinhindi74922 жыл бұрын
@@ultimate6243 Husband's house is also wife's house after marriage.Both have same rights over the house.And your thinking is very old fashioned and disgusting.And because of people like you girls face a lot of problem in marriage.I wish to God that no girl marries you,her life will be destroyed. Money is not everything in life,instead of asking money do something in life.And only beggars ask for dowry.
@anandibanerjee49492 жыл бұрын
@@ultimate6243 Hiring a caretaker and whole timer is not free .....since a wife does all the work of a whole timer men need to pay them for their work
@saritareddydonthi14322 жыл бұрын
Dowry is a greed that never gets fulfilled.. The demands keep increasing by the day !! Dowry harassment is a crime and still we see women getting victimised by this malice… Marriage is not a business deal its a pious ritual of binding two lives which create another … Live and let live ..
@maheshmishra13732 жыл бұрын
SAY NO TO GIVE AND TAKE OF DOWRY... 🙏 MANY PEOPLE ARE AGAINST IT NOW DAYS 👏👏
@sashiroopavatharam67982 жыл бұрын
Such a lovely mag and we newd more of such stories which make ppl think and tealise .. at least a few and then only we can expect some change innour society .. very nice
@teeee_2 жыл бұрын
One of my cousin sister's in laws were asking for dowry, they were in a long term relationship, still the guy didn't say anything against his family due to their pressure, her in laws used to say that they want to maintain their standard infront of their family members, when my sister came to know about dowry she denied for marriage and then after 5 months that guy came to her apologized and then they got married in court, now they have loving children
@tesudarshan-indianforeigns9362 жыл бұрын
Wow that's a good choices marriage should be based on love happiness understanding not based on money and all this bullshit matrimonial site are fraud I am a failure in cbse school never topped college I'm just an average guy who did class 7 twice myself as a person who loves a whole lot of Rapunzel girls with very long hair I'm saying always say no to dowry
@Traumatised3112 жыл бұрын
Baapre in laws toxic hey Go to any western country No dowry is taken
@jyotisingh-ru3ym2 жыл бұрын
Aisa har koi kyu nhi h .isse jada kuch nhi bol sakti.
@ushacoltman32722 жыл бұрын
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@lunasaikia66312 жыл бұрын
Right.. every girls should be like her.. take new step👍👍👍
@anupranahalder73272 жыл бұрын
Beautiful vedio, beautyful house and beautiful msg.☺☺
@bangalorejayaram58212 жыл бұрын
Super rohit gaba sir this is one of the best episodes, nowadays Father's r behind in everything, grooms mother's r leading the show which is not correct, also vice versa, also my whole comment can also be read ulta, general comment is that mother in laws r forward n father in law r taking bac stagr don't what has happened.....
@XTG3PQR2 жыл бұрын
The father must also understand that event if his daughter would have married there, the inlaws will keep demanding him more money.
@tulasia30807 ай бұрын
Really very good, informative. Good luck team 🎉🎉
@arunk74082 жыл бұрын
I am ready for the impending storm that's about to ensue. So I'll just leave my opinion here. Asking for dowry , i mean insisting that i cant marry until you give me 'x' sum of money is indeed bad. Equally bad is the attitude of bride's side during arranged marriages. They put forth so many fricking parameters that the most important of them all, the ability to stay loyal and be a loving partner for your kid takes a backseat. Its near impossible to get a good alliance unless you land a 6 figure salary or have a government job. Most parents even insist on seeing the salary slip or even ITR of the prospective grooms. But imagine a groom asking the same to the bride or her parents? That's the society we live in. For every issue you raise there is an equally or even more morally grave counter issue on the other side. Maybe when both parties give importance to love and respect than seeing marriage as a business, the situation will eventually change. Peace out~
@prachisharma32712 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with your point. Actually the problem lies in the society in general. The norms set by the society are so hollow, the consequences of which are manifold. The institution of marriage especially arrange marriage is totally flawed. It is in this set up the waves of demand, expectations etc etc arises. Both the families think this set up as market where only buy sell of groom and brides happen according to the family standards.
@Anjalisingh-on9bt2 жыл бұрын
To be honest today's girl & boy both are mature and sensible enough to find good partners. But both girl's & boy's side means their family spoil the essence of marriage by their demands.
@vineelakaja31382 жыл бұрын
Now a day's the groom family required a girl with higher education, good family ground, Job holder with high salary, Maid who can do cooking, house chores and take care of in-laws and dowry with all the packages then why can't bride family except the good salary from the groom. Change should come from both sides not only from side, If a boy expecting his wife have to takecare of his parents and siblings then he have to takecare of her parents, they have share there works, chores and responsibilities, and have to understand each other should respect each opinions and interests.
@samay58402 жыл бұрын
@Swati Singh If you don't want to pay dowry then don't marry the person who demands dowry and marry someone who doesn't demand dowry.
@samay58402 жыл бұрын
@Swati Singh It's possible many men are ready to marry without dowry but they are rejected for salary and property even though the women are unemployed and those men were more educated and earning more than the fathers of those women. Those women rejected those men and are waiting to marry rich men even though the rich men are ugly, over aged, bad nature, drunkard etc. I have seen many cases where the woman neglected the character of those men and lated suffered or divorced or abused etc. and later they had to left those husbands.
@mahenderkhandelwal5617 Жыл бұрын
Esa logo k saath esa hi karna chahiye. Very nice
@dishakhanna65772 жыл бұрын
i have faced similar situation...i wish i could have taken step at the right time like this girl ...they tortured me..so now after 8months of marriage i filed for divorce.. greedy people can never change
@tenzingayatso640111 ай бұрын
I was offered a Car and a few lakhs as a gift by my in-laws when we went to see my wife. I refused it and told them that I am capable enough to take care of my future wife and my family and they became so happy. Later they deposited around 8 lakhs in my account without my consent saying that it is for the initial support to take care of their daughter just to support and as a gift to their daughter. I accepted it because their argument was legit.
@shailarateja26342 жыл бұрын
Never give your daughter into a family which demands dowry.... Your girl will not be safe
@RONIT848 Жыл бұрын
ALSO SON TO A WOMEN WHO DEMAND MONEY HOUSE CAR
@RealCherry80856 ай бұрын
@@RONIT848 then the boy can Marry a girl which doesn't demands money house and car, there are plenty of women who want a loving husband even though he earns a very decent salary.
@RONIT8486 ай бұрын
@@RealCherry8085 woman are gold digger at present , DO NOT NEED LOVE BUT MONEY BE HAPPY BE SINGLE
@GB-fc3qy10 ай бұрын
I remembered my father in law requested to my family that he dont want even a single penny in dowry and wants simple marriage as well but shockingly my parents insisted on dowry because my relatives started making fun of us. I remembered my father in law was on the verge of tears. He said bete tumko hath jorh k manaa kia tha. Ye kya kiya tumne😢. He had tears iin his eyes. Rishtedar bhi kamm nahi hote
@kopparapuravi2 жыл бұрын
In my friends circle and relatives, every women is ready to give dowry. But guys are unable to reach their expectations so they are idle even after crossing 35.
@alokraj85311 ай бұрын
We should stop the dowry system. We should understand towards it. Not to give and not to take. 😢
@sujathat49132 жыл бұрын
All parents must gave the courage to raise their daughters well.educate them and allow them to standbon their own.
@Moonpalatte3 ай бұрын
I am really thankful to god that i am raised in the family where everyone give 1st priority to education . Everyone in my family says that first became independent, and then if you want to marry then marry if you dont want to then don't ❤❤❤
@sathiavathypakiamgunaratna99602 жыл бұрын
Say YES to dowry. Dowry is 'buying' the groom over. Hence, go ahead with the dowry BUT ensure that the groom stays with the bride in her house since she has bought him over. This applies to families who demand for dowry and for men who are cowardly enough to accept it (selling himself).
@sampreeth65752 жыл бұрын
GANJA PEEKE COMMENT MAST KRTE HO BHAYY
@dds62342 жыл бұрын
@sathyavathi sahi kaha aapne 👍👏👏
@wowser21539 ай бұрын
@@dds6234dowry is not selling the groom . It is compensation for groom for taking up her father’s burden. It is like paying someone to take out garbage from house because girls are not valued by parents. I don’t believe in dowry , nor do I believe in bahu fighting with husbands parents to grab their property.
@sri_techsavvy2 жыл бұрын
Excellent work guys
@davidwalia34512 жыл бұрын
Good. The bride said No. Groom is silent now, then after marriage his mother's demand will come before his bride's wish / dream. Good that the bride said No.
@yogeshwaritikku23752 жыл бұрын
When all stand against dowry only the problem will be solved. Everyone who asking dowry should think if their own girl child is getting married by giving dowry above their capacity then only they know about problems faced by the girl family.
@davidwalia34512 жыл бұрын
@@yogeshwaritikku2375 👍🏼 No dowry.
@shaistakhan70362 жыл бұрын
I literally cried ......reality of todays world we girls should standup for our rights
@VaiShNav51 Жыл бұрын
Fir kuch karna kyu nhi ata tum girl ko reels banao bas ek invention batado jo girl ne kia ho
@VaiShNav51 Жыл бұрын
Jao desh ki raksha karo army jaise hamare koi girl ladai karne kyu nhi jati desh ke liye
@VaiShNav51 Жыл бұрын
Koi girl h jo elon musk ki tarah ho batao koi h Cristiano ronaldo ki tarah ho
@VaiShNav51 Жыл бұрын
Bewakuf ladki 🤣😂
@SaiAbitathaDUCIC2 жыл бұрын
When gifts are given voluntarily, there is no problem. But demanding is not acceptable.
@Philosopherbilla2 жыл бұрын
There is problem!!! This gift system only makes others also to expect!!
@priya-jk2 жыл бұрын
@@Philosopherbilla exactly
@mubashsherajannat75302 жыл бұрын
@@Philosopherbilla exactly.. Much true
@shriramupasna2 жыл бұрын
Gifts is nothing but Dowry !!!!!
@SaiAbitathaDUCIC2 жыл бұрын
@@shriramupasna and it's one's own wish whether to give gifts or not.
@MVN96 ай бұрын
WOW! Love it! No Dowry, do u want free money ???? Earn it man!
@s_sanjh2 жыл бұрын
Be independent financially... No one will have the courage to ask for dowry!
@KosmoNavis Жыл бұрын
😂😂 Get out of your bubble. Even doctors are demanded to give dowry upto 1cr by doctor groom and their parents.
@wowser21539 ай бұрын
@@KosmoNavisagreed . Men ask for dowry from equally educated and equally earning woman . Even unemployed men ask for dowry from working women, amount maybe lesser.
@MehulM2 жыл бұрын
Good video. One thing that should have been added is them getting arrested for asking for dowry. Asking for dowry is a crime. Period!!!
@MehulM2 жыл бұрын
@Diganta That is the problem. People just want grooms that are either doctors, engineers, lawyers and those with government jobs. And then the groom’s family just keeps asking for dowry.
@legion2062 жыл бұрын
We arranged 80L in cash, one safari & gold ornaments for groom's family, but they weren't happy enough and broke the relation at last moment. Being a brother, i don't know what else should i do for my sis 😔
@dr.sandhyagupta83172 жыл бұрын
Never get your sister married in that family. They will make your sister's and your family's life hell. Keep that money in FD, it will help her more
@legion2062 жыл бұрын
@@dr.sandhyagupta8317 Yeah we ain't in contact with them anymore. I'm already in search of some other "normal" family.
@hredyakj31912 жыл бұрын
Help her get a job so that she can stand on her feet
@legion2062 жыл бұрын
@@hredyakj3191 Hmm
@dr.sandhyagupta83172 жыл бұрын
@@legion206 good luck. I never married for the same reason as you can't trust such people. Further I wanted to study and go abroad which I did. Based on your family take a decision. Just spport your sister to be independent and find her liking. Please do not pressurise. I wish you all the best.
@RosyDsouza-t1f19 күн бұрын
Beautiful story
@jayantrath72512 жыл бұрын
Can't imagine the height of quality
@WendigoDevastator2 жыл бұрын
100% true sir super 👌 I hate these stuff of society 😑
@vivekraj-iq8kr2 жыл бұрын
My cousin sister's marriage no dowry was given but she demanded alimony after divorce..
@jyotikulkarni26692 жыл бұрын
Yes this happens very common these days . I too have seen many cases as such . Divorce for small reasons n huge alimony demands from the girls . Even her parents don't agree with it but girls are stubborn enough so parents can't say anything but just keep quiet .
@Traumatised3112 жыл бұрын
Yes Coz he probably abused or cheated In india divorce rate is less than 1% But dowry is always demanded Almost all marriages i know dowry was taken
@wowser21539 ай бұрын
@@jyotikulkarni2669only 5 percent of marriages end in divorce. So alimony affects 5 percent of married men. Dowry is affecting 95 percent of women.
@sandraradhay29662 жыл бұрын
Brilliant 👏 Brilliant 👏 Brilliant 👏...it's time we get rid if this thing call DOWRY.
@faridakhan36872 жыл бұрын
In the world of land of Karma, labor has to be done by all… God only gives the lines, we have to fill the color..
@moneym70172 жыл бұрын
Karma philosophy does not exist in reality. It is made up by upper class elites to oppress the poor and indigent. To enslave them. So that they never question or ask for their God-given rights. 😭😭😭 The upper classes are arrogant, corrupt and evil. No karma for them when they wrong the poor, needy and helpless?
@tesudarshan-indianforeigns9362 жыл бұрын
This is why awareness should be spread and also many indian people want to marry against parents wishes to avoid these problems i don't need anyone's approval to live a happy life i don't want any car homes or any of these nonsense i want to live my own life i don't want dowry i am also against dowry system
@geekygirl2252 жыл бұрын
Dowry is stigma still it is at its peak .No matter how educated we become , the people expect free money gushing in , in the name of marriage , In both my sisters wedding tonnes of money , gold , arrangements furnitures gifts and what not , how can you measure the pain and helplessness a father goes through , such a pain to human is sin , still these greedy people remain unsatisfied and cause troubles to brides taunt and tease her with abusive remarks. These whole system is toxic. Shameless people just dont realise they are just a kind of beggars in the name of just being the so called "LADKEWALE". !!
@saranyaprakash12662 жыл бұрын
Excellent guys💯
@sonalimittal28722 жыл бұрын
Dowry to North India me bahot zyada h....alag alag tariko se demand rakhi jati h customs aur rituals k naam par...ki ladki Wale inferior h aur unhe sirf ladkewalo ko khush rakhna h hamesha
@cyclone84568 ай бұрын
Dear boys jo ladki bap ki care karti hai vo beshak apki bhi karegi . Jo ladki bap ke paise ki kimmat janti hai vo apke paise ki kimat bhi karegi .... Karma always works ❤
@juhisharma13282 жыл бұрын
I shared my incident.. why my comment get deleted i wrote what i m facing due to dowry.. please atleast don't do this.. i wrote because I m facing depression due to domestic violence.. atleast this is the only platform where I can share my problems.. 😢
@ravinderkaur98072 жыл бұрын
Very nice message
@sewaniguria73322 жыл бұрын
I agree with girl ❣️❣️
@mondeepdey31532 жыл бұрын
Apke sabhi vdo mein toh 1m views hona chahiye aur billions subscribe bhi hona chahiye...ur great person sir.....
@aqwevtrj2 жыл бұрын
the worst part in this video was that the person who asked for the dowry was a lady as in a lady is unable to realise the plight of another lady such a selfish thought
@charusinghal80956 ай бұрын
It’s true story of Indian families. Pl people support as like gals