Nirmala Seetharaman Ji And The Patriarchy Debate

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@pg5506-k7q Ай бұрын

This evening only i experienced the patriarchal mindset of women ( last point). I am from a very small district in Maharashtra, not too backward but at the same time not too open. As a 22 year old who was brought up by a single widowed mother, i am compartively more independent than other girls in family , my thoughts don't allign on few topics such as: 1: People close to us (women especially) questioning my mother on her travel to other nearby bigger city for work purpose, saying that can't any man from your office do that in your place. 2. My interest in property matters. ( I am older then my brother n manage accounts ) 3. My mothers wish to divide property between me and my brother n relatives reaction on that the girl will go to " her " home , then what will happen to your property her husband will become the owner of that half , dismissing my right and my ability to manage the half of property, of which i am already managing from past 3 years( ye toh apne ghar chali jayegi , kya hoga phir). 4.women themselves putting other women down in work space for her promotion 5.Any mishape with woman in workspace is her fault as (agar ache ghar ki hoti toh apni hadd pata hoti)if she were of good character this wouldn't have happened. 6. My father's brothers, contacting my younger brother who is still a student n not involved in family matters bypassing my mother and me , as the "youngest" is man of your house. Last point is a between siblings, if there are two girls or two boys , the responsibility of younger is far less on elder one unlike in case of the girl being older , the boy being younger. Though taking care of younger sibling is not bad at all but if the younger is never held accountable for disrespect n not taught to respect the elder sibling, it creates a bitter relationship. Sorry for venting.

@happyheart1111 Ай бұрын

Not chunna, Jukhna padta,not piya, pita,I meant.

@rumawalke5608 28 күн бұрын

I feel you have articulated in the best manner possible..I am amazed at your observation which so obviously exists n everything does matter..

@shruti3730 Ай бұрын

You have raised very good issues sir👌.. I really appreciate your observation 💯

@shalinisaxena8271 Ай бұрын

If a woman is working and if she is single, most of the time is believed in Indian society that she is easily available, being an architect/interior designer poori zindgi lag jaati hai prove karne main ki she is here purely for professional reasons and is not available sexually. thanks for raising this issue, very brave and much needed action from your part, thanks an god bless

@Sandwich-h1e Ай бұрын

Single or not.working or not.....thinking easily available for sexual acting is wrong...

@iamkaur1841 11 күн бұрын

absolutely, if you are enterprising, you come out as available to clients,your bosses, colleagues everyone.

@priti1081 Ай бұрын

I totally agree with you. Either 3 times the effort or an uphill battle to constantly having to prove yourself.

@Dayorg716 Ай бұрын

Problem is, of any woman raises the issues that women face or speak against patriarchy, then she is tagged as feminist. It is true that women in MNCs have to prove themselves by doing atleast twice as good, to get equal recognition. Because, they cannot be friendly with their bosses or seniors. If they do, then they are misunderstood. If they don't, then a make colleague, who is more friendly with boss, gets the promotion, better rating.

@swatigupta2064 Ай бұрын

Sir is right..there is a patriarchy in Indian society..women face a hard time..proving themselves..there is not much family wealth on women name..everything belongs to brother or husband..only security is job..if any problem in job then women is left with nothing..everyone is there to take seva from women..parents in laws expects her to take care of them in old age ..she is supposed to take care if kids home cooking old parents in laws..on top of that job career..but she is not given an property or assets in most of the homes…

@AdityaJape Ай бұрын

laws in India don't allow family money to go in the hands of men please do some reading

@AdityaVerma-nf8tb Ай бұрын

Daughter have right in there parents property. If husband put his asset on wife , he lose his security in his relationship.. his wealth is his only security what he have . If he given to her she feel she don't need him (plz thing on basic gender psychology) Expecting wife to takjng care of family is not patriarchy , its simple traditional role in marriage "women serve & men provide". Bcz men select a women who can serve for him & women select a men who provide.. And ukw in marriage law court never mention the women who take care of his family then she is entitled to get some his wealth. Unko maintenance tab bhi milega agar wo family child aur husband ke liye kuch na kare ... And if u really want to know what happend if wife have right on husband property look at the west side , women initiate divorces get his half wealth even his house ... and he become homeless and dosent see his child again ...Matriarchy U only see patriarchy on economic basis and some how if we give u what u want then did u give what we want(with paper work)?

@AdityaVerma-nf8tb Ай бұрын

@@AdityaJape💯 they didn't get update since 1000bc😅

@Doge_4796 Ай бұрын

Not only in India patriarchy has been an issue in Foreign countries too.

@vatsalanand9734 Ай бұрын

Patriarchy as well as matriarchy co-exist.

@neha_ank Ай бұрын

Thanks for speaking on this. 👍 A handful of examples can't represent all women in the country. Most of the educated women are not able to work as they get no support from their families whatsoever.. And a woman in a position of power denying patriarchy in society is the biggest shame. Men are still changing slowly and trying to support them but females in the family can't see other women succeed.. This is a bigger issue.😔😔

@sasuke36571 Ай бұрын

yeah , this Nirmala does nothing for society , inflammation is going up and the price of Ruppe to dollar is increasing now its 1$ = 85 rupee look at the USA trump created D.O.G.E and its member is Vivek Ramaswamy and Elon musk they will try every thing to restore national pride , family system , marriage , birth rate , immigration , gender wokeness etc. but see what we have as financial a dumb woman who cant even answer a financial question and when someone tries to ask question she tries to silent her such a worst minister we have in India😢😢😢😢

@sasuke36571 Ай бұрын

@amritanurie4885 Ай бұрын

Absolutely correct

@sasuke36571 Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂kuch bhi

@challenger539 Ай бұрын

As a young man, I feel patriarchy is mostly economic nowadays rather than social. Nirmala Aunty's statement is based on individual success and doesn't address the systematic issues on large scale. While their individual success can be a way towards women's success but on the mass level actions comes from the governments(both Union & States). Because the social restrictions on women that existed 2 centuries ago doesn't now, but now we need economic empowerment in mass, and it's that economic revolution which can further cause social revolution. In India, women's employment rate is around 35% which is even lower than Bangladesh - 43%. And huge lower than slightly higher income of Vietnam- 60%+ women in workforce. In Bangladesh the readymade garments industries are exclusively employed to women resulting in higher female employment rate. So we need rather than individual aspirations to succees, collective state efforts towards mass-employment generations through especially through the secondary sector - industrial/processing jobs (small/middle/large scale, Textile etc) as they can provide employment in mass. That's the mass-economic participation of women that can financially empower them collectively upto the most poor & vulnerable sections of society that will make women independent and spontaneously break the shackles of patriarchy (without the need to shout to smash patriarchy) or any shaming.

@ruchirapant8540 Ай бұрын

This is one of the best vedios of Mr. Amit Sangwan.

@kaushaliaf Ай бұрын

Agree..

@YerlaNagpur Ай бұрын

Problems of working women that HR doesn't want to solve- - 8 hrs per day in contract but 11 hrs in office excluding commuting - office became a heavy smoking/ hookah bar. boss was chain smoker alongwith male employees - boss was an alcoholic & would come drunk in the afternoon n leave in a few hours. Male employees would join him at night & next morning they came to office with hangover - boss tried sexual harassment with most female employees . Copying the boss , male employees also tried the same - females bitched & gossiped about other females n spread fake news. All tried to interfere in the personal lives of female employees - salary came 2 -3 weeks late in account - not enough holidays & no sick leave. salary was cut by Rs 1000 per day if i was sick - office was a toxic workplace with seniors bullying screaming yelling at juniors; there were some physical fights too with males pushing females - filthy toilets, bad coffee , no canteen or meals - obviously this office closed down after just 1 year

@seemachaudhary4311 Ай бұрын

You are very right Sir, Nirmala ji you should go to Village.she will be able to understand women.

@navedpathan2212 Ай бұрын

Maturity is when you have realised that most people's life is difficult. It's not only gender specific like male, female or trans.

@artiniranjan9818 Ай бұрын

That prt teacher ,salesgirl hit hard...very true ...

@himanshiikkushwaha Ай бұрын

Being a teacher, you have to stand and teach even during menstrual cramps.you will get yelled at by female senior teacher, female coordinator, principal : why are you not taking rounds in class. Only 2 toilet in school which is used by students ( girls+ boys),teachers(male+ female),cleaners and principal as well. No working exhaust fan in toilet, only for show. Toilet smells like potty+urine all the time. There no facility, no time-break for you to change your pads during first 2-3 days of heavy menstrual flow. In no case you can take leave or ask to go home early, during heavy blood flow days. Reason: We have also managed in this, and have worked for so many years.If you want to work, work in this only. Cost of aspiring to become a strong independent women.

@sumitrach6152 Ай бұрын

Thank you for acknowledging ladies problems Patriarchy exists in India Koi maane ya naa maane

@sasuke36571 Ай бұрын

Because patriarchy is natural and good at same time ❤❤

@Lovelivewonderfullife Ай бұрын

whatever you said sir is 100% correct .I am a work in PSU workload , targets are always there but I have to deal with egoistic managers who always want to pull me down ,I have deal with that also.

@anjalirani5826 Ай бұрын

❤❤Sir you are 101 percent right word to word .27 year experience in Govt Job.

@ShyamBute Ай бұрын

Excellent video sir. Apne yaha devi ki pooja bas hoti hai, equality nahi hai. Ye chhoti moti jobs bhi kuch he ladies kar pati hain agar wo inlaws, husband aur baccho ki gulami se time nikal paye. Marriage me name, surname sab change karo, dowry do aur fir poori life servent bane raho. Uske bad bhi husband loyal hoga iski koi guarantee nahi. Khud ki identity to kis chidiya ka nam hai 90% ladies ko pata he nahi hai India me. Aise ladies ke bache bhi gulami ki masikta wale he hote hain. Na ideas, na confidence, bas jee jee karte rah jate hain poori life.

@neelubala801 Ай бұрын

Yes, it happens in jobs also. Male employees whose wives are non working are very jealous of female colleagues and refer the name of female colleagues for transfers to very distant places

@manmohandagar3012 Ай бұрын

What a realistic view and close to the truth about ground realities? You always help to add missing information about sensitive issues without abusing others. I also started to think in more comprehensive views about problems. Leftist think tanks make patriarchy a very big issue that It disconnected us from ground realities. Patriarchy is an issue but women's problems include many things such as education, health, lack of respect, need to prove their character, etc.

@nimbupaani6335 Ай бұрын

Both parties have pros and cons. We men are not born with value we have to create our value, we have to earn, otherwise nobody would respect us. Women even if they don't earn her father/husband always there to support financially, she can be dependent on men for shelter, food etc. nobody gives a F about adult man who doesn't earn forget about giving shelter nobody will respect him. education, health, lack of respect, need to prove their character - These are applicable to both genders not just women.

@kkmahor270 Ай бұрын

ढोल, गंवार, शूद्र, पशु, नारी, सकल ताड़ना के अधिकारी Our system work this way even today

@gauravsinha4662 Ай бұрын

Our present finance minister is the perfect real life example of that category of south delhi girls and their level of wisdom & knowledge upon which stand up comedians do make out jokes of😂.

@promamukherjee5247 Ай бұрын

Amitji, bohot achha video banaya hai aapne. Sach me office culture mein women chatukarita nhi karti, karna chahe bhi to log affair ki gossip shuru kar dete hai… Software jobs mein toh koi end-time hi nhi hai, women late night tak calls aur zoom meetings me fasi rehti hai… aur bachho ko maids ya bujurg paalte hai

@ruchirapant8540 Ай бұрын

There is a lot of patriarchy in our society. Ma'am Nirmala should think & make responsible statements. Sir , you are very practical & grounded. I hope everyone in top positions understood this situation & system well & not make irresponsible statements. She is talking like Marie Antoinette, queen of France during the beginning of the French revolution.

@Sandwich-h1e Ай бұрын

Nema Tai ji sahi hai.........woh brave hai...har time rona accha nhi lagta,,....isleye woh finance minister hai

@vishaldas5758 Ай бұрын

@@Sandwich-h1e looks like you don't come under tax bracket 😂😂

@anushaprabhu3636 Ай бұрын

What you said is absolutely correct. Ask a female employee who is working so hard in core engineering roles. We face snide comments on a regular basis😢

@learnwithprvn Ай бұрын

I agree to what he is saying but IT companies are completely biased while hiring female employees to maintain gender equality. I myself have been asked by HR to hire female candidates even if they don't meet the expectations in the interview

@ruchirapant8540 Ай бұрын

Even in banks in villages there is no washroom for women. I know girls who have experienced this.

@IndianScholar-t9m Ай бұрын

Mamata also emerged with the help of a lot of top male congress leaders of her time.

@anjalirani5826 Ай бұрын

Help lena alag baat hai..God father ke basis par aage badhna bilkul hi alag baat hai..Mere office mai girls God father ke support mai baithi hai..Girls bhi support ke bina chalna nahi chahti.

@Studymaterialforkids Ай бұрын

Well said 🙏🏻kaam dena kaam nhi hota, kaam krna kaam hota h

@KingGodzilla-m2t 15 күн бұрын

Bharat mai Arrange marriage ban kar deni chahiye. Arrange marriage ki wajah se chewt!ye se chewt!ye londo ko bade aaram se ladki mil jaati hai isiliye ye ijjat nhi karte hai. Foreign countries mai shaadi ke liye ladki ko impress karna padta hai. Jisse aadmi ko ladkiyon ki ijjat karna seekhna padta hai. Yaha India mai free mai milti hai isiliye log ijjat nhi karte hai.

@okfine_33 Ай бұрын

Parents ko darr lagta hai due to increasing harassment of women in work force.... Fir woh baat udta hai toh rishte aane par bhi pucha jaata hai woh shak ladki par hi jaata hai .. Yeh mere family friend mein hua hai.....

@bhavanajindal676 Ай бұрын

Women ko kahin se support nhi , i had a very good job in another state but had to leave that as i had no wfh option and at home people can not adjust, the company only speak of dei policies but koi implementation nhi hoti sab fancy terms hai, even after being an high performer in my job i had to face this

@rumawalke5608 28 күн бұрын

Such an insightful video

@vipinaggarwal51 Ай бұрын

Disappointed with the standards of guruji(whom I really admire) Sells/appreciate m3m 89 but now when customers are in problem not a single comment/video.

@IndianScholar-t9m Ай бұрын

M3M 89 matlab?

@Kiranarora-xe8in Ай бұрын

Very good...much appreciated 👍

@gita174521 Ай бұрын

The pressure of pretending strong ..role model.. Dikhna hai. Thats why these womens lack the ground reality of other women. Housewife.. Do not get any respect. I see housewife so frustate and hankering for opportunities to earn some money and feel self worth. I feel their pain.

@its_aratrika Ай бұрын

I was a working woman, has to leave work because of working hours and inequality. No support system for working mothers always available in Society. Mother in law stays with us but unwell and can't do household work. Never earned high so couldn't effort house-helps more than 2. Household chores has to be look after by someone dedicated otherwise Bohu going for work not possible. I think business from home or service profession is good for women, corporate job not possible.

@Sandwich-h1e Ай бұрын

Internet has lot of opportunities....

@Juhiswami21 Ай бұрын

Sir..this is the bestest video❤❤❤

@fighter44777 Ай бұрын

kafi sahi bole guruji aap

@madhuk1111 Ай бұрын

guruji, in govt jobs/PSUs it is really very bad, and all things you said are true . thanks for so honestly putting it out 🙏

@monikagaur1421 Ай бұрын

Badiya video.. MAG. Yes it is very true. We glorify people who worked beyond official hours. I think it should be exactly the opposite. Ask an employee who is staying late ki bhai aisa kya kam kar rha hai jo tere se office hours mein nhi hota aur agar nhi hota to kyu nhi hota. Iska matlab tu inefficient hai. Unfortunately we celebrate its opposite

@avinandadutta1030 Ай бұрын

Each and every word is true.Respect for this man.

@anamikathakur2314 Ай бұрын

Working women in govt wali baat bilkul sahi hai

@Despacitomedica22 Ай бұрын

We need to be present in operation theatre even with menstrual cramps

@punjabitikka 23 күн бұрын

I’m F49. Sir this is your best video ever.

@nikitaraghuvanshi6453 27 күн бұрын

It’s everywhere across the globe.. i have been/going through all of this big time at my workplace. My manager is unable to give me meaningful work because he feels that people won’t listen to me since i am a woman.. he’s not pushing for my promotion because they need men to head the position and i ask too many questions, i am ambitious and they don’t want women to be in a leader’s position. Finding jobs too has become quite tough, as it’s the same outside as well. I am working on developing my own thing now, i can’t sustain in such toxicity. I value my peace of time, mind and respect myself more than going through the stupidity that’s around me.

@Onejoy37 Ай бұрын

Sir apki har video main impress ho jata hoon👏👏👌 itni achhi deep thinking or problem ko address karna kahan se laate ho aap. No doubt sari problems bilkul Natural or sahi samajhte ho aap or koi nhi samjhta 🙏👏. I am full supporting you

@prathmeshgawde9510 Ай бұрын

I agree with you 50%, sir. Many of the most physically demanding labor jobs are performed by men, as they often require physical strength that many women may not possess due to natural limitations. However, I feel that the discussion tends to overlook this aspect. I’m not denying that women face challenges, but the narrative often seems to paint men as oppressors while ignoring their contributions and struggles.

@tanushreemishra7007 Ай бұрын

Very nice video sir.Proving oneself in a Govt job put so much pressure on girls and infrastructure there is also made only from patriarchial mindset.

@nehachaudhary8348 27 күн бұрын

Yes sir very true.

@mitalibanerjee6278 Ай бұрын

Very good topic

@bhavanajindal676 Ай бұрын

lot of respect to you

@arjundevsingh3846 Ай бұрын

Gurujii sahi bol rahe ho aap

@shellysingh427 Ай бұрын

Each and every word is true Itna zyada females suffer karti hai chahe wo house wife ho aur working hai to double suffer kar ri hai

@UmarKhan-b6m3v Ай бұрын

You are also ignoring the problem of antimen laws and blaming men to be negative

@Clarityinlife335 Ай бұрын

At the end, sab changa si.

@Mrityunjay-go1wd Ай бұрын

Long time Guruji we really Missed You 😃

@tinasharma412 Ай бұрын

Superb 😊

@ruchirapant8540 Ай бұрын

The common Indian women are not that free , they are enveloped by patriarchy before & after marriage

@skalia4981 Ай бұрын

महिला सशक्तिकरण का एक उदाहरण है देखने को मिलता है कि जब चुनाव के दौरान कोई सीट महिला के लिए आरक्षित हो जाती है तो पति उसे निर्वाचन केलिए खड़ा कर देता है बाद में चलती तो पति की है और राज पति का नाम पत्नी का!

@IshwarSingh-q7e Ай бұрын

Jai ho guruji❤

@__nemo__123 Ай бұрын

I faced so much harassment from male professors as a female student in India. Itna khulle aam kuch bhi bol aur karne ki himmat hoti hai unki, even at prestigious institutes! Phir aur jagah toh kya haal hoga. Lady professors tak itna sehem ke rehti thi - because they did not have real power. Now I live in another country - my colleagues treat me just like another human being - no less no more - how sad that this is a luxury for me compared to the situation in my own country!

@pinksky_466_00 Ай бұрын

@@__nemo__123 Mam which country did you move to if you can elaborate

@drheenapatel6346 Ай бұрын

Is bande ko politics me lao , shyd desh sudhar jae ..

@neelubala801 Ай бұрын

If a woman becomes something by her struggle, she has to prove everytime. Female who maintains her dignity level has more enemies.

@NaveenKumar-dz2ir Ай бұрын

guruji plz make video on meditations i really want videos on them plz.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@kundanprasad655 Ай бұрын

Due to south policy of BJP, she is FM ..... She doesn't deserve this

@poonamsrivastva Ай бұрын

👏

@bhavanajindal676 Ай бұрын

right, had happened same in one company , no breaks and if you leave on time, then people raise their eye brows

@binamahto9875 Ай бұрын

Sir, ek law aana chahia jiska child 0-2 yrs tk ka h , usai job m koi mentally harassed na kare, n target jada naa de...

@ritud5988 Ай бұрын

Completely agree wd all points

@aadarsh108 Ай бұрын

Sir please also make video on meditation 🧘‍♂️

@sarvjeetkaur2329 Ай бұрын

Well said

@rahultrivedi9739 Ай бұрын

How many women in india want to be a civil engineer? I don't agree with sitaraman but your examples are misleading. You can't just quote a number/ratio without the background.

@divyasinghphougat8520 Ай бұрын

Thats not the point. You are missing the bus. I also faced this. I wanted to take ECE bit the admission dean said CSE would suit you better. There was gender prejudice. I didn't know better and too CSE. Later he explained that ECE suits boys more than girls.

@ashishjhala5830 Ай бұрын

Wah gurujee.bot achcha

@kishoremirchandani8671 Ай бұрын

Thanks Sir 🙏

@SumitSingh-mm7co Ай бұрын

Finally intezaar khtm hua 😅

@dhanamjayas Ай бұрын

You are very correct when very rich people do things themselves, they will know the value of time. You are also correct by saying they are giving work to others, but not doing anything themselves!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@happyheart1111 Ай бұрын

True! Jisne majority females ki deprived & backward life nahi jiya woh, sab kuch theek hi toh hai, sirf apne privileged hone ke karan boltey hai not as common citizens because they lack empathy.

@shivangshukla7232 Ай бұрын

Jay ho 🎉

@happy..1907 Ай бұрын

US mein toh aaj bhi 0 female presidents hain. Mera Bharat mahaan 🇮🇳

@dhanamjayas Ай бұрын

Yes, in South India, women are given more freedom and respect than north India. There are many differences between north India and South India. In 1990's even after 600pm , not even males are seen on streets of Delhi! We used to walk on centre of roads!😂😂😂

@saikatghosh90 Ай бұрын

Women and our Gurumata from Gurugram are still stuck in victim hood....

@whitesidehacker7439 Ай бұрын

😂

@DevduttaFlute Ай бұрын

❤❤

@Kashishkumawat22 Ай бұрын

Plz sir make a video on this issue ki female agr kisi post pr h to uske liye ye hi chiz q. Ati h ki wo characterless h chahe ap female doctor ho nurse ho teacher ho. Ya police me ho. 😢😢

@diptiranjanpani1604 Ай бұрын

100 percent correct sir

@darkvader125 Ай бұрын

yep i agree with you

@Kashishkumawat22 Ай бұрын

Working as a female nursing officer in central government hospital Previous week Mera ek male colleague female doctor k liye. Bol rha tha ye q yha barbad ho rhi h ghr jake. Bche q nhi palti & I was like 😮 after realise what these mantallity men have

@ankitjain6033 Ай бұрын

Entitlement breeds insensitivity

@iquidsports Ай бұрын

Prejudice boss yes

@dhanamjayas Ай бұрын

She should consider pan India, not her own family!😂😂😂😂

@challenger539 Ай бұрын

@anmolpatel793 Ай бұрын

Women are still mostly opressed in both Bangladesh and Vietnam but atleast we will get some economic growth

@challenger539 Ай бұрын

@@anmolpatel793 Economic liberation is a significant step towards breaking shackles of oppression.

@shiroyasha_007 Ай бұрын

Nirmala ji bhi to apne bade sir ke ishare pe naach rahi h

@sanskritiverma8010 Ай бұрын

Make a meditation video please. Like.... what kind of meditation should we ACTUALLY do?

@Anant.Bhatia.Antz_Bin Ай бұрын

Percentage representation of girls in my engineering college by branch Civil 10% Mechanical 7.5% Production 3% Computer 20% IT 50% Electronics & Telecommunication 25% Metallurgy 10% Electrical 20%

@sasuke36571 Ай бұрын

all thanks to quotas and reservation 😂😂😂😂

@pinksky_466_00 Ай бұрын

Sitharaman herself is a puppet, there is nothing more that can be expected out of her.

@DrRekhasirvi Ай бұрын

Sahi baat kon pitta apni beta aur beti ko apni property(asset) deta hai bina mange

@renukajoshi8001 Ай бұрын

She lacks to see situations through common people’s perspective

@seemasaini8870 Ай бұрын

True

@safenhappyperiods9418 Ай бұрын

Amit ji, so well said about menstrual health. We should do a small interactive session on this. We meet so many young girls and women across India and seen women sharing their menstrual stories/ challenges with us.

@GurujiFromGurugram Ай бұрын

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