Niles GASLIGHTS MATILDA SO BAD That Show Producers STEP IN!

[@chelseaxjaye]

for someone who has claimed to have "anger issues" Matilda handled that very well

[@CicadaXiii]

He probably meant to say she has “boundaries and self-respect” when he said “anger issues”

[@HyogaX9]

@@CicadaXiii it was her brother who said she has anger issues, something matilda acknowledged.

[@drunkenwench]

I’m so used to seeing the likes of Angela that I was expecting food and drinks to be thrown into his face. 😂

[@balalafoofa]

agreed

[@kiaq1153]

Lmfao she probably becomes a maniac when she had enough

[@gamingeagle2752]

As some one who is autistic, Niles using his autism as an excuse winds me up no end. Autistic individuals typically struggle lying, we are too literal and too honest!

[@sherrita80548]

Right my cousin is as well and I got to tell myself he can't help it when he says harsh things

[@sharipazyck-gv2dv]

Thank you for your comment. I didn't think it was right.

[@2shy1151]

Lying by omission is still lying and the easiest way to avoid conflict. Its a lot easier in the short term. I think hes been relying on that to deal with things hes not ready or able to address or express. Its also not exclusive to people with autism. Its a shame that people with autism feel they must defend themselves in the comments because of a few people on a reality tv's behavior on a show that is known for exploiting everyone.

[@KiiC.]

Exactly 💯🎯

[@WooWoo-co4jf]

Snap! I wish the producers would make others aware of what they've said before

[@muthroiltrails2897]

Producer when Niles lies:Let me call out Niles Producer when Angela gets all abusive:👀👀🙈🙈🙉😏

[@lilo2373]

Producers when rayne flips out on Chidi family: 🙈🤳🤳

[@hospitable_ghost]

Different producers. There's a lot of different ones. HOWEVER: they need to be hiring producers of the caliber that that have for Niles' segment!

[@MercurialSaturnian]

maybe they’re too scared… even more reason to kick her off the show!!

[@TheContentofCory]

Autism doesn’t mean you’re incapable of lying..,

[@lemns8296]

and autism doesnt cause u lie

[@Shenanigan1720]

I don’t believe anyone ever said that.

[@chelseaxjaye]

i hope the producers start callin out the neurotypical people too 😅

[@mrsmcintyre69]

I agree!! What don't they call out everyone?

[@GeekEntertainmentConsumer]

You know why. Because Niles is someone they can bully because of his disability. ​@@mrsmcintyre69

[@2shy1151]

I second (or third) that 💯 %!!!

[@Lizz0308]

No for real!

[@lauren4078]

Do you think he's being treated differently BECAUSE he has autism? 🤔

[@02loud]

I love this channel, legit saw people defending Niles and blaming his autism. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, but he absolutely was playing games, gaslighting and manipulating. Buying her new clothes and an engagement ring to soften the blow was all because he knew he had not told her the truth! Anyway I like Matilda and even Niles, this isn't something they can't get over and I do hope they work out.

[@hospitable_ghost]

People in these comments don't wanna accept that they hate Matilda (despite her having done literally nothing wrong) for xenophobic and/or racist reasons. Everyone claims they don't understand why Ingrid is still entertaining creepy Brian for some reason, but literally everything Matilda does is apparently because she wants a green card.

[@hospitable_ghost]

@@aliioii2712Literally what proof do you have of this claim?

[@kolaoshun6298]

@@hospitable_ghost exactly. When people started saying that, I knew the xenophobia and misogynoir was coming out.

[@Squidoh21]

Matilda looks so pretty on the beach at night! Maybe its the lighting or something but her eyes looked so dramatic and pretty!

[@Leoprincess3038]

I mean shes beautiful....why do you need to find reasons why that is 🙄

[@GOTTA_RUN]

@Leoprincess3038 ^ Bruh the commenter says that she's beautiful, you agree with it, but then still complain

[@MrCopierre]

Sometimes in the distajce on the ocean, there is lightening and storms, while on the beach it is all peaceful. Maybe it was the reason.

[@kiaq1153]

She has pretty anime eyes

[@Leoprincess3038]

@@GOTTA_RUN Like I said, if you're genuinely commenting on someone's beauty, its a slap in the face and makes the compliment backhanded when you say things like "Maybe its the lighting" 🙄 its not the lighting....she's beautiful because shes beautiful. Have a nice day! 🥰

[@AshleahShortcake]

I'm a psych major about to be in my senior year and my son has very mild autism. One of the perks of autism is that they're usually very blunt, honest, and up front. My son can't even comprehend peer pressure, he doesn't understand why anyone would do something they don't want to do just because others are doing it or to impress someone, so this doesn't really fly. They may struggle with expressing how they feel, they may shut down if they get overwhelmed, but lying is not a characteristic of autism. This is a character flaw in Niles, a flaw many people have, but the fact he's trying to excuse it by using his disorder as an excuse is really not a good sign. He lied to her every phone conversation, every time the wedding was brought up, he kept up this lie for months, this isn't "oh I forgot to tell you" this was a planned lie and manipulation.

[@mirabellelarbi]

Thank you!

[@Trend_Ensemble101]

I completely agree 👏

[@fridu923]

clockkkkkk it ‼️

[@yvonnevdbogert562]

This show must be so educational for you. 😉 and thanks for your explanation.

[@VladmirPoopN]

His immaturity is his super power 👀

[@CicadaXiii]

Matilda is the most beautiful woman I’ve seen on 90 Day yet! So effervescent and abundant with joie de vivre!! She deserves someone honest who is all in, and can do so much better than this horse crap!

[@NatalieRabuzin]

Are u prepared to do the knocking ceremony 😅😅😅......

[@vanessaguzman9553]

She has a pure soul . Very rare . If I was a man I would marry her. 😆.

[@TaterTots380]

I don’t think a producer has ever done that before. Very shocking but refreshing that she stood up for Matilda and called out Niles on his lies. Will this be a new thing for a Producer to get involved or only for Niles because of his issue? I thought it was awesome.

[@KennethRCox]

Dammit Niles!!! I was rooting for you!!! 😂💀🫢🙃

[@Imakemixes666]

If nobody called him out he would have continued to gaslight her.

[@Whatever_Linda]

He’s lucky she didn’t lose her crap, especially after we learned she has a temper.

[@2shy1151]

Its something Niles experienced with her by phone, as well as her brother saying she has a quick temper. I think were missing someone?

[@NatalieRabuzin]

He will just cxl the non existent wedding 😅😅😅😅😅😅......

[@jking-]

She on Camara she not gonna make America see dat she a angry black woman...

[@drunkenwench]

My son is high functioning autistic. If anything, his autism gives him no filters and he blurts out everything that comes into his head. He’s pretty truthful to the extreme 😅

[@Raicazz]

Hey, fellow autistic here! To answer your question: no, I don't think the knowing or not if we lied it's an autistic thing. Idk if he's telling the truth about actually not knowing it, but it's not something every autistic person struggles with But I do think avoiding conflict at all costs might be and the lying is tied to that My answer is based on experience and what I heard from other autistic people, I don't have the cientific knowledge on that!!!

[@KrisIsk]

I am autistic and also work with autistic adults. Your comment is actually the most accurate I seeen here and that includes from other autistic people attacking him. I cant say what his intentions are but his reaction is common with autistic adults. Typical avoiding conflicts due to trauma from childhood where being blamed for everything makes you do that. It can be a trauma response or mild shutdown of him feeling he is losing control. Maybe he did say something like this a while ago but later talk made matilda forget and he did not bring it up again (conflict avoidance). But having said it once ages ago can feel like it is still that statement is still "active" since he never contradicted it in his mind even though overall picture Matilda and outsiders dont see it that way. Ofc cant be certain since it is from a show famous for creating drama, but it seems to me more he have a autistic trauma response based on conflict avoidance and not on purpose lying or manipulating.

[@Raicazz]

@KrisIsk yes!!! I'm seeing other people here in the comments saying autistic people actually struggle with lying, but that's not my experience at all! People normally based their opinions about autistic people on folks that got diagnosed earlier in life, and that experience is so hugely different from us that got diagnosed as adults. I feel like autistic adults with later diagnoses are actually huge "truth benders" more than straight up fully on telling lies, but that is still lying

[@Ipetam]

Niles really messed up when he proposed to Matilda. Talk about mixed signals.

[@lexansstories6952]

Chile, the way I would have handed that ring back. Just playing all in that poor girl's face.

[@lilo2373]

He strung her along for such a long time and then wants to act like he’s a victim smh

[@jewelsbyk]

Imagine how he would’ve continued to gaslight her if the cameras wasn’t around 😮

[@ChangeIsContagious]

That is a great observation. We literally just watched him emotionally abuse her and the only thing that stopped it was that fact that they had him on tape. I can only imagine how far he would go if there was no playback.

[@drayaabraham6320]

You know it's bad when the producers have to step in. They let all kinds of abuse and bullshit go.

[@ifeyhome]

Well, they didn't intervene when psycho Angela continually went off on Michael!

[@yvonnevdbogert562]

​@@ifeyhomethey finally learned? Now confronted with law sued by Michael.

[@lilo2373]

@@yvonnevdbogert562they didn’t intervene with Rayne acting crazy about Chidi’s fam

[@yvonnevdbogert562]

@@lilo2373 they were affraid of her I think. 😊

[@yukia.animation]

Caught lying for fear of consequences and then blaming it on autism. Come on....

[@squirrel317]

Autism as an excuse for everything lol 😂

[@charmleneboni]

Ikr

[@MonicaJones-wh4lj]

There is nothing i hate more than for someone to lie to my face.

[@Heather3HO]

You must be ♐

[@memzg9656]

​@aliioii2712 He still didn't say no, I am not ready to get married. She may have been keen but he proposed to her!

[@blane2472]

The way Niles is trying to gaslight Matilda and even the producers is a pretty good sign Matilda needs to run. He's so comfortable lying to her, even when it's all been recorded!

[@hgirl4611]

I was screaming at the tv 😂, like are you serious Niles? Before you went to Africa ; you should have told her! Your friends & producers told you! He’s smart y’all and knows what he’s doing. She might want to pick someone other than his cold sore gaslighting a$$. How hard is it to say to Matilda, Niles; like your telling the world? My goodness

[@trinishowers]

Omg Matilda is too fine for his BS

[@mmmeaks2245]

As a trainee psychiatrists and someone with ASD “lol nope” is my opinion. He’s lying, he got caught, he’s trying to blame his autism. He also cannot blame his ASD for gaslighting. Nope.

[@frenchtoast7742]

No . Not really. Avoidance behavior is a trait and sometimes they lie to avoid conflict. I taught Special Ed ages PreK to 22 years in a Center for for Autism and handicapped children and adults . I have seen everything.

[@tatianafraserA]

So he didn't have the balls to tell her that they weren't getting married but has the audacity to gaslight her. He's full of cr@p

[@NatalieRabuzin]

Typical male...😮

[@estheresther8934]

Matilda, let’s pray that you find the best man for you.

[@GOTTA_RUN]

It's honestly embarrassing that Niles is easily the best American in this season.

[@gram1976]

That’s exactly what I said!!

[@Moonhart44]

I’m autistic and our ability to lie is affected by our theory of mind… we have trouble lying. He just is a gaslighter who happens to be autistic

[@andrewamp1]

Matilda is such a gem, she deserves a very good man in her life, I wish I could find a woman just like her.

[@iam_hannabailey]

Niles did told her they dont getting married on this trip and but she doesnt want to believe him . She answered him please dont disappoint me.

[@NatalieRabuzin]

MATILDA hold your horses girl...

[@Rogueviewer1]

Matilda and Niles are the sweetest! Not proud of Niles in this moment, but Ghanaian gem Matilda showed herself to be resilient to gaslighting but compassionate towards genuine fears. Hope Niles' doubtful family has taken note!

[@Latte-dq1tb]

He’s using autism as an excuse to really say that he’s not really into her. She’s probably much better off without him

[@elizlikethequeen]

If he really thinks he'll ever have a chance at someone better than her he's truly an idiot. She's beautiful, sweet, hard working, smart, and is very affectionate towards him. Perhaps she's made the mistake of building his ego up so much that he's thinking he'll run out and play the field that he can't find nor will there be anyone else interested in playing with him.

[@Latte-dq1tb]

Exactly. I hope she runs off with someone who receives her well. She’s too forgiving and accommodating for someone like him. There’s so many women out there that will only look down on him for his looks and autism while she embraces all of him.

[@unfortunatetrisket1554]

Bro just uses his diagnosis as a scapegoat

[@mad_quack]

I feel so bad for her :( I’m not a psychiatrist, but I do have a younger brother who has high functioning (or mild) autism,. He isn’t good with social situations either, or with communicating, but he is *blatantly* truthful. He *always* says what he thinks and what he feels.

[@siyamthandandaliso4736]

Gaslighting a short tempered person is a dangerous sport...

[@brb6868]

Bro should have never proposed in the first place. Let alone twice! If you are not ready to get married do not propose!

[@d3vilremixes]

I feel bad for Matilda, I hope they can get over this soon, they seem to be a good couple.

[@lauren4078]

I imagine they will. This is a minor issue in the grand scheme of things, and also for this show! I believe Niles learned his lesson. This was a good growth point for him and their relationship.

[@Ankns-ug5ih]

Indeed they seem like a good fit, but he's too broke; he can't afford her. He needs to return to the us and look for those local trash girls.

[@maxv3094]

you know you fucked up bad when the TLC producers actually bother to intervene

[@digi-ci1nc]

Regardless y'all want him to marry this woman without being ready🥴

[@sharongibson1161]

Matilda seems very intelligent and honest. Niles is sweet, but immature, needs to be honest and stop the lying. But I think they are very cute together😊

[@April-t6z]

He was excited to do it until his parents objected. If that's all it takes, he's not ready to be a husband. Everyone from Africa is NOT a scammer

[@NatalieRabuzin]

He wants to marry her...BUT NOT YET...😮😮😮 .....

[@charlene4419]

I've been recently diagnosed with mild Autism. In Niles case I think him blaming his Autism for him just straight up lying is an excuse. But I do understand the reasoning behind it, the gaslighting tho that was just shitty to do. He does take ownership in the end tho, which is good. I understand Niles not wanting to be blunt, because it really REALLY can hurt the people you care about, especially having less of an "expressionate" face, it can come across as really cold or mean. That really is an issue with having Autism, that's the whole point of struggling with communication, like you said yourself in the video. I think a lot of Neurotypicals don't understand the impact that can have on people around you as an autistic person.

[@summertime3160]

She's too gorgeous for him too!!❤

[@realvirginia]

Mother of two autistic children and no. They are very blunt and matter of fact.

[@asian.draper6324]

As someone who has an auntie that’s autistic, she’s more blunt and honest with me to the point where she checks to see if she hurt my feelings 😂. I love her but no, Niles flat out lied to Matilda.

[@bb7503]

I dont understand how a 23 year old wants to get married so badly

[@bobscratchett5346]

She lives in poverty with no prospects. She’s a hard worker, she’ll do well given an opportunity plus she seems kind and has affection for Niles

[@jaywambui4128]

In Africa, marriage by 25 is a goal for many women. Starting a family while still young is a core value in many African families.

[@Abracadabra1111]

She’s in love and ready to start a better life. But if we were talking about Rob and Sofie I would agree with you lol

[@chanda-aime6388]

Off topic: Niles will look great with a hair transplant

[@shahidahsurinamiya]

Or just plain bold.

[@JazzyB-Heaven-11]

Happy Halloween 🎃 and thank you ATR lovin ya work ❤

[@alqubrusia]

I was speaking to someone for marriage who has autism- there were times that he didn't exactly lie, but didn't tell the whole truth straight away. He didn't want to make me upset. He was really sweet and he wasn't trying to hurt me (big difference to what I am used to with other men).

[@sorra300-]

Hi. I got autism diagnosis and there are 3 things I know when it comes to lies and truth (both from.personal and professional) Some autistic people doesn't see the reason for lies.so they are blunt. Brutal honesty Some autistic people doesn't want the hard truth that will hurt other people or rather they don't want to face consequences related to heavy emotional situations, these ones including myself are expert at lying. They know what is the truth and what is lies and they research and avoid until revelation. They prepare and doomsday, lies so it will sound believable until someone else catches them. Third There are some autistic people that express things but not even close enough for other people to read them between the lines. They are often sure they give signs. But really rjey dont However what he is doing here is straight up lies. He knew what to lie about and how to avoid the topic until impact. Which ironically was a producer.

[@klaird_h4727]

But...what about that one video call he had with her when he was door dashing?! I think he told her he wasn't sure about getting married on this trip, and she refused to listen.

[@Onyx_Primal646]

Yep but people don't want to listen to that fact.

[@NatalieRabuzin]

​@@Onyx_Primal646exactly...he did try to slow her down...

[@MikeM-np4od]

Yeah she pressured the situation and he isn't confident enough or experienced enough in relationships to stand up for himself. She basically planned the wedding without him. There is just a cultural gap and misunderstanding between two young inexperienced people.

[@klaird_h4727]

@MikeM-np4od ...I definitely agree. They seem to really love each other though, so hopefully everything will work out.

[@NatalieRabuzin]

@@MikeM-np4od too many including the producer missed the fact he did try to slow her d o w n ...

[@dessh2480]

in that scene where he has on the red shirt and is on video call with her, he actually tried to tell her . he says it and she ignores him...stares him down and says "i hope you wont disappoint me"...that's so hard for any person ..let alone someone neurodivergent. then he tucks tail and from then on wont speak up anymore and let's it go way too far.

[@NatalieRabuzin]

Exactly...thank u...I can't imagine why...people are going after him...

[@willowkoi5238]

It really bugs me how people will do something that they know is wrong or will hurt someone and then blame it on autism. It’s such a common excuse now. I was sexually harassed in my workplace for weeks but everyone ended up defending him because he was autistic…

[@bellarina]

As a spectrum dweller, I can absolutely confirm that procrastinating on like difficult conversations, dealing with stuff, or hoping problems solve themselves before you have to get in trouble is super common, but we KNOW!!! what we are doing 🤣 definite opposite of "I did not know I was lying". Oh you know and it's almost too difficult to get it off your mind most times hahahah

[@susanwright4414]

She dodged a bullitt. ❤

[@MrCopierre]

These 2 are so cute together, I sincerly hope they will be happy together. ❤ Greetings from Accra

[@johndoe-lm7ji]

I really hope these two work it out!

[@morganrhodes159]

Why doesn’t he just marry her? I mean African women are usually good wives what else does he want

[@videofan1010]

He doesn't have any money.

[@Ankns-ug5ih]

Seems like he can't afford the dowry.

[@morganrhodes159]

@@videofan1010 that makes sense . plus if he moves her to the states that's more money w lawyers and all that. i'm glad he has the sense not to sleep with her at least

[@2shy1151]

Where is Matilda's family? Im wondering how traditional her family is? Niles hasn't done any of the traditional things involved in getting engaged in her culture and getting her parents approval. Theyve mentioned that they both have prior sexual experiences with others and they're staying in a hotel together. How is this possibly okay with her parents? I would think that the things shared on this show are not things a parent would want to hear. I think that her family would have kept some of this stupid waffling back and forth with Niles in check if they had the chance to ask him what his intentions with their daughter were in the first place. Especially with the door knock ceremony.

[@Trend_Ensemble101]

I think their whole relationship is fake and it’s just an opportunity for both of them to make some money 😂 Because I do not think that her parents would approve of Niles and as Matilda said to the camera crew in the beginning is that people in her region don’t understand what autism is which would make their relationship even more taboo 😅

[@jewelsbyk]

They allowed it for the same reason why she got frustrated. They understood that he had proposed to her online and came for them to get married

[@2shy1151]

@@Trend_Ensemble101 Or their own show! Lol.

[@2shy1151]

@@jewelsbyk That means nothing in their culture. The parents'approval at the door knock ceremony and your ability to fulfill the requests is what constitutes an engagement. Not a phone call their daughter had. Of course, they may not really care about tradition and just go through the motions like many people in the world today. But I highly doubt they approve of their daughter being filmed mounting Niles on the bed. Premarital sex is a no- no. This is not a defense of Niles for anything. It's a defense of Matilda and the lack of family guidance and protection for their daughter.

[@jewelsbyk]

@ did they tell you that they had sex?!

[@khajjahkmedia6367]

I’m an adult who am going through the process of finally being tested for autism. Not trying to give Niles any excuses for lying, however, I can attest that i too have struggled my whole life with healthy communication and interpersonal relationships. I’m in my 40s now. Just been becoming more self aware over the last few years and finally learning how to process and react to conflict and social situations in a healthier way. In the past I’ve felt much stress in how I’ve dealt with these situations. If I really liked someone I would withhold crucial information from them in the mindset that I didn’t want to ‘hurt their feelings’. I can’t tell u how destructive and self sabotaging this is. I have a personal life coach now who is helping me be more intentional and encourage me to always be accountable and maintain healthy patterns. Remember Niles, the best way we can honor our feelings and respect other’s feelings as well is to be honest with them always. Good luck everyone!

[@Rewindwithrekenya]

Where are these producers for Angela and Rayne!?

[@pamelaharrington3838]

Narcissists don't care about anyone & they gaslight

[@relaxnaturesounds6588]

It depends on the traits of the individual autistic person. For example, you might be high in narcissism, and low in self reflection and empathy. It isn't masking Niles is doing. It is more like rescripting or reframing by reworking real facts into a narrative that relieves his anxiety around relationships.

[@HappyOne2017]

I love Matilda and I think Niles is very lucky that she is going to forgive him❤❤

[@mariat6170]

Me too I love them as a couple and I am still rooting for them

[@morganaluthor]

i worked with autistic patients and he is just using autism as an excuse for his manipulative behaviors. Good on the producer for calling him out

[@nileciaable]

I’m glad he’s being called out. He called it masking , but that’s not what masking is. He was straight up not telling her the truth.

[@SimplyExpat]

calling him out like that seems out of place, why haven't the producer called out any of the really crazy ones ?? chicken lady, Loren, Brian or the 50 other crazy people.... Niles is a really nice guy, he has autism and deals with life a bit different, he is not crazy like many of the others that was cast this season.

[@bobscratchett5346]

He’s as bad as the other men. Don’t paint him as a decent guy. He’s not. He deliberately didn’t tell her. He’s a jerk. And trying to use his disability as an excuse was awful

[@HaveCommonSense76]

He’s old enough to make the decision to be on the show he’s old enough to be held accountable for his actions.

[@tru2harris998]

NILES HAS SHOWN A BAD CHARACTER FLAW...SO IN REAL LIFE HE DOES LIE...IT MEANS HE WILL BE DIFFICULT TO RESOLVE ISSUES WITH AS HE WILL BLAME THE OTHER PERSON FALSELY.....WITHOUT PRODUCERS THERE TO CALL OUT HIS LIES- I PITY POOR MATILDAS FUTURE WITH A LYING GASLIGHTER LIKE NILE. MATILDAS HONEST & DESERVES SO MUCH BETTER...& COULD GET IT.

[@olumpheprattjger9647]

Marriage Is A Very Sensitive Decision To Take On N To Do. Take Your Time Niles No Rush👍💓What So Much Matilda Coming To Do Only To Put Up A Big Show That’s All💕👏

[@lucybridle2375]

I hope they work out. I feel bad for Matilda😢

[@Rorimos]

he has clear insecurities & was worried she'd out right reject him if he was upfront, & that stems from him not being completely sure of her love for him, I think as most Americans, he is approaching this issue from a 'what if she's only with me for the green card/money' perspective, which is whats setting alarm bells off in his head (unfounded or not) cos whenever he speaks about getting married I have yet to see a single tingle of excitement, its always with a sense of dread as if he's forcing himself to do something outside of his character, in reality he's more comfortable with getting to know her more than being impulsive, which begs the question then whyyy for the love of all that is good would he chose this show, its literally in the name! He's clearly confused and torn between making her happy and staying true to himself in how he truly wants to handle this situation and so that results in him flip-flopping with his intentions while trying to suss out her intentions, unfortunately he doesn't realise that creating trust issues is more damaging and destabilising in their relationship more than the simple postponement of a wedding. They need to both be of one mind, open and honest about the plans and their intentions or the marriage itself when it finally happens will be a disaster, because if he keeps this up he will constantly be making promises he can't keep and she will keep getting her hopes up then dropped due because of his inability to be upfront.

[@bijoux3867]

Niles DID tell her once via phone call that he wanted to postpone the wedding. She insisted, during that conversation, that they proceed with the wedding. Where Niles failed was the fact that he did not firmly make his decision clear and final after she insisted during that conversation. He allowed way too much time to pass before making his decision clear.

[@DracarysBTCH]

As I'm sitting here watching this as soon as they said he proposed again my man starts imitating hitting your head off a wall cause you're so confused and wanna slap someone 😂😂I had no clue he was invested in this

[@dessh2480]

i think its more of Masking than lying. but he did understand he was wrong

[@milodavis1]

What’s funny about this whole situation is that west African are the most blunt people i have ever met. I think Matilda would have been fine.

[@gram1976]

Remember people only hear and see what they want!! And of course, her yelling at him in the back of the car is throwing him off! TEAM NILES ❤

[@This_handle_is_tak3n]

lol this producer needs to be the producer covering all of the couples. TLC loves messiness so she was probably fired after live fact checking/pushing accountability.

[@JaGEM09]

Matilda is a rare gem to be honest, Niles will definitely lose her.

[@NatalieRabuzin]

Give Niles a break....he dreads confrontation...and her temper...

[@HaveCommonSense76]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Ankns-ug5ih]

That temper remark is being overblown for we haven't seen it yet, and Matilda has been understanding and accommodating of his gaslighting.

[@NatalieRabuzin]

@@Ankns-ug5ih that wasn't gaslighting...the situation and thatbword are getting super overblown...he TRIED TO SLOW HER DOWN...regarding wedding preparations...she wasn't having any of it..

[@LE0497]

​@@NatalieRabuzin him insisting he told her they not getting married is gaslighting his making her doubt herself and the truth when he knows he never told her he wasn't ready

[@NatalieRabuzin]

​@@LE0497 Leo...it is in there very beginning scenes when he was door dashing...he TOLD HER TO SLOW DOWN...yes a wedding in the future...she however refused to listen and told him not to disappoint her...

[@LP-ne9gy]

Have they forgotten he is a vulnerable person, a person with a disability? He has NEVER been in a serious adult relationship under this type of pressure. Talk about exploiting someone who is vulnerable. Shame on the producers of this show.

[@bobscratchett5346]

His disability has nothing to do with gaslighting and misleading Matilda. Autism doesn’t cause dishonesty. Iles chose to be on the show. No one is exploiting him

[@HaveCommonSense76]

Oh brother. He knows exactly what he’s doing.

[@LP-ne9gy]

@@bobscratchett5346 you are part of the problem.

[@LP-ne9gy]

@@HaveCommonSense76 I am sure he does know what he is doing....however his lack of socialization in this type of setting and relationship, along with his disability does not allow him to measure the consequences of his actions. Knowing this the producers are in a way exploiting him.

[@LP-ne9gy]

@@bobscratchett5346 I am sure he does know what he is doing....however his lack of socialization in this type of setting and relationship, along with his disability does not allow him to measure the consequences of his actions. Knowing this the producers are in a way exploiting him.

[@MichaelRedding-mx2tm]

It’s simple. If you don’t want to get married don’t ask anyone to marry you then.

[@ladinialauda3769]

Autism come with major social dysfunctions. It doesn't mean just being nerdy and always honest (Sheldon type behavior). I survived severe psychological and verbal abuse by an autistic man. He was able to tell himself lies to make himself look better and actually started and continued to believe the lies he made up. I think there is a correlation. Surely not with every autistic person. But probably Niles will always find ways in his head to make himself a victim and apologize his own wrong doings. If I would be able to speak to Matilda, I would sure tell her to leave, or better, run! They also don't fit together on so many other levels.

[@aventurasimbolos1725]

I don't buy Niles' "I didn't know I was lying".

[@yesseniagomez6054]

He did tell her about getting married over video chat but she didn't accept it. He wasn't forceful enough but he did mention not wanting to get married so quickly.

[@smrtars8018]

I have autism and we absolutely do know what is and is not a lie, in fact, myself and most of the people I have met in groups all have a very intense sense of right, and wrong, and wanting justice! He did it out of fear, and it seems he is very ashamed of that (as he very well should be).

[@clmk28]

I really had hope for this relationship. But if Niles does not marry Matilda he will regret it forever.

[@davicool4284]

Once Niles takes Matilda to America and he takes her to Olive Garden or even better Golden Corral - All will be forgiven.

[@charmleneboni]

Matilda! You can do SO much better!

[@monacam9341]

He is such a Liar Liar Liar. Nothing else

[@intodaysepisode...]

Niles DID tell her he thought they should wait. SHE spoke over him on the call!

[@fawnieee]

But he's also had so many other opportunities to do it?

[@AF-uk5ug]

I think he messed up when he proposed in Ghana

[@SheIsBeautyFromAshes]

Gaslighting is a colloquialism, defined as manipulating someone into questioning their own perception of reality. The expression, which derives from the title of the 1944 film Gaslight, became popular in the mid-2010s. Merriam-Webster cites deception of one's memory, perception of reality, or mental stability. Not a psych, but I do know it's linked to BPD!

[@truegee-777]

#😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 loving you😂😂😂😂

[@ArtingFromScratch]

I don't like how the producers call out Niles but DON'T call out Loren's gaslighting and "Faith didnt understand i was sleeping with people when i said I was sleeping at their house"

[@tonyaparrish5678]

I've never been this early🎉🎉🎉🎉2 mins in yayyy...hey there. Happy spooky day from Sunny North Carolina ❤❤❤

[@alanamcmillian5810]

I’m surprised to see Niles my ex on 90 day fiancé (we dated back in 2018), I will not disclose what happened between me and him out of respect for the both of us, but I will say this. I pray that they work things out, but he should not have led Matilda on. I’m getting married soon to my fiancé and we’re so pumped! However back to this, I don’t agree with him just letting her think all this time about them getting married soon.

[@andsimina7]

I know he's scared...but he doesn't seem to be that in love either..or it's just me?😅

[@misspbrown1219]

I'm not autistic nor am I educated on it but I know damn well it had nothing to do with him being a fraidy cat.