How To Heal From Bullying - It's Time To Lose The Pain

[@Disconnect350]

Automatically assuming anyone who bullied you had a troubled life is extremely ignorant and still does not justify their actions. There are plenty of bullies out there who have good lives and still hurt others for simple fun.

[@lisasykes9295]

Dangg

[@Gazcan]

Agreed. Some people just want power and they don't care about others.

[@volebien]

This is very rare, though. After watching this video and when I think about it now, most people who disrespected me or had a problem for the person I was or bullied me, really had a problem with how they viewed the world.

[@Disconnect350]

@@volebien Not at all. You must not have met a lot of people to think that it's very rare. I'd say, bullies having troubled life is very rare in my case. I knew guys who would cut up lizards and sick their dogs to kill cats for entertainment. Different experiences I guess. But saying that bullies doing it for fun is "very rare" is ignorant.

[@jennifercuddy5663]

I have had to cut off relations with all of my siblings due to their bullying.

[@gsw_music]

The bullying I experienced in middle school has not left me. Since then, I’ve struggled with low self-esteem, lack of motivation to pursue goals, and a fear of connecting with other people. All because of some verbal and physical attacks I experienced as a kid. Having said that, I’m in therapy, I’ve started seeking better friends, and I have creative outlets such as music to help me with my healing. Nobody deserves to feel alone or experience abuse. If you’re reading this and struggling, know that I’m right there with you, and I wish you all the best in your recovery.

[@miaparker9539]

I wish you recovery and healing, it’s hard to find the trust to go out and make friends again and I’m glad you’re seeking out more friendships, I’m very proud of you :)

[@AnthonyPyatt-zy6dp]

Same man but I use self therapy and the people around me who love me to get by

[@jupiterscorner5423]

OMG I experienced middle and high school bullying and struggled with not taking action, procrastination, but I do connect with others after years of struggling. I need to go back to therapy.

[@p3rf3ctionz]

thank you. i hope you got better too.

[@gsw_music]

@@p3rf3ctionz I forgot about this comment I left until I got an email about your comment! I’ve worked through a lot of the trauma and have been able to get into a much healthier emotional space. I’m now working toward some meaningful goals and am surrounded by supportive people, and I’m also trying to be someone people can lean on. Hang in there, it’s worth it!

[@_angelicr]

When someone bullies someone, it says everything about them & nothing about you. Bullies are often unhappy & insecure within themselves, no one should feel the need to make someone feel bad about themselves. It's time to own your power & focus on your healing. I'm learning this after many years of bullying & abuse. I've suffered through low self esteem but I'm getting stronger. Thank you Noah, your videos have always helped so much

[@skinni153]

hope u feel better now

[@ts3858]

Yes. But it doesn't matter 'why'. There is NEVER an excuse to be evil and abusive.

[@jab7480]

Thank you

[@johnsonoutdoors8117]

I was bullied for 7 years and I don’t know how to talk to people or show emotions anymore or if I have emotions anymore

[@ts3858]

@@johnsonoutdoors8117 I'm sorry you had to go through that..you did not deserve that...The bullies are the cowards! You deserve respect and you matter...Don't give up. I hope you will heal...

[@malcolm24568]

You would think once we become adults bullying would stop, but oftentimes it can actually get worse. Sadly grown adults still result in acting like children. Great video though mate, love your content.

[@GnosisDharma]

So true, when you get to hear that you are not good enough at work even if you know it is not true, it feels who are going to believe me over them because they are more people. When you need money to survive, it is really hard experiencing and because we compete for jobs and we need to kinda sell ourselves, it is hard to say good things about yourself if you only heard bad things about yourself. I went from job to job and had multiple bad experiences after each other and I tried to reach out for help, it totally killed me inside when a man I know told me it got to be something wrong with me. It has made me go silent because I feel nobody believes me anyway, after I did find a job I had for 4 years, but after 2 years I started to experience abuse and I do reach out for help but it is hard to get help. I was supposed to start rehab work next year and the contact person I got blamed me off everything he said things like can everybody be wrong? Bullies want you to take responsibility for their actions. I had my clue that my contact person was toxic so I was kind of prepared that this what he was going to do to me, so I had my claws out. I told him that I only take responsibility for my actions and that even if I done something wrong, nobody ever has the right to abuse me. I not going to take that rehab job if I will only experience more abuse doing that.

[@gabrielavilla7308]

think about the huge amount of women in abusive relationships with men who physically and emotionally bully them....

[@milanmarie1384]

🙌🏻💯

[@gbrieannful]

Right I’ve experienced workplace bullying.

[@kita5282]

so true, and if you're on the receiving end of it as an adult having also been bullied as a child, realising that this never stops because some people are incapable of changing and choosing to be better is one of the most disappointing realisations i've ever had in my life. It's an incredibly bitter pill to swallow especially for those of us who are intelligent and self aware and have spent YEARS working hard to undo the psychological damage bullies had done to us as children only to find out that just because you've left school mentally as well as physically doesn't mean other people have

[@AliciaHostetler]

I've been bullied my whole life for being different. Thank you for this, this was so helpful.

[@johnsonoutdoors8117]

I was bullied just for liking different things and trying to be nice to everyone.

[@tarawalsh-arpaia3928]

That really resonates with me because my daughter is different and was so brutally bullied in school that, at age almost 19, she is still traumatised by it. The tragedy is that she went to a school that prides itself on it's enlightened practices and anti-bullying culture. What really happened is that they repeatedly avoided and evaded the abuse that happened right in front of them because the other kids and their parents were always excusing their behaviours by saying: 'I have anxiety', ' It was unintentional' despite the harm being so severe. She is emotionally ravaged by it to this day and it is devastating for us, her parents, to see.

[@Chinni_C888]

In a world like this, being the odd one out can be the biggest blessing we can have.

[@kita5282]

+johnson outdoors I see you. it sucks but i'd rather be like me than them even with the bullying! It may not feel like it but i think really we are the ones winning - because we just ARE ourselves - we're not trying to be someone else and we're not jumping through hoops for acceptance or trying to validate our own existence by clawing our way to the top of some bizarre and frankly meaningless social ladder. Isn't it funny that individuals who know their own minds terrify and threaten people who lost their individuality and their minds a long time ago. Like I said - I think we're really the ones winning.

[@p3rf3ctionz]

being unique is never bad. uniqueness is what makes this world colorful and you shouldn't feel ashamed for being unique or different.

[@camez2345]

Bullying by parents is horrible because they are the people who you most look to for information about the world and about yourself during your most formative years. In my case, the bullying was quiet and insidious. It came in the form of invalidation and disappointment: sighs, eye rolls, tsks, "stop crying already" -- logic and science mattered, not feelings. Mom and dad don't need feelings, so why should you? Fifty years later, I still berate myself for being so "sensitive."

[@adrianaswift]

I grew up been bullying by my parents and my two younger sisters grew up with this Pat so they did the same to me, my father always told me things like I’m ugly and stupid, every week he told me that I’m not part of their family like I don’t bond with them, now I’m 35 years old and I just had a baby three month ago, I haven’t heard anything from anyone of them except from my dad who sent an email the day my baby was born saying it was a day they won’t celebrate ever. My life is very very sad i have tons of mean stories from them

[@ts3858]

Ok. Stop. You are ok the WAY you are. No such thing as 'too sensitive'. Debunk that lie!

[@Chezay586]

@@adrianaswift how horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that! They sound like nasty people. Don't listen to these nasty toxic people. You are loved and worthy ❤️

[@ManzoorAhmad-es4oo]

Excellent ! But kindly elaborate that how victim should challenge the bullyer

[@brigitte5080]

I just broke down sobbing during the work. I've been bullied a lot through my life, but the last one at the workplace where I lost my job is the worst. I question so much of who I am now because of what my manager did to me. Everyone allowed it, even when I asked for help, they told me it didn't happen and it was my imagination. That just compounds it. I don't know how I can interview or go back to the workplace now after what I've experienced. I have panic attacks and start shaking when I think about working. I feel stuck.

[@antrask1]

God bless you as prayers go out. It’s so horrible but you were let go from this place to find a better opportunity. To get better please consider taking magnesium complex nightly to help anxiety and healing. You will get through this

[@ts3858]

@Brigitte...You don't deserve that. I wish I could go with you and fight those #$@. Know you are not alone and you are supported ! 🙏

[@brigitte5080]

@@Isabella-wo9bg know that you may have been traumatized and have CPTSD from it. There is also a support group on Facebook about being bullied in the workplace. What happens isn't right and needs to change!

[@tangelaallgood925]

Please keep your head up and keening you. You are awesome don’t forget that.

[@tarawalsh-arpaia3928]

That is appalling and people really do not realise the damage even a toxic environment in the workplace or school can cause over a long-term. We aren't made to flourish in such an environment. You are not responsible for anyone else's behaviour but I know that is so much easier said than felt. I wish you true joy.

[@NessaHudgensChick]

I definitely cried watching this. The visualisation was so painful but also powerful and long overdue. Thanks a million, as always, Noah!

[@crystal_xxi]

My experience: I was left out, discriminated against and maliciously teased the majority of elementary school. It was basically every girl in the class, the boys were always neutral. Well, I suppose I was much more awkward and shy than the other girls and I had no friends in the class to begin with so I was an easy target. I had friends at some points but there was a girl who turned them against me. There were a few girls who seemed to really enjoy laughing at me, trying to get me to say stupid things and basically just making it obvious that they thought I was gross. A common manifestation of the discrimination was that I had trouble finding partners or groups when doing a collaborative project of some sort. It's depressing to think about how often the teacher must have had to ask a random group to take me in. Also, changing the seat arrangement in class was a nightmare for me. The boiling point came in 6th grade - no one wanted to sit next to me so the teacher asked all the boys to leave and just yelled at the girls to stop leaving me out every chance they got. It did make things a bit easier (it was close to graduation so it was a small mercy) but the damage had already been done. I actually had a friend group in middle school and unbelievably, I wasn't bullied in high school. I did not make any friends in high school, though. Popular kids and kids with big groups still intimidated me. I've just started uni and while I feel as though everyone is a million times nicer here than in HS, I'm so damaged that I assume everyone hates me. Less than four weeks in and my anxiety is already having ramifications on my education. Basically I've lived without bullying for six years now and I'm still confused, angry, sad, craving revenge. I'm certain I developed depression and suicidal thoughts because of the discrimination. I'm certain I got more shy and developed anxiety because of what they did to me. I'm certain my bottled up anger stems from the bullying. Essentially, they caused all of my problems and suffered no punishment. I'm traumatized and I would like to make them understand what they've done by exploiting my poor social skills and making me feel like I was worth nothing. -All that said, I cried while imagining myself back in a bullying situation. I suppose that it's good to write this down, too.

[@sarahsiddiqa6945]

I'm sorry you had to experience this. Maybe talking it through with a therapist will help and videos on PTSD. I've been through similar things so I'm trying to find videos on PTSD.

[@crystal_xxi]

@@sarahsiddiqa6945 Thank you. I'm trying to get therapy but it's proving difficult. I am getting mental health care in general though.

[@linsaphire7300]

I’m sorry you had to experience that. But revenge is never the solution. I hope you get over this. And I KNOW YOU CAN. Try a therapist i went to one and they really helped me. I specifically did EMDR treatment. I hope you feel better soon and videos like this help you❤️

[@pricemutikisha4888]

Omg,I had nearly the exact same experience.

[@jupiterscorner5423]

I have experienced this exact same thing. I am sending you love. I can relate to all of these.

[@einsteindarwin8756]

So true our friends are just competitors once I learned that I decided to put myself first. I learned that too late about my parents. They were bullied themselves. It’s important to see patterns in yourself as well as others as soon as possible:

[@hemantpal1354]

Thnku for this... I was bullied mentally. I thought that there is smthng wrong with me but after some years I realized my powers, I realised that I'm not worthless. I'm super confident now. I'm mentally strong now. I'm physically strong now. I'm too better than them. I radiate positivity. I'm going to achieve everything I want. I'm on my way to succes. Now, I have beautiful people in my life who loves me a lot. people who bullied me stand nowhere in front of me now. and Now they can't treat me in the same way bcz they know I'm stronger now. ❤❤

[@jayseanp]

I’ve been having bad dreams about fighting bullies from the past and I decide to look up a videos and found you and u were in my guide meditation in the morning, I feel so much better now 😊🙏🏾 thank you so much 💕

[@aleynawastaken]

I relate to this a lot. Hope your dreams have gotten better. Stay strong!

[@popkultureentertainment324]

I ruminate over the past and how I failed to stand up for myself.It haunts me that I had P little self respect.

[@aleynawastaken]

Thank you for this exercise. I closed my eyes and followed your steps. Almost had a panic attack when imagining the faces and scenarios. I think many girls go through verbal and psychosocial bullying in school. I feel a tiny bit less worthless and self critical after this video, thank you.

[@runalong9919]

I've only ever experienced bullying as an adult... Can't even begin to imagine how it would have been as a kid 😓

[@GnosisDharma]

I experienced both and for me it was worse when I was an adult because now it is about money and survival.

[@GnosisDharma]

@cool dude In Finland as well? We have different laws here we can't sue people and companies in the same manner as Americans. I never heard any press legal actions against a company for bullying. Right now I don't have a job, I have done rehab work and gone to school and now I don't know what I'm going to do, because I was getting help getting a new job but my contact person thought I'm not well enough to start working and so she made plans for me to start rehab work again but the contact person I got treated me like a criminal and blamed me for being bullied in the past. So it was an horrible experience for me to be alone with him in the same room and I'm not going to have him as contact person. I refuse to meet him again. So now I don't know what to do, because yes I got mental problems because of abuse so it is not just that easy for me to just find a job and start working again.

[@anaig9599]

When i was a child i was bullied by adults and others kids

[@dotdashdotdash]

as a child, it feels like imminent death

[@andreasselfors5250]

Its much worse being bullied as an adult

[@ts3858]

My childhood bully was just an evil psychopath with no remorse today. This person was not in pain and is living a charmed life today...the bully just literally wants POWER and to inflict suffering. I tried the other way and I have ZERO empathy for EVIL BULLIES

[@Username-ky3lr]

Yep my bullies are all like that and now I am trying to gain some strength. They are all a bunch of evil psychos who have parents who charm them and baby them like the losers they are. Bullies never deserve empathy or remorse.

[@ansr3538]

Most bullies in my experience are spoilt brats with a sense of entitlement, they are the competitive ones in life, the idiot humans that feel they have to be the best at everything. Soon as I have a sense of this from someone I make distance, these kinds of people are dangerous for good mental health. The only thing that brings me comfort is karma ....they too will suffer, they are not above the power of god 💝

[@estheradao]

Same

[@inang1968]

Kinda proud of my self. Like just a few months ago I keep searching "how to get revenge to my bullies" to "how to heal from bullying" Cause lets be honest I could never get revenge. I'm too poor and stupid. I still haven't forgiven them, they don't want to be forgiven to since for them "its already over". Worse I was bullied by girls and then my friends. I just don't want to be bullied in work so I keep practicing how to be confident and not look weak. Although revenge is the only thing that kept me alive from all those attempts.

[@shashankagarwal2214]

What i found is that you need to understand why someone is bullying you...i was bullied because i was low confident fat child who trying to look tough...what experience told me to start work on yourself (in my case body development + public speaking ).... it's like you can't stand up if you never fall...

[@ts3858]

@@shashankagarwal2214 There's NEVER a good reason that anyone should bully another. It is NOT the victims fault. Nip this thing in the bud as soon as it tries to start NOW. I stand up for the victims today and shout my mouth off...dont care if man or woman. STOP. no flight or freeze mode. Just back off! The bullies need this...beat them at their own game.

[@oversubestimated1]

I've been bullied by my dad, some members of my family and classmates and even friends at school. What you've said is true, even friends bully us somehow. Many words as 'you're useless' 'you're an imbecile' 'you're an idiot' impacted on me strongly affecting my self-concept, self-image and selfsteem. Now I'm 29 yrs old and I am finally treating this matter. Thank you.

[@NoahElkrief]

I hear you Kenneth. Good luck

[@lowbridgehit]

I was bullied in middle school. I am now a 53 year old professional in sales. No matter the size of a client I don’t tolerate bad behaviour towards myself. I have been called a quietly driven person. But I have a strategy when people yell & swear at me when something goes wrong. I will put up with it for a while then talk to my boss & get their account transferred away to a remote in house computer based system where they can’t directly confront people & frankly it sucks for customers. Then they see the value in what they had in me & can’t hurt anyone. I then go back to the vast majority of wonderful people that I work very hard for. I will never tolerate bullies ever again & if you mess with me I will put you in a position that you don’t want to be in. If we lose some business from it that’s ok.

[@wilsonz9232]

This was so helpful! 1) envision the bully there in front of me and yell at them for the hurt they caused me 2) give that dark energy back to them because I don’t want their shit anymore. Their negative judgment of me is not needed anymore. I don’t need to hold onto it 3) understand they hurt me because they were hurting and unhappy so bullying was their way out of suffering.

[@patakanz]

14 hours ago, I had no idea I even needed to be here. In my 40s and with countless experiences in therapy, I'd never joined the dots and realised that that's more or less what happened to me for five years in high school - bullying from peers and even teachers. It was through a dream that I finally realised it. And yet here I am, having just bawled my eyes out on two separate occasions during this video. I might return to this video in a few weeks' time and write a follow-up comment. Often, things that we've carried for decades take time to fully wash away.

[@jamiezandt7655]

Thank you Noah for making this video for all of us. You especially clicked with saying, "I deserve friends, I deserve lovers" Two things my bullying experience took away from me. Blessings to you. 😇🥰

[@rachaelpino6914]

I appreciate that you didn't go the intellectual route with this. I have always been told that when people treat me badly, it is because of them, but that doesn't always help in the moment. Allowing myself to have these feelings reminds me that my feelings do matter. It is hard to believe that my feelings are important sometimes because I have been so busy just intellectualizing them

[@juliachu3775]

I think some people bully others out of enjoyment...NOT because they have any pain themselves, but purely have a mean spirit and enjoy their dominance and the victim's pain

[@Chezay586]

I've been bullied as a teenager and in adulthood. I think adulthood is alot worse. I developed panic attacks. My self esteem and confidence was absolutely crushed. I also completely lost my faith in humanity. I've always been a caring and trusting person. Now I've become emotionless (emotionally numb?) and afraid to trust others

[@FortworthYT]

It's a right thing that you feel about that since nowadays no one is worth a single trust. If you want to fight then go for it, if you are bored of talking then use your fists.

[@IngerWinkelmann]

I needed this so much right at this exact moment, thank you so much

[@გიორგიასანაშვილი-ი2თ]

Same

[@adoreshorses7480]

Thank you so much for this insightful and supportive message to us. I’ve been bullied and gossiped about badly in a hiking group I joined a few months ago and it’s caused me a lot of sadness and lack on concentration. Working on self healing daily. I would never hurt a human being like I’ve been hurt. This helped me thank you 🙏

[@aleynawastaken]

The fact that you said "I would never hurt a human being like I’ve been hurt" shows how pure your heart is and proves how sad those bullies are. You are better than them because of your heart, don't let them hurt you with their selfish gossip.

[@rickyd7631]

Thank you Noah. I visioned my old basketball coach in front of me. He would shout at me make me feel small and stupid. Like I wasn't capable of anything. I could feel lots of tension building up behind my eyes. From your excercise. Then I just visioned a big Lazer coming from my eyes towards him giving back my pain and sadness and anger and worthless. All back towards him. At the end I just can't stop smiling. I'm going to do this again. Thank you Noah.

[@darthz261]

i was bullied in middle school. not physically, but socially and psychologically. every thing i said would be mocked and laughed at by my piers, and if i made a small mistake, they would never forget it. i think i was behind a little in social development. i was the constant laughing stock and joke amongst my piers. i have vivid memories of being laughed at by many people while i tried to laugh it off, but i was really just holding back tears. maybe i was just sensitive, but it really scarred me, and i remember crying myself to sleep for many nights. i remember trying to hide it from my parents, and them being worried about me. i was always too embarrassed to tell them, because i was scared they would think less of me. this definitely helped me out.

[@ljj2779]

Thank you so much for making this video. I am still negatively affected by others who have disrespected and bullied me. This is helping me heal.

[@random_dentist_guy]

I'm so sorry for treating people disrespectfullly in my childhood

[@dcrafton3988]

Go apologize to them in their face, not here.

[@classicfilmfan6382]

I watched this last night and this was very helpful for me because every job that I worked at I experienced bullying. It caused me so many problems in my life because bullies can make you doubt yourself and feel worthless and because it kept happening, I put the blame and pain on myself for thier behaviour even though I did nothing to them and worked hard and was nice. Someone ruined my reputation at a job that I was at and I worked with her before and trusted her and she stabbed me in the back. So the pain is still there every day because I've gone over and over it in my mind of why did you do this and how could you do this??! I was even genuinely happy to see my bully at the job and talked to her like we were friends, little did I know that she was saying awful things about me that weren't true. I think it hurt so much because I trusted her and I thought we had each other's backs. I'm still healing from all of the bullying but you have a really good heart to have videos like this because closing my eyes and doing what you suggested has given me hope, healing and has helped me in my life. I can't thank you enough!!! You're amazing!! 💖💛✨🙏 😊

[@goldendiamon]

This is why I have social anxiety sometimes meeting people and not staring at them when first time meeting them

[@undergroundfitclub1]

Can you do MORE videos like this one ...giving helpful advice on what to do to get rid of the pain from bullying. I experienced it in HS. and still are scared n fearful. I can't seem to feel anger rage or get mad at what the bully did.i m 62 now. Would appreciate it. Thx Paul

[@eventsdeveloper1739]

Wow I had these people in a room. Various reasons. Felt so trapped, suffocated and angry. Powerless. Giving back to them cleared and standing up for me. Bit floaty now, but feel good. Thanks Noah super!

[@JP-pt8ul]

Thank you for the video it help me release...been bullied from childhood-adulthood...it has brought me to the brink of suicide attempts on 3 occasions in my life most recentin last year...I'm thankful that I'm working hard to get stronger, stand up for myself & walk away from people who don't serve my highest good...it's tough but in order to thrive & survive you have to let go...

[@shashankagarwal2214]

Thank you sharing your time line with us Jennifer...i kinda feels the same...my time line is also similar...

[@OctaviaTL]

Thank you so much! ❤❤❤ I had so much fear and pain when I imagined her at 1-2 meters in front of me, omg, I'm 38 and the bullying was 1st through the 8th grade on a daily basis, during the classes and on breaks, bullying and mocking. After allowing myself to feel those feelings, I felt the release, I was trying to squeeze more, because I noticed I was pushing down the feelings with every swallowing, but there was nothing else but relief and calmness. Thank you so much ❤❤❤

[@SV-hm7tg]

Before I watch this video... I just want to tell you how proud I am of you, for making such powerful videos. It seems like you have spent so much time working throughout the years on your personal development and sharing your journey. It's motivated me to do the same. I find valuable insight in all of your videos. Even throughout the years of challenging yourself and changing perspective. There is so much to gain when watching your videos. Every video title I see 👀 I think to myself.. "he's such an important and inspirational person in this world... I wonder if he knows just how much he helps others" thank you so much for creating these videos for us. Sometimes we don't realize how much goes into making these videos- spiritually, emotionally, physically, and I know we all appreciate it in one way or another. 💖💖💖 You are appreciated Noah 💖💖💖

[@meghansouth581]

Recovering from narcissistic abuse, I don’t wait for closure anymore because I am not getting any. It’s so toxic because you can’t even confront them. Thank you this helped

[@גלאלון-ד1ב]

You're a great person i hope you have all the happiness you want and could get

[@p3rf3ctionz]

I've never heard anyone talk about this issue better than you, i feel like most psychologists do stuff for their own interest but you, you did best. i genuinely felt you were trying to help and thank you. god bless your soul brother.

[@juice9294]

What an amazing content the Reason im watching this guy is:usefully,calming,Free therapist :)

[@breezykey229]

Thank you for this! I’m about to graduate from high school and listening to this just made reflect a lot throughout the years! I been through a lot for being different, I hold on to a lot of the pain for years and to breathe and let that emotion out just felt different. I fought so much to remain strong for my size. But I realized my peace is more important than ever! Thank you 🥺

[@jenvoss1800]

What a helpful video - thank you so much. I was bullied too and it's painful. The idea of sending that feeling back to where it came from feels powerful

[@XmXm999]

I am 29 now, and appears to others very strong. But once upon a time i was bullied through school, probably since i was 6th grade up until college. Most of my anxiety is in the chest and stomach building how i wanna scream or say something. In This first exercise i put all the bullies together in a line and away from me, then i closed my eyes and i felt mostly scared and than I ROARED AT ALL OF THEM 🦁 like a Lion, and I laughed and i am still laughing. And i cried too. This was so powerful. Now i just wanna scream again. Also, as i screamed they changed their look from tough guys to shocked and afraid of me. 💪🏻 This is awesome.

[@XmXm999]

I also jumped out of bed to set a session on with you, if possible.

[@PookieNarc119]

This video means so much to me. i was feeling terrible due to those emotions, that helplessness but after I tried this method, I felt soo good. Man, thank you so much, now I know why people say therapist helps so much.

[@Alongcamecolby]

The bullying never stops. I seen to just attract insecure jealous people. Some how just people I don't even know just bully me and it's the weirdest thing

[@kidsshow4584]

Noah you are legend, thank you so much for lightning this topic You videos helped a lot of people I know including my self👏🏻🙏🏽

[@pricemutikisha4888]

I feel your pain bruh,Ive been and still to this day am there😭.

[@winnied87]

Thank you. Listening to your calm voice tone is like receiving a hug from a friend.

[@imantssafronovs9245]

M 31 y/o, only recently diagnosed with adhd and on meds (ritalin is new life), I remember my kid self as a whirlwind of emotions. I was part of the misfits, to be stepped on to raise one’s status. The saddest thing is - like you said, I readily joined the abusers against another misfit as soon as I could, to escape the crosshairs and feel myself as belonging to the majority, being normal, which was my most urgent desire. Primary school wassuch a bad trip. Only now starting to get a sense of the depths of my trauma. This is an amazing mental exercise, I feel instantly empowered. Thank you very much.

[@as_dreamer4966]

Thank you. I was bullied and it has been dragging me down for a while. So glad I found this video, it really helped me. Thank you so much.

[@katiswan3160]

Thank you for creating this wonderful video. This is something that I needed today.

[@coomartist]

i didnt think this video would be relevant to me at all. but this may be one of your most personally relevant videos you've made yet... bullying can be so subtle. ive grown up without even realizing that so much of this need to prove myself came from this deep, dense, extremely hurtful source of pain that was caused to me by my older sister. constantly feeling this need to prove that im good enough to her, always feeling scorned for everything i did like im just this piece of shit brat... i dont blame her at all, i love my sister so much and we obviously had the same parents who caused us both the same pain, and she was only a child with her own unmet needs as well. i just want to take responsibility for my pain now. thank you noah for this video and all your others.

[@anneraynaud2679]

Hi, I hope you'll be okay very soon without pain 🍃 easy to say, i know.

[@coomartist]

@@anneraynaud2679 it's a lot but i get better every day. thank you

[@gborowme]

My family will always misunderstood me and my intentions . Thank you I release it and move on . Happy I did not stay too long , always trying to explain my self .

[@Lebanese_housos1983]

Disbelieving thoughts have saved my life thanks you Noah

[@ro_orr]

I just can't thank this person enough for this video, thank you insanely much for this

[@mousumipal1133]

One of the best help videos! Keep the good work going!

[@rowangrosvenor6469]

I was bullied for 4 years in middle school for being “ugly” and “weird” and because I wasn’t born in England (I’m half Egyptian) and even though I’m not that person anymore it feels like I’m carrying the weight of her pain around. I haven’t cried like this in months and some of the pain has been lifted, thank you. ❤️‍🩹

[@AngstyLou]

This was something I serious needed today. I sincerely appreciate it

[@daniellefazio9007]

Wow, great approach. I love how you used visual inner child work and guiding to aid with relase. You helped me release a few things which have been hindering my practice. I am so worried if clients accept me and the group counseling service I offer. This roots from being bullied all through school because I was empathic and also had ADHD. I was seen as an easy target cause I took the "high road" but still internalized the feelings of negative peer evalution throughout my school experience. I know I will always be coping with social anxiety and managing it, but I won't let it affect my goal of being a holistic counselor. Thanks again for sharing! I might use a similar method in session to help others.

[@bambiheatherblack2496]

This was weird. It's like the universe had been opened up from my personal hell and the bully I became from hurt people who hurt people the cycle of abuse and it just came out in so many ways that maybe my mother didn't know any better but she learned and in that I thought what I was taught was normal but it was not right. So I I believed it was the right way to handle situations and that moment when I found my own way of dealing not my moms way not anyone's way that was when the healing took place but it was scary to do it by myself and what I was going through I had to relapse in behavior and then start over and over a few times and then it didn't hurt as much each time it got better and it stopped hurting and when people would tell me the meanest thing that bothered me the most it didn't hurt me like it used to. So finally I had to accept everything good and bad and every part of my being and it hurt to have certain things brought to my attention. I really felt like it was me dying and emotionally and physically and mentally and I was birthed in my own ceremony and it the universe became one with me because learned I cant depend on a man or a woman or a sunstance to get me through the toughest time in my life but we all have the choice to choose what we want for our life and when we start waiting on others to make us feel whole we lose a part of us each time more and more because were looking outside of ourselves. No substance and no person can fill that peice that is missing or has been missing this entire time. It feels like an amazing dysfunction was lifted in some way I can't explain it. Because it's hard to say exactly what it was but I really cant put it in words and in my culture your not supposed to talk about it. But through forgiveness and unconditional love and not expecting anything in return so when in the darkest hour in my life where ladies like me should be terrified to be in that part of town or on the edge of I d k like dabbling where u know u should not go there i found safe people and they had just accepted me for me and let me unload my gun on them but not literally my anger gun and it was cleaning and it was helpful because I didn't want to burden anyone with problems I couldn't get over. Now I am over it tho and moving forward I cant stay procrastinating forever. Regardless I have to make the best of any situation even if I regress into old behavior and stop talking and asking for help. I am a brat who won't ask for what she wants because. . . That's why stubborn and bullheaded I won't budge until someone else does. Team #BlackArch

[@PraiseroftheLivinGod]

I actually did this exercise and found myself in tears.

[@SK-hx5mb]

Thank you, I intend to watch this every time I feel it

[@stijntukker7265]

its so sad to see that we still didnt kill or brutally torture bullies or brutal mean people.nobody deserves to be insulted in this godforsaken world but there are still ppl that try to bully(they should die)

[@julienguyen4063]

This was just beautiful. Thank you for being a bright light....you’ve helped and guided me along my journey.

[@a_common_man824]

Thank so much. Just today it happened to me, an office friend. He made me feel exactly the same you told, I was feeling small, worthless, perturbed, sad, losing confidence. Saw this video today. Seems that makes him feel better about himself. But not sure how to stop him doing it again because this has been happening for a long time.As you have mentioned, at times I could feel the heaviness in the chest, the emotion is more of sadness than anger. There are other people also who do the same. I don't know if it is something with me that makes others to take me for granted.

[@kita5282]

I didn't expect to be hit in the feels so hard by that visualisation! i was so angry it came out as tears. I did NOT deserve to be treated like that. I've been trying to get over adult bullying in the workplace for the last 5 years. hopefully this will make a dent in the mountain of toxic energy i've been carrying around because of this person that's literally been damaging my physical and mental health. I had no health problems at all til she unfortunately appeared in my life and it's been one thing after another ever since. Even though she was there for a mercifully short period of time my god the damage she did has outlasted my ability to even clearly remember what she looked like. When you said visualise them standing in front of you all I could see was this swirling black and green mass of negative energy that felt like her. Felt pretty good to throw it all back in her face.

[@andrzejmaranda3699]

Noah Elkrief: this video is SOOO IMPORTANT for me! THANK YOU SOOO MUCH!

[@Joel-pg4yi]

I'm 27 loner. I was assaulted or manipulated into it at the age it's hard to remember stuff then I started going going to school it was terrifying everyday until 20s. The years that meant to be for brain development. Which it means my brain is ruined beyond repair

[@mathildemmguy2248]

Dear Noah. Thank you for you content. I've suffered a lot through childhood I think. I've had a lot of anger stuck in my body. For many years I've been doing selfcoacing, meditation ect. I've followed a lot of KZbinrs, writers ect. Your content is REALLY helpful. Thank you for letting me cry and helping me heal. ❤️

[@Lebanese_housos1983]

I feel scare of people if they bring the worst out of me I’m afraid of what my anger will do that why I don’t give people respect and love. You don’t know if someone your enemy or your friend. It hard to tell until you find out the hard way, being nice to people who aren’t nice to you from the start why should I even bother I’m really confused

[@ayoub.mohamedsimo4353]

This was magical you allowed me to get all my anger out i cried , i feel it’s not longer painful what a relief

[@mr.eagle..5600]

Sir, u can't imagine to what extent your sycology helped me. Thank you

[@BabyBoomerChannel]

Thanks! Yours is the first video I’ve seen that goes beyond “understanding” and empathy. I do think this exercise needs to be turned into something kinetic - where I (the bully victim) say (or scream) out loud - and go beyond internal thought. Thanks!

[@yugaantarindia]

Thankyou. This was much needed. God Bless You

[@Gazcan]

Thank you very much for the video. It definitely made me emotional and helped the healing process.

[@cormac85]

This meditation technique you used was extremely helpful for me. I keep going back to one trigger point and this brought me right back there with a better outcome.

[@jagodastefanska7697]

Thank you. I don't know what to say. I exploded and have a feeling there's more. Very few things I've tried throughout years of research, therapy and self-help worked as clearly, as intense and straight to the point. You must have gone through a lot too. What you're doing is amazing.

[@NoahElkrief]

:) That makes me really happy to hear Jagoda. So happy it was helpful for you. And, yes, I've gone through some shit :)

[@amguy1778]

Thanks so so SO much for helping me out, this is the first time in years I've felt happiness.

[@NoahElkrief]

You're so welcome. I'm really happy to hear that Am Guy! You deserve to be happy :)

[@macaronienshiis]

The bullying effect is still lingers now a days (I'm 26). It was a nightmare dealing with bullies at school and then coming home to narcissistic parents that did the same.

[@jja.gaskeun]

this really helped me, thank you now I feel better and lighter

[@najatarabia741]

I was trying to remember it and revisit the hard time I was bullied and my mind kept shifting my attention away by bringing other memories or thoughts in

[@miffygames9099]

I cried when you apologised. All I wanted was it to be acknowledged, the unfairness of it all and an apology. To know that I wasn’t overreacting and that my feelings were and still are valid. That i wasn’t defective or deserved what happened every time i was belittled or made to feel weird or that my thoughts were stupid. The bullying i went through all through school and home made me feel so unworthy even years after leaving. I haven’t been able to make new relationships or connections because i’m scared of the judgement. I tried so hard to be the refined version of myself because i felt so misunderstood as my genuine self. I thought if they saw the ‘cooler’ version that they wouldn’t bully me but they still did and it drained me. I isolated myself because i only felt safe when i was alone but i’m desperately trying to change that. It’s a journey but I’m seeing the changes everyday. If anyone feels the same, know that you’re not alone in how you feel and that there are good people out there. Never sell yourself short to people who don’t understand you, change room and find people who do. What you think and feel matters.

[@NoahElkrief]

I hear you. Thank you for sharing.

[@simonaab]

Is it ok to be happy that the bully is dead now? Now they are nothing

[@c.antoinehill100]

Watching this video only made me want to train harder in fitness and martial arts. Thanks.

[@rareview362]

Time to be friendly to other humans and kind and make friends. You never know who you will meet. Be kind to all people although you were crushed throughout life this is how you will overcome not succumb. Peace.

[@MariaKentepozidouDT]

Thank you Noah...the moment i needed you the most you were here for me

[@an9513]

Wow man thankyou! I Just let go of years of past trauma in a few minutes. So powerful, exactly what i was looking for

[@P3.14i]

It helped me alot. I was loosing my mind for 30 minutes and I thought I'm gonna die. Then at the latest I put all my energy together to figure out what could save me at this moment of despair. Then I googled and found your video. Thank you alot. I will remember this healing process and keep it with me for ever.

[@NoahElkrief]

I am really I could help :)

[@suryadeepsinh8757]

I was bullied through out my childhood 🥺...

[@maliksaleem4242]

I've been bullied before since elementary school I remember when I was playing with random people someone who was taller than me grab me and hold me on the wall and then smack me for no reason I feel like I was living in a pit hole and no one didn't seem to help me as a child and in high school it was soo much worse for me i told my mom I didn't want to go to that school that I was in but she replied yes you have to because I'm gonna get in trouble. I started feeling Anxiety by the age of 14 because I suffered from a multitude of bullies and didn't seem to fit with anyone, some students are just ruthless and they don't have home training, some are crazy like they just came out of prison, no matter how hard I try to ask for help not even an adult help me to solve my problem with people not even close which made me more angry, it's doesn't make sense why there people are not taking responsibility for their actions and After I finally graduated high school I was so happy that I didn't have to deal with the students anymore I was relieved and I know that I am free now and I hope that I'll never have to experience that ever again and the Same goes to everyone who have experience the same way that I endure. No one deserves to be treated like this especially when it's comes down to bullies know that everything will be okay I promise if I made it then you can too 💯 🙏 😔

[@Sweet__Violet]

It did help me when you said to stop suppressing the feelings that was my problem I kept suppressing and ignoring the feelings because it was too painful to revisit but when watching this I decided to sit in my feelings and i realized i didn't deserve any of that and its time for me to heal and move on thank you

[@michellethornley198]

Thank you so very much for sharing this it really really helped.

[@Eivor2023]

I was a victim of bullying and now I have to heal my inner child

[@shahanwazmondal3180]

Can't thank you enough for this , grateful to you , Mr Noah

[@coiledblessing6535]

There were a lot of key points you said throughout the video and you talking us through the moment helped me to face the situation. Thank you for sharing your content!🙏🏾👏🏾

[@gondelsanton-xu8ky]

Thank you so much for doing this video!

[@deema7012]

I've been watching a lot of videos about truma healing, but seriously your video helps me a lot , Thank you so much ^_^

[@susanne2110]

Wow, so powerful to give everything back to the perpetrators and for teaching me how to express anger which I was scared of, thank you Noah!

[@gr33nflam333]

I needed this...Thank you so much ✨✨✨

[@NoahElkrief]

You're so welcome!